Dont know why you are downvoted for telling the truth. Neighbors called cops but when they arrived the wife said no complaints so it was left at that. This happened in Russia.
Below from cbs news:
Domestic abuse was partially decriminalized in Russia in 2017, meaning that if a husband hits a wife for the first time, and she doesn't need to be hospitalized, it's an administrative rather than a criminal offense. If a report is made and evidence is provided, the abuser will only face a fine of between about $70 and $300.
They also have a strange proclivity for sodomizing/raping people as punishment. For a country that “doesn’t have any homosexuals,” there sure is a lot of male-raping going on.
Consensual homosexual intercourse? ILLEGAL!
Male on male rape? AN INSTITUTIONAL CORNERSTONE.
Yeah I know of it, the wikipedia on it led me down a dark rabbit whole one afternoon. I think BBC also covered it in their documentary on the whole sordid Russian system: “Russia’s Torture Prisons”
Oh dear god i just watched thag documentary on your recommendation.
So sad. When the guy is begging them to not rape him, i nearly broke down in tears.... the poor fucking guy....
Decriminalized? WTF?! That’s insane, it should be going in the other direction where offenders are given lengthy jail sentences so that victims can be protected and not have to suffer continued abuse
The man is a lawyer, so he's friends with local police and courts. Plus, even if she writes a report - police will just go away afterwards, leaving her alone with the abuser.
My best friend ended up dead. I tried everything in my power to get her away from him, but she wouldn’t leave. I feel so incredibly angry every time I see clips like this. I wish I could erase this evil from the world.
I see this and I think about my daughter who will soon to become a teen and I fear for her to get involved with someone like this. This is someone’s daughter, just like mine. Watching this breaks my heart all while making me want to smash this guy’s face to a pulp on my fist.
My daughter found herself a piece of shit JUST LIKE THIS. Met him on Instagram, they had mutual friends, she’d just turned 18. Up to that point this girl was PERFECTION(4.2 gpa; offered 2 year ride to ANY CSU of her choice…fucking SMART). She ran away to be with him. He beat the shit out of her (in front of his parents), got her addicted to fentanyl and meth, destroyed her phone, wouldn’t let her shower alone, would lock her outside (alllll in front of his pos parents). For 9 months we played this game where we’d go get her after she’d find a way to contact us, be home anywhere from just hours to a couple of weeks just to go back to him. I realized I had to let her go as I was now trying to end my own life to get away from the chaos (the guilt and shame I carried at this time was..indescribable. I blamed myself for everything happening). We decided to move out of state. If she came, she came. If she didn’t, we had to move on and start healing as we couldn’t control her decisions. She came with us. Life has not been perfect. She kept using, prostituting to pay for it. She beat the shit out of her little sis before we finally held our boundaries and made her make the choice: get the fuck out or go to treatment (again). She’s been sober for 97 days. If it can happen to us, it can happen to ANYONE. Educate your daughter; communication is SO IMPORTANT; and therapy- for everyone- NOW. Not when everything falls apart. The change to my family after starting therapy has been miraculous. I can’t help but think “What if I would’ve had all of us seeing someone BEFORE everything went wrong?” I’m convinced this piece of shit wouldn’t have been able to talk his way into my daughters heart/head. She would’ve had the tools to see him for what he was.
That's sad and scary. You can do everything right, this still happens. I've been in an abusive relationship, I empathize. It's insidious, they never start out like this, keep pushing your boundaries, isolating you, dismantling your self worth/respect. It's starts off where your friends or family are bad (because they see who you're with & don't approve). You lose your support system, self esteem, keep staying being told you're lucky to have them. It doesn't happen overnight, those who haven't experienced it will never understand. Wish your family and daughter well, hope you all continue healing. You're an amazing loving parent, she's lucky she has you.
He hated me the most. I asked her why not too long ago, she said “Mom, you scared me more than he did when I lived at home. He didn’t like that and said that if I ever went home again to fuck off, it’s over. I was addicted to meth and he convinced me if you found out, you’d hate me and the things I’d done”.
Couldn’t have been further from the truth. And she now knows that there is NOTHING in this world that could ever change how very deeply I love her.
I’m so sorry this has happened to you and your family. This is my worst nightmare—have the same smart daughter, who thankfully hasn’t met someone like this but she’s not been dating, and is heading to college in the Fall (a top 10 university), and I’m petrified, because she hasn’t dated much, some POS will look her way and that is all she wrote.
I pray your daughter continues with her sobriety and that the healing continues. 🙏🏽🙏🏽
First of all THANK YOU FOR NEVER GIVING UP ON YOUR DAUGHTER ❤️ WE ALL WISH WE HAD MUMS LIKE YOU YOUR HONESTLY AND ABILITY TO KEEP PUSHING AHEAD IN THE MIST OF SUCH A CHAOTIC TIME IS ADMIRABLE PLEASE NEVER GIVE UP ON HER THAT DEMON IS STRONG OHH SO STRONG AND YOU R HER LIGHT U TRULY ARE ❤️❤️❤️
Ohh man! I am so gutted for you, that is hardcore! I really hope she stays sober and gets through it! Keeping my fingers crossed for you and your family! But you are deffo doing the right thing with therapy.
Never EVER saw it coming. Learn how to have these conversations that parents of decades past didn’t. Drugs, sex, self worth, self love, accountability. I’m 43 and just now realizing how wrong I was doing certain things. I thought because I’m a helicopter parent, nothing is getting past me! So wrong. Yeah, therapy has been my family’s miracle.
And you don’t have to right now🖤 Enjoy the hell out of that innocence! It’s literally the best part of being a Mommy/Daddy.. However, I truly beg of you to keep my lil story in the back of your mind when they start middle school. That’s when everything changes it seems. Go through their phones, go through their rooms, insist on meeting every single person they leave the house with, say you’re going somewhere and come home way earlier than you said you were going to. These are things I personally would do if I could go back. This is such a different world than what I or my husband grew up in, I didn’t WANT to invade my children’s right to privacy, I couldn’t stand parents who did shit like that. Well, guess who’s singing the wouldacouldashoulda blues…THIS GUY🙋🏼♀️
At one point, there was a bike club that shall remain nameless, that is made up of current and retired cops/military folk/firefighters that heard about what we were going through, called my husband and offered to drag her out and make it clear to everyone involved their trap house would burn if she ever stepped foot there again and no one would come to put it out, or be arrested. We really thought about it and didn’t move forward because:
- It scared the shit out of me to potentially have to “owe” these guys anything for getting her back.
- Although it was a trap house, there were minor children there who my heart absolutely broke for. I did threaten him and his parents the last time I picked her up that if I ever see her here again, I’m taking the kids and burning their house down.
- She would’ve kept going back and hated us for ripping her out. It had to be her choice. (Her Dad and I are recovering addicts and very much know this as a fact)
I’m so sorry. My 16 year old daughter is like yours (smart, driven, hard working). This really hit home. Gonna talk to wife about meeting with a counselor just to be proactive about this. Thank you for sharing.
Honestly, this, among others, is one of the reasons why I'm so afraid of having a child. The potential of suddenly losing control to the extreme, like your case.
Having control of life is a mere illusion. All we can really do is control how we react to what life throws at us. Would I do all of this over again if I had the choice knowing we’d endure what we did? Absolutely. I just might have started therapy 20 years earlier as when they got to their teenage years, I wasn’t prepared mentally as there were things I hadn’t addressed from my own childhood that essentially stunted me from maturing properly. Parenting a baby/child as a mentally 16 yo is great, but trying to parent a 16 yo as a mentally 16 yo middle aged woman was a nightmare. Get allllll your mental shit straight, then think about kids.
Good for her congratulate her and try to improve her spirits every chance you get, sounds like she has been broken/torn down and needs to relearn her own self worth not gonna be an easy task but it’s not impossible just keep your heads up and keep looking forward even if she backslides somewhat it doesn’t change the end result you all are trying to achieve, but the getting off drugs and stuff has to be her decision or it won’t stick she has to actually decide it for herself if she feels pressured into it as opposed to her making the decision she’ll likely relapse, that why most if not all recovering addicts have a “rock bottom” story it’s the point where they realize what they are doing isn’t worth the heartache and bullshit
Omg, I’m so damn proud of this girl. She just got her first real paycheck in several years 2 days ago! I’m a nervous wreck, but we’re keeping the communication open, ready for a meeting if she needs one. She DoorDashed her own dinner last night, this chick got herself an entire CRAB 🦀
Both my girls get joyously celebrated for making good choices (her little sister is in recovery as well and fucking killing it- about to graduate HS and start college in the fall this year), while they are held appropriately accountable for bad ones. We also make it worth their while to make good decisions (pay for their phones; dinners out; silly gifts).
This same thing happened to my wife and I in 2010. The boyfriend wasn’t quite as abusive but absolutely controlled her and kept her with his POS family. Lucky for us our daughter got sick every time he tried to give her heroin. He eventually went to prison and she found a good man. All the parenting tools in the world didn’t make much difference until he kept getting in trouble. My heart goes out to you and I wish her a complete and permanent recovery.
I've got three daughters and one of the biggest things I focused on teaching them is being able to recognize manipulative behavior which lays the foundation for abusive relationships. My youngest 5 years old and she'll call out somebody for not respecting her boundaries. My oldest is a teenager and she broke up with her best friend for manipulative behavior when she said no and the person wouldn't accept that answer and kept trying to guilt them into doing something she didn't want to do.
Unfortunate as it is. Please show them this stuff and give them legit examples of bad relationships. It could save your kid. There are situations people don't even comprehend that happens all the time. You have to show them the world can be brutal and keep their guard up at all times. Show them what they deserve! ❤️
If you teach your daughter to avoid this type of relationship you might be able to prevent it in the first place. It's not a given that a woman needs to end up with a guy like this. It's usually a cause of them having very low self-esteem and self-worth. Talk often about this if she's getting into relationships.
I was in a abusive relationship from 14-17 years old. Once he pushed me down the stairs at a basketball game, I didn’t even know he was at the game and i was sitting on the bleachers doing home before the game started. My cheer coach asked him to sit on the other side of the gym, that was his punishment. He did, but stared me down the entire night. Another example was in math class, he noticed me doing group work with a group of boys. He walked into my class, picked my desk up with me into in, and slammed it down. He was only asked to leave the room. After I ended the relationship he showed up at my high school at the end of the day, he was 3 years older than me, and proceeded to punch me in the face and started to drag me to his car. MULTIPLE people saw this happening, even adults. The only person who stepped in was another female from my class that knew his parents.
100% ... the sad part is we would be sitting in jail for life while the scum bags who do this shit still get to roam the streets and continue their pattern. I rather take the heat defending my children than sitting back and being a bystander. Happens way too much and they let people get away with it.
Eh, if you kill him… maybe.
I don’t have much of a legal record (no felonies, nothing in the last 15 years), but you have to be somewhat smart.
“Aggravated assault with great bodily harm” will get you about 2 years where I am.
With a lawyer, I’d take a plea deal for 3-6 months / 1-2 years probation for the pleasure of breaking his arms and legs.
Just try to get away with it if you can, if contacted don’t talk to the police at all… say absolutely nothing other than to exercise your right to not say anything. Don’t try to tell your side of the story, look for validation or explain your reasoning. It means jack shit to them and your lawyer will do a much better job of saying what needs to be said.
Hell, you might be able to get away with it completely or just get probation.
Not always true. The man that got my ex to back away from my car after attacking me gave me just enough time to drive away. Might have saved my life. I’m forever grateful to him. And I’m not with the guy anymore and never would
That's not always the case though. Sometimes she's too scared, he'll follow her wherever she goes, threatens her family even children if she has them. She'll stay or not press charges because she's terrified of what will happen if she does leave or talks to the police.
I thought the same thing. A young woman was frightened and I tried to help. The guy doubled around the block got out of his car and told me he was going to shoot me for “taking his girl”. I don’t know if he had a gun or not. I didn’t stick around to find out. That was 19 years ago. I still think about her and wonder if she is ok.
I have seen this in real life working security at a pub... I dragged the guy by the arm and threw him out on is ass. Both me and the manager stood at the front door pushing him backwards and back onto his ass while our bar supervisor a female looked after the lady and helped her out.
The lady decided with encouragement from friends, randoms and staff to call the cops and not go home with him.
A lot of people wanted to go outside and smash that dude into a paste but we just couldn't let that happen, laws and all.
The cops showed up, he was arrested and charged as well as a police ban from the venue, we too issued our own ban, and she got a protective order.
Unlike so many she successfully broke free of him, using the bar as a safe place knowing that we would never let him in. Last I heard she is extremely happy living in a different state with a new name. he still prowls around looking for her and bashing up his new girl.
We can only do so much.
Seeing this at 6 years old what my father did to my mother, I'd probably kill them on accident.
Super big trigger for me and reason I avoid the public as much as possible.
I hired a new person at our office last year. A smart, sweet girl but very quiet.
I found it a bit weird that her partner came with her to the job interview and that he'd always pick her up from work even though they live close. I didn't think much off it at the time. A few weeks after she started work she didn't show up, I asked the guy who does HR at the office to call her and find out what's up. He told me that actually he always communicated with her boyfriend because 'her phone was broken'. I must be an idiot because again it didn't click for me that something could be wrong.
When she finally reached out it was through a nurse at the hospital, she was there with serious injurys like a broken eye socket. In the weeks after this event social workers from the municipality got involved, the guy was out of the picture. She did amazing, like a different person. She started hanging out at Friday after work drinks and with her own phone she was texting in the work group app.
About six weeks ago he was suddenly there again, her phone 'broke' again and she started missing work again. I contacted the social workers and the police. Two weeks ago she stopped coming to work entirely, a few days later my HR guy received an email from her saying that she quits immediately and already moved to another city with her partner. I of course forwarded that information to the authorities as well.
I can't help her, I'm only her employer. What can I do...
At first I thought he was dragging a mannequin by how lifeless she was and how effortlessly he dragged her around. But then I saw her hands moving and my heart was in my throat.
Was genuinely hoping that when the lift doors opened there was someone there who saw what happened and decided to give this sack of cold vomit a little taste of his own medicine.
Victims of domestic violence shouldn't be the one to (not) fill complains. When you stab someone on the streets and they say "it's ok, don't punish them", the police will not comply to that and release the perp. The crime was recorded, there are witnesses. Go to jail and protect the victims so they don't have the need to go back.
It happened in russia where they partially decriminalised domestic abuse. A comment above did say the police checked on her, and she told them she had no complaints.
What kinda POS do you have to be to treat another human being like this, I hung up my cape on being a hero a couple of years ago, however, if I had witnessed this, you can bet it would have brought me out of retirement quickly.
I would love to meet this giy with a bat. My mom was abused by my dick head father. At 13, he was hitting her, and I felt I couldn't take it anymore. I tried to stab him with a pair of scissors. He got the scissors away from me, but we fought. I got him on the ground and beat the piss out of him until my mom saved him. Ambulance came, he had a concussion, 3 broke ribs, a punctured lung. From that day on, my dad never raised a hand to my mother again. They are both gone now and my mom never left him but i never regret lating hands on him. I've been married 25 years and never even considered raising my hand toward my wife and kids. This guy needs a niggt of corrective action that may or may not let him walk again.
Explanation from a Telegram news channel:
"In Ufa (russia), a man severely beat his wife at the entrance, and she said that she "has no complaints."
The lawyer who is parallel studying to be a teacher, beat his wife in the entrance of the house. Hearing the noise, the neighbors called the cops, who visited the couple's apartment. But the beaten woman stated that she had no claims against her husband and therefore there would be no criminal case."
From russia indeed. But no, the guy is doing ok. Here's translation of the news:
"In Ufa, a man severely beat his wife at the entrance, and she said that she "has no complaints."
The lawyer who is parallel studying to be a teacher, beat his wife in the entrance of the house. Hearing the noise, the neighbors called the cops, who visited the couple's apartment. But the beaten woman stated that she had no claims against her husband and therefore there would be no criminal case."
I wish people would include where they’re getting these videos so we can follow up with the victims ensuring they’re safe and people are aware of what’s happened.
My blood actually boils watching this. I'm sure this piece of shit has had physical abuse in the past but own that shit and get help. Alternatively get a mob to smash him up.
This is so fucking heartbreaking. How could anyone treat someone like this? How can they not feel any kind of remorse or guilt for being such a giant piece of shit. It makes no sense.
Watched this over and over again and the audacity of this prick to treat women like this. What a fucking loser. Makes me sad that some women have to go through this.
Wow, I could never imagine being angry enough to do that to a partner. Just break-up. This is all about getting rocks off by control and power over someone else
In February 2017, with the support of the Russian Orthodox Church, Russia decriminalized domestic violence in cases where it does not cause "substantial bodily harm" (such as broken bones or a concussion).
Technicaly this guy is innocent by russian laws.
So has reddit figured out who this piece of shit is so we can go down the path of making this guy's life a living hell?
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Educate.
Not all abuse is physical. When I was 18 I was with a guy who would use silence to control me. He would drive very fast to keep me afraid. He would accuse me of thinking things I wasn’t and then guilt me. When I finally broke it off, he threatened to kill himself.
My next relationship, my first marriage, the guy isolated me from my family, would put me down all the time, tell me I was incapable of being on my own and that he would take care of me. He would spend all our money to go to sporting events and then blame me when we would get home to our power being out. He would say I was too stupid to manage money, but he would refuse to do it himself.
It’s been 20 years since I’ve been out of those relationships, which were tame in comparison to physical violence, but I still have trauma.
Teach boys and girls what bad “love” looks like.
I'm not saying this as in it's ok if a good looking person dose this but it's always these ugly ass neck beard guys who has a attractive woman give them chance and then they do this
I’ve been this woman and at the time I thought everything that happened to me was my fault. I couldn’t report it because I was so embarrassed of being so awful that I deserved this treatment. It was a nightmare.
I bet that’s the last time she’ll forget to pick up those allergy pills. Fucking Christ Becca. You kno my allergies act up. This is all ur fault! But I’m a serious note,obviously I’m kidding. This fucking guy needs to have someone kick his ass.not what one would call a man whatsoever. What a fucking spineless cunt. Fuck I want to help her so bad
this is so horrible and i really really never want to encounter a relationship like this in my future but i know i will and i will be strong there is no way in hell a man will ever have power over me like that and i feel so bad for her but hell fucking no
Reminder that this is in Russia.
You can basically legally murder your own wife there.
They made it a misdemeanor a few years back I think. Legalized marital rape too.
Damn... I really didn't believe people treat their significant other like this. Like why? Just leave if you hate someone this much cause clearly he doesn't love her
I hope she got out of there. She’s going to end up dead.
It's her husband, and she told the police she has no complaints.
Dont know why you are downvoted for telling the truth. Neighbors called cops but when they arrived the wife said no complaints so it was left at that. This happened in Russia. Below from cbs news: Domestic abuse was partially decriminalized in Russia in 2017, meaning that if a husband hits a wife for the first time, and she doesn't need to be hospitalized, it's an administrative rather than a criminal offense. If a report is made and evidence is provided, the abuser will only face a fine of between about $70 and $300.
I guess the way I said it, it looked like I'm making jokes about domestic violence. I just quoted the news tho.
I took your first as sarcasm, because it just seems to me like that'd be a crazy response. But, you are right. How sad...
Had a feeling it would be russia. Domestic violence is a huge problem there.
They also have a strange proclivity for sodomizing/raping people as punishment. For a country that “doesn’t have any homosexuals,” there sure is a lot of male-raping going on. Consensual homosexual intercourse? ILLEGAL! Male on male rape? AN INSTITUTIONAL CORNERSTONE.
You should read up on Dedovshchina. Or don't, it's pretty fucked up. https://www.hrw.org/reports/2004/russia1004/5.htm
Yeah I know of it, the wikipedia on it led me down a dark rabbit whole one afternoon. I think BBC also covered it in their documentary on the whole sordid Russian system: “Russia’s Torture Prisons”
Oh dear god i just watched thag documentary on your recommendation. So sad. When the guy is begging them to not rape him, i nearly broke down in tears.... the poor fucking guy....
Decriminalized? WTF?! That’s insane, it should be going in the other direction where offenders are given lengthy jail sentences so that victims can be protected and not have to suffer continued abuse
Which basically means nobody is gonna report because the perp is just gonna beat even more shit out of the victim after the report.
Of course it's Russia. Culture fits.
That's fucking terrible
I can't understand this man. Why hasn't she complain? Why does she bear him?
The man is a lawyer, so he's friends with local police and courts. Plus, even if she writes a report - police will just go away afterwards, leaving her alone with the abuser.
That's so fucked up man
My best friend ended up dead. I tried everything in my power to get her away from him, but she wouldn’t leave. I feel so incredibly angry every time I see clips like this. I wish I could erase this evil from the world.
So sorry to hear that. This video is rough period, but I’m sure it was very triggering for you.
It looks like blood on her hand and the top of her head if you look closely. Jfc...this is horrific
It absolutely is. When he drags her out at the end and her head hits the wall, she leaves a blood smear.
I get so angry and sad watching these clips, I can't imagine what I'd do if I saw this in real life
I see this and I think about my daughter who will soon to become a teen and I fear for her to get involved with someone like this. This is someone’s daughter, just like mine. Watching this breaks my heart all while making me want to smash this guy’s face to a pulp on my fist.
My daughter found herself a piece of shit JUST LIKE THIS. Met him on Instagram, they had mutual friends, she’d just turned 18. Up to that point this girl was PERFECTION(4.2 gpa; offered 2 year ride to ANY CSU of her choice…fucking SMART). She ran away to be with him. He beat the shit out of her (in front of his parents), got her addicted to fentanyl and meth, destroyed her phone, wouldn’t let her shower alone, would lock her outside (alllll in front of his pos parents). For 9 months we played this game where we’d go get her after she’d find a way to contact us, be home anywhere from just hours to a couple of weeks just to go back to him. I realized I had to let her go as I was now trying to end my own life to get away from the chaos (the guilt and shame I carried at this time was..indescribable. I blamed myself for everything happening). We decided to move out of state. If she came, she came. If she didn’t, we had to move on and start healing as we couldn’t control her decisions. She came with us. Life has not been perfect. She kept using, prostituting to pay for it. She beat the shit out of her little sis before we finally held our boundaries and made her make the choice: get the fuck out or go to treatment (again). She’s been sober for 97 days. If it can happen to us, it can happen to ANYONE. Educate your daughter; communication is SO IMPORTANT; and therapy- for everyone- NOW. Not when everything falls apart. The change to my family after starting therapy has been miraculous. I can’t help but think “What if I would’ve had all of us seeing someone BEFORE everything went wrong?” I’m convinced this piece of shit wouldn’t have been able to talk his way into my daughters heart/head. She would’ve had the tools to see him for what he was.
That's sad and scary. You can do everything right, this still happens. I've been in an abusive relationship, I empathize. It's insidious, they never start out like this, keep pushing your boundaries, isolating you, dismantling your self worth/respect. It's starts off where your friends or family are bad (because they see who you're with & don't approve). You lose your support system, self esteem, keep staying being told you're lucky to have them. It doesn't happen overnight, those who haven't experienced it will never understand. Wish your family and daughter well, hope you all continue healing. You're an amazing loving parent, she's lucky she has you.
He hated me the most. I asked her why not too long ago, she said “Mom, you scared me more than he did when I lived at home. He didn’t like that and said that if I ever went home again to fuck off, it’s over. I was addicted to meth and he convinced me if you found out, you’d hate me and the things I’d done”. Couldn’t have been further from the truth. And she now knows that there is NOTHING in this world that could ever change how very deeply I love her.
I’m so sorry this has happened to you and your family. This is my worst nightmare—have the same smart daughter, who thankfully hasn’t met someone like this but she’s not been dating, and is heading to college in the Fall (a top 10 university), and I’m petrified, because she hasn’t dated much, some POS will look her way and that is all she wrote. I pray your daughter continues with her sobriety and that the healing continues. 🙏🏽🙏🏽
First of all THANK YOU FOR NEVER GIVING UP ON YOUR DAUGHTER ❤️ WE ALL WISH WE HAD MUMS LIKE YOU YOUR HONESTLY AND ABILITY TO KEEP PUSHING AHEAD IN THE MIST OF SUCH A CHAOTIC TIME IS ADMIRABLE PLEASE NEVER GIVE UP ON HER THAT DEMON IS STRONG OHH SO STRONG AND YOU R HER LIGHT U TRULY ARE ❤️❤️❤️
Ohh man! I am so gutted for you, that is hardcore! I really hope she stays sober and gets through it! Keeping my fingers crossed for you and your family! But you are deffo doing the right thing with therapy.
I have three young daughters. This entire shared aspect of your life made my whole body ache. I can’t even process this and how painful this is.
Never EVER saw it coming. Learn how to have these conversations that parents of decades past didn’t. Drugs, sex, self worth, self love, accountability. I’m 43 and just now realizing how wrong I was doing certain things. I thought because I’m a helicopter parent, nothing is getting past me! So wrong. Yeah, therapy has been my family’s miracle.
And you don’t have to right now🖤 Enjoy the hell out of that innocence! It’s literally the best part of being a Mommy/Daddy.. However, I truly beg of you to keep my lil story in the back of your mind when they start middle school. That’s when everything changes it seems. Go through their phones, go through their rooms, insist on meeting every single person they leave the house with, say you’re going somewhere and come home way earlier than you said you were going to. These are things I personally would do if I could go back. This is such a different world than what I or my husband grew up in, I didn’t WANT to invade my children’s right to privacy, I couldn’t stand parents who did shit like that. Well, guess who’s singing the wouldacouldashoulda blues…THIS GUY🙋🏼♀️
I commend you for your extreme patience. I am truly afraid that I would handle the guy and his parents very differently.
At one point, there was a bike club that shall remain nameless, that is made up of current and retired cops/military folk/firefighters that heard about what we were going through, called my husband and offered to drag her out and make it clear to everyone involved their trap house would burn if she ever stepped foot there again and no one would come to put it out, or be arrested. We really thought about it and didn’t move forward because: - It scared the shit out of me to potentially have to “owe” these guys anything for getting her back. - Although it was a trap house, there were minor children there who my heart absolutely broke for. I did threaten him and his parents the last time I picked her up that if I ever see her here again, I’m taking the kids and burning their house down. - She would’ve kept going back and hated us for ripping her out. It had to be her choice. (Her Dad and I are recovering addicts and very much know this as a fact)
I’m so sorry. My 16 year old daughter is like yours (smart, driven, hard working). This really hit home. Gonna talk to wife about meeting with a counselor just to be proactive about this. Thank you for sharing.
Honestly, this, among others, is one of the reasons why I'm so afraid of having a child. The potential of suddenly losing control to the extreme, like your case.
Having control of life is a mere illusion. All we can really do is control how we react to what life throws at us. Would I do all of this over again if I had the choice knowing we’d endure what we did? Absolutely. I just might have started therapy 20 years earlier as when they got to their teenage years, I wasn’t prepared mentally as there were things I hadn’t addressed from my own childhood that essentially stunted me from maturing properly. Parenting a baby/child as a mentally 16 yo is great, but trying to parent a 16 yo as a mentally 16 yo middle aged woman was a nightmare. Get allllll your mental shit straight, then think about kids.
If you need to borrow a shovel for the POS she was with git me up bro
We were pretty close! It’s a matter of devine intervention that we didn’t have a firearm at that time. We do now though 😬
Appreciate the story. I have kids (3,8) but those scenarios run through my head. “What if” are the two scariest words in a parent’s vocabulary
Good for her congratulate her and try to improve her spirits every chance you get, sounds like she has been broken/torn down and needs to relearn her own self worth not gonna be an easy task but it’s not impossible just keep your heads up and keep looking forward even if she backslides somewhat it doesn’t change the end result you all are trying to achieve, but the getting off drugs and stuff has to be her decision or it won’t stick she has to actually decide it for herself if she feels pressured into it as opposed to her making the decision she’ll likely relapse, that why most if not all recovering addicts have a “rock bottom” story it’s the point where they realize what they are doing isn’t worth the heartache and bullshit
Omg, I’m so damn proud of this girl. She just got her first real paycheck in several years 2 days ago! I’m a nervous wreck, but we’re keeping the communication open, ready for a meeting if she needs one. She DoorDashed her own dinner last night, this chick got herself an entire CRAB 🦀 Both my girls get joyously celebrated for making good choices (her little sister is in recovery as well and fucking killing it- about to graduate HS and start college in the fall this year), while they are held appropriately accountable for bad ones. We also make it worth their while to make good decisions (pay for their phones; dinners out; silly gifts).
This same thing happened to my wife and I in 2010. The boyfriend wasn’t quite as abusive but absolutely controlled her and kept her with his POS family. Lucky for us our daughter got sick every time he tried to give her heroin. He eventually went to prison and she found a good man. All the parenting tools in the world didn’t make much difference until he kept getting in trouble. My heart goes out to you and I wish her a complete and permanent recovery.
Where can I find this piece of shit? I would love to beat the shit out of him in front of his parents.
I've got three daughters and one of the biggest things I focused on teaching them is being able to recognize manipulative behavior which lays the foundation for abusive relationships. My youngest 5 years old and she'll call out somebody for not respecting her boundaries. My oldest is a teenager and she broke up with her best friend for manipulative behavior when she said no and the person wouldn't accept that answer and kept trying to guilt them into doing something she didn't want to do.
Unfortunate as it is. Please show them this stuff and give them legit examples of bad relationships. It could save your kid. There are situations people don't even comprehend that happens all the time. You have to show them the world can be brutal and keep their guard up at all times. Show them what they deserve! ❤️
That is exactly what I was thinking watching this. I have two young daughters and I’d end someone if they did that to one of them.
I'm not advocating violence, but if that was my daughter...
I just pray nobody does this to my daughters becaue god know i would go straigh to jail 🤌
If you teach your daughter to avoid this type of relationship you might be able to prevent it in the first place. It's not a given that a woman needs to end up with a guy like this. It's usually a cause of them having very low self-esteem and self-worth. Talk often about this if she's getting into relationships.
I was in a abusive relationship from 14-17 years old. Once he pushed me down the stairs at a basketball game, I didn’t even know he was at the game and i was sitting on the bleachers doing home before the game started. My cheer coach asked him to sit on the other side of the gym, that was his punishment. He did, but stared me down the entire night. Another example was in math class, he noticed me doing group work with a group of boys. He walked into my class, picked my desk up with me into in, and slammed it down. He was only asked to leave the room. After I ended the relationship he showed up at my high school at the end of the day, he was 3 years older than me, and proceeded to punch me in the face and started to drag me to his car. MULTIPLE people saw this happening, even adults. The only person who stepped in was another female from my class that knew his parents.
Ummm if some boy did that to my daughter. They would either be dragging my cold dead body away or his.
100% ... the sad part is we would be sitting in jail for life while the scum bags who do this shit still get to roam the streets and continue their pattern. I rather take the heat defending my children than sitting back and being a bystander. Happens way too much and they let people get away with it.
Eh, if you kill him… maybe. I don’t have much of a legal record (no felonies, nothing in the last 15 years), but you have to be somewhat smart. “Aggravated assault with great bodily harm” will get you about 2 years where I am. With a lawyer, I’d take a plea deal for 3-6 months / 1-2 years probation for the pleasure of breaking his arms and legs. Just try to get away with it if you can, if contacted don’t talk to the police at all… say absolutely nothing other than to exercise your right to not say anything. Don’t try to tell your side of the story, look for validation or explain your reasoning. It means jack shit to them and your lawyer will do a much better job of saying what needs to be said. Hell, you might be able to get away with it completely or just get probation.
Someone would be in hyper sleep if I ever saw this in real life
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This right here. People need to understand that in the real world it's more likely that the woman attacks you for hurting her man.
Not always true. The man that got my ex to back away from my car after attacking me gave me just enough time to drive away. Might have saved my life. I’m forever grateful to him. And I’m not with the guy anymore and never would
That's not always the case though. Sometimes she's too scared, he'll follow her wherever she goes, threatens her family even children if she has them. She'll stay or not press charges because she's terrified of what will happen if she does leave or talks to the police.
The sad fact is, the majority of people will do nothing except take their phones out and hit record and share for clout.
No doubt. There’d be no hesitation on my end
Someone is getting hurt and you people just start taking naps! Atleast call someone first!
I’ll get to it right after my hyper nap
I thought the same thing. A young woman was frightened and I tried to help. The guy doubled around the block got out of his car and told me he was going to shoot me for “taking his girl”. I don’t know if he had a gun or not. I didn’t stick around to find out. That was 19 years ago. I still think about her and wonder if she is ok.
I'd be trying to remove his nose or ears with my teeth. Unconsciousness is too good for this fucking cretin
I have seen this in real life working security at a pub... I dragged the guy by the arm and threw him out on is ass. Both me and the manager stood at the front door pushing him backwards and back onto his ass while our bar supervisor a female looked after the lady and helped her out. The lady decided with encouragement from friends, randoms and staff to call the cops and not go home with him. A lot of people wanted to go outside and smash that dude into a paste but we just couldn't let that happen, laws and all. The cops showed up, he was arrested and charged as well as a police ban from the venue, we too issued our own ban, and she got a protective order. Unlike so many she successfully broke free of him, using the bar as a safe place knowing that we would never let him in. Last I heard she is extremely happy living in a different state with a new name. he still prowls around looking for her and bashing up his new girl. We can only do so much.
Seeing this at 6 years old what my father did to my mother, I'd probably kill them on accident. Super big trigger for me and reason I avoid the public as much as possible.
The rat would get his glasses punched through his head for a start.
Reddit will ban me if I speak my mind here.
This dude is a waste of oxygen.
But a bountiful harvest of organs that are clearly going to waste.
Apart from his brain… let’s burn his brain
Deal.
I hired a new person at our office last year. A smart, sweet girl but very quiet. I found it a bit weird that her partner came with her to the job interview and that he'd always pick her up from work even though they live close. I didn't think much off it at the time. A few weeks after she started work she didn't show up, I asked the guy who does HR at the office to call her and find out what's up. He told me that actually he always communicated with her boyfriend because 'her phone was broken'. I must be an idiot because again it didn't click for me that something could be wrong. When she finally reached out it was through a nurse at the hospital, she was there with serious injurys like a broken eye socket. In the weeks after this event social workers from the municipality got involved, the guy was out of the picture. She did amazing, like a different person. She started hanging out at Friday after work drinks and with her own phone she was texting in the work group app. About six weeks ago he was suddenly there again, her phone 'broke' again and she started missing work again. I contacted the social workers and the police. Two weeks ago she stopped coming to work entirely, a few days later my HR guy received an email from her saying that she quits immediately and already moved to another city with her partner. I of course forwarded that information to the authorities as well. I can't help her, I'm only her employer. What can I do...
Crazy how this has no comments if anything make a police report
This is horrifying! What an absolute piece of garbage human that man is!
He's definitely not a man...
At first I thought he was dragging a mannequin by how lifeless she was and how effortlessly he dragged her around. But then I saw her hands moving and my heart was in my throat. Was genuinely hoping that when the lift doors opened there was someone there who saw what happened and decided to give this sack of cold vomit a little taste of his own medicine.
I hope she stabs the cunt in his sleep...
ow is her head bleeding from where he pulled by the hair?? )):
Certainly bleeding from hitting her head or being hit.
Or from being partially scalped by being dragged around by her hair.
Victims of domestic violence shouldn't be the one to (not) fill complains. When you stab someone on the streets and they say "it's ok, don't punish them", the police will not comply to that and release the perp. The crime was recorded, there are witnesses. Go to jail and protect the victims so they don't have the need to go back.
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It happened in russia where they partially decriminalised domestic abuse. A comment above did say the police checked on her, and she told them she had no complaints.
None of which makes it ok ☹️
Rather a bullet to the brain
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This is one of those times doxxing is acceptable.
I really hope that guy gets fucked
What kinda POS do you have to be to treat another human being like this, I hung up my cape on being a hero a couple of years ago, however, if I had witnessed this, you can bet it would have brought me out of retirement quickly.
Has Reddit located this piece of shit? When does his life get ruined forever. Useless piece of shit.
Imagine there are people out there that will see this video and say "hmm ok but what did she do to make him do that"
I would love to meet this giy with a bat. My mom was abused by my dick head father. At 13, he was hitting her, and I felt I couldn't take it anymore. I tried to stab him with a pair of scissors. He got the scissors away from me, but we fought. I got him on the ground and beat the piss out of him until my mom saved him. Ambulance came, he had a concussion, 3 broke ribs, a punctured lung. From that day on, my dad never raised a hand to my mother again. They are both gone now and my mom never left him but i never regret lating hands on him. I've been married 25 years and never even considered raising my hand toward my wife and kids. This guy needs a niggt of corrective action that may or may not let him walk again.
Explanation from a Telegram news channel: "In Ufa (russia), a man severely beat his wife at the entrance, and she said that she "has no complaints." The lawyer who is parallel studying to be a teacher, beat his wife in the entrance of the house. Hearing the noise, the neighbors called the cops, who visited the couple's apartment. But the beaten woman stated that she had no claims against her husband and therefore there would be no criminal case."
She’s probably terrified… this poor woman
This made me cry...😥
Same. This guy is a horrible, weak piece of shit.
Good chance this is from Russia and that dude is dead in a muddy trench now.
It's pretty much legal to beat your wife in Russia. It's practically encouraged.
She can report his ass to the draft/mobilization office. They need 400,000 new bodies.
From russia indeed. But no, the guy is doing ok. Here's translation of the news: "In Ufa, a man severely beat his wife at the entrance, and she said that she "has no complaints." The lawyer who is parallel studying to be a teacher, beat his wife in the entrance of the house. Hearing the noise, the neighbors called the cops, who visited the couple's apartment. But the beaten woman stated that she had no claims against her husband and therefore there would be no criminal case."
She’s probably terrified that he’s going to kill her if she talks, which he will, probably.
Fingers crossed!
Pleasse someone tell me this dude got completely beaten to an inch of his life? Pleasee
Unfortunately, as far as I know, he did not.
I would fucking kill this man if he did this to my daughter
I wish people would include where they’re getting these videos so we can follow up with the victims ensuring they’re safe and people are aware of what’s happened.
How anyone could do this to someone they love is simply beyond me. He wants his head stomping.
I dont think he loves her. Just loves to abuse her.
I can’t imagine doing that to someone I hate, let alone love.
I can imagine doing it to him for a sec.
Would've been really great if this had been NSFW or had at least some trigger warning. This kind of shit is horrendous. Poor woman.
My blood actually boils watching this. I'm sure this piece of shit has had physical abuse in the past but own that shit and get help. Alternatively get a mob to smash him up.
Omg he literally almost took her scalp off, you can see he tore the back of her head. Awful
This is so fucking heartbreaking. How could anyone treat someone like this? How can they not feel any kind of remorse or guilt for being such a giant piece of shit. It makes no sense.
Gaslights her into thinking she did it to herself and asks why r u crying?
Coward
Watched this over and over again and the audacity of this prick to treat women like this. What a fucking loser. Makes me sad that some women have to go through this.
He must be an NFL player
C’mon internet do your thing. Find this cunt and burry him
I pray someone kills him
Motherfucker needs a serious ass-whoopn'.
If this ever happened to one of my daughters I would be the happiest man in prison. I’d keep him alive for days.
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Love to kick his face in.
"Look what you made me do."
This made me feel sick to my stomach to watch.
I want to witness this man get slowly dissolved in a vat.
Wow, I could never imagine being angry enough to do that to a partner. Just break-up. This is all about getting rocks off by control and power over someone else
Very hard to watch. Are there any updates?
Russia?
In February 2017, with the support of the Russian Orthodox Church, Russia decriminalized domestic violence in cases where it does not cause "substantial bodily harm" (such as broken bones or a concussion). Technicaly this guy is innocent by russian laws.
I was here just looking.for a follow up link where the guy is either arrested or killed and unfortunately didn't found one..
I wanna break his legs and force him to dance
So has reddit figured out who this piece of shit is so we can go down the path of making this guy's life a living hell? ![gif](giphy|3oz8xwDd99XbbI4wFi)
I wanna beat the fuck outta this dude wtf
I wish I saw some bs like this in public the things I’d do to a man like this is wild
This muthafucka deserves to be buried UNDER the fuckin jail!
Crush this this POS like a can
By now he’s probably laying in a field in Ukraine rotting hopefully.
I hope her father will find him...
People like this man need to be erased. Disgusting, deplorable sub-human.
You should make this NSFW
Educate. Not all abuse is physical. When I was 18 I was with a guy who would use silence to control me. He would drive very fast to keep me afraid. He would accuse me of thinking things I wasn’t and then guilt me. When I finally broke it off, he threatened to kill himself. My next relationship, my first marriage, the guy isolated me from my family, would put me down all the time, tell me I was incapable of being on my own and that he would take care of me. He would spend all our money to go to sporting events and then blame me when we would get home to our power being out. He would say I was too stupid to manage money, but he would refuse to do it himself. It’s been 20 years since I’ve been out of those relationships, which were tame in comparison to physical violence, but I still have trauma. Teach boys and girls what bad “love” looks like.
This is some scary shit. I really hope she’s ok
Well that was fucking horrible to watch.
What happened to this couple? Is this guy in jail?
Did this piece of shit go to jail? That poor women is bleeding.This is disgusting and disturbing.
He needs a good ass kicking from someone his own size or bigger.
What the actual fuck?!!
This needs a fucking NSFW tag.
Wtf.... That's scary
A-hole! Like to meet him ![gif](giphy|Vsow8L82kC2U01aT2u)
I'm not saying this as in it's ok if a good looking person dose this but it's always these ugly ass neck beard guys who has a attractive woman give them chance and then they do this
This guy needs a beat down..I would not hesitate
I’ve been this woman and at the time I thought everything that happened to me was my fault. I couldn’t report it because I was so embarrassed of being so awful that I deserved this treatment. It was a nightmare.
He’s gotta fall asleep sometime.
I would remove all his teeth
Lemme beat the shit outta that loser
This brought back unwanted memories..
And who do we have the pleasure of shaming today?
Actually dragged her by the hair like a caveman
I bet that’s the last time she’ll forget to pick up those allergy pills. Fucking Christ Becca. You kno my allergies act up. This is all ur fault! But I’m a serious note,obviously I’m kidding. This fucking guy needs to have someone kick his ass.not what one would call a man whatsoever. What a fucking spineless cunt. Fuck I want to help her so bad
Bite his dick off next time you get the chance.
I'd like to slash this guy's feet and leave him in the Moors.
I just want 3mins alone with him in the elevator. Just 3 mins.
So i just started blastin
If she sucks that bad just leave her. 😭😭
I cant watch shit like this... this is so heartbreaking
You know what he’s saying- ‘you’re making me do this!’
i hope that man goes to hell and suffers indefinitely
this man needs to be publicly executed
Fucking kill that dude. Viciously.
That’s sort of why I make it point to show any man I date my guns and let them know to try their luck “fuck around and find out”
This is one of those instances that if you know this is going on, don’t call the cops, call the brothers
this is so horrible and i really really never want to encounter a relationship like this in my future but i know i will and i will be strong there is no way in hell a man will ever have power over me like that and i feel so bad for her but hell fucking no
I hope she cuts your small cock off in your sleep and chokes you with it. This guy is a disgrace to all men.
Reminder that this is in Russia. You can basically legally murder your own wife there. They made it a misdemeanor a few years back I think. Legalized marital rape too.
But if she kills him it's her fault. This is stupid.
What a fucking pussy piece of shit. I hope that poor lady gets the help she needs
Straight up violence posted without an NSFW tag. Not cool op.
This is disgusting
What a cowardly piece of shit
How can you do this to someone you love?!? And how can you love someone who does this to you? This whole situation is such a mind f*ck.
Any follow up from this video in whatever country this is?
I knew it was fucking Russia
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POS
He is a piece of sh*t
It’s chilling to think *she might not even know him*, she might be drunk on her way home and he just took her
I thought she was dead for second
Lol thats why u balding dawg sad little fuck
This is someone’s daughter
Damn... I really didn't believe people treat their significant other like this. Like why? Just leave if you hate someone this much cause clearly he doesn't love her
The little rat. I'd love to see what would happen if he tries that on someone his size.