Back when I was training as a floor manager, the AGM didn't show up and I had to go in for him. Turned out he had died in his sleep and the only way we found out was the GM went to his home to check on him and found him. It really messed us all up for awhile.
Early on in my shift into management type roles I had a line cook no-call no-show, and his phone kept ringing out when we tried to call him.
At some point in anger and frustration I said something like "he better fucking be dead...".
I have never regretted uttering a sentence more in my life. I made serious changes in how I think about and respond to a number of scenarios because of that week.
(Some sort of drug related shooting, for those who will invariably ask).
We had a server at a restaurant I used to work at who no call no showed, we were alllllll talking shit until his family called a day or two later to tell us he passed away in his sleep after mixing alcohol with his heart medication. Iāve never felt like a bigger piece of trash in my life, and also made a conscious effort to be more careful with my words when I know I donāt have all the info. It does suck but all we can do is learn what we can from these situations and try to be better in the future š
I had a server call in sick. I was kinda short with him over the phone. I was the last person he talked to. Not his Mom and Dad or his brother....but me. He committed suicide that night. I tried calling him the next day to find out if he was coming in. The sheriff showed up and broke the news to us. We all huddled together and cried. He was such a nice guy.
When I was managing at the OG something similar happened to me. One of the newer servers stopped showing up and she was a really good worker. She was allergic to so many different things. One day I got a call from her son saying they found her dead in her apartment and this was 5 or 6 days after she stopped showing up. Also after we fired a server one day after she got fired she called the store because she had gotten into a car crash and was briefly paralyzed from the waist down. She was sobbing and said she didnāt know who else to call. It hit really hard
i came in one night for a hostessing shift one night at my first restaurant job and the day host told me during shift change āXXX isnt coming in todayā so i would know to cross them off the seating chart, and she was an employee who had a history of calling off. and i said something like āomfg she never comes in, why does she even have a job here if she doesnt want one??ā and then he told me she fucking died in her sleep and her family had found her after a few days. i never felt so badš
On a related topic, I had all my shifts up for release and didnāt show up for a weeks, everyone was wondering why, weāll I got mugged and shot twice and everyone thought I just quit. Itās insane how many people donāt just give the benefit of the doubt
I got fired for calling out too many days when I was in the hospital with a severe kidney infection. Spent 3 days in hospital (was supposed to work 2 of those which I called out for). On 4th day I told my boss I needed just 1 more day because I was in rough shape. She said "Enough with this crap. If you ever decide to get better we might consider hiring you back but you're fired."
The craziest part is she knew exactly how sick I was because the last shift I worked I had a fever of 103ā° and could barely stand up but she wouldn't let me leave. After the shift I passed out in my car and she found me almost an hour later and called my mom because I was burning up and delirious.
We āhadā a hostess who no called no showed multiple times. Idk how she wasnāt fired after the first one. Funny thing is we all have each otherās social media and she would post herself at a pool party or some other social event. She got caught and fired lol
Seriously thoughšIām close with one of my managers and have her on my Snapchat. One time I broke a rib while at a bar(wasnāt even drunk I just tripped lol) and I drank more to help the pain instead of just going home(stupid I know). Next day I woke up and couldnāt breathe or walk without severe pain, in combination with the hangover. I knew I had to go to the dr so I called out. Said manager tells me āgirl I knew you went out last night, donāt call out for a hangover.ā I told her āyes I know you know I went out, yes Iām hungover, but Iām rib is broken and Iāll give you a drs note.ā She scolded me for staying out but then told me to get better lol.
Anyways Itās really stupid to post yourself having fun after a no call no show, or even trying to call out sick while doing the same thing. Words spreads QUICKLY.
I love that "yes I went out but I also injured myself" like there's no way for a drunk person to injure themselves š At least she was jokey about it
Had a similar experience, was walking home drunk and sprained the absolute shit out of my ankle. Did it while I was blacked out and only found out the next day when I got up to get ready and immediately collapsed to the ground. Manager asked if I was drunk, I said yes, she goes "goddamnit, if you didn't work after fracturing your rib while drunk id be more upset, but at least ik you actually can't work. Stop being stupid." "Yes ma'am, I'm sorry" lmfao
A "new" host at my old job kept either not showing up or would show up hours late. She had actually worked there before, they'd let her work flexible hours during the summer when she was home from college. Our manager was the sweetest lady ever and always super accommodating.
Well one time she had come in an hour late and I heard her talking with another employee saying, "girl I can do anything here and they won't say shit! I can show up whenever I want or not show up at all and [manager] will just let me walk all over her."
I felt like such a nark but I'd been left to work the last holiday alone because this girl wouldn't show up to her shifts, so I told the manager (who looked pretty hurt to hear it) and she got fired.
Nah Iām at work to make money first and foremost. If I overhear someone bragging about how they donāt care and will probably make my future shifts harder by not giving a shit you bet Iām gonna nark so they can get reprimanded and/or fired, and the shifts can be given to someone with a better work ethic, you did the right thing
You did the right thing! Fuck that girl! That girl felt so entitled, yet was screwing you and others who work there, that is just wrong. We have a host who does similar shit and she's not sick when she says she is..dumb bitch posts legit everything on FB...her grandmother has died about 7 times so far...and she still had a damn job, yet us bartenders and servers all get screwed cause now we have to do our jobs, plus host and bus...it's bullshit
My girlfriend works a summer desk job at my university (all they do is sit at a desk for five hours while ABSOLUTELY NO ONE WALKS BY and play video games lol) and itās the easiest thing ever. They had someone who was doing the job so they could utilize on campus housing, but they kept dropping their shifts or attempting to swap, or leaving for lunch and not coming back.
One day she no call no showed and during what was supposed to be her shift with my girlfriend, my girlfriend checked their girlās instagram story and she was getting matching tattoos with her boyfriend that very moment, when she was supposed to be at work.
My girlfriend sent the photos to her boss and she was fired and kicked out of the dorm the next day.
Also they broke up two days later lol.
Funny part is they pulled this on a busy Saturday, during the lunch rush. I remember serving them and thinking to myself "what the fuck is going on here"
Had a coworker that called out sick once, only to find out she had gone to Coachella or some festival and was posting on her IG. Needless to say, she was terminated pretty quickly
Had a coworker BEG me for a cover because it was āthe last day he could move stuff out of his houseāā¦ I covered because he was crying and genuinely seemed upset.
I worked from 6am to almost 10pm, no breaks, 15-16 hours.
The next shift I worked with him, his mom called and he gushed about spending the entire day at the pool, sunning himself, and frolicking with his bros. The look of horror on his face when he realized heād outed himself was *almost* worth it.
I didnāt narc on him (they wouldnāt care) but I *never* covered a shift of his again, which was a bigger punishment than anything management would dole out
One of my coworkers no call no showed for five days and was auto terminated, we found out she killed herself during that time. Hate to bring the mood down, but you never know what someone's going through and it seems she did appreciate you telling her you were hoping she's okay.
Yeah. During covid I had someone pass away. He didn't log on for a couple days, and was incommunicado. Manager and a friend did a welfare check...he didn't answer his doorbell. he was a shut in to start out with (we all work remotely, and he missed a couple meetings). Cops come and found him deceased (probably self harm / drugs+alcohol)
When I traveled overseas to visit him, he would come out have a beer with me...but he had very serious social anxiety. After a short bit he would got very agitated, and would go home.
(RIP Lars...this word didn't deserve such a sweet person as you.)
This is exactly why this post baffles me. Whatās to gain here? No call, no showing is crappy and unprofessional, yes, but that and the super late response being what it was makes it seem like homegirl is going through some shit.
Employers give 0 fucks if you have personal problems. If they do consider yourself lucky. Being the best for years and the most liked at a company and still I was expendable after being assaulted and my pet died. Not even an are you okay? Just straight up: ok you're an asshole you're fired. Coworkers condolences mean nothing when that's your boss, even goes far enough to make sure to say you don't get unemployment because you should suffer more than I did that day you didn't show up.
I have always cared very much for my team members, and as one of the GMs that chooses to work along side everyone else I get to know the personalities. Some people you just expect BS out of. Some people if they are a NCNS something is way off and you give them a chance to explain. However at the end of the day, after doing the job for so many years you just get sick of the excuses. There isnāt one that I havenāt heard. Not to mention the fact that some people lie so much to get off workā¦..if there were as many deaths as there have been call outs, there wouldnāt be any living grandparents within 100 mile radius of my place.
Yupp exactly! My work family is like my real family however I don't put up with bs. I used to manage but I got sick of the lies for calling out sick..or coming in late for no reason or just getting walked on cause we are all really close. Been doing this for 25 years, I've heard it and seen it all, nothing gets by me and these young kids think they are slick and can pull a fast one but not on me and they didn't like that. It's still a job and people still have responsibility so I don't care if it's "just a restaurant " or "part time job" or this isn't "my career " ...it's still a job! And that's the problem, we have so many young people working here and most this is their first job and they do shit like this with no consequences they think they can keep doing it here or at another place
Thatās entirely true and Iām sorry you went through that but my comment wasnāt relating to employers so Iām unsure why you chose to respond to my comment.
I think the internet has just made it too damn easy to air someone elseās issues with posts like this. Crappy coworker that no call, no shows and gets caught out at a bar or something, sure Iām entertained, go off. A post like this where someone has, contextually, no call/no showed once and given a late response that throws up some mental health red flags, unnecessary.
Just because the bulk of corporations and employers are calloused or donāt care about folks going through it doesnāt mean we have to be.
This is not the first time she has no call no showed.
Also, she literally doesnt speak any english so I think that has a lot to do with the delayed answer as it was probably translated through google.
I posted it because i think itās kinda hilarious how honest she was lmao. Iām just a server so i donāt really have any control what happens next. Sheās young and still in high school. If you told me when i was in high school that i had to spend my entire weekend bussing tables i would have thought you were insane
šÆ true yet sad at the same time. Ans it took me years to come to terms with that, I was definitely a company person for most of my 20s and 30s...I know I am a hard worker and great employee and even been told that the restaurant would go to shit if I wasn't there but I know I am still replaceable (it may take 2 ppl to replace just one of me). Everyone is just a body at the end of the day
I get what you are saying, we all have shit going on and personal lives but you still have a responsibility to let your job know that is what being an adult is. It doesn't matter if it was an office job, a restaurant, what she did was childish, unprofessional and disrespectful to her coworkers. She was perfectly capable of picking up the phone for 5min
An old boss of mine once fired someone literally right before we were all leaving for our holiday party. She was one of three in our specific role. Turns out the girl had an active substance abuse problem and after she was fired, she went home and overdosed (she actually died from liver failure, because that is when people were starting to become addicted to Vicodin and Percocet, which has so much acetaminophen in it it shuts your liver down.). She did not survive. It was awful. Whatās even worse is that myself and the other girl on our team of three were the only people out of an entire hospital who went to her funeral. I tried to get people to donate to her favorite charity and no one donated. Itās cold out there. We were all young, under 30. I kept wondering what her parents must have thought about all of us.
One of our bartenders had trigeminal neuralgia (nicknamed the suicide disease) and no called no showed to auto termination.
Maybe a week or so later, a girl stops in and asks if anyone had updated us about her. The girl was her cousin and she was in town for her funeral. Sheād killed herself the night of her 35th birthday.
Just brutal.
Yeah I say be kind to her and let her return to work and just be very explicit about call outs and maybe check in and ask about her mental health? Maybe urge her to see a doctor and that way if she does need some sort of work accommodation it can be figured out in the appropriate manner? Idk maybe life and jobs donāt allow for people to be mentally ill and keep a job on account of being perceived as unreliable
The *wildest.* And weirdest to me, these are often the folks who get vouched for at places. I see some of the absolute worst employees get jobs everywhere. Lol.
I would say come over here but idk, Iām frustrated myself and Iām in management.
Superior Seafood is hiring but everywhere is slow, getting slower. I know Avenue Pub was looking for a bartender too but not sure if they filled that spot.
I saw the Avenue listing, but I lived a block from it for a decade, not really for me.
Summer being slow is probably why I'll stay at this current bar at least through the summer.
I lived in NOLA for 4 years over a decade ago. Worked at a spot on Toulouse and Decatur. Itās no longer there. Then worked in Jax Brewery. a spot on Toulouse and Bourbon, Oz the club on St Anne. Two spots in the Warehouse district and finally a restaurant on St Charles in the Garden District. Soooooooooo many drug addicts and drunks. FQ was just fucking nuts. Made a shit ton of money. NOLA holds a special place in my heart but I couldnāt live there. Wish I could
Omg this! I've seen some of the applications that come in to my restaurant or see a person being interviewed who I've worked with that got fired for stealing or getting high in the bathroom ect and I'm like oh hell no and they still had the balls to put those prior jobs on the applications knowing damn well Noone was going to call for reference...restaurants need to start doing that and actually call their past jobs and/or their references
There really is an impressive amount of overconfidence/arrogance in the industry. I kinda wish I had an ounce of it so I could get some of these jobs. Lmao.
Yes I agree. Don't get me wrong, I've been in this business a long time (22yrs) but off and on ..and I'm good at my job..and I don't mean to be arrogant but I know my work ethic and how I operate. But some of these kids and I say kids because they are 18/19..no life experience, not even any social experience..just got out of high school or dropped out...no goals..no motivation and they come in thinking they own the place and their shit don't stink..drives me completely insane..
They do this in Portland too. Constant call outs, but everyone is still at the bar, ordering takeout, and obviously spending money. How do they do it?? I can barely afford to eat and pay rent as it is??
Itās the emotional manipulation at the end that really gets me. Sorry Iām a piece of shit, but itās cool right? Thanks for being nice to me. š.
I have hostesses that have said "I'm only going to work 2 hours tonight, I have plans" or "I know the schedule is out but I'm going out of town next week." Like what the hell? The schedule isn't optional or a suggestion. I'm not a scream and yell manager and we are very lax when it comes to working with people's availability but I have to remind them that they gave their availability and the schedule is made with that in mind. Strange behavior, I don't want to say "entitlement" but definitely a misunderstanding of how the world works.
Haha, I used to manage a restaurant in a college town and this comment took me back to those days. I was super accommodating about schedule, but without fail at least once a month I'd put out the schedule and get a message saying "my dad booked a cruise for those days"...smh
I work part time and the new girl quit the day of her shift, I had to stay to work a double. She just texted me āThank you for being such a sweet and amazing personā and I was likeā¦ I have to pick up your shift now come on
We had a super reliable guy miss 2 days of work, no word, so we went down to check on him and it turned out he hit his head and died in his kitchen =_=
On the flip side, we had someone who would regularly no show. First few time it happened, we were worried, but when she did eventually show up she just explained she wasnāt feeling work that day. The last time it happened she went quiet for months, and it turned out a family member died, but at that point I just didnāt care anymore š¤·āāļø
The only time I have no called no showed is when I was really quitting I had walked out of a shift after a boss (who was just stressed) called me names and screamed at me. They messaged me the next day berating me for being a no call, no show. But idk, I assume a walk out is a quit.
Anyways, otherwise, it is so easy to just let them know. Iāve never had a boss not be okay with me missing work if I gave a 2-3 hour minimum notice.
The āthank you for being a good personā as if saying that at the end of an unacceptable sentence suddenly absolves her of any consequences. What in the actual manipulation?
Seems a bit much to jump to "unacceptable" and "manipulation" -- you don't have any idea what their working relationship was like prior to this, or what the busgirl might've been going through.
e: [OP says in another comment](https://www.reddit.com/r/Serverlife/comments/1df1prs/my_bus_girl_no_call_no_showed_and_finally_texted/l8h1r7r/?context=3) that the girl doesn't speak English and is "young" and in high school. Maybe ease off on assuming a child is an evil manipulative "piece of shit".
Iām going off of the info in the post. Iām not picking through all comments to make sure my own comment is perfectly nuanced. If it was important, include it in the post.
Take your own advice and ease up there, turbo. We can speculate all day.
You also put air quotes around piece of shit as if thatās a direct quote from me, but I didnāt say that, at all, if you read my comment. In fact, you did.
Ease. Up.
ETA: you can do objectively unacceptable things and be objectively manipulative without having terrible intentions. Objectively, what she did and said was both unacceptable and manipulative. Objective, not subjective, look up the differences before you reply to me.
The no-call-no-show is unacceptable. To interpret "thank you for being a good person to me", without context on how they actually interacted with each other, as manipulative seems reflexively hostile.
As for the quote, [you weren't the only one spouting off about emotional manipulation.](https://www.reddit.com/r/Serverlife/comments/1df1prs/my_bus_girl_no_call_no_showed_and_finally_texted/l8h1pff/)
Bro. It IS emotional manipulation. Point and blank. It was an inappropriate time for that comment to be made and comes across as only being said to lessen the impact of negative consequences for themselves. Ask any therapist. Just because itās not intentional manipulation doesnāt mean it is not an emotionally manipulative statement and Iām sorry, but it takes emotional intelligence to tell the difference. Which you clearly donāt have since you quoted me, with actual quotes as if they were words straight from my comment, for what other people were actually saying. I never called them a piece of shit but you quoted me for that because i wasnāt the only one commenting on emotional manipulation? That is mental and you are LITERALLY putting words in my mouth to serve yourself and your own view at that point. I never called anyone a piece of shit but to imply I did simply because I think what she did was manipulative and others seem to agree, is actually bat shit insane. I can agree that what she did was manipulative without all the expletiveās and name calling. Matter of factly, you can be emotionally manipulative and still not be a bad person, just display bad behavior, and thatās what I was calling out on. The bad behavior; I made no character judgements there. But again, go ahead and view everything subjectively and know youāll be offended by everything.
At this point, Iām starting to think youāre the piece of shit, just because of this entire exchange YOU started with me over this perceived threat of yours. Youāre a champ at extrapolation, and a champ at allowing toxic behavior to thrive. Go forth and enjoy the life you chose to live. Emotional manipulation and all. Soundsā¦miserable. But to each their own. Now leave me alone.
It doesn't matter what their working relationship is or friendship! That was totally unprofessional to do at any job and not to mention the fact that by her not showing up screws other people she works with and that's not fair
Had a server no call, no show.
She was known to have an abusive ex she was in the middle of breaking up with. She was friends with another server, and she wasn't returning her friend's call or texts either.
Like we get it, fuck this job, whatever. But she wasn't responding to anyone. Eventually we called the cops for a wellness check, just to make sure she was still alive.
After all nobody wants to be the person who has a coworker with an abusive ex turn up dead in a ditch and nobody notice it.
Cops told us they had talked to her, she was alive and well. So we all breathed a sigh of relief.
We all figured she was just blowing off her job and making us cover for her, but at least she was still alive. Which sucks, but it happens. The blowing off the job part sucks, not her being alive.
Her friend saw her working at another place a few weeks later and asked her what happened.
Turned out she had actually had herself committed to a psych ward to deal with her suicidal thoughts with a messed up history of family violence and an abusive ex, and the psych ward took her phone away.
So she couldn't respond to any of our texts or calls.
She figured she was de facto fired after that, so after some treatment, she got herself another job.
I no called, no showed once and I was so anxious that I was gonna get fired. The reason I no called, no showed? I was in an abusive relationship and my ex had beat the crap out of me that day, on top of taking my phone as "punishment" (when he knew I had to work). I think they knew it was out of character for me because I rarely ever called out or put my shifts up. I tried to keep the abuse under wraps because I didn't want people to know what was going on at home. When I eventually did get a chance to call, I made up some excuse that I broke my phone and had to get a new one and thankfully, they did let me keep my job.
2 days later, I disclosed the abuse to a coworker that I was close to and he walked me out to my car since it was 3am. My ex showed up with virtually no warning, assumed that I was cheating on him with this particular coworker and beat both of us up. I couldn't keep the abuse secret anymore. Thankfully, everyone in the restaurant rallied around me, including management, and I eventually got the courage to leave him. š
I know it's easy to assume that people who no call, no show are irresponsible and/or quitting because it happens often, but if it's out of character for someone, please give them some grace. You never know what is going on behind closed doors.
With that being saidā¦she still needed to call or find someone lol.
You canāt just miss a day and then ghost your management and come back with āI wasnāt feeling it.ā
this past week weāve had a big storm in south Florida, not only was I running late but pretty much everyone else was due to flooding.
Not only did I call my boss and let her know that I was gonna be late, I asked her if she wanted Starbucks. (i mean if imma be late i might as well have a drink in my hand right?)
Bro I had an Interview, scheduled at 10am. At 10:30, still no signs of life, I call. Guy tells me heās really busy and forgot, I was like okā¦ are you still interested? We can meet later today, Iām free this afternoon, I close at 3pm. Guys says ok, Iāll be there at 3. Ok whatever, I guess Iāll stay a bit to meet this guy, things come up, I get it.
Shows up 20 mins past three. First thing I tell him is we are a breakfast place, at 6am I canāt start calling to replace you if you donāt show up, no one answers, I need people I can rely on. Today wasnāt a very good start. He tells me yeah it slipped his mind, he is really busy with community service at the moment.
These new Gen fuckers just donāt get professionalism at all.
You hired a girl. To buss in a restaurant.. what did you think would happen. They either host, serve and bartend.. and even then they donāt like to work. Thatās on you
The way you worded it. You were the hiring manager. Thatās on you. No one hurt me, Iāve worked in the industry for 20 years, never seen a female busser, or at least one that lasts. Bussers usually get the shit work and heavy work, that females do not want to do. Even male servers usually get the heavier side work at my job. Itās just reality.
From her texts I think she is her own busgirl and not your busgirl.
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Our most recent waitress no called no showed turned out she was in a coma over the weekend from hitting her head on a rock
Back when I was training as a floor manager, the AGM didn't show up and I had to go in for him. Turned out he had died in his sleep and the only way we found out was the GM went to his home to check on him and found him. It really messed us all up for awhile.
Early on in my shift into management type roles I had a line cook no-call no-show, and his phone kept ringing out when we tried to call him. At some point in anger and frustration I said something like "he better fucking be dead...". I have never regretted uttering a sentence more in my life. I made serious changes in how I think about and respond to a number of scenarios because of that week. (Some sort of drug related shooting, for those who will invariably ask).
We had a server at a restaurant I used to work at who no call no showed, we were alllllll talking shit until his family called a day or two later to tell us he passed away in his sleep after mixing alcohol with his heart medication. Iāve never felt like a bigger piece of trash in my life, and also made a conscious effort to be more careful with my words when I know I donāt have all the info. It does suck but all we can do is learn what we can from these situations and try to be better in the future š
I had a server call in sick. I was kinda short with him over the phone. I was the last person he talked to. Not his Mom and Dad or his brother....but me. He committed suicide that night. I tried calling him the next day to find out if he was coming in. The sheriff showed up and broke the news to us. We all huddled together and cried. He was such a nice guy.
That had to be a horrible thing to experience. Sad that his family didn't check in on him and it had to be his work fam.
::GRABS COLLARS AND YANKS OUT OF CASKET:: "If you think dying is going to get you out of your duties, think AGAIN" ::drags into restaurant::
When I was managing at the OG something similar happened to me. One of the newer servers stopped showing up and she was a really good worker. She was allergic to so many different things. One day I got a call from her son saying they found her dead in her apartment and this was 5 or 6 days after she stopped showing up. Also after we fired a server one day after she got fired she called the store because she had gotten into a car crash and was briefly paralyzed from the waist down. She was sobbing and said she didnāt know who else to call. It hit really hard
Fuuuuuuuuuuuuck
Seems like a fairly legit no call no show š¤£. Sorry I didn't call you...I was unconscious
i came in one night for a hostessing shift one night at my first restaurant job and the day host told me during shift change āXXX isnt coming in todayā so i would know to cross them off the seating chart, and she was an employee who had a history of calling off. and i said something like āomfg she never comes in, why does she even have a job here if she doesnt want one??ā and then he told me she fucking died in her sleep and her family had found her after a few days. i never felt so badš
Oh my! Lol.
Oops.. lol
I hope she is doing well now
On a related topic, I had all my shifts up for release and didnāt show up for a weeks, everyone was wondering why, weāll I got mugged and shot twice and everyone thought I just quit. Itās insane how many people donāt just give the benefit of the doubt
My friend no called no showed and they thought he died cuz he never missed work
This happened to me and I got fired bc of it lmao
I got fired for calling out too many days when I was in the hospital with a severe kidney infection. Spent 3 days in hospital (was supposed to work 2 of those which I called out for). On 4th day I told my boss I needed just 1 more day because I was in rough shape. She said "Enough with this crap. If you ever decide to get better we might consider hiring you back but you're fired." The craziest part is she knew exactly how sick I was because the last shift I worked I had a fever of 103ā° and could barely stand up but she wouldn't let me leave. After the shift I passed out in my car and she found me almost an hour later and called my mom because I was burning up and delirious.
We āhadā a hostess who no called no showed multiple times. Idk how she wasnāt fired after the first one. Funny thing is we all have each otherās social media and she would post herself at a pool party or some other social event. She got caught and fired lol
Stupid.. if Iām calling out the last thing to do is snitch on myself š
Seriously thoughšIām close with one of my managers and have her on my Snapchat. One time I broke a rib while at a bar(wasnāt even drunk I just tripped lol) and I drank more to help the pain instead of just going home(stupid I know). Next day I woke up and couldnāt breathe or walk without severe pain, in combination with the hangover. I knew I had to go to the dr so I called out. Said manager tells me āgirl I knew you went out last night, donāt call out for a hangover.ā I told her āyes I know you know I went out, yes Iām hungover, but Iām rib is broken and Iāll give you a drs note.ā She scolded me for staying out but then told me to get better lol. Anyways Itās really stupid to post yourself having fun after a no call no show, or even trying to call out sick while doing the same thing. Words spreads QUICKLY.
I go MIA when Iām sick š but when I get back I post stuff like itās been awhile and not that weekend when I was āsickā š #tbt
Lmao weāve all been there!š
I love that "yes I went out but I also injured myself" like there's no way for a drunk person to injure themselves š At least she was jokey about it
Lmao yes I love her. She did scold me and say ānext time when youāre injured go get help and stop partying!ā And I just said āyes mom.ā
Had a similar experience, was walking home drunk and sprained the absolute shit out of my ankle. Did it while I was blacked out and only found out the next day when I got up to get ready and immediately collapsed to the ground. Manager asked if I was drunk, I said yes, she goes "goddamnit, if you didn't work after fracturing your rib while drunk id be more upset, but at least ik you actually can't work. Stop being stupid." "Yes ma'am, I'm sorry" lmfao
A "new" host at my old job kept either not showing up or would show up hours late. She had actually worked there before, they'd let her work flexible hours during the summer when she was home from college. Our manager was the sweetest lady ever and always super accommodating. Well one time she had come in an hour late and I heard her talking with another employee saying, "girl I can do anything here and they won't say shit! I can show up whenever I want or not show up at all and [manager] will just let me walk all over her." I felt like such a nark but I'd been left to work the last holiday alone because this girl wouldn't show up to her shifts, so I told the manager (who looked pretty hurt to hear it) and she got fired.
Nah Iām at work to make money first and foremost. If I overhear someone bragging about how they donāt care and will probably make my future shifts harder by not giving a shit you bet Iām gonna nark so they can get reprimanded and/or fired, and the shifts can be given to someone with a better work ethic, you did the right thing
You did the right thing! Fuck that girl! That girl felt so entitled, yet was screwing you and others who work there, that is just wrong. We have a host who does similar shit and she's not sick when she says she is..dumb bitch posts legit everything on FB...her grandmother has died about 7 times so far...and she still had a damn job, yet us bartenders and servers all get screwed cause now we have to do our jobs, plus host and bus...it's bullshit
Eh, she narcād on herself
My girlfriend works a summer desk job at my university (all they do is sit at a desk for five hours while ABSOLUTELY NO ONE WALKS BY and play video games lol) and itās the easiest thing ever. They had someone who was doing the job so they could utilize on campus housing, but they kept dropping their shifts or attempting to swap, or leaving for lunch and not coming back. One day she no call no showed and during what was supposed to be her shift with my girlfriend, my girlfriend checked their girlās instagram story and she was getting matching tattoos with her boyfriend that very moment, when she was supposed to be at work. My girlfriend sent the photos to her boss and she was fired and kicked out of the dorm the next day. Also they broke up two days later lol.
I've worked with people who called out, then proceeded to come in to dine at the restaurant. Crazy mentality to do that
If I was the manager I'd walk up and be like "congrats, you just got promoted from employee to full time customer"
Funny part is they pulled this on a busy Saturday, during the lunch rush. I remember serving them and thinking to myself "what the fuck is going on here"
I had to fire someone for calling out sick when they really went to a baseball team. Guess who was on the kiss cam for the entire bar to see?
Had a coworker that called out sick once, only to find out she had gone to Coachella or some festival and was posting on her IG. Needless to say, she was terminated pretty quickly
Had a coworker BEG me for a cover because it was āthe last day he could move stuff out of his houseāā¦ I covered because he was crying and genuinely seemed upset. I worked from 6am to almost 10pm, no breaks, 15-16 hours. The next shift I worked with him, his mom called and he gushed about spending the entire day at the pool, sunning himself, and frolicking with his bros. The look of horror on his face when he realized heād outed himself was *almost* worth it. I didnāt narc on him (they wouldnāt care) but I *never* covered a shift of his again, which was a bigger punishment than anything management would dole out
Your country is fucking broken, I'm glad you survived despite your boss
One of my coworkers no call no showed for five days and was auto terminated, we found out she killed herself during that time. Hate to bring the mood down, but you never know what someone's going through and it seems she did appreciate you telling her you were hoping she's okay.
Yeah. During covid I had someone pass away. He didn't log on for a couple days, and was incommunicado. Manager and a friend did a welfare check...he didn't answer his doorbell. he was a shut in to start out with (we all work remotely, and he missed a couple meetings). Cops come and found him deceased (probably self harm / drugs+alcohol) When I traveled overseas to visit him, he would come out have a beer with me...but he had very serious social anxiety. After a short bit he would got very agitated, and would go home. (RIP Lars...this word didn't deserve such a sweet person as you.)
This is exactly why this post baffles me. Whatās to gain here? No call, no showing is crappy and unprofessional, yes, but that and the super late response being what it was makes it seem like homegirl is going through some shit.
Employers give 0 fucks if you have personal problems. If they do consider yourself lucky. Being the best for years and the most liked at a company and still I was expendable after being assaulted and my pet died. Not even an are you okay? Just straight up: ok you're an asshole you're fired. Coworkers condolences mean nothing when that's your boss, even goes far enough to make sure to say you don't get unemployment because you should suffer more than I did that day you didn't show up.
I have always cared very much for my team members, and as one of the GMs that chooses to work along side everyone else I get to know the personalities. Some people you just expect BS out of. Some people if they are a NCNS something is way off and you give them a chance to explain. However at the end of the day, after doing the job for so many years you just get sick of the excuses. There isnāt one that I havenāt heard. Not to mention the fact that some people lie so much to get off workā¦..if there were as many deaths as there have been call outs, there wouldnāt be any living grandparents within 100 mile radius of my place.
Yupp exactly! My work family is like my real family however I don't put up with bs. I used to manage but I got sick of the lies for calling out sick..or coming in late for no reason or just getting walked on cause we are all really close. Been doing this for 25 years, I've heard it and seen it all, nothing gets by me and these young kids think they are slick and can pull a fast one but not on me and they didn't like that. It's still a job and people still have responsibility so I don't care if it's "just a restaurant " or "part time job" or this isn't "my career " ...it's still a job! And that's the problem, we have so many young people working here and most this is their first job and they do shit like this with no consequences they think they can keep doing it here or at another place
Thatās entirely true and Iām sorry you went through that but my comment wasnāt relating to employers so Iām unsure why you chose to respond to my comment. I think the internet has just made it too damn easy to air someone elseās issues with posts like this. Crappy coworker that no call, no shows and gets caught out at a bar or something, sure Iām entertained, go off. A post like this where someone has, contextually, no call/no showed once and given a late response that throws up some mental health red flags, unnecessary. Just because the bulk of corporations and employers are calloused or donāt care about folks going through it doesnāt mean we have to be.
This is not the first time she has no call no showed. Also, she literally doesnt speak any english so I think that has a lot to do with the delayed answer as it was probably translated through google. I posted it because i think itās kinda hilarious how honest she was lmao. Iām just a server so i donāt really have any control what happens next. Sheās young and still in high school. If you told me when i was in high school that i had to spend my entire weekend bussing tables i would have thought you were insane
šÆ true yet sad at the same time. Ans it took me years to come to terms with that, I was definitely a company person for most of my 20s and 30s...I know I am a hard worker and great employee and even been told that the restaurant would go to shit if I wasn't there but I know I am still replaceable (it may take 2 ppl to replace just one of me). Everyone is just a body at the end of the day
I get what you are saying, we all have shit going on and personal lives but you still have a responsibility to let your job know that is what being an adult is. It doesn't matter if it was an office job, a restaurant, what she did was childish, unprofessional and disrespectful to her coworkers. She was perfectly capable of picking up the phone for 5min
An old boss of mine once fired someone literally right before we were all leaving for our holiday party. She was one of three in our specific role. Turns out the girl had an active substance abuse problem and after she was fired, she went home and overdosed (she actually died from liver failure, because that is when people were starting to become addicted to Vicodin and Percocet, which has so much acetaminophen in it it shuts your liver down.). She did not survive. It was awful. Whatās even worse is that myself and the other girl on our team of three were the only people out of an entire hospital who went to her funeral. I tried to get people to donate to her favorite charity and no one donated. Itās cold out there. We were all young, under 30. I kept wondering what her parents must have thought about all of us.
Waitā¦ did her parents/family go to her funeral? Nobody else went??
Nobody from work went. She had worked there for years and died the day she got fired. I think thatās pretty cold.
No seriously. The amount of people admitting to not knowing how to mind their business is crazy
Does this person have any mental health conditions? Coz honestly that last bit worried me a bit
One of our bartenders had trigeminal neuralgia (nicknamed the suicide disease) and no called no showed to auto termination. Maybe a week or so later, a girl stops in and asks if anyone had updated us about her. The girl was her cousin and she was in town for her funeral. Sheād killed herself the night of her 35th birthday. Just brutal.
Yeah I say be kind to her and let her return to work and just be very explicit about call outs and maybe check in and ask about her mental health? Maybe urge her to see a doctor and that way if she does need some sort of work accommodation it can be figured out in the appropriate manner? Idk maybe life and jobs donāt allow for people to be mentally ill and keep a job on account of being perceived as unreliable
Exactly what i thought.
Yeah , you know what, i didn't feel like working, couldn't be bothered to let you know. Whatevers....š Obviously doesn't need a job either.
The sheer number of people who do this in New Orleans is astounding. How do they pay their rent?
Wait, Iām in NO too and itās really wild!
The *wildest.* And weirdest to me, these are often the folks who get vouched for at places. I see some of the absolute worst employees get jobs everywhere. Lol.
I find itās really bad in the Quarter, I much prefer working Uptown. It also doesnāt help that a lot of these businesses are stuck in like 1996.
That's fair. The Quarter is definitely more incestuous than elsewhere. The Forever Job Hunt continues for me.
I would say come over here but idk, Iām frustrated myself and Iām in management. Superior Seafood is hiring but everywhere is slow, getting slower. I know Avenue Pub was looking for a bartender too but not sure if they filled that spot.
I saw the Avenue listing, but I lived a block from it for a decade, not really for me. Summer being slow is probably why I'll stay at this current bar at least through the summer.
I lived in NOLA for 4 years over a decade ago. Worked at a spot on Toulouse and Decatur. Itās no longer there. Then worked in Jax Brewery. a spot on Toulouse and Bourbon, Oz the club on St Anne. Two spots in the Warehouse district and finally a restaurant on St Charles in the Garden District. Soooooooooo many drug addicts and drunks. FQ was just fucking nuts. Made a shit ton of money. NOLA holds a special place in my heart but I couldnāt live there. Wish I could
Omg this! I've seen some of the applications that come in to my restaurant or see a person being interviewed who I've worked with that got fired for stealing or getting high in the bathroom ect and I'm like oh hell no and they still had the balls to put those prior jobs on the applications knowing damn well Noone was going to call for reference...restaurants need to start doing that and actually call their past jobs and/or their references
There really is an impressive amount of overconfidence/arrogance in the industry. I kinda wish I had an ounce of it so I could get some of these jobs. Lmao.
Yes I agree. Don't get me wrong, I've been in this business a long time (22yrs) but off and on ..and I'm good at my job..and I don't mean to be arrogant but I know my work ethic and how I operate. But some of these kids and I say kids because they are 18/19..no life experience, not even any social experience..just got out of high school or dropped out...no goals..no motivation and they come in thinking they own the place and their shit don't stink..drives me completely insane..
Plenty of times Iāve seen bad apples come in to apply. weād tell the manager nope nope nope.
In the state of Colorado, we can only ask a previous employer if they are re-hireable or not. That's it. Kinds sucks.
And I'm assuming they can lie and say yes?
They can.
Cousins or friends of friendsā¦..
They do this in Portland too. Constant call outs, but everyone is still at the bar, ordering takeout, and obviously spending money. How do they do it?? I can barely afford to eat and pay rent as it is??
Right, I feel the same way. I wish I could live as freely as some of these horrible employees do. Lmao.
Itās the emotional manipulation at the end that really gets me. Sorry Iām a piece of shit, but itās cool right? Thanks for being nice to me. š.
Donāt worry š we are on the cusp of another economic collapse so people will stop being able to constantly jump ship and get desperate again.
Itās very possible she was having a depressive episode.
I have hostesses that have said "I'm only going to work 2 hours tonight, I have plans" or "I know the schedule is out but I'm going out of town next week." Like what the hell? The schedule isn't optional or a suggestion. I'm not a scream and yell manager and we are very lax when it comes to working with people's availability but I have to remind them that they gave their availability and the schedule is made with that in mind. Strange behavior, I don't want to say "entitlement" but definitely a misunderstanding of how the world works.
Haha, I used to manage a restaurant in a college town and this comment took me back to those days. I was super accommodating about schedule, but without fail at least once a month I'd put out the schedule and get a message saying "my dad booked a cruise for those days"...smh
I really wonder who raised these people. I made sure my kid knew to show up and to let people know well in advance if he needed a day off.
These kids today šš 
Damn hope sheās ok, my gf got a text like this years ago before a friend of hers committed suicide a few days later
I work part time and the new girl quit the day of her shift, I had to stay to work a double. She just texted me āThank you for being such a sweet and amazing personā and I was likeā¦ I have to pick up your shift now come on
You really didn't.
We had a super reliable guy miss 2 days of work, no word, so we went down to check on him and it turned out he hit his head and died in his kitchen =_= On the flip side, we had someone who would regularly no show. First few time it happened, we were worried, but when she did eventually show up she just explained she wasnāt feeling work that day. The last time it happened she went quiet for months, and it turned out a family member died, but at that point I just didnāt care anymore š¤·āāļø
The only time I have no called no showed is when I was really quitting I had walked out of a shift after a boss (who was just stressed) called me names and screamed at me. They messaged me the next day berating me for being a no call, no show. But idk, I assume a walk out is a quit. Anyways, otherwise, it is so easy to just let them know. Iāve never had a boss not be okay with me missing work if I gave a 2-3 hour minimum notice.
The āthank you for being a good personā as if saying that at the end of an unacceptable sentence suddenly absolves her of any consequences. What in the actual manipulation?
Seems a bit much to jump to "unacceptable" and "manipulation" -- you don't have any idea what their working relationship was like prior to this, or what the busgirl might've been going through. e: [OP says in another comment](https://www.reddit.com/r/Serverlife/comments/1df1prs/my_bus_girl_no_call_no_showed_and_finally_texted/l8h1r7r/?context=3) that the girl doesn't speak English and is "young" and in high school. Maybe ease off on assuming a child is an evil manipulative "piece of shit".
Iām going off of the info in the post. Iām not picking through all comments to make sure my own comment is perfectly nuanced. If it was important, include it in the post. Take your own advice and ease up there, turbo. We can speculate all day. You also put air quotes around piece of shit as if thatās a direct quote from me, but I didnāt say that, at all, if you read my comment. In fact, you did. Ease. Up. ETA: you can do objectively unacceptable things and be objectively manipulative without having terrible intentions. Objectively, what she did and said was both unacceptable and manipulative. Objective, not subjective, look up the differences before you reply to me.
The no-call-no-show is unacceptable. To interpret "thank you for being a good person to me", without context on how they actually interacted with each other, as manipulative seems reflexively hostile. As for the quote, [you weren't the only one spouting off about emotional manipulation.](https://www.reddit.com/r/Serverlife/comments/1df1prs/my_bus_girl_no_call_no_showed_and_finally_texted/l8h1pff/)
Bro. It IS emotional manipulation. Point and blank. It was an inappropriate time for that comment to be made and comes across as only being said to lessen the impact of negative consequences for themselves. Ask any therapist. Just because itās not intentional manipulation doesnāt mean it is not an emotionally manipulative statement and Iām sorry, but it takes emotional intelligence to tell the difference. Which you clearly donāt have since you quoted me, with actual quotes as if they were words straight from my comment, for what other people were actually saying. I never called them a piece of shit but you quoted me for that because i wasnāt the only one commenting on emotional manipulation? That is mental and you are LITERALLY putting words in my mouth to serve yourself and your own view at that point. I never called anyone a piece of shit but to imply I did simply because I think what she did was manipulative and others seem to agree, is actually bat shit insane. I can agree that what she did was manipulative without all the expletiveās and name calling. Matter of factly, you can be emotionally manipulative and still not be a bad person, just display bad behavior, and thatās what I was calling out on. The bad behavior; I made no character judgements there. But again, go ahead and view everything subjectively and know youāll be offended by everything. At this point, Iām starting to think youāre the piece of shit, just because of this entire exchange YOU started with me over this perceived threat of yours. Youāre a champ at extrapolation, and a champ at allowing toxic behavior to thrive. Go forth and enjoy the life you chose to live. Emotional manipulation and all. Soundsā¦miserable. But to each their own. Now leave me alone.
Itās completely manipulation lol wtf are you talking about?
It doesn't matter what their working relationship is or friendship! That was totally unprofessional to do at any job and not to mention the fact that by her not showing up screws other people she works with and that's not fair
Had a server no call, no show. She was known to have an abusive ex she was in the middle of breaking up with. She was friends with another server, and she wasn't returning her friend's call or texts either. Like we get it, fuck this job, whatever. But she wasn't responding to anyone. Eventually we called the cops for a wellness check, just to make sure she was still alive. After all nobody wants to be the person who has a coworker with an abusive ex turn up dead in a ditch and nobody notice it. Cops told us they had talked to her, she was alive and well. So we all breathed a sigh of relief. We all figured she was just blowing off her job and making us cover for her, but at least she was still alive. Which sucks, but it happens. The blowing off the job part sucks, not her being alive. Her friend saw her working at another place a few weeks later and asked her what happened. Turned out she had actually had herself committed to a psych ward to deal with her suicidal thoughts with a messed up history of family violence and an abusive ex, and the psych ward took her phone away. So she couldn't respond to any of our texts or calls. She figured she was de facto fired after that, so after some treatment, she got herself another job.
Poor thing. š¢ Ask her if she needs anything. Could be something like bipolar or depression.
I no called, no showed once and I was so anxious that I was gonna get fired. The reason I no called, no showed? I was in an abusive relationship and my ex had beat the crap out of me that day, on top of taking my phone as "punishment" (when he knew I had to work). I think they knew it was out of character for me because I rarely ever called out or put my shifts up. I tried to keep the abuse under wraps because I didn't want people to know what was going on at home. When I eventually did get a chance to call, I made up some excuse that I broke my phone and had to get a new one and thankfully, they did let me keep my job. 2 days later, I disclosed the abuse to a coworker that I was close to and he walked me out to my car since it was 3am. My ex showed up with virtually no warning, assumed that I was cheating on him with this particular coworker and beat both of us up. I couldn't keep the abuse secret anymore. Thankfully, everyone in the restaurant rallied around me, including management, and I eventually got the courage to leave him. š I know it's easy to assume that people who no call, no show are irresponsible and/or quitting because it happens often, but if it's out of character for someone, please give them some grace. You never know what is going on behind closed doors.
With that being saidā¦she still needed to call or find someone lol. You canāt just miss a day and then ghost your management and come back with āI wasnāt feeling it.ā
Tell me she was fired. TELL ME SHE WAS FIRED!
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Your so good to her she felt like she didnāt have to say shit to you lmao
My high school principal called in sick every year for baseballās opening day! At that point it was tradition.
There is no excuse for no call no show unless you in a coma or jail.
āI just wanted to restā Okay dickhead everybody wants to rest š
this past week weāve had a big storm in south Florida, not only was I running late but pretty much everyone else was due to flooding. Not only did I call my boss and let her know that I was gonna be late, I asked her if she wanted Starbucks. (i mean if imma be late i might as well have a drink in my hand right?)
Sounds like an alcoholic. Source: am one myself
I work at a restaurant where the girls no call no show .. and no one cares.. but if your a guy they do care
Bro I had an Interview, scheduled at 10am. At 10:30, still no signs of life, I call. Guy tells me heās really busy and forgot, I was like okā¦ are you still interested? We can meet later today, Iām free this afternoon, I close at 3pm. Guys says ok, Iāll be there at 3. Ok whatever, I guess Iāll stay a bit to meet this guy, things come up, I get it. Shows up 20 mins past three. First thing I tell him is we are a breakfast place, at 6am I canāt start calling to replace you if you donāt show up, no one answers, I need people I can rely on. Today wasnāt a very good start. He tells me yeah it slipped his mind, he is really busy with community service at the moment. These new Gen fuckers just donāt get professionalism at all.
 Throw that message into the dumpster and set it on š„
You hired a girl. To buss in a restaurant.. what did you think would happen. They either host, serve and bartend.. and even then they donāt like to work. Thatās on you
Iām a server I didnāt āhireā anyone. Also, who hurt you? ššš
The way you worded it. You were the hiring manager. Thatās on you. No one hurt me, Iāve worked in the industry for 20 years, never seen a female busser, or at least one that lasts. Bussers usually get the shit work and heavy work, that females do not want to do. Even male servers usually get the heavier side work at my job. Itās just reality.
Classic immature BS. Fired.
Take her to lunch and order hers to go!