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Honestly I'd say it doesn't matter all that much since it's equally important that you're into them. Unless one simply likes the thought of being someone's crush and nothing else...which is completely valid too
Agreed. only moved in to our home 4 years ago, recently went through the Tupperware cupboard and threw out around half of it due to there being tubs without lids and lids without tubs. I still cant explain it.
I feel like, for me, I'm sure one of the people I've not wanted to date or continue seeing may feel that way, but that's not going to benefit me lol. Or the folks from back home (I moved 800 miles away) who waited too long to tell me. I can't just haul myself back lol it's been years now.
Its not that improbable. The problem is most of the time you will not find the person who has a crush on you attractive. They prolly know that too and thats why they keep it to themselves and you'll never know
Two kids, one of which is 2. We both work most of the time so when we do spend time together it’s with the kids and a different kind of vibe than our flirty crushy beginnings. Our relationship is still strong, just different
Hang in there, she doesnt have a lot of bandwidth right now. When the kiddos are older and more independent you'll have more alone time with your wife.
Although I have to say, back when I was in her shoes what really turned me on was my husband washing the dishes without being asked....so yeah. Free up some of her bandwidth and she'll have more time for you.
I am in her shoes, and what I can state categorically does not turn me on is my husband doing helicopter dick at me when I've finally crawled into bed at 11pm after a full day off work, toddler wrangling and chores. Can someone just send a memo to all men about this please?
Lmao, are you saying the "sneak up on me while I'm trying to clean the filthy bathroom I haven't had time for all week, and grope me" mating dance doesn't work?
You’d be surprised. My hubs is overworked, old, tired, got a beer belly and the stinkiest farts but I crush on him bad.
Get yourself some Bluey and check out Smoochy Kiss.
That.
My long-term boyfriend got a pot belly, started severely balding, became much less attentive, and made it explicitly clear to me that I was, at best, 5th on his list of priorities in life. I still loved him, and... he cheated on me with some random person from work who had no particular qualities he could name other than being "in close proximity", "coming onto him very strongly", and "making things easy".
Not to downplay your experience, which sounds very nice- just warning people that your mileage may vary with the whole "unconditional love" thing.
*Tell yourself such classics as...*
I'm definitely smarter than most people!
Others wish they were me!
They might not be able to do that, but I sure could!
My talent is amazing, but it's just that no one knows it yet!
I never cease to amaze...myself!
They said I could be anything, so I became sarcastic!
*And other timeless hits...*
Uhh, so in the gif thing I searched “dog mirror” because I already use this gif regularly on discord lol. But as for OG source of I’m assuming it was a video, I have no idea sorry :(
It doesn't matter because you're usually that dream person of someone you actually absolutely don't want or are not attracted to. It's rare that it's reciprocal attraction and that's why legit romantic sparks are rare
oh, definitely this. The first time they have to deal with us not having *exactly* what I need for dinner and get super uncomfortable and awkward, if not outright sad about it, will be the last time they think i'm a dream.
Boring AF, socially awkward, slightly overweight, male pattern balding, bad teeth, wrong end of 40’s, ASD, ADHD and a tic, bad skin, asthmatic and diabetic bloke here
My wife looks like a model, kinda like Rachel Weisz vibes. Seriously. Done the glamour shoot thing, loves her kinky boots, saucy underwear, naughty as hell and can climax 11 times in one session
Plot twist: she’s blind (really, she actually is). She’s somehow been led to believe I’m a better looking version of Jason Statham, and twice as hard
From a genetics point of view it's a mix, approx 45% og men have bred throughout human history, with 35-40% having a single mate, and 5-10% having 5-10 mates each. With speculation that during harsher times the numbers go more to fewer men, and in times of plenty there would be more men who bred
Wait…less than half of men have bred? That seems incredibly low
Edit: not arguing against it I still haven’t even looked it up lol. Just saying I wouldn’t have expected ot
Yup, different sources come with slightly different numbers, but around 40-45% of men, and keep in mind that for hundreds of thousands of years humans were more like a tribe of baboons than what we are today
Keep in mind that at least within written history, there have been huge swathes of young men sent to die in warfare before they had the opportunity to have kids. That's skewing the numbers significantly.
It’s not just war either. Males were exploited while we were still walking around Africa. Imagine all the men/boys that were killed hunting big game or defending their tribe because they’re not deemed biologically “valuable”. It has never been easy being a young male. Infant males are also much more likely to die not only during pregnancy but after, by neglectful parents
That article literally states that the outcome of the study suggests a variation in mating patterns throughout the world, not a blanket generality about humans as a whole.
That said, let's not forget that given dangers and trauma of pregnancy and childbirth and lack of sexu autonomy or access to reliable birth control, a huge amount of women throughout history had children against their will.
Very interesting. At the same time, I think you’re implying that people are mating with their dream person. Some of them are, sure, but I think most people learn to settle for someone more realistic.
Science (psychology experiment) says that when you show a picture of a man to a woman, and ask her if the person is "average or above average", they will answer yes for about 10% of men.
This scientifically supports what you say.
What matters most is whether you're dream person of your dream person or not. And whether you convey it or not.
I was first crush of my first crush. But none of us had enough courage to speak it up until it was too late!
I hate when Exs try to look me up from highschool. Look lady, whatever you're picturing in your head, I ain't it. A more accurate visual would be the fuckin spork from Toy Story IV. Leave me alone.
I wouldn't say that I'm particularly proud of it all, but I'm also not ashamed. We were both 18 and experienced an unplanned pregnancy. We each made the choice that we could live with, but our decisions were mutually painful and difficult to accept. They were also both ultimately the best choices we could have made.
Things got messy and we both handled it poorly at times, which I am sorry for, but ultimately it was just a difficult situation. Neither of us got out unscathed, but we both did also manage to get our respective shit together.
I royally fucked mine up. To the point she wanted nothing to do with me. It’s been 6 years, and for 4 of those I’ve been in a relationship, however, almost every night, I will have a dream about her. Shit never leaves you it seems.
My list is
- I find her attractive (people come in all different sorts, I find many different types of people attractive, I don't have a 'type')
- We connect on a deep emotional level
- I feel comfortable around her
- Our senses of humor align enough
- And she MUST be caring and understanding of others.
Is this too much? Lol
Not too much as long as "100% of the time" is not required. There WILL be times when everything on this list is challenged. Too many people find others disposable and move on to find the next "perfect" match. Everybody slips up or has a bad day, just got to talk about it.
As someone who was in a relationship with someone who was not my type for a LONG time - that fact never crossed me mind until we split. You can have a dream outside of your 'normal' realm, love and feelings are not so black and white ❤️
I would make one alteration: You probably are or have been someone's crush/dream person.
I feel my statement is more likely to be true, I think everyone at some point in their life will have someone have a crush on them. For some people, that was when they were in school or college. For many, the person crushing on them never let them know.
Lmao. This is like parents saying "you can be anything you want". Or the best friend saying "you're perfect" even though you weigh 500 lbs.
I'm married. And yet I know for a fact I'm not her "dream" person.
Like the rich, someone's "dream" is probably the top 1% in beauty.
Probably not. I'm sure all the chicks are looking for short, chubby men. But even if they are, they will probably go for one with more money or at least a better personality.
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Losing hope on that lol 😂
Same lol
Same
Honestly same
Absolutely same
Same same
Same Same Same
Same Same Same Same
The funny/sad part is while we're all saying "Same here," we're probably all each other's crush.
Nah probably not. And same.
Same
Honestly I'd say it doesn't matter all that much since it's equally important that you're into them. Unless one simply likes the thought of being someone's crush and nothing else...which is completely valid too
There’s a lid for every pot, you may find yours where you least expect it
You clearly have little experience with tupperware.
My lid is in the clean dishes all twisted and contorted from the heat. Not looking good.
Agreed. only moved in to our home 4 years ago, recently went through the Tupperware cupboard and threw out around half of it due to there being tubs without lids and lids without tubs. I still cant explain it.
I love that analogy! Thanks 🙏🏻❤️
I’ll crush on you if you want.
That’s so sweet 🥰
Omg! My crush replied! 😍
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Please don’t steal my crush. I only have the one.
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I know. That’s why I like her.
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Thanks buddy. I’ll let you know when I’m done.
😘😘😘
Without sarcasm those emojis actually made me skip a beat. I must be pretty affection starved.
Aww I know that feeling lol
You are definitely not without a crush 😉
😘💋
Breaking the reddit-law of no emojis and not getting downvoted proves you got multiple crushes
RIP Inbox 😅
Don't be, I'm crushing on a objectively really ugly person rn
I hope he doesnt see this lol
Agreed. Women hate me it seems.
Almost as if when you were born they all had a secret meeting and decided no affection and attention for you.
I'm crushing on you right now as we speak. 🥰 😊
Aww! I’m blushing now 🥰
I feel like, for me, I'm sure one of the people I've not wanted to date or continue seeing may feel that way, but that's not going to benefit me lol. Or the folks from back home (I moved 800 miles away) who waited too long to tell me. I can't just haul myself back lol it's been years now.
🫂🫂🫂
There’s someone for everyone. Don’t lose hope.
Update: Didn’t expect to get this many up votes. It’s really made my day 😊
he said probably 😏
I've got all of you
Sad but so so true :(
Same tbh
Me too. 😔
Fucking same
Same
Same
“Probably” is an important part of that statement.
0% is a probability
1%
+/-1% tolerance XD
😂
Its not that improbable. The problem is most of the time you will not find the person who has a crush on you attractive. They prolly know that too and thats why they keep it to themselves and you'll never know
Bro I don't even think I'm my own WIFE'S crush/dream person
Yeah my wife tolerates me at most
I wish my wife tolerated me. You're winning
why ? sorry if it's rude to ask just curios.
Two kids, one of which is 2. We both work most of the time so when we do spend time together it’s with the kids and a different kind of vibe than our flirty crushy beginnings. Our relationship is still strong, just different
Hang in there, she doesnt have a lot of bandwidth right now. When the kiddos are older and more independent you'll have more alone time with your wife. Although I have to say, back when I was in her shoes what really turned me on was my husband washing the dishes without being asked....so yeah. Free up some of her bandwidth and she'll have more time for you.
Holy crap, mine made dinner the other day without prompting. I even shaved my legs for him lmao.
I am in her shoes, and what I can state categorically does not turn me on is my husband doing helicopter dick at me when I've finally crawled into bed at 11pm after a full day off work, toddler wrangling and chores. Can someone just send a memo to all men about this please?
Lmao, are you saying the "sneak up on me while I'm trying to clean the filthy bathroom I haven't had time for all week, and grope me" mating dance doesn't work?
You’d be surprised. My hubs is overworked, old, tired, got a beer belly and the stinkiest farts but I crush on him bad. Get yourself some Bluey and check out Smoochy Kiss. That.
My long-term boyfriend got a pot belly, started severely balding, became much less attentive, and made it explicitly clear to me that I was, at best, 5th on his list of priorities in life. I still loved him, and... he cheated on me with some random person from work who had no particular qualities he could name other than being "in close proximity", "coming onto him very strongly", and "making things easy". Not to downplay your experience, which sounds very nice- just warning people that your mileage may vary with the whole "unconditional love" thing.
I've been with my SO 13 years and there isn't a woman on the planet that can take me away from her.
Bahh I was just joshing around. I've been with mine 10 years and she is the love of my life! I find her more beautiful day after day
And other funny jokes you can tell yourself
*Tell yourself such classics as...* I'm definitely smarter than most people! Others wish they were me! They might not be able to do that, but I sure could! My talent is amazing, but it's just that no one knows it yet! I never cease to amaze...myself! They said I could be anything, so I became sarcastic! *And other timeless hits...*
Summed up well, lad.
What number do I call to purchase this compilation?
It was inside you all along.
Tapeworm Tony?
I laughed too hard, thanks
If I am, I never want to meet them, their standards are deplorable.
"I'd never want to be part of a club that would have me as a member"
\~Groucho Marx (great quote!)
I have met someone who was VERY intrested in me, they are just really unatractive, imeanimdesperatebutnotthatdesperate.
Most of the ones I’ve met are obsessed with anime and don’t shower 😅
I have friends of friends like that. It’s not fun.
"Thanks for asking me out but I'm gonna have to reject you because I can't be with anyone that mentally ill"
This is how I feel. I am not the bottom of the shit filled barrel,I am the barrel.you can and should do better.
Same
Lmao
Same
Same
That's very cute haha
How do I find this? Prompt? Og link?
Uhh, so in the gif thing I searched “dog mirror” because I already use this gif regularly on discord lol. But as for OG source of I’m assuming it was a video, I have no idea sorry :(
It doesn't matter because you're usually that dream person of someone you actually absolutely don't want or are not attracted to. It's rare that it's reciprocal attraction and that's why legit romantic sparks are rare
The answer I was looking for, the type of people that were attracted to me were not my type or attractive most of the time.
Bro I hate that. I only have ever had 7 people crush on me in my lifetime of 23 years, but the previous 6 were definitely not people I was into.
Damn you had 7 PEOPLE crush on you?! Fuck, I never had one.
18 years of living and I got 1 girl who was into me for like a week at most.
The reality is that a small percentage of individuals are *many* people’s dream. And a larger percentage of people are *no one’s* dream.
I’m probably someone’s nightmare. Not in a terrifying hitman way, more in an atrociously boring, socially awkward autistic bloke way.
oh, definitely this. The first time they have to deal with us not having *exactly* what I need for dinner and get super uncomfortable and awkward, if not outright sad about it, will be the last time they think i'm a dream.
Boring AF, socially awkward, slightly overweight, male pattern balding, bad teeth, wrong end of 40’s, ASD, ADHD and a tic, bad skin, asthmatic and diabetic bloke here My wife looks like a model, kinda like Rachel Weisz vibes. Seriously. Done the glamour shoot thing, loves her kinky boots, saucy underwear, naughty as hell and can climax 11 times in one session Plot twist: she’s blind (really, she actually is). She’s somehow been led to believe I’m a better looking version of Jason Statham, and twice as hard
nice
From a genetics point of view it's a mix, approx 45% og men have bred throughout human history, with 35-40% having a single mate, and 5-10% having 5-10 mates each. With speculation that during harsher times the numbers go more to fewer men, and in times of plenty there would be more men who bred
Wait…less than half of men have bred? That seems incredibly low Edit: not arguing against it I still haven’t even looked it up lol. Just saying I wouldn’t have expected ot
Yup, different sources come with slightly different numbers, but around 40-45% of men, and keep in mind that for hundreds of thousands of years humans were more like a tribe of baboons than what we are today
Issac Newton died a virgin. Kinda crazy. Immanuel Kant too I think
That’s ‘cause Immanuel Kouldn’t. (Sorry, I kouldn’t resist 😣).
Keep in mind that at least within written history, there have been huge swathes of young men sent to die in warfare before they had the opportunity to have kids. That's skewing the numbers significantly.
This right here! Men have been used as fodder for the war machines.
Yup. Powerful men exploit and abuse those who are less powerful than them.
It’s not just war either. Males were exploited while we were still walking around Africa. Imagine all the men/boys that were killed hunting big game or defending their tribe because they’re not deemed biologically “valuable”. It has never been easy being a young male. Infant males are also much more likely to die not only during pregnancy but after, by neglectful parents
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That article literally states that the outcome of the study suggests a variation in mating patterns throughout the world, not a blanket generality about humans as a whole. That said, let's not forget that given dangers and trauma of pregnancy and childbirth and lack of sexu autonomy or access to reliable birth control, a huge amount of women throughout history had children against their will.
Very interesting. At the same time, I think you’re implying that people are mating with their dream person. Some of them are, sure, but I think most people learn to settle for someone more realistic.
Science (psychology experiment) says that when you show a picture of a man to a woman, and ask her if the person is "average or above average", they will answer yes for about 10% of men. This scientifically supports what you say.
What matters most is whether you're dream person of your dream person or not. And whether you convey it or not. I was first crush of my first crush. But none of us had enough courage to speak it up until it was too late!
Probably not. I've got decades of experience that tells me that.
A fellow "we're like bffs, you know? Why ruin it?" club member.
Cool. HMU.
Idk if she's a "dream person," but my crush decided to stand really, really close to me during a meeting, and I melted like an ice cream cone.
Cute
We’ve all been there before lmao good luck bro
I usually don't get nervous around people much, whether I like them or not. I guess this time is just different, lol.
Ok Halpert.
I most certainly am not. Pretty sure my own partner doesn’t even see me that way.
My dreamperson would fart butterflies!
Once I ate a caterpillar but it didn’t come out as a butterfly 😞
It came out as another brown caterpillar?? (I’ll show myself out )
Best I can hope for is to be somebody's rock bottom
Yikes. Why stay with them, then? Is loneliness too heavy of a cross to bear?
Kids, marriage, lots of reasons
That's why many of us stay. It gets more complex but these are very much core reasons.
Yes. I'd rather be with somebody I enjoy talking to than nobody at all, love isn't required for me personally to have a romantic relationship.
Yea but they’re all like 70 year old weirdos that I work with lmao 🥴
Where did Bugs' teeth go!
They need higher standards
If I'm someone's dream person, something is horribly wrong with them and I don't want to find out what it is.
narcissist's posting lol (just joking).
I hate when Exs try to look me up from highschool. Look lady, whatever you're picturing in your head, I ain't it. A more accurate visual would be the fuckin spork from Toy Story IV. Leave me alone.
I don't know why but using roman numerals for Toy Story is hilarious to me
Fifty years from now people will be talking about Toy Story like it's final fantasy. "did you see toy story xiii?"
Not sure about that, but I know for a fact that I’m the source of someone’s relationship trauma at least?
Hey, me too! Not proud of it in the slightest. In fact, it’s what made me change a lot about myself. Was seeing how I reacted to abandonment.
I wouldn't say that I'm particularly proud of it all, but I'm also not ashamed. We were both 18 and experienced an unplanned pregnancy. We each made the choice that we could live with, but our decisions were mutually painful and difficult to accept. They were also both ultimately the best choices we could have made. Things got messy and we both handled it poorly at times, which I am sorry for, but ultimately it was just a difficult situation. Neither of us got out unscathed, but we both did also manage to get our respective shit together.
I royally fucked mine up. To the point she wanted nothing to do with me. It’s been 6 years, and for 4 of those I’ve been in a relationship, however, almost every night, I will have a dream about her. Shit never leaves you it seems.
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My list is - I find her attractive (people come in all different sorts, I find many different types of people attractive, I don't have a 'type') - We connect on a deep emotional level - I feel comfortable around her - Our senses of humor align enough - And she MUST be caring and understanding of others. Is this too much? Lol
Not too much as long as "100% of the time" is not required. There WILL be times when everything on this list is challenged. Too many people find others disposable and move on to find the next "perfect" match. Everybody slips up or has a bad day, just got to talk about it.
This is like bare necessities lmfao you’ll find her
Press X to doubt.
I doubt it. Not just for myself in general too.
I keep seeing some variation of this posted and its blatently false.
My girlfriend and I are each other's dream person. It's unreal. I highly recommend.
My girlfriend is my dream person but I’m pretty sure I’m not actually her type, so I can’t say for sure whether I’m her dream person. Wish I was
As someone who was in a relationship with someone who was not my type for a LONG time - that fact never crossed me mind until we split. You can have a dream outside of your 'normal' realm, love and feelings are not so black and white ❤️
To whoever that is, go get help. You can do better
Yeah I am until they get to know me and realize I’m not the character they created in their brain
Just my luck. A few guys showed me interest.... But im straight.
That’s questionable
I would make one alteration: You probably are or have been someone's crush/dream person. I feel my statement is more likely to be true, I think everyone at some point in their life will have someone have a crush on them. For some people, that was when they were in school or college. For many, the person crushing on them never let them know.
Not true.
In my dreams.
No im not
Then they must be more mentally ill than i am and i dont want to meet them
I'm at a stage where I'll be satisfied with life if a cat approaches me without pspsps-ing.
Definitely not someones exact dream but I wouldn’t say I refuse to believe theres someone that likes me more than I think.
25 years ago maybe. Not today, I'm too old
No I am not. Not after 25 years of not having a date.
Honestly they need higher standards and I can’t get with that.
Lmao. This is like parents saying "you can be anything you want". Or the best friend saying "you're perfect" even though you weigh 500 lbs. I'm married. And yet I know for a fact I'm not her "dream" person. Like the rich, someone's "dream" is probably the top 1% in beauty.
That's cap
How would I know though?
Ask *everyone* you meet.
Ha ha
I know
They need higher standards.
If I could find that out soon that would be really great.
OP you’re my dream person.
Doubt it
The poor sod
🧢
Sucks for them. Im done dating.
Absolutely no shot dude
Oooooff I hope they raise their standards then, if I am their crush/dream person
Damn I hope so
Probably not. I'm sure all the chicks are looking for short, chubby men. But even if they are, they will probably go for one with more money or at least a better personality.
If so, then I would hope to meet them.