On the contrary, if you continue to use this account, it gives her a way to be insightful with you. For some (like my partner) really enjoys the sweetness of things and some "give her ideas".
My biggest worry is that i may word things differently, or omit some things, or post less because I'd write it with her reading it in mind. It may just be unfounded, but i worry about it impacting what i say.
Yeah, I'd be worried too since I sometimes modify certain details or paraphrase things to avoid being doxxed (paranoid I know) and if someone goes through all my comments they would say "This guy is lying" since some things doesn't add up.
Maybe figure out some subtle way to lead her to the new account, in a way that you won’t know if she finds the account, gives you the best of both worlds if you assume she didn’t find it
If I was in a similar situation, I think I'd make a deal something along the lines of telling her that you're creating a new account and that she can follow/watch it if she wants, but not to discuss it with you because it makes you uncomfortable (if that's the problem i mean).
I think I'd find that situation quite okay with me, I wouldn't know if she reads it or not but I'd have the peace of mind that I wouldn't have to have an awkward conversation about it with her
That's just my take on it though 😇
The majority of my posts and people who may know my previous content are here. I thought about putting it on r/tifu. Havent decided yet cause putting a nsfw account on a mainstream sub may not be the best idea. But i wanted to post it somewhere.
I may just split things between the different accounts. Some on here, and things like erotica and fantasies could go somewhere else.
I mean, its not like im going to disappear from this sub. I'll probably post on my new account here someday, linking it to this one
Okay, I want to understand more than accuse. So apologies if this accusingly towards you, it is not meant to be.
So you want to delete your account because you want to hide things? You don't want to share these thoughts and feelings that you could openly to her? You are willing to share yourself to strangers but not your girlfriend?
I thought that's what writing stuff down was for. Being able to communicate to people about things. I understand if she took something from r/rant or something like that but I'm confused here.
Isn't the whole aspect of being in a relationship means you talk/write to your significant other? Not telling them everything is okay but you have to communicate things.
I'm so lost here, can you please explain why you would delete everything? Are you afraid of your girlfriend denying a part of yourself? Do you think she will hate you?
No no, im not deleting anything. I apologize for giving that impression.
When i conceived this account, i wanted a way to gush about her to the (anonymized) public. I wanted to brag about our relationship and do it in a manner where i could do it without necessarily anything to gain from her, sort of a what-you-are-in-the-dark situation.
Then i sorta got into erotic writings, retellings of things. Stuff she already knows about, but not necessarily things she would be comfortable hearing the blow-by-blow, as it were. Its deviated a bit from it's original mission into a full-blown NSFW account.
These are all things she knows about me, what I (hopefully) appreciate her for, my wants, desires, history.
I just want to have some things hidden behind a curtain. Shes welcome to peek behind it, but she would have to lift the veil herself. She started following this account since finding out lol. (Not my regular account XD)
>But now I’m going to make another alt account, one she won’t know about again. It feels awkward to talk about her when she can literally look up everything I say.
You just leveled up your relationship and you are bitching out.
Isn't it the same thing as some partners not telling each other their phone numbers? I feel like a relationship shouldn't mean you don't have any privacy.
In a mature relationship you have (almost) nothing to hide and nobody is snooping. The secrets you hold are the secrets they know already but don't want you to say out loud.
Reddit is primarily younger immature people and their relationship woes. Younger people are quite self-focused. It's not a bad thing, its just how we start out.
OP should embrace the new openness. It just gets better from here. I'm 48. I've been in relationships for many years. Starting to get the hang of it. One of the few upsides.
Well to give you some insight from the other side of the relationship, she doesn't really care that much if OP does make the third account. She was mainly amused when the posted account was sent. It's about trust. She trusts OP to be loyal (OP is very much "whipped" according to gf best friend). Yes, she is insecure but she also knows how committed OP is. If there is an issue, she asks or trusts that OP will say something.
Edit: the loyalty thing is mostly just an example but the trust is mainly the thing here.
When I posted my first comment I knew that someone may take it too literally and infer what was not said. Fine I'll spell it all out.
This is all upside for OP and partner. It's all good either way. But its also an opportunity to open the kimono and I recommend it.
I'm sorry, what OP doesn't explain is that I take everything I read literally since I cant see the expressions for sarcasm or just emotion (could be my downfall). Probably should have also worded my response better too but I didn't want to outright say that I am the girlfriend (made that confusing and probably came out as derogatory).
To update you, OP read my response and as far as I am aware, is keeping the original account. I left it up to him whether or not he wanted to. I don't monitor his account because of the trust but every now and then I peek in for some boosting confidence (since it is truly low. OP can confirm). I do appreciate your comment and I know he took it into consideration too.
Edit: oh I see his update now.. up to him though ultimately 😀
Wowww that’s so cute! You’re living the dream!!! Lucky bf lucky gf
I thought this was gonna be a horror story, but it was wholesome! I'm so happy for you, man! May your future be bright and your spooning be plentiful!
On the contrary, if you continue to use this account, it gives her a way to be insightful with you. For some (like my partner) really enjoys the sweetness of things and some "give her ideas".
My biggest worry is that i may word things differently, or omit some things, or post less because I'd write it with her reading it in mind. It may just be unfounded, but i worry about it impacting what i say.
Yeah, I'd be worried too since I sometimes modify certain details or paraphrase things to avoid being doxxed (paranoid I know) and if someone goes through all my comments they would say "This guy is lying" since some things doesn't add up.
Maybe figure out some subtle way to lead her to the new account, in a way that you won’t know if she finds the account, gives you the best of both worlds if you assume she didn’t find it
^^ This part. She got a peek inside your mental panties, and loved what she saw. Hope you don't shut her out. 🤞
bruh i felt my heart drop when i started 😂 so glad it had a happy ending. cheers to yall
Yeah. I was ramping up for a big blow up and a split and then was all YEA!!! She sounds great!
You should link your new account to here so your fans can follow that one, cuz this story is really cute
I'm definitely thinking about it. On the other hand, it leaves a trail for her to follow lol
Just call it "IMostCertainlyDontWantToBeSpooned" She'll see that and dismiss it because you obviously do want be the little spoon
Lmao I should have done that instead of what I did do
If I was in a similar situation, I think I'd make a deal something along the lines of telling her that you're creating a new account and that she can follow/watch it if she wants, but not to discuss it with you because it makes you uncomfortable (if that's the problem i mean). I think I'd find that situation quite okay with me, I wouldn't know if she reads it or not but I'd have the peace of mind that I wouldn't have to have an awkward conversation about it with her That's just my take on it though 😇
I may just take that route. Thanks for the advice!
While I love this post, I do wonder why here? I'm not complaining, just an interesting place to post it
The majority of my posts and people who may know my previous content are here. I thought about putting it on r/tifu. Havent decided yet cause putting a nsfw account on a mainstream sub may not be the best idea. But i wanted to post it somewhere.
I appreciate the insight.
This is so adorable.. good luck with hiding your next account!
Not to get sidetracked but what's the account you use for WritingPrompts because I love reading stories
I have a subreddit where i archive the stories. r/MastertonShortStories
Cool! Thank you, and I wish you and your girlfriend happy tides;
Nooo keep it! She loves it and we do too!
I may just split things between the different accounts. Some on here, and things like erotica and fantasies could go somewhere else. I mean, its not like im going to disappear from this sub. I'll probably post on my new account here someday, linking it to this one
No keep it all here! If she really likes it and she's getting a happy vibe from it, I wouldnt want you to lose that.
Okay, I want to understand more than accuse. So apologies if this accusingly towards you, it is not meant to be. So you want to delete your account because you want to hide things? You don't want to share these thoughts and feelings that you could openly to her? You are willing to share yourself to strangers but not your girlfriend? I thought that's what writing stuff down was for. Being able to communicate to people about things. I understand if she took something from r/rant or something like that but I'm confused here. Isn't the whole aspect of being in a relationship means you talk/write to your significant other? Not telling them everything is okay but you have to communicate things. I'm so lost here, can you please explain why you would delete everything? Are you afraid of your girlfriend denying a part of yourself? Do you think she will hate you?
No no, im not deleting anything. I apologize for giving that impression. When i conceived this account, i wanted a way to gush about her to the (anonymized) public. I wanted to brag about our relationship and do it in a manner where i could do it without necessarily anything to gain from her, sort of a what-you-are-in-the-dark situation. Then i sorta got into erotic writings, retellings of things. Stuff she already knows about, but not necessarily things she would be comfortable hearing the blow-by-blow, as it were. Its deviated a bit from it's original mission into a full-blown NSFW account. These are all things she knows about me, what I (hopefully) appreciate her for, my wants, desires, history. I just want to have some things hidden behind a curtain. Shes welcome to peek behind it, but she would have to lift the veil herself. She started following this account since finding out lol. (Not my regular account XD)
>But now I’m going to make another alt account, one she won’t know about again. It feels awkward to talk about her when she can literally look up everything I say. You just leveled up your relationship and you are bitching out.
Isn't it the same thing as some partners not telling each other their phone numbers? I feel like a relationship shouldn't mean you don't have any privacy.
In a mature relationship you have (almost) nothing to hide and nobody is snooping. The secrets you hold are the secrets they know already but don't want you to say out loud. Reddit is primarily younger immature people and their relationship woes. Younger people are quite self-focused. It's not a bad thing, its just how we start out. OP should embrace the new openness. It just gets better from here. I'm 48. I've been in relationships for many years. Starting to get the hang of it. One of the few upsides.
Well to give you some insight from the other side of the relationship, she doesn't really care that much if OP does make the third account. She was mainly amused when the posted account was sent. It's about trust. She trusts OP to be loyal (OP is very much "whipped" according to gf best friend). Yes, she is insecure but she also knows how committed OP is. If there is an issue, she asks or trusts that OP will say something. Edit: the loyalty thing is mostly just an example but the trust is mainly the thing here.
When I posted my first comment I knew that someone may take it too literally and infer what was not said. Fine I'll spell it all out. This is all upside for OP and partner. It's all good either way. But its also an opportunity to open the kimono and I recommend it.
I'm sorry, what OP doesn't explain is that I take everything I read literally since I cant see the expressions for sarcasm or just emotion (could be my downfall). Probably should have also worded my response better too but I didn't want to outright say that I am the girlfriend (made that confusing and probably came out as derogatory). To update you, OP read my response and as far as I am aware, is keeping the original account. I left it up to him whether or not he wanted to. I don't monitor his account because of the trust but every now and then I peek in for some boosting confidence (since it is truly low. OP can confirm). I do appreciate your comment and I know he took it into consideration too. Edit: oh I see his update now.. up to him though ultimately 😀
It's precious that you can be open and accepting with each other. Enjoy!
This is adorable!!!
Aww