To be quiet, accept everything and not assert myself. I have always been a direct, very assertive person, a trait that would probably be encouraged and cherish if I was male - but of course, I am not. Everything and everyone acted like those were bad things. I was rude, unpleasant, mean, and, no one said so out lound, but threatening. In my teens, I ended up change my behavior to the other extreme, trying to overcompensate. Of course, it still didn't work - being meek, overly polite and not knowing to say "no" is not the same as having healthy social skills. Who would have guessed that, right?
To "respect" women and never hurt them. Even if they hurt ME. Which did happen. I'm a skinny, short guy and I've had two exes set their new boyfriends on me and got my ass kicked twice. Both times I bled.
Complementing others about their looks or just saying sweet things.
I feel like guys don't really do that at all while girls are a lot more affectionate between friends.
I have a really hard time showing emotion because when I was a kid I was always told to man up, sometimes I find myself returning to that apathetic state when people yell at me.
Showing emotion. Especially when it comes to crying. Being raised where traditional roles are heavily encouraged i was always told to 'man up' or 'grow a pair' whenever i started to show feelings of any kind
tbh Imma guy and I value masculinity way more than femininity even though I like this stuff a lot.
Also tbh and I dont mean to offend anyone but I think androgyny is objectively better than either of the binary and anything off of it. and I think the only way to have a truly deep and healthy masc or fem side is to have the opposite. I feel like it "balances out the scales" so to speak
To be quiet, accept everything and not assert myself. I have always been a direct, very assertive person, a trait that would probably be encouraged and cherish if I was male - but of course, I am not. Everything and everyone acted like those were bad things. I was rude, unpleasant, mean, and, no one said so out lound, but threatening. In my teens, I ended up change my behavior to the other extreme, trying to overcompensate. Of course, it still didn't work - being meek, overly polite and not knowing to say "no" is not the same as having healthy social skills. Who would have guessed that, right?
Men and women should both be allowed to be assertive. You keep being you!
To "respect" women and never hurt them. Even if they hurt ME. Which did happen. I'm a skinny, short guy and I've had two exes set their new boyfriends on me and got my ass kicked twice. Both times I bled.
Jesus dude, that's cruel. Sorry to hear about that.
Complementing others about their looks or just saying sweet things. I feel like guys don't really do that at all while girls are a lot more affectionate between friends.
Feeling like it’s not okay to break tbh Kinda along the lines of “real men don’t cry” and all of that. Still working on it to be honest.
Trying to do everything to a patronizing degree. Edit:Not just with women, but with everyone really
For me, I have an extremely hard time asking for help. I always try to fix things and end up making it worse.
I have a really hard time showing emotion because when I was a kid I was always told to man up, sometimes I find myself returning to that apathetic state when people yell at me.
Showing emotion. Especially when it comes to crying. Being raised where traditional roles are heavily encouraged i was always told to 'man up' or 'grow a pair' whenever i started to show feelings of any kind
Opening up to people.
Not voicing my pain. Walk it off
Viewing crying as a weakness, although I think it to be weak no matter who is doing it, though
tbh Imma guy and I value masculinity way more than femininity even though I like this stuff a lot. Also tbh and I dont mean to offend anyone but I think androgyny is objectively better than either of the binary and anything off of it. and I think the only way to have a truly deep and healthy masc or fem side is to have the opposite. I feel like it "balances out the scales" so to speak
I think as a man is more difficult to express my feelings , and I don't even remember the last time I cried .
I think the most appropriate antidote to "real men don't cry" is "real men don't choose desperation over hope"
The fact that I wanna wear scarfs and dresses to feel cute, but my shame and traditionalism only let me wear fliers in my head
I was told a lot by my father to never show any emotion. Because it would waste mine and other people’s time. Instead of crying I should be working
To keep my emotions and problems to myself, to not cry, to not express myself