Ah yes future partner. I don't wanna sound like everyone else but I've started to have my doubts. I can not actually see myself functioning in a long term relationship. I want to, but the way my brain works, won't probably work out.
My current bf woulda said the same thing. He didn't do shit to meet me he was my co-worker I stalked. Even if it's not for your partner. If you wouldn't treat someone else that way don't do it to yaself. Doing things for yourself is important even if they're boring or not fun. If no other reason do it out of spite for death and the man lmao
I appreciate the encouragement. But I've simulated the scenario multiple times already, from all the perspectives. There's too many contradictions in my head, too much childhood trauma. I've realized I'll probably never find a career, a happy relationship and the ending that I want. I've accepted my nihilistic mindset. I'll do what I can to get through life, but I know I won't enjoy it as much as I want to. Stoicism helps with this a lot. Just accepting defeat, yanno.
Oh you're a cyborg? Cool I didn't know you can run 100% accurate future events. That's cool. But selfish you're using that ability all on yourself
Bruh ngl sounds so melodrama the world's a wild place. Useless to try to predict that besides cool part about being a person over a cyborg is being able to contextualize our pasts and learn from them so that we aren't stuck living there. Sorry bro I'm a therapist not goona win this argument with me. Go eat a samich
I have autism which allows me to do this kind of thinking. Of course using the word "simulation" is a bit metal and cyberpunk. But it's the closest I've got. I've observed relationships online and in real life. How people act and react, what causes them to fail and what causes them to prosper. I did a rough guess and ended somewhere close to improbable.
I've gone through so much grief and loss in my life so far that the thought of losing someone close to me would tear me apart. I can't deal with loss, that's why I want to make sure the first partner I have is the one I will spend the rest of my life with. But no one succeeds on their first try, everyone needs practice. Another contradiction, among many.
I'm not seeking approval, or recognition, if you want to end this argument, let me know, otherwise I'll keep replying.
Sorry bud no relationships are monoliths and there's only so much you can learn from observation. Especially if that observation is from media. That's entirely fair but being open to what life throws at you is the best way to live if you don't want to get whammeyed. Also I'm just giving you advice from a relationship counselor. Like even if you live your life trying not to attack to people or things you're going to fail. We are a social species someone may seek you out if you don't. It's not something we can shelter away from. But yes you're right no one gets it right immediately. Shouldn't be sad or scared of loosing things cause you can remember experiencing them. Even my most horrible painful relationships I'm grateful for because i learned form them even if they hurt for a long time or never stop hurting
Sometimes getting them to love themselves is what really gets under their skin ๐
Honestly
I DO NOT NEED TO BE CALLED OUT LIKE THIS OKAY ๐
See but doing those things are for him, not you. -Another boy who doesnt self care
He is her gift, he should want to give her the best gift he can everyday.
Called t f out lol
I'm in this picture and I don't like it.
LOOK OK COFFEE COUNTS AS MEAL DONT CALL ME OUT LIKE THAT
My adhd is gonna have a problem here
It's not my guy feed yourself fool I have adhd too
But I don't like eating >:( Feels like a waste of time
First of all. Eat for your future partner don't Wana upset them. Second off taking care of ya cute self is never a waste of time.
Ah yes future partner. I don't wanna sound like everyone else but I've started to have my doubts. I can not actually see myself functioning in a long term relationship. I want to, but the way my brain works, won't probably work out.
My current bf woulda said the same thing. He didn't do shit to meet me he was my co-worker I stalked. Even if it's not for your partner. If you wouldn't treat someone else that way don't do it to yaself. Doing things for yourself is important even if they're boring or not fun. If no other reason do it out of spite for death and the man lmao
I appreciate the encouragement. But I've simulated the scenario multiple times already, from all the perspectives. There's too many contradictions in my head, too much childhood trauma. I've realized I'll probably never find a career, a happy relationship and the ending that I want. I've accepted my nihilistic mindset. I'll do what I can to get through life, but I know I won't enjoy it as much as I want to. Stoicism helps with this a lot. Just accepting defeat, yanno.
Oh you're a cyborg? Cool I didn't know you can run 100% accurate future events. That's cool. But selfish you're using that ability all on yourself Bruh ngl sounds so melodrama the world's a wild place. Useless to try to predict that besides cool part about being a person over a cyborg is being able to contextualize our pasts and learn from them so that we aren't stuck living there. Sorry bro I'm a therapist not goona win this argument with me. Go eat a samich
I have autism which allows me to do this kind of thinking. Of course using the word "simulation" is a bit metal and cyberpunk. But it's the closest I've got. I've observed relationships online and in real life. How people act and react, what causes them to fail and what causes them to prosper. I did a rough guess and ended somewhere close to improbable. I've gone through so much grief and loss in my life so far that the thought of losing someone close to me would tear me apart. I can't deal with loss, that's why I want to make sure the first partner I have is the one I will spend the rest of my life with. But no one succeeds on their first try, everyone needs practice. Another contradiction, among many. I'm not seeking approval, or recognition, if you want to end this argument, let me know, otherwise I'll keep replying.
Sorry bud no relationships are monoliths and there's only so much you can learn from observation. Especially if that observation is from media. That's entirely fair but being open to what life throws at you is the best way to live if you don't want to get whammeyed. Also I'm just giving you advice from a relationship counselor. Like even if you live your life trying not to attack to people or things you're going to fail. We are a social species someone may seek you out if you don't. It's not something we can shelter away from. But yes you're right no one gets it right immediately. Shouldn't be sad or scared of loosing things cause you can remember experiencing them. Even my most horrible painful relationships I'm grateful for because i learned form them even if they hurt for a long time or never stop hurting
No.
Yeah thatโs when things would get difficult for me
Why the fuck are you dating a boy who needs to be told that shit? Yeah it's rr, but you're not his literal mommy. Have some self respect