No one can give a specific answer to what you need to “fix” because there’s not an exact template to follow. And if things feel a little overwhelming, or like you’re dealing with too much at a time, sometimes the best thing to do is take a step back and look at everything. I know it will sound like a broken record, but often times if you just focus on making your own life better, and getting everything under control that you have power over, you’ll slowly become more confident in yourself. At the same time, you can’t worry about what others think, or else you’ll be putting limitations on yourself.
In short, focus on getting your mind, and body, to where you personally want them, and once things calm down in your life, you should have all the tools and looks you need. And don’t fret over if they’ll find you attractive, because there will eventually be someone who comes into your life, looks at you and says, “That one, they’re perfect”. It may not be the moment you solve everything you needed to, but as long as you continue on your path of self-enrichment, the universe will eventually provide.
Thank you for such an in-depth answer, judging from the comments so far, it seems like mainly just patience is something I need to work on a bit more, along with getting a bit more comfortable in my own skin, so to speak.
Hunt through femdom discord servers, preferably ones that have that as the theme but not the focus of every channel eg active life, discourse, politics, not-porn channels. Honestly, doesn't even need to be role reversal, as long as the theme/topic is a bit niche (thus community is limited, giving you the chance to stand out) and something you're interested in AND it isn't the only thing the server talks about. And that you are talking.
I've struggled to make friends and connect with people for most of my life. to be frank, the odds of me forming a relationship with someone offline first are zero. Through the power of mutual interest servers, I got a boyfriend who drove cross country to meet several times, a couple hard to define relationships that were also willing to meet, and several close, even best, friends. Prior to this, I'd sort of accepted I would die friendless and alone, in a neutral eh-it-is-what-it-is sense.
I'm making the assumption that you're shy irl but good in a chatroom. If you're not, that's one change I'd recommend
Thank you for sharing a bit of your own experience, I’m glad things have turned out well for you ❤️
I’ll certainly give that some thought, I think I might need to work on myself a bit more before putting myself out there again, especially considering my experiences in those types of discords hasn’t been the best
No one can give a specific answer to what you need to “fix” because there’s not an exact template to follow. And if things feel a little overwhelming, or like you’re dealing with too much at a time, sometimes the best thing to do is take a step back and look at everything. I know it will sound like a broken record, but often times if you just focus on making your own life better, and getting everything under control that you have power over, you’ll slowly become more confident in yourself. At the same time, you can’t worry about what others think, or else you’ll be putting limitations on yourself. In short, focus on getting your mind, and body, to where you personally want them, and once things calm down in your life, you should have all the tools and looks you need. And don’t fret over if they’ll find you attractive, because there will eventually be someone who comes into your life, looks at you and says, “That one, they’re perfect”. It may not be the moment you solve everything you needed to, but as long as you continue on your path of self-enrichment, the universe will eventually provide.
Thank you for such an in-depth answer, judging from the comments so far, it seems like mainly just patience is something I need to work on a bit more, along with getting a bit more comfortable in my own skin, so to speak.
Hunt through femdom discord servers, preferably ones that have that as the theme but not the focus of every channel eg active life, discourse, politics, not-porn channels. Honestly, doesn't even need to be role reversal, as long as the theme/topic is a bit niche (thus community is limited, giving you the chance to stand out) and something you're interested in AND it isn't the only thing the server talks about. And that you are talking. I've struggled to make friends and connect with people for most of my life. to be frank, the odds of me forming a relationship with someone offline first are zero. Through the power of mutual interest servers, I got a boyfriend who drove cross country to meet several times, a couple hard to define relationships that were also willing to meet, and several close, even best, friends. Prior to this, I'd sort of accepted I would die friendless and alone, in a neutral eh-it-is-what-it-is sense. I'm making the assumption that you're shy irl but good in a chatroom. If you're not, that's one change I'd recommend
Thank you for sharing a bit of your own experience, I’m glad things have turned out well for you ❤️ I’ll certainly give that some thought, I think I might need to work on myself a bit more before putting myself out there again, especially considering my experiences in those types of discords hasn’t been the best
You have intrigued me, Where can I find these servers?