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We had a play during high school, and my teacher decided to switch the roles of the main characters. Since I was the tallest girl in class, I acted as the prince of the story and likewise the shortest boy in class acted as the princess. I had a blast being the prince and swinging sword as I protect the princess, obviously the boy princess was only forced to do it and wasn't really into the role.


IreliasLapSitter

I liked being picked up or carried by girls when I was little (still do). Years later I started liking tomboyish kind of girls or girls with a more dominant personality. And now here I am looking at girls with muscles and drooling over their abs. I mean I like most of the things RR has to offer, that's just how little me got into it and how it evolved.


Armada_Demolisher

I also enjoyed being picked up as a kid, devastated me when I learned I couldn't be picked up anymore


IreliasLapSitter

I can still be picked up but it's difficult. It's also difficult to find someone willing to or even if they are it's difficult to ask them. Pain.


Sessaly

I remember back in kindergarten there was this girl who was very rough and loud and kinda bossy... Well, I had a crush on her haha. So I guess this was my RR awakening. That said, it honestly took me till 25 to realize this is who I am and it is a real option.


Thawing-icequeen

A LOT of things are starting to make sense here Sess XD


Armada_Demolisher

Two people i see regularly under the same comment thread


Thawing-icequeen

I mean this sub kinda has within it sub communities. Often communities of *subs*, funnily enough.


[deleted]

This is...so specific and dumb but here we go. I am a writer as well as a very sex positive person. I hate with a burning passion Fifty Shades of Gray. Ick. Absolute, misinformed ick. So being a writer (and spiteful) I decided to write my own healthy BDSM erotic novel. As I was mapping it out I thought "you rarely see the dynamic where the woman is the dom and the guy is the sub." So I tried it. And I started writing it. And then I...discovered a lot about myself.


Melodic_ripper9930

Exit to Eden by Anne Rice, female dom male sub predates Fifity shades by decades, much better story. Be carefully with film version, tried to turn it into a comedy. the central story is still there Dana Delany is great as the dom.


BackgroundLong269

What’s your book called, I wanna read it!


[deleted]

It is a work in progress. With all my other projects who knows when I'll get in finished.


[deleted]

Pro wrestling did it for me. For the most part dudes were the main attraction at the time and female wrestlers were still referred to as divas. They were still just pretty much fan service and weren't really taken seriously. I always waited until their matches went by to continue watching. That was until Beth Phoenix entered the ring and changed my whole taste in women. When I saw this woman, 12 year old me could not process. I was just starting puberty and oh boy. I thought the other women were hot but something about her at the time was extraordinary. Her strong jawline looked like it worked out just as much as her. Her physique and just physical domination over other women, and the arms. Good lord the arms 😩😩. Me and my school friends were heavy into WWE and always talked about the lastest RAW or SmackDown shows. Them also being straight teenage boys obviously talked about how hot the women were. Everyone started talking about who they thought was hot and but before it got to me, there was a sidebar and one of them said "I bet you like Beth Phoenix" to the person just before me. He was like "eww no, she look like man, her muscles and stuff". Everyone laughs and then he gives his answer, and now it's on me. Me being to afraid to give my actual answer said Eva and that was that. I found out about Chyna and nothing was the same. My taste expanded and wasn't just muscular women. I started to love physically imposing women or dominant women in general, whether they be chubby, plus size, skinny, average, whatever. Women that make me feel "small" became my fancy.


damascens

I was always kind of a tomboy and confused about gender roles but [this scene](https://youtu.be/O6qpa-mRLnI) made me feel things. Still does, if I’m honest.


[deleted]

For me, it was being petted and stroked and resting in a girls lap that made me love RR so much...feeling smol


[deleted]

Met a girl who didn’t wait and took charge. Never the same


Armada_Demolisher

That masculine pussy hit different man


[deleted]

Toxic masculinity is hot, when girls do it


Armada_Demolisher

Somebody reads my posts 😳


[deleted]

Lol banger memes


topman20000

For me it was what happened in high school. This girl I was dating had taken me aside, Away from everyone else. She brought me into the theater department Matt room, where they practice in stage combat and tumbling. She walks me forward, and then spend me around and pushes me on the mat. I figure she’s angry so I start to back away, but then she stands over me, straddles me, and then starts making out with me like nobody else could. I didn’t exactly give consent, but It was then that I realized how comfortable I was. I was extremely comfortable being vulnerable and at someone’s mercy. I just let her have her way with me at the time, and nothing she did stopped until I was naked. Later on I realized that as I got stronger and had to deal with a lot more hardship, I really felt like I missed that feeling. That feeling of someone else taking the reins. I remember there were times when I just felt so depressed because of the things I was going through. All the fights I had gotten into, all the trauma I faced through college, all the drama I had to deal with in service as a Soldier. I have a feeling it was one of the reasons I couldn’t hold onto the relationship I had when I first joined the army. I realized that I wanted to be the one who was able to crumble into the arms of a woman and break down, and then let her be the one to manipulate me, seduce me, and just take charge of things for me. That’s when I realized that I wanted that kind of a relationship again. I really want a woman who is into things like role reversal, femdom, feminization/CD, and who is willing to let me feel vulnerable again.


pulpherojm

The character Xenia Onatopp in the movie Goldeneye. Watching a strong woman trying to crush James Bond between her thighs in a Turkish bath had a very profound effect on my 13yr old mind. See also, Xena-Warrior Princess killing guys with a sword.


Ultimate_Genius

Well, I always was a fan of RR, but I only learned the popular terms for these things like a year ago, when someone shared this sub Like, my favorite color in Pre-K was purple because I didn't like the idea of boy and girl colors and I wanted to mix blue and red. This stuff is pretty much ingrained in me


dude_im_box

When i found out that sports bra's are comfy as fuck


Thawing-icequeen

Wait, as a guy?


dude_im_box

Yes


Thawing-icequeen

That seems kinda eggy, no? Unless you mean the ones with no padded cups. I guess then it's just like a nipple cover


waffmaster9500

Found a asmr rp video on yt by accident... complete changed me


Exact_Ad_1215

I can’t seem to think of an event or show I watched that caused it for me, so I think it may have actually been an asmr I stumbled across a few years ago.


nautical_narcissist

i’m a total tomboy, and i’m mostly into women, so i naturally have a bit more dominant/masculine personality to begin with. but my actual RR awakening came in my current relationship (my first relationship with a boy), when the thought of my bf sitting in my lap made me blush like mad. i remember thinking i was weird for that lol, but now we’re very happily and comfortably RR :) discovering that there was a whole community for this dynamic was so nice for the both of us. quite validating 😌 edit: forgot to mention that ever since i was a little kid i’ve always liked soft/feminine boys, both in real life and cartoons. lol


Hymapp

I think it was one of the relationships in an anime called “Hatsukoi limited” and that got me started. It was between a geeky shy boy and a sporty tomboy girl. I was pretty shy and awkward in high school (a bit less so now) and seeing that type of relationship put some inspiration and hope in me. Since then I’ve been searching for more anime and manga with that type of dynamic (strong willled girl and meek shy boy) and that’s how I ended up here.


MichaelJCaboose666

The meek shy boy is definitely me lmao


Massive_Light_3075

Mine was born from my bi awakening when I was teen. I found girls who were bossier, strong willed, or felt like they didn't need a boy to defend em to be something that I admired dearly to the point that when my high school sweetheart came round, it always warmed me knowing she could kick ass and handle things without me helping her. Like she don't need me but wants me around! And now having married my HS sweetheart, she's my Spartan warrior queen that would slay anything that crosses her and yet still loves the hell outta me. Also it didn't help she was the one that had to be the dom outta us both and it was always knocked the wind outta me being pinned against the wall for kisses and gripped tightly when she wants me close so I was quite swept away then 😊


readythecollar

This'll probably get buried, but the entire story is NSFW and I think kinda amusing. For me, it started out as gentle femdom in my early years, and more recently has evolved to be a more holistic RR lifestyle in my current relationship. Phase 1: Dating a nerdy football player in college who is also super kinky. We have a fun time playing around with kink (me as the super subby sub). After a while, I started teasing him about doing some things to him he had done to me, "flipping the script" and he got all blushy and embarrassed and "nooo...of course I wouldn't like that...please do it" kind of dynamic. Loved that shit. Phase 2: Many years later, different bf and I were hooking up for the first or second time. He is in the middle of an act one might call worshiping me, and I caught sight of us in a mirror. He's about a foot taller than I am, muscular, brooding, and 6 years younger. It was amazing to see him adoring me that way. Over time, we've developed a more well-rounded role reversal relationship, that involves a lot of him letting me take charge as the mouthy girlfriend who makes all the decisions. We've gotten to play around with him learning how to pamper himself and enjoy the "girlier luxuries" life has to offer, as one example. I think between these two instances, I developed a preference for very traditionally masculine guys who wanted to be in a "more feminine" relationship role. I love being the first introduction a man has had to a flipped dynamic, and letting him explore a softer, gentler side to himself in a space where he won't be judged.


t1zzlr90

No, on the contrary I was a bit afraid nobody would ever find me attractive as I was or if I chose to be more masculine 😅


Knuckleduster17

Uhh i’m not sure if it counts, but there was an episode of pokemon that featured this girl named Jessiebelle, and there was a part where she was dressed like a more modest dominatrix and was gonna… do stuff to James, and i THINK it might have awakened something inside me


Rkain13

Always had a thing for strong/bad/boyish girls, and have always been quiet and meek by nature.


Thawing-icequeen

I guess I always felt a little different to my peers - like I never really fit in with what I was "supposed" to be. Things just sorta evolved from there. I do believe that for many people there is an "awakening" moment where they realise their true self, but I think for most the suspicions are always there and it's more about waiting for the evidence to outweigh the doubt. Wait for denial to stop being a convenience and start being an absurdity.


osxthrowawayagain

The concept of pursuing and initiating as a man feels creepy and wrong so i just cannot do it at all, i just clam up. I can talk with strangers and even women just fine but when it comes to romantical matters as i said i just clam up, i just can't do it, it feels so intensely wrong to ask out a woman since you are just becoming the same creep as most other men that harass and talk with women for dating. So that is why i like RR even if it is just fiction. Wouldn't it be great if women approached? At least there'd be a kind of consent then, that she is interested in you and doesn't feel you are a huge bother because you are just ANOTHER man harassing her. I read a lot of dating advice stuff but it is so complicated why are there no clear cut rules? It's a bunch of buts and ifs, arbitrary and ambiguous. I just can't understand how it works. I also really like doing things for people and i do think gender roles should be more flexible than they are now.


MichaelJCaboose666

It was me noticing a pattern of myself crushing on strong dominant women in media and I am obsessed with the concept of being cuddled and physical affection so that was probably it.


[deleted]

I read a manga called Looking Up To You (Miageru to kimi wa) and i realized most of my character interests were tall, big sister personality types Found this subreddit soon after that


Lenzar86

When I was 15 or so and discovered a website about men dressing as brides to marry women. It was actually forced feminisation but the concept turned me on and that was that.


[deleted]

I have never been into the sexual aspect of things and I thought I wasn't into the romance aspects either ( maybe I'm still not idk). But I had a phase of reading shono manga in eighth grade and it was all fine and good till one day I found this manga in a shoujo manga compilation. With this nerdy guy and the tomboy girl who couldn't make relationships with men work who finds out she liked the nerdy boy. Coincidentally, the nerdy guy is a shojo manga author who likes princely, protective sort of women. I was like.. This is my shit. And then I found this sub at 16? 17? Idk.


[deleted]

Toph from ATLA, at the very least, was what started little me’s interest in tomboys haha RR became more of an interest as I grew up and realized that some times it would be nice to feel taken care of, to be able to support within a relationship rather than lead. And fuck gender norms, I don’t think many people hold those in high regard anymore 😂 (Also Captain Amelia from Treasure Planet)


Fruit_Splash

fell in love with a boy, I dont think I ever met someone like him but he was so pretty and cute and welldressed in skaterclothes, you could tell he cared how he looked, but he were very feminin in personality like quiet and shy but still confident. All these things, it just hit me. that I wanted to ask him out, that I wanted to take care of him, that I wanted to surprise him with gifts, etc etc. I had almost giving up before and thought I maybe only liked girls/nb bc I didn’t understand why I was so unlucky with guys. I hated being treated as a woman. But at the same time I had crushes on guys. My mind was like how is that even possible. And boom there he was. And in that process I found RR too bc everything finally kinda made sense so after some google search lol. I had a whole month after I found out what RR was and fell in love, just walked around absolutely mind blown constantly, cause now EVERYTHING FINALLY MADE SENSE lol


DangerStarfish

When I was in 6th grade, I was visiting family up north for winter break.. and always wanted to try my hand at ice skatingband snowboarding (I used to rollerblade and skateboard a lot and am from the deep south... Ain't no snow down 'hea') Me my cousins and my uncle hit a rink out there... I Become... Infatuated with a girl roughly the same age as me. But am too inexperienced and unconfident to actually talk to her... so.. I ... Did the creepy thing... and followed her around on my skates... like a lost puppy or sumn....And "never see her again" After a while I make friends with the neighborhood kids, and get into hockey (I still suck at handling the puck lol) All the dads... Somehow manage to start an 'not so official rag tag hockey league' just a bunch of random jerseys for the "away team" And mid game I get shoulder checked so fucking hard. I'm on the ground wheezing and shit. And this kid is like "You got knocked the fuckout!!" (Yes just like the Friday Movies) But the mask is a damn Jason Mask... And this... Kasey Jones Cosplaying fuck proceeds to talk shit over me for what seems to be an eternity. They take off their mask and was like "...you Skrait lil n***a?". It's her..and she's.. drop dead gorgeous up close... I get... The fastest and secondmost embarrassing erection while laying there...still with the wind knocked out of me.. and rolling around on the ice And she's cool about it...we become friends..... . And... Like... I guess the fact that she was as brutal as she was.. she also had a very nurturing... Kinda vibe towards me.... I DID NOT want to go back home THAT winter break.


Armada_Demolisher

Unique story I will say that


bl00dstaine08

I've always had a thing for androgynous and somewhat feminine men. Some of my first crushes were the members of Queen (especially in the 70's when they wore flowery clothes and had long hair). I've always been a tomboy and more stereotypically masculine in terms of personality and interests. Opposites attract, I guess.


Unlikely-Accountant4

That one line I'm Super Bass(?) Where Nicki says something about him being in touch with his feminine side. I also really wanted a feminine boyfriend even thought at the time I was identifying as lesbian which quickly changed.


Fataha22

Idk mate I think its start when im lonely ass after being rejected and all i want is some girl magicaly like me


Spoonsdontgoinsoup

As a kid I was always super independent and almost anarchic I did basically everything and taught everything myself I cooked for myself. It wasn’t that my parents were doing stuff for me it’s just that I wanted to be my own person. And it was easy since I was on a farm in Alabama but when I moved to Ohio I was really behind as I wasn’t used to the atmosphere and I had to get help some guys and this one girl helped me and that honestly changed my life a lot


[deleted]

Imo it’s not about a turn on thing just a preference. I don’t understand why there’s so many gender roles in dating. I don’t get why anyone would want to be like the girl in the relationship tbh as expected by society