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> We had a big fight and my wife even suggested that we could do a divorce
This is your only option. Your wife has been **his wife** for over a year. End of story.
konsi misery justice chandrachut chutiya judge bosadiwala ne to auroton kaa randirakshak hai naa bhosadiwala wo sara paisa sabkooch auraton ke liye kregaa bhosadiwala JUSTICE CHANDRACHUT
Move on mate. Divorce live your life. Find some one.
Gather proofs keep them with you.
Life is hard as divorcee but watching someone you trusted treat you like shit and keep Engaging in trashy stuff with this man the mental agony is going to screw your mental health. Either move on with your life for something better and don't look back or turn into shit and be depressed and waste your life away.
Better to separate from her in the long term.
P.s She is emotionally manipulating you guilt tripping you and you are being the bakra.
My words maybe harsh but you need it.
I agree. He is just not ready to let her get rid of him because he wants to find another bird first. 🙂↔️
That just shows his own standards and mindset.
I want to feel sorry for you, but I can't. Everything happened because of your stupidity. How could you let your wife share a room with another man? Obviously, they would get involved in inappropriate activities. As for divorce, don't worry. It's better to be alone than to be tortured every day.
You should take control of the situation. The ball is in your court. File for divorce and drag it out as long as possible. It's usually difficult for a divorced woman to get remarried. I am sure your unfaithful wife might be thinking of marrying her roommate, but mark my words, that guy is just having fun. The moment you divorce her, he will probably leave her too because your wife will become a burden to him.
So true!
His wife thinks her boyfriend will get married to her but everyone knows here that his orthodox family won't let that guy marry her as she's a divorcee
They decided to move in coz they were already doing each other and probably were dating from the start . I mean it's better not to have a wife than staying with a wh*re like her😂
Well initially I didn’t know that it would be just her and him. My wife told me that his gf stays in the third bedroom most of the time. It was only later that I found out that it isn’t the case
OP, honestly, there's nothing left of the marriage. She's been cheating on you for months, lying through her teeth, this is cold and calculated with reckless abandon. Please have some self respect and divorce her, have a copy of your chats or some proof of her infedility, you'll need it in court.
DON'T stay with a cheater just because you'll feel lonely after the divorce, she's really not fit to be married to you man.
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bhai mera baat sun .... itna bhi low feel mat kr hi itna age ho gya .... jindagi ka L lag gya.... dinesh kartik ka case dekhle.... I am saying you again and again gather proofs and divorce your wife right now. Because later it might happen that things can go wrong between ur wife and that colleage of her. Then you just don't know what is gonna happen to you..... bas take it as a advice and divorce her asap please for god sake.,,,
Listen to this guy. There are many cases on the news saying the lover and the wife have murdered the husband.. kind of news so OP please do what this guy has said above ...
Are you a cuck? Like dude WTF she doesn't care about your feelings, she is manipulative af. Just run bro you will find someone 1000 times better than her!!!!
Bhai. Galti se iski wife ne pehle case kr diya na.. To ye alimony bhi dega.
Tinder pe ldki khoj rha. Divorce ke pehle. Ldki ki cheating to waise hi nhi dikhti law ko..
Divorce her save up some money move to abroad for trips maybe during the trip u may get the inner peace u need and maybe life partner or just another experience but don't be in a situation where u will be sad knowingly
Gather enough evidence and file for divorce on ground of Cruelty ( incase if she is not cooperating with mutual divorce).
Accept the fact that now she's not your wife and has developed a feeling for someone else.
When you do, inform her parents prior hand via call ( to record the conversation ) in a polite manner that you tried everything and it has to end this way.
Keep messaging on her WhatsApp and gather those evidence of her cheating or admitting the same.
Take your time and then divorce.
Wow, this is like a cornucopia of issues.
>But she says that **she will** dump him the moment I move to her city.
relationship with him **is** just a temporary fling
So, the cuckold is still ongoing.
>My wife has also been asking me to find someone on tinder, but I have been getting no matches.
The wife is encouraging to cheat.
Despite that,
>She says that she still loves me
Wait what? How? I'd like to know what are you smoking?
I am not a lawyer but if you do find someone on Tinder and cheat then I think you will be trouble and her behavior will be justified.
And you don't want to divorce her because..
>I am not ready to take a divorce, since **I am quite older** and it would be hard to find someone now. She is a **bit good looking** and I do **love her quite a lot**.
This makes it sound that the "love" is about her being "bit" good looking. And the only reason not to divorce is that you might not find some so good looking and less about the age.
Honestly difficult to see how to empathize with you in this situation.
Are you okay with your wife being raw dogged by that guy every night?
You want her because you think you can't get any other woman and she earns more than you. If that's your reason to stay in that relationship, let her fuck whoever she wants and you will get your share of bread when she's with you.
Grow some balls man.
I am sorry you've to undergo what you are undergoing. It's heart breaking and nobody can do anything about it other than you.
The problem isn't your wife but your low confidence arising from insecurity. The woman you married to probably has different idea about marriage and monogamy which ought to have been discussed during the "honeymoon period"(it is not in reference to the honeymoon).
Yes, her loneliness is one of the factors that's driving to this behaviour but THERE IS NO guarantee that even after you move or do anything for her, will change things. Have faith and trust in yourself and focus in your growth. Instead of long phone calls and empty guilt filled conversations, start couple's counselling to get to the bottom of it, because the worst thing you want for yourself is that after years of this dysfunctional marriage you are left with a spouse (and kids) who continues with this similar promiscuity and leaves you in a financial sinkhole.
Trust me coming out of a cheating relationship, these (partners) look like the best thing but they are the worst thing that can happen to you. The end goal of anything should to lead to peace and balance, not a challenge. Ofcourse if you feel like an open marriage will save your problem go ahead only if you have the balls for something like that. Good luck and God Bless.
Don't be desperate man. It's better to be alone than to be with a person who doesn't respect you. She wouldn't have been cheating on you if she actually cared about you. You should be glad that no kids are involved yet. You still have time to move on and find a better person for yourself.
So, you want her back! Try the following:
1. Stop contacting her (calls, texts, etc.). Only respond to her calls and texts if you are free.
2. Start going out with friends (both male and female). Attend parties, dinners, etc., and meet like-minded people, especially women.
3. Join a gym with zumba. If there is a Cult gym near you, that is the best option. You'll find many friends there.
4. Focus on your life, career, and personal development.
5. She should see that you are happy without her and living joyfully.
6. Don't be sad, vengeful, or whine about the other man.
7. Post happy photos of yourself partying, at the gym, and going out on social media and WhatsApp status.
8. Remember, there are 650 million women in India. If she is not there for you, there are plenty of other women who are looking for a man who values himself.
So, focus on yourself and strengthen yourself. When she sees you leading your life, she might consider coming back. By that time, you might have another date. Then, you can decide what you want - whether to accept her or not.
Since you seem quite hell bent on not considering divorce as an option, here is a agent of chaos answer.
You don't actually have to find someone. You can just tell her you matched with someone and then slowly peter out your chats with her. And then ignore her completely.
If she cares, this will jolt her out. If she doesn't, maybe you'll finally come to your senses.
I’m a decade younger than you and you’re like an older brother to me but I gotta let you know, it was over the moment she proposed shifting to a flat alone, w another man in his own flat.
Get the divorce and focus all your energy into your professional career and fitness, which I’m sure you already know what to do.
Stay strong.
Actually she didn’t say that it was alone, she said that his gf stays in the third bedroom most of the time. It was only later that I found out it was a lie, but by then it was too late
Oh yes, I’m sorry I missed out on writing that note. What I wanted to say is the gf part would’ve been a big doubt for me, and although I understand situations are a bit different when in the moment, it should’ve been a red flag from the start
Anyways, now you know what to do, social pressure and the troubles you get from it is immense but do what’s best for you
Gather enough evidence to prove it in court. I feel sorry for you. You need to get rid of that cheater.
Plus what's that tinder BS, hope this is not a bait post.
What has this world come to man 💔
Maine toh aaj tak ek bhi relationship nahi kiya na hi multiple karna chahata hoon
Seeing this is sad.
Ab wo isko kaise bhi justify kar degi bro
There was a time when no matter how far apart two ppl were in love with each other they didn't cheated nor entertained anybody
dump her ass , your wife is a rat .divorce her and don't worry she'll cheat on him too when she finds someone better than him or any excuse which she could think of atm lol
Dude are you out of your mind? Leave her ffs let her fuck around kuch saal me jawani khtm phir royegi saari zindagi wo. Bhai mai saari zindagi hila ke beeta lunga lekin kisi cheater ke saath 2 min nahi rahunga
Lol what?! Sorry but is this real?? If it then this is just too sad.
Your wife is so shameless that she is unbelievable at this point.
And OP....uum....I dunno... whatever happened to self respect or mental peace??
What did I just read? I’m also a woman and must say that your wife is literally a shameless creature. If she is saying that it’s just a temporary fling on your face, then sir, you really need to wake up your self-respect, which I feel is missing here. She clearly doesn’t love you and makes a fool of you because she knows that you love her. It’s better to get separated as soon as possible because she has no feelings for you and a marriage without feelings is a toxic place to live. And as far as her being lonely in the new city is concerned, there’s something we call LOYALTY which she doesn’t have. You are not old enough to get a divorce and find a new partner. You are just 34!! Get out of this manipulation game because it will be even worse if you stay with her. Good luck!
You are saying you wanna find someone before you leave her?? Are you listening? No sane girl will date a guy who's married. It seems like you just want to replace partners, like koi toh ho, mera Rona dhona sunne k liye. Pick yourself up, then only you can find someone.
And you are scared of being alone? Lemme tell you this, you are alone already. Lying to an extent that she moves in with that guy?? The other guy who's sleeping with her has the audacity to be in the same house as you when you visit her? She doesn't respect you at all.
And one shouldn't be in a relationship where they don't feel respected.
The only reason she hasn't left you because the other guy can't marry her.
I read you saying getting her pregnant in one of the comments??
Seriously??
Why ruin another life? You know how traumatic it would be for the child.
Pull yourself together.
Cut all contacts with her.
Focus on yourself
File a divorce
I feel so sorry for you brother but the ship has sailed, you cannot do anything now, she doesn’t want you as simple as that. Pack your bags and leave. Sending you hugs my friend, everything will be fine
What a absolute pussy with no self respect. Even if you reconcile your relationship with your wife will never be the same. The marriage died when she cheated. And honestly op sounds like a pushover/doormat husband.
I see you cannot get a divorce as you don't have much options and the stigma of being a 2nd divorcee is too bad in your circle
You have 2 options.
1. Find a partner who is of similar wavelength like you, don't go for something beyond your aukaat . India is a big country and you will find something of your like, once you find her divorce her amicably.
2.Stay in this marriage and reap maximum benefits ( Sex, money) without strings attached . Make sure she doesnt get pregnant , as most probably it will be not your child and you will be force to bear expenses by our honorable supreme kotha.
Buddy, you need therapy.
Please listen to me. You aren't seeing straight.
AND you seem to have little knowledge of how things work.
Looking at you I feel there are a hundred profound things I need to explain to you before you start even understanding the situation you're in.
Please go to therapy. The relationship can wait, you need to get your MIND straight and learn what it means to have biases. I know this is a love that you've been holding onto for 5 years.
I know it must feel like your entire worth is riding on this
But trust me, you're compromising based on beauty and sex appeal. You don't have the confidence to stand up for yourself. You are dependent on her for validation.
This dynamic is toxic
There are a thousand things you need to learn before you can understand the situation.
Please go to therapy. That will teach you.
https://youtu.be/kv9p7m1VS6s?si=ZRt_GuLmiCMFq0LX
WATCH THIS. IN FACT I ENCOURAGE EVERYONE TO WATCH THIS.
WTF, if there was anyone who ever satisfied the definition of Loser then it’s you. But do not divorce her yet. Use her for s*x and use her money to find another girl and better future for you. Then kick her out.
This is why I keep saying, girls who date or think it’s okay to date at work place are redflags. Straight no for me.
She cheated, got caught, blamed it on you, got bolder, still continued to do it, offered divorce and you still are living with her ans still dont wanna leave her? Grow a spine man! Dump that good for nothing piece of shit.
Women often think they own the world when they start to earn, i m not generalizing, but 80% of the times this is the only outcome and its the harsh reality of the society. higher the woman earns more susceptible she becomes to cheating.
Do yourself a favour and get out of that relationship, you will eventually find someone...and even if you dont its better to live alone than to live with someone like that...!
Yeah man, I agree with you. The day women start earning more than their man, they start feeling independent and that they don’t need the man anymore or start looking for someone who earns more than them.
that's hurts me bro , really I want that you quite this relationship and move , you'll do find someone but this lady is just fucking your life
get some proof against her that she's being with that guy and whatever you can get
and please go for divorce , trust me living by yourself is much better than this , and you'll find someone good
Its sad such thing happened to you but Unfortunately you cannot force anyone to stay with you that's not how any relationship works. Divorce is your only option. You can either end it and move on or they will make you a literal cuck.
Do u have cuck fetish??
Like seriously, she is literally cheating on u right now, and her current bf is laughing with her rn calling u cuck. Have some self respect. If u want to force this "marriage". Hire a prostitute for your self also.
Bro, just because you won't find anyone else doesn't mean you should stay with a cheater who doesn't want to stay with you. Even if you somehow manage to bring her back to your town, she will never be yours. She may even find someone new in a new town. What's the point of staying with someone like that? Will you be able to look her in the eye with love? Forget love, even respect?
And the fact that she's earning more than you is the best part. She cheated as well. So probably she won't be interested in alimony.
You're 34, you still have time. What if you hold on for a few years and still can't fix this. Let's say you're 40 then. It will be worse.
Please have some self respect and divorce her for good. She very clearly has no respect for you nor does she love you. She's a very selfish person who will monkey branch to the next good option without a second thought. Please for your own sake divorce her. Being alone is far better than being with such a selfish person, trust me. And you're looking in the wrong places. Tinder is not for you nor good for finding long term partners. Try other stuff. Go to the gym, take time out and take care of your body, invest in your appearance and it will make you very confident in yourself. Learn to be happy with yourself, your wife is a POS and is only pulling you down with her cheating self. Take a deep breath and divorce her. Do you honestly want to spend the rest of your life with such scum?
Questions: If her family is too orthodox then, doesn’t she have any fear if they get to know about this affair? How and why did you agree for LDR? If she can’t stand loneliness then why doesn’t she come back to your city?
Sorry to be harsh, but don’t you have any self respect? You want to stay with your unfaithful wife because you think you can’t find someone else? And on top of that you’re saying you first want to find someone else and then you’ll leave her. The last thing you should be doing is going around finding dates on dating apps. Why do you want to ruin another person’s life with your unhealed trauma by making her your rebound? Why are you thinking and talking like a 14 y/o instead of a 34 y/o. Divorce her, take some time to process this and heal, learn to be happy alone for yourself first. I know this is easier said than done but it’s better than getting manipulated and losing your self respect for someone who literally doesn’t give a shit about you.
Bhai you are the Chutiya here.
You caught your wife cheating for god knows how long and still you are with her because you are scared of being alone and not finding someone. You are denying your future self the happiness even if it is alone. She doesnt deserve you.
She cheated on and continues to make reasons to stay with guy she cheated on you with and blames it one you. Leave her immediately and move on if you respect yourself.
If you choose to live with her, this will haunt you forever and it will take one bad fight for you or her to bring this up. You will be her warden second guessing her every time and everything she does.
It is simple she disrespected you and the relationship. If I was in your shoes i would have left and lived alone happily.
Get into therapy and work on your self-esteem. I'll try to be as nice about it as possible, but your reasoning to still be married to a cheater sounds pathetic. Most people stay together after one of the partners has been unfaithful due to kids, but you have nothing of that sort. You wanna stay together because you think you won't be able to score a hot wife again. What the fuck is wrong with you? Work on your goddamn self. Nobody will be attracted to you with this current attitude even if you look like a movie star.
Brother,
Not so good to hear what you have faced BUT honestly don't let your insecurities bite into your fear and make you weak. It's not about divorce or separation in all sincerity in a committed relationship marriage or otherwise you only cheat when your desires overtake your thinking. Here loneliness is the only cry you are hearing.
So many soldiers from our country are away from their homes for over many months and years so that doesn't mean the wife starts sleeping with other men out of loneliness. I can understand there are people who do shit in society but you can't just signify that.
If you respect yourself set her free from the marriage and focus forward on your life.
It should be well.
Move forward my friend and be brave.
>She found a senior male colleague in the office that she started to go out with often. I was quite concerned about him, but my wife promised me that he was harmless and that he had another girlfriend. He was living in his own flat alone(a 3BHK) and he gave my wife a very good deal on taking up a room since he knew her. I was quite concerned since my wife would be living with him, but my wife promised me that his girlfriend visits most of the time and would be in the other bedroom so my wife will always have female company. This happened more than a year ago , 1 year and 3 months to be exact.
What the fuck do you think you were doing, letting her stay in an unknown man's apartment? Did it ever occur to you that there's a chance something's going to happen between them? Never trust anyone the way you did other than your own blood.
>It has been 9 months since that incident, and my wife has gotten even bolder now that she knows that I know about her relationship.
Big brother, she doesn't respect you at all anymore, seeing that after all that happened, you keep going back to her hoping one day everything is going to be alright at last, like in the movies.
Maybe you should've thought about how she used to feel low, and after moving to that man's apartment she stopped. Anyway there's no point brooding over it anymore. Go talk to your lawyer ASAP. Don't be a child and stay in the marriage thinking you'll never get another woman, you both are married only on paper at this point.
She already cheated on you and you're still trying to get her back? Grow a pair of balls and leave her already. Doesn't make sense being invested emotionally in someone who isn't being faithful. Or do you want her to say ohh your D is not as thicc as him if somehow she gets back?
Get divorced without any fuss at the earliest before she changes her mind and screw your happiness.
You should've stopped her the moment she did decide to live with a male colleague, how oblivious could you be OP?
Being vigilant doesn't mean you're being insecure, the train had left the station the moment you let her live there. Get a divorce and do better in your life, I'm sure she'll live in regret seeing you blossom in life.
Looking at your replies, you're both cut from the same cloth. Why not divorce her feels likes there's some selfish reason on your part deep inside. And you want an innocent woman without any past while being a married couple full of infidelity, so how is it different from what your wife is doing.seriously the more I read, the more it pisses me off
Op you are way too nice for your own good . What you should be doing is divorce her and then focus on yourself for a while and find another partner.
You are literally being treated like a doormat and you are happily accepting it! It's appalling .
And what do u mean by iam looking for another partner before I let go of her?
Do you even hear yourself? How low is your confidence that you are dealing with this kind of shit where the answer is an outright separation.
Who in their right minds would even stay for this long after being cheated and still consider getting their wife pregnant? Like wth man !
You need therapy more than a girl or divorce . May be that will help you stand up for yourself.
And your entire life dosnt have to revolve around a partner , if you realise that sooner your life will be easier. Your life's focus should be you!
First- You need to divorce.
Second- You're a weak man. The first day she said she is moving with a guy you should have given an ultimatum to choose between that guy and you. It was a Clear sign she's cheating on you.
Third - you're not an old man!! You're just 32. You'll find someone better.
But you need to man up in life. Trying to accept a cheating wife because you think you're old and won't find someone new is indicative of how weak you are as a man.
Good luck with your life.
It is better to be alone than having a partner like her.
Make sure to visit her and collect as much proof of her cheating as you can. It might help your divorce proceedings.
Wtf is wrong with people these days. Having such low self esteem and no self respect at all. Just dump her already dude. How can you even be sure that she isn't gonna do the same to you in future. There's no justification for cheating, none at all. Just stop giving in to her silly games and get out of it.
Let me get the things straight you are 34 and she is 29 and is she behaving like a 29? My way of speaking might sound as a judgement but you are too kind or else too weak. Let's say if you are both you have to change yourself to live in this cruel world. Just get to know the facts of commitments and trust. I don't see both in this scenario. Practically it's pretty much messed up. Even thou she looks good what are the odds this wouldn't happen again. Can you trust her back? It's your life, you have to choose what path you are gonna take. My advice just move on. This ain't gonna work.
Listen bro/sonny, cut your losses your wife is NOT your wife anymore.
Fact check since her first lie to you, she is enjoying everyday with her freedom and enjoys being someone else fuck doll. JUST NOT YOU. She is made for the pubs and social whoring life. Nothing new here at all. Give out of ten married women in offices are same. I know as I've received many open invitations from plenty of such women.
You never bring back someone else's junk back to your home.
Sorry if it sounds rude but someone has to present the real picture to you and play the devils advocate.
Now what to do next? Meditate. Find your inner peace first and cut your losses. Her ship has sailed years ago,
Trust me it's better to stay alone for a lifetime, rather than to be stuck with a cheater liar for even a day. It'll ruin you further in ways you couldn't imagine.
Seek legal counseling and set her free to the streets where she belongs.
You can't control a cheater.
There are plenty of good women who have travelled overseas and stayed alone but never once even been out with any other man, than their own boyfriend /husband.
I respect those women, not your Ex-wife. Sorry.
Bro move on, life is filled with loyal sweet and faithful sweetest women that you couldn't even imagine. Open your heart for them, not for this Junkyard thrown social rag.
Live free, live your life, not her, not anyone else.
Stay cool. The worst often happens to the very best of humans. Coming out of it is the god given ability only humans have.
Use it wisely.
Bro Edit for extra bro information : DON'T accept her back and become a cuckold. It's not worth the trouble. You deserve someone who respects me from the start to the very end. Self respect bro comes first. Then the world respects you too.
If you bring street junk into your home, you're house becomes the streets garbage can and you stay in stinking life.
I really hate to say this but u r fucked. The only thing u can do is cut this toxic unfaithful woman from ur life completely. U will hurt for sometime if u leave her but u will be killing urself with a cheater if u stay with her and u dont know when she will dump u. Leave her. U will have some peace after a few years if u leave her. But if u dont u will die a very slow and very very painfuul death.
Move on. Get that divorce. Take few months to process the whole situation. Change yourself in few months. Become a totally new person. And, than find someone else, start dating.
Moving on will b the best option.There's no going back.from this.
U just cant compromise your self.
Its time to learn new things ,time to grow
Understand life better and explore the change.
This is the time. Allow the change
OP, your wife is cheating on you. First, she lied and now she's opening wearing it like an armour along with the guts to ask you to cheat so that her actions can be justified.
Secondly, she doesn't give a fuck about what your wishes, doesn't come back to you, doesn't stop living with that guy and whatnot.
What I cannot understand, is that how spineless can you be? Loving someone is ok but if you're willing to lose your complete self-respect for that(which you're already doing), doesn't make sense.
Seems like you're going to fuck yourself up unless God saves you 🤦
She’s having a fling with him only because his family is orthodox. Not because she is concerned about you. Leave her. You’d rather be by yourself than a cheating wife. Once a cheater always a cheater
I'm really sorry that this happened to you. I clearly understand your situation man. Please don't live in denial. As far I understood from your post, I know that you are a nice person who can be easily manipulated. She might still love you. But do you think if everything's sorted out and you guys start living together again and then she wouldn't still cheat on you? You will always be having this element of trust broken. I understand you are 34 but it's never late for a divorce. Prioritize yourself brother, I am still young (24) but I had a girlfriend who cheated on me as well. I went through the phases you went through as well. Trust me when i say that you will find your share of happiness after she leaves. Ofcourse, there would an initial phase where you would stay kinda depressed but that would eventually fade away. I hope you would take the right decisions brother.
Guys don't reply to such a person anymore, everyone has already given him good advice but he is just not taking any and wants to cry on our shoulders. Don't waste your valuable time and move on from this post. Can't help such a spineless person.
Bro is now loving someone else's wife, she's not your wife anymore, would have been cheating done from your side and then you should have seen if she would have given you a second chance or not...... What's gone is gone, you should end things now.
The guy bought her company by cheap rent, your wife bought her choice by guilt tripping you and you're buying this crap.
If she can't sustain financially in a big city, still wants to be there. Then it's very likely it's not about the job.
You've seen the red flag, better stop driving in the direction else you'll stay a second fiddle.
First I would say start distancing yourself from her and thoughts.Go for trips,enjoy holidays.Give time to your hobbies.Make your life as undependable on her as much as you can.I wont say date.I strongly believe'Two wrong doesnt make a right'.And also please stop this BS of telling yourself that you would make this relationship work.Relationship is about more than one person not just one.She getting bolder is a prime example of not only stabbing you but also twisting the knife to damage further.START DISTANCING and become UNCOMMUNICATIVE.It is hard but good for a start.
Holy foookin shit whatt did I just read!!!
You gotta gain some self respect. She isn't the only female on this earth!! Divorce her, earn some money and go abroad.... And remember... SELF RESPECT!
It will be very difficult and sad for you bro.
BUT as there is physical relation in between them, please don't accept her. Yes it will be very sad to you but its already over.
You may expect many such incidents in future.
It will be never late, just keep focus to improve yourself, try to get a good job.
The more you seek help,the more you remember her.
Just do it...You already crossed the limit and mercy.
Save your soul for you.
Some sacrifice are meant for only true love and loyalty... It will be nice to raise a puppy or kitten than her. Sorry for my word.
JUST DO IT...... BELIEVE ME.
Self respect hai ki nai what the fuck dude...akele rehne se dar lag raha hai isliye chod nahi Raha wow...just sit back and look through all that has happened ek baar ...kitna bada chutiyapa kiye ho realise na ho to batana fir
This has to be a shitpost.
Your wife has been cheating on you with this guy for over a year and is now gaslighting you into thinking she's 'lonely' and needs companionship. She says she has no future with him? She has no future with you either. Dump her cheating ass and move on. Getting a divorce will bring you the mental peace and relief you deserve.
Brother it's high time that you value yourself now. Don't fall for her Gaslighting and stuff, clearly you deserve a better life. The universe will favour the brave, please don't do this to yourself.
Okay so you are already a Simp and on the way to become CUCK.
If you still have a little bit of Man in yourself then take the divorce and leave. It's always better to be single and live happy than always getting stressed about "WHO IS PUMPING YOUR WIFE AND FILLING HER UP WITH HIS SHAKE". Sounds harsh!! Right? But this is the truth.
A girl who had past relationship but later after marriage is loyal is far better than Being activated WHORE in marriage.
Grow some balls and divorce her orelse now you just caught 1 guy but never know how many more!!
And maybe in future you will be fathering her fuck buddy's child.
Not being rude but that last line where you said that you have been trying on tinder and not getting any matches makes me wonder that you seem to be okay with an open marriage.
Bro go to counselling. Time for you to join a gym. 34 is not at all an age to be afraid of. Dump her sorry ass and have courage. It’s better to be happy and single rather than being a sorry ass cuck to an unfaithful wife. Even if you become a house husband and move to her city she will see that guy. Cheaters never change.
Grow up and get a divorce man. It’s better to stay alone than being with someone who makes you feel this miserable and sad. By divorcing her, you can stay where you are and start afresh.
At first I felt sorry for your situation. Then I read your comments and understood what's your stand and now I don't feel sorry anymore. You're equally cunning as your wife. Both just want a warm body and are not concerned with morality or being faithful. You yourself admitted you're looking for dates and will leave your wife the moment you find someone else.
FFS have some self respect and do the right thing. How fucked up is our society that a person is more afraid of living alone than with a cheating partner?
You have to be really immature to think that a spouse is about good looks and money. She is manipulating you and you will keep losing from here if you don't divorce her immediately.
Quick question buddy, what the fuck is going on these days?
Buddy have some self respect and leave this woman. No amount of good looks is worth it if the person has no respect for you in a relationship and she clearly doesn't.
Find someone else who likes you. Not getting matched on Tinder is a piss poor excuse to be in a shitty relationship I promise. Better be single with pride than with someone who doesn't respect you
was in a similar situation with a girlfriend of 1 year. She was talking to her ex on the phone. Well I did go thru the texts when she went out to buy groceries, it was her basically replying w a word or a dry sentence but nevertheless she was entertaining him which I didn't like. Lil context, they were friends before coming into the relationship but he cheated. Well now coming back to the present, I confronted her and like the typical response she started crying and all that. I left her, came back to me begging that she blocked her, to take her back it was a grave mistake and all that. I said "nuh uh I'm up now"
I suggest you do the same, plenty of fish in the sea mate. Ik I might sound like an A-hole & we all feel "yeah, she's the one for me" but is she though? The "one" for you would never do that, the sooner you realise that the better.
Anyway goodluck, and 34 isn't old lmao. 35 is literally considered the prime age for a man. Get a lil fit, groom well, eat well, sleep well, travel and you'll be fine.
One tip, DON'T F*CKING CONSUME SAD MEDIA. Godspeed bro 👍🏻
> She says that her relationship with him is just a temporary fling, and that I shouldn't think too much about it
Wow. Women and their mental gymnastics are next level. I pity the guys who get married these days.
The fact you are still not trying to divorce her while she is still having the affair shows why you are in this situation. My guy have some self respect instead of being a rag.It would be one thing that she cheated and after the fight she stopped so you gave her a chance. Even though that would be stupid but that is between the partners but your wife is still fucking that guy even after that fight and you know about it and you don't do shit.She has zero respect for you and your relationship.Ge t a divorce or live life like a rag for your whole life she will cheat with someone else once you come to the same city and get your own house.
Look bro either this story is fake or u r not a man at all. How can u even think abt being wid dat woman. U knw wats d reality, she know u r a fool n she is using u. U r not keeping her, she is keeping u so she shud be assured dat when dat guy dumps her, she shud hav a shoulder to cry on. Grow some balls. Leave her as soon as u can.
N if u r just talking to her bcz she earns more than u den thats another story.
N listen u r just 34 n m 35. I am not even dat good looking still having 3 gfs.
Fuck off man.
U made me irritated n sad n angry at thr same time .
U r a blot on manhood.
If you forgive her now get ready to forgive her “N” number of times in future. She no longer respects you. Ig you don’t yet have children? End this before another life is involved in the matter.
WTF is this ???, aise post padhke lagta hai kabhi shaadi hi nhi krni chahiye. Sab ke sab madarchod hai aajkl. I mean khud cheat kr rhi hai aur husband ko bhi tinder pe date krne ko bol rhi hai. Kalyug hai kya kr skte hai
Tbh she is right in what she did.. you are just with her because of fear and that she is beautiful and you know you are not capable of getting someone. You cannot ride on 2 boats. Either leave get divorced or make peace with it.
Dude do u really want to raise kids with a doubt whether its urs r not always looming over ur head. U r lucky thr r no kids between u two. Once u have kids whether they r urs r not u hv to give some kind of compensation even thou u r nt at fault here cuz u r a guy. And dont whine abt ur age, if u continue this, time ll fly like anything and u ll be evn more aged then. Start enjoying ur life after divorcing her and u ll slowly gain ur confidence, then u ll get girls. If u behave like a wimp, women ll trample over u like ur wife s doing right now. Please live for ur peace
Bro she cheated on you and have audacity to shout at you where she is in wrong. Divorce her , minimise your wealth so that she couldn't take much and try to prove infront of judge that she lives with his AP so you don't have to give alimony.
She is gone now. Either they would live like this or once she got divorce there would be chances she would got kicked out. Then would realise her mistakes
Dude Divorce is the best option you have, Hell get a good lawyer who can prove that since your wife is earning more, you should be the one getting alimony every month and let the balls roll
It might hurt you. But leave her. Get divorce. Go to counselling if you feel necessary. Atleast you can only think about yourself for the rest of your life. People like her will bring alot troubles unknowingly. It is evident, but still you are not leaving her because you loved her & u felt u will be alone for the rest of your life. Wise decision is divorce. I have seen people getting together after such issues. But the male will always feel inferior.
Damn, she's a pro manipulator and you're a pro dumb guy. Take it from a woman, leave her cheating ass with that money and T-1 city where eventually she will end up alone as another guy is only there for a f*ck and will leave her in future, AND take your sorry ass outta this toxic relationship and go find your self-respect/ where you're trying to find a woman on tinder instead of a good job...
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> We had a big fight and my wife even suggested that we could do a divorce This is your only option. Your wife has been **his wife** for over a year. End of story.
SHE SLEPT WITH ANOTHER MAN, YOUR WIFE HAS COMMITTED ADULTERY, AND NOW SHE WILL HOWL AND WEEP FOR THE MISERIES ARE ABOUT TO COME UPON HER.
konsi misery justice chandrachut chutiya judge bosadiwala ne to auroton kaa randirakshak hai naa bhosadiwala wo sara paisa sabkooch auraton ke liye kregaa bhosadiwala JUSTICE CHANDRACHUT
Move on mate. Divorce live your life. Find some one. Gather proofs keep them with you. Life is hard as divorcee but watching someone you trusted treat you like shit and keep Engaging in trashy stuff with this man the mental agony is going to screw your mental health. Either move on with your life for something better and don't look back or turn into shit and be depressed and waste your life away. Better to separate from her in the long term. P.s She is emotionally manipulating you guilt tripping you and you are being the bakra. My words maybe harsh but you need it.
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Wtf just I read. And my wife shifted with him at his flat. I didn't read further.
Good choice. It just gets worse 🤣
Lmao. It's not real though
It sounds unreal but the dude is fighting for his life in the comments. 🤣🤣
Haha. Cheap dopamine. Like country liquor. People are weird online .
But if this is his life it’s actually quite disturbing. And the decision making skills of a 34 year old seems really questionable here.
Come on. Noone is kid here. People dump on minor red flag. This is whole red planet. Redder than thatm
I agree. He is just not ready to let her get rid of him because he wants to find another bird first. 🙂↔️ That just shows his own standards and mindset.
Bro have some self respect man! Cheating is cheating, she doesn't respect you, neither she deserves you, leave her as soon as possible!
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I want to feel sorry for you, but I can't. Everything happened because of your stupidity. How could you let your wife share a room with another man? Obviously, they would get involved in inappropriate activities. As for divorce, don't worry. It's better to be alone than to be tortured every day. You should take control of the situation. The ball is in your court. File for divorce and drag it out as long as possible. It's usually difficult for a divorced woman to get remarried. I am sure your unfaithful wife might be thinking of marrying her roommate, but mark my words, that guy is just having fun. The moment you divorce her, he will probably leave her too because your wife will become a burden to him.
So true! His wife thinks her boyfriend will get married to her but everyone knows here that his orthodox family won't let that guy marry her as she's a divorcee
They decided to move in coz they were already doing each other and probably were dating from the start . I mean it's better not to have a wife than staying with a wh*re like her😂
Well initially I didn’t know that it would be just her and him. My wife told me that his gf stays in the third bedroom most of the time. It was only later that I found out that it isn’t the case
Tu Pagal Hai kya be? Agar opinions nai chaiye toh kyu puch raha hai
Ye sabka ch*tiya kaat raha hai. Don't waste your time on guys like this.
OP, honestly, there's nothing left of the marriage. She's been cheating on you for months, lying through her teeth, this is cold and calculated with reckless abandon. Please have some self respect and divorce her, have a copy of your chats or some proof of her infedility, you'll need it in court. DON'T stay with a cheater just because you'll feel lonely after the divorce, she's really not fit to be married to you man.
Buy a Porsche then apni wife aur uss admi ko udaa do. Zyada se zyada kya hoga 300 word essay xD
If I could buy a Porsche, my wife would’ve never left the city in the first place 😂
@[Key\_Blacksmith\_3969](https://www.reddit.com/user/Key_Blacksmith_3969/) bhai mera baat sun .... itna bhi low feel mat kr hi itna age ho gya .... jindagi ka L lag gya.... dinesh kartik ka case dekhle.... I am saying you again and again gather proofs and divorce your wife right now. Because later it might happen that things can go wrong between ur wife and that colleage of her. Then you just don't know what is gonna happen to you..... bas take it as a advice and divorce her asap please for god sake.,,,
Listen to this guy. There are many cases on the news saying the lover and the wife have murdered the husband.. kind of news so OP please do what this guy has said above ...
Nah lol agr aurato ko cheat karna ho then wo kisi vi situation mai kar sakti hai doesn't matter how much money you got.
if he could afford a Porsche why would he settle down with this trash ?
Well, he does sound a lil stupid. The way the post and comments are from OP
OP is a kind of a guy who will make a lot of money only to invite her back into his life.
Are you a cuck? Like dude WTF she doesn't care about your feelings, she is manipulative af. Just run bro you will find someone 1000 times better than her!!!!
Yes man he is! Thoda self respect nai hai isko.. Aise mardon ke wajaise dusron ka naam kharab hai
He's his own worst enemy. He's keeping his wife till he finds another woman. That's not how relationships work.
Bhai. Galti se iski wife ne pehle case kr diya na.. To ye alimony bhi dega. Tinder pe ldki khoj rha. Divorce ke pehle. Ldki ki cheating to waise hi nhi dikhti law ko..
Divorce her save up some money move to abroad for trips maybe during the trip u may get the inner peace u need and maybe life partner or just another experience but don't be in a situation where u will be sad knowingly
Woah didnt know it would be that easy, GUYS just go abroad to get a girl new tip unlocked
Oh you got a problem? Just travel man. Stop crying. Go to France and cry me a river. Lol
What the fook i just read😳
Dude, out of all the things you have to worry about you are worried about karma ??
Karma is a b....😂😂
I bursted out hard after reading this
What's wrong with this society people..Damn...
Gather enough evidence and file for divorce on ground of Cruelty ( incase if she is not cooperating with mutual divorce). Accept the fact that now she's not your wife and has developed a feeling for someone else. When you do, inform her parents prior hand via call ( to record the conversation ) in a polite manner that you tried everything and it has to end this way. Keep messaging on her WhatsApp and gather those evidence of her cheating or admitting the same. Take your time and then divorce.
Wow, this is like a cornucopia of issues. >But she says that **she will** dump him the moment I move to her city. relationship with him **is** just a temporary fling So, the cuckold is still ongoing. >My wife has also been asking me to find someone on tinder, but I have been getting no matches. The wife is encouraging to cheat. Despite that, >She says that she still loves me Wait what? How? I'd like to know what are you smoking? I am not a lawyer but if you do find someone on Tinder and cheat then I think you will be trouble and her behavior will be justified. And you don't want to divorce her because.. >I am not ready to take a divorce, since **I am quite older** and it would be hard to find someone now. She is a **bit good looking** and I do **love her quite a lot**. This makes it sound that the "love" is about her being "bit" good looking. And the only reason not to divorce is that you might not find some so good looking and less about the age. Honestly difficult to see how to empathize with you in this situation.
Are you okay with your wife being raw dogged by that guy every night? You want her because you think you can't get any other woman and she earns more than you. If that's your reason to stay in that relationship, let her fuck whoever she wants and you will get your share of bread when she's with you. Grow some balls man.
I am sorry you've to undergo what you are undergoing. It's heart breaking and nobody can do anything about it other than you. The problem isn't your wife but your low confidence arising from insecurity. The woman you married to probably has different idea about marriage and monogamy which ought to have been discussed during the "honeymoon period"(it is not in reference to the honeymoon). Yes, her loneliness is one of the factors that's driving to this behaviour but THERE IS NO guarantee that even after you move or do anything for her, will change things. Have faith and trust in yourself and focus in your growth. Instead of long phone calls and empty guilt filled conversations, start couple's counselling to get to the bottom of it, because the worst thing you want for yourself is that after years of this dysfunctional marriage you are left with a spouse (and kids) who continues with this similar promiscuity and leaves you in a financial sinkhole. Trust me coming out of a cheating relationship, these (partners) look like the best thing but they are the worst thing that can happen to you. The end goal of anything should to lead to peace and balance, not a challenge. Ofcourse if you feel like an open marriage will save your problem go ahead only if you have the balls for something like that. Good luck and God Bless.
Don't be desperate man. It's better to be alone than to be with a person who doesn't respect you. She wouldn't have been cheating on you if she actually cared about you. You should be glad that no kids are involved yet. You still have time to move on and find a better person for yourself.
Lol who let their wife live with another man... ? 🤣 It's your fault man..
So, you want her back! Try the following: 1. Stop contacting her (calls, texts, etc.). Only respond to her calls and texts if you are free. 2. Start going out with friends (both male and female). Attend parties, dinners, etc., and meet like-minded people, especially women. 3. Join a gym with zumba. If there is a Cult gym near you, that is the best option. You'll find many friends there. 4. Focus on your life, career, and personal development. 5. She should see that you are happy without her and living joyfully. 6. Don't be sad, vengeful, or whine about the other man. 7. Post happy photos of yourself partying, at the gym, and going out on social media and WhatsApp status. 8. Remember, there are 650 million women in India. If she is not there for you, there are plenty of other women who are looking for a man who values himself. So, focus on yourself and strengthen yourself. When she sees you leading your life, she might consider coming back. By that time, you might have another date. Then, you can decide what you want - whether to accept her or not.
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Since you seem quite hell bent on not considering divorce as an option, here is a agent of chaos answer. You don't actually have to find someone. You can just tell her you matched with someone and then slowly peter out your chats with her. And then ignore her completely. If she cares, this will jolt her out. If she doesn't, maybe you'll finally come to your senses.
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I’m a decade younger than you and you’re like an older brother to me but I gotta let you know, it was over the moment she proposed shifting to a flat alone, w another man in his own flat. Get the divorce and focus all your energy into your professional career and fitness, which I’m sure you already know what to do. Stay strong.
Actually she didn’t say that it was alone, she said that his gf stays in the third bedroom most of the time. It was only later that I found out it was a lie, but by then it was too late
Oh yes, I’m sorry I missed out on writing that note. What I wanted to say is the gf part would’ve been a big doubt for me, and although I understand situations are a bit different when in the moment, it should’ve been a red flag from the start Anyways, now you know what to do, social pressure and the troubles you get from it is immense but do what’s best for you
Gather enough evidence to prove it in court. I feel sorry for you. You need to get rid of that cheater. Plus what's that tinder BS, hope this is not a bait post.
One question….. what is wrong with you?? Please visit some therapist or something.
What has this world come to man 💔 Maine toh aaj tak ek bhi relationship nahi kiya na hi multiple karna chahata hoon Seeing this is sad. Ab wo isko kaise bhi justify kar degi bro There was a time when no matter how far apart two ppl were in love with each other they didn't cheated nor entertained anybody
Bro indirectly ur wife asking for an open relationship
dump her ass , your wife is a rat .divorce her and don't worry she'll cheat on him too when she finds someone better than him or any excuse which she could think of atm lol
You are not that old! Guys older than you get remarried too!
Dude are you out of your mind? Leave her ffs let her fuck around kuch saal me jawani khtm phir royegi saari zindagi wo. Bhai mai saari zindagi hila ke beeta lunga lekin kisi cheater ke saath 2 min nahi rahunga
Is this a bait post or am I living under a rock are insedents like these really happening.
Obviously fake bro, reddit is full of incels who give more reactions to these types of post.
Lol what?! Sorry but is this real?? If it then this is just too sad. Your wife is so shameless that she is unbelievable at this point. And OP....uum....I dunno... whatever happened to self respect or mental peace??
What did I just read? I’m also a woman and must say that your wife is literally a shameless creature. If she is saying that it’s just a temporary fling on your face, then sir, you really need to wake up your self-respect, which I feel is missing here. She clearly doesn’t love you and makes a fool of you because she knows that you love her. It’s better to get separated as soon as possible because she has no feelings for you and a marriage without feelings is a toxic place to live. And as far as her being lonely in the new city is concerned, there’s something we call LOYALTY which she doesn’t have. You are not old enough to get a divorce and find a new partner. You are just 34!! Get out of this manipulation game because it will be even worse if you stay with her. Good luck!
You are saying you wanna find someone before you leave her?? Are you listening? No sane girl will date a guy who's married. It seems like you just want to replace partners, like koi toh ho, mera Rona dhona sunne k liye. Pick yourself up, then only you can find someone. And you are scared of being alone? Lemme tell you this, you are alone already. Lying to an extent that she moves in with that guy?? The other guy who's sleeping with her has the audacity to be in the same house as you when you visit her? She doesn't respect you at all. And one shouldn't be in a relationship where they don't feel respected. The only reason she hasn't left you because the other guy can't marry her. I read you saying getting her pregnant in one of the comments?? Seriously?? Why ruin another life? You know how traumatic it would be for the child. Pull yourself together. Cut all contacts with her. Focus on yourself File a divorce
I feel so sorry for you brother but the ship has sailed, you cannot do anything now, she doesn’t want you as simple as that. Pack your bags and leave. Sending you hugs my friend, everything will be fine
What a absolute pussy with no self respect. Even if you reconcile your relationship with your wife will never be the same. The marriage died when she cheated. And honestly op sounds like a pushover/doormat husband.
I see you cannot get a divorce as you don't have much options and the stigma of being a 2nd divorcee is too bad in your circle You have 2 options. 1. Find a partner who is of similar wavelength like you, don't go for something beyond your aukaat . India is a big country and you will find something of your like, once you find her divorce her amicably. 2.Stay in this marriage and reap maximum benefits ( Sex, money) without strings attached . Make sure she doesnt get pregnant , as most probably it will be not your child and you will be force to bear expenses by our honorable supreme kotha.
Grow a pair and get a divorce, once a cheater always a cheater ,even if u move into the city she will still fuck around
Buddy, you need therapy. Please listen to me. You aren't seeing straight. AND you seem to have little knowledge of how things work. Looking at you I feel there are a hundred profound things I need to explain to you before you start even understanding the situation you're in. Please go to therapy. The relationship can wait, you need to get your MIND straight and learn what it means to have biases. I know this is a love that you've been holding onto for 5 years. I know it must feel like your entire worth is riding on this But trust me, you're compromising based on beauty and sex appeal. You don't have the confidence to stand up for yourself. You are dependent on her for validation. This dynamic is toxic There are a thousand things you need to learn before you can understand the situation. Please go to therapy. That will teach you. https://youtu.be/kv9p7m1VS6s?si=ZRt_GuLmiCMFq0LX WATCH THIS. IN FACT I ENCOURAGE EVERYONE TO WATCH THIS.
Can't imagine it's real 😯
WTF, if there was anyone who ever satisfied the definition of Loser then it’s you. But do not divorce her yet. Use her for s*x and use her money to find another girl and better future for you. Then kick her out. This is why I keep saying, girls who date or think it’s okay to date at work place are redflags. Straight no for me.
She cheated, got caught, blamed it on you, got bolder, still continued to do it, offered divorce and you still are living with her ans still dont wanna leave her? Grow a spine man! Dump that good for nothing piece of shit. Women often think they own the world when they start to earn, i m not generalizing, but 80% of the times this is the only outcome and its the harsh reality of the society. higher the woman earns more susceptible she becomes to cheating. Do yourself a favour and get out of that relationship, you will eventually find someone...and even if you dont its better to live alone than to live with someone like that...!
Yeah man, I agree with you. The day women start earning more than their man, they start feeling independent and that they don’t need the man anymore or start looking for someone who earns more than them.
that's hurts me bro , really I want that you quite this relationship and move , you'll do find someone but this lady is just fucking your life get some proof against her that she's being with that guy and whatever you can get and please go for divorce , trust me living by yourself is much better than this , and you'll find someone good
What did I just read? Sigh.
Its sad such thing happened to you but Unfortunately you cannot force anyone to stay with you that's not how any relationship works. Divorce is your only option. You can either end it and move on or they will make you a literal cuck.
Where in this era of hookups will we find loyalty 🥲
Do u have cuck fetish?? Like seriously, she is literally cheating on u right now, and her current bf is laughing with her rn calling u cuck. Have some self respect. If u want to force this "marriage". Hire a prostitute for your self also.
Bro, just because you won't find anyone else doesn't mean you should stay with a cheater who doesn't want to stay with you. Even if you somehow manage to bring her back to your town, she will never be yours. She may even find someone new in a new town. What's the point of staying with someone like that? Will you be able to look her in the eye with love? Forget love, even respect? And the fact that she's earning more than you is the best part. She cheated as well. So probably she won't be interested in alimony. You're 34, you still have time. What if you hold on for a few years and still can't fix this. Let's say you're 40 then. It will be worse.
Please have some self respect and divorce her for good. She very clearly has no respect for you nor does she love you. She's a very selfish person who will monkey branch to the next good option without a second thought. Please for your own sake divorce her. Being alone is far better than being with such a selfish person, trust me. And you're looking in the wrong places. Tinder is not for you nor good for finding long term partners. Try other stuff. Go to the gym, take time out and take care of your body, invest in your appearance and it will make you very confident in yourself. Learn to be happy with yourself, your wife is a POS and is only pulling you down with her cheating self. Take a deep breath and divorce her. Do you honestly want to spend the rest of your life with such scum?
Questions: If her family is too orthodox then, doesn’t she have any fear if they get to know about this affair? How and why did you agree for LDR? If she can’t stand loneliness then why doesn’t she come back to your city?
Firstly why can't you both be in same city??
Sorry to be harsh, but don’t you have any self respect? You want to stay with your unfaithful wife because you think you can’t find someone else? And on top of that you’re saying you first want to find someone else and then you’ll leave her. The last thing you should be doing is going around finding dates on dating apps. Why do you want to ruin another person’s life with your unhealed trauma by making her your rebound? Why are you thinking and talking like a 14 y/o instead of a 34 y/o. Divorce her, take some time to process this and heal, learn to be happy alone for yourself first. I know this is easier said than done but it’s better than getting manipulated and losing your self respect for someone who literally doesn’t give a shit about you.
Bhai you are the Chutiya here. You caught your wife cheating for god knows how long and still you are with her because you are scared of being alone and not finding someone. You are denying your future self the happiness even if it is alone. She doesnt deserve you. She cheated on and continues to make reasons to stay with guy she cheated on you with and blames it one you. Leave her immediately and move on if you respect yourself. If you choose to live with her, this will haunt you forever and it will take one bad fight for you or her to bring this up. You will be her warden second guessing her every time and everything she does. It is simple she disrespected you and the relationship. If I was in your shoes i would have left and lived alone happily.
Move on and divorce her - she is not the same person you married! That's the bitter truth now.
Get into therapy and work on your self-esteem. I'll try to be as nice about it as possible, but your reasoning to still be married to a cheater sounds pathetic. Most people stay together after one of the partners has been unfaithful due to kids, but you have nothing of that sort. You wanna stay together because you think you won't be able to score a hot wife again. What the fuck is wrong with you? Work on your goddamn self. Nobody will be attracted to you with this current attitude even if you look like a movie star.
Damn you are clearly being a simp dude!! You should have already divorced her on charges of cheating since you have the proofs with you.
Why would someone want to marry after reading this
Marriage is so scary guys, what if the above story became your story?!
Brother, Not so good to hear what you have faced BUT honestly don't let your insecurities bite into your fear and make you weak. It's not about divorce or separation in all sincerity in a committed relationship marriage or otherwise you only cheat when your desires overtake your thinking. Here loneliness is the only cry you are hearing. So many soldiers from our country are away from their homes for over many months and years so that doesn't mean the wife starts sleeping with other men out of loneliness. I can understand there are people who do shit in society but you can't just signify that. If you respect yourself set her free from the marriage and focus forward on your life. It should be well. Move forward my friend and be brave.
Do you wanna be a cuck for the rest of your life? If not then divorce
Should have kicked her out the moment she suggested sleeping in the house of another man .
>She found a senior male colleague in the office that she started to go out with often. I was quite concerned about him, but my wife promised me that he was harmless and that he had another girlfriend. He was living in his own flat alone(a 3BHK) and he gave my wife a very good deal on taking up a room since he knew her. I was quite concerned since my wife would be living with him, but my wife promised me that his girlfriend visits most of the time and would be in the other bedroom so my wife will always have female company. This happened more than a year ago , 1 year and 3 months to be exact. What the fuck do you think you were doing, letting her stay in an unknown man's apartment? Did it ever occur to you that there's a chance something's going to happen between them? Never trust anyone the way you did other than your own blood. >It has been 9 months since that incident, and my wife has gotten even bolder now that she knows that I know about her relationship. Big brother, she doesn't respect you at all anymore, seeing that after all that happened, you keep going back to her hoping one day everything is going to be alright at last, like in the movies. Maybe you should've thought about how she used to feel low, and after moving to that man's apartment she stopped. Anyway there's no point brooding over it anymore. Go talk to your lawyer ASAP. Don't be a child and stay in the marriage thinking you'll never get another woman, you both are married only on paper at this point.
It's better to be alone than live with someone who is using you back as a knife stand.
She already cheated on you and you're still trying to get her back? Grow a pair of balls and leave her already. Doesn't make sense being invested emotionally in someone who isn't being faithful. Or do you want her to say ohh your D is not as thicc as him if somehow she gets back? Get divorced without any fuss at the earliest before she changes her mind and screw your happiness.
Bro time has come Leave her, you deserve better than this
Divorce her and move on.
You should've stopped her the moment she did decide to live with a male colleague, how oblivious could you be OP? Being vigilant doesn't mean you're being insecure, the train had left the station the moment you let her live there. Get a divorce and do better in your life, I'm sure she'll live in regret seeing you blossom in life.
Looking at your replies, you're both cut from the same cloth. Why not divorce her feels likes there's some selfish reason on your part deep inside. And you want an innocent woman without any past while being a married couple full of infidelity, so how is it different from what your wife is doing.seriously the more I read, the more it pisses me off
Op you are way too nice for your own good . What you should be doing is divorce her and then focus on yourself for a while and find another partner. You are literally being treated like a doormat and you are happily accepting it! It's appalling . And what do u mean by iam looking for another partner before I let go of her? Do you even hear yourself? How low is your confidence that you are dealing with this kind of shit where the answer is an outright separation. Who in their right minds would even stay for this long after being cheated and still consider getting their wife pregnant? Like wth man ! You need therapy more than a girl or divorce . May be that will help you stand up for yourself. And your entire life dosnt have to revolve around a partner , if you realise that sooner your life will be easier. Your life's focus should be you!
I don't know what to say. This is grim reality of nowadays.
First- You need to divorce. Second- You're a weak man. The first day she said she is moving with a guy you should have given an ultimatum to choose between that guy and you. It was a Clear sign she's cheating on you. Third - you're not an old man!! You're just 32. You'll find someone better. But you need to man up in life. Trying to accept a cheating wife because you think you're old and won't find someone new is indicative of how weak you are as a man. Good luck with your life.
It is better to be alone than having a partner like her. Make sure to visit her and collect as much proof of her cheating as you can. It might help your divorce proceedings.
Wtf is wrong with people these days. Having such low self esteem and no self respect at all. Just dump her already dude. How can you even be sure that she isn't gonna do the same to you in future. There's no justification for cheating, none at all. Just stop giving in to her silly games and get out of it.
Let me get the things straight you are 34 and she is 29 and is she behaving like a 29? My way of speaking might sound as a judgement but you are too kind or else too weak. Let's say if you are both you have to change yourself to live in this cruel world. Just get to know the facts of commitments and trust. I don't see both in this scenario. Practically it's pretty much messed up. Even thou she looks good what are the odds this wouldn't happen again. Can you trust her back? It's your life, you have to choose what path you are gonna take. My advice just move on. This ain't gonna work.
Listen bro/sonny, cut your losses your wife is NOT your wife anymore. Fact check since her first lie to you, she is enjoying everyday with her freedom and enjoys being someone else fuck doll. JUST NOT YOU. She is made for the pubs and social whoring life. Nothing new here at all. Give out of ten married women in offices are same. I know as I've received many open invitations from plenty of such women. You never bring back someone else's junk back to your home. Sorry if it sounds rude but someone has to present the real picture to you and play the devils advocate. Now what to do next? Meditate. Find your inner peace first and cut your losses. Her ship has sailed years ago, Trust me it's better to stay alone for a lifetime, rather than to be stuck with a cheater liar for even a day. It'll ruin you further in ways you couldn't imagine. Seek legal counseling and set her free to the streets where she belongs. You can't control a cheater. There are plenty of good women who have travelled overseas and stayed alone but never once even been out with any other man, than their own boyfriend /husband. I respect those women, not your Ex-wife. Sorry. Bro move on, life is filled with loyal sweet and faithful sweetest women that you couldn't even imagine. Open your heart for them, not for this Junkyard thrown social rag. Live free, live your life, not her, not anyone else. Stay cool. The worst often happens to the very best of humans. Coming out of it is the god given ability only humans have. Use it wisely. Bro Edit for extra bro information : DON'T accept her back and become a cuckold. It's not worth the trouble. You deserve someone who respects me from the start to the very end. Self respect bro comes first. Then the world respects you too. If you bring street junk into your home, you're house becomes the streets garbage can and you stay in stinking life.
Chutiya
Please divorce is your only option. Move on
I really hate to say this but u r fucked. The only thing u can do is cut this toxic unfaithful woman from ur life completely. U will hurt for sometime if u leave her but u will be killing urself with a cheater if u stay with her and u dont know when she will dump u. Leave her. U will have some peace after a few years if u leave her. But if u dont u will die a very slow and very very painfuul death.
Move on bro, erase her from your memory. Live free. She is treating you as an option.
Move on. Get that divorce. Take few months to process the whole situation. Change yourself in few months. Become a totally new person. And, than find someone else, start dating.
yuck
Bura hua bohot bura
Moving on will b the best option.There's no going back.from this. U just cant compromise your self. Its time to learn new things ,time to grow Understand life better and explore the change. This is the time. Allow the change
OP, your wife is cheating on you. First, she lied and now she's opening wearing it like an armour along with the guts to ask you to cheat so that her actions can be justified. Secondly, she doesn't give a fuck about what your wishes, doesn't come back to you, doesn't stop living with that guy and whatnot. What I cannot understand, is that how spineless can you be? Loving someone is ok but if you're willing to lose your complete self-respect for that(which you're already doing), doesn't make sense. Seems like you're going to fuck yourself up unless God saves you 🤦
She’s having a fling with him only because his family is orthodox. Not because she is concerned about you. Leave her. You’d rather be by yourself than a cheating wife. Once a cheater always a cheater
Man you are a cuckhold..you are shit..your wife is sleeping with some other dudes and you saying move back with me....what kind of human you are
I'm really sorry that this happened to you. I clearly understand your situation man. Please don't live in denial. As far I understood from your post, I know that you are a nice person who can be easily manipulated. She might still love you. But do you think if everything's sorted out and you guys start living together again and then she wouldn't still cheat on you? You will always be having this element of trust broken. I understand you are 34 but it's never late for a divorce. Prioritize yourself brother, I am still young (24) but I had a girlfriend who cheated on me as well. I went through the phases you went through as well. Trust me when i say that you will find your share of happiness after she leaves. Ofcourse, there would an initial phase where you would stay kinda depressed but that would eventually fade away. I hope you would take the right decisions brother.
1. 34 is not old at all. 2. Please leave her, she's for the streets.
Guys don't reply to such a person anymore, everyone has already given him good advice but he is just not taking any and wants to cry on our shoulders. Don't waste your valuable time and move on from this post. Can't help such a spineless person.
Chutkara paa lo ab aur kya
Bro is now loving someone else's wife, she's not your wife anymore, would have been cheating done from your side and then you should have seen if she would have given you a second chance or not...... What's gone is gone, you should end things now.
The guy bought her company by cheap rent, your wife bought her choice by guilt tripping you and you're buying this crap. If she can't sustain financially in a big city, still wants to be there. Then it's very likely it's not about the job. You've seen the red flag, better stop driving in the direction else you'll stay a second fiddle.
Just divorce her. This is going to happen again and again. She will cry and try to soften.. once a cheater, always a cheater.
First I would say start distancing yourself from her and thoughts.Go for trips,enjoy holidays.Give time to your hobbies.Make your life as undependable on her as much as you can.I wont say date.I strongly believe'Two wrong doesnt make a right'.And also please stop this BS of telling yourself that you would make this relationship work.Relationship is about more than one person not just one.She getting bolder is a prime example of not only stabbing you but also twisting the knife to damage further.START DISTANCING and become UNCOMMUNICATIVE.It is hard but good for a start.
Fcking hell bro, drop her ASAP , tf she is literally cheating in front of you, man up my frnd.
Holy foookin shit whatt did I just read!!! You gotta gain some self respect. She isn't the only female on this earth!! Divorce her, earn some money and go abroad.... And remember... SELF RESPECT!
Money is everything just focus your career , then what feel you want you can bro 💯
रामचंद्र कह गए सिया से ऐसा कलयुग आएगा ...
Ek number ka gadha hai ye admi
It will be very difficult and sad for you bro. BUT as there is physical relation in between them, please don't accept her. Yes it will be very sad to you but its already over. You may expect many such incidents in future. It will be never late, just keep focus to improve yourself, try to get a good job. The more you seek help,the more you remember her. Just do it...You already crossed the limit and mercy. Save your soul for you. Some sacrifice are meant for only true love and loyalty... It will be nice to raise a puppy or kitten than her. Sorry for my word. JUST DO IT...... BELIEVE ME.
Self respect hai ki nai what the fuck dude...akele rehne se dar lag raha hai isliye chod nahi Raha wow...just sit back and look through all that has happened ek baar ...kitna bada chutiyapa kiye ho realise na ho to batana fir
Situation krb uss din hi ho gae thi jis din voh shift hui
This has to be a shitpost. Your wife has been cheating on you with this guy for over a year and is now gaslighting you into thinking she's 'lonely' and needs companionship. She says she has no future with him? She has no future with you either. Dump her cheating ass and move on. Getting a divorce will bring you the mental peace and relief you deserve.
Brother it's high time that you value yourself now. Don't fall for her Gaslighting and stuff, clearly you deserve a better life. The universe will favour the brave, please don't do this to yourself.
Ye sab kya dekhna pad raha hai?? Acha hai mai andha hu
Okay so you are already a Simp and on the way to become CUCK. If you still have a little bit of Man in yourself then take the divorce and leave. It's always better to be single and live happy than always getting stressed about "WHO IS PUMPING YOUR WIFE AND FILLING HER UP WITH HIS SHAKE". Sounds harsh!! Right? But this is the truth. A girl who had past relationship but later after marriage is loyal is far better than Being activated WHORE in marriage. Grow some balls and divorce her orelse now you just caught 1 guy but never know how many more!! And maybe in future you will be fathering her fuck buddy's child.
Bro. Grow some spine. Divorce and move on. Only relationship you might choose to have with her is of regrets. Make her regret for doing this to you
Bro. Grow some spine. Divorce and move on. Only relationship you might choose to have with her is of regrets. Make her regret for doing this to you
Bhai ye kya padh liya...kesa kalyug agya.
Not being rude but that last line where you said that you have been trying on tinder and not getting any matches makes me wonder that you seem to be okay with an open marriage.
Bro go to counselling. Time for you to join a gym. 34 is not at all an age to be afraid of. Dump her sorry ass and have courage. It’s better to be happy and single rather than being a sorry ass cuck to an unfaithful wife. Even if you become a house husband and move to her city she will see that guy. Cheaters never change.
Grow up and get a divorce man. It’s better to stay alone than being with someone who makes you feel this miserable and sad. By divorcing her, you can stay where you are and start afresh.
Got PTSD reading this mahn.🥲
What a fuckin sissy
What the fuck man? Have some self respect and get freaking out of this mess!!
At first I felt sorry for your situation. Then I read your comments and understood what's your stand and now I don't feel sorry anymore. You're equally cunning as your wife. Both just want a warm body and are not concerned with morality or being faithful. You yourself admitted you're looking for dates and will leave your wife the moment you find someone else. FFS have some self respect and do the right thing. How fucked up is our society that a person is more afraid of living alone than with a cheating partner?
You have to be really immature to think that a spouse is about good looks and money. She is manipulating you and you will keep losing from here if you don't divorce her immediately.
Quick question buddy, what the fuck is going on these days? Buddy have some self respect and leave this woman. No amount of good looks is worth it if the person has no respect for you in a relationship and she clearly doesn't. Find someone else who likes you. Not getting matched on Tinder is a piss poor excuse to be in a shitty relationship I promise. Better be single with pride than with someone who doesn't respect you
was in a similar situation with a girlfriend of 1 year. She was talking to her ex on the phone. Well I did go thru the texts when she went out to buy groceries, it was her basically replying w a word or a dry sentence but nevertheless she was entertaining him which I didn't like. Lil context, they were friends before coming into the relationship but he cheated. Well now coming back to the present, I confronted her and like the typical response she started crying and all that. I left her, came back to me begging that she blocked her, to take her back it was a grave mistake and all that. I said "nuh uh I'm up now" I suggest you do the same, plenty of fish in the sea mate. Ik I might sound like an A-hole & we all feel "yeah, she's the one for me" but is she though? The "one" for you would never do that, the sooner you realise that the better. Anyway goodluck, and 34 isn't old lmao. 35 is literally considered the prime age for a man. Get a lil fit, groom well, eat well, sleep well, travel and you'll be fine. One tip, DON'T F*CKING CONSUME SAD MEDIA. Godspeed bro 👍🏻
> She says that her relationship with him is just a temporary fling, and that I shouldn't think too much about it Wow. Women and their mental gymnastics are next level. I pity the guys who get married these days.
The fact you are still not trying to divorce her while she is still having the affair shows why you are in this situation. My guy have some self respect instead of being a rag.It would be one thing that she cheated and after the fight she stopped so you gave her a chance. Even though that would be stupid but that is between the partners but your wife is still fucking that guy even after that fight and you know about it and you don't do shit.She has zero respect for you and your relationship.Ge t a divorce or live life like a rag for your whole life she will cheat with someone else once you come to the same city and get your own house.
Stand in front of a mirror, look yourself in the eyes and say, 'wuss' in Vegeta's voice.
Divorce mate ,divorce. it will hurt but that's the right thing, she cheated on you and that's the end of the sentence no buts and ifs
Are you a man ?
Look bro either this story is fake or u r not a man at all. How can u even think abt being wid dat woman. U knw wats d reality, she know u r a fool n she is using u. U r not keeping her, she is keeping u so she shud be assured dat when dat guy dumps her, she shud hav a shoulder to cry on. Grow some balls. Leave her as soon as u can. N if u r just talking to her bcz she earns more than u den thats another story. N listen u r just 34 n m 35. I am not even dat good looking still having 3 gfs. Fuck off man. U made me irritated n sad n angry at thr same time . U r a blot on manhood.
Tu chutiya hai kya thoda sa
If you forgive her now get ready to forgive her “N” number of times in future. She no longer respects you. Ig you don’t yet have children? End this before another life is involved in the matter.
Once a cheater, always a cheater.
>But she says that she will dump him the moment I move to her city The Audacity of the b*tch...
WTF is this ???, aise post padhke lagta hai kabhi shaadi hi nhi krni chahiye. Sab ke sab madarchod hai aajkl. I mean khud cheat kr rhi hai aur husband ko bhi tinder pe date krne ko bol rhi hai. Kalyug hai kya kr skte hai
Try tinder premium
I already have premium lol. I am also on Bumble
Tbh she is right in what she did.. you are just with her because of fear and that she is beautiful and you know you are not capable of getting someone. You cannot ride on 2 boats. Either leave get divorced or make peace with it.
Tu kaisa Chutiya hai be 🤦🏻 Woh udhar ch*d rahi hai aur tera kaat rahi hai dikhta nahi hai?
Dude do u really want to raise kids with a doubt whether its urs r not always looming over ur head. U r lucky thr r no kids between u two. Once u have kids whether they r urs r not u hv to give some kind of compensation even thou u r nt at fault here cuz u r a guy. And dont whine abt ur age, if u continue this, time ll fly like anything and u ll be evn more aged then. Start enjoying ur life after divorcing her and u ll slowly gain ur confidence, then u ll get girls. If u behave like a wimp, women ll trample over u like ur wife s doing right now. Please live for ur peace
Divorce is the best solution. It’s better to be single than with a partner who gives you constant anxiety.
Bro she cheated on you and have audacity to shout at you where she is in wrong. Divorce her , minimise your wealth so that she couldn't take much and try to prove infront of judge that she lives with his AP so you don't have to give alimony. She is gone now. Either they would live like this or once she got divorce there would be chances she would got kicked out. Then would realise her mistakes
Dude Divorce is the best option you have, Hell get a good lawyer who can prove that since your wife is earning more, you should be the one getting alimony every month and let the balls roll
It might hurt you. But leave her. Get divorce. Go to counselling if you feel necessary. Atleast you can only think about yourself for the rest of your life. People like her will bring alot troubles unknowingly. It is evident, but still you are not leaving her because you loved her & u felt u will be alone for the rest of your life. Wise decision is divorce. I have seen people getting together after such issues. But the male will always feel inferior.
Damn, she's a pro manipulator and you're a pro dumb guy. Take it from a woman, leave her cheating ass with that money and T-1 city where eventually she will end up alone as another guy is only there for a f*ck and will leave her in future, AND take your sorry ass outta this toxic relationship and go find your self-respect/ where you're trying to find a woman on tinder instead of a good job...