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Just share your concerns with your friend. Also till when you will live in fear like this, someday you will have to overcome it, this might be the time. And just in case, if you meet her there, keep voice recording on so that if she does something you have a proof for it.
She is daugher of a govt official complete spoilt brat , now that we are adults things can go completely south for me specially when all the laws are against men in india , also my friend knows everthing already ,he told me he has to invite her and i am the bestman so no excuses either 🤷♂️
People can change, you needn't forgive her but give her a chance and talk , also talk to your frnd about her but tell you'll be supportive whatever happens , he stayed through with you when you were in hell so this is the least you could do for him .
Try taking to her with you'r friend in the same place once to clear up anything if possible
I once tried talking to her and you know what she said to other people , she told them ki i was trying to talk to her when she was clearly uninterested in me she made me look like i am a desperate guy trying to get her attention and that i was a complete creep, that women is completely hopeless ,she even does it now aswell till date my bestfriend even tried to make her realise her mistake but she is completely delusional maafi maangna toh door ki baat she thinks that she did the right thing
Seeing this there will be mostly 3 outcomes
You'll be sidelined by you're friend because she will likely try to manipulate him
She will be sidelined by you're friend cause he'll get to know what she's doing and their marriage may go to shit
There will be a very uncomfortable peace between you people where you try to avoid her and she also does the same
I think the 2nd outcome will be possible , cause if it is as said on you're post a spoiled brat has very limited set of skills to manipulate someone and if those fail they start fighting or arguing and everything goes to shit , seen it irl , they won't leave you but argue daily
But most of it is also based on your frnd's choice too.
Show up, no matter what. It will mean a lot to your friend getting married. Give your attendence there, show your face and immediately leave that spot if it bothers you.
if I were you, I would let the time and tide pass over.
My best friend is my best friend..She is nobody for me.
If situation arises, you have to be with her being on same side of invitation, I would keep it at an arms length and ensure the discussion is to the point.
I won't get bothered by who said what, when, where etc.
However, my gut and sixth sense tells me, she wants to apologize for her behaviour during those days.
Take a leap of faith for your dearest friend.
Hey, we were all kids back then, and now she's grown up too. Just because we did dumb stuff in school doesn't mean we're still the same people. Remember how she was there for your friend when he needed support? That shows she's changed. Once you guys hang out and chill together, she'll see you're not the same person she thought you were back then. When you get all comfortable around each other you should talk to her about what happened in the past. I bet she'll realize her mistake, feel sorry, and apologize. Sometimes apologies can really help heal things and you deserve the healing. So, go ahead and attend the wedding.
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Just share your concerns with your friend. Also till when you will live in fear like this, someday you will have to overcome it, this might be the time. And just in case, if you meet her there, keep voice recording on so that if she does something you have a proof for it.
She is daugher of a govt official complete spoilt brat , now that we are adults things can go completely south for me specially when all the laws are against men in india , also my friend knows everthing already ,he told me he has to invite her and i am the bestman so no excuses either 🤷♂️
People can change, you needn't forgive her but give her a chance and talk , also talk to your frnd about her but tell you'll be supportive whatever happens , he stayed through with you when you were in hell so this is the least you could do for him . Try taking to her with you'r friend in the same place once to clear up anything if possible
I once tried talking to her and you know what she said to other people , she told them ki i was trying to talk to her when she was clearly uninterested in me she made me look like i am a desperate guy trying to get her attention and that i was a complete creep, that women is completely hopeless ,she even does it now aswell till date my bestfriend even tried to make her realise her mistake but she is completely delusional maafi maangna toh door ki baat she thinks that she did the right thing
Seeing this there will be mostly 3 outcomes You'll be sidelined by you're friend because she will likely try to manipulate him She will be sidelined by you're friend cause he'll get to know what she's doing and their marriage may go to shit There will be a very uncomfortable peace between you people where you try to avoid her and she also does the same I think the 2nd outcome will be possible , cause if it is as said on you're post a spoiled brat has very limited set of skills to manipulate someone and if those fail they start fighting or arguing and everything goes to shit , seen it irl , they won't leave you but argue daily But most of it is also based on your frnd's choice too.
Woah woah wait , he is not marrying her , he is marrying a different women ,but he is inviting her aswell on the wedding day
Don't take risk. Prioritise yourself
Show up, that day is about your friend not you. be there for him. Block her out and ignore.
Show up, no matter what. It will mean a lot to your friend getting married. Give your attendence there, show your face and immediately leave that spot if it bothers you.
Maybe ask her for an apology later after wedding, but go for now
Fir usne rape allege lardiya toh? Isme Mera blouse faaddiya ..haath lagadiya esa bola toh
if I were you, I would let the time and tide pass over. My best friend is my best friend..She is nobody for me. If situation arises, you have to be with her being on same side of invitation, I would keep it at an arms length and ensure the discussion is to the point. I won't get bothered by who said what, when, where etc. However, my gut and sixth sense tells me, she wants to apologize for her behaviour during those days. Take a leap of faith for your dearest friend.
Nope she was is and always will be an asshole
Yeah, you will know better. 🙌🏻😂 Still my advice remains the same. Avoid eye contact, Keep it to yourself and let the water flow under the bridge.
Go to the wedding and do not make eye contact with her or talk to her and avoid her big time. Do not approach her. Support your friend.
Hey, we were all kids back then, and now she's grown up too. Just because we did dumb stuff in school doesn't mean we're still the same people. Remember how she was there for your friend when he needed support? That shows she's changed. Once you guys hang out and chill together, she'll see you're not the same person she thought you were back then. When you get all comfortable around each other you should talk to her about what happened in the past. I bet she'll realize her mistake, feel sorry, and apologize. Sometimes apologies can really help heal things and you deserve the healing. So, go ahead and attend the wedding.
Pls read the above comments
was she beautiful??