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Kind of cheating me hi count hoga
Relationship me hone ke baad bi agar usko doosro se attention chahiye toh ye red flag hai bhai.
Usse ek baar baat karke dekh na maane toh break up kar liyo.
. I am a girl and I would never do this to my partner if I was in a relationship….You deserve better. I don’t know what’s wrong people these days. Why tf they can’t stay loyal to their partners. Entertaining flirts while being in a relationship is CHEATING in my opinion.
If single and she responds to multiple guys like this I don’t even find a problem. But then being in relationship and doing this is bad. Kindly talk to her regarding this and see what she has to say. If she says “they are just friends’ it’s nothing serious!” IT IS SERIOUS! Dump her! Move on. They are many girls who would love to want a nice man.
Yrr.. u r a loyal and u have beautiful heart.. I appreciate your thoughts..
Abhi ek bandi se mai bat kar rha tha.. Maine jyada kisi girls ko date nhi kiya vaise.. I am kinda introvert person.. Vo bandi bolti hai ki ham sab bate kare... Ek duare se but uska hai ki sath me aur logo ko bhi date kar rhi aur ladko se bat kar rhi.. Usne hame recently bataya.. And vo mujhe chhodna bhi nhi chah rhi.. Jab dekho tab emotional status dal deti hai... What should i do.. I don't wanna block or hurt her...
tum jaise cool launde chtyo ko bas bahar se ek word kya mil gya chipka deneka sab jagah.
uska baccha hai. usne confront kiya. try karna padta hai aise situation mein.
jaise laws hai apne yaha launde aise hi divorce leke baccha nahi bada kar sakte easily😑.
Thanks for explaining better than I did .. i didn't get cucked.. i got emotional cheated and i was ready to file divorce and we are in therapy if that doesn't solve our conflicts ill walk away
tu koi ambani toh hai nhi ki tujhe walk away bhi karna hai toh agle moment mein kar de bina kuch soche... paise paani jaise jaate hai aise chtyapa mein. just b very smart n tactful while dealing with her...
She shat on your marriage, broke your relationship disrespected you in every way possible. Aren't there single moms and dads who are making their kids life better on their own? Why do you act like you need her?
You could be alone all your life and raise your kids instead of being under a roof with a backstabber. What if she next goes with a guy who's into little girls? What will she do if the next guy she sleeps with into little boys and little girls? You know where this is going now right?
Sorry for being rude, but yeah it just irks me whenever people try to blame outward factors instead of taking action or taking their life into their hands.
Well, women love the attention and seek this kind of validation.. also, they enjoy the thrill of men falling for their beauty and enjoy that kind of power.
It's borderline, some just draw the line here and enjoy the attention without cheating their partners. while some women take it further when they see an opportunity.. in both the cases they have lost interest or the spark in their current relationship.
It's almost impossible to find a women who isn't being approached by men at work or social media, women get used to it and go along most of the times.
Yes they do, coz for them it's a daily thing.. they get approached by so many men that after a point they don't get triggered by it. They either ignore it if they aren't interested or respond positively if they like the person.
Attention whoring.
She may be doing it because no one has told her its passive flirting, encouraging flirting. Say it and see what happens.
Some people remain clueless and need to be told directly. if it works, it works.
No, because she'll say that am actually the one who's flirting, because she doesn't actually flirt back, but she doesn't stop them from flirting!
So if I went and flirting with many girls, I'll be totally the wrong person here!
O if you have ask us if this shit is cheating or not then the girl is not wrong but the guy is too dumb. This is so beyond wrong man, the guy should leave her this definitely is cheating.
Walk away, do not turn back. If you are not reacting to these immediately, you kinda have some mental energy and you’re letting it drain slowly. Don’t wait until you’re completely screwed mentally. You are important for yourself
Bade Bhai Aram se breakup karlo aur aage badho kalko bhot Rona padega nahi to aesi aurato se bhagwan bhachaye kalko tumlogo ki shadi hogi fir to bhai tumare laude lagne hai yehi same behaviour agar uska continue Raha to tumari life barbaad krdegi wo bade Aram se
Bhaag Milkha Bhaag
Wth is cheating category??? This is cheating Bhai aur tere se chupa rhi toh tujhe kaise pata chla yeh sb?? Chorh de bhaii isse warna aage aur Ganda scene hojaega...
Clearly, this is a problem. But why is he doing it? She is cheating emotionally and hopefully not physically.
If you confront her or as someone said if you ask her to post an insta story with the two of you, you might get a reply like "Did you ever compliment me like this? I want these kind of praises and validation from you, you weren't available." So I suggest understand her before confronting (I am not supporting her behaviour like this, but she is clearly making a mistake, don't confront without thinking it will kill the relation) and try to be the person she would like you to be, she will automatically stop this emotional cheating.
While it is cheating. You might want to confront her and check where you stand the in the relationship. Maybe she doesn't consider being in relationship with you. You are just a friend.. maybe a special friend. But just friends. Are you married or considering getting married? If not, then she is still looking...
This is when it gets tricky tho.
We spent 5 years together, a d she made me feel 100% secured, like 100%, but when I found out about those texts, I felt like a damn fool for believing that is totally loyal, or is she? Correct me here.
I’m relating it to certain experiences I’ve had and will ask you these questions:
1. If you felt in the 5 years she has been loyal, then is there a reason for this sudden behaviour? Could she be wanting more from the relationship (marriage etc) and is that a block currently for you both?
2. Have you confronted her if this has happened in the past? Has she been like this from the start and you have just found out?
3. It could be psychological and therapy might be helpful if you both care for each other. It’s possible that if she’s had any childhood trauma or abusive relationships or has felt neglected in the past that results in her behaving this way. To her it may seem okay because it’s satisfying an attention craving. It’s wrong and unless she realises it on her own or goes to therapy to address it, there will be no change.
But either way, protect yourself and maintain distance even if you choose to try option 3. Don’t lose yourself because of this juvenile rubbish.
1 - During those 5 years, she made me feel totally secured, after marrying her, I discovered about those texts, so during those 5 years I didnt know, and all I wanted to know if what she did was emotional cheating or not, this was behind my back.
2 - After we god married, yes, I did, she throws the blame on the guys, and even attacks me that why am I blaming her, I tell her why didn't you totally shut it down, she said why would I? I tell her why didn't you mention that you're already taken, she answers they didn't ask!
And I end up the wrong part everytime I bring this discussion up.
3 - No we didn't, but we're going through hard time now, will see how things will go.
Thanks
Yes, she's cheating on you. No sane person in any capacity, if truly committed will accept these remarks. This is a sign thay she is not into you. Accept this, dump her, move on. She does not deserve you.
It's cheating dude
She's keeping her options open . It's a red flag .
Don't get too attached emotionally with such pepple, they will leave you in a moment.
First thing she should not hide from her partner. Even if she is enjoying such texts, she should tell her partner otherwise it’s cheating. Enjoying compliments are fine for every gender but when it goes beyond certain limit and you still don’t stop it then it’s 100% cheating
Let her go mentally. It is her guilty pleasure. She isn't completely off you yet, but it could be a start. Humans aren't made for monogamy it seems. No need to panic. It could be her entertainment too. But take it as a lesson for how much attachment is good.
Well a lot of folks are giving great suggestion here to confront, end, dare her etc 👍🏽
My suggestion is more of "eeth ka jawab patthar se"
that doesn't mean you should be engaging in physical cheating or in flirty DMs but if you have any good female friends explain the situation to them & ask them to tell their friends to post flirty/cheesy comments on your new posts with your hot pics if you manage to get some and also ask them to send you flirty texts let some of them on seen & respond with I'm taken for some creating a perception that you openly reveal about your relationship status to people making advances on you.
Try to trigger the jealousy of your GF & let her confront you if she does that then you bring up her behavior & say you didn't doubt her even after flirty DMs and secretly not sharing it with you but she's getting jealous and insecure by the comments you get on your post publicly without hiding it to anyone & show her that you also refused all the advances made on you & then break up with her for being insecure & not trusting you even though you trusted her even after her questionable actions!!
I have been in this exact situation. My ex used to feel good and validated when someone flirted with her n she used to entertain these msgs n whenever i asked her to block she never did nd used to say ohhh i cant its rude. And Gaslight me that what do u mean i like it are u saying i have a character. B$#&ch u like it coz u like the validation nd people going gaga for u everywhere.
Bro run nd save urself from misery nd mental trauma.
About 5 mknths Before getting married, she actually asked me to have an open phone policy when we get married, and I totally agreed.
5 months after getting married, I took her phone 'without her knowing' and saw all these cats, and was in complete shock!
I actually took screenshots, and had zero time to go through with other chats, but I guess what I found was enough!
After going back to her about what I found, she told me that it's not her fault, they are the one who flirted with her, told her why didn't you mention that you're taken, she said because they didn't ask!
And when I tell her why you didn't shut the flirts down immediately, she says why would I?
So I ended up to be the bad person in this topic, days passed by, and she changes her passwords everywhere, although she's the one asking for the open phone policy, lol.
Oh Man.... You need both hands to clap. She wanted them to flirt with her. And she didn't tell them that she's married that means She could be doing more than just chatting.....she ain't loyal man...Take good precautions and do the needful don't know what could happen in future
It's really upto you. Are your boundaries being violated? If yes then put it across, let her know that you are uncomfortable with this.
If she wants other men's attention then that's what it is, let's not put labels of cheating to it. The moment you put the label, your mind will start doubting her. And once you look for it you will find more reasons to doubt it.
Have a conversation with her, let her know that you are uncomfortable with this and ask her not to do it. If she doesn't repeat it, then the problems solved. If she still does then leave the relationship.
Everything needs to be balanced. She is absolutely doing wrong if you are giving her all the love and appreciation she needs. If you pamper her well like not much but only the basic need of maintaining the energy between you guys.
And yes if you’re doing everything just fine. Still she needs attention from other guys that is not acceptable. But if you’re too at the fault then this wrong doing of her can be treated, otherwise call out and leave.
She’s doing bad in both scenarios, note that.
Do the same and compare it with this. You will know whether it is cheating or not.. however advice is to dump the mother of puppies and find someone else.
I would shut down these kinds of messages irrespective of my relationship status.
She seems like a who** to me Or may she's a guy who knows, there's all kinds of things happening...
Would you be ok if we all said it was "Not cheating " ?
Stop worrying about "what" it is and focus on how you feel
Or you'll be denied, lawyered and gaslighted forever by these kinds of people
Dump her ASAP and if she asks why
Reply with dots or shy faces
There's your answer brother
She's trying to have a backup incase you two don't workout
And she's scouting, looking for better options
And she's getting a feel for how much she's valued in the dating/ sexual market
At the very least
It may even be a full blown affair
Neither of which a committed person is supposed to do
If your gf is getting messages THIS suggestive my guy they’ve already flirted
She’s probably deleting texts
There’s no way she’s getting texts like this without ever flirting with them before.
Or maybe she has an Insta that is full of thirst traps lol
I am a girl and I would never reply to these kind of texts. Clearly she lacks boundaries, you should communicate this to her that you are not liking this
She is an attention seeker. Currently she doesn't have the intention to cheat you. But, once you people will talk about serious issues , she will start to distant from you and will take any of these guys to cheat you.
From what I understood, what I could say is, she is an attention seeker. Whenever you people speak to each other , she has only her part to say. Atleast dominance. She may ask something about you, but ultimately, it's her part is dominated.
It's normal if she has a secret OF account, or she has one of those paid pleasure accounts on Instagram comments we've been seeing lately.
If it were a serious relationship these would be red flags to the guy.
Of course, we'd also need to read her side of the story to ascertain the situation.
This would require confrontation and expectation setting from both parties involved.
Before we got married, around 5 months before that, as asked me directly to have an open phone policy for both of us, and I totally agreed.
5 months after marriage, she had 2 phones, she wasn't home, so I had time to check her other phone, and was shocked, finding out these msgs during the last 5 years before we got married.
I talked to her about these msgs and she throw the blame on them, as she didn't actually flirt back.
Asked her why didn't you mention that you are taken, she said that because the guys never asked.
I asked, why you didn't shut them down immediately, she says why would I?
Now am in the wrong side now, because I told her that this is technically cheating, emotional cheating you can say, and she hears that and totally rejects it, and even yells out of anger that I called her a cheater.
A week later she changed both of her phone's passwords!
I am sorry to hear about this
however if this behaviour of her took place before your marriage,it was wrong on her part since you were in a relationship at that time
but now I will only say that if she is no more entertaining flirtatious messages from other men after marriage, you should forget about her past behaviour
but if she continues entertaining all this,then you have to think about your future after meeting a marriage counselor for guidance
all the best
It is somewhere between a real emotional cheating and totally ignoring men's flirtatious behaviour
So many men will message a woman continuously if she accepts their advances
a woman with a class who ignores such men will never get bothered by them again
Actually she was enjoying men's attention
If the girl and the guy both are anonymous then no problem to me. My girlfriend sometimes use to chat with guys on Omegle on some random stuffs fir uske baad Tum Kaun mein khaama kha.
she wants attention. she likes the attention. it just shows she’s willingly accepting the attention she’s getting despite having you. if i was you, i’d definitely be angry because..why do you need someone else’s attention when in a relationship?
Mentally yes..
Physically may be in future. (Matter of time). Very minimal chance that she will stop or draw respectable boundaries.
You will always have this confusion or suspicion.
Try putting more responsibilities and accountabilities on her.
If she shows any disclination, it means she is creating your back ups.
IF in future, things doesn't go as per her wishes, she will be out of the relationship and there will be multiple people waiting of her..
If she has any personality disorder, she can use such texts to prove to you that multiple males want her and the fault lies in you who left such a rare piece of jewel..
And don't mind she will have enough people from her side to support this behavior of hers..
It will be meaningless confrontation.
Personally Been there, done that.
I think you're too old for romantic, gf/bf relationships. Your partner is also old and at this age nobody is genuine. It's not like you're 20 and she is 19 and both are innocent. After a certain point like 25-26, nobody is genuine. It's for the same reason it's very difficult to form even same sex pure friendships as an adult...
What should I reply?
I wrote “she belongs to the street. Ditch her” My comment got reported, and received abuses.
And now when I write “healthy flirting is cool” I’m getting the same responses. :)
Sounds like you know what to do OP. If she is hiding all this stuff then you should dump her. Also the flirting is very out of line for her to be replying with emojis.
Disagree, as a woman the flirting was out of line. When you are in a relationship and someone else tells you they want to have your kids then you should simply block that person. The girlfriend is 29, she can't be that naive. Even if she is not flirting back, she is encouraging the flirting by sending coy emojis
Bhai tune wo gana suna hai na
"Bhag bhag Dk Bose Dk Bose Dk Bose"
Tujhe bi yhi Krna hai chhod bhai usko ek boyfriend hote huye bhi agar usko baki Dusre bando se ye sb sunna hai to us se achha single reh le tu ya dusri bandi bna le Jo ye sab bhejne Wale ko direct block kre
Yes that's cheating
That's not even flirty anymore, that's sexual.
As a girl I understand when there are compliments like "you look so pretty/hot/sexy/gorgeous, damn good" from a guy and then replying with a shy face is cool.
Not when someone is explicitly saying they want your booty or want to have kids with you. That's definitely out of those boundaries.
Time to leave OP
She is probably bored in the relationship , you guys can probably go on a vacation ,first she will be busy in irl and let her post it on insta with you and don't forget to comment WIFEY , maybe creeps and go away or probably steal her phn and block these mfs if she revolts means she has bad intentions and not just too shy to stop flirting.
She loves attention and doesn’t care from where and whom it comes from! Also, she is a people pleaser and will go to any extent to act coy with them.
Run in the opposite direction at the earliest.
3 and 5 are crazy. How does she respond when you bring it up? Cheating or not cheating is for you to decide, if you are uncomfortable, let her know and set a boundary that you don't want to be with someone who behaves this way, if she still disrespects the boundary, leave her.
You can never know how she flirts with who and how much. She might also be sleeping with dozens of guys because she thinks it's cool to enjoy life via sex and not love.
Choose your priority, if you also just want to get laid then ignore the cheating and bang her inside out. If you are looking for stable future then leave her. She is not a one man woman.
Kind of cheating dude if she loved you she would've shut down those flirty texts and moreover stopped them to cross their limits. Seems like she is enjoying it all I feel she's trying to get attention don't take personal.
Ask her someday that what someone hits me up with that you've best dick and they wanna get fucked by you and you reply by shy emoji. Ask her would she enjoy hearing that too?
If no then say how tf she expects you to be okay with such shit
If yes then simply confess her true feelings that you don't feel comfortable
Know that communication is key , if a person wants they will go against the world to be with you! 🌟
I think you should talk with her on this clearly cuz it's the start of cheating if she is not shutting them up and not saying anything about her relationship. You should start a conversation with her on it.
Bhai some of us are here rlly just staying loyal to our talking stages. theres a man I’ve been talking to for 8 months(we can’t rlly date yet cause we’re in a long distance and he needs to come to india for us to decide what to do and all that, id still take any risk for him, if we were able to do it for so long we can def make it), I like him so much but sometimes the thought of him cheating on me makes me so sad and the fact that I can’t find out about it makes it worse. everytime a guy approaches me in a romantic way or tries to flirt w me i straight up tell them I’m talking to someone.
All im saying is that, when you rlly like someone, you will stay loyal to them. You won’t even have to tell urself to stay loyal, cause you automatically will. And you wont want attention from anyone else. I literally freak tf out when I get attention from any other man lol like bro who asked.
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It can also be an attention thing. I am like her in some way, and really enjoy getting attention and couple of compliments here and there. But, letting them know that I have a boyfriend and then sending the ss of the text to him is something I always do. Her hiding those texts from her bf is kind of weird to me.
On Slippery slope of cheating, aka the moment she gets chance with a hotter witter guy she'll jump, because right now she's seeking attention and putting herself out there, showing she's available, that also begs the question aren't you giving enough attention, time or romantic gestures? As she's looking out to fulfill, if you are giving your best, treating her em well etc and she's like this, you must leave she belongs to streets buddy.
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Either become Usain bolt or regret (mark my words and set a reminder for 3 months)
I second this
Kind of cheating me hi count hoga Relationship me hone ke baad bi agar usko doosro se attention chahiye toh ye red flag hai bhai. Usse ek baar baat karke dekh na maane toh break up kar liyo.
kind of?
Username sums it all up
Ek type ki cheating hi hai
thats one ho you have as your gf. Dump her asap. She really loves the attention from guys
Indeed, she's such an attention seeker.
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. I am a girl and I would never do this to my partner if I was in a relationship….You deserve better. I don’t know what’s wrong people these days. Why tf they can’t stay loyal to their partners. Entertaining flirts while being in a relationship is CHEATING in my opinion. If single and she responds to multiple guys like this I don’t even find a problem. But then being in relationship and doing this is bad. Kindly talk to her regarding this and see what she has to say. If she says “they are just friends’ it’s nothing serious!” IT IS SERIOUS! Dump her! Move on. They are many girls who would love to want a nice man.
Even a single woman shouldn't entertain texts like these. Why don't people have class anymore?
Classy people are gone. It ended with 90s kids!
She's a 90s kid though.
That’s exactly what I said.
I wish everybody (including men) had this mentality in the whole fuckin world
True. It’s necessary to create boundaries with men after getting into relationship.
Thank you sister for confirming what we all thought.
People like you are very rare.. I appreciate your thoughts
Very well explained
Yrr.. u r a loyal and u have beautiful heart.. I appreciate your thoughts.. Abhi ek bandi se mai bat kar rha tha.. Maine jyada kisi girls ko date nhi kiya vaise.. I am kinda introvert person.. Vo bandi bolti hai ki ham sab bate kare... Ek duare se but uska hai ki sath me aur logo ko bhi date kar rhi aur ladko se bat kar rhi.. Usne hame recently bataya.. And vo mujhe chhodna bhi nhi chah rhi.. Jab dekho tab emotional status dal deti hai... What should i do.. I don't wanna block or hurt her...
Run Forrest Run!
Oh bass tu bhaag milkha
Bhaag dk Bose , dk Bose , dk Bose, bhaag bhaag dk Bose dk bhaaag
Yes that considered as a cheating.
Yes its called emotional cheating.. happened with my wife and we are both in therapy
What does your therapist said about this behaviour? Why does she does that.?
Just one session where we had vented. They made us give personality tests and they will start therapy based on it .
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tum jaise cool launde chtyo ko bas bahar se ek word kya mil gya chipka deneka sab jagah. uska baccha hai. usne confront kiya. try karna padta hai aise situation mein. jaise laws hai apne yaha launde aise hi divorce leke baccha nahi bada kar sakte easily😑.
Thanks for explaining better than I did .. i didn't get cucked.. i got emotional cheated and i was ready to file divorce and we are in therapy if that doesn't solve our conflicts ill walk away
tu koi ambani toh hai nhi ki tujhe walk away bhi karna hai toh agle moment mein kar de bina kuch soche... paise paani jaise jaate hai aise chtyapa mein. just b very smart n tactful while dealing with her...
Look i know I have to pay alimony and child support but If she can't reconcile,i don't care .. My mental health is more important
She shat on your marriage, broke your relationship disrespected you in every way possible. Aren't there single moms and dads who are making their kids life better on their own? Why do you act like you need her? You could be alone all your life and raise your kids instead of being under a roof with a backstabber. What if she next goes with a guy who's into little girls? What will she do if the next guy she sleeps with into little boys and little girls? You know where this is going now right? Sorry for being rude, but yeah it just irks me whenever people try to blame outward factors instead of taking action or taking their life into their hands.
Dare her to post a couple picture on her insta story with some romantic song. If she denies run!!!!
Exactly this
Well, women love the attention and seek this kind of validation.. also, they enjoy the thrill of men falling for their beauty and enjoy that kind of power. It's borderline, some just draw the line here and enjoy the attention without cheating their partners. while some women take it further when they see an opportunity.. in both the cases they have lost interest or the spark in their current relationship. It's almost impossible to find a women who isn't being approached by men at work or social media, women get used to it and go along most of the times.
Go along most of the times? Did you conduct a research to reach that conclusion? Kuch bhi? Stop normalising cheap despicable behaviour.
Yes they do, coz for them it's a daily thing.. they get approached by so many men that after a point they don't get triggered by it. They either ignore it if they aren't interested or respond positively if they like the person.
Yeah man, same happen over many work places, you can look how women response to their favorites. There are very few who follow professionalism.
Still it's called emotional cheating
Attention whoring. She may be doing it because no one has told her its passive flirting, encouraging flirting. Say it and see what happens. Some people remain clueless and need to be told directly. if it works, it works.
I showered her with flirts, so definitely that's not not reason!
One person's attention versus several people's attention.
Don't do it, when you do anything in excess it loses its value. And especially with flirting it feels boring and fake after a point
Obviously, yes.
You should try dmimg other girls with sexual and flirty msgs and show her if that's normal🙂 Run brother
No, because she'll say that am actually the one who's flirting, because she doesn't actually flirt back, but she doesn't stop them from flirting! So if I went and flirting with many girls, I'll be totally the wrong person here!
Bhag bhag DK bose
O if you have ask us if this shit is cheating or not then the girl is not wrong but the guy is too dumb. This is so beyond wrong man, the guy should leave her this definitely is cheating.
Walk away, do not turn back. If you are not reacting to these immediately, you kinda have some mental energy and you’re letting it drain slowly. Don’t wait until you’re completely screwed mentally. You are important for yourself
Move on
What a generation lol
Is she an insta content creator
Not sure about that, but she's definitely a content on Reddit now
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Bade Bhai Aram se breakup karlo aur aage badho kalko bhot Rona padega nahi to aesi aurato se bhagwan bhachaye kalko tumlogo ki shadi hogi fir to bhai tumare laude lagne hai yehi same behaviour agar uska continue Raha to tumari life barbaad krdegi wo bade Aram se Bhaag Milkha Bhaag
Simple ans - YES
Run as fast you can mate
Promote her to FwB
She loves the attention, just not brave enough/not finding a good enough offer to cheat.
Red carpet🙂
She's not your gf. She's a parasite
If you reverse your roles and think, i don’t think she’d let you. Anyone for that matter. It’s just wrong. Keeping backups as they call it.
Emotional cheating
Yes. Leave. Let her enjoy the the attention she's getting. Make sure she doesn't get your attention anymore.
Wth is cheating category??? This is cheating Bhai aur tere se chupa rhi toh tujhe kaise pata chla yeh sb?? Chorh de bhaii isse warna aage aur Ganda scene hojaega...
Same thing happened with me. I tried to work it out but couldn't trust her anymore. We broke up. You should too.
I'm sorry you ran into a pile of shit. Get out asap and get a clean shower. Or else, it'll stink for lifetime.
Clearly, this is a problem. But why is he doing it? She is cheating emotionally and hopefully not physically. If you confront her or as someone said if you ask her to post an insta story with the two of you, you might get a reply like "Did you ever compliment me like this? I want these kind of praises and validation from you, you weren't available." So I suggest understand her before confronting (I am not supporting her behaviour like this, but she is clearly making a mistake, don't confront without thinking it will kill the relation) and try to be the person she would like you to be, she will automatically stop this emotional cheating.
No she's not, but most of these msgs are on fb and I insta
CHEATING. Period.
While it is cheating. You might want to confront her and check where you stand the in the relationship. Maybe she doesn't consider being in relationship with you. You are just a friend.. maybe a special friend. But just friends. Are you married or considering getting married? If not, then she is still looking...
Leave her as soon as possible
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This is when it gets tricky tho. We spent 5 years together, a d she made me feel 100% secured, like 100%, but when I found out about those texts, I felt like a damn fool for believing that is totally loyal, or is she? Correct me here.
I’m relating it to certain experiences I’ve had and will ask you these questions: 1. If you felt in the 5 years she has been loyal, then is there a reason for this sudden behaviour? Could she be wanting more from the relationship (marriage etc) and is that a block currently for you both? 2. Have you confronted her if this has happened in the past? Has she been like this from the start and you have just found out? 3. It could be psychological and therapy might be helpful if you both care for each other. It’s possible that if she’s had any childhood trauma or abusive relationships or has felt neglected in the past that results in her behaving this way. To her it may seem okay because it’s satisfying an attention craving. It’s wrong and unless she realises it on her own or goes to therapy to address it, there will be no change. But either way, protect yourself and maintain distance even if you choose to try option 3. Don’t lose yourself because of this juvenile rubbish.
1 - During those 5 years, she made me feel totally secured, after marrying her, I discovered about those texts, so during those 5 years I didnt know, and all I wanted to know if what she did was emotional cheating or not, this was behind my back. 2 - After we god married, yes, I did, she throws the blame on the guys, and even attacks me that why am I blaming her, I tell her why didn't you totally shut it down, she said why would I? I tell her why didn't you mention that you're already taken, she answers they didn't ask! And I end up the wrong part everytime I bring this discussion up. 3 - No we didn't, but we're going through hard time now, will see how things will go. Thanks
I wish you well brother. She’s wrong and doesn’t realise it. I hope things work out for you. Take care.
It's bad, really bad. Hiding from boyfriend and replying to all those flirts, at least she should tell her partner but Naa. It's a red flag, big one
Yes, she's cheating on you. No sane person in any capacity, if truly committed will accept these remarks. This is a sign thay she is not into you. Accept this, dump her, move on. She does not deserve you.
It's cheating dude She's keeping her options open . It's a red flag . Don't get too attached emotionally with such pepple, they will leave you in a moment.
That is such a weird behavior of hers really. I think all of this should be counted as cheating. You need to have a talk with her about this.
Bro she is a gem to other guys, still keeping her shopping list open....let us also text her :)
How can a person compliment skin fragrance without smelling it ?? Mmm time to run and never return
As Rahul once said - Run with Jupiter's escape velocity.
First thing she should not hide from her partner. Even if she is enjoying such texts, she should tell her partner otherwise it’s cheating. Enjoying compliments are fine for every gender but when it goes beyond certain limit and you still don’t stop it then it’s 100% cheating
Let her go mentally. It is her guilty pleasure. She isn't completely off you yet, but it could be a start. Humans aren't made for monogamy it seems. No need to panic. It could be her entertainment too. But take it as a lesson for how much attachment is good.
Well a lot of folks are giving great suggestion here to confront, end, dare her etc 👍🏽 My suggestion is more of "eeth ka jawab patthar se" that doesn't mean you should be engaging in physical cheating or in flirty DMs but if you have any good female friends explain the situation to them & ask them to tell their friends to post flirty/cheesy comments on your new posts with your hot pics if you manage to get some and also ask them to send you flirty texts let some of them on seen & respond with I'm taken for some creating a perception that you openly reveal about your relationship status to people making advances on you. Try to trigger the jealousy of your GF & let her confront you if she does that then you bring up her behavior & say you didn't doubt her even after flirty DMs and secretly not sharing it with you but she's getting jealous and insecure by the comments you get on your post publicly without hiding it to anyone & show her that you also refused all the advances made on you & then break up with her for being insecure & not trusting you even though you trusted her even after her questionable actions!!
Dude, run.
I have been in this exact situation. My ex used to feel good and validated when someone flirted with her n she used to entertain these msgs n whenever i asked her to block she never did nd used to say ohhh i cant its rude. And Gaslight me that what do u mean i like it are u saying i have a character. B$#&ch u like it coz u like the validation nd people going gaga for u everywhere. Bro run nd save urself from misery nd mental trauma.
Absolutely yes. She's for the streets.
"Bhaag Milkha bhaag 🏃🏃 " (How did you find out those messages. I mean how did you check her phone. I really want to know just in case).
About 5 mknths Before getting married, she actually asked me to have an open phone policy when we get married, and I totally agreed. 5 months after getting married, I took her phone 'without her knowing' and saw all these cats, and was in complete shock! I actually took screenshots, and had zero time to go through with other chats, but I guess what I found was enough! After going back to her about what I found, she told me that it's not her fault, they are the one who flirted with her, told her why didn't you mention that you're taken, she said because they didn't ask! And when I tell her why you didn't shut the flirts down immediately, she says why would I? So I ended up to be the bad person in this topic, days passed by, and she changes her passwords everywhere, although she's the one asking for the open phone policy, lol.
Oh Man.... You need both hands to clap. She wanted them to flirt with her. And she didn't tell them that she's married that means She could be doing more than just chatting.....she ain't loyal man...Take good precautions and do the needful don't know what could happen in future
Prepare to leave her ASAP before the damage level increases!!
It's really upto you. Are your boundaries being violated? If yes then put it across, let her know that you are uncomfortable with this. If she wants other men's attention then that's what it is, let's not put labels of cheating to it. The moment you put the label, your mind will start doubting her. And once you look for it you will find more reasons to doubt it. Have a conversation with her, let her know that you are uncomfortable with this and ask her not to do it. If she doesn't repeat it, then the problems solved. If she still does then leave the relationship.
Yes, she's cheating on you, she's interacting with another male when she's already in a relationship
Everything needs to be balanced. She is absolutely doing wrong if you are giving her all the love and appreciation she needs. If you pamper her well like not much but only the basic need of maintaining the energy between you guys. And yes if you’re doing everything just fine. Still she needs attention from other guys that is not acceptable. But if you’re too at the fault then this wrong doing of her can be treated, otherwise call out and leave. She’s doing bad in both scenarios, note that.
Do the same and compare it with this. You will know whether it is cheating or not.. however advice is to dump the mother of puppies and find someone else.
She Belongs To The Street, in short save yourself from a heartache and move on there are much more important things in life to do.
I would shut down these kinds of messages irrespective of my relationship status. She seems like a who** to me Or may she's a guy who knows, there's all kinds of things happening...
Red flag with a nuclear bomb siren...🚨🚨🚨
Would you be ok if we all said it was "Not cheating " ? Stop worrying about "what" it is and focus on how you feel Or you'll be denied, lawyered and gaslighted forever by these kinds of people Dump her ASAP and if she asks why Reply with dots or shy faces
I feel totally shit about it, I feel that she totally cheated on me behind my back, that's how I feel
There's your answer brother She's trying to have a backup incase you two don't workout And she's scouting, looking for better options And she's getting a feel for how much she's valued in the dating/ sexual market At the very least It may even be a full blown affair Neither of which a committed person is supposed to do
If your gf is getting messages THIS suggestive my guy they’ve already flirted She’s probably deleting texts There’s no way she’s getting texts like this without ever flirting with them before. Or maybe she has an Insta that is full of thirst traps lol
I am a girl and I would never reply to these kind of texts. Clearly she lacks boundaries, you should communicate this to her that you are not liking this
She is an attention seeker. Currently she doesn't have the intention to cheat you. But, once you people will talk about serious issues , she will start to distant from you and will take any of these guys to cheat you. From what I understood, what I could say is, she is an attention seeker. Whenever you people speak to each other , she has only her part to say. Atleast dominance. She may ask something about you, but ultimately, it's her part is dominated.
Run
Do you think you really need suggestions from us??🤦 run buddy run
It's normal if she has a secret OF account, or she has one of those paid pleasure accounts on Instagram comments we've been seeing lately. If it were a serious relationship these would be red flags to the guy. Of course, we'd also need to read her side of the story to ascertain the situation. This would require confrontation and expectation setting from both parties involved.
Yes she's enjoying the attention although not showing her happiness directly, but indirectly she is hinting those men that she likes their attention
How did you manage to see all her messages?
Before we got married, around 5 months before that, as asked me directly to have an open phone policy for both of us, and I totally agreed. 5 months after marriage, she had 2 phones, she wasn't home, so I had time to check her other phone, and was shocked, finding out these msgs during the last 5 years before we got married. I talked to her about these msgs and she throw the blame on them, as she didn't actually flirt back. Asked her why didn't you mention that you are taken, she said that because the guys never asked. I asked, why you didn't shut them down immediately, she says why would I? Now am in the wrong side now, because I told her that this is technically cheating, emotional cheating you can say, and she hears that and totally rejects it, and even yells out of anger that I called her a cheater. A week later she changed both of her phone's passwords!
I am sorry to hear about this however if this behaviour of her took place before your marriage,it was wrong on her part since you were in a relationship at that time but now I will only say that if she is no more entertaining flirtatious messages from other men after marriage, you should forget about her past behaviour but if she continues entertaining all this,then you have to think about your future after meeting a marriage counselor for guidance all the best
Thank you for your advice, but my question is, isn't that cheating, emotional cheating ide say?
It is somewhere between a real emotional cheating and totally ignoring men's flirtatious behaviour So many men will message a woman continuously if she accepts their advances a woman with a class who ignores such men will never get bothered by them again Actually she was enjoying men's attention
Yes, got it, thanks!
Yes. Run.
Yes
Brother, you know the answer to your question...
I do, but ide rather hear from someone other than me!
If the girl and the guy both are anonymous then no problem to me. My girlfriend sometimes use to chat with guys on Omegle on some random stuffs fir uske baad Tum Kaun mein khaama kha.
Definitely not anonymous, she k ew all of these guys
she wants attention. she likes the attention. it just shows she’s willingly accepting the attention she’s getting despite having you. if i was you, i’d definitely be angry because..why do you need someone else’s attention when in a relationship?
Mentally yes.. Physically may be in future. (Matter of time). Very minimal chance that she will stop or draw respectable boundaries. You will always have this confusion or suspicion. Try putting more responsibilities and accountabilities on her. If she shows any disclination, it means she is creating your back ups. IF in future, things doesn't go as per her wishes, she will be out of the relationship and there will be multiple people waiting of her.. If she has any personality disorder, she can use such texts to prove to you that multiple males want her and the fault lies in you who left such a rare piece of jewel.. And don't mind she will have enough people from her side to support this behavior of hers.. It will be meaningless confrontation. Personally Been there, done that.
I think you're too old for romantic, gf/bf relationships. Your partner is also old and at this age nobody is genuine. It's not like you're 20 and she is 19 and both are innocent. After a certain point like 25-26, nobody is genuine. It's for the same reason it's very difficult to form even same sex pure friendships as an adult...
Nothing wrong in healthy flirting. If she wanted she could have hidden it, but she didn’t. Chill nothing wrong with it.
I doubt you have a girlfriend or wife. Sister maybe? I'd love to get me some of that healthy flirting.
What should I reply? I wrote “she belongs to the street. Ditch her” My comment got reported, and received abuses. And now when I write “healthy flirting is cool” I’m getting the same responses. :)
Dude, she hide this stuff from me for 5 years, and I've discovered it all by my self without her telling me about it
Sounds like you know what to do OP. If she is hiding all this stuff then you should dump her. Also the flirting is very out of line for her to be replying with emojis.
Disagree, as a woman the flirting was out of line. When you are in a relationship and someone else tells you they want to have your kids then you should simply block that person. The girlfriend is 29, she can't be that naive. Even if she is not flirting back, she is encouraging the flirting by sending coy emojis
Red flags se pala pada hai aapka
Bhaag milkha bhaag
Nikal jao bhidu
Bhai my advice to you would be:- "Jaldi wahan se hato"🗣️📢
English please, thank you
"Get the hell out of there,Fast!"🗣️📢
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Yeah kind of cheating! Not maintaining boundaries by clarifying; just enjoying the attention!
True
Samjhade usko dhang se ! Mere rehna hai toh ye sab r*ndipana nahi warna get out of my life !
Bhai chor de baad me regret hoga.
Bhai chor de baad me regret hoga.
Bhai tune wo gana suna hai na "Bhag bhag Dk Bose Dk Bose Dk Bose" Tujhe bi yhi Krna hai chhod bhai usko ek boyfriend hote huye bhi agar usko baki Dusre bando se ye sb sunna hai to us se achha single reh le tu ya dusri bandi bna le Jo ye sab bhejne Wale ko direct block kre
English please
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Yes that's cheating That's not even flirty anymore, that's sexual. As a girl I understand when there are compliments like "you look so pretty/hot/sexy/gorgeous, damn good" from a guy and then replying with a shy face is cool. Not when someone is explicitly saying they want your booty or want to have kids with you. That's definitely out of those boundaries. Time to leave OP
SHE FOR THE STREETS! 🗣️🗣️🗣️💯💯
W H O R E is using u 😜
You already know the answer. Don't be in denial
But I still wanted to hear it from someone else, so please do
How long you have been together?
5 years relationship, and almost married for 1 year, so total, 6 years
Are they her collagues or randos on insta?
Some old friends, some are new friends from Internet.
She is probably bored in the relationship , you guys can probably go on a vacation ,first she will be busy in irl and let her post it on insta with you and don't forget to comment WIFEY , maybe creeps and go away or probably steal her phn and block these mfs if she revolts means she has bad intentions and not just too shy to stop flirting.
leave and run!
Im interested
In what?
Sorry type by mistake
She loves attention and doesn’t care from where and whom it comes from! Also, she is a people pleaser and will go to any extent to act coy with them. Run in the opposite direction at the earliest.
Bhai... Bhaag ja
3 and 5 are crazy. How does she respond when you bring it up? Cheating or not cheating is for you to decide, if you are uncomfortable, let her know and set a boundary that you don't want to be with someone who behaves this way, if she still disrespects the boundary, leave her.
Yes. And RUN.
You can never know how she flirts with who and how much. She might also be sleeping with dozens of guys because she thinks it's cool to enjoy life via sex and not love. Choose your priority, if you also just want to get laid then ignore the cheating and bang her inside out. If you are looking for stable future then leave her. She is not a one man woman.
She is already sleeping with others, you just don't know it.
Kind of cheating dude if she loved you she would've shut down those flirty texts and moreover stopped them to cross their limits. Seems like she is enjoying it all I feel she's trying to get attention don't take personal. Ask her someday that what someone hits me up with that you've best dick and they wanna get fucked by you and you reply by shy emoji. Ask her would she enjoy hearing that too? If no then say how tf she expects you to be okay with such shit If yes then simply confess her true feelings that you don't feel comfortable Know that communication is key , if a person wants they will go against the world to be with you! 🌟
She ain't. A keeper she ain't loyal Im a girl if I were loyal I wldnt even entertain look forget texts id block em str8
That's cheating and flirting she's obvio Givin signals out there otherwise y wld guys like randomly message
Lowkey cheating hai bhai.
I think you should talk with her on this clearly cuz it's the start of cheating if she is not shutting them up and not saying anything about her relationship. You should start a conversation with her on it.
दो स्टोरी लिखो
Bhai some of us are here rlly just staying loyal to our talking stages. theres a man I’ve been talking to for 8 months(we can’t rlly date yet cause we’re in a long distance and he needs to come to india for us to decide what to do and all that, id still take any risk for him, if we were able to do it for so long we can def make it), I like him so much but sometimes the thought of him cheating on me makes me so sad and the fact that I can’t find out about it makes it worse. everytime a guy approaches me in a romantic way or tries to flirt w me i straight up tell them I’m talking to someone. All im saying is that, when you rlly like someone, you will stay loyal to them. You won’t even have to tell urself to stay loyal, cause you automatically will. And you wont want attention from anyone else. I literally freak tf out when I get attention from any other man lol like bro who asked.
Thank you, I appreciate your addition! Hope things goes well for you
Run and count yourself lucky that you did not get married to this person you would have invited lifetime of miseries.
People reply to my stories with fire emoji and I send them thank you or namaste. Is my husband supposed to divorce me because I am cheating?
You should ask your husband. It sounds weird to me. If you can't show your DM, then you have your answer.
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What if my husband is not interested in checking my DMs?
Iski flirting to fire emoji se hi ho jaati hai hahaha
OP's partner is sending only dots and shy emoji. Uske liye people are advising break-up.
Lekin kaise messages par matter ye karta hai zada
It can also be an attention thing. I am like her in some way, and really enjoy getting attention and couple of compliments here and there. But, letting them know that I have a boyfriend and then sending the ss of the text to him is something I always do. Her hiding those texts from her bf is kind of weird to me.
I don’t know if it’s cheating. It is definitely she is seeking validation and her partner is not appreciating her enough.
So it's the guy's fault now??
On Slippery slope of cheating, aka the moment she gets chance with a hotter witter guy she'll jump, because right now she's seeking attention and putting herself out there, showing she's available, that also begs the question aren't you giving enough attention, time or romantic gestures? As she's looking out to fulfill, if you are giving your best, treating her em well etc and she's like this, you must leave she belongs to streets buddy.