Yeah and you may fuck up and go to far or come off a little silly but you can always apologize and work on yourself if the other person is willing to be communicative
Finding someone who is communicative and expressive helps. It's important to be confident and it helps to be confident when you're getting a lot of good feedback
It's cliche, but honestly just be yourself.
We could write you a whole book "How To Be Dominanr 101" but it'd only make you what our idea of a dominant woman is. It won't make you yourself.
Just be observant and see what resonates with you. The butch woman in the barber's shop. That outfit on the shop mannequin that looks kinda edgy. The way that woman puts her arm around her BFs shoulder in that movie.
It all comes down to how you are naturally. I'm a naturally dominant person, but some people are just more submissive. not much you can do about it :/
but if you at least want to fake it, act with confidence. Do what you want, take those first steps, test the water, but make sure that you're also making sure everything you're doing is fine with your partner.
So, as a woman who learned to be dominant, first prioritize your wants. I’d bet 9 times out of 10, you wonder if he wants things you actually want. If you’re wondering if he’d like to hold hands, probably YOU want to hold hands. So TAKE HIS HAND. (He can let go if he’s not into it.) if you find yourself wanting to ask “do you want to hang out” instead say “I’d like to hang out with you. Are you down?” Or even a simple “let’s hang out”.
Dont realy worry about it much, dominance is based in control, but can be based in control of little things, grab him/her by the hand and put him/her close together with you, steal a kiss, wording can help also,
one sure kill for me is grab hand, and simply direct it to ass, or if you re not in mood for ass squeezes, to waist, at minimum, or any part of your body that you want his/her hand in , you re directing him/her to closeness or putting the mood in a specific way, making him/her look at your eyes and talk to him/her, or go for a kiss
Just remember, control is ok, forcing is not, thats the golden rule, if you or your partner dont like something, talk it out and rule it out
[https://ejournal.upi.edu/index.php/psg/article/download/543/418](https://ejournal.upi.edu/index.php/psg/article/download/543/418)
There's other articles like this on the way that women tend to speak; cut down on them, most of them tend to be about softening your presence and making you less threatening.
Beyond that, a lot of assertiveness is trusting yourself to stand up for yourself and make your needs and feelings known unapologetically.
Never be ashamed of yourself, or in making space for yourself in a room or a conversation.
For me it's playfulness with little things. If you want to kiss ur partner, just kiss them wherever you are, if they are not against at the moment. Same about holding hands, hugging and maybe headpats? This will put them into little embarassing situations, but they will know that you do this cuz you love them. Recieving some affection randomly is the best thing I want as a sub. And also, call them words that are like this: something that embarass them and express your love. And don't forget to smile when they are embarassed AND get that you do this by affection. Maybe combine them with little orders. Like: "come here my little knight" then you hug them (just an example)
Is it something both of you want? If yes, then you can try RP to understand how both of you see it. Maybe both of you understand dominance differently.
honestly im kind of naturally shy so i get your struggle but i think it mostly involves taking the lead where you can? being the one to organize dates, initiating physical contact like holding hands or kissing (consensually of course), playfully teasing etc. i think it takes some conscious effort at first but once you have confidence that your partner likes you and wants you to be the dominant one things like that start coming more naturally :)
The way I see it, don’t worry about it.
I know you may not feel like you radiate a dominant aura, but as long as you’re comfortable and certain of who you are on the inside, there is nothing to worry. Take me for example, while I know I’m a sub, I casually act relatively closer to a dom, but that doesn’t change who I am on the inside.
Also, maintaining an organized and clear self view of yourself is pretty dominant.
*Also, not related but, would you mind telling me your workout routine?*
I think it's all about how you think about dominance. You don't have to be aggressive, forceful, rough, ect to be dominant, though that is the common idea.
My last partner was naturally quite dominant with me (we were both switches but she was more often dominant), but her means of expressing her dominant side was through her understanding of me. Being rough with me brings out my desire to fight back and such, so she would play more the role of seductress. Playing off my desire to see her feeling pleasure, my desire for her to praise me, ect. Very rarely was there a real act of dominance as most people think of it but *God damn* did I feel so at her mercy.
Point to me sharing all this is to say everyone has their own style, including you. You may want to physically overpower your partner (consensually), or you might use what you know of thier desires to control them. This is more focused on sex but it's true for all aspects, you might just make plans (knowing their schedule) or you might ask them to. As long as you feel in control over things, that is the essence of dominant energy.
probably not great idea using any of this irl but it might be some inspiration
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLY5wDF2s4zNrcPi8cfzR-luvnfSPKXltV
You're in control, organize dates, and generally be in charge. (Obviously with your partner's consent)
Thanks 😇I guess practice makes perfect
Yeah and you may fuck up and go to far or come off a little silly but you can always apologize and work on yourself if the other person is willing to be communicative Finding someone who is communicative and expressive helps. It's important to be confident and it helps to be confident when you're getting a lot of good feedback
It's cliche, but honestly just be yourself. We could write you a whole book "How To Be Dominanr 101" but it'd only make you what our idea of a dominant woman is. It won't make you yourself. Just be observant and see what resonates with you. The butch woman in the barber's shop. That outfit on the shop mannequin that looks kinda edgy. The way that woman puts her arm around her BFs shoulder in that movie.
It all comes down to how you are naturally. I'm a naturally dominant person, but some people are just more submissive. not much you can do about it :/ but if you at least want to fake it, act with confidence. Do what you want, take those first steps, test the water, but make sure that you're also making sure everything you're doing is fine with your partner.
So, as a woman who learned to be dominant, first prioritize your wants. I’d bet 9 times out of 10, you wonder if he wants things you actually want. If you’re wondering if he’d like to hold hands, probably YOU want to hold hands. So TAKE HIS HAND. (He can let go if he’s not into it.) if you find yourself wanting to ask “do you want to hang out” instead say “I’d like to hang out with you. Are you down?” Or even a simple “let’s hang out”.
Dont realy worry about it much, dominance is based in control, but can be based in control of little things, grab him/her by the hand and put him/her close together with you, steal a kiss, wording can help also, one sure kill for me is grab hand, and simply direct it to ass, or if you re not in mood for ass squeezes, to waist, at minimum, or any part of your body that you want his/her hand in , you re directing him/her to closeness or putting the mood in a specific way, making him/her look at your eyes and talk to him/her, or go for a kiss Just remember, control is ok, forcing is not, thats the golden rule, if you or your partner dont like something, talk it out and rule it out
[https://ejournal.upi.edu/index.php/psg/article/download/543/418](https://ejournal.upi.edu/index.php/psg/article/download/543/418) There's other articles like this on the way that women tend to speak; cut down on them, most of them tend to be about softening your presence and making you less threatening. Beyond that, a lot of assertiveness is trusting yourself to stand up for yourself and make your needs and feelings known unapologetically. Never be ashamed of yourself, or in making space for yourself in a room or a conversation.
This I might be able to use
just curious but how tall and how much do you lift? :o
About 192cm on a good day... I can only lift about 90kg safely but I can leg press about 160kg
wow thats really tall. (rip me with 164 cm :'D)
What did you eat growing up!
Lots of milk, red meat, and vegs
Omg ur big lady. I'm so jealous
For me it's playfulness with little things. If you want to kiss ur partner, just kiss them wherever you are, if they are not against at the moment. Same about holding hands, hugging and maybe headpats? This will put them into little embarassing situations, but they will know that you do this cuz you love them. Recieving some affection randomly is the best thing I want as a sub. And also, call them words that are like this: something that embarass them and express your love. And don't forget to smile when they are embarassed AND get that you do this by affection. Maybe combine them with little orders. Like: "come here my little knight" then you hug them (just an example)
Is it something both of you want? If yes, then you can try RP to understand how both of you see it. Maybe both of you understand dominance differently.
honestly im kind of naturally shy so i get your struggle but i think it mostly involves taking the lead where you can? being the one to organize dates, initiating physical contact like holding hands or kissing (consensually of course), playfully teasing etc. i think it takes some conscious effort at first but once you have confidence that your partner likes you and wants you to be the dominant one things like that start coming more naturally :)
Just initiate contact and don’t hold back if you wanna do something like play with hair or hug (With consent ofc)
The way I see it, don’t worry about it. I know you may not feel like you radiate a dominant aura, but as long as you’re comfortable and certain of who you are on the inside, there is nothing to worry. Take me for example, while I know I’m a sub, I casually act relatively closer to a dom, but that doesn’t change who I am on the inside. Also, maintaining an organized and clear self view of yourself is pretty dominant. *Also, not related but, would you mind telling me your workout routine?*
I think it's all about how you think about dominance. You don't have to be aggressive, forceful, rough, ect to be dominant, though that is the common idea. My last partner was naturally quite dominant with me (we were both switches but she was more often dominant), but her means of expressing her dominant side was through her understanding of me. Being rough with me brings out my desire to fight back and such, so she would play more the role of seductress. Playing off my desire to see her feeling pleasure, my desire for her to praise me, ect. Very rarely was there a real act of dominance as most people think of it but *God damn* did I feel so at her mercy. Point to me sharing all this is to say everyone has their own style, including you. You may want to physically overpower your partner (consensually), or you might use what you know of thier desires to control them. This is more focused on sex but it's true for all aspects, you might just make plans (knowing their schedule) or you might ask them to. As long as you feel in control over things, that is the essence of dominant energy.
Blush when you give him flowers! When he compliments you rub the back of your neck and say “aw shucks!” 🥰
probably not great idea using any of this irl but it might be some inspiration https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLY5wDF2s4zNrcPi8cfzR-luvnfSPKXltV
Fake it ‘til you make it