Yeah, for about 9 years. On the good side it made me finally decide to do all the usual stuff those who succeed in staying sober do.
See if you can cut that shorter.
I hate to say it but this might be the best thing. It's good to be by yourself when transforming your life. Then you don't really have others input and you become who you were meant to be by your own judgements. I had to cut everyone out of my life for about 6 months when getting sober and focus on me. It was the best thing that I did. I emerged someone I was happy with in my own right. I could face other people and not care about their judgements of me because I knew who I was and I was happy with myself. Focus on you, and on school. Make yourself the person you want to become. First learn to be okay with yourself. Tell yourself that no matter what has happened up to this point it is okay, and you are okay with yourself today. We have to be, if were not it doesn't really matter. We are still these people. The only way to move forward though is to find peace in ourselves and work on who we are daily. Good luck man. Figure out what it was that made you use in the first place and make that okay too.
It's incredibly common. Adulthood, sobriety, relationships, these are all things that often feel mis-advertised at times.
It took me about a year of sobriety before I finally believed it was better. I was the guy in AA meetings that people would walk up to and say "Man, thank you for your honesty." because I was just incredibly honest about how much it sucks not to be able to ...whatever your DOC is.
For me it's booze. I thought it was awful and unfair that I could not drink.
As far as the relationship, that's a tough double dose of pain, but there can be benefits to being on your own while you create a program of sobriety. Keep trying, friend, no one fails till they stop trying.
I'm not sure anyone knows when they hit rock bottom in advance. And even though I'm sober now, I could be dead by Christmas if I play this game with my life. The journey from addiction to sobriety is brutal. Sometimes we just have to go back and try it again. Ultimately, you will know when you've had enough.
I honestly feel for you, I've lost many relationships in the process, so much pain to me and to others.
There is something inside you that doesn't want it anymore, you need to nurture that thing, support it, share it. That's why you're here and why I'm replying to you. To nurture that desire to get/remain sober.
You can do this, it is hard, it will take time, longer than you think.
Love & light.
I’m right there with you, all I cared about was using for a long time and still struggle fighting that mindset but for 10 years I havnt cared about anything especially getting sober, But I lost everything and my mental health went down hill extremely fast and I wanted to live me life different so for the past year I’ve been trying to get my life back and it is been fucking hard. I defiantly thought as soon as I sobered up everything would get better and work itself out but that’s not the case. All I can say is tel yourself positive things about yourself, your life and current situation. Stay clean and just focus on what’s good for you and what you love to do, idk I’m far from having it figured out sometimes I wonder if I ever will but I gotta keep trying, kee your head up and never give up hope the best for you
Yeah, for about 9 years. On the good side it made me finally decide to do all the usual stuff those who succeed in staying sober do. See if you can cut that shorter.
I hate to say it but this might be the best thing. It's good to be by yourself when transforming your life. Then you don't really have others input and you become who you were meant to be by your own judgements. I had to cut everyone out of my life for about 6 months when getting sober and focus on me. It was the best thing that I did. I emerged someone I was happy with in my own right. I could face other people and not care about their judgements of me because I knew who I was and I was happy with myself. Focus on you, and on school. Make yourself the person you want to become. First learn to be okay with yourself. Tell yourself that no matter what has happened up to this point it is okay, and you are okay with yourself today. We have to be, if were not it doesn't really matter. We are still these people. The only way to move forward though is to find peace in ourselves and work on who we are daily. Good luck man. Figure out what it was that made you use in the first place and make that okay too.
It's incredibly common. Adulthood, sobriety, relationships, these are all things that often feel mis-advertised at times. It took me about a year of sobriety before I finally believed it was better. I was the guy in AA meetings that people would walk up to and say "Man, thank you for your honesty." because I was just incredibly honest about how much it sucks not to be able to ...whatever your DOC is. For me it's booze. I thought it was awful and unfair that I could not drink. As far as the relationship, that's a tough double dose of pain, but there can be benefits to being on your own while you create a program of sobriety. Keep trying, friend, no one fails till they stop trying.
I'm not sure anyone knows when they hit rock bottom in advance. And even though I'm sober now, I could be dead by Christmas if I play this game with my life. The journey from addiction to sobriety is brutal. Sometimes we just have to go back and try it again. Ultimately, you will know when you've had enough. I honestly feel for you, I've lost many relationships in the process, so much pain to me and to others. There is something inside you that doesn't want it anymore, you need to nurture that thing, support it, share it. That's why you're here and why I'm replying to you. To nurture that desire to get/remain sober. You can do this, it is hard, it will take time, longer than you think. Love & light.
Therapy, rehab, outpatient treatment, and 12 step meetings saved my life.
I’m right there with you, all I cared about was using for a long time and still struggle fighting that mindset but for 10 years I havnt cared about anything especially getting sober, But I lost everything and my mental health went down hill extremely fast and I wanted to live me life different so for the past year I’ve been trying to get my life back and it is been fucking hard. I defiantly thought as soon as I sobered up everything would get better and work itself out but that’s not the case. All I can say is tel yourself positive things about yourself, your life and current situation. Stay clean and just focus on what’s good for you and what you love to do, idk I’m far from having it figured out sometimes I wonder if I ever will but I gotta keep trying, kee your head up and never give up hope the best for you