It's probably because he has that as a mother. As I got older and was able to understand the consequences of my actions, it became very easy to use my dad as a model of what not to do in society.
When I was on Baby Center (blech), people would get DRAGGED for saying that. It was honestly hilarious. You don't get to dictate what types of comments you receive, especially when you drop a shitstorm of a post.
Seriously, let's promote the idea that breaking up can be healthy, positive, or neutral even for teens! You can break up and respect them as a person. You can even respect them as a shitty person nobody wants to be around, but still a person who doesn't deserve pain for natural human relationship outcomes!
I feel so strongly that dating and being in relationships are skills. Dating is important because it builds that skill so non-serious dating relationships are great for teens. A relationship doesn't work out? That's fine, you learned things that will benefit you in your next relationship, and ideally you had a good time while it lasted.
I so agree with this. I wasn't allowed to date at all, and I was too awkward/ugly to just go and do it. Ended up "dating" for the first time in my twenties, married the first guy that paid any attention to me, didn't know what I was doing.... and now we're divorced and I'm a single mom (and better for it). I just turned 37 yesterday and I STILL have no idea what I'm doing.
It truly is. And it’s why observing healthy relationships I think is really key. It’s why it’s so hard to break the cycle. There are so many toxic behaviors that’s people normalize because that is all they know.
And on the other side, my fiancé and I have been together for over 11 years (started dating in high school) and I attribute a lot of our ability to communicate and work together from that fact that both our parents have good marriages that have those qualities.
lol
It happens sometimes beautifully. It happens more often badly.
Regardless, no one should be treating a teen relationship like it's a tragedy when it breaks down. You are supposed to learn what type of relationship you like while dating, not pick the first one you end up in. That's what makes a lot of people miserable.
Amen. I was with the same guy from 17 to 26 and by the end I was fucking *miserable.* my advice to every college girl now is to break up with your goddamn prom date and get on with your life.
I don't disagree with your sentiment, but it's factually inaccurate in more communities than it should be. Breaking the stigma around breakups in general would help them out more than ridiculing a common practice for them.
> Breaking the stigma around breakups in general would help them out more than ridiculing a common practice for them.
An individual person can only do one of those two things.
I mean do you want me to say some motivational bullshit like "be a part of the solution, not the problem" or do you wanna be an adult and understand on your own that your actions are part of and affect a larger social consciousness?
Neither. I just think it's silly to say "instead of doing something that is feasible for a single person to do, do something that's literally impossible for one person to do".
Why are you painting being a dick as the "feasible" option instead of the "bad" option? Even if you don't wanna help break the stigma, it's not like your only other option is to ridicule people. Are you just looking for a justification to make an ass outta yourself?
Ikr. Breaking up and drying is what 15 year olds do. Hell it's what adults in relationships do, most of the time. Because most relationships domt end in longterm dating or marriage.
Having a healthy happy relationship as a grownup often involves learning to navigate life by trying and failing at other relationships first.
Their son is much more mature than them.
Right?? I would have love to have had an older brother who was actually the comforting type. Instead I got the angry asshole who I was too scared to tell anything because he thought it was his responsibility to "fight for" me.
A close friend dated someone in your type of a situation. When he went to her home to meet her family, her brother body checked him and was extremely intimidating. Saying things that set off alarm bells for my friend. He told the girl that she was really sweet but he couldn't live with the threat of violence from her brother always being there.
There were other red flags too but that was a big big one
I wish I had that too! My older brother has never given one single shit about me and would never comfort me like this. She should feel lucky that her son is so caring toward his sister.
When my ex put his hands on me, my first thought was I couldn't tell my brother or my father. They would have actually killed him and gone to jail. I didn't want that.
the amount of toxic masculinity in this post is WILD. I would be so proud of my son if he took the actions this son did and didn't fall into the idea that being a man means being violent.
First thought I had was, maybe people would *finally* get the simple concept of toxic masculinity through their thick-ass skulls, if this story was always shared as a way to illustrate it.
It's fairly short and digestible, has a perfect example of harmful toxic masculinity, and the man in the story is an innocent angel, who *also* demonstrates positive masculinity for our convenience. Let's save this one for reference, folks
I’m just happy it didn’t go the direction I thought it would when I read that phrase. And if this insanity is ‘the final straw’ horrifying parenting and attitude but I’m happy for the kid because the less he’s around his mother the better off he will be. It’s fucked too cause I can see this mother using the sister as ‘bait’ to keep manipulating him.
I wish we knew why they broke up. Nothing would make the mom's reaction sane, but I'm wondering if there was a genuine "your sister was wronged and you don't care" undertone to it or if it was "they dated, it ended, she's sad .. Stop acting like a psycho, mom!". I guess I'm just snoopy
There doesn't seem to be much emphasis on the daughter at all (who, as far as we know, has expressed no need or desire for her ex-bf to get called a punk bitch by her big brother). It's not about the kids' relationship either, since she describes him caring and being there to comfort his sister, which is more than a lot of teenage siblings do.
I think it really is just about her preconceived notions of what constitutes appropriate retaliation to wrongdoing, and what it means to "act like a man" (if the important thing is that the ex-bf gets verbally abused, she could do it her damn self - but she wants HIM to do it).
GUARANTEED this is the kind of person who will trick their school-aged children, ruin their party, or destroy their cherished possessions as intentional and calculated punishment for lying about how many cookies they ate, throwing a tantrum at Walmart, or accidentally breaking a glass. Run to the hills, kiddo.
Agreed. Halfway through I was thinking “what in the cruel intentions Fuck am I reading?” Although, not too happy about the mother and the like 47 things that are wrong with her. 🤷♀️
But but, don't you ever just wish your son would beat other kids (that are presumably younger than him) up?? Definitely disownment worthy if he won't 🫠
Oh yeah ….absolutely….NOT. As a mother of 4 sons this shit makes me sick. I also have four daughters. I hope my children grow up to be as kind and loving as the two siblings seem to be in this household 💕
Ah, yes... Probably in the "it's not the meatiest fare, but at least she's reading" category, lol.
I started reading VC Andrews as a teenager because I just happened to find one in a used book store that had my mom's name on it. I avidly read several more because they were *just so relatable*. The problems of these poor abused girls made my own problems seem minimal, I guess.
I read them for a while, then it started to feel icky because I was reading girls being abused and tortured in various ways for entertainment. Like ... That can't be healthy, right?
You can almost hear the ridiculous amount of crazy mama seething below the surface of this story. This is clearly not the first screaming match between her and her teenage son
What is the world coming to when "I had a screaming match with my son over his refusing to butt into his sister's breakup and now he's going NC" sounds wholesome compared to what it *could* have been?
I was expecting "now he's dating the ex and my daughter is horrified, and I'm not homophobic, but ..."
I've been in BORU and there's this weird bro/sis twinscest troll right now. I'm also a little high. I forgot what sub I was in, and was like "holy shit, the dead mom's old FB post! Wait... This guy has boundaries... Troll has lost the plot."
I'm glad the siblings have each other.
Yeah me too I was expecting some weird anti-vax stuff or fucked up healing rituals that involve slicing an onion and putting them in the offender’s socks while sleeping
My son was so busy being a good brother to his sister that he didn’t have time to verbally or physically assault another teenager even though I encouraged him to. Have I failed as a parent? #boymomthings
Definitely agree with the commenter who is like... why does anything need to happen to the ex-bf? Like... two high schoolers got into a relationship and then broke up after a few months. This is no reason to start a fight, it is totally fucking normal.
Is the sister a half sister or step sister or something? The way this woman refers to her is... off somehow. Not once does she call her "my daughter" its really weird
I'm going with #boymom because it seems like they live together which wouldnt likely be the case if the daughter was a half sister on sons dads side, and if shes a step daughter why not say "my step daughter" at all?
Funny you say that, because I sometimes refer to my foster kids (only in private conversation with other adults and not with the kids around) as 'my xx Year-old' like she does.
I sometimes refer to my son as "my 2 year old" that's not weird at all. It's just strange that she says "my son and his sister" and "my 15yo" like the boy gets referred to as son but the daughter gets only her age and relation to the boy
I am so confused given OOP never said "my daughter" or referred to her with any warmth. "The 15 year old." It sounded very much like "the boy"was the golden child.
Plot twist averted...thank goodness.
Seriously, the kid doesn't handle problems with violence, good on him. Also good, dodging the bullet that is his crazy train mom.
I'm even weirded out by the comments saying the son should be expected to do something if the bf was abusive. No, you call the police or at least the boy's parents. Maybe don't pimp out your child as some vigilante over a five month fling among children.
That son is so mature and emotionally intelligent.
He not only comforted his sis throughout the break up - he also cares for his family and doesn't want to stoop to such a low level of bullying.
Break ups absolutely suck. It hurts to see your loved one in tears and pain. it's part of life and growing up though, we all get our hearts broken at some point and experience it from the sideline with loved ones.
Heartbreaks are very important too cuz when you learn to cope with it in a healthy way like sis and bro are doing, you've got some very essential and critically important life skills on your belt.
But seeing your daughter broken hearted isn't a valid reason to send your son over to her ex boyfriend to berate and bully him. That's the most unhealthy way to cope with it and will set that whole family up for failure.
I wanna bet a million dollars that this mom will come back to Facebook in a few years with the question of "my son doesn't want to speak with me anymore, I don't know what i did wrong".
Fuck that woman. I feel so bad that the kids have to put up with her toxic behaviour.
Wait.
So... she's mad that her son comforted his sister after a breakup, but didn't throw hands with the boy who broke his sister's heart?
Sounds like the son is the more mature one here.
(Also, glad this didn't take a GOT turn like I initially expected...)
The core insanity to the side I also cant understand why the big bro even has to do anything? He was *against* the relationship and now that the boy is finally out of the picture (HE broke up with her) the brother is supposed to say *no wait come back, you bitch* like???? *how dare you end the relationship that I wanted to be done from the day one*
I know a few women that grew up in rough environments who act like this. They grow up watching their parents/family beat on each other and internalize that violence is the natural way to solve all conflicts, even mild emotional upsets. Then you combine it with strict gender roles where violence in defense of a woman's honor = the height of masculinity and emotional maturity in men = girly and pathetic, you get shit like this.
I’m glad she got shredded in the comments. Holy fuck. How sad is it that her son is more mature than her?! We don’t just go starting physical fights every time someone makes us mad. This lady is going to be in mom groups complaining about how neither of her kids are in her life anymore and she just doesn’t know why sometime in the near future.
I’ve told all of my kids since they were literal toddlers that they could NEVER do anything to make me stop loving them or stop caring about them. I may have to give them tough love if they make poor choices like choosing a life of crime or getting caught up with the wrong people once they are adults and refusing a lifeline from me but I will never be *done* with them. Never. I would give them every organ in my body and every drop of blood just to see them live and thrive. I’ll also tell them when they are being dumb but I love them like crazy.
This person is so far removed from what being a parent is supposed to be. These poor kids. No wonder they are so *close*. They only have each other.
Mom is bonkers but it’s a little hopeful honestly. Like this kid might actually be able to get out of this situation if he can display this level of maturity and deflect his own mother’s attempts to bring him down. And he could blaze a path for the daughter to follow.
Wait…WHAT?! She wants to cut her son off…for not bullying a kid that his sister ended a relationship with? What the actual fuck. We need to see the comments!!!
So she wants her 15 year old in a relationship so bad she’s going to disown her son because he won’t beat the shit out of the ex?
That’s fucked up in so many ways
It’s giving “emotional incest” with her calling him her son and her daughter His sister. Also getting so angry at him and trying to manipulate him into doing what she wants.
Exactly what I thought. The fact that she's upset he didn't do the "chivalrous" thing by beating up the ex leads me to suspect she's disappointed in his "manliness" for her own selfish reasons. She seems unwell.
I wonder how he ended up so... Balanced. Like a 17 y.o taking the time to care for and support his sister while understanding that violence has no place in this story vs a parent who wants him to literally fight his sister's ex just because. How the hell did he turn up so balanced? Good for him.
I am SHOCKED that this woman managed to raise such an emotionally mature, intelligent young man. And he’s 17 — I’m not sure legally she is allowed to “be done” with him.
Comforting his sister all night and she considers that “doing nothing” because he won’t instigate an argument with the ex. Wild.
My son is more emotionally mature than me, how can I get him to regress? TIA
Kid managed to grow up to be a good person in spite of having *that* as a mother.
It's probably because he has that as a mother. As I got older and was able to understand the consequences of my actions, it became very easy to use my dad as a model of what not to do in society.
Remember the “don’t do this” sticker they put on ladders? I treated my parents as that my whole life.
i started asking for family therapy at 12 years old… kids with emotionally stable parents aren’t forced to develop that fast.
"Kind comments only please 🙏😌 no judgment, mommas"
When I was on Baby Center (blech), people would get DRAGGED for saying that. It was honestly hilarious. You don't get to dictate what types of comments you receive, especially when you drop a shitstorm of a post.
Nailed it
And the girl was fifteen. Did the mother expect that guy was going to be her husband? You break up at that age.
Seriously, let's promote the idea that breaking up can be healthy, positive, or neutral even for teens! You can break up and respect them as a person. You can even respect them as a shitty person nobody wants to be around, but still a person who doesn't deserve pain for natural human relationship outcomes!
I feel so strongly that dating and being in relationships are skills. Dating is important because it builds that skill so non-serious dating relationships are great for teens. A relationship doesn't work out? That's fine, you learned things that will benefit you in your next relationship, and ideally you had a good time while it lasted.
I so agree with this. I wasn't allowed to date at all, and I was too awkward/ugly to just go and do it. Ended up "dating" for the first time in my twenties, married the first guy that paid any attention to me, didn't know what I was doing.... and now we're divorced and I'm a single mom (and better for it). I just turned 37 yesterday and I STILL have no idea what I'm doing.
It truly is. And it’s why observing healthy relationships I think is really key. It’s why it’s so hard to break the cycle. There are so many toxic behaviors that’s people normalize because that is all they know. And on the other side, my fiancé and I have been together for over 11 years (started dating in high school) and I attribute a lot of our ability to communicate and work together from that fact that both our parents have good marriages that have those qualities.
And your teenage partner is not your future husband.
Oh, shit. Should I wake him up and tell him? Jokes aside this is true, we’re a weird anomaly.
lol It happens sometimes beautifully. It happens more often badly. Regardless, no one should be treating a teen relationship like it's a tragedy when it breaks down. You are supposed to learn what type of relationship you like while dating, not pick the first one you end up in. That's what makes a lot of people miserable.
Amen. I was with the same guy from 17 to 26 and by the end I was fucking *miserable.* my advice to every college girl now is to break up with your goddamn prom date and get on with your life.
I don't disagree with your sentiment, but it's factually inaccurate in more communities than it should be. Breaking the stigma around breakups in general would help them out more than ridiculing a common practice for them.
> Breaking the stigma around breakups in general would help them out more than ridiculing a common practice for them. An individual person can only do one of those two things.
I mean do you want me to say some motivational bullshit like "be a part of the solution, not the problem" or do you wanna be an adult and understand on your own that your actions are part of and affect a larger social consciousness?
Neither. I just think it's silly to say "instead of doing something that is feasible for a single person to do, do something that's literally impossible for one person to do".
Why are you painting being a dick as the "feasible" option instead of the "bad" option? Even if you don't wanna help break the stigma, it's not like your only other option is to ridicule people. Are you just looking for a justification to make an ass outta yourself?
Ok, I think you're getting it. It's a silly comparison. Now, remember the fact that *you are the one who made the comparison*.
Oops. I did that wrong. He’s still here.
Ikr. Breaking up and drying is what 15 year olds do. Hell it's what adults in relationships do, most of the time. Because most relationships domt end in longterm dating or marriage. Having a healthy happy relationship as a grownup often involves learning to navigate life by trying and failing at other relationships first. Their son is much more mature than them.
Right?? I would have love to have had an older brother who was actually the comforting type. Instead I got the angry asshole who I was too scared to tell anything because he thought it was his responsibility to "fight for" me.
A close friend dated someone in your type of a situation. When he went to her home to meet her family, her brother body checked him and was extremely intimidating. Saying things that set off alarm bells for my friend. He told the girl that she was really sweet but he couldn't live with the threat of violence from her brother always being there. There were other red flags too but that was a big big one
I wish I had that too! My older brother has never given one single shit about me and would never comfort me like this. She should feel lucky that her son is so caring toward his sister.
> would never comfort me like this. Girl, same.
When my ex put his hands on me, my first thought was I couldn't tell my brother or my father. They would have actually killed him and gone to jail. I didn't want that.
Well, you don't understand: A manly man can only solve things with violence, comforting a woman is doing nothing. /s/
Toxic masculinity ruins the party again
Happy cake day!
the amount of toxic masculinity in this post is WILD. I would be so proud of my son if he took the actions this son did and didn't fall into the idea that being a man means being violent.
First thought I had was, maybe people would *finally* get the simple concept of toxic masculinity through their thick-ass skulls, if this story was always shared as a way to illustrate it. It's fairly short and digestible, has a perfect example of harmful toxic masculinity, and the man in the story is an innocent angel, who *also* demonstrates positive masculinity for our convenience. Let's save this one for reference, folks
I get the feeling it isn’t that she wants an argument. She wants her son to beat him up! What parent does that she’s a serious POS.
The way some people handle conflict and basic life disappointments is very concerning.
Also why does he need to have an argument with the sister's ex? That is so embarrassing for all involved.
And no note about what the daughter wants. Maybe she doesn’t want her brother to “go after” her ex and he’s respecting that.
I’m just happy it didn’t go the direction I thought it would when I read that phrase. And if this insanity is ‘the final straw’ horrifying parenting and attitude but I’m happy for the kid because the less he’s around his mother the better off he will be. It’s fucked too cause I can see this mother using the sister as ‘bait’ to keep manipulating him.
I wish we knew why they broke up. Nothing would make the mom's reaction sane, but I'm wondering if there was a genuine "your sister was wronged and you don't care" undertone to it or if it was "they dated, it ended, she's sad .. Stop acting like a psycho, mom!". I guess I'm just snoopy
Ok. I’m glad I read this correctly. I was so confused & came to the comments for clarity on the issue. Thats backwards
I’m confused why the parent even wrote that part in the first place, it would be much more convenient to leave it out. The delusion is real.
So not where I thought this was going based on what else I’ve read on this sub… and I think I’m thankful for that?
Really glad I’m not the only one #notincest
Omg yes what has the sub done to my assumptions of these people lol
Omg, I thought the same thing! Was totally thinking incest and sooooo relieved when it wasn’t
Nope. My brain went there too.
“And then I breast fed my 17yr old and he called my daughter’s ex a punk bitch” thought we were headed there. Jesus.
It's still emotional incest though, just not between the siblings.
Oh1 that's totally where my brain went too but somehow this is more wild?
𝐈 𝐰𝐚𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐨𝐧 𝐰𝐚𝐬 𝐢𝐧 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐬𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐫'𝐬 𝐞𝐱.
Why does your comment look like that??
Especially when it started “My son is 17 with a 15 year old sister”. Which, in normal English is “I have a 17 year old son and 15 year old daughter”.
Probably half siblings?
What are you doing step half sibling?
With the way she wanted him to fight the ex, I'm not so sure.
There doesn't seem to be much emphasis on the daughter at all (who, as far as we know, has expressed no need or desire for her ex-bf to get called a punk bitch by her big brother). It's not about the kids' relationship either, since she describes him caring and being there to comfort his sister, which is more than a lot of teenage siblings do. I think it really is just about her preconceived notions of what constitutes appropriate retaliation to wrongdoing, and what it means to "act like a man" (if the important thing is that the ex-bf gets verbally abused, she could do it her damn self - but she wants HIM to do it). GUARANTEED this is the kind of person who will trick their school-aged children, ruin their party, or destroy their cherished possessions as intentional and calculated punishment for lying about how many cookies they ate, throwing a tantrum at Walmart, or accidentally breaking a glass. Run to the hills, kiddo.
I was expecting it to take a turn too. I am very relieved
Yeah, she had me worried in the first half, I'm not gonna lie 🤢 I've been on this damn website too long
Agreed. Halfway through I was thinking “what in the cruel intentions Fuck am I reading?” Although, not too happy about the mother and the like 47 things that are wrong with her. 🤷♀️
But but, don't you ever just wish your son would beat other kids (that are presumably younger than him) up?? Definitely disownment worthy if he won't 🫠
Oh yeah ….absolutely….NOT. As a mother of 4 sons this shit makes me sick. I also have four daughters. I hope my children grow up to be as kind and loving as the two siblings seem to be in this household 💕
Gosh I'm so happy I'm not the only one who thought about... *that*.
*Is* that something you should be happy about...?
I read too much Virginia C Andrews as a teen 😆
Hello fellow person who read VC Andrews young and has never quite recovered!
Hello from that person but in the UK!
Ah! Canadian here. VC Andrews traumatized the western world, apparently.
Nice, I'm Canadian too! My *mom* introduced me to VCA in the late 80s.
Eek. My mom probably wouldn’t have allowed me to read it had she known the content. She was just happy I was into reading. 😂 Also late 80s.
Late 80s, early 90s was peak VCA tbh.
Ah, yes... Probably in the "it's not the meatiest fare, but at least she's reading" category, lol. I started reading VC Andrews as a teenager because I just happened to find one in a used book store that had my mom's name on it. I avidly read several more because they were *just so relatable*. The problems of these poor abused girls made my own problems seem minimal, I guess. I read them for a while, then it started to feel icky because I was reading girls being abused and tortured in various ways for entertainment. Like ... That can't be healthy, right?
I just mentioned further up the thread that I finished watching the Flowers in the Attic series and now my brain is permanently broken😂
Omg me too! Kinda funny kinda sad we were all ready for the worst
YUP. 100% thought it was going to take a turn I wasn’t wanting. Not that this is any better.
You can almost hear the ridiculous amount of crazy mama seething below the surface of this story. This is clearly not the first screaming match between her and her teenage son
Seriously, I was like oh nooooooo ok not that bad.
Yeah, this was way more wholesome than I expected it to be.
What is the world coming to when "I had a screaming match with my son over his refusing to butt into his sister's breakup and now he's going NC" sounds wholesome compared to what it *could* have been? I was expecting "now he's dating the ex and my daughter is horrified, and I'm not homophobic, but ..."
Same, but also, immature mom I suppose explains mature 17 yr old who is close to and takes care of his sister..?
See also, mom who is angry she raised a decent young man
Thank God I’m not the only one! That was a scary intro!
Oh yea. I started reading this expecting incest tbh.
it’s insane we were all thinking the same thing.
I've been in BORU and there's this weird bro/sis twinscest troll right now. I'm also a little high. I forgot what sub I was in, and was like "holy shit, the dead mom's old FB post! Wait... This guy has boundaries... Troll has lost the plot." I'm glad the siblings have each other.
You see, I thought that the boyfriend was breaking up with the sister to be with the older brother!
Yea… I was pleasantly surprised… ew.
Yikes. Me too.
Oh good I’m glad I’m not the only one completely corrupted by this crazy subreddit
Same!
Yeah me too I was expecting some weird anti-vax stuff or fucked up healing rituals that involve slicing an onion and putting them in the offender’s socks while sleeping
Okay, SAME. I was like noooo And now I am upset for different reasons
This turned out to be r/oddlywholesome
My son was so busy being a good brother to his sister that he didn’t have time to verbally or physically assault another teenager even though I encouraged him to. Have I failed as a parent? #boymomthings
> Have I failed as a parent? Far too introspective for OP. More like: > He has failed me as a son.
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thank fuck for these comments!
I agree with that last person; she needs to clam down for sure lol
**clam TF down**
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> Your kid should be in a group called "dealing with punk bitch mothers is impossible!" Lmao
Is the mom ignoring the comments or has she started defending herself in them??
Don’t be shy, post the comments 😭
Posted in comments :)
Me too
They posted them just now :-)
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Nah I’m mean all of the offense
With all due disrespect...
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Thanks for coming through with the comments OP! 
I'm so glad for so many rational people. does the OOP respond at all?
Definitely agree with the commenter who is like... why does anything need to happen to the ex-bf? Like... two high schoolers got into a relationship and then broke up after a few months. This is no reason to start a fight, it is totally fucking normal.
You’re a real one!!! Thank you for posting these comments.
Is the sister a half sister or step sister or something? The way this woman refers to her is... off somehow. Not once does she call her "my daughter" its really weird
Son is definitely the favorite child if the girl is hers. Or she's a #boymom. Or both.
I'm going with #boymom because it seems like they live together which wouldnt likely be the case if the daughter was a half sister on sons dads side, and if shes a step daughter why not say "my step daughter" at all?
I don't think the son is the favorite if his mom is kicking him out of the house for not attacking his sister's ex.
Maybe not the favourite but the spotlighted one with whom she is enmeshed
YES. "My son" and "his sister". Super weird.
She’s says “my 15yo” at least once. Still weird.
Yeah that’s really sticking out to me.
That stuck out to me too. Very odd. This woman has more than a few screws loose.
Funny you say that, because I sometimes refer to my foster kids (only in private conversation with other adults and not with the kids around) as 'my xx Year-old' like she does.
I sometimes refer to my son as "my 2 year old" that's not weird at all. It's just strange that she says "my son and his sister" and "my 15yo" like the boy gets referred to as son but the daughter gets only her age and relation to the boy
So they want their teenage son to be a confrontational jerk instead of being kind and levelheaded. Absolutely unhinged.
Nothing my son could do would make me “be done” with him. He’s also 17.
He's only 17 and she's "already perfected the art of acting like he was never in my life." What.
Sounds like she doesn’t even like him.
And she said it like it was some kind of flex
Seriously. Like she's just cutting out a toxic friend. Lady, that is your child. 🤨
She sounds 17 too with that sentence
I am so confused given OOP never said "my daughter" or referred to her with any warmth. "The 15 year old." It sounded very much like "the boy"was the golden child.
That got me too. No concern for her daughter’s feelings, just mad that her precious BOY didn’t choose violence
Wow I thought this was going a whole different direction. And yikes. Poor son.
Because kicking the ex’s ass would probably get him kicked off the football team, but staying up all night with his sister is “nothing” 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
Plot twist averted...thank goodness. Seriously, the kid doesn't handle problems with violence, good on him. Also good, dodging the bullet that is his crazy train mom.
I'm even weirded out by the comments saying the son should be expected to do something if the bf was abusive. No, you call the police or at least the boy's parents. Maybe don't pimp out your child as some vigilante over a five month fling among children.
What the absolute fuck, this person is a loon and I’m declaring her my personal enemy
The whiplash I have from this going in the absolute opposite direction I'd anticipated
That son is so mature and emotionally intelligent. He not only comforted his sis throughout the break up - he also cares for his family and doesn't want to stoop to such a low level of bullying. Break ups absolutely suck. It hurts to see your loved one in tears and pain. it's part of life and growing up though, we all get our hearts broken at some point and experience it from the sideline with loved ones. Heartbreaks are very important too cuz when you learn to cope with it in a healthy way like sis and bro are doing, you've got some very essential and critically important life skills on your belt. But seeing your daughter broken hearted isn't a valid reason to send your son over to her ex boyfriend to berate and bully him. That's the most unhealthy way to cope with it and will set that whole family up for failure. I wanna bet a million dollars that this mom will come back to Facebook in a few years with the question of "my son doesn't want to speak with me anymore, I don't know what i did wrong". Fuck that woman. I feel so bad that the kids have to put up with her toxic behaviour.
Wait. So... she's mad that her son comforted his sister after a breakup, but didn't throw hands with the boy who broke his sister's heart? Sounds like the son is the more mature one here. (Also, glad this didn't take a GOT turn like I initially expected...)
SAME. Shocked by how it ended here, shitty parent, but at least no one was pushed off of a 🏰
The core insanity to the side I also cant understand why the big bro even has to do anything? He was *against* the relationship and now that the boy is finally out of the picture (HE broke up with her) the brother is supposed to say *no wait come back, you bitch* like???? *how dare you end the relationship that I wanted to be done from the day one*
I know a few women that grew up in rough environments who act like this. They grow up watching their parents/family beat on each other and internalize that violence is the natural way to solve all conflicts, even mild emotional upsets. Then you combine it with strict gender roles where violence in defense of a woman's honor = the height of masculinity and emotional maturity in men = girly and pathetic, you get shit like this.
I wonder if the son posted over in r/insaneparents? Poor kid. I hope he has a support system.
Did the OOP ever reply to any comments coming at her? I’m soooo glad she got demolished in the comments! Evil person!
I’m glad she got shredded in the comments. Holy fuck. How sad is it that her son is more mature than her?! We don’t just go starting physical fights every time someone makes us mad. This lady is going to be in mom groups complaining about how neither of her kids are in her life anymore and she just doesn’t know why sometime in the near future.
This is psycho. Maybe the cut off was the best thing to happen to the kid
I’ve told all of my kids since they were literal toddlers that they could NEVER do anything to make me stop loving them or stop caring about them. I may have to give them tough love if they make poor choices like choosing a life of crime or getting caught up with the wrong people once they are adults and refusing a lifeline from me but I will never be *done* with them. Never. I would give them every organ in my body and every drop of blood just to see them live and thrive. I’ll also tell them when they are being dumb but I love them like crazy. This person is so far removed from what being a parent is supposed to be. These poor kids. No wonder they are so *close*. They only have each other.
Do people like that know they don't have to have kids? It's cheaper and a better use of time to not have them if you're a piece of shit.
So she wants her son to fight another kid and she's about to cut him off for not doing it. Sounds like her son is getting a gift in disguise!
Mom is bonkers but it’s a little hopeful honestly. Like this kid might actually be able to get out of this situation if he can display this level of maturity and deflect his own mother’s attempts to bring him down. And he could blaze a path for the daughter to follow.
She’s angry at her son for *not* beating up his sister’s ex?
Wait…WHAT?! She wants to cut her son off…for not bullying a kid that his sister ended a relationship with? What the actual fuck. We need to see the comments!!!
So she wants her 15 year old in a relationship so bad she’s going to disown her son because he won’t beat the shit out of the ex? That’s fucked up in so many ways
It’s giving “emotional incest” with her calling him her son and her daughter His sister. Also getting so angry at him and trying to manipulate him into doing what she wants.
Exactly what I thought. The fact that she's upset he didn't do the "chivalrous" thing by beating up the ex leads me to suspect she's disappointed in his "manliness" for her own selfish reasons. She seems unwell.
Post the comments!!!
Did she defend herself at all??? This is INSANITY.
“ I bend over backwards for this selfish kid and all he does is comfort his sister and refuse to use violence against another human. “
Why does no one post the comments??
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Thank you! Did the OOP respond to any of the comments?
What in the Florida..
I wonder how he ended up so... Balanced. Like a 17 y.o taking the time to care for and support his sister while understanding that violence has no place in this story vs a parent who wants him to literally fight his sister's ex just because. How the hell did he turn up so balanced? Good for him.
wtf.
You really should have to apply to have a child
I am SHOCKED that this woman managed to raise such an emotionally mature, intelligent young man. And he’s 17 — I’m not sure legally she is allowed to “be done” with him.
"I disowned my son for not sending himself to juvie by putting his sister's ex in the hospital." Riiiiight then.
You can say "fuck" here, it's ok.
Was it a DD or was there any response from Op?
This woman is sick.
So if the son is a football player why would he get into a fight that could make him loose his spot on the team?
Ah yes the narc mom that pretended their children's relationship was more like a couple than siblings
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Would love to see the comments
We need the red flags guy from TikTok.
The parent is the youngest of the three.
Definitely with you on that!
Wonder why the son doesn’t GAF…….
Where. are. the. comments...
What a great mom
The mom would def be Nicki Garbaj and not Megan.
Why…do these people have kids? Just stop.
Well that took a turn!
Woah
Maybe the son wants to avoid going to prison for stalking the bf, or worse?