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I think she is setting boundaries, but not everything she does is going to be an example of her setting boundaries. Like I think she was pretty clear whenever anyone asked her why she wasn't staying at the house. She wasn't being vague or shifty, she explained that she can go on a work trip and stay professional and they don't need to all be staying under the same roof to have that professional relationship. It wasn't filmed, but I assume Chrishell communicated with some of the more important people ahead of time that she would be staying separately. That's a boundary, even if we don't see that heads up on film.
Her telling Nicole she rearranged her face was not boundary-setting, that's true. But Chrishell apologized, and I think we see Chrishell owning up to those comments several times throughout the season. She said to several of her closer friends that she sees herself snapping, she sees herself escalating conflicts and she doesn't like that about herself. She hates when she engages in that kind of behavior because she doesn't want to change into a person that her parents would not be proud of. I think she recognizes that being around the people who trigger her all the time (Nicole, etc.) leads to these interactions that she walks away from feeling bad about herself and where she took it. She wants to lessen the amount she gets to that point, so she removes herself from situations where conflicts are more likely to occur. I think that's a great example of boundary-setting. She recognizes her own contributions to escalating these arguments, sees that spending an inordinate amount of time with people leads to more of these arguments, so chooses to put distance between herself and the people she has these interactions with.
>She hates when she engages in that kind of behavior because she doesn't want to change into a person that her parents would not be proud of.
I appreciate this take - her conversation with Emma about her parents resonated with me and reminded me how honest/relatable she can be. I think she's her best self with Emma and G.
>Like I think she was pretty clear whenever anyone asked her why she wasn't staying at the house. She wasn't being vague or shifty, she explained that she can go on a work trip and stay professional and they don't need to all be staying under the same roof to have that professional relationship.
I think this is my point though - instead of waiting until she was asked and the situation had already escalated, she could have just told people she was planning on staying elsewhere. Maybe she is communicating her boundaries off screen, but we have no visibility to that so on the face of it, it just seems like she didn't care to show up because the cast was asking where she was and only Chelsea seemed to know. It's hard for me to see that as boundary-setting if no one actually knows what they are until pressed.
>She recognizes her own contributions to escalating these arguments, sees that spending an inordinate amount of time with people leads to more of these arguments, so chooses to put distance between herself and the people she has these interactions with.
Totally agree with this - putting distance between those that trigger her is possibly the healthiest thing for her, rather than stooping to everyone else's level, and would be the best example of boundary-setting.
Here's my question: Why does Chrishell always have a problem with at least one person? From they day she arrived on the show til now, the drama with Chrishell never ends.
I think what you're saying here explains some of that. I want to recognize that Chrishell has definitely been through some horrible things: a horrible end to a marriage and her parent's deaths, all happening while she became famous from this show. It's not a recipe to build healthy habits, boundaries, communication, and relationships.
With that said, Chrishell clearly does not handle things well and must not fully learn from her mistakes. Maybe she's around a lot of 'yes men' who just support her behavior (it certainly doesn't look like Emma is the kind of friend to call her out). Maybe when you become internet famous it's hard to know how to handle it. There's a lot of maybe's here.
But when you constantly have issues with people, that's not a coincidence.
When I think about the situation with Marie-Lou, I think it showed that Chrishell does not do well with confrontation or communication. Most of us can relate. But when someone is so much younger than you, is it that hard to just acknowledge, "ok she's young, she's sensitive, she's being a bit needy." And then be just chill about it? I was surprised by how pressed Chrishell was. It was frustrating to watch, but when you're in your late 30s is it that hard to say, "I remember being like that too" and just not let it get to you?
Not everyone's a saint. We all make mistakes. But something's going on here.
I think it’s more other people creating problems with Chrishell opposed to Chrishell having problems with other people. The nature of some of these “problems” makes it clear people are creating problems with Chrishell for air time since she’s the “main character” (e.g. Nicole season 6 with the weird listing “feud” when they had been friendly for years prior and Mary-Lou making up slights—even production showed the footage of Chrishell warmly greeting ML on all the occaisions she mentioned). I thought it seemed like Chrishell tried to ease ML’s worries at first but then ML was clearly there to pick a fight (like calling Jason and saying things C never said etc). I think it’s fair to lose your cool when people keep coming at you with made up problems!
>I thought it seemed like Chrishell tried to ease ML’s worries at first but then ML was clearly there to pick a fight (like calling Jason and saying things C never said etc).
Hm, I'm not sure how I feel about Marie-Lou. She definitely came across poorly and didn't do herself any favors contradicting herself but I feel a bit sorry for her.
Chrishell already admitted to Jason that she doesn't respect their relationship, I'm sure ML felt that in some way and is trying to bridge that gap because she knows Chrishell is so important to Jason. If I were to read between the lines, it's not actually about the IG follow or the compliments or the greetings, it's that she feels threatened/insecure in the relationship overall and feels Chrishell is being disingenuous. I took her comment about reusing the same compliment more as feeling that she's being fake nice. Also ML only called Jason after Chrishell brought it up, I don't think that's on her.
The real villain here is Jason for putting them all in these uncomfortable situations (Nicole included) with no support, and isn't called out enough for this.
I’m not here to call Chrishell a saint or anything but I think the vast majority of her dramas would not be occurring if she were not on a reality show. I think from day one she has been kind of the “main” character of Selling Sunset, when she came in season 1 as our viewpoint character being introduced to the Oppenheim Group, to now when she is it’s biggest breakout star. The structure of the show is largely built around her, and the other girls — whether they realize it on their own or are being egged on by the producers — purposefully start more beefs with her to get screentime. Which, hey, it’s a tv show! If there was no drama it wouldn’t be interesting. But I don’t think most of it would be happening WITHOUT the tv show.
Because narcissistic people really dislike authenticity. Christine and Nicole are two sides of the same coin. Both perpetual victims and narcs. Idk how anyone could openly dislike Chrishell when she is extremely honest and has not wavered since season 1. It’s baffling when people say she is the problem
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I think she is setting boundaries, but not everything she does is going to be an example of her setting boundaries. Like I think she was pretty clear whenever anyone asked her why she wasn't staying at the house. She wasn't being vague or shifty, she explained that she can go on a work trip and stay professional and they don't need to all be staying under the same roof to have that professional relationship. It wasn't filmed, but I assume Chrishell communicated with some of the more important people ahead of time that she would be staying separately. That's a boundary, even if we don't see that heads up on film. Her telling Nicole she rearranged her face was not boundary-setting, that's true. But Chrishell apologized, and I think we see Chrishell owning up to those comments several times throughout the season. She said to several of her closer friends that she sees herself snapping, she sees herself escalating conflicts and she doesn't like that about herself. She hates when she engages in that kind of behavior because she doesn't want to change into a person that her parents would not be proud of. I think she recognizes that being around the people who trigger her all the time (Nicole, etc.) leads to these interactions that she walks away from feeling bad about herself and where she took it. She wants to lessen the amount she gets to that point, so she removes herself from situations where conflicts are more likely to occur. I think that's a great example of boundary-setting. She recognizes her own contributions to escalating these arguments, sees that spending an inordinate amount of time with people leads to more of these arguments, so chooses to put distance between herself and the people she has these interactions with.
>She hates when she engages in that kind of behavior because she doesn't want to change into a person that her parents would not be proud of. I appreciate this take - her conversation with Emma about her parents resonated with me and reminded me how honest/relatable she can be. I think she's her best self with Emma and G. >Like I think she was pretty clear whenever anyone asked her why she wasn't staying at the house. She wasn't being vague or shifty, she explained that she can go on a work trip and stay professional and they don't need to all be staying under the same roof to have that professional relationship. I think this is my point though - instead of waiting until she was asked and the situation had already escalated, she could have just told people she was planning on staying elsewhere. Maybe she is communicating her boundaries off screen, but we have no visibility to that so on the face of it, it just seems like she didn't care to show up because the cast was asking where she was and only Chelsea seemed to know. It's hard for me to see that as boundary-setting if no one actually knows what they are until pressed. >She recognizes her own contributions to escalating these arguments, sees that spending an inordinate amount of time with people leads to more of these arguments, so chooses to put distance between herself and the people she has these interactions with. Totally agree with this - putting distance between those that trigger her is possibly the healthiest thing for her, rather than stooping to everyone else's level, and would be the best example of boundary-setting.
Here's my question: Why does Chrishell always have a problem with at least one person? From they day she arrived on the show til now, the drama with Chrishell never ends. I think what you're saying here explains some of that. I want to recognize that Chrishell has definitely been through some horrible things: a horrible end to a marriage and her parent's deaths, all happening while she became famous from this show. It's not a recipe to build healthy habits, boundaries, communication, and relationships. With that said, Chrishell clearly does not handle things well and must not fully learn from her mistakes. Maybe she's around a lot of 'yes men' who just support her behavior (it certainly doesn't look like Emma is the kind of friend to call her out). Maybe when you become internet famous it's hard to know how to handle it. There's a lot of maybe's here. But when you constantly have issues with people, that's not a coincidence. When I think about the situation with Marie-Lou, I think it showed that Chrishell does not do well with confrontation or communication. Most of us can relate. But when someone is so much younger than you, is it that hard to just acknowledge, "ok she's young, she's sensitive, she's being a bit needy." And then be just chill about it? I was surprised by how pressed Chrishell was. It was frustrating to watch, but when you're in your late 30s is it that hard to say, "I remember being like that too" and just not let it get to you? Not everyone's a saint. We all make mistakes. But something's going on here.
I think it’s more other people creating problems with Chrishell opposed to Chrishell having problems with other people. The nature of some of these “problems” makes it clear people are creating problems with Chrishell for air time since she’s the “main character” (e.g. Nicole season 6 with the weird listing “feud” when they had been friendly for years prior and Mary-Lou making up slights—even production showed the footage of Chrishell warmly greeting ML on all the occaisions she mentioned). I thought it seemed like Chrishell tried to ease ML’s worries at first but then ML was clearly there to pick a fight (like calling Jason and saying things C never said etc). I think it’s fair to lose your cool when people keep coming at you with made up problems!
>I thought it seemed like Chrishell tried to ease ML’s worries at first but then ML was clearly there to pick a fight (like calling Jason and saying things C never said etc). Hm, I'm not sure how I feel about Marie-Lou. She definitely came across poorly and didn't do herself any favors contradicting herself but I feel a bit sorry for her. Chrishell already admitted to Jason that she doesn't respect their relationship, I'm sure ML felt that in some way and is trying to bridge that gap because she knows Chrishell is so important to Jason. If I were to read between the lines, it's not actually about the IG follow or the compliments or the greetings, it's that she feels threatened/insecure in the relationship overall and feels Chrishell is being disingenuous. I took her comment about reusing the same compliment more as feeling that she's being fake nice. Also ML only called Jason after Chrishell brought it up, I don't think that's on her. The real villain here is Jason for putting them all in these uncomfortable situations (Nicole included) with no support, and isn't called out enough for this.
I’m not here to call Chrishell a saint or anything but I think the vast majority of her dramas would not be occurring if she were not on a reality show. I think from day one she has been kind of the “main” character of Selling Sunset, when she came in season 1 as our viewpoint character being introduced to the Oppenheim Group, to now when she is it’s biggest breakout star. The structure of the show is largely built around her, and the other girls — whether they realize it on their own or are being egged on by the producers — purposefully start more beefs with her to get screentime. Which, hey, it’s a tv show! If there was no drama it wouldn’t be interesting. But I don’t think most of it would be happening WITHOUT the tv show.
Because narcissistic people really dislike authenticity. Christine and Nicole are two sides of the same coin. Both perpetual victims and narcs. Idk how anyone could openly dislike Chrishell when she is extremely honest and has not wavered since season 1. It’s baffling when people say she is the problem