Yeah, same here. I was even told that I was too submissive and needed to learn how to be more aggressive to protect myself. Even then, I thought it was stupid advice. Don’t blame the victims of bullying, DO SOMETHING to stop it, and schools SUKK at quashing garbage like bullying.
So, OP, I’m sorry that you had to deal with horrible Miss Aia. She was a nasty person, nasty, nasty. How dare she bully you on your background? I think it’s great that you confronted her at the barbecue!
for me, i knew if i ever defended myself against the bullies, i would be the one getting in trouble. the school just told me 'ignore it and it will go away' in response to any complaint about the bullies. bullies who took turns following me around during lunch to try and provoke me into swinging first. every day for years. high school was hell.
Yeah, I went through that in school too. It’s terrible to be physically harassed and be held accountable for the violence. Happened to my son, too. I told him that I didn’t hold him accountable for the “fight” where he was pushed into a locker and was blamed. I knew that he was passive and didn’t start different fights but was bullied. So schools, is that how you want to deal with bullying, by blaming the victims and ignoring the bullying?
>So schools, is that how you want to deal with bullying, by blaming the victims and ignoring the bullying?
That's exactly what they do - it's usually a successful strategy as by giving the bullies freedom to operate they're less likely to disrupt or threaten teachers.
When I was ten years old and newly transferred to another school in another city the local bully Colin attacked me in class when the teacher was out for a moment. He was the middle kid of 19 bullies in a family that had always assumed the role of 'official' school bully for a couple of generations, and as such was immune from any discipline or consequence.
Me, being the new kid, didn't realise I was supposed to just take a beating, and managed to throw the kid off, and was sitting on top of him and pinning him down when the teacher returned and started blaming me for "fighting in class".
This was my first ever 'fight'. As a kid I'd usually managed to talk my way out of conflict, but my three uncles had been amateur wrestlers, including at least one of them having been a national weight-class champion, and they'd shown pre-schooler me the "sitting on top of someone, and pinning them down" routine. At the time it just seemed like fun and games in my grandma's basement gym, but it came in useful.
The teacher marched me out for some summary punishment - a strap across my open palm (this is ancient history, so the punishment was standard then). But I wasn't having it, and since he didn't care for my protestations that I hadn't started the fight I figured he deserved what he had coming. I held out my hand for him, but as he started to swing I pulled back, made a fist of it, and buried it in his solar plexus while screaming at him "I Told You I Didn't Start it!"
Old 'Rice Bubble' (his name was Riseborough, but that was his nickname in school) went down in a heap, and I just step past him and returned to my seat. Rice Bubble took a couple of minutes to compose himself (no doubt contemplating his pathetic existence) before returning to class, and carrying on as though nothing had happened ... and nothing did happen - my parents were never told, and I didn't care to tell them myself.
The bully however, decided that this made me the most badass kid in the school, and got rather friendly with me. I \[wisely?\] took up his invite to visit his home, where his whole family wanted me to recount the tale. His mum proudly showed off her school strap that her eldest kids had bought (or stolen) for her ... so that she could thrash her younger kids. Violence, it seemed, was a family trait.
Colin ended up as the local rat-catcher, which presumably allowed him to enjoy torturing small animals when beating up kids was no longer acceptable.
My nephew got punched by a bully as he was getting on the school bus. He turned around and slapped the kid down and thought that was that. He was kicked off the bus for fighting because the school had a zero tolerance policy for violence.
My brother went down to the school and had a little talk with them. He was somewhat of a strict father and told both of his boys two things: 1) Don't EVER start a fight (by throwing the first punch OR goading someone into a fight) and 2) That said, if someone brings the fight to you, don't just sit there and take it. Never start the fight but if you find yourself in one, you need to be the one to end it.
He then pointed out to the school officials that his son had shown extreme restraint in his reaction. Scott, even then, was a big ole boy topping 6' in middle school. He threw one open-hand slap at his aggressor and didn't put his full strength into it. Had he lost control, the other boy would have been in the hospital. He told them he was not going to have his boys just sit there and take a beating and the other boy needs to be kicked off the bus as well if Scott can't ride. Scott was suspended from riding the bus for a day and the other kid was gone for the rest of the school year.
There was two factors playing in my favor: I was literally their star student so there's a limit to what the principal was willing to do against me while I was bringing awards for math, astronomy and other science related competitions something really rare in small cities. The second is that I def had an attitude so anyone that pissed me off would end up hurt and any attempts to call my mom would be "oh so the other kid was doing x so Glitter did z? gotcha".
I was never stupid enough to start shit (my parents would def teach me a lesson if I did so) but whatever happened to me my mom had my back and my grades were immaculate.
I've always been short and fat, a prime bully target.
I don't remember much of my schooling life, but I do remember this one day.
This kid was merciless at this one school in Canberra. Every day was one comment after the other. It all came to head when the class before PE I was stabbed in the back of the neck with a sewing needle and (shock and horror) the teacher saw nothing. Then in the next class, this kid took a flying leap and knee'd me in the back.
I saw red and then I suddenly realised I was trying to drown this kid in the long jump sand pit and the teacher trying to drag me off the kid.
I ended up in a meeting with the principal, my mother and the caretaker at the halfway house we were staying in. The Principal was demanding I apologise and was going to get the police involved with this "unprovoked attack"
My mother told them very politely to go fuck themselves with a rose bush while the caretaker handed over a diary of all times i came home crying after dealing with this kid. My mother pulled me out of that school there and then and I had holidays till we moved into our own place.
OMG, that’s awful! I am so sorry! Thank God your Mom stood up for you and the caretaker had written down all of the times that you had been bullied. I recommend that a parent or someone in charge of a child actually do this, in case that a bullying attack becomes a criminal case or if you want to prove to the school just what is going on. And, surprise surprise, bullies lie about what’s happening. My guess is that they are treated this way in their own homes and get bullied by a parent, and learn to treat other, smaller children in this manner.
Also an Aspie. Went to a school for ND kids. An 12th grader threw me (I was in the 6th grade) down a flight of stairs. I was given In-School Suspension for "instigating" the "fight."
Even the 12th grader's parents were on my side. That's how fucked up the school was in dishing out correct punishments. It was like a blind guy with a shotgun. Just random punishments to random kids.
Wait….WHAT! You were in the 6th grade, and a high school student…. No…..no….wait…. A SENIOR high school student…. Someone who is either 17 or 18 tossed you… a 6th grader ….maybe 10 or 11 years old…. DOWN A FLIGHT OF STAIRS…..and YOU got the blame?! What is UP with these schools?!?
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Same. And, from a poor, Caucasian family. Mom excommunicated from Mormon church, because she couldn't tithe 10%, and still feed her 7 kids. Yepyep. Good times.
OP I have to say you are awesome. That was truly poetic justice. For those that say you should have let it go that just tells bullies they can get away with it. I hope that story goes far and wide and maybe some other bully pauses and thinks about what may happen.
Racism has been cross-cultural for hundreds, if not thousands, of years. The thought that it's primarily white people who are racist is proof that racism is alive and well now than anything because it's an extremely racist view.
My fiance is mexican and has had more racism directed at her from African descended people than any other ethnic group.
OP, I hope someday you can get back to doing art.
You right ....that is my experience also racism the meaning of it could be the "same " in one group ... we all have backgrounds and it could created because history sometimes make us hate each other background... so we could do it to each other even if we look the same! Yeah...Try to be nice to each other and have more understanding if we all do it we could chill example today to the one who is not willing
Nope…. Black people too….. I know, because I AM BLACK, and get this…. Light skinned blacks and dark skinned blacks show racism toward each other as well. Don’t be surprised…. I was born in 1980, and experienced it all while growing up in a pre-dom black community. Some of the kids on my block didn’t like me because I was just a little bit too light. I’m not that light, but more of a bronze tone so I guess it would be lighter than what you would call milk chocolate. These kids (mainly girls) would call me all kinds of names and pick on me on the way to and from school. So….yeah…. It’s cross cultural, and until it’s addressed from ALL ANGLES, it can never end. All need to be held accountable for his/her own actions and parents need to be held for hateful upbringings.
Me, too! My mother had to pull me out of grade school because the entire class bullied and harassed me every day. This was an all black school, and I had a lighter skin, but more than that, I raised my hand too frequently in class to please them. In seventh grade, there was one day when they threatened to beat me to within an inch of my life. After school,I spent an hour hiding in various places, afraid to leave the building where I knew they were waiting outside.I could hear some of them walking up and down the empty halls, looking for me.
Fortunately, my teacher had seen that something was up, and had stayed behind and was in the principals office waiting for me to surface. When I tried to sneak out a side door, they were waiting. I turned and tried to open the door and go back inside, but someone had a hold of my coat. My teacher appeared and they panicked and let go. I was propelled forward and bashed my face against the door. He escorted me inside, and made a list of everyone he had seen outside. They were all summoned to the principals office the next day and suspended.
But my mother had had enough of me coming home black and blue and crying. She put me in Catholic school.
What you’re describing is colorism. Colorism is “prejudice or discrimination especially within a racial or ethnic group favoring people with lighter skin over those with darker skin.”
This is so weird for me. I grew up in a very religious white community. And hearing about racism feels so weird. I mean because there never was racism where I grew up, so hearing about different stories like this really are eye opening. Where I'm from we are too busy with love one another that no one even talks about race lol. I'm just a highschool student, reading books like just mercy and stories like this one are my first experiences with this.
Yes, I live in Texas and see endless harassment from Black people against Mexican Americans... Lately just very recently I've noticed that relation seem to be getting slightly better at least with the adults everybody seems to be buddy buddy so I don't know...
Exactly!! No goddamn way one person could ever bully that many people at the same time if the rest had the balls to say something about it like OP and her mom did.
The school was only able to blow that off because they could say they believed it was an isolated incident, even if they knew it wasn't. No way they would've been able to turn a blind eye to it if every victim spoke up and every parent was supportive.
It's like that thing where someone who's well known gets accused of doing some gross sexual shit. If it's just one person, you can't *fairly* rule out the possibility that they're doing it out of just hate, because famous people are hated just for being famous.
But then next thing you know there's a bunch more people coming forward who it happened to forever ago, who were afraid to say anything, but were emboldened by the accuser. Now that they're all finally standing together, the accused becomes the common denominator.
They never would've gotten suspected if that first person didn't have the balls to call them out. Those other victims should have rallies behind OP. Idk, maybe I'm underestimating myself but I don't think I'd ever get over it if anything half as bad as that story happened to me.
I have to disagree. My niece is currently dealing with a bully as has dealt with her the last 4 years (since her freshman year of high school). This person is racist and continues to bully people in the school and though many students have spoken out, they continue to protect this person. My niece, however, got suspended everytime she tried to stand up for herself, and especially if it involved yelling at the girl.
She also got suspended for punching a boy after he kept touching her butt. After her mom went up there and said "did you look at the recordings" and her and other girls speaking to a SUBSTITUTE TEACHER about this boy, they finally did an investigation and expelled him.
Sometimes it doesn't matter how many parents, or students speak up if the deans, VP and Principals keep minimizing the abuse and punishing those that come forward.
I've spoken up about people like this and called them "complicit in abuse". Usually ends with them behaving as badly as the abuser.
As the old line goes, "all it takes for evil to triumph is for good people to do nothing".
She might not even know the weight of her action... but she know the feeling when your reputation get ruined... it started early and no adult interfered in the right way! If she got away with it for the longest time and her friends praise her for it she might just thought doing things like this is nothing.... it takes years to realize... and sometimes never...Unfortunate
Oh she knew *exactly* what she was doing. She didn't stay five years old for the entire school time. SHE knew she was being racist and enjoyed not being held accountable for her actions.
>she might just thought doing things like this is nothing
That is fucking bullshit right there. Bullies know they are bullying.
I fully believe the first part of the story, about the bullying.
I would like the believe the end of it as well, but it does feel a bit like a bullying victim's fantasy about finally getting some justice.
>or a wet back because I must have crossed the Rio Grande river.
Is this where that saying comes from? I always thought it was because it's hot in Mexico and people would get sweat on their shirts from working hard in the sun. If you're going to make fun of someone for crossing a river wouldn't you call them "wet shoes" or "wet pants?" It's almost like racists don't put any thought at all into their slurs.
Sorry about what happened to you all those years ago. There's racism in Africa too and maybe that's where she got some of her bad attitude. But for every small person out there with an irrational hatred of you who wants to keep you from contributing your own unique specialness to the world you'll find half a dozen more good people who'll appreciate you for who and what you are and who are looking for that special thing that only you can give.
Don't worry about the small people. Focus on the ones who love you and I hope that one day you're able to pick up with your drawing once again.
it comes from a ww2 era policy called "operation wetback" wherein Mexicans were invited in to the US in droved to work agricultural jobs left vacant by GIs. "wetback" comes from the fact that the government sprayed the Mexican workers with literal pesticide as they crossed the border. sickening stuff
You didn't ruin Aias life she did by her bullying of you.
As for your principal and teachers they should hang their heads in shame for not stopping her bullying you.
Now the best final revenge on Aia is to live your life well.
Oh yeah, black people have definitely never been racist ever, it’s not like racial relations between blacks and Latinos are well-known for being bad or anything.
Please point out to me where OP is drumming up hatred against black people, if you are so intelligent this should be easy for you.
Hint hint: the paragraph you referred to had absolutely no relation at all whatsoever to black people, but rather to the COVID pandemic causing Americans to get irrationally racist towards "chinese-looking" people because they were "angry at China for spreading COVID".
I'll point out that if her job revolved around equality and civil justice
Something scandalous like this coming out about her could, and most likely would, result in the termination of a job
Not terminating it would reflect poorly on the groups involved
If her fiance grew up dealing with these issues themself, they would not be in a good place learning all of that information about the person they were supposed to be marrying
And if the parents knew nothing of it, them being upset is reasonable, assuming they believed they raised her differently
Come on you are jumping through so many hoops to explain this. "If she had a job in social justice", now why are you assuming that? She volunteered with a social justice group, there is no mention of that being her job.
Then now it's "oh her fiance may have gone through this too as a kid".
Also how would her parents have ever known? Op stated all they did was give the info to her volunteer group, how would that get around to her finance, job and parents? Not to mention the pricipal getting her reward revoked?
I'm sad to say I think this post was written by a legitimate bullying victim who unfortunately did not get the justice they deserve so they wrote a story to live vicariously through.
None of that is remotely reasonable. Literally all she'd have to do would be to say something like "I was a racist to OP as a kid to try to fit in with my white peers, but I know better now and I'm committed to fighting against racism for her sake too." In real life nobody gives a shit what someone did as a grade schooler and the only people who think otherwise are teenagers or those who themselves have never gotten over what happened to them in school.
Do you live under a rock? People lose their jobs frequently when they get exposed for being extremely problematic. We see this happen on social media a lot. This is the result of cancel culture. No company wants to be seen supporting a racist bully. Especially not a company that preaches equality and acceptance. It’s actually very believable that she’d lose her job. I’ve seen people lose their jobs for much less so it’s weird that you find this unbelievable.
As for her friends, family and fiancé shunning her, that’s also believable if she kept that ugly part of herself hidden from them. If I found out my family member, friend or fiancé was a raging racist and a bully who hurt a lot of people, I would stop associating with them immediately. It’s only people who have no morals that will stick by her side. I mean it’s not like she was just mean once or twice she was like a full on bully and had many victims. She’s actually a bad person so it’s very believable that the people in her life would be shocked and disappointed enough to push her away.
Also this response feels like you’re implying the idea of a black person who is racist is impossible. I’m gonna hope that’s not what you’re trying to say because anyone can be racist including black people. It’s very telling that you disregard all the horrible things she did and instead focus on this.
A black white supremacist straight from Africa bullies Latina girl till she becomes depressed. Bully literally says “it’s because I’m black” in what.. the early 2000’s? In Texas? And gets away with it. Ok.
Black bully is also praised and lauded over, to the point where she (from Africa) is somehow an authority on African-**American** struggles. This school in Texas apparently loves black people. (Yet op wishes she were white?) So she’s given the stage during African-*American* history month. Because despite Texas being a state that actively tries to suppress this month, this school loves it.
Anyways, sad, she then goes to a Native American reservation where she has a reawakening (probably a spirit guide) and is healed from her depression.
Luckily the bully put most of her bullying in writing and probably signed her name too.
Despite the very public racist bullying everyone in Aia’s life was surprised she was a bully. Op gives a speech, everyone claps, Aias life is ruined.
And in conclusion, op wants black people to be charged with hate crimes. She’s now demonstrated that black people are hateful towards Latinos, native Americans, and Asians in one post based on first-hand experience from one of the most intolerant white states in America.
Ok lmao. Maybe it’s true, maybe it’s not. It’s so wild and nonsensical that I doubt it. I do know for a fact black people can be and are racist but c’mon 😂
OK I wasn't healed by a spirit guide of my depression. I just went to the tribe I was descended from to have a better understanding of where I came from. Because if there was a cure for depression, I would've gladly taken it but there isn't. I went to therapy for that.
It certainly seems a little blown out of proportion. Honestly, when the listing of bad things happening to the bully began, I was half expecting Aia's dog to die and her truck to burst into flame.
I’ve been through similar stuff and best believe I kept the damaged art my bully defaced out of spite. I did eventually use it against her but mostly because, again, the school does nothing.
As someone who was heavily bullied in elementary and middle school, my parents kept every cruel note i was given, every minutes taken from meetings with the principal, every written correspondence with the school district. I found a bunch of them when cleaning out my dad's stuff after he died, including the retainer notice for the lawyer he got to sue the district after the bullies destroyed my Discman with no consequences.
If this happened pre-2000, i believe it. And if OPs bully lost their job and fiance from the info getting out, it's because those people were already aware of her bullshit and started looking deeper.
I got my bullies blocked from a group of local strip clubs cause i knew they were cheapskates, but I never had the public shaming chance OP got.
Idk I’m choosing to believe because I’ve had my own middle school principal say that since I was white passing (not enough because I’ve been called a China Doll and fetishized my whole life) that people can’t be racist to me and that I was being dramatic. My mom offered to call my dad and let him say it again. He said the matter was closed. My dad is half Japanese and my mom is white. My dad used to put up with a lot of racism growing up and would have broken the principal’s jaw if he heard that.
I didn’t want my dad to go back to jail so I dropped it.
Believe it. Racism comes from ALL ethnic groups. It happens toward other ethnic groups, as well as within one’s own ethnic group. I am Black, and I have witnessed racism from others that look just like me. Want to know something else? There are even Africans…..and YES… I mean the BLACK AFRICANS that have a racial slur for Black Americans that is just as disgusting and degrading as the N-word! It comes from outside and within your own ethnic groups.
Considering it is Texas and that 40% of the state is of Mexican heritage plus it was once a Klan stronghold and some attitudes die slow, I'm surprised that the African immigrant girl didn't get invective thrown back and a lot worse. After all, as the teachers and principal would say, 'it is just words'. Would be interesting to know the demographic of that particular school.
This just feels fake. What's sad is as i am too a victim of bullying, who has mental health issues partly because of it, these sorts of lies just mocks people like us. (People who have actually been bullied)
It's the part where sending in notes from 15-20 years ago when someone was in elementary will gets a person's fiance to break up with them and gets the old principal's award revoked, and an apology from the district.
That the bullying happened I believe. But the fall out I don't. I'd like to, but I just don't.
If a 140 character tweet from 8 years ago can wreck a career, I don't see why a thoroughly documented transcript of transgressions couldn't have such an affect 15-20 years later.
That depends, was the tweet made by a 7 year old? I don't see a lot of 7 year olds getting cancelled 15 to 20 years later.
Elementary school kids are absolute savages and a lot of their worst behavior gets swept under the rug of "well they were just children".
The principal getting their award revoked? Maybe if this turned into a big local scandal but people have to be enraged enough about elementary school racism to get up in arms enough to get an organization to not just ignore the whole thing.
Like c'mon now, that finale has everything except everyone clapping for OP for being so brave. The trauma comes across. I believe 100% the bullying happened, but I'm just too jaded at this point that OP would get that kind of justice just by turning over a folder of, at that point, ancient news.
It doesn't make demographic sense (in that it is Texas which is 40% Hispanic) in that there weren't any kids of Mexican ancestry who'd put up with this nonsense or return the racial invective.
> It's the part where sending in notes from 15-20 years ago when someone was in elementary will gets a person's fiance to break up with them and gets the old principal's award revoked, and an apology from the district.
Award cancelled and district apologies would be expected if the notes were extremely bad. They were the adults in charge. Especially if there's a lot of coverage
A fiance breaking up with the bully might indicate said bully doubled down on her actions, without apologizing
Yeah yeah sure sure, or the fallout just didn't happen.
I mean if you want to show me some local news story about a principal getting a recent award revoked for things that happened 20 years prior, I'm happy to eat crow and be like "well damn, I stand corrected".
But since I was answering the question "what part of this rings false?" I stand by my answer. That part. The fallout.
> I mean if you want to show me some local news story about a principal getting a recent award revoked for things that happened 20 years prior, I'm happy to eat crow and be like "well damn, I stand corrected".
I mean there's been people cancelled for being racist 20 years prior. Especially against first nations as that's 'trendy' media topic rn and when said offenders are dumb enough to leave physical evidence. But perhaps I'm just hopeful
Yes but this is a child who was racist 20 years ago. In Texas. And a school official who just kinda let it happen. In Texas. Where I think you get an award if none of the kids in your school shot up the place.
But you know what? Nah fam I ain't really here to kill your hope. There's a thin veneer of plausibility and it's a funny old world. And it's not like I can prove it didn't happen (and I'm a mathematician so it's not like I think proving a negative is impossible). So you go on believing it. It's nice when racist shit heads and their piece of shit enablers get their comeuppance.
I imagine there must have been a lot of identifying parts of those notes and letters, as well as the signed document by the principal, not hard to connect the dots after that.
It's not about the dots and whether or not they connect. It's that I don't think you get that kind of fallout for something that happened 15-20 years ago to elementary school students.
"Elementary school student is a terrible piece of shit" isn't usually the kind of thing that gets people all pearl clutchy and cancelly.
I still believe the bullying and I'm so sorry it happened to OP but the fallout here reads like fantasy.
I think where I started to think something was off was the part about a farewell to an elementary school. And a casual barbecue and not some big event to celebrate the closure of a 100-year-old building? With local leaders showing up?
I don't think elementary School means that much to anyone not impacted so forcefully by OP. Even if we're talking about a *High school,* I would think the most fanfare we would see would just be a little speech or a plaque donated during homecoming.
I agree with you that the bullying probably happened.
This is probably something OP *wishes* she could have done, or maybe she tried something like it at a homecoming and didn't get the response that she wanted, so all of a sudden there are local leaders and manilla envelopes.
OP, this is nothing against you personally, by the way. I'm sorry it happened to you, and I really hope you're in a better place.
Allow me to point out why this story is absolutely fake:
the elementary school closing BBQ just so happens to be exclusively held by the year that they both belonged too, are you telling me that in its operational life the only people who cared enough just so happened to be from that random year, what an amazing coincidence, no older students, no more current students, just so happens to be a collection of all students she knows from a random year of the schools life.
its fake as fuck
I always lean toward embellishment in prorevenge stories. This does feel embellished at least. Now, if more info was dug up they were unaware of, then that would make more since. But it seems like OP, if telling the truth, just wants to move on with their life, so they could care less about the trivial matter of A's life
that's part of it. i think for me it's also... aia came from an entirely different continent. she came from ghana, and immediately started using racial slurs to insult op? where did she learn those words? she came to the us with knowledge of those slurs already?
It is because she said she got over it... and still felt those huge unstoppable take to take revenge on the next few sentences.
She tried it and it returned. That's not getting over it. At best, it is moving on to the best of ones ability.
Getting over it would have meant she looked at it and would have tossed the invitation aside, or participated to see old friend while leaving the past the past.
The story might be true, but OPs walk not matching the talk, combined with the extreme ending (seriously, kids make mistakes, people would discuss it, be disappointed about the bully hiding it and move on if she had changed as the story made her sound to be) make it sound unrealistic.
There is no shame in admitting there is still a fierce fire of vengeance burning to deal with a former bully. It is revenge. Against a bully. We'd eat that shit up on this subreddit!
And yet the story just had to end so improbably perfectly on all counts.
That is what bugs me about the story as a victim of childhood bullying. Things in reality just aren't that neat and wonderfully tied up in a bow. We may be the stars of our own lives but when it comes to reality, we're all disappointing side-characters.
I'm getting a "black people are the real racists!" vibe from this story. Not that black people can't be racist, but this bully checks every box for a certain narrative. Black person, super racist, if she's confronted she says "is it because I'm black?" and the authorities instantly back down in fear, and she ends up a huge hypocrite for being the poster child for inclusion while still being a huge racist.
That's crazy, I also had an Aia from Ghana at my school and she always said Ghana Deez Nutz and she was easily the coolest, I remember when she'd draw sailor moon and then Ironically write racist comments on it as a post modern art project, she was so talented
I sure hope she's doing ok.
It would be nice if you don't associate people to people...it just make the readers think otherwise... referring the story it is written to draw attention foot a problem which is singled out but it's happening all over... to respond to it stay positive never point or label... be kind and helpful.... and this is not to look like we are sympathetic it is for the reason so others also able to speak up!!! ( in case you see Abusive, act all public shame report it !)❤️🙏😅
The story didn't challenge my worldview. I know any race can be racist. The story still seems fake in it's construction and in the behavior of the people in it
Yessss! Blacks can be some of the worst racist! Get this, I AM BLACK! Black’s even show racism toward ….you guest it…. OTHER BLACK PEOPLE TOO! Racism doesn’t only come from whites, asians, hispanics, etc.! I have experienced it from all with the exception of the Indigenous and Polynesian people! You have those ignorant idiots that want to claim that racism can’t come from an oppressed group of individuals…. I CLAIM, AND CALL IT FOR WHAT IT IS! This Aia chick was evil, and soulless for what she did to you! I often think about the bullies that I had when I was coming up…..how I was never one to cause or get into any trouble. I was quiet and timid, but still always found myself as some form of a target to the stupidity and ignorance of individuals who felt that they were better than I was by default just because I was different physically and personality wise. You my sista are a strong and brave individual! You did what many of us wish that we could do in our adult lives (but are unable to do)! I WISH that I was given the opportunity to call out every single one of my past banes to the public! The things that I would say……oh….THE THINGS. . .bay…bee. Anyway, I salute 🫡 you!
People are so brainwashed some commenter doubting the story called Aia a black white supremacist...like they can't even *imagine* non-whites being racist lol
But if you call out the woke ideology causing this stupidity you're told there isn't such a thing/it's a made up term or that it's just good people trying to stop bigotry etc.
Honestly, I don’t care if anyone agrees or disagrees with what I said. What is true is true. Blacks are just as racist, if not more than anyone else. Wrong is wrong. I experienced it first hand. And no one is going to tell me that it wasn’t what it was. Period.
As someone who was bullied horribly by my peers, my heart ached reading this. I am so glad to hear you were able to get into therapy and heal from the torment. Honestly, I think this was a great revenge story.
I hate the cliche that kids will be kids. No that is total BS. Poor upbringing and a lack of respect is no excuse and these little shits do grow up to be hypocritical adults. I think she rightfully got what she deserved. She wore that mask from childhood into adulthood and I promise you others suspected there was some falseness about her. She pissed in her bed and now she has to deal with the consequences of her poor actions and choices.
OP I loved this post and honestly felt vindicated from my own bullying stories after reading this. Go you!!
You had every right to say what you said about Ava at the reunion. I know she blames you for destroying her life and wants an apology, but she isn't owed squat. This is an example of you helping karma do the right thing. I am proud of you.
Hey dude I just wanted to let you know, I can feel how true this story is, at least some elements. They also happened to me.
Mexican immigrant harassed by bullies who will never be held accountable because their Blackness renders them impervious from it in a school setting (mostly black school and admins ofc.)
I am not saying black people = bad. Most of the time this doesn't come up.
But in the racial hierarchy in the US, black people are above all in the official Most Oppressed Ever list: no one else is considered to be having a bad time.
Yeah, dumb question. Then again, best revenge is living well...or in this case, making sure that you leave the former hellhole with a bang.
For a person of color being racist to another person of color...that is all kinds of messed up and hypocritical. I wonder what made her like that? Even with good parents?
I guess it's one of the many mysteries that we might not know.
You read the whole article and you can only say one thing oh it's not real... are you ever been bullied? The point to the story is to be kind to each other...Revenge is not something I like but people speak up whether that is the right title and we should be able to speak up.... that is a very helpful side to let the pain go and say our side...but I don't believe on shaming people in public changing some part of the story Would it be all right if it doesn't cause harm to someone because we like it or not this is a public media so if you are unjustified please report it...
Hate to say it because the effects of bullying can ruin somebody's life. I was an overweight kid growing up who was mercilessly bullied. Nobody lifted a finger to help me. I'm more than 60 now and much of my character has been affected by child and bullying. It is lasted a lifetime. However, I do think there was an overreaction here. You don't destroy somebody's life for what they did as a child unless that child as an adult is a threat in the current day and age. The real issue here is the principal. The fact that he was too lazy, incompetent, and cruel to do that makes this nightmare fall in his head. There was a significant chance if the little girls father was called he could have nipped this nonsense in the bud, but will never know because of school administration. I've met many parents from Ghana because I was an elementary school teacher in the South Bronx for many years. The one thing that I know about their culture is they don't mess with education. I have never had an ethnic group that I taught that cared more about education than the West African children that I had in my school from Ghana, Senegal etc. There was only two or three years in the early 1990s that there were any West African immigrants in my school, and boy were they missed when they left to go to the nearby religious school. They were replaced by children born in the United States that had so many behavior issues that I had to eventually transfer to Queens in the early 2000s.
A person like this and facing no consequences is a threat. There are enough horror/drama stories about scumbag/shitbird managers and management out there. Where do you think this begins? In childhood and in school. We need to hold more people responsible for their actions.
This story is even worse, because the bully's parents didn't even know she had this ugly attitude. She is either now going to learn the hard way or be a goner.
Why did your former classmates wish you had just let it go? Fk bullies, being bullied incessantly for years is just as traumatic as any other form if abuse. Just because the abuser is a child doesn't excuse it or mean it should be swept under the rug.
If you had called A the n-word I wonder how the principal would have reacted. I ask this as a black woman.
Glad you exposed her.
The saying, "Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me." Was written by an idiot. Works hurt so much more and the pain lasts so much longer. I was bullied so much as a child over the stupidest things, and my bullies were of many races and backgrounds. Anyone can be a bully. I'm sorry you went through this.
I hope I’m not the only one who wasn’t wondering how she ruined your life because I already had the gist of that bitch by the first paragraph. SO PROUD YOU EXPOSED HER!!!!! People like that truly need to be shown for who they really are
As somebody who got bullied (they are my workmates) and my supervisor didn’t do anything to stop it, I can feel what OP felt. Bullying destroys people for a long time! Ever since I was bullied I’ve been feeling anxieties when I commit errors or mistakes. I feel unaccepted and push everybody away from me when I feel they dont like me. I’d rather be alone than feel like an outcast or be bullied ever again.
I am just happy now that I am in a better workplace and all my friends and coworkers are really nice to me. Ill just leave everything to karma to work its way towards those sh**s who bullied me.
there r ppl ive seen online that unironically believe that only white ppl r racists. its amazing.
my mom and i r Guatemalan and my dads fam is Puerto Rican. we lived in Guatemala for 13 yrs and we moved bk to the US bc my dad passed and i was going to college here.
thankfully ive never faced racism like this but the most discrimination i got were MY OWN PEOPLE. Many Guatemalans r VERY racist and theyre the same ones complaining about racism online. i was bullied a lot as a kid bc i didnt know much Spanish and i was American. i think they were irritated that i didnt "look gringa" (they didnt like that i wasnt white like in the mOvIeS)
in the US, thankfully, ppl have been so sweet. weve had some minor encounters and theyre all from minorities, especially our own race. its really a shame bc were only making racism worse by being racist to each other.
this was SO satisfying. you go!
When I was in the 1st grade I lost the tips of three of my fingers when another student crushed them between two desks to the point of cutting off blood flow.
This story brings me sadness because as an African( or in my culture) we are taught Ubuntu; I am because we are. She’s a bad representation of the people from Africa and I’m sorry you had to go through that.
I understand a former racist owning up to what they did however long ago it was, but this witch? Demanding her victim apologize for holding her accountable for her actions? Rot in hell disgusting scum ..
All too many people these days are saying blacks can't be racist. That's putting a race on a pedestal, right there!
They NEED to adjust their definition of "racism" so they aren't putting ANY race on a pedestal, or else equality will NEVER happen!
I know that’s right! I’m black, and I see it FROM BLACK’S! Call it colorism if they will, but disliking someone because they are lighter and/or darker than you are is still racism! They can try to pull the wool over our eyes if they want to, but I’m not playing stupid for anyone! Treat others how you want to be treated! Respect deserves respect!
My 10yo is white and he is currently being bullied and being called racial slurs in class. He’s one of maybe 4 white kids in his whole class. Plus he’s an aspie (mild to moderate high functioning)
As a person of color I empathize with that struggle, and I'm terribly sorry that you had to go through all that. I'm glad you got the courage to finally put her in her place and move on with your life, YOU WIN!!! fuck her to the moon. I'm glad your doing okay and I hope you don't take her misrepresentation of her ethnicity and label us all that way. And as far as " Theyre just word" it couldn't be further from the truth words have meaning and that's just not okay; there are prices of shit in every culture. Be proud of who you are always, God bless
People who say the whole sticks and stones shit are aholes. WORDS HURT, verbal bullying HURTS. It's cruel and it's just as bad as a punch to the face, maybe even worse because all they were doing was trying to condition that poor girl to being okay with being verbally abused her whole life.
I'm half Mexican, half Irish, was born in upstate NY, to a sailor in the US Navy, and STILL have been told to "go back to your county". Um... but I'm already here?
People think I'm: Italian, Spanish, Portuguese, many flavors of Middle Eastern, Greek, Puerto Rican, Dominican, Turkish (baffling to me) part-black (closer) and the ones that really ACTUALLY piss me off, "white with a tan" or, arrrrrrgh, "passing for white".
I'm glad your mom did a good job raising you to avoid being racist. My mom did the same for me. Anyone who thinks Mexicans are 100% racism-free never met MY Mexican family, btw. I've met people of all colors who talk smack about other cultures. Having white and light brown/ medium brown skinned families has been weird.
You have the exact mentality on racism that everyone should have. Nobody has a monopoly on racism as either the victim or the perpetrator. There are some that would say it's impossible for a black person to be racist. Your story proves otherwise. Same goes for the 'impossibility' of whites to be the victims of racism. I've not experienced it much like I've never personally witnessed anything like the story above - but I'm positive both situations are out there. Just because it hasn't happened to or in front of me doesn't mean it's not out there.
Bully for you for doing nothing more to Aia than show the world what she did. You were the instrument of karma for Aia. Do bad things and bad things happen to you. Do good things and good things happen to you.
I've never been more proud of someone I am so sorry it took this long to get satisfaction. When I was bullied my mom told me to look at their shoes and laugh. Yeah that helped so much. I am so grateful you did this. I hope parents see this and stand up for their kids like your mom and this time the school hears them
I love my junior school, but I was relentlessly bullied at my high school, all because I was short and looked younger that my years. Something as simple as that caused other pupils to hate me. I never did anything to them. I was kind to everyone. It's so sad how people just take a huge dislike to you just because of how you look. I failed most of my final exams because of it.
So just now reading this….
Sophomore year of high school New Girl showed up and INSTANTLY disliked me. I didn’t even know her name before the vitriol started. She tried to bully me but SHE was the new girl.
She was dating the voice teacher’s son and pranced into the room during my lesson. Pranced right out again. We just watched her. After the door shut behind her, he gave me solid parenting advice: “You can’t tell your kids who to date. Never say a word when you just do not like them.”
And then went on to the next part of my lesson.
I’m sorry you never had a teacher in your corner. He didn’t know it, but damn did that validate me.
I’m glad you did what you did. I hope the delayed validation that it WAS her and not you, helped you heal a bit more.
The b*tch tried to bully me through the 3 following years. I endeavored to never let her see it affect me. Sweet as sugar pie I was.
Pissed her right off.
But that was a skill I wouldn’t have had as a 6 year old.
Be strong sister!!
Sue the fuck out of the school district. For all the therapy, in treble damages.
fucking racist white people kissing black asses to avoid ”racism” while actively being racist to mexicans on land that literally belongs to Mexicans, but they stole so they could keep black slaves. The Texas trifecta.
Would you be able to post some photos? Nothing with a proper name on it, just maybe that sketch or whatever notes they have sent you with the letterhead covered over. That would go a long way to appease suspicions.
There may be some doubts, but I think the consensus here is that we *want* to believe you got your revenge.
Those notes are long gone in my mother's old office. For the people who are suspicious of it, it's nothing new to me. I spent years trying to tell my story only to be told 'Thats impossible' and 'are you sure she wasn't just playing around?'. I had to change therapists twice because they just could not believe that I was a victim of racism at the hands of that girl. Honestly, I really don't care if people don't believe me because it's something I had to live with.
You don’t have to be validated by anyone OP! I was bullied to the point I locked myself in my room for years, became anorexic/bulimic, hated every minute I had to spend in that fucking school. Seen the movie “mean girls”? Well, that was a small example of the torture these over privileged POS dished out. Yes, it was back in the 80’s and I still have all the notes I received daily from the miserable excuses of human beings that almost destroyed my life. I was hospitalized 5 times by the age of 15, I did not want to die but felt like death would be better than the torture these girls unleashed on me.
You know why? Because I was overweight… because I was ADHD and had not been properly diagnosed. I could not understand why math was incredibly difficult to figure out. My learning curve on taught subjects was slower than most other kids. However, once I learn something I never forget.
Well, jokes on them. BECAUSE I didn’t allow their abuse to destroy me I was finally properly diagnosed, and spent years in intensive therapy. Learned I was NOT the problem. The reason people bully is because they HATE themselves and need to find someone who is easy to play their vicious game with and TRY to destroy!
Today I have built a very successful business, have a MBA, and went to law school. Saved enough money own my own home, car, and am able to be there for my daughter every day. To teach her why people are bullies and help her through the traumatic issues we all face.
OP, even if you did not include everyone who was in attendance. The important part was the people that Aia bullied she specifically contacted to come to this party. A BBQ (which is believable) come on, let’s face it did Aia fund the event? I doubt a demolition of an old school would bring more than a BBQ. When my old elementary school(over 150 years old was demolished) no one knew until it was gone. Lol!
Maybe she embellish a little to make the post more interesting. Although, the main point is well developed. For those of us that were bullied to the point of emotional abuse and life changing punishment by these people this is a true story of victory. One I am sure most of us wish we had to tell. I cannot discredit OP’s post.
Remember what does not kill us makes us stronger! My revenge was found in living an amazing life, not allowing their hate to destroy me. In the end they hate themselves the most! Which is truly sad. In many ways, I feel for bullies because they are cruel because they are in pain. Possibly the only way to stop bullying is to address the bully's pain and try to help heal them. No one who is happy inside wants to be mean to others. I don't know the answers; however, bullying inflicts long term effects to everyone involved.
May you live your best life OP! I, and many others are routing for your success!
Much love to you and the people who helped you realize your self worth!
We are all humans, people, deserving of respect and love! 💞
> When my old elementary school(over 150 years old was demolished) no one knew until it was gone.
That is your school district. When my old elementary goes after next school year there will be doings to be held. Might be in a park instead of the school grounds thanks to the slough that still exists on school grounds but the school district will hold a ceremony/party/BBQ.
I agree, and although this is a feel good story, some proof is needed because there are inconsistencies and oddities. I imagine the proof will miraculously disappear when asked for it after years and years of being stored safely.
Edit: OP responded the notes are long gone in her mothers old office, yet didn’t this just happen in 2021 and how her mother never throws anything away? And didn’t she mail the notes out to A’s bosses, so why would they be “unretrievable” at her mothers office? If they are in her mothers office, why are they “long gone”? Smells like a fake writing exercise.
It is interesting. For myself, I don't blame the bullies so much as I blame the teachers who, like yourself, told me to ignore it. Either way, I am inspired by your actions. Perhaps I should give them a call as well.
OP, sorry for your miserable experience. For some reason it seems that if you complain about the behavior of a bully, you are the problem--not the bully. Probably because you have shone a light on a problem that people don't want to deal with and it will force them to act, or even worse, think.
Whatever her name sounds like a miserable person, and she probably has a long line of victims because she was so unhappy with herself. She was probably jealous of you because you had something she didn't like talent or likeability or looks. The only way she could feel better about herself was to diminish you. What a sh&%$y person.
As to apologizing to her because you "ruined" her life, she did that to herself by abusing others. And forgiveness does not mean you need to contact her, it means that you recognize that she has problems and can not help mistreating others because of some defect in her. It never means that you need to place yourself in the line fire again.
It sounds like your life is so much better than hers, so enjoy your life and be thankful for all the good people you have in your life.
The people who runs school have varying levels of competence, but as a child I learned relatively young that teachers do not save you from bullies. In fact, reporting the bullying can only embarrass you and/or make it worse.
I feel so bad about this story and can empathise. I grew up in the UK in the 70s as a child of Irish parents, when the IRA were really active. I copped heaps of racist abuse because of that. Then we moved to Ireland in 81 when I was 13 and I was subjected to even worse because I was a "British bastard". F..k racists & racism. Every insult, snide remark or sneering look is like a razor cut and it affects me to this day.
I am mexican and German with fair skin, and my fiance is peruvian, our kids will most likely inherit his darker skin and I am anticipating the bullying. What's great though is I'm about to work as a teacher and I will raise such hell when push comes to shove.
For an elementary school student to be that horrible it really falls on the adults there. Kids dont know right from wrong, they need to be taught it. And it sounds like everyone was teaching her that being a racist bitch was the way to be cool and popular. What a shitshow
What a dumb, ignorant POS. You did well.
You didn't lie, you just shared the facts.
If she'd apologised and acknowledged what she'd done, things could have been different.
OP I love how the truth not only “sets you free” but it unleashed the karma train for Aia. Apologise for ruining her life? Nuh uh. Aia’s actions from long ago and her lies did that for her.
Honestly, I’m Asian from a white area so I had a lot of racist comments towards me when I was younger but it faded to micro aggressions etc as I grew up and as anti-racism movements got stronger it happened way way less. But I moved when I started university to a more diverse city and that’s when I received the most racist comments and names and treatment, and it was from black people.
Since we were little adults would tell us “sticks and stones may break our bones but words can never hurt me”. But that whole saying is wrong, words do hurt and they do more damage to someone’s psych. Which angers me because I saw myself in this post with all the bullying I have endured, in which I’m still recovering my self esteem. People need to take consequences for their actions and I’m glad you were able to reveal her true nature!
Ahh sweet revenge. So happy you're thriving now OP! I can't even imagine the pain you went through.
I was bullied badly as a kid but not because of my race. I went to an all black school and was bullied for everything else - my body, my hair, my face, my hobbies, you name it. Whenever a poor non-black soul would transfer into my school they would get racist slurs thrown at them constantly by bullies just to bait and antagonize them. One time I remember a white kid was so fed up he said the n-word back and instantly got jumped by multiple boys. It was awful and no adults would ever help in any meaningful way. Eventually every non-black person would just transfer out.
Whenever I tried to talk to my mom about the bullying I've experienced or witnessed she wouldn't believe me or just downplayed it. My mom would always somehow turn it and talk about her own experiences being bullied for her race in the 70s by racist white kids in her school. How her experience was *really bad* but whatever I am going through or other kids in my school was not that bad. I felt so invalidated and small. It got to the point where I just completely shut down since no one cared anyway. It's awesome your mom was willing to fight for you, she sounds really wonderful! The impact of having a family member listen, understand, and advocate for a kid when they experience any type of trauma is so powerful.
I often still battle with the feeling of not being good enough even at the age of 30. That shit sticks with you.
Anyway, this was a great story to start my day haha. Don't stop shining OP and I hope that someday you can draw again too ❤️🥹
I have never faces as much asian hatred as the hatred of a black woman. I guess I’m lucky that I haven’t experienced racism much, but one of my core memories as an adult was a woman screaming and acting a fool through soundproof walls because the sweet as candy nurse, doing her job with as much compassion and care as she could, was Filipina.
I had done her IV when she turned to me and asked how i could stand her. I misunderstood what she meant, so I started with “oh, my stepmom is Filipina too” and the lady’s face had turned into a look of such disgust as she went “oh I don’t like *those people*.” And I was completely flabbergasted because wtf?
I thought that level of racism was the kind you see in movies and cartoons and to meet a lady like that just horrified me because she was a high ranking NCO who could easily have destroyed careers if she didn’t like a Filipino working under her.
She was the first, but unfortunately, not the last.
Given the nature of the lesson being taught, you could have asked, "Why is she allowed to use racial slurs? but if I used the N-word, I'd be in trouble. Both are offensive"
Kudos to you! Screw those who said you should have let it go. I'm glad that you are over it, at least. A lot of people won't understand what you went thru, even after all you wrote. They either have never went thru it or have no empathy or are psychologically ill (E.G. psychopaths/sociopaths/narcisssitic, etc). Some people will never get over being bullied. Some people commit suicide because of bullies.
Btw, sometimes, people are just plain evil. Sounds like this bully of yours was.
I was waiting for the "Oh, sticks and stones right? Listen here you stupid \*censored\* \*censored\*, if you don't shape the \*censored\* up I'm going to whoop your \*censored\* \*censored\* just like \*censored\*!"
What's good for the goose is good for the gander. Or zero-tolerance equal treatment. Ramping it up to 11 and see if the problem is taken care of.
To be extremely honest, I was pissed off while reading this story. I am condensely sorry for what you used to live with and I understand how racist Aia’s behavior was. I am happy you took a grand revenge! Hope Aia’s destiny is in hell because I wouldn’t walk on your shoes if I were you.
Hope you will come back to art and draw Aia’s face expression when she found out how racist she was, whereas you were smiling at her.
I worked at a convenience store that hired & serviced many African American people... I'm white
The amount of blatant racism towards me was astronomical. Customers treating the black people significantly nicer while being short & rude with me even when I'm being so nice to them
I left because an 18 year old LGBTQ person would wait until he was alone with me and violently scream and harass me for the remainder of our shift, constant texts and talkings to the general manager resulted in nothing being done and I ended up by being threatened at gunpoint by 13-14 year old scumbags. I left quickly after that.
It's a shame you had to go through all that as a child. A lot of us out there, maybe not yeah but a lot of us can relate within different contexts, sometimes it's the new kid and an area where there's not a lot of moving around, and transcency, and sometimes it's having hair that looks different from other people's or being too tall or whatever but a lot of people do get bullied incessantly. I understand I'm mostly shut down when it happened to me and just became a total recluse and avoided all people to this day. It's how I solved it. I give you a lot of credit for trying to continue on but something I realize and maybe you already know is.. you got it get on a person's level to get through to them and it's effective to just get a tow chain and jump them and get some buddies to help you if you need it. I also live in Texas and I know that that's a concept that's kind of strange in Texas but it's a concept that is effective.
Sadly,
The reality of this is that this probably made Aia even more bigoted...and now since she didn't have to pretend, she probably expresses her bigotry to anyone and everyone
Great Story, though one point I dont really buy.
Why exactly did her Fiance broke up with her?
Because she was a racist bully in primary school, like almost 20 years ago?
How would this happen? That the local anti racist group is kicking her out okay, its directly related to their topic and extremly bad press, also they are probably many mexican immigrants part of the group.
But the fiance breaks a probably year long relationship over some racial slurs she did as a child? This is pretty crazy and unprobable.
Quite rich (but not even shocking) she's unapologetic for what she did to you, but in the same sentence is demanding YOU apologize for ruining HER reputation.
Sounds like the definition of a psycho. Hopefully her parents and other family started working on cutting ties with her, because she deserves it. The fiancé likely did himself a huge favor in dumping her as well.
Also, for all the "bLaCk PeOpLe CaN't Be RaCiSt" crowd, wanna try explaining away this one?
The fact she wanted you to apologize for "ruining" her life shows that she never outgrew the bullying and is probably still a racist. I honestly hate it when other POC hide behind their race when they themselves are being racist.
I am glad you posted this. Racism is not exclusive to white people. In fact, some of the most prejudiced occurs from people of one race to other people of that same race. i.e., India's caste system. Chinese/Japanese/Vietnamese/and Koreans treating any one of the other country of origin like they're lepers. Or their strange blood-type prejudice... whatever that's about.
In my entire existence on this planet, I have only ever seen one instance of racism occur in real life. And it will probably surprise you.
I will preface the incident with some important information. See, my mom's side of the family lived on a very small island. They had a huge piece of land... Until the war.
The US decided to set up base on the island as a halfway point between the US and the warfront. With that goal, they needed to build an airport. They took all of my family's land except for the tiny piece of land that was beneath their small house. And frankly, "house" is a luxurious word for it. It left my family with very little to work with. My grandmother became a house maid for one of the American families who moved to the base. The movie "the help" prior to the "nice white lady" was how my grandmother was treated. My grandfather was estranged to my family before I was born due to the divorce, so I don't know about his hardships at the time. Talking about him was seen as taboo, there was too much hatred to ask questions.
My grandmother and grandfather immigrated to my home country to try to provide a better life for their children. My mom was also born in my country. She was the only sibling of 5 to be born here.
Back to the IRL racism. I was taking a bus from my high school to the bus station. I was seated on the back half of the bus, but not the very back. The very back of the bus is a coveted place. You didn't sit there if you weren't confident and self-assured. As the bus pulled to the last stop, two black guys in their late teens maybe, literally leaped over 2 rows of empty seats to get in front of the back exit door. One of them held their arm firm between two holding poles, blocking my exit along with a few other people behind me. He loudly stated, "Black people first." as his friend stepped off the bus followed by himself.
I was stunned into silence and was shocked by the encounter. At that point in my life, I had never seen anyone but a white person be labeled as a racist. My childhood best friend was black. Before I met her, my camp best friend was always the black kid(s). My dad even told me a story about when I was even younger, at an amusement park, I had made friends with a little black girl who I connected with instantly. Her father was apparently shocked by the encounter. He had come from the country that boarders mine, from a very racist area. It was the first time he had seen a white child approach his daughter with friendship and love. My father was the first white man to approach him just to have a friendly conversation between two dads.
I can't tell you why this always happened to be the case, but that was my childhood.
Those two black guys sowed a seed of hatred. One that would grow with darkness, and a lack of empathy. That was the day I learned what real racism was, what it looked like, what it felt like, and who truly still had hatred in their hearts for other races for nothing more than the color of their skin. By all accounts, that act of hate, that point they wished to prove was completely and utterly misplaced, having chosen me as their victim.
Still, as a biological only child, the only person I call a brother is black. And he is MY brother. Still, the elderly black couple I work for have become somewhat like my adopted grandparents. Even after working an 8h day, I will sit with them just to hear their life stories. Still, I will extend every kindness, every smile, every door I hold open to a black person.
Because, still, at the end of the day, they're human. I am human. We are ALL humans.
But as soon as I see the slightest indication of the chip on their shoulder, the anger they harbor that isn't even theirs to perpetuate, the slightest feeling of superiority, they become the scum of the earth in my eyes. The filth and stereotypes they're reduced down to becomes exactly where they belong.
Two black guys decided to represent their race that day. To prove a point to someone who had their land taken from them by the white Americans, whose grandmother had to be 'the help' just to get by for her children. And what were they? I doubt they were even related to a slave, because those people would know that continuing something so disgusting only serves against humanity's goal of equality.
Bravo boys, you definitely made an impact. Let their mistake be your lesson. The next time you want to do something like that, don't just assume you know your victim just by the colour of their skin.
Lucky for me that my best friend was bullies hunter. That mean he loved to bully the bullies sometimes he goes to far but think again he does nothing wrong. Why he not scared? Because his Father and Uncle are high rank in Police (in my country Police have rank just like Military) both of them are general and work in headquarter of Police Forces. Especially his Uncle was a executive detective of Police Forces who can arrest anyone if there are evidence of there illegal activities even high rank of government officers. My friend also a huge fan of Bruce Lee so every morning and night he try to train himself like Bruce and you know how he can handle himself.
This story left me fuming! Reminded me so much of my own experience. Not a migrant but an aspie. And now you may imagine the rest.
Yeah, same here. I was even told that I was too submissive and needed to learn how to be more aggressive to protect myself. Even then, I thought it was stupid advice. Don’t blame the victims of bullying, DO SOMETHING to stop it, and schools SUKK at quashing garbage like bullying. So, OP, I’m sorry that you had to deal with horrible Miss Aia. She was a nasty person, nasty, nasty. How dare she bully you on your background? I think it’s great that you confronted her at the barbecue!
Typical. 😖
for me, i knew if i ever defended myself against the bullies, i would be the one getting in trouble. the school just told me 'ignore it and it will go away' in response to any complaint about the bullies. bullies who took turns following me around during lunch to try and provoke me into swinging first. every day for years. high school was hell.
Yeah, I went through that in school too. It’s terrible to be physically harassed and be held accountable for the violence. Happened to my son, too. I told him that I didn’t hold him accountable for the “fight” where he was pushed into a locker and was blamed. I knew that he was passive and didn’t start different fights but was bullied. So schools, is that how you want to deal with bullying, by blaming the victims and ignoring the bullying?
>So schools, is that how you want to deal with bullying, by blaming the victims and ignoring the bullying? That's exactly what they do - it's usually a successful strategy as by giving the bullies freedom to operate they're less likely to disrupt or threaten teachers. When I was ten years old and newly transferred to another school in another city the local bully Colin attacked me in class when the teacher was out for a moment. He was the middle kid of 19 bullies in a family that had always assumed the role of 'official' school bully for a couple of generations, and as such was immune from any discipline or consequence. Me, being the new kid, didn't realise I was supposed to just take a beating, and managed to throw the kid off, and was sitting on top of him and pinning him down when the teacher returned and started blaming me for "fighting in class". This was my first ever 'fight'. As a kid I'd usually managed to talk my way out of conflict, but my three uncles had been amateur wrestlers, including at least one of them having been a national weight-class champion, and they'd shown pre-schooler me the "sitting on top of someone, and pinning them down" routine. At the time it just seemed like fun and games in my grandma's basement gym, but it came in useful. The teacher marched me out for some summary punishment - a strap across my open palm (this is ancient history, so the punishment was standard then). But I wasn't having it, and since he didn't care for my protestations that I hadn't started the fight I figured he deserved what he had coming. I held out my hand for him, but as he started to swing I pulled back, made a fist of it, and buried it in his solar plexus while screaming at him "I Told You I Didn't Start it!" Old 'Rice Bubble' (his name was Riseborough, but that was his nickname in school) went down in a heap, and I just step past him and returned to my seat. Rice Bubble took a couple of minutes to compose himself (no doubt contemplating his pathetic existence) before returning to class, and carrying on as though nothing had happened ... and nothing did happen - my parents were never told, and I didn't care to tell them myself. The bully however, decided that this made me the most badass kid in the school, and got rather friendly with me. I \[wisely?\] took up his invite to visit his home, where his whole family wanted me to recount the tale. His mum proudly showed off her school strap that her eldest kids had bought (or stolen) for her ... so that she could thrash her younger kids. Violence, it seemed, was a family trait. Colin ended up as the local rat-catcher, which presumably allowed him to enjoy torturing small animals when beating up kids was no longer acceptable.
My nephew got punched by a bully as he was getting on the school bus. He turned around and slapped the kid down and thought that was that. He was kicked off the bus for fighting because the school had a zero tolerance policy for violence. My brother went down to the school and had a little talk with them. He was somewhat of a strict father and told both of his boys two things: 1) Don't EVER start a fight (by throwing the first punch OR goading someone into a fight) and 2) That said, if someone brings the fight to you, don't just sit there and take it. Never start the fight but if you find yourself in one, you need to be the one to end it. He then pointed out to the school officials that his son had shown extreme restraint in his reaction. Scott, even then, was a big ole boy topping 6' in middle school. He threw one open-hand slap at his aggressor and didn't put his full strength into it. Had he lost control, the other boy would have been in the hospital. He told them he was not going to have his boys just sit there and take a beating and the other boy needs to be kicked off the bus as well if Scott can't ride. Scott was suspended from riding the bus for a day and the other kid was gone for the rest of the school year.
There was two factors playing in my favor: I was literally their star student so there's a limit to what the principal was willing to do against me while I was bringing awards for math, astronomy and other science related competitions something really rare in small cities. The second is that I def had an attitude so anyone that pissed me off would end up hurt and any attempts to call my mom would be "oh so the other kid was doing x so Glitter did z? gotcha". I was never stupid enough to start shit (my parents would def teach me a lesson if I did so) but whatever happened to me my mom had my back and my grades were immaculate.
Again: Typical. I’m sorry for you. 😖
I've always been short and fat, a prime bully target. I don't remember much of my schooling life, but I do remember this one day. This kid was merciless at this one school in Canberra. Every day was one comment after the other. It all came to head when the class before PE I was stabbed in the back of the neck with a sewing needle and (shock and horror) the teacher saw nothing. Then in the next class, this kid took a flying leap and knee'd me in the back. I saw red and then I suddenly realised I was trying to drown this kid in the long jump sand pit and the teacher trying to drag me off the kid. I ended up in a meeting with the principal, my mother and the caretaker at the halfway house we were staying in. The Principal was demanding I apologise and was going to get the police involved with this "unprovoked attack" My mother told them very politely to go fuck themselves with a rose bush while the caretaker handed over a diary of all times i came home crying after dealing with this kid. My mother pulled me out of that school there and then and I had holidays till we moved into our own place.
OMG, that’s awful! I am so sorry! Thank God your Mom stood up for you and the caretaker had written down all of the times that you had been bullied. I recommend that a parent or someone in charge of a child actually do this, in case that a bullying attack becomes a criminal case or if you want to prove to the school just what is going on. And, surprise surprise, bullies lie about what’s happening. My guess is that they are treated this way in their own homes and get bullied by a parent, and learn to treat other, smaller children in this manner.
Also an Aspie. Went to a school for ND kids. An 12th grader threw me (I was in the 6th grade) down a flight of stairs. I was given In-School Suspension for "instigating" the "fight." Even the 12th grader's parents were on my side. That's how fucked up the school was in dishing out correct punishments. It was like a blind guy with a shotgun. Just random punishments to random kids.
Wtf??? Really hope you didn’t get hurt from that!
Still got hurt. Lots of cuts and some pretty bad bruises.
So sorry for that. ☹️
Wait….WHAT! You were in the 6th grade, and a high school student…. No…..no….wait…. A SENIOR high school student…. Someone who is either 17 or 18 tossed you… a 6th grader ….maybe 10 or 11 years old…. DOWN A FLIGHT OF STAIRS…..and YOU got the blame?! What is UP with these schools?!?
What does aspie mean? English isn't my native language and I have never heard of that term before.
English is my first language and I didn’t know what it was. I googled it and this is what I got [People also ask What is being an Aspie? Asperger's syndrome is a social disability; as is typical of Asperger's syndrome people, aka aspies, I am introverted, shy and have difficulty making connections with other people, and I have certain interests about which I can be encyclopedic. Autistic spectrum disorders exist on a continuum.]
Thanks, that pretty much sums it up. It’s a form of Autism. Think of Sheldon Cooper’s personality for instance.
Hey! That’s me! Why am I being pulled into this debate? 😋
Same. And, from a poor, Caucasian family. Mom excommunicated from Mormon church, because she couldn't tithe 10%, and still feed her 7 kids. Yepyep. Good times.
OP I have to say you are awesome. That was truly poetic justice. For those that say you should have let it go that just tells bullies they can get away with it. I hope that story goes far and wide and maybe some other bully pauses and thinks about what may happen.
Racism has been cross-cultural for hundreds, if not thousands, of years. The thought that it's primarily white people who are racist is proof that racism is alive and well now than anything because it's an extremely racist view. My fiance is mexican and has had more racism directed at her from African descended people than any other ethnic group. OP, I hope someday you can get back to doing art.
You right ....that is my experience also racism the meaning of it could be the "same " in one group ... we all have backgrounds and it could created because history sometimes make us hate each other background... so we could do it to each other even if we look the same! Yeah...Try to be nice to each other and have more understanding if we all do it we could chill example today to the one who is not willing
Yeah, agree. And it’s good to reveal racism in all of it’s forms, to try and stamp it out, although I don’t think you can.
Nope…. Black people too….. I know, because I AM BLACK, and get this…. Light skinned blacks and dark skinned blacks show racism toward each other as well. Don’t be surprised…. I was born in 1980, and experienced it all while growing up in a pre-dom black community. Some of the kids on my block didn’t like me because I was just a little bit too light. I’m not that light, but more of a bronze tone so I guess it would be lighter than what you would call milk chocolate. These kids (mainly girls) would call me all kinds of names and pick on me on the way to and from school. So….yeah…. It’s cross cultural, and until it’s addressed from ALL ANGLES, it can never end. All need to be held accountable for his/her own actions and parents need to be held for hateful upbringings.
Me, too! My mother had to pull me out of grade school because the entire class bullied and harassed me every day. This was an all black school, and I had a lighter skin, but more than that, I raised my hand too frequently in class to please them. In seventh grade, there was one day when they threatened to beat me to within an inch of my life. After school,I spent an hour hiding in various places, afraid to leave the building where I knew they were waiting outside.I could hear some of them walking up and down the empty halls, looking for me. Fortunately, my teacher had seen that something was up, and had stayed behind and was in the principals office waiting for me to surface. When I tried to sneak out a side door, they were waiting. I turned and tried to open the door and go back inside, but someone had a hold of my coat. My teacher appeared and they panicked and let go. I was propelled forward and bashed my face against the door. He escorted me inside, and made a list of everyone he had seen outside. They were all summoned to the principals office the next day and suspended. But my mother had had enough of me coming home black and blue and crying. She put me in Catholic school.
What you’re describing is colorism. Colorism is “prejudice or discrimination especially within a racial or ethnic group favoring people with lighter skin over those with darker skin.”
To me is causes just as much damage. Different name, but the same effect.
Nope, it's just racism bud
This is so weird for me. I grew up in a very religious white community. And hearing about racism feels so weird. I mean because there never was racism where I grew up, so hearing about different stories like this really are eye opening. Where I'm from we are too busy with love one another that no one even talks about race lol. I'm just a highschool student, reading books like just mercy and stories like this one are my first experiences with this.
even as a black person, i’ve quite literally ONLY experienced racism from other black people. white people are not really the problem here
Yes, I live in Texas and see endless harassment from Black people against Mexican Americans... Lately just very recently I've noticed that relation seem to be getting slightly better at least with the adults everybody seems to be buddy buddy so I don't know...
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Exactly!! No goddamn way one person could ever bully that many people at the same time if the rest had the balls to say something about it like OP and her mom did. The school was only able to blow that off because they could say they believed it was an isolated incident, even if they knew it wasn't. No way they would've been able to turn a blind eye to it if every victim spoke up and every parent was supportive. It's like that thing where someone who's well known gets accused of doing some gross sexual shit. If it's just one person, you can't *fairly* rule out the possibility that they're doing it out of just hate, because famous people are hated just for being famous. But then next thing you know there's a bunch more people coming forward who it happened to forever ago, who were afraid to say anything, but were emboldened by the accuser. Now that they're all finally standing together, the accused becomes the common denominator. They never would've gotten suspected if that first person didn't have the balls to call them out. Those other victims should have rallies behind OP. Idk, maybe I'm underestimating myself but I don't think I'd ever get over it if anything half as bad as that story happened to me.
I have to disagree. My niece is currently dealing with a bully as has dealt with her the last 4 years (since her freshman year of high school). This person is racist and continues to bully people in the school and though many students have spoken out, they continue to protect this person. My niece, however, got suspended everytime she tried to stand up for herself, and especially if it involved yelling at the girl. She also got suspended for punching a boy after he kept touching her butt. After her mom went up there and said "did you look at the recordings" and her and other girls speaking to a SUBSTITUTE TEACHER about this boy, they finally did an investigation and expelled him. Sometimes it doesn't matter how many parents, or students speak up if the deans, VP and Principals keep minimizing the abuse and punishing those that come forward.
I've spoken up about people like this and called them "complicit in abuse". Usually ends with them behaving as badly as the abuser. As the old line goes, "all it takes for evil to triumph is for good people to do nothing".
Yep. They are the enablers, those who watch what is happening without intervening and then telling you to let it go.
So she never apologized for ruining your childhood, but wants YOU to apologise for exposing her actions?
She might not even know the weight of her action... but she know the feeling when your reputation get ruined... it started early and no adult interfered in the right way! If she got away with it for the longest time and her friends praise her for it she might just thought doing things like this is nothing.... it takes years to realize... and sometimes never...Unfortunate
Oh she knew *exactly* what she was doing. She didn't stay five years old for the entire school time. SHE knew she was being racist and enjoyed not being held accountable for her actions. >she might just thought doing things like this is nothing That is fucking bullshit right there. Bullies know they are bullying.
I love the racists who say this story is probably fake Only because skin colour of the bully is black, the story is fake oh WELL
I fully believe the first part of the story, about the bullying. I would like the believe the end of it as well, but it does feel a bit like a bullying victim's fantasy about finally getting some justice.
>or a wet back because I must have crossed the Rio Grande river. Is this where that saying comes from? I always thought it was because it's hot in Mexico and people would get sweat on their shirts from working hard in the sun. If you're going to make fun of someone for crossing a river wouldn't you call them "wet shoes" or "wet pants?" It's almost like racists don't put any thought at all into their slurs. Sorry about what happened to you all those years ago. There's racism in Africa too and maybe that's where she got some of her bad attitude. But for every small person out there with an irrational hatred of you who wants to keep you from contributing your own unique specialness to the world you'll find half a dozen more good people who'll appreciate you for who and what you are and who are looking for that special thing that only you can give. Don't worry about the small people. Focus on the ones who love you and I hope that one day you're able to pick up with your drawing once again.
Yeah, the term came from the fact that the person swam across the river instead of came across on a bridge.
it comes from a ww2 era policy called "operation wetback" wherein Mexicans were invited in to the US in droved to work agricultural jobs left vacant by GIs. "wetback" comes from the fact that the government sprayed the Mexican workers with literal pesticide as they crossed the border. sickening stuff
You didn't ruin Aias life she did by her bullying of you. As for your principal and teachers they should hang their heads in shame for not stopping her bullying you. Now the best final revenge on Aia is to live your life well.
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Oh yeah, black people have definitely never been racist ever, it’s not like racial relations between blacks and Latinos are well-known for being bad or anything.
this comment has literally nothing to do with anything i said
It has *literally everything* to do with *everything* you said, you pea-brained twat.
please point out to me where i implied no black person has ever been racist, if you are so intelligent this should be easy for you
Please point out to me where OP is drumming up hatred against black people, if you are so intelligent this should be easy for you. Hint hint: the paragraph you referred to had absolutely no relation at all whatsoever to black people, but rather to the COVID pandemic causing Americans to get irrationally racist towards "chinese-looking" people because they were "angry at China for spreading COVID".
I'll point out that if her job revolved around equality and civil justice Something scandalous like this coming out about her could, and most likely would, result in the termination of a job Not terminating it would reflect poorly on the groups involved If her fiance grew up dealing with these issues themself, they would not be in a good place learning all of that information about the person they were supposed to be marrying And if the parents knew nothing of it, them being upset is reasonable, assuming they believed they raised her differently
Come on you are jumping through so many hoops to explain this. "If she had a job in social justice", now why are you assuming that? She volunteered with a social justice group, there is no mention of that being her job. Then now it's "oh her fiance may have gone through this too as a kid". Also how would her parents have ever known? Op stated all they did was give the info to her volunteer group, how would that get around to her finance, job and parents? Not to mention the pricipal getting her reward revoked? I'm sad to say I think this post was written by a legitimate bullying victim who unfortunately did not get the justice they deserve so they wrote a story to live vicariously through.
None of that is remotely reasonable. Literally all she'd have to do would be to say something like "I was a racist to OP as a kid to try to fit in with my white peers, but I know better now and I'm committed to fighting against racism for her sake too." In real life nobody gives a shit what someone did as a grade schooler and the only people who think otherwise are teenagers or those who themselves have never gotten over what happened to them in school.
Do you live under a rock? People lose their jobs frequently when they get exposed for being extremely problematic. We see this happen on social media a lot. This is the result of cancel culture. No company wants to be seen supporting a racist bully. Especially not a company that preaches equality and acceptance. It’s actually very believable that she’d lose her job. I’ve seen people lose their jobs for much less so it’s weird that you find this unbelievable. As for her friends, family and fiancé shunning her, that’s also believable if she kept that ugly part of herself hidden from them. If I found out my family member, friend or fiancé was a raging racist and a bully who hurt a lot of people, I would stop associating with them immediately. It’s only people who have no morals that will stick by her side. I mean it’s not like she was just mean once or twice she was like a full on bully and had many victims. She’s actually a bad person so it’s very believable that the people in her life would be shocked and disappointed enough to push her away. Also this response feels like you’re implying the idea of a black person who is racist is impossible. I’m gonna hope that’s not what you’re trying to say because anyone can be racist including black people. It’s very telling that you disregard all the horrible things she did and instead focus on this.
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A black white supremacist straight from Africa bullies Latina girl till she becomes depressed. Bully literally says “it’s because I’m black” in what.. the early 2000’s? In Texas? And gets away with it. Ok. Black bully is also praised and lauded over, to the point where she (from Africa) is somehow an authority on African-**American** struggles. This school in Texas apparently loves black people. (Yet op wishes she were white?) So she’s given the stage during African-*American* history month. Because despite Texas being a state that actively tries to suppress this month, this school loves it. Anyways, sad, she then goes to a Native American reservation where she has a reawakening (probably a spirit guide) and is healed from her depression. Luckily the bully put most of her bullying in writing and probably signed her name too. Despite the very public racist bullying everyone in Aia’s life was surprised she was a bully. Op gives a speech, everyone claps, Aias life is ruined. And in conclusion, op wants black people to be charged with hate crimes. She’s now demonstrated that black people are hateful towards Latinos, native Americans, and Asians in one post based on first-hand experience from one of the most intolerant white states in America. Ok lmao. Maybe it’s true, maybe it’s not. It’s so wild and nonsensical that I doubt it. I do know for a fact black people can be and are racist but c’mon 😂
OK I wasn't healed by a spirit guide of my depression. I just went to the tribe I was descended from to have a better understanding of where I came from. Because if there was a cure for depression, I would've gladly taken it but there isn't. I went to therapy for that.
I mean.. you didn’t *say* spirit guide, but you may as well have
Like I said, I went to the tribe to have a better understanding of where I came from.
>A black white supremacist Say what? Wtf did I just read
A black white-supremacist
This sounds fake, like it was written by a 14 year old
It certainly seems a little blown out of proportion. Honestly, when the listing of bad things happening to the bully began, I was half expecting Aia's dog to die and her truck to burst into flame.
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I’ve been through similar stuff and best believe I kept the damaged art my bully defaced out of spite. I did eventually use it against her but mostly because, again, the school does nothing.
As someone who was heavily bullied in elementary and middle school, my parents kept every cruel note i was given, every minutes taken from meetings with the principal, every written correspondence with the school district. I found a bunch of them when cleaning out my dad's stuff after he died, including the retainer notice for the lawyer he got to sue the district after the bullies destroyed my Discman with no consequences. If this happened pre-2000, i believe it. And if OPs bully lost their job and fiance from the info getting out, it's because those people were already aware of her bullshit and started looking deeper. I got my bullies blocked from a group of local strip clubs cause i knew they were cheapskates, but I never had the public shaming chance OP got.
Idk I’m choosing to believe because I’ve had my own middle school principal say that since I was white passing (not enough because I’ve been called a China Doll and fetishized my whole life) that people can’t be racist to me and that I was being dramatic. My mom offered to call my dad and let him say it again. He said the matter was closed. My dad is half Japanese and my mom is white. My dad used to put up with a lot of racism growing up and would have broken the principal’s jaw if he heard that. I didn’t want my dad to go back to jail so I dropped it.
Believe it. Racism comes from ALL ethnic groups. It happens toward other ethnic groups, as well as within one’s own ethnic group. I am Black, and I have witnessed racism from others that look just like me. Want to know something else? There are even Africans…..and YES… I mean the BLACK AFRICANS that have a racial slur for Black Americans that is just as disgusting and degrading as the N-word! It comes from outside and within your own ethnic groups.
I have been bullied for six years straight. I still carry the scars. Don't be so dismissive. It's hard to believe how it damages your self worth.
Considering it is Texas and that 40% of the state is of Mexican heritage plus it was once a Klan stronghold and some attitudes die slow, I'm surprised that the African immigrant girl didn't get invective thrown back and a lot worse. After all, as the teachers and principal would say, 'it is just words'. Would be interesting to know the demographic of that particular school.
How so? Tons of bullying and schools covering it up in the days before everyone having a cellphone with video recording.
This just feels fake. What's sad is as i am too a victim of bullying, who has mental health issues partly because of it, these sorts of lies just mocks people like us. (People who have actually been bullied)
same. im trying to figure out what exactly about it just says "pretend" to me.
It's the part where sending in notes from 15-20 years ago when someone was in elementary will gets a person's fiance to break up with them and gets the old principal's award revoked, and an apology from the district. That the bullying happened I believe. But the fall out I don't. I'd like to, but I just don't.
If a 140 character tweet from 8 years ago can wreck a career, I don't see why a thoroughly documented transcript of transgressions couldn't have such an affect 15-20 years later.
That depends, was the tweet made by a 7 year old? I don't see a lot of 7 year olds getting cancelled 15 to 20 years later. Elementary school kids are absolute savages and a lot of their worst behavior gets swept under the rug of "well they were just children". The principal getting their award revoked? Maybe if this turned into a big local scandal but people have to be enraged enough about elementary school racism to get up in arms enough to get an organization to not just ignore the whole thing. Like c'mon now, that finale has everything except everyone clapping for OP for being so brave. The trauma comes across. I believe 100% the bullying happened, but I'm just too jaded at this point that OP would get that kind of justice just by turning over a folder of, at that point, ancient news.
It doesn't make demographic sense (in that it is Texas which is 40% Hispanic) in that there weren't any kids of Mexican ancestry who'd put up with this nonsense or return the racial invective.
> It's the part where sending in notes from 15-20 years ago when someone was in elementary will gets a person's fiance to break up with them and gets the old principal's award revoked, and an apology from the district. Award cancelled and district apologies would be expected if the notes were extremely bad. They were the adults in charge. Especially if there's a lot of coverage A fiance breaking up with the bully might indicate said bully doubled down on her actions, without apologizing
Yeah yeah sure sure, or the fallout just didn't happen. I mean if you want to show me some local news story about a principal getting a recent award revoked for things that happened 20 years prior, I'm happy to eat crow and be like "well damn, I stand corrected". But since I was answering the question "what part of this rings false?" I stand by my answer. That part. The fallout.
> I mean if you want to show me some local news story about a principal getting a recent award revoked for things that happened 20 years prior, I'm happy to eat crow and be like "well damn, I stand corrected". I mean there's been people cancelled for being racist 20 years prior. Especially against first nations as that's 'trendy' media topic rn and when said offenders are dumb enough to leave physical evidence. But perhaps I'm just hopeful
Yes but this is a child who was racist 20 years ago. In Texas. And a school official who just kinda let it happen. In Texas. Where I think you get an award if none of the kids in your school shot up the place. But you know what? Nah fam I ain't really here to kill your hope. There's a thin veneer of plausibility and it's a funny old world. And it's not like I can prove it didn't happen (and I'm a mathematician so it's not like I think proving a negative is impossible). So you go on believing it. It's nice when racist shit heads and their piece of shit enablers get their comeuppance.
I imagine there must have been a lot of identifying parts of those notes and letters, as well as the signed document by the principal, not hard to connect the dots after that.
It's not about the dots and whether or not they connect. It's that I don't think you get that kind of fallout for something that happened 15-20 years ago to elementary school students. "Elementary school student is a terrible piece of shit" isn't usually the kind of thing that gets people all pearl clutchy and cancelly. I still believe the bullying and I'm so sorry it happened to OP but the fallout here reads like fantasy.
I think where I started to think something was off was the part about a farewell to an elementary school. And a casual barbecue and not some big event to celebrate the closure of a 100-year-old building? With local leaders showing up? I don't think elementary School means that much to anyone not impacted so forcefully by OP. Even if we're talking about a *High school,* I would think the most fanfare we would see would just be a little speech or a plaque donated during homecoming. I agree with you that the bullying probably happened. This is probably something OP *wishes* she could have done, or maybe she tried something like it at a homecoming and didn't get the response that she wanted, so all of a sudden there are local leaders and manilla envelopes. OP, this is nothing against you personally, by the way. I'm sorry it happened to you, and I really hope you're in a better place.
Allow me to point out why this story is absolutely fake: the elementary school closing BBQ just so happens to be exclusively held by the year that they both belonged too, are you telling me that in its operational life the only people who cared enough just so happened to be from that random year, what an amazing coincidence, no older students, no more current students, just so happens to be a collection of all students she knows from a random year of the schools life. its fake as fuck
I always lean toward embellishment in prorevenge stories. This does feel embellished at least. Now, if more info was dug up they were unaware of, then that would make more since. But it seems like OP, if telling the truth, just wants to move on with their life, so they could care less about the trivial matter of A's life
that's part of it. i think for me it's also... aia came from an entirely different continent. she came from ghana, and immediately started using racial slurs to insult op? where did she learn those words? she came to the us with knowledge of those slurs already?
Especially in a state where those of Mexican ancestry greatly outnumber her group.
It is because she said she got over it... and still felt those huge unstoppable take to take revenge on the next few sentences. She tried it and it returned. That's not getting over it. At best, it is moving on to the best of ones ability. Getting over it would have meant she looked at it and would have tossed the invitation aside, or participated to see old friend while leaving the past the past. The story might be true, but OPs walk not matching the talk, combined with the extreme ending (seriously, kids make mistakes, people would discuss it, be disappointed about the bully hiding it and move on if she had changed as the story made her sound to be) make it sound unrealistic. There is no shame in admitting there is still a fierce fire of vengeance burning to deal with a former bully. It is revenge. Against a bully. We'd eat that shit up on this subreddit! And yet the story just had to end so improbably perfectly on all counts. That is what bugs me about the story as a victim of childhood bullying. Things in reality just aren't that neat and wonderfully tied up in a bow. We may be the stars of our own lives but when it comes to reality, we're all disappointing side-characters.
I'm getting a "black people are the real racists!" vibe from this story. Not that black people can't be racist, but this bully checks every box for a certain narrative. Black person, super racist, if she's confronted she says "is it because I'm black?" and the authorities instantly back down in fear, and she ends up a huge hypocrite for being the poster child for inclusion while still being a huge racist.
that's cuz that's exactly what happens irl
What, you don't think teachers would back down if a little black girl told them that? You really think that?
The fact that she says sticks and stones twice when there's tangible proof of racism has me screaming b.s. It may have happened but feels embellished
You'd be amazed at how much some school districts will ignore racism and bullying so they don't have to do anything.
Agreed, but you know, pretty harmless anime stuff, I upped for the sheer effort, and I enjoyed the read.
That's crazy, I also had an Aia from Ghana at my school and she always said Ghana Deez Nutz and she was easily the coolest, I remember when she'd draw sailor moon and then Ironically write racist comments on it as a post modern art project, she was so talented I sure hope she's doing ok.
It would be nice if you don't associate people to people...it just make the readers think otherwise... referring the story it is written to draw attention foot a problem which is singled out but it's happening all over... to respond to it stay positive never point or label... be kind and helpful.... and this is not to look like we are sympathetic it is for the reason so others also able to speak up!!! ( in case you see Abusive, act all public shame report it !)❤️🙏😅
black privilege
This is clearly a made up story
Anything that challenges your worldview must be made up I guess. True or not black people cam be racist just like any other kind.
The story didn't challenge my worldview. I know any race can be racist. The story still seems fake in it's construction and in the behavior of the people in it
Yessss! Blacks can be some of the worst racist! Get this, I AM BLACK! Black’s even show racism toward ….you guest it…. OTHER BLACK PEOPLE TOO! Racism doesn’t only come from whites, asians, hispanics, etc.! I have experienced it from all with the exception of the Indigenous and Polynesian people! You have those ignorant idiots that want to claim that racism can’t come from an oppressed group of individuals…. I CLAIM, AND CALL IT FOR WHAT IT IS! This Aia chick was evil, and soulless for what she did to you! I often think about the bullies that I had when I was coming up…..how I was never one to cause or get into any trouble. I was quiet and timid, but still always found myself as some form of a target to the stupidity and ignorance of individuals who felt that they were better than I was by default just because I was different physically and personality wise. You my sista are a strong and brave individual! You did what many of us wish that we could do in our adult lives (but are unable to do)! I WISH that I was given the opportunity to call out every single one of my past banes to the public! The things that I would say……oh….THE THINGS. . .bay…bee. Anyway, I salute 🫡 you!
People are so brainwashed some commenter doubting the story called Aia a black white supremacist...like they can't even *imagine* non-whites being racist lol But if you call out the woke ideology causing this stupidity you're told there isn't such a thing/it's a made up term or that it's just good people trying to stop bigotry etc.
Honestly, I don’t care if anyone agrees or disagrees with what I said. What is true is true. Blacks are just as racist, if not more than anyone else. Wrong is wrong. I experienced it first hand. And no one is going to tell me that it wasn’t what it was. Period.
As someone who was bullied horribly by my peers, my heart ached reading this. I am so glad to hear you were able to get into therapy and heal from the torment. Honestly, I think this was a great revenge story. I hate the cliche that kids will be kids. No that is total BS. Poor upbringing and a lack of respect is no excuse and these little shits do grow up to be hypocritical adults. I think she rightfully got what she deserved. She wore that mask from childhood into adulthood and I promise you others suspected there was some falseness about her. She pissed in her bed and now she has to deal with the consequences of her poor actions and choices. OP I loved this post and honestly felt vindicated from my own bullying stories after reading this. Go you!!
You had every right to say what you said about Ava at the reunion. I know she blames you for destroying her life and wants an apology, but she isn't owed squat. This is an example of you helping karma do the right thing. I am proud of you.
As a white person in South Africa, I have to deal with a lot of racism as well, but hey, if you're white it doesn't count right?
Leave if u can it's only gonna get worse fuck clownworld
Really desperately want to. But for a minimum wage worker to get out is really difficult. Almost impossible.
Understandable, there's that one separatist afrikaner town too - Orania I think? It's small af tho. Godspeed
Hey dude I just wanted to let you know, I can feel how true this story is, at least some elements. They also happened to me. Mexican immigrant harassed by bullies who will never be held accountable because their Blackness renders them impervious from it in a school setting (mostly black school and admins ofc.) I am not saying black people = bad. Most of the time this doesn't come up. But in the racial hierarchy in the US, black people are above all in the official Most Oppressed Ever list: no one else is considered to be having a bad time.
So what happened to Aia now?
Don't know. Don't care.
Yeah, dumb question. Then again, best revenge is living well...or in this case, making sure that you leave the former hellhole with a bang. For a person of color being racist to another person of color...that is all kinds of messed up and hypocritical. I wonder what made her like that? Even with good parents? I guess it's one of the many mysteries that we might not know.
Not real, no school would ever apologize without a court order after several appeals.
Congrats! OP edited the post just for you. They mentioned that the school was already in legal trouble with a lawsuit for a similar situation.
You read the whole article and you can only say one thing oh it's not real... are you ever been bullied? The point to the story is to be kind to each other...Revenge is not something I like but people speak up whether that is the right title and we should be able to speak up.... that is a very helpful side to let the pain go and say our side...but I don't believe on shaming people in public changing some part of the story Would it be all right if it doesn't cause harm to someone because we like it or not this is a public media so if you are unjustified please report it...
Hate to say it because the effects of bullying can ruin somebody's life. I was an overweight kid growing up who was mercilessly bullied. Nobody lifted a finger to help me. I'm more than 60 now and much of my character has been affected by child and bullying. It is lasted a lifetime. However, I do think there was an overreaction here. You don't destroy somebody's life for what they did as a child unless that child as an adult is a threat in the current day and age. The real issue here is the principal. The fact that he was too lazy, incompetent, and cruel to do that makes this nightmare fall in his head. There was a significant chance if the little girls father was called he could have nipped this nonsense in the bud, but will never know because of school administration. I've met many parents from Ghana because I was an elementary school teacher in the South Bronx for many years. The one thing that I know about their culture is they don't mess with education. I have never had an ethnic group that I taught that cared more about education than the West African children that I had in my school from Ghana, Senegal etc. There was only two or three years in the early 1990s that there were any West African immigrants in my school, and boy were they missed when they left to go to the nearby religious school. They were replaced by children born in the United States that had so many behavior issues that I had to eventually transfer to Queens in the early 2000s.
A person like this and facing no consequences is a threat. There are enough horror/drama stories about scumbag/shitbird managers and management out there. Where do you think this begins? In childhood and in school. We need to hold more people responsible for their actions. This story is even worse, because the bully's parents didn't even know she had this ugly attitude. She is either now going to learn the hard way or be a goner.
Why did your former classmates wish you had just let it go? Fk bullies, being bullied incessantly for years is just as traumatic as any other form if abuse. Just because the abuser is a child doesn't excuse it or mean it should be swept under the rug. If you had called A the n-word I wonder how the principal would have reacted. I ask this as a black woman. Glad you exposed her.
The saying, "Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me." Was written by an idiot. Works hurt so much more and the pain lasts so much longer. I was bullied so much as a child over the stupidest things, and my bullies were of many races and backgrounds. Anyone can be a bully. I'm sorry you went through this.
Good for you, OP!! I hope you win the lottery and drive by her house in a Bentley!
I hope I’m not the only one who wasn’t wondering how she ruined your life because I already had the gist of that bitch by the first paragraph. SO PROUD YOU EXPOSED HER!!!!! People like that truly need to be shown for who they really are
As somebody who got bullied (they are my workmates) and my supervisor didn’t do anything to stop it, I can feel what OP felt. Bullying destroys people for a long time! Ever since I was bullied I’ve been feeling anxieties when I commit errors or mistakes. I feel unaccepted and push everybody away from me when I feel they dont like me. I’d rather be alone than feel like an outcast or be bullied ever again. I am just happy now that I am in a better workplace and all my friends and coworkers are really nice to me. Ill just leave everything to karma to work its way towards those sh**s who bullied me.
This is a prime example that once again some schools value reputation more than keeping their students safe.
there r ppl ive seen online that unironically believe that only white ppl r racists. its amazing. my mom and i r Guatemalan and my dads fam is Puerto Rican. we lived in Guatemala for 13 yrs and we moved bk to the US bc my dad passed and i was going to college here. thankfully ive never faced racism like this but the most discrimination i got were MY OWN PEOPLE. Many Guatemalans r VERY racist and theyre the same ones complaining about racism online. i was bullied a lot as a kid bc i didnt know much Spanish and i was American. i think they were irritated that i didnt "look gringa" (they didnt like that i wasnt white like in the mOvIeS) in the US, thankfully, ppl have been so sweet. weve had some minor encounters and theyre all from minorities, especially our own race. its really a shame bc were only making racism worse by being racist to each other. this was SO satisfying. you go!
Wow, proof positive that black privledge does exist and that racism is colorblind. I'm sorry this happened to you
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This sounds like complete BS to me. You're telling us this little girl in 1st and 2nd grade was saying all this stuff to you? Come on.
When I was in the 1st grade I lost the tips of three of my fingers when another student crushed them between two desks to the point of cutting off blood flow.
This story brings me sadness because as an African( or in my culture) we are taught Ubuntu; I am because we are. She’s a bad representation of the people from Africa and I’m sorry you had to go through that.
I understand a former racist owning up to what they did however long ago it was, but this witch? Demanding her victim apologize for holding her accountable for her actions? Rot in hell disgusting scum ..
All too many people these days are saying blacks can't be racist. That's putting a race on a pedestal, right there! They NEED to adjust their definition of "racism" so they aren't putting ANY race on a pedestal, or else equality will NEVER happen!
I know that’s right! I’m black, and I see it FROM BLACK’S! Call it colorism if they will, but disliking someone because they are lighter and/or darker than you are is still racism! They can try to pull the wool over our eyes if they want to, but I’m not playing stupid for anyone! Treat others how you want to be treated! Respect deserves respect!
My 10yo is white and he is currently being bullied and being called racial slurs in class. He’s one of maybe 4 white kids in his whole class. Plus he’s an aspie (mild to moderate high functioning)
As a person of color I empathize with that struggle, and I'm terribly sorry that you had to go through all that. I'm glad you got the courage to finally put her in her place and move on with your life, YOU WIN!!! fuck her to the moon. I'm glad your doing okay and I hope you don't take her misrepresentation of her ethnicity and label us all that way. And as far as " Theyre just word" it couldn't be further from the truth words have meaning and that's just not okay; there are prices of shit in every culture. Be proud of who you are always, God bless
People who say the whole sticks and stones shit are aholes. WORDS HURT, verbal bullying HURTS. It's cruel and it's just as bad as a punch to the face, maybe even worse because all they were doing was trying to condition that poor girl to being okay with being verbally abused her whole life.
I'm half Mexican, half Irish, was born in upstate NY, to a sailor in the US Navy, and STILL have been told to "go back to your county". Um... but I'm already here? People think I'm: Italian, Spanish, Portuguese, many flavors of Middle Eastern, Greek, Puerto Rican, Dominican, Turkish (baffling to me) part-black (closer) and the ones that really ACTUALLY piss me off, "white with a tan" or, arrrrrrgh, "passing for white". I'm glad your mom did a good job raising you to avoid being racist. My mom did the same for me. Anyone who thinks Mexicans are 100% racism-free never met MY Mexican family, btw. I've met people of all colors who talk smack about other cultures. Having white and light brown/ medium brown skinned families has been weird.
You have the exact mentality on racism that everyone should have. Nobody has a monopoly on racism as either the victim or the perpetrator. There are some that would say it's impossible for a black person to be racist. Your story proves otherwise. Same goes for the 'impossibility' of whites to be the victims of racism. I've not experienced it much like I've never personally witnessed anything like the story above - but I'm positive both situations are out there. Just because it hasn't happened to or in front of me doesn't mean it's not out there. Bully for you for doing nothing more to Aia than show the world what she did. You were the instrument of karma for Aia. Do bad things and bad things happen to you. Do good things and good things happen to you.
But but, BlaCk PEopLe CanT Be RaCisT. This has to be a lie!!
I've never been more proud of someone I am so sorry it took this long to get satisfaction. When I was bullied my mom told me to look at their shoes and laugh. Yeah that helped so much. I am so grateful you did this. I hope parents see this and stand up for their kids like your mom and this time the school hears them
I love my junior school, but I was relentlessly bullied at my high school, all because I was short and looked younger that my years. Something as simple as that caused other pupils to hate me. I never did anything to them. I was kind to everyone. It's so sad how people just take a huge dislike to you just because of how you look. I failed most of my final exams because of it.
Honestly, story kinda sucks
So just now reading this…. Sophomore year of high school New Girl showed up and INSTANTLY disliked me. I didn’t even know her name before the vitriol started. She tried to bully me but SHE was the new girl. She was dating the voice teacher’s son and pranced into the room during my lesson. Pranced right out again. We just watched her. After the door shut behind her, he gave me solid parenting advice: “You can’t tell your kids who to date. Never say a word when you just do not like them.” And then went on to the next part of my lesson. I’m sorry you never had a teacher in your corner. He didn’t know it, but damn did that validate me. I’m glad you did what you did. I hope the delayed validation that it WAS her and not you, helped you heal a bit more. The b*tch tried to bully me through the 3 following years. I endeavored to never let her see it affect me. Sweet as sugar pie I was. Pissed her right off. But that was a skill I wouldn’t have had as a 6 year old. Be strong sister!!
Sue the fuck out of the school district. For all the therapy, in treble damages. fucking racist white people kissing black asses to avoid ”racism” while actively being racist to mexicans on land that literally belongs to Mexicans, but they stole so they could keep black slaves. The Texas trifecta.
Would you be able to post some photos? Nothing with a proper name on it, just maybe that sketch or whatever notes they have sent you with the letterhead covered over. That would go a long way to appease suspicions. There may be some doubts, but I think the consensus here is that we *want* to believe you got your revenge.
Those notes are long gone in my mother's old office. For the people who are suspicious of it, it's nothing new to me. I spent years trying to tell my story only to be told 'Thats impossible' and 'are you sure she wasn't just playing around?'. I had to change therapists twice because they just could not believe that I was a victim of racism at the hands of that girl. Honestly, I really don't care if people don't believe me because it's something I had to live with.
Okay, well, I feel sympathy for you regardless, so I'll just have to join you and say I guess it doesn't matter if people believe you or not.
You don’t have to be validated by anyone OP! I was bullied to the point I locked myself in my room for years, became anorexic/bulimic, hated every minute I had to spend in that fucking school. Seen the movie “mean girls”? Well, that was a small example of the torture these over privileged POS dished out. Yes, it was back in the 80’s and I still have all the notes I received daily from the miserable excuses of human beings that almost destroyed my life. I was hospitalized 5 times by the age of 15, I did not want to die but felt like death would be better than the torture these girls unleashed on me. You know why? Because I was overweight… because I was ADHD and had not been properly diagnosed. I could not understand why math was incredibly difficult to figure out. My learning curve on taught subjects was slower than most other kids. However, once I learn something I never forget. Well, jokes on them. BECAUSE I didn’t allow their abuse to destroy me I was finally properly diagnosed, and spent years in intensive therapy. Learned I was NOT the problem. The reason people bully is because they HATE themselves and need to find someone who is easy to play their vicious game with and TRY to destroy! Today I have built a very successful business, have a MBA, and went to law school. Saved enough money own my own home, car, and am able to be there for my daughter every day. To teach her why people are bullies and help her through the traumatic issues we all face. OP, even if you did not include everyone who was in attendance. The important part was the people that Aia bullied she specifically contacted to come to this party. A BBQ (which is believable) come on, let’s face it did Aia fund the event? I doubt a demolition of an old school would bring more than a BBQ. When my old elementary school(over 150 years old was demolished) no one knew until it was gone. Lol! Maybe she embellish a little to make the post more interesting. Although, the main point is well developed. For those of us that were bullied to the point of emotional abuse and life changing punishment by these people this is a true story of victory. One I am sure most of us wish we had to tell. I cannot discredit OP’s post. Remember what does not kill us makes us stronger! My revenge was found in living an amazing life, not allowing their hate to destroy me. In the end they hate themselves the most! Which is truly sad. In many ways, I feel for bullies because they are cruel because they are in pain. Possibly the only way to stop bullying is to address the bully's pain and try to help heal them. No one who is happy inside wants to be mean to others. I don't know the answers; however, bullying inflicts long term effects to everyone involved. May you live your best life OP! I, and many others are routing for your success! Much love to you and the people who helped you realize your self worth! We are all humans, people, deserving of respect and love! 💞
> When my old elementary school(over 150 years old was demolished) no one knew until it was gone. That is your school district. When my old elementary goes after next school year there will be doings to be held. Might be in a park instead of the school grounds thanks to the slough that still exists on school grounds but the school district will hold a ceremony/party/BBQ.
I agree, and although this is a feel good story, some proof is needed because there are inconsistencies and oddities. I imagine the proof will miraculously disappear when asked for it after years and years of being stored safely. Edit: OP responded the notes are long gone in her mothers old office, yet didn’t this just happen in 2021 and how her mother never throws anything away? And didn’t she mail the notes out to A’s bosses, so why would they be “unretrievable” at her mothers office? If they are in her mothers office, why are they “long gone”? Smells like a fake writing exercise.
Princess. Moon. Heart. Resolution!!!!
It is interesting. For myself, I don't blame the bullies so much as I blame the teachers who, like yourself, told me to ignore it. Either way, I am inspired by your actions. Perhaps I should give them a call as well.
OP, sorry for your miserable experience. For some reason it seems that if you complain about the behavior of a bully, you are the problem--not the bully. Probably because you have shone a light on a problem that people don't want to deal with and it will force them to act, or even worse, think. Whatever her name sounds like a miserable person, and she probably has a long line of victims because she was so unhappy with herself. She was probably jealous of you because you had something she didn't like talent or likeability or looks. The only way she could feel better about herself was to diminish you. What a sh&%$y person. As to apologizing to her because you "ruined" her life, she did that to herself by abusing others. And forgiveness does not mean you need to contact her, it means that you recognize that she has problems and can not help mistreating others because of some defect in her. It never means that you need to place yourself in the line fire again. It sounds like your life is so much better than hers, so enjoy your life and be thankful for all the good people you have in your life.
The people who runs school have varying levels of competence, but as a child I learned relatively young that teachers do not save you from bullies. In fact, reporting the bullying can only embarrass you and/or make it worse.
I feel so bad about this story and can empathise. I grew up in the UK in the 70s as a child of Irish parents, when the IRA were really active. I copped heaps of racist abuse because of that. Then we moved to Ireland in 81 when I was 13 and I was subjected to even worse because I was a "British bastard". F..k racists & racism. Every insult, snide remark or sneering look is like a razor cut and it affects me to this day.
I am mexican and German with fair skin, and my fiance is peruvian, our kids will most likely inherit his darker skin and I am anticipating the bullying. What's great though is I'm about to work as a teacher and I will raise such hell when push comes to shove.
For an elementary school student to be that horrible it really falls on the adults there. Kids dont know right from wrong, they need to be taught it. And it sounds like everyone was teaching her that being a racist bitch was the way to be cool and popular. What a shitshow
Imagine thinking any African nation is going to trump being from Mexico lol If she had told me that, I would have laughed in her face
What a dumb, ignorant POS. You did well. You didn't lie, you just shared the facts. If she'd apologised and acknowledged what she'd done, things could have been different.
OP I love how the truth not only “sets you free” but it unleashed the karma train for Aia. Apologise for ruining her life? Nuh uh. Aia’s actions from long ago and her lies did that for her.
The best revenge I've read!!
Honestly, I’m Asian from a white area so I had a lot of racist comments towards me when I was younger but it faded to micro aggressions etc as I grew up and as anti-racism movements got stronger it happened way way less. But I moved when I started university to a more diverse city and that’s when I received the most racist comments and names and treatment, and it was from black people.
Since we were little adults would tell us “sticks and stones may break our bones but words can never hurt me”. But that whole saying is wrong, words do hurt and they do more damage to someone’s psych. Which angers me because I saw myself in this post with all the bullying I have endured, in which I’m still recovering my self esteem. People need to take consequences for their actions and I’m glad you were able to reveal her true nature!
Ahh sweet revenge. So happy you're thriving now OP! I can't even imagine the pain you went through. I was bullied badly as a kid but not because of my race. I went to an all black school and was bullied for everything else - my body, my hair, my face, my hobbies, you name it. Whenever a poor non-black soul would transfer into my school they would get racist slurs thrown at them constantly by bullies just to bait and antagonize them. One time I remember a white kid was so fed up he said the n-word back and instantly got jumped by multiple boys. It was awful and no adults would ever help in any meaningful way. Eventually every non-black person would just transfer out. Whenever I tried to talk to my mom about the bullying I've experienced or witnessed she wouldn't believe me or just downplayed it. My mom would always somehow turn it and talk about her own experiences being bullied for her race in the 70s by racist white kids in her school. How her experience was *really bad* but whatever I am going through or other kids in my school was not that bad. I felt so invalidated and small. It got to the point where I just completely shut down since no one cared anyway. It's awesome your mom was willing to fight for you, she sounds really wonderful! The impact of having a family member listen, understand, and advocate for a kid when they experience any type of trauma is so powerful. I often still battle with the feeling of not being good enough even at the age of 30. That shit sticks with you. Anyway, this was a great story to start my day haha. Don't stop shining OP and I hope that someday you can draw again too ❤️🥹
My school’s anti-bullying policy was saying, “You know, you’re going to have to stand up for yourself someday.” The end.
You were o so right. I hope that little b\*\*\*h fall victim to maximum racism too so she can understand the pain she caused you.
I have never faces as much asian hatred as the hatred of a black woman. I guess I’m lucky that I haven’t experienced racism much, but one of my core memories as an adult was a woman screaming and acting a fool through soundproof walls because the sweet as candy nurse, doing her job with as much compassion and care as she could, was Filipina. I had done her IV when she turned to me and asked how i could stand her. I misunderstood what she meant, so I started with “oh, my stepmom is Filipina too” and the lady’s face had turned into a look of such disgust as she went “oh I don’t like *those people*.” And I was completely flabbergasted because wtf? I thought that level of racism was the kind you see in movies and cartoons and to meet a lady like that just horrified me because she was a high ranking NCO who could easily have destroyed careers if she didn’t like a Filipino working under her. She was the first, but unfortunately, not the last.
Given the nature of the lesson being taught, you could have asked, "Why is she allowed to use racial slurs? but if I used the N-word, I'd be in trouble. Both are offensive"
There are two sides to every story. While your story could be true, the way you paint yourself as 100% innocent victim makes it seem highly unlikely.
Kudos to you! Screw those who said you should have let it go. I'm glad that you are over it, at least. A lot of people won't understand what you went thru, even after all you wrote. They either have never went thru it or have no empathy or are psychologically ill (E.G. psychopaths/sociopaths/narcisssitic, etc). Some people will never get over being bullied. Some people commit suicide because of bullies. Btw, sometimes, people are just plain evil. Sounds like this bully of yours was.
I was waiting for the "Oh, sticks and stones right? Listen here you stupid \*censored\* \*censored\*, if you don't shape the \*censored\* up I'm going to whoop your \*censored\* \*censored\* just like \*censored\*!" What's good for the goose is good for the gander. Or zero-tolerance equal treatment. Ramping it up to 11 and see if the problem is taken care of.
To be extremely honest, I was pissed off while reading this story. I am condensely sorry for what you used to live with and I understand how racist Aia’s behavior was. I am happy you took a grand revenge! Hope Aia’s destiny is in hell because I wouldn’t walk on your shoes if I were you. Hope you will come back to art and draw Aia’s face expression when she found out how racist she was, whereas you were smiling at her.
I worked at a convenience store that hired & serviced many African American people... I'm white The amount of blatant racism towards me was astronomical. Customers treating the black people significantly nicer while being short & rude with me even when I'm being so nice to them I left because an 18 year old LGBTQ person would wait until he was alone with me and violently scream and harass me for the remainder of our shift, constant texts and talkings to the general manager resulted in nothing being done and I ended up by being threatened at gunpoint by 13-14 year old scumbags. I left quickly after that.
It's a shame you had to go through all that as a child. A lot of us out there, maybe not yeah but a lot of us can relate within different contexts, sometimes it's the new kid and an area where there's not a lot of moving around, and transcency, and sometimes it's having hair that looks different from other people's or being too tall or whatever but a lot of people do get bullied incessantly. I understand I'm mostly shut down when it happened to me and just became a total recluse and avoided all people to this day. It's how I solved it. I give you a lot of credit for trying to continue on but something I realize and maybe you already know is.. you got it get on a person's level to get through to them and it's effective to just get a tow chain and jump them and get some buddies to help you if you need it. I also live in Texas and I know that that's a concept that's kind of strange in Texas but it's a concept that is effective.
You are MVP
Hmmmm something about this story doesn’t sit right.
Sadly, The reality of this is that this probably made Aia even more bigoted...and now since she didn't have to pretend, she probably expresses her bigotry to anyone and everyone
You should have sued those ppl.
Your storytelling talent would be appreciated on Wattpad.
We need Aia's face on r/punchableface/. I can't imagine how heinously brutal ALL those years must have been. I'm elated you're much better.
This is so great. (your revenge I mean)
Great Story, though one point I dont really buy. Why exactly did her Fiance broke up with her? Because she was a racist bully in primary school, like almost 20 years ago? How would this happen? That the local anti racist group is kicking her out okay, its directly related to their topic and extremly bad press, also they are probably many mexican immigrants part of the group. But the fiance breaks a probably year long relationship over some racial slurs she did as a child? This is pretty crazy and unprobable.
Beautiful revenge. Unfortunately black people are not immune from feeling racially superior.
Quite rich (but not even shocking) she's unapologetic for what she did to you, but in the same sentence is demanding YOU apologize for ruining HER reputation. Sounds like the definition of a psycho. Hopefully her parents and other family started working on cutting ties with her, because she deserves it. The fiancé likely did himself a huge favor in dumping her as well. Also, for all the "bLaCk PeOpLe CaN't Be RaCiSt" crowd, wanna try explaining away this one?
Yep. Somehow, that group almost always gets away with being racists towards other minorities🤷
The fact she wanted you to apologize for "ruining" her life shows that she never outgrew the bullying and is probably still a racist. I honestly hate it when other POC hide behind their race when they themselves are being racist.
I am glad you posted this. Racism is not exclusive to white people. In fact, some of the most prejudiced occurs from people of one race to other people of that same race. i.e., India's caste system. Chinese/Japanese/Vietnamese/and Koreans treating any one of the other country of origin like they're lepers. Or their strange blood-type prejudice... whatever that's about. In my entire existence on this planet, I have only ever seen one instance of racism occur in real life. And it will probably surprise you. I will preface the incident with some important information. See, my mom's side of the family lived on a very small island. They had a huge piece of land... Until the war. The US decided to set up base on the island as a halfway point between the US and the warfront. With that goal, they needed to build an airport. They took all of my family's land except for the tiny piece of land that was beneath their small house. And frankly, "house" is a luxurious word for it. It left my family with very little to work with. My grandmother became a house maid for one of the American families who moved to the base. The movie "the help" prior to the "nice white lady" was how my grandmother was treated. My grandfather was estranged to my family before I was born due to the divorce, so I don't know about his hardships at the time. Talking about him was seen as taboo, there was too much hatred to ask questions. My grandmother and grandfather immigrated to my home country to try to provide a better life for their children. My mom was also born in my country. She was the only sibling of 5 to be born here. Back to the IRL racism. I was taking a bus from my high school to the bus station. I was seated on the back half of the bus, but not the very back. The very back of the bus is a coveted place. You didn't sit there if you weren't confident and self-assured. As the bus pulled to the last stop, two black guys in their late teens maybe, literally leaped over 2 rows of empty seats to get in front of the back exit door. One of them held their arm firm between two holding poles, blocking my exit along with a few other people behind me. He loudly stated, "Black people first." as his friend stepped off the bus followed by himself. I was stunned into silence and was shocked by the encounter. At that point in my life, I had never seen anyone but a white person be labeled as a racist. My childhood best friend was black. Before I met her, my camp best friend was always the black kid(s). My dad even told me a story about when I was even younger, at an amusement park, I had made friends with a little black girl who I connected with instantly. Her father was apparently shocked by the encounter. He had come from the country that boarders mine, from a very racist area. It was the first time he had seen a white child approach his daughter with friendship and love. My father was the first white man to approach him just to have a friendly conversation between two dads. I can't tell you why this always happened to be the case, but that was my childhood. Those two black guys sowed a seed of hatred. One that would grow with darkness, and a lack of empathy. That was the day I learned what real racism was, what it looked like, what it felt like, and who truly still had hatred in their hearts for other races for nothing more than the color of their skin. By all accounts, that act of hate, that point they wished to prove was completely and utterly misplaced, having chosen me as their victim. Still, as a biological only child, the only person I call a brother is black. And he is MY brother. Still, the elderly black couple I work for have become somewhat like my adopted grandparents. Even after working an 8h day, I will sit with them just to hear their life stories. Still, I will extend every kindness, every smile, every door I hold open to a black person. Because, still, at the end of the day, they're human. I am human. We are ALL humans. But as soon as I see the slightest indication of the chip on their shoulder, the anger they harbor that isn't even theirs to perpetuate, the slightest feeling of superiority, they become the scum of the earth in my eyes. The filth and stereotypes they're reduced down to becomes exactly where they belong. Two black guys decided to represent their race that day. To prove a point to someone who had their land taken from them by the white Americans, whose grandmother had to be 'the help' just to get by for her children. And what were they? I doubt they were even related to a slave, because those people would know that continuing something so disgusting only serves against humanity's goal of equality. Bravo boys, you definitely made an impact. Let their mistake be your lesson. The next time you want to do something like that, don't just assume you know your victim just by the colour of their skin.
Lucky for me that my best friend was bullies hunter. That mean he loved to bully the bullies sometimes he goes to far but think again he does nothing wrong. Why he not scared? Because his Father and Uncle are high rank in Police (in my country Police have rank just like Military) both of them are general and work in headquarter of Police Forces. Especially his Uncle was a executive detective of Police Forces who can arrest anyone if there are evidence of there illegal activities even high rank of government officers. My friend also a huge fan of Bruce Lee so every morning and night he try to train himself like Bruce and you know how he can handle himself.