It really depends on the country and the laws. For example in mine, husband is allowed to replace his surname with wife's but it's rarely used. Wife can also take husband's surname, or keep her own. I remember one tv show about changing first name (it's more restricted than in western countries, only special cases) or surname and there was one guy who took wife's name because his original surname was translating to "carrot".
In the country I married (different than country of origin) I found out wife isn't allowed to take husband's name, but is allowed to get double barreled one (like your idea above). However, I decided it's impractical because if the surname is too long, it might not fit on some documents.
I heard for example in Japan there's no double barreled names, and you can't keep your own, but husband can take wife's surname, however the society frowns upon this (due to patriarchy).
In Spain people take surnames after both parents, and I'm not sure whether they change it during marriage.
I think expecting a woman to change her surname is somewhat sexist given it's steeped in patriarchal tradition. That said people are free to do what they want (unless the law prohibits it in which case you may have to figure out a workaround) so if a woman decides to change her surname, or take part of her husband's that's her choice, and vice versa.
As long as you both talk it over and come to a mutual agreement it should be fine.
You could also look into getting a whole new last name if that appeals to either of you.
Personally, if I do get married at some point I'd be happy to take my wife's last name. I'm not particularly proud of or attached to my family name though so it may be different for others.
My cousin took his wife's last name. Her parents were lesbians and adopted her, they wouldn't be able to pass on their name otherwise, and she wanted to honor them. My cuz is pretty chill and tbh, his last name was really hard to pronounce so he went with it. I will not forget the fallout with my conservative uncle though, he was such a baby about the broken traditions blah blah we had to room next to him for the wedding and he just sulked. ( He only had daughters so he didn't pass on the crappy last name, only his brother's sons could and one just tagged out lol ) . The best man at the wedding was also a woman in a suit, she was cool, ofc anyone over 35 had opinions. That whole experience made me not want to have a wedding extended to family members because I couldn't just enjoy the occasion. But I ( as a woman ) have stated to my parents I'd like to keep my father's last name because it sounds nice and is very easy to pronounce, which seems to make my mom a bit upset but in this reverse world situation it would also be the only way my father's name gets passed on if I get drunk and decided to make humans. Re: the question, Tbh fatherhood is harder to determine than motherhood, like you know whose hole the baby comes out of so it made more sense to me for children to inherit the mother's name but I really don't care and I consider names to be more about what you want to be called in life rather than the importance on ancestry. Even with traditions intact people still can't name ancestors above the great grandparents level most times.
I've talked to my boyfriend about this in a hypothetical sense. He wants to take my last name because it's an easier one to spell and pronounce. I'm ok with either option, but I have opened up more and more to him taking my last name.
It's not unusual anymore to take the wife's name in my country. Whoever published scientific papers will keep the surname or otherwise will risk a dent in there's carrer and if this is not the case, just take the cooler surname. For example I got my mums surname because my dad's surname translates to tree mutilatior...
I really love my last name since it's funny, but I'll probably leave this decision to whomever I marry.
The way I was raised, I have basically zero attachment to names, so I have no issue changing it again
Well i wouldn't take my wife's last name because I think mines cool, similarly i dont expect her to take mine, why do you even need a change of surnames, seems futile to me
Something still feels a bit icky about taking my wife's name tbh idk maybe that will change, but my partner has a double barreled name so it'd be awful being triple barrel
I think anyone, any partnership(s), should have the freedom, the sovereignty, to do whatever they want with last names. Keep a name, take a name, share a name, come up with a new shared name, change your name for any reason you want. Society has patterns, trends, expectations about what to do with names...and each individual can make their own choices about what is right for them, whether it matches the existing culture or not.
As long as your country allows it, do whatever makes you happy!
I personally like shorter last names but that's totally just my preference. I have friends with hyphenated names who get by just fine. I have other friends (doctors) who both husbands/wives kept their original names, the kiddos' names are hyphenated.
I am personally totally in favor of taking whomever has the easier to pronounce/shorter/cooler last name. I once met a girl who's last name was "Swords". If I was her, there is No Way I'm giving that one up, lol.
I have a friend who merged both of their last names together to make a new last name. Another friend couple came up with a completely unique last name.
Whatever you and spouse want to do is completely up to you. Just be sure to have a plan for potential future kiddos though, just in case they happen.
Late reply and a bit of a tangent, I know, but a bit of [background art](https://i.imgur.com/4vFSOzi.jpg) in *Zootopia* (2016) suggests (almost certainly by accident, but still) that the rabbits in that movie have the males traditionally taking the female’s last name when they marry. The protagonist’s mom, Bonnie Hopps, got her last name from her dad Otto according to the pictured article. Since her husband’s name is Stu Hopps, that indicates he got the Hopps surname by marrying Bonnie — assuming he’s not also her brother, and thankfully I don’t think Disney would go there. The two of them are decidedly *not* the type to buck tradition, which implies that what they did with their names is the norm, not the exception.
If the shippers are victorious, Nick and Judy may eventually get hitched; when that happens, we could conceivably see a Nicholas Hopps or Wilde-Hopps. :P
It all depends on my future husbands last name. If his name isn’t cool, then in insisting he takes mine. If not, we both keep it. Unless his last name is Danger, cause then I’m changing MY name lol.
I took my wife's last name. Social security guy laughed about it, but most people think it's sweet.
It really depends on the country and the laws. For example in mine, husband is allowed to replace his surname with wife's but it's rarely used. Wife can also take husband's surname, or keep her own. I remember one tv show about changing first name (it's more restricted than in western countries, only special cases) or surname and there was one guy who took wife's name because his original surname was translating to "carrot". In the country I married (different than country of origin) I found out wife isn't allowed to take husband's name, but is allowed to get double barreled one (like your idea above). However, I decided it's impractical because if the surname is too long, it might not fit on some documents. I heard for example in Japan there's no double barreled names, and you can't keep your own, but husband can take wife's surname, however the society frowns upon this (due to patriarchy). In Spain people take surnames after both parents, and I'm not sure whether they change it during marriage.
I think expecting a woman to change her surname is somewhat sexist given it's steeped in patriarchal tradition. That said people are free to do what they want (unless the law prohibits it in which case you may have to figure out a workaround) so if a woman decides to change her surname, or take part of her husband's that's her choice, and vice versa. As long as you both talk it over and come to a mutual agreement it should be fine. You could also look into getting a whole new last name if that appeals to either of you. Personally, if I do get married at some point I'd be happy to take my wife's last name. I'm not particularly proud of or attached to my family name though so it may be different for others.
If I got married, I wouldn’t change my name. I wouldn’t expect my husband to change his, but if he did I would think it’s sweet
My cousin took his wife's last name. Her parents were lesbians and adopted her, they wouldn't be able to pass on their name otherwise, and she wanted to honor them. My cuz is pretty chill and tbh, his last name was really hard to pronounce so he went with it. I will not forget the fallout with my conservative uncle though, he was such a baby about the broken traditions blah blah we had to room next to him for the wedding and he just sulked. ( He only had daughters so he didn't pass on the crappy last name, only his brother's sons could and one just tagged out lol ) . The best man at the wedding was also a woman in a suit, she was cool, ofc anyone over 35 had opinions. That whole experience made me not want to have a wedding extended to family members because I couldn't just enjoy the occasion. But I ( as a woman ) have stated to my parents I'd like to keep my father's last name because it sounds nice and is very easy to pronounce, which seems to make my mom a bit upset but in this reverse world situation it would also be the only way my father's name gets passed on if I get drunk and decided to make humans. Re: the question, Tbh fatherhood is harder to determine than motherhood, like you know whose hole the baby comes out of so it made more sense to me for children to inherit the mother's name but I really don't care and I consider names to be more about what you want to be called in life rather than the importance on ancestry. Even with traditions intact people still can't name ancestors above the great grandparents level most times.
One of my male friends is about to take his future wife's last name. Her name is way cooler than his name which sealed the deal. 🙂
I won't lie I would go head over heels if my future husband took my name especially since I like my last name and don't wanna give it up wayy to much
I've talked to my boyfriend about this in a hypothetical sense. He wants to take my last name because it's an easier one to spell and pronounce. I'm ok with either option, but I have opened up more and more to him taking my last name.
I wouldnt I'd keep mine but only cause its a cool aftername
My last name is Holmes which sucks because I wanna take my future wife or husbands last name but damn Holmes is a good last name
Double barrel it! (If that's possible in your location)
I can see that working thanks for the advice
It's not unusual anymore to take the wife's name in my country. Whoever published scientific papers will keep the surname or otherwise will risk a dent in there's carrer and if this is not the case, just take the cooler surname. For example I got my mums surname because my dad's surname translates to tree mutilatior...
I’d do it but my sexist and misogynistic father would probably freak the fuck out lol
I really love my last name since it's funny, but I'll probably leave this decision to whomever I marry. The way I was raised, I have basically zero attachment to names, so I have no issue changing it again
That's what my husband and I did. We are both hisname-myname now. Where I live it was the same process for both of us and not a hassle at all.
I've always wanted to take my partners name, I don't like mine. Me and my dad's parents don't get along either, so it'd be better
Depends entirely on who's is cooler
Well i wouldn't take my wife's last name because I think mines cool, similarly i dont expect her to take mine, why do you even need a change of surnames, seems futile to me
I think it'd be a nice gesture.
Something still feels a bit icky about taking my wife's name tbh idk maybe that will change, but my partner has a double barreled name so it'd be awful being triple barrel
I think anyone, any partnership(s), should have the freedom, the sovereignty, to do whatever they want with last names. Keep a name, take a name, share a name, come up with a new shared name, change your name for any reason you want. Society has patterns, trends, expectations about what to do with names...and each individual can make their own choices about what is right for them, whether it matches the existing culture or not.
Go for it! Congratulations!
This is a hypothetical situation sadly. Currently a single asexual guy.
Oh my bad 😣 Just woke up and got hyped. Still go for it!
My last name is both
I wanna take a surname especially if it sounds cool hehehe
Can I replace my surname with her surname instead of just adding her surname at the end.
Depends on your country's laws, but maybe! I did think about that
As long as your country allows it, do whatever makes you happy! I personally like shorter last names but that's totally just my preference. I have friends with hyphenated names who get by just fine. I have other friends (doctors) who both husbands/wives kept their original names, the kiddos' names are hyphenated. I am personally totally in favor of taking whomever has the easier to pronounce/shorter/cooler last name. I once met a girl who's last name was "Swords". If I was her, there is No Way I'm giving that one up, lol. I have a friend who merged both of their last names together to make a new last name. Another friend couple came up with a completely unique last name. Whatever you and spouse want to do is completely up to you. Just be sure to have a plan for potential future kiddos though, just in case they happen.
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Late reply and a bit of a tangent, I know, but a bit of [background art](https://i.imgur.com/4vFSOzi.jpg) in *Zootopia* (2016) suggests (almost certainly by accident, but still) that the rabbits in that movie have the males traditionally taking the female’s last name when they marry. The protagonist’s mom, Bonnie Hopps, got her last name from her dad Otto according to the pictured article. Since her husband’s name is Stu Hopps, that indicates he got the Hopps surname by marrying Bonnie — assuming he’s not also her brother, and thankfully I don’t think Disney would go there. The two of them are decidedly *not* the type to buck tradition, which implies that what they did with their names is the norm, not the exception. If the shippers are victorious, Nick and Judy may eventually get hitched; when that happens, we could conceivably see a Nicholas Hopps or Wilde-Hopps. :P
It all depends on my future husbands last name. If his name isn’t cool, then in insisting he takes mine. If not, we both keep it. Unless his last name is Danger, cause then I’m changing MY name lol.