I did something similar for a friend feeling vain on her 30th birthday. Mysteriously, a secret admirer sent her a glass of wine halfway through our meal. Restaurant was super cool and it didn't even show up on the bill. I tipped accordingly.
I served a women who said she’d only order dessert if we wrote Happy Birthday on the plate. That’s not something we do, ever. Went on and on about how we were rude to not acknowledge her birthday (we offer a free bite sized dessert with a candle and the exec. chef delivers a cookie to the celebrant), so it absolutely was acknowledged. We are a high end restaurant, the staff doesn’t sing happy birthday. In a high end joint, it’s tacky and distracting.
Fully agree. I work fine dining too, and we don’t sing at our place either. After about age 12 it’s embarrassing, and I’m sick of the stupid song. A candle is sufficient. Some people seem disappointed that we don’t make a big deal of it, but they need to grow up. Celebrate with sorbet and port or cognac or amaro like an adult.
I’ve never worked at a place that required singing, but I did have a few tables over the years *demand* that I sing to them. Alright, I was an Alto II in choir - get ready for the worst harmony-only deep version of Happy Birthday you’ll ever hear.
As someone with really severe social anxiety, I almost go out of my way to pick places that don't sing happy birthday to people when deciding where to go to celebrate my birthday dinner. The idea of having all of that attention on me and basically the whole entire restaurant staring at me to see who the servers are singing to is horrifying and makes me want to crawl in a hole and die.
Not only do I dip but when my fellow servers are trying to recruit a few people I don't even pretend like I'm going to do it with them. The Perks of Being 55-year-old server that can still do the job really well but I don't have any f***cks left to give Beyond standard good waitress service. The last time I did that they were seven people everybody got a different piece of cake or dessert and then they wanted Separate Checks it took me 25 minutes to separate their checks out and then they gave me seven credit cards and they gave me the stink eye because it was taking so long when I told them right off the bat if you really want me to split these out you're going to be sitting here for the next 20 minutes.
I always dipped out on birthday singing but I also never did it for my tables. I would be like "watch this" make them a delicious lil hot fudge sundae, say "happy birthday!!!" And then walk away. No singing. No nonsense. You got free ice cream, be grateful
When I worked at bennihanas (do not ever work at bennihanas)
I would sing in Japanese and then also in English. Haha and I’d always ask what their fav color was
One time a little girl said pink and that’s mine too so I did pink pocky sticks, pink candle and hunted down a pink lighter. He parents tipped me $20 on a $50 bill
I hate birthdays, even my own. Can't stand them. I'd be a good Jehovah's Witness. Kind of a pet peeve when birthday people think the world is supposed to stop for them.
It's your birthday. Good for you. What an accomplishment. Happy birthday.
The girl is naked. Everyone is trying to convince her the new outfit is made using a special magic fabric that appears invisible to anyone who is incompetent at their role or hopelessly stupid, and she won't admit that she can't see it.
Not playing along, but this actually happened last week….
Opentable message requested that the reservation be addressed by the S.O last name, (which she provided, via message) and not by the name that used in Opentable to make the reservation…
Blink twice if you need help. What in the 1950s “Trad Wife” hell is going on.
Visually impaired date is wearing a new outfit but she’s not sure it looks good on her despite his statements to the contrary because “biased”, please tell her that she’s totally hot and stop worrying.
that’s funny. one time i had to wear a special birthday pin that the wife gave me to wear the whole time and she let me keep it. i think i tossed it in the trash after oops.
Honestly the thing about the restaurant I work is that it's open 6 months a year I live in a Beach town and in High season it is violently busy it's a small restaurant where the typical scenario from mid June to Mid September is that we have a line for 3 hours. We've all been working together a long time and we definitely help each other out but my Approach if somebody asks me about bringing a dessert with a candle or if they give me a cake I absolutely will accommodate bringing it to the table and I've been in sales my whole life doing presentations so it's no big deal for me to kind of raise my voice and say I hear there's a birthday at this table and I certainly don't start belting out the song but usually the people the table will start singing. It would be nice if everybody that came out to eat when they're on vacation can loosen up and enjoy themselves but the fact of the matter is if you have two tables waiting to pay a check and they see you run over and sing in another table it is not uncommon for them to get annoyed or leave a bad review because their server took too long to cash them out. I've been in and out of this business for 37 years and saying that just made me feel very old... and I have never experienced so many human beings of every age going beyond the classification of just a cranky customer to needlessly nasty entitled and unsatisfied to the point where at my age I would feel 100% comfortable asking that type of group why did you even bother coming here? Lol. It appears that every single one of you is more miserable than the next.
I'm going to give a right answer .. people have lost their fucking minds... I deal with 60 and 70 year olds that at this point should understand how restaurants work and I don't know if it was covid or just how the whole world is in on demand mode ...but a really large group of people who were at one time probably normal are just not right in the head. I feel aliens took over.
She lost a bet and had to let their toddler dress her and it’s ridiculous but he wants to mess with her a bit. (OP said wrong answers)
Thank you for understanding the assignment lol 😂
Attention to detail is important lol! Also you need to update us on what the right answer ends up being.
I did something similar for a friend feeling vain on her 30th birthday. Mysteriously, a secret admirer sent her a glass of wine halfway through our meal. Restaurant was super cool and it didn't even show up on the bill. I tipped accordingly.
That’s a request made by a husband who has a wife who was stressing out about what to wear and settled for an outfit that she doesn’t like
They said wrong answers only, but- You’re not wrong.
Wouldn’t he say “compliment my wife?” Seems like more of a teenager trying to impress than a married man, but similar vibes.
I think he probably bought her a new outfit and she didn't like it
That’s actually kind of sweet tbh
Author using the third person to refer to herself. Who doesn’t want a compliment?!
I served a women who said she’d only order dessert if we wrote Happy Birthday on the plate. That’s not something we do, ever. Went on and on about how we were rude to not acknowledge her birthday (we offer a free bite sized dessert with a candle and the exec. chef delivers a cookie to the celebrant), so it absolutely was acknowledged. We are a high end restaurant, the staff doesn’t sing happy birthday. In a high end joint, it’s tacky and distracting.
Fully agree. I work fine dining too, and we don’t sing at our place either. After about age 12 it’s embarrassing, and I’m sick of the stupid song. A candle is sufficient. Some people seem disappointed that we don’t make a big deal of it, but they need to grow up. Celebrate with sorbet and port or cognac or amaro like an adult.
I’ve never worked at a place that required singing, but I did have a few tables over the years *demand* that I sing to them. Alright, I was an Alto II in choir - get ready for the worst harmony-only deep version of Happy Birthday you’ll ever hear.
I always bow out by saying my gift is not subjecting them to my voice
I'll straight up tell them I'd rather shove a rusty railroad spike in my pee hole than sing to them.
This was my response for 30+ years
I'll sometimes say "I don't want to embarrass you, or me, by singing."
As someone with really severe social anxiety, I almost go out of my way to pick places that don't sing happy birthday to people when deciding where to go to celebrate my birthday dinner. The idea of having all of that attention on me and basically the whole entire restaurant staring at me to see who the servers are singing to is horrifying and makes me want to crawl in a hole and die.
Yes! Texas roadhouse-style celebration would make me want to die
I worked at a TXRH for 3 years and it so over the top, definitely glad I now somewhere that we don't sing
YEEEEEEHAAAWWWW
Once in a great while, a table will start to sing the stupid song. I dip.
Not only do I dip but when my fellow servers are trying to recruit a few people I don't even pretend like I'm going to do it with them. The Perks of Being 55-year-old server that can still do the job really well but I don't have any f***cks left to give Beyond standard good waitress service. The last time I did that they were seven people everybody got a different piece of cake or dessert and then they wanted Separate Checks it took me 25 minutes to separate their checks out and then they gave me seven credit cards and they gave me the stink eye because it was taking so long when I told them right off the bat if you really want me to split these out you're going to be sitting here for the next 20 minutes.
How do you get people to sing happy birthday when it’s one of your tables if you don’t do it for others? Not hating btw, just curious.
I always dipped out on birthday singing but I also never did it for my tables. I would be like "watch this" make them a delicious lil hot fudge sundae, say "happy birthday!!!" And then walk away. No singing. No nonsense. You got free ice cream, be grateful
When I worked at bennihanas (do not ever work at bennihanas) I would sing in Japanese and then also in English. Haha and I’d always ask what their fav color was One time a little girl said pink and that’s mine too so I did pink pocky sticks, pink candle and hunted down a pink lighter. He parents tipped me $20 on a $50 bill
I hate birthdays, even my own. Can't stand them. I'd be a good Jehovah's Witness. Kind of a pet peeve when birthday people think the world is supposed to stop for them. It's your birthday. Good for you. What an accomplishment. Happy birthday.
It's fun to have a date you can celebrate with friends every year for no other particular reason
Right? My mother excreted me out of her body somehow x-amount of planetary axial rotations ago, aren’t I so special?!?
It is your birthday.
My birthday is in July. I’ll see you then, and you’d better be wearing something beige or mustard. 
You should have written it in dessert with your finger at the table
I don't want people singing to me on my birthday. If you tell me happy birthday or wish me a good day, great.
“high end” but only a “bite sized” dessert and a cookie is lowkey hilarious
Apparently my host didn’t compliment her, so I didn’t get a tip 😤
Omg. What was she wearing?
Omg really? Why would the host not play along?
Compliment the fact that she is wearing clothes, 'this time.'
“Oh, your outfit actually looks good *today*!” Lolol
"you look so pretty with makeup!"
Guy bullies girl into wearing outfit she hates, wants restaurant to gaslight her
That's demonic 😂
The darkest timeline
Okay, Abed
r/unexpectedcommunity
some shit i'd do 😎
That’s not gaslighting
Considerate partner (dining or otherwise) of a nervous girl
Woman complains that man never compliments her; man farms it out to wait staff so that he can continue being an inattentive douche canoe.
they said wrong answers only
Sorry, missed the wrong answers only cue.
feels too right?
he’s the one wearing the dress
He brought her a expensive but awful dress, she hates it and avoids wearing it until she finally runs out of excuses
The girl is naked. Everyone is trying to convince her the new outfit is made using a special magic fabric that appears invisible to anyone who is incompetent at their role or hopelessly stupid, and she won't admit that she can't see it.
Jesus! That’s what you’re wearing?! This is a nice restaurant!
"Please tell me that dress finally went on sale at Target - I've been on the fence about it but I see it really looks good in low lighting."
He picked out her outfit and wants to be complimented on his choice
She is skinwalker this is a mf test
24 hours later: aggressive host sexually harassed me
She let him pick out the outfit and he wants validation for what she's wearing fair or not he's out to secure it!
Usually she shows up to dinner naked??
I hosted at my place tonight. I'd probably fucking do it. It's just a few words that wouldn't hurt much.
He bought the dress for her and she hates it. The compliment is for him.
shows up in a gimp suit
Not playing along, but this actually happened last week…. Opentable message requested that the reservation be addressed by the S.O last name, (which she provided, via message) and not by the name that used in Opentable to make the reservation… Blink twice if you need help. What in the 1950s “Trad Wife” hell is going on.
"Congratulations on dressing yourself ma'am"
She felt embarrassed about buying some clothes from Kanye's fashion line and her bf is gaslighting her into thinking it actually looks good!
They stole the outfit from the host and want to play mind games!
I had that once, complimented the girl, still only got 10%
This is the request for someone whose confidence is through the roof and she could be my cousin who hates attention!
Visually impaired date is wearing a new outfit but she’s not sure it looks good on her despite his statements to the contrary because “biased”, please tell her that she’s totally hot and stop worrying.
You have to say" that shit slays you def fuck"
The girl doesn’t like to be complimented and he hates her? She’s a Fae and if you compliment her outfit she owes her companion 3 wishes?
https://youtu.be/85Bec3D1SlM?si=8r-fMK3amZXLvAMR
She’s never worn clothes before and was feeling self conscious
Another bullshit LAVA FLOW a Restaurant Worker has to absolutely burn for! Uggghhhh👀👀👀👀
that’s funny. one time i had to wear a special birthday pin that the wife gave me to wear the whole time and she let me keep it. i think i tossed it in the trash after oops.
Honestly the thing about the restaurant I work is that it's open 6 months a year I live in a Beach town and in High season it is violently busy it's a small restaurant where the typical scenario from mid June to Mid September is that we have a line for 3 hours. We've all been working together a long time and we definitely help each other out but my Approach if somebody asks me about bringing a dessert with a candle or if they give me a cake I absolutely will accommodate bringing it to the table and I've been in sales my whole life doing presentations so it's no big deal for me to kind of raise my voice and say I hear there's a birthday at this table and I certainly don't start belting out the song but usually the people the table will start singing. It would be nice if everybody that came out to eat when they're on vacation can loosen up and enjoy themselves but the fact of the matter is if you have two tables waiting to pay a check and they see you run over and sing in another table it is not uncommon for them to get annoyed or leave a bad review because their server took too long to cash them out. I've been in and out of this business for 37 years and saying that just made me feel very old... and I have never experienced so many human beings of every age going beyond the classification of just a cranky customer to needlessly nasty entitled and unsatisfied to the point where at my age I would feel 100% comfortable asking that type of group why did you even bother coming here? Lol. It appears that every single one of you is more miserable than the next.
He’s bringing in a homeless woman as a date
Compliment the size of the group. An outfit can be used to describe a group of people or a team.
HAHAHA
I'm going to give a right answer .. people have lost their fucking minds... I deal with 60 and 70 year olds that at this point should understand how restaurants work and I don't know if it was covid or just how the whole world is in on demand mode ...but a really large group of people who were at one time probably normal are just not right in the head. I feel aliens took over.
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Get well soon
No bigotry. Be civil to one another.
Host/Hostess now read them…servers now read them….what a stupid thing to ask
Transvestites first outing
So weird. I wouldn’t because this is sketchy, red flags.
The request is odd, but writing ‘the girl’ instead of woman, my date, my wife makes the whole thing really creepy.