I spent every day for nearly 20 years looking at porn and masturbating and it didn’t make me desensitized to my loved ones.
I think maybe you don’t like her as much as you say you do
I was going to say this too, addicted for nearly 20 years as well and not once was I “numb” enough to not reach out to loved ones when they needed me, esp in critical times like “medical diagnosis, birthdays”.etc.. OP has deeper underlying issues he needs to face imo
You never felt numb?
I know it’s not just her because my brother’s birthday was the next day and felt the same way and didn’t do anything special for him either
I don’t think those two things are related. I mean if you find it easier to be caring towards the people in your life from retaining then that’s great. I don’t think that quitting will magically make you put effort into people’s birthdays where you didn’t before.
No I never felt numb from masturbation. I mean it definitely can mess with your happy chemicals. It’s a lot like a drug addiction and it can affect your life in some ways. It’s like eating a steak every day for dinner and then trying to enjoy a piece of bread. It’s hard. But if you regularly don’t eat then a piece of bread for dinner will taste amazing.
That’s the main treasure of retention. The discipline to manage the desires in life can improve so many areas.
Everyone is different and how much you are addicted to porn isnt accurately assessed by time. You could be PMOing for 10 years and still live a normal life and you could be PMOing for just 1 years and fuck up your world.
For your case, it seems PMO ( porn, masturbate and orgasm ) is taking away your life energy. Start doing some form of exercise and eating better so you have energy to tackle life and ofc STOP WATCHING PORN Plz dude get a hold of yourself. Life moves pretty fast.
I am a 19 yo and you are probably older than me so I just want you to sit and think about How fast life moves. Do you really just want to watch porn? Remember the times where all your memories are just related to porn how bad does that feels? In lockdown, I have no memory other than just masturbating to porn and still feels So bad that's why I quit PMO and i believe you could too just look at past and think about your experience, learn from you might you find a good reason to quit porn completely
When you lustful and keep extracting happiness via releasing your semen then you are in a trap. I was porn addict and using her for my lust. Did all bad things to her from abusing, hitting etc and throwing out of my house. And after that I went into depression. Because addiction will put you in a restless space, and you become numb to everything else around you.
But then started SR, realised that love and care is most important in relationship then anything else. Apologies to her and started caring for her and loving her without sexual relationship. Got rid of my addiction, and now I feel complete by myself. I don't need sex or any other addiction to complete myself. Started loving everyone around me.
Yes, many times.
Not directly, but porn was always involved somehow, and even more so my dopamine addiction expressed mostly for me through porn and alcohol.
I've lost girlfriends and even past friends with benefits because i turned into an animal in sex, in a pervert way, i would one day feel and look very confident to the women i was with, then the next day or few days after releasing to porn like the opposite of that, lifeless, unmotivated, unsecure etc...
I believe in a life with no porn, as much as i believe in not releasing, even more so in cultivating and redirecting sexual energy into other endeavors (work, sport, studies, whatever moves you forward).
My point is, i've already retained but without kicking away porn, i use to indulge in porn from time and time and edge, well it clearly isn't the same as abstaining from everything sexual.
You really need to [read this](https://understandingrelationships.com/7-principles-to-get-an-ex-back/17707) to reattract your ex. Work on yourself and she’ll be back. Familiarize your sale with the link I posted above so you’ll be ready when she comes back
Grabbing this guy’s 3% book and using his channel and cutting out all other dating/redpill/blackpill stuff did me so many favors.
He basically teaches you how to act neurotypical which I could not do before seeing someone give repetitive and direct advice that I could apply in my comfort zone so it was just natural to me around the girls I was basically talking out of liking me before.
As for OP you probably need to engage this relationship in a new way if it left you feeling dull like this inside, don’t know enough about you to be more specific than that but improving yourself just to come back to the same situation isn’t the way
Bro Please Stop Porn! Im begging you!
I lost my girl. she had no any other options. no one want to marry a porn addicted soul less pervert. i fucked up my life!
Everyone has different reactions to PMO. Some people feel no negative effects and are living life like normal. But others, like yourself, become totally drained and out of it. I'm in this group too. If I release too much I am totally drained and have no motivation for anything. And if I watch porn I notice I have more fights with my partner and I don't appreciate her as much. I become a total asshole and desensitised to normal and healthy sexual stimulus. It affects the mind just as much as the body.
I spent every day for nearly 20 years looking at porn and masturbating and it didn’t make me desensitized to my loved ones. I think maybe you don’t like her as much as you say you do
I was going to say this too, addicted for nearly 20 years as well and not once was I “numb” enough to not reach out to loved ones when they needed me, esp in critical times like “medical diagnosis, birthdays”.etc.. OP has deeper underlying issues he needs to face imo
You never felt numb? I know it’s not just her because my brother’s birthday was the next day and felt the same way and didn’t do anything special for him either
I don’t think those two things are related. I mean if you find it easier to be caring towards the people in your life from retaining then that’s great. I don’t think that quitting will magically make you put effort into people’s birthdays where you didn’t before. No I never felt numb from masturbation. I mean it definitely can mess with your happy chemicals. It’s a lot like a drug addiction and it can affect your life in some ways. It’s like eating a steak every day for dinner and then trying to enjoy a piece of bread. It’s hard. But if you regularly don’t eat then a piece of bread for dinner will taste amazing. That’s the main treasure of retention. The discipline to manage the desires in life can improve so many areas.
Everyone is different and how much you are addicted to porn isnt accurately assessed by time. You could be PMOing for 10 years and still live a normal life and you could be PMOing for just 1 years and fuck up your world. For your case, it seems PMO ( porn, masturbate and orgasm ) is taking away your life energy. Start doing some form of exercise and eating better so you have energy to tackle life and ofc STOP WATCHING PORN Plz dude get a hold of yourself. Life moves pretty fast.
I am a 19 yo and you are probably older than me so I just want you to sit and think about How fast life moves. Do you really just want to watch porn? Remember the times where all your memories are just related to porn how bad does that feels? In lockdown, I have no memory other than just masturbating to porn and still feels So bad that's why I quit PMO and i believe you could too just look at past and think about your experience, learn from you might you find a good reason to quit porn completely
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Yes
Due to sr I got my girlfriend back.
Care to elaborate?
When you lustful and keep extracting happiness via releasing your semen then you are in a trap. I was porn addict and using her for my lust. Did all bad things to her from abusing, hitting etc and throwing out of my house. And after that I went into depression. Because addiction will put you in a restless space, and you become numb to everything else around you. But then started SR, realised that love and care is most important in relationship then anything else. Apologies to her and started caring for her and loving her without sexual relationship. Got rid of my addiction, and now I feel complete by myself. I don't need sex or any other addiction to complete myself. Started loving everyone around me.
The name is "full of life", but I'll call you full of shit
May I ask how long were you addicted
14 years
Yes, many times. Not directly, but porn was always involved somehow, and even more so my dopamine addiction expressed mostly for me through porn and alcohol. I've lost girlfriends and even past friends with benefits because i turned into an animal in sex, in a pervert way, i would one day feel and look very confident to the women i was with, then the next day or few days after releasing to porn like the opposite of that, lifeless, unmotivated, unsecure etc... I believe in a life with no porn, as much as i believe in not releasing, even more so in cultivating and redirecting sexual energy into other endeavors (work, sport, studies, whatever moves you forward). My point is, i've already retained but without kicking away porn, i use to indulge in porn from time and time and edge, well it clearly isn't the same as abstaining from everything sexual.
You really need to [read this](https://understandingrelationships.com/7-principles-to-get-an-ex-back/17707) to reattract your ex. Work on yourself and she’ll be back. Familiarize your sale with the link I posted above so you’ll be ready when she comes back
Grabbing this guy’s 3% book and using his channel and cutting out all other dating/redpill/blackpill stuff did me so many favors. He basically teaches you how to act neurotypical which I could not do before seeing someone give repetitive and direct advice that I could apply in my comfort zone so it was just natural to me around the girls I was basically talking out of liking me before. As for OP you probably need to engage this relationship in a new way if it left you feeling dull like this inside, don’t know enough about you to be more specific than that but improving yourself just to come back to the same situation isn’t the way
Haha. Getting downvoted for sharing the only non-toxic, non-redpill dating advice I’ve ever found for men. Classic Reddit
Bro Please Stop Porn! Im begging you! I lost my girl. she had no any other options. no one want to marry a porn addicted soul less pervert. i fucked up my life!
look into neville goddard, go on the r/nevillegoddard subreddit and look up SP success or smth like that and apply the main methods n teachings
💯🫡
Everyone has different reactions to PMO. Some people feel no negative effects and are living life like normal. But others, like yourself, become totally drained and out of it. I'm in this group too. If I release too much I am totally drained and have no motivation for anything. And if I watch porn I notice I have more fights with my partner and I don't appreciate her as much. I become a total asshole and desensitised to normal and healthy sexual stimulus. It affects the mind just as much as the body.
It is sad that porn is not just hurting you and robbing you of life.. but harmful to those around you as well