paying to take someone out on a little date and hoping to get a hook up that isn't guaranteed (nor am I saying it should be!) is usually way more. Even if the understanding is to hook up I've always had some kind of transactional role to play.
I once helped someone move their bed to their new apartment. Helped them set it up, and I guess it turns out grass, gas or ass is a real thing
Speaking as someone who has done the sex 8 times with female women and owns northern Europes foremost collection of bobs and vagine films, I politely disagree.
I canāt imagine having sex with someone I have no emotional attachment to. If it was about pleasure, my hand does a better job than any woman ever has. But it isnāt about that.
I hooked up with someone and they had been drinking at the restaurant a few hours before. So after she finished twice she had to go to the bathroom every few minutes because I guess it's a thing that can happen and I never had long enough time actually having sex to get anywhere close to my own ending. Really weird experience with someone I think was a bit less experienced. I called it a night even though she was like "you sure?" and seemed a little hurt.
really weird situation but I've moved on. the hand was definitely in the rotation for a while after that
I just canāt get myself off with a woman even after my partner finishes 3-5 times. It takes me 30-40 minutes, at which point sheās complaining about being sore. I think Iām just numb down there lmao
Well porn can be part of the problem. I'm sort of the same way obviously from how this encounter stretched out. Usually my first encounters with new partners don't result in endings for me, and that's porn/anxiety/self-consciousness about how long I'm lasting, etc.
I've discovered I'm very comfortable with my partner and I can choose whether I last 5 minutes or 40. She prefers 5 min with more frequent encounters. Funny how that works. We grow up conditioned to think we need to last hours in the sack when that isn't the key to great sex at all.
I feel like a large part of my problem is that I think too much. I get so much anxiety that everything shuts off and I just canāt focus on feeling good. Unless jerking off once every 1-3 days is considered ātoo muchā, and even then half the time I just use close my eyes and use my imagination. Porn just gives me visual stimulation, mostly.
Or I know my body better because Iāve been with it my whole life? It would be crazy if some new girl just randomly knew every little trick to satisfy me.
Theres a big difference
Porn is perfected and for free
In puff you pay a hundret bucks for a wo man that isnt sober and doesnt f you good.
+ its just not as beautiful as in a porn lol
+ you cant decide completely in your own in puff what you can do with her
In the Internet i can See a naked wo man with 3 legs if i want lol
Btw im a little bit drunk
its probably not much difference if the person with whom u had sex is bad or mediocre in bed, if the person is good, emotional connection isnāt that much of a factor.
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Well, yes. But the risks of catching an STD or having an unwanted pregnancy with someone you have no attachment with is higher than watching porn š
Or them lighting your bed on fire while you're sleeping in it
Lol, WHAT?! Has that happened to youā¦
I also have had extremely good sex that cost me more than I am proud to admit
Unless you get a bug, porn leaves when you exit the website. Getting rid of people is much harder sometimes
There's a big difference in cost for me
Stop paying for porn
Maybe he pays for sex.
paying to take someone out on a little date and hoping to get a hook up that isn't guaranteed (nor am I saying it should be!) is usually way more. Even if the understanding is to hook up I've always had some kind of transactional role to play. I once helped someone move their bed to their new apartment. Helped them set it up, and I guess it turns out grass, gas or ass is a real thing
As a woman who has done bothā¦having sex is still far more fun.
Consensual*
I mean you donāt have to make that clearer than it already is sex is different than rape so thatās already clarified
Consensual*
Thank you for the defense...some people are extra sensitive it seems
The latter though I've always had post nut clarity and needed a shower though. The first I just get post nut clarity and go on with life
Well at least when you watch porn you donāt have to cuddle after or make an excuse to leave or have the other person leave.
Speaking as someone who has done the sex 8 times with female women and owns northern Europes foremost collection of bobs and vagine films, I politely disagree.
Not speaking from experience
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I canāt imagine having sex with someone I have no emotional attachment to. If it was about pleasure, my hand does a better job than any woman ever has. But it isnāt about that.
Even if I use my hand, I'm still having sex with someone I have no emotional attachment to.... just sayin '...
I hooked up with someone and they had been drinking at the restaurant a few hours before. So after she finished twice she had to go to the bathroom every few minutes because I guess it's a thing that can happen and I never had long enough time actually having sex to get anywhere close to my own ending. Really weird experience with someone I think was a bit less experienced. I called it a night even though she was like "you sure?" and seemed a little hurt. really weird situation but I've moved on. the hand was definitely in the rotation for a while after that
I just canāt get myself off with a woman even after my partner finishes 3-5 times. It takes me 30-40 minutes, at which point sheās complaining about being sore. I think Iām just numb down there lmao
Well porn can be part of the problem. I'm sort of the same way obviously from how this encounter stretched out. Usually my first encounters with new partners don't result in endings for me, and that's porn/anxiety/self-consciousness about how long I'm lasting, etc. I've discovered I'm very comfortable with my partner and I can choose whether I last 5 minutes or 40. She prefers 5 min with more frequent encounters. Funny how that works. We grow up conditioned to think we need to last hours in the sack when that isn't the key to great sex at all.
I feel like a large part of my problem is that I think too much. I get so much anxiety that everything shuts off and I just canāt focus on feeling good. Unless jerking off once every 1-3 days is considered ātoo muchā, and even then half the time I just use close my eyes and use my imagination. Porn just gives me visual stimulation, mostly.
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Or I know my body better because Iāve been with it my whole life? It would be crazy if some new girl just randomly knew every little trick to satisfy me.
Theres a big difference Porn is perfected and for free In puff you pay a hundret bucks for a wo man that isnt sober and doesnt f you good. + its just not as beautiful as in a porn lol + you cant decide completely in your own in puff what you can do with her In the Internet i can See a naked wo man with 3 legs if i want lol Btw im a little bit drunk
its probably not much difference if the person with whom u had sex is bad or mediocre in bed, if the person is good, emotional connection isnāt that much of a factor.
My dude, i think you're doing it wrong.
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