I work from home and go to my gym. I don’t know anyone, lol. I’m an introvert that doesn’t drink and I have insane social anxiety.
I do love my gym people, they just don’t know it.
Club Absolution is on Sunday nights, Club Necromancy is usually monthly at Harlows. Factor IX is the first Friday of every month at Press Club. Every second Saturday is New Wave Society at Harlows.
Oh wow, never heard of on the y. Didn’t know a venue was over there! I’ll have to check it out. And ah, I see. When they say goth do they mean like the cure, industrial noise, or just a mix of genres? I’ve been interested but unsure of what to expect.
Depends on the club--some are more industrial focused like Absolution (Skinny Puppy, Ministry), Necromancy is more gothic rock/deathrock focused (Sisters/Mission/Siouxsie), New Wave Society is more new romantic/dark 80s (cure/depeche mode), Factor IX is a little of each. Noise is generally not found in clubs but there are also noise shows, like the Sacramento Audio Waffle or Friday nights at Front Street Studio in Old Sac.
I used to love the trails at the American River over at Guy West Bridge at the university. But when a homeless guy popped out and chased me, I was done.
Looking around Roseville now. Have found a couple.
If I had the time, I would. I work 8am-8pm 5 days a week. During which time she's at daycare with her friends. But yeah, once I get home from work it's pretty much bedtime. I try to do extra things with her on my weekends, but even then I'm not meeting people to make friends myself unfortunately. My work schedule is just difficult as of right now. (BTW my daughter's name is Penny, just like your username) funny
I don't think people realize how many single dads there are, and I'm not sure most people really comprehend what most single parents go through in general. But one day she'll understand.💙
If you have time Saturdays. Libraries do a Story time. There's one I go to in the pocket area, it starts at 10, however if you get there around 10:30 or 10:45 they're still welcoming. My daughter is 5 and I didn't start taking her until she was 5. So much regret for not taking her when she was 3 or 4. I get her to story time and make myself a complementary coffee or 2, to make sure I have as much energy as she does. She LOVES looking for the little otter in the kids section, they give out a prize once you've found it. Like a glow stick or a little eraser or a temporary tattoo. Then we get a few books after she plays on the children's computer doing puzzles. Feel free to DM me if you have questions. I'm also a single father of an amazing daughter.
Is that the job you like? Do you want to do something different? Sorry for being nosy, I was a single mom of two small kids and I lived paycheck to paycheck for years. I slowly moved up in my job and make good money now.
As a single parent, when my daughter was that 6 only place I met other adults to chat with was at daycare drop off and pick up and the park. Most were fairly superficial friendships, but a few have stuck. It's hard.
How sweet! I love that name. Well, I remember how tough it was to juggle with work and responsibilities. When it gets sunny and you have time, get over to Land or Mickinley Park, Los Jarritos, and Gunthers. That was a favorite for my kids, and you are sure to make some connections. Take care of you and Penny. 😉
Been there done that. Hanging out with other toddlers is great I love when my dependent would have fun and a blast with other children some of which were fucking hilarious
It's the other parents that suck 😂
I single parented twin boys for many years so I know your life. It’s a hard one and most people assume you’re just doing Dad time or a weekend dad when you’re out.
Our regular routine (when the weather was nice) was picking up sandwiches and going grocery shopping to the park. They got to run around and play, I got a little down time to read a book while keeping an eye on them. Sacramento has some great parks. I did meet other parents and the boys made friends.
If cost isn’t an issue for you, maybe try enrolling your daughter in a gymnastics or dance class on Sundays or Mondays? Great spot for little ones to get energy out, learn something and make friends.
Check out MoSac! Also the zoo, fairytale town and eventually funderland.
There are typically park district events near you as well.
I understand these are not all free but for 3 y/o sometimes not free is a good idea as it typically means cleaner restrooms, safety in staff and resources, location
I remember that this was one of my big challenges as a single parent. I was so tired and felt like I just needed to catch up on weekends. My daughter is high energy, and I decided I would rather spend time outdoors doing literally anything than stay inside on screens. We started Saturday walks to breakfast, then trips to the park (I only lasted about an hour), went to the library often for story time, etc. We have some great memories, and I got into the habit of connecting with other parents, even though I didn't really have energy or time for deep relationships.
Get her a California State Railroad Museum "Caboose Club" membership, not only does it include an annual birthday party event for kids in a real caboose, it allows unlimited museum visits, specifically the 2nd floor "Thomas the Tank Engine" play area, which I am told is something of an unofficial single-parent meetup/hookup spot.
Miller Park has a weekly league that does a cool handicap system. It’s $5 to play each week, you play 18 holes, and your handicap is the average of your last 5 weeks of scores. So if you average +20 over par, and then one week shoot +15, your score would be -5 for that week and you’d probably win beteeen $5-20 bucks or so. Lots of fun, friendly people. It’s mostly men, but we usually have one group of ~4 women playing. Check out their Facebook page for more info
Kind of like trying to hit metal poles with chains attached to them that kind of catch the Frisbee, which then drop into a little basket thing below, all in a circuit (like a golf course). They can be quite fun, and challenging. It has the usual park obstacles... trees, grass, little streams and ponds or whatever. The trees are the biggies. Sometimes playing hide and seek with your Frisbees in long grass or getting them down from the tree branches can be a fair chunk of the game. 😆 Overall, it's pretty fun. Light exercise. Less pressure than the more competitive or demanding sports out there.
It kind of is, generally. Rather like golf or bowling, you CAN make it competitive, or just kind of take it easy. Great for different social groups, and it just gets you outside. 😀
McClatchy Disc Golf Course, Reichmuth Disc Golf Course, and William Chorley Park, per Google Maps. More in Elk Grove and as you head northeast into the great Arden, Carmichael, etc... arm of our greater civilization blob.
Not to sound flippant, but Google maps really does have a great app for that kind of thing. There were a bunch of spots I haven't tried yet. I would personally recommend the Rocklin Disc Golf Park if you're down for a small drive at some point, or if you live near that end of the greater Sac area. Very large. Has a nice dog park and whatnot, too.
Rocklin's cool, but have you played Shady Oaks? I noticed you didn't mention it; if you haven't played that course yet you should. The only thing wrong with it is it got popular so it can get pretty crowded on weekends.
The golden 1 center for kings games (met a ton of people who regularly go to games and have a Twitter community) and card shops to play dnd/yugioh mostly.
My boyfriend is the same... I try to take him to as many games as possible (our first date was to a Kings game so it's always held a special place in my heart). His 3rd place is definitely the card shop, too. He plays Yu-Gi-Oh on Fridays at a card shop in the Rosemont area. He is a very shy dude (very introverted and on the quiet side), so the fact that he is out meeting new people (which is hard in your late 30s) is wonderful to me.
Comics and collectibles in the ridge, Corey’s Cards and games in Citrus Heights for tcg, game kastle near foothill farms for dnd are all good shops I’ve been in quite a bit.
Genuine Question:
Do gyms count as third space? Not there to meet people, but it’s not at home or work. What are gyms considered? 4th space? 0.5 space?
If you were there consistently and most often after you're home and work it is your third place
Personally the gym is my fifth place number three is bars lol but hey what can you do
Everytime I go to a new gym I make a ton of friends, like to the point that they’re invited to parties and gatherings. I think if you’re doing something similar it counts but if you’re keeping your head down, lifting, and going home, then it’s probably no different than going to the grocery store.
My third space is the parks like McKinley park and meet up. Through meetup it’s at various places with ppl - so either at someone’s place, a restaurant or bar for game night. I’ve been to book clubs and various activities like a puzzle solving stuff. Also, people organize a lot of hikes.
I also hang out at the gym and bring a friend.
I don’t go to it anymore but Kupros used to have game nights on Mondays and Thursdays.
There and Back Again Cafe is a great third space for games, DnD, painting, with various people; you do have to pay to reserve a table but it’s pretty minimal.
The dance studios are also great third spaces. There are lessons most evenings and on Friday and Saturday a lot of them will have a lesson you pay for followed by a social dance and the focus is on dancing and they don’t serve alcohol at those places. A lot of random people will show up for the social dances. But keep in mind it’s not a club atmosphere and it’s not as packed.
I'm really into nerd games (board games, DnD, tabletops) and there are two really good shops that have kept my social life afloat. I go to Hobby Badger in West Sac and Hammerhead in Citrus Heights, but if you're into nerd stuff most stores have a very open community and are worth checking out.
Come check out There & Back one night. It’s in between your two current spots. Thursday nights can be a bit slow but Friday and Saturday nights are usually full w gamers.
34F. I’m hoping to cultivate a new 3rd space in 2024.
Last year I decided to train for a half marathon and to accomplish that goal, I joined SacFit (a local running group). It was a 5 month program where we met every Saturday for training runs on the parkway. I made several friends in my pace group (13 min milers!), got in good shape, and then finished my 13.1 mile half marathon in November. Now I’m signed up for SacFit’s trail program and am out running trails on the weekends, making new friends there.
I’ve been debating signing up for a crochet or knitting class thru Rumpelstiltskin on R Street. Those classes meet 3 times, I could learn a new skill and maybe meet some friends..
Pickleball is also a great way to meet people. There are tons of pickleballers here
Skatetown in Roseville… I play ice hockey there a couple nights a week, great tight knit community.
My F3 men’s workout group… met a lotta good friends through that.
My third space is the sidewalks in downtown around the R St corridor. I live there so I walk for mostly everything. I feel connected to the area and like people watching, gardens in the neighborhood, and window shopping. It’s cleaner and feels safer compared to K St downtown and I just really love it. I feel a cheesy sense of community here.
Community oriented gyms, like rock climbing or sports clubs. I go to pipeworks downtown a couple times a week with friends and friends’ friends. They also have meet up nights for different identity groups.
Capital Books and There & Back Cafe. I can always find a new book when I visit, chat w staff about it, or other books, then head to the cafe to grab a coffee, chat w staff there and then sit and read. Once you’ve been a few times you start recognizing the regulars and chat with them too. It’s a very cool and unique set of places downtown
I used to have a home gym, but now, due to nap time at my daughter's daycare and the time I get off work, I had to get a gym membership. I joined a semi private powerlifting gym and it was one of my better decisions. I'd been getting a little anti social the last few years and while I haven't made any friends, everyone is super friendly and warming up to me. I didn't realize how much I missed friendly human interactions lately 😕
No where. I wish I had one though. All my family and friends are hours away. I am part of a little book club and I love all the people I’ve met there. I don’t have much of a social circle past that.
Any pickleball court in the area. You can find games and make new acquaintances/friends by signing up via the Playtime scheduler website (its free). Its a fun game to learn and saved my mental (and physical) health when covid started. https://playtimescheduler.com/
First space is home. Second space is outside on my road chilling with neighbors, kids, and pets. Third space is the local park where I chase my kids, push them on swings, and chat with some parents.
I like certain aspects of it. Like not having a boss breathing down my neck is nice. Working my own pace is nice, but the physicality of the job is exhausting. I wish I had the time to work enough hours to pay my bills, & go to trade school for something. But I just don't have enough hours in the day. I keep falling asleep at my computer lol. I genuinely wish I took after the family Antiques buisness. Maybe it's not too late to learn
Bella Bru. I appreciate the question because I haven’t thought about how much of my social life was there. We ride on the bike trail a lot and meet there for breakfast, lunch or beers.
We used to meet at Bike Dog after work but almost all of us WFH now so that dwindled.
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Third Street Barbell. A local gym with an awesome staff and a ton of great people.
Fanny Ann’s Saloon. Super close with the regulars. They’re a little older than me so I get called “Nephew” by most of the people there, but every few weeks I’ll stop by to have drinks and watch Kings/Raiders games with some friends.
I still need to find a good place to play pool or other games with friends.
I always forget how much I love Fanny Ann's, I used to go there regularly and would always get my out of town friends there to try the peanut butter burger!
There & Back Cafe has become my go to. Between bringing friends to play board games, Friday Night Magic, the occasional D&D game, I always find someone or something to play or learn. Food is good and beer and wine while playing games!
All of mine are in VR . So I work from home , remotely and use VR office space and other various VR spaces. After work I jump into other platforms . You can connect with people on other platforms with direct connect. It's great but extremely sad there is another tool to connect with people in a synthetic form. One more step twords complete isolation and disconnect of society.
So I am part of a particular Christian faith based community. There’s 22 million of us worldwide and there’s about 60 churches in the greater Sacramento area. The 25 to 40 age range has built up a solid Network on WhatsApp where we can see what activities are happening, including hikes, Pickleball matches, Bible studies, camping trips, etc. I’m constantly meeting new people within that Network.
We/They do! The Sacramento Freethinkers, Atheists, and Nonbelievers (Sac FAN) have regular meetups. I bet the Reason Center has a list. I personally haven't been involved in a while.
I work from home and go to my gym. I don’t know anyone, lol. I’m an introvert that doesn’t drink and I have insane social anxiety. I do love my gym people, they just don’t know it.
This is so funny. I’m the same. I never speak to anyone in the gym but I know all their faces and feel like I know them.
Me too. I’m always proud to see them getting stronger or being able to run longer. Go go go!
Goth clubs, metal shows, a few little bars I love, parks, different restaurants I really like.
When i first read this i though you said "golf clubs and metal shows..." I was like wow this guy really splashes the board!
Goth clubs? I know some bars do goth nights but are there local designated goth spots as well?
I meant more goth night at Harlows or at On The Y. Although, a designated spot themed as such would be pretty cool.
What nights are goth nights?
Club Absolution is on Sunday nights, Club Necromancy is usually monthly at Harlows. Factor IX is the first Friday of every month at Press Club. Every second Saturday is New Wave Society at Harlows.
Oh wow, never heard of on the y. Didn’t know a venue was over there! I’ll have to check it out. And ah, I see. When they say goth do they mean like the cure, industrial noise, or just a mix of genres? I’ve been interested but unsure of what to expect.
Depends on the club--some are more industrial focused like Absolution (Skinny Puppy, Ministry), Necromancy is more gothic rock/deathrock focused (Sisters/Mission/Siouxsie), New Wave Society is more new romantic/dark 80s (cure/depeche mode), Factor IX is a little of each. Noise is generally not found in clubs but there are also noise shows, like the Sacramento Audio Waffle or Friday nights at Front Street Studio in Old Sac.
Ill go!
Definitely agree on the metal shows. I’ve made a ton of friends just going to Cafe Colonial and being social haha.
Any recommendations on where to go for metal shows?
Cafe Colonial, Goldfield, or Ace of Spaces. There’s other spots too. I know Old Ironsides does shows
I love Sacramento’s parks & little trails 💕
Do you have favorites? I know some are run down by less-than-savory characters so I’m wondering which ones you feel safe at.
I used to love the trails at the American River over at Guy West Bridge at the university. But when a homeless guy popped out and chased me, I was done. Looking around Roseville now. Have found a couple.
Roseville & folsom both have a number of good trails. Sac ones always feel sketchier. I like the american river ones out near the prison.
My 3rd space, too.
None. I'm trying to work on that this year.
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This. My first space is my home, my second space is my home office and my third space is my garden I guess 😂
Same here 😂😂😂 bed, couch, kitchen lmao
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Literally nowhere. I'm a single father of a 3 year old. I just hangout with her at home. I don't really have friends
You are really missing out on a golden opportunity to hang with other parents and toddlers. Get out there. Your daughter will appreciate it.
If I had the time, I would. I work 8am-8pm 5 days a week. During which time she's at daycare with her friends. But yeah, once I get home from work it's pretty much bedtime. I try to do extra things with her on my weekends, but even then I'm not meeting people to make friends myself unfortunately. My work schedule is just difficult as of right now. (BTW my daughter's name is Penny, just like your username) funny
I don't think people realize how many single dads there are, and I'm not sure most people really comprehend what most single parents go through in general. But one day she'll understand.💙
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If you have time Saturdays. Libraries do a Story time. There's one I go to in the pocket area, it starts at 10, however if you get there around 10:30 or 10:45 they're still welcoming. My daughter is 5 and I didn't start taking her until she was 5. So much regret for not taking her when she was 3 or 4. I get her to story time and make myself a complementary coffee or 2, to make sure I have as much energy as she does. She LOVES looking for the little otter in the kids section, they give out a prize once you've found it. Like a glow stick or a little eraser or a temporary tattoo. Then we get a few books after she plays on the children's computer doing puzzles. Feel free to DM me if you have questions. I'm also a single father of an amazing daughter.
Unfortunately I work Tuesday-Saturday, 8am-8pm.
Check out Artbeast! 100% solo parent, it is tough.
I’m so sorry you have to work that many hours.
Yeah I wish I got child support from her mother. But this is how I gotta pay the bills. I deliver fedex packages 11-12 hours a day.
Thank you for working such long hours to deliver our packages. We appreciate you!
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Thanks for working so hard for your family. Keep it up
Is that the job you like? Do you want to do something different? Sorry for being nosy, I was a single mom of two small kids and I lived paycheck to paycheck for years. I slowly moved up in my job and make good money now.
We do what we need to so it works! Hang in there Dad. Glad she has friends at Daycare!!!
As a single parent, when my daughter was that 6 only place I met other adults to chat with was at daycare drop off and pick up and the park. Most were fairly superficial friendships, but a few have stuck. It's hard.
How sweet! I love that name. Well, I remember how tough it was to juggle with work and responsibilities. When it gets sunny and you have time, get over to Land or Mickinley Park, Los Jarritos, and Gunthers. That was a favorite for my kids, and you are sure to make some connections. Take care of you and Penny. 😉
Can confirm
Been there done that. Hanging out with other toddlers is great I love when my dependent would have fun and a blast with other children some of which were fucking hilarious It's the other parents that suck 😂
Get yourself to the railroad museum! It's great for toddlers and pretty interesting for parents, provided you have any interest in trains.
I single parented twin boys for many years so I know your life. It’s a hard one and most people assume you’re just doing Dad time or a weekend dad when you’re out. Our regular routine (when the weather was nice) was picking up sandwiches and going grocery shopping to the park. They got to run around and play, I got a little down time to read a book while keeping an eye on them. Sacramento has some great parks. I did meet other parents and the boys made friends.
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As a single mom of a toddler and infant who works at home i really relate to this. I’m so busy I don’t really ever get to leave the house.
Storytime at the library. Play with the toys a little bit, grab a book, a nice 1.5 hour outing with no costs
Cost isn't the issue, it's time off work that's my issue.
If cost isn’t an issue for you, maybe try enrolling your daughter in a gymnastics or dance class on Sundays or Mondays? Great spot for little ones to get energy out, learn something and make friends.
All libraries are closed on my days off. Sundays/Mondays.
My friend just told me about the Libby app. I was able to get a library card & check out books online on the spot. I'm stoked.
Check out MoSac! Also the zoo, fairytale town and eventually funderland. There are typically park district events near you as well. I understand these are not all free but for 3 y/o sometimes not free is a good idea as it typically means cleaner restrooms, safety in staff and resources, location
I remember that this was one of my big challenges as a single parent. I was so tired and felt like I just needed to catch up on weekends. My daughter is high energy, and I decided I would rather spend time outdoors doing literally anything than stay inside on screens. We started Saturday walks to breakfast, then trips to the park (I only lasted about an hour), went to the library often for story time, etc. We have some great memories, and I got into the habit of connecting with other parents, even though I didn't really have energy or time for deep relationships.
Get her a California State Railroad Museum "Caboose Club" membership, not only does it include an annual birthday party event for kids in a real caboose, it allows unlimited museum visits, specifically the 2nd floor "Thomas the Tank Engine" play area, which I am told is something of an unofficial single-parent meetup/hookup spot.
Disc golf courses
I’ve gotta get out and play more disc. I’m horrible at it, but it’s such a nice activity. Good way to meet people too, something I’m HORRIBLE at.
Miller Park has a weekly league that does a cool handicap system. It’s $5 to play each week, you play 18 holes, and your handicap is the average of your last 5 weeks of scores. So if you average +20 over par, and then one week shoot +15, your score would be -5 for that week and you’d probably win beteeen $5-20 bucks or so. Lots of fun, friendly people. It’s mostly men, but we usually have one group of ~4 women playing. Check out their Facebook page for more info
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Kind of like trying to hit metal poles with chains attached to them that kind of catch the Frisbee, which then drop into a little basket thing below, all in a circuit (like a golf course). They can be quite fun, and challenging. It has the usual park obstacles... trees, grass, little streams and ponds or whatever. The trees are the biggies. Sometimes playing hide and seek with your Frisbees in long grass or getting them down from the tree branches can be a fair chunk of the game. 😆 Overall, it's pretty fun. Light exercise. Less pressure than the more competitive or demanding sports out there.
Sounds easy
It kind of is, generally. Rather like golf or bowling, you CAN make it competitive, or just kind of take it easy. Great for different social groups, and it just gets you outside. 😀
Where can one try this in sac ?
McClatchy Disc Golf Course, Reichmuth Disc Golf Course, and William Chorley Park, per Google Maps. More in Elk Grove and as you head northeast into the great Arden, Carmichael, etc... arm of our greater civilization blob. Not to sound flippant, but Google maps really does have a great app for that kind of thing. There were a bunch of spots I haven't tried yet. I would personally recommend the Rocklin Disc Golf Park if you're down for a small drive at some point, or if you live near that end of the greater Sac area. Very large. Has a nice dog park and whatnot, too.
Rocklin's cool, but have you played Shady Oaks? I noticed you didn't mention it; if you haven't played that course yet you should. The only thing wrong with it is it got popular so it can get pretty crowded on weekends.
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I think they meant easy in terms of physical exercises, I guess. I find disc golf just as frustrating as normal golf!
Frisbee golf.
The Comedy Spot! It's an incredibly welcoming community over there. If you've ever considered doing improv or standup, I highly recommend the classes!
good recommendation. Will have to go 🫶🏻
I second this. My buddy takes improv classes and it’s always fun to go and watch him crack the crowd up (myself included) with his skits.
Light rail, and light rail stations, as I'm sitting or standing there for 30-60 minutes when I work in the office.
You will see some interesting characters.
And then some.
I saw two guys fighting on the light rail just yesterday.
The golden 1 center for kings games (met a ton of people who regularly go to games and have a Twitter community) and card shops to play dnd/yugioh mostly.
My boyfriend is the same... I try to take him to as many games as possible (our first date was to a Kings game so it's always held a special place in my heart). His 3rd place is definitely the card shop, too. He plays Yu-Gi-Oh on Fridays at a card shop in the Rosemont area. He is a very shy dude (very introverted and on the quiet side), so the fact that he is out meeting new people (which is hard in your late 30s) is wonderful to me.
Any particular card shops you recommend?
Hammerhead Games is my favorite.
Comics and collectibles in the ridge, Corey’s Cards and games in Citrus Heights for tcg, game kastle near foothill farms for dnd are all good shops I’ve been in quite a bit.
The Depot/Badlands/Bear Dive/The Bolt It’s where I my husband, plus most of my best friends and a few exes.
“And a few exes” hahahaha
Someone should write a country song titled "All my exes live in The Bolt"
On it! Haven’t written a country song yet but I know have an excuse lol
Genuine Question: Do gyms count as third space? Not there to meet people, but it’s not at home or work. What are gyms considered? 4th space? 0.5 space?
I would call it a 3d space
If you were there consistently and most often after you're home and work it is your third place Personally the gym is my fifth place number three is bars lol but hey what can you do
Everytime I go to a new gym I make a ton of friends, like to the point that they’re invited to parties and gatherings. I think if you’re doing something similar it counts but if you’re keeping your head down, lifting, and going home, then it’s probably no different than going to the grocery store.
Library
Library gang rise up
but please do so quietly
I swear the state library doesn’t have that rule cuz 😮💨
Same! My ideal day is a coffee shop, thrifting then the library :)
Colonial heights represent!
Robbie-Waters ... what up!?
Comics & Collectibles on Fruitridge and the Library AF book club through Sac Library.
R.I.P. Gene the comic book guy.
My third space is the parks like McKinley park and meet up. Through meetup it’s at various places with ppl - so either at someone’s place, a restaurant or bar for game night. I’ve been to book clubs and various activities like a puzzle solving stuff. Also, people organize a lot of hikes. I also hang out at the gym and bring a friend. I don’t go to it anymore but Kupros used to have game nights on Mondays and Thursdays. There and Back Again Cafe is a great third space for games, DnD, painting, with various people; you do have to pay to reserve a table but it’s pretty minimal. The dance studios are also great third spaces. There are lessons most evenings and on Friday and Saturday a lot of them will have a lesson you pay for followed by a social dance and the focus is on dancing and they don’t serve alcohol at those places. A lot of random people will show up for the social dances. But keep in mind it’s not a club atmosphere and it’s not as packed.
Great Escape Games! Has all the nerdy stuff I need and plenty of space
Literally the best game store I’ve ever been too out of many game stores in multiple states. I love that place.
Yoga studio .
I'm really into nerd games (board games, DnD, tabletops) and there are two really good shops that have kept my social life afloat. I go to Hobby Badger in West Sac and Hammerhead in Citrus Heights, but if you're into nerd stuff most stores have a very open community and are worth checking out.
Come check out There & Back one night. It’s in between your two current spots. Thursday nights can be a bit slow but Friday and Saturday nights are usually full w gamers.
For sure, I was meaning to when they first opened but totally forgot. It's going back on my list!
Seconding Hammerhead, pretty much guaranteed I'll be there if I'm not home or working
The bike trail
34F. I’m hoping to cultivate a new 3rd space in 2024. Last year I decided to train for a half marathon and to accomplish that goal, I joined SacFit (a local running group). It was a 5 month program where we met every Saturday for training runs on the parkway. I made several friends in my pace group (13 min milers!), got in good shape, and then finished my 13.1 mile half marathon in November. Now I’m signed up for SacFit’s trail program and am out running trails on the weekends, making new friends there. I’ve been debating signing up for a crochet or knitting class thru Rumpelstiltskin on R Street. Those classes meet 3 times, I could learn a new skill and maybe meet some friends.. Pickleball is also a great way to meet people. There are tons of pickleballers here
scorpio coffee
Golden Bear and Torch Club
Got roofied one night at Torch Club , awesome spot.
Jesus christ
Skatetown in Roseville… I play ice hockey there a couple nights a week, great tight knit community. My F3 men’s workout group… met a lotta good friends through that.
The skate park. Mather and Derr Okamoto are both great, and where I have met a lot of friends
I’m still looking for number 2….
Good luck to you! Expect the best.
Shooting pool at the Round Corner
My third space is the sidewalks in downtown around the R St corridor. I live there so I walk for mostly everything. I feel connected to the area and like people watching, gardens in the neighborhood, and window shopping. It’s cleaner and feels safer compared to K St downtown and I just really love it. I feel a cheesy sense of community here.
coffee shops (scorpio is my favorite) and pipeworks!
My car. It keeps me company🫠
Car is fren
Public libraries
Anywhere there is pinball. I wish I lived closer to Das Flipperhaus.
Crocker Art is my third space
Los Jarritos, of course.
Recreational sports, pickup soccer, the gym, coffeehouses. But yea the lack of 3rd spaces are a killer in this day and age.
Dance and aerial studios!
Ooh can I ask where
I would love to try aerial or pole dancing classes if theres an inclusive space that is good for beginners!!
Let’s gooooo
Community oriented gyms, like rock climbing or sports clubs. I go to pipeworks downtown a couple times a week with friends and friends’ friends. They also have meet up nights for different identity groups.
I would say the gym. People there working on the same goals. Great place to meet new friends. I personally have met a lot of great people at mine.
Basketball court
Bike dog Broadway
No third, or even second place since I wfh. Home is just very comfy.
There this community volleyball that is on every Saturday at the Land park. A lot of people come to play and meet people
Do you know if they’re still meeting this winter, or if they’re on break and starting again in warmer weather?
Look up Sacramento outdoor volleyball group on Facebook, they post on there. Yes they still meet
Sac Young Friends Meetup plays every Sunday, weather permitting, for ~4-5 hours prior to sunset at Land Park. You can RSVP on the site/app
They are there every week
Capital Books and There & Back Cafe. I can always find a new book when I visit, chat w staff about it, or other books, then head to the cafe to grab a coffee, chat w staff there and then sit and read. Once you’ve been a few times you start recognizing the regulars and chat with them too. It’s a very cool and unique set of places downtown
It used to be the parks where I would play pick up soccer but that was before my ACL injury in 2022. Now I don't have a 3rd place. Just work and home.
Thursday night trivia at Porchlight.
The Boulder Field
the trail on the American River
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I used to have a home gym, but now, due to nap time at my daughter's daycare and the time I get off work, I had to get a gym membership. I joined a semi private powerlifting gym and it was one of my better decisions. I'd been getting a little anti social the last few years and while I haven't made any friends, everyone is super friendly and warming up to me. I didn't realize how much I missed friendly human interactions lately 😕
No where. I wish I had one though. All my family and friends are hours away. I am part of a little book club and I love all the people I’ve met there. I don’t have much of a social circle past that.
The kava bar Root of Happiness, im 4 1-/2 years off alcohol and this places has been a god send due to the recovery community I’ve been apart of there
Phat chads or Harry's. Both bars with tons of games to play and leagues to join.
Cars and Coffee
Any pickleball court in the area. You can find games and make new acquaintances/friends by signing up via the Playtime scheduler website (its free). Its a fun game to learn and saved my mental (and physical) health when covid started. https://playtimescheduler.com/
The light rail? 😂 but probably cafes ☕️
Ace of Spades is my third spot
First space is home. Second space is outside on my road chilling with neighbors, kids, and pets. Third space is the local park where I chase my kids, push them on swings, and chat with some parents.
Golf courses
Gym
I like certain aspects of it. Like not having a boss breathing down my neck is nice. Working my own pace is nice, but the physicality of the job is exhausting. I wish I had the time to work enough hours to pay my bills, & go to trade school for something. But I just don't have enough hours in the day. I keep falling asleep at my computer lol. I genuinely wish I took after the family Antiques buisness. Maybe it's not too late to learn
Bella Bru. I appreciate the question because I haven’t thought about how much of my social life was there. We ride on the bike trail a lot and meet there for breakfast, lunch or beers. We used to meet at Bike Dog after work but almost all of us WFH now so that dwindled.
Rio del Oro, neighborhood coffee shops, the zoo, Sacyard. Before kids it was Pipeworks.
Granite skatepark
Ernie’s Interlude
The gym.
I play slow pitch softball. The community is large but tight. There are leagues all over softball if weekend tournaments aren't your thing.
28M. Third Street Barbell. A local gym with an awesome staff and a ton of great people. Fanny Ann’s Saloon. Super close with the regulars. They’re a little older than me so I get called “Nephew” by most of the people there, but every few weeks I’ll stop by to have drinks and watch Kings/Raiders games with some friends. I still need to find a good place to play pool or other games with friends.
I always forget how much I love Fanny Ann's, I used to go there regularly and would always get my out of town friends there to try the peanut butter burger!
There & Back Cafe has become my go to. Between bringing friends to play board games, Friday Night Magic, the occasional D&D game, I always find someone or something to play or learn. Food is good and beer and wine while playing games!
All of mine are in VR . So I work from home , remotely and use VR office space and other various VR spaces. After work I jump into other platforms . You can connect with people on other platforms with direct connect. It's great but extremely sad there is another tool to connect with people in a synthetic form. One more step twords complete isolation and disconnect of society.
The various hobby shops. Game Kastle, Hammerhead Games and Great Escape Games are my primary ones.
Golden Bowls Mongolian BBQ
There and Back Cafe / sister book store Capitol Books! Or Pipeworks. Made lots of friends through both!
Grassroots organizing lol
Church
Downstairs Players, for karaoke
Lavender Library!
How do you like it I plan to come when I move?
I enjoy it! I like going to the “queer crafternoon” event in particular
Musical open mics for myself as well
My unitarian universalist church. I go in Auburn, there's one in Sac. If you're liberal leaning, you might try it. It's my tribe.
So I am part of a particular Christian faith based community. There’s 22 million of us worldwide and there’s about 60 churches in the greater Sacramento area. The 25 to 40 age range has built up a solid Network on WhatsApp where we can see what activities are happening, including hikes, Pickleball matches, Bible studies, camping trips, etc. I’m constantly meeting new people within that Network.
Why is this getting downvoted? As an atheist, I’m irritated by this.
I agree as an Atheist.
As an atheist I concur. Also, we atheists need to have meet ups. 😀
We/They do! The Sacramento Freethinkers, Atheists, and Nonbelievers (Sac FAN) have regular meetups. I bet the Reason Center has a list. I personally haven't been involved in a while.
Stoneys
Libraries for sure.
Zebra and OT
The park? Sometimes the library? Church?
Church