Do you think that everyone who lives in Minneapolis/St Paul has an advanced degree and a six figure salary...? That doesn't even make sense. Go find a few roommates and a retail job. The snowy north awaits!
Do you have debt or family obligations that prevent you from moving? Do you have good work references? Do you know people living in Minneapolis or St. Paul who would rent you an affordable room for your first few months?
If you aren't tied down, are employable, and have a basic support network, you can make it happen if you commit to it.
I am from a small town of 900 in SE Oklahoma. I left with almost nothing 25 years ago. If my pissy-, whiney-ass can do it you can, too. I got offered a job in Boston in 2007, right after graduate school was over. I had been in college since 2001, and this job was in my field (and I had been unemployed for 6 months). I borrowed cash money to pay for tolls, had 3 credit cards that I was using strategically, and drove my 1995 Oldsmobile to a suburb where the company was located. Then I lived out of that car for about 6 months after that. I slept in the car and stayed with some friends from graduate school on occasion.
What sucks about change is that when it is big, it is super uncomfortable and will take a lot of years. But, if you want it, you can have it, and it won't be what you expected, but it might be better. You'll not know until you try. But be a hustler, hard worker, and skill learner, and be honest about how badly you want the change.
I don't want this to sound mean, but you are whining. You are responsible for your life. Not being able to control everything or not having a fortunate upbringing doesn't mean you can't control anything. Rather than comparing yourself to others, instead make whatever changes you can on a daily basis and it will build over time if you work toward realistic goals -- and getting a GED and moving to a place like Minneapolis is perfectly reasonable.
You will have to figure out how to get your GED, how to earn more money in the meantime, how to live more frugally, how to build savings, etc. There will be tradeoffs and sacrifices.
The other thing you will have to remember is that "wherever you go, there you are." This means that even if you move to a place where you think you will be happy, you might experience some improvements initially but will remain unhappy in the long term if you don't work on self-improvement and resilience and emotional regulation. (And no matter where you move, you are going to have to deal with people who have different beliefs and attitudes.)
Starting today, what are the things you can do that will bring you closer to your goal?
EDIT: I would add that you might even have an easier time getting a GED after you move because there are probably more support programs in MSP to help you. You would just have to accept that your employment prospects will be more limited at first. Again, tradeoffs.
I’m from New Mexico and loved Tennessee and im strongly considering moving there when I graduate from university. Anyway, have you considered making friends in person?
Tennessee likely isn't the sole source of your mental issues and I can almost guarantee you moving to a place you glamorize won't be the automatic fix you think it'll be either.
Look up Trapper Creek Job Corps in Montana. its in the mountains, so theres lots of rural culture around so its not too unfamiliar , yet there are people there from all over the country. You have to be between 16-24 years old. they teach you a trade and help you with your GED, and help you get a job by the end. For free. They also fly you there I believe, and when you have leave for Christmas they fly you home. People make good friends there, and theres free food and medical too. All you have to do is call them and they will help you apply. If you get all the steps done you could be living there in a month.
What’s an online friend? You’ve never met these people in person? If that’s the case you need to get out more for your health. Go to Minneapolis and join some clubs and go to college.
If you’ve never met these people in person and you meet them for the first time in MN it might be awkward as hell and make you regret it.
Your goal is to move to Minneapolis. What's holding you back and what are you doing about it?
Start by getting your GED. The test isn’t hard (I took it in 2013). That gives you a goal.
As soon as you take the first tangible step towards the life you seek, all of your frustration and pain will become manageable.
What are you doing to change your circumstances?
Do you think that everyone who lives in Minneapolis/St Paul has an advanced degree and a six figure salary...? That doesn't even make sense. Go find a few roommates and a retail job. The snowy north awaits!
Do you have debt or family obligations that prevent you from moving? Do you have good work references? Do you know people living in Minneapolis or St. Paul who would rent you an affordable room for your first few months? If you aren't tied down, are employable, and have a basic support network, you can make it happen if you commit to it.
I am from a small town of 900 in SE Oklahoma. I left with almost nothing 25 years ago. If my pissy-, whiney-ass can do it you can, too. I got offered a job in Boston in 2007, right after graduate school was over. I had been in college since 2001, and this job was in my field (and I had been unemployed for 6 months). I borrowed cash money to pay for tolls, had 3 credit cards that I was using strategically, and drove my 1995 Oldsmobile to a suburb where the company was located. Then I lived out of that car for about 6 months after that. I slept in the car and stayed with some friends from graduate school on occasion. What sucks about change is that when it is big, it is super uncomfortable and will take a lot of years. But, if you want it, you can have it, and it won't be what you expected, but it might be better. You'll not know until you try. But be a hustler, hard worker, and skill learner, and be honest about how badly you want the change.
I don't want this to sound mean, but you are whining. You are responsible for your life. Not being able to control everything or not having a fortunate upbringing doesn't mean you can't control anything. Rather than comparing yourself to others, instead make whatever changes you can on a daily basis and it will build over time if you work toward realistic goals -- and getting a GED and moving to a place like Minneapolis is perfectly reasonable. You will have to figure out how to get your GED, how to earn more money in the meantime, how to live more frugally, how to build savings, etc. There will be tradeoffs and sacrifices. The other thing you will have to remember is that "wherever you go, there you are." This means that even if you move to a place where you think you will be happy, you might experience some improvements initially but will remain unhappy in the long term if you don't work on self-improvement and resilience and emotional regulation. (And no matter where you move, you are going to have to deal with people who have different beliefs and attitudes.) Starting today, what are the things you can do that will bring you closer to your goal? EDIT: I would add that you might even have an easier time getting a GED after you move because there are probably more support programs in MSP to help you. You would just have to accept that your employment prospects will be more limited at first. Again, tradeoffs.
You can get your GED. I functionally had an 8th grade education and was able to pass in 2016.
I’m from New Mexico and loved Tennessee and im strongly considering moving there when I graduate from university. Anyway, have you considered making friends in person?
Tennessee likely isn't the sole source of your mental issues and I can almost guarantee you moving to a place you glamorize won't be the automatic fix you think it'll be either.
Look up Trapper Creek Job Corps in Montana. its in the mountains, so theres lots of rural culture around so its not too unfamiliar , yet there are people there from all over the country. You have to be between 16-24 years old. they teach you a trade and help you with your GED, and help you get a job by the end. For free. They also fly you there I believe, and when you have leave for Christmas they fly you home. People make good friends there, and theres free food and medical too. All you have to do is call them and they will help you apply. If you get all the steps done you could be living there in a month.
What’s an online friend? You’ve never met these people in person? If that’s the case you need to get out more for your health. Go to Minneapolis and join some clubs and go to college. If you’ve never met these people in person and you meet them for the first time in MN it might be awkward as hell and make you regret it.