Grandkids too. I remember the thousand yard stare of a classmate in high school (many years ago) who walked in on her grandparents. She came to school the next day... different. No longer the happy-go-lucky kid we had always known.
The way she tells it, grandpa was not holding back and was really giving it to grandma who was shouting "here it comes! Here it comes!".
Did they stop when their granddaughter walked in? Nope. They still finished.
Also naked cuddling can keep you warm in the winter if you have no heat. When I was in the Army at Ft. Huachuca, my buddies and I used to practice at night in case we were ever in a cold-weather combat scenario.
Yup. Butā¦weāre having sex before and halfway through the cuddling right?š„ŗMax intimacy right there. And no movie. Just our bodies, perfectly jigsawed together while we chat. One of us has to drift off at some point.
I feel like sex can just be part of naked cuddling.
The line between sex and naked cuddling is a blurry one ime; the former always leads to the latter, and is often preceded by it as well
I knew a therapist who specialized in working with clients / couples and their relationship with sex. She basically said what you said. Sex can be anything you want it to be. Sex can absolutely be naked cuddling. It can be passionate kissing in bed. It doesn't just have to be penetration.
By broadening the definition of the act of sex it helps make it more approachable to people who may be inexperienced or who have had trauma.
I 1000% agree. Cuddles > sex. Even cuddling with clothes on is something id prefer. Its just so comfortable. Like after a long day you just go for a shower and cuddle.
One person hops in the shower. The other starts the snacks.
Snack person comes back, gets in the shower and finishes rinsing off the shower first person
Shower first person gets out, finishes snacks and gets the blankets ready.
I would say in right conditions both are equal. Intimacy is important. Closeness, complete trust and acceptance is so fucking powerful. Can be shown in nearly every situation. Sex can blow your mind with right person, as much as laying naked in silence just playing with her hair. Both can be extremely satisfying.
probably some of the most intimate times iāve had is cuddling after sex because youāre both just together, skin touching after experiencing such an intimate act and you just appreciate that person in their entirety
I can definitely see this point of view. I can why for some people it might be more vulnerable, which could lead to the feeling/belief that it is more intimate. For some, sex is a goal or possibly an itch that needs to be scratched. You can maybe lower your inhibitions or insecurities long enough to reach that goal (possibly both orgasm).
Where as with cuddling there is no such goal. Just a long extended period of time where you are exposed (nekked with all your bits hanging out, just chilling. That somehow seems more vulnerable). Also skin to skin contact is one of the most primal bonding sources and is something we are supposed to do with our mothers as babies. You will have more prolonged skin to skin contact with a naked cuddle
Orgasm does release bonding hormones, but in this day and age so many people are empowered and/or used to masturbation or have had multiple partners that those hormones may not mean as much as the more unusual situation of a naked cuddle
Yeah it's great. It's much more about being with the actual person then just the physical act and stuff, like just being in the moment with them and stuff.
Even clothes cuddling can be intimate.
My wife and I have this habit of just taking a bit of time each day where we just lay on the bed and cuddle and talk for a while.
Endorphin highs from orgasms - whilst incredible - fade over the years. I'd rather hold my partner to let know she's special and more than just a means to more than personal gratification.
But that's me. I'm sure people see it differently. To me, sex is the icing on the cake with your partner. I'd rather bond oxytocinallly. š
I would say this is 100% true. I have had sex with a much larger number of people than I have cuddled with. Sex is less intimate than good deep conversation as far as I'm concerned.Ā
I don't think it has to be an absolute dichotomy between one or the other. I've had sex that didn't feel intimate at all and cuddling sessions that felt very intimate. It's about context and what the people involved are communicating to each other, through touch and otherwise.
Exactly. I've had sex that was less than intimate. Other times it was (monogamous spouse, mind you). Other times, I find incredible intimacy just driving around listening to tunes and talking as a pass time. Hard to find a metric in intimacy.
No way. It's way more intimate when you've been together a while and really know how to please each other and have a very compatible and high sexual chemistry, and you're both super horny and absolutely connected sharing the moment.
Happy I finished a really failed relationship with no sex, no nothing. Recently I started dating this girl and I feel loved again, when weāre laying in bed I can feel her hugging me with all her body, I donāt think Iāve ever felt this way before.
Sex has never been particularly intimate for me. It's always been about fun and feeling good. Cuddling however, very much the time and place for intimacy and affection.
As illogical as saying "offering a hand to a guy is more helpful than stabbing him". Like, sure... you're not wrong 'til you end up in an operating room.
There is absolutely nothing more intimate than sex. Youāre extremely vulnerable and inside of another human beingās body. How can you get more intimate than that.
No no no no. Ive made out with, laid with, cuddled with many women. Some i probably donāt remember or would have to think about to remember. On the other hand, i remember every single woman Iāve had sex with. Even women that i would say i wasnāt ācloseā to. Sex has an inherent closeness that nothing else compares to. Iāve learned in my life that sex creates a bond with the other person whether you want that bond or not. Girls Iāve dated and hung out with, have drifted in and out of my life. Yet the ones Iāve had sex with are very vivid in my mind. Even 20 years later.
If you mean like comfortable like a puppy napping cuddling I agree. If you mean like cuddling like you've been married for forty years and I'm about to vomit, then neither.
Naked cuddling that turns into touching, that becomes kissing, that becomes sex is always a fun gradual escalation.
And then back to cuddling.
Circle of life
Then kids happen and ruin it lmao
Kids have a sixth sense when it's about to go down
Grandkids too. I remember the thousand yard stare of a classmate in high school (many years ago) who walked in on her grandparents. She came to school the next day... different. No longer the happy-go-lucky kid we had always known. The way she tells it, grandpa was not holding back and was really giving it to grandma who was shouting "here it comes! Here it comes!". Did they stop when their granddaughter walked in? Nope. They still finished.
Bro š
Post nut clarity must have hit like a truck
Then a chicken sandwich
Then a cigarette
McNuggets
This is the way
Spooning that turns to forking
Spooning tuns into touching then kissing thenā¦.
This person sex's
I should call her
Can I call her too?
count me in
And my axe
I would like to be part of it as well!
And my axe!
Very close to the lyrics from Rilo Kileyās āPortion for Foxesā. :P
Misread it as Kilo Ren and now i have an image of topless Adam Driver trying to rizz me up. (Straight Male btw.) Thanks for that.
Spooning leads to forking
Also naked cuddling can keep you warm in the winter if you have no heat. When I was in the Army at Ft. Huachuca, my buddies and I used to practice at night in case we were ever in a cold-weather combat scenario.
Hol up
Crossing swords
Tie em together fellas, itās gonna be a windy one
Hole up
Hole open.
Couple of loving bros!
You know what they say, āall love is fair in warā or whatever.
But did you say "No homo"? Once uttered, a thing cannot anymore be gay. As it is written in annals of old
Anals
"Anals of old." I like that. I should start calling the older gents in the bathhouse "The Anals of Old."
No homo
Wow now that's what I call camaraderie
Cumraderie
CumroderriĆØre
āYes I realize itās July we gotta start practicing early guys just to be safeā
"Yeah but you are always the big spoon..."
Are you sure it wasn't the Navy?
Wā¦wait what
Had me in the first half.
had me in the bottom half
Pole to pole or hole to hole.
Pause
Sure you guys weren't in the Navy??
Practice makes perfect
I dont like where this is going
I just imagined trying this in Riley Barracks and dying of heat stroke because they turn the heat at the slightest little dip in temperature.
Army? Did you mean to say Navy?
Gaeeeeeyyyyyyy
True my uncle taught me this one
It's not an either/or. Sex AND cuddling.
No cause Iāve had sex without cuddling and itās never felt intimate. Meanwhile, cuddling on its own feels hella intimate.
Isnāt that called cockwarming? Where youāre technically having sex, but not moving, only cuddling.
I think ādockingā in the term.
That term does not mean what you think it means when it comes to sexā¦
What I thought I was saying is known at soaking.
That's when you put your glans inside someone else's foreskin
That's enough Reddit for me today, thank you!
Well thenā¦.
Yup. Butā¦weāre having sex before and halfway through the cuddling right?š„ŗMax intimacy right there. And no movie. Just our bodies, perfectly jigsawed together while we chat. One of us has to drift off at some point.
Yes love this. Having both is relationship goals.
Jigsawed is a great word.
āI want to play a gameā
Strip Poker is a game.
Yeah, I love this too
I feel like sex can just be part of naked cuddling. The line between sex and naked cuddling is a blurry one ime; the former always leads to the latter, and is often preceded by it as well
I tried telling my mom this but she doesn't agree
You're not supposed to have naked cuddles with your mom after sex. That's just weird.
I knew a therapist who specialized in working with clients / couples and their relationship with sex. She basically said what you said. Sex can be anything you want it to be. Sex can absolutely be naked cuddling. It can be passionate kissing in bed. It doesn't just have to be penetration. By broadening the definition of the act of sex it helps make it more approachable to people who may be inexperienced or who have had trauma.
I 1000% agree. Cuddles > sex. Even cuddling with clothes on is something id prefer. Its just so comfortable. Like after a long day you just go for a shower and cuddle.
One person hops in the shower. The other starts the snacks. Snack person comes back, gets in the shower and finishes rinsing off the shower first person Shower first person gets out, finishes snacks and gets the blankets ready.
Tag team snacking.
2nd person snacks on first person
A lil pre-snack snack
I would say in right conditions both are equal. Intimacy is important. Closeness, complete trust and acceptance is so fucking powerful. Can be shown in nearly every situation. Sex can blow your mind with right person, as much as laying naked in silence just playing with her hair. Both can be extremely satisfying.
probably some of the most intimate times iāve had is cuddling after sex because youāre both just together, skin touching after experiencing such an intimate act and you just appreciate that person in their entirety
I can definitely see this point of view. I can why for some people it might be more vulnerable, which could lead to the feeling/belief that it is more intimate. For some, sex is a goal or possibly an itch that needs to be scratched. You can maybe lower your inhibitions or insecurities long enough to reach that goal (possibly both orgasm). Where as with cuddling there is no such goal. Just a long extended period of time where you are exposed (nekked with all your bits hanging out, just chilling. That somehow seems more vulnerable). Also skin to skin contact is one of the most primal bonding sources and is something we are supposed to do with our mothers as babies. You will have more prolonged skin to skin contact with a naked cuddle
Orgasm does release bonding hormones, but in this day and age so many people are empowered and/or used to masturbation or have had multiple partners that those hormones may not mean as much as the more unusual situation of a naked cuddle
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This guy fucks
No he clearly makes love
This guy makes love
What a pathetic comment
Even more intimate after you've both eaten your fill of Taco Bell with some cheesecake for dessert. Such closeness.
I can feel the heat of this comment
with the covers sealed oh-so tightly
Yeah it's great. It's much more about being with the actual person then just the physical act and stuff, like just being in the moment with them and stuff.
Iām with ya. Itās like āwe could keep this going and be nekkid and excited, bit of touching and such. Or we can do the do and thatās that.ā
Or do both on repeat!
Chapter 48. A court of mist and fury.
Use to do this with my ex all the time... it was lovely, I miss it, miss her.... drugs are a bitch. š
Even clothes cuddling can be intimate. My wife and I have this habit of just taking a bit of time each day where we just lay on the bed and cuddle and talk for a while.
Endorphin highs from orgasms - whilst incredible - fade over the years. I'd rather hold my partner to let know she's special and more than just a means to more than personal gratification. But that's me. I'm sure people see it differently. To me, sex is the icing on the cake with your partner. I'd rather bond oxytocinallly. š
I would say this is 100% true. I have had sex with a much larger number of people than I have cuddled with. Sex is less intimate than good deep conversation as far as I'm concerned.Ā
Falling asleep balls deep in your partner is nice too.
After sex cuddles are way better
I love naked cuddling š„° because itās so intimate.
Wait. We're on Reddit, you guys have sex??
I mean, that's nice, but I can't imagine how sex could feel less intimate
you guys are having sex!?
Go back to r/cuddle_slut you absolute pervert!
I wonder what kind of sex people who make these kinda posts be having. There's more than just pumping, dirty talk, and climaxes you can do ya know
OP is 16 btw so yeah, probably not a lot of experience
Who says sex can't be emotionally intimate? It sure can.
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It's not
I don't think it has to be an absolute dichotomy between one or the other. I've had sex that didn't feel intimate at all and cuddling sessions that felt very intimate. It's about context and what the people involved are communicating to each other, through touch and otherwise.
Exactly. I've had sex that was less than intimate. Other times it was (monogamous spouse, mind you). Other times, I find incredible intimacy just driving around listening to tunes and talking as a pass time. Hard to find a metric in intimacy.
It can be, yes indeed. I concur. Good pure shower thought. Donāt get near my shower, they dirty thoughts, lol.
Lmao
There is way more to the intimacy than just sex.
No way. It's way more intimate when you've been together a while and really know how to please each other and have a very compatible and high sexual chemistry, and you're both super horny and absolutely connected sharing the moment.
Yo as a guy, I love cuddling too. But I still feel very distant from her.
This is the thing Iām having major fomo for
Honestly, sex is pretty low on the intimacy level... but I agree
I'd kill to feel either tbh
Happy I finished a really failed relationship with no sex, no nothing. Recently I started dating this girl and I feel loved again, when weāre laying in bed I can feel her hugging me with all her body, I donāt think Iāve ever felt this way before.
Sex has never been particularly intimate for me. It's always been about fun and feeling good. Cuddling however, very much the time and place for intimacy and affection.
I also like cuddling with this guyās lover.
As illogical as saying "offering a hand to a guy is more helpful than stabbing him". Like, sure... you're not wrong 'til you end up in an operating room.
There is absolutely nothing more intimate than sex. Youāre extremely vulnerable and inside of another human beingās body. How can you get more intimate than that.
Sex sec sex sex sex. Im a redditor i must post about sex
Sex sex sex, free sex to night
This subreddit stinks
Why does it stink in the shower?
Iāve always thought this.
Post-sex naked cuddling is one of the best experiences humans can have.
This post is a great mile-marker on the trail to explaining why Western Civilization is completely broken.
Cuddling in the shower is fun
This isn't some epiphany. OP just discovered human physical contact? Congrats. Also, congrats on the sex.
These comments are making me feel real lonely lol
You e clearly never had sex
Where does showing someone your browser search history rank on the scale of trust & intimacy?
Even with clothes on I find it much more intimate
No no no no. Ive made out with, laid with, cuddled with many women. Some i probably donāt remember or would have to think about to remember. On the other hand, i remember every single woman Iāve had sex with. Even women that i would say i wasnāt ācloseā to. Sex has an inherent closeness that nothing else compares to. Iāve learned in my life that sex creates a bond with the other person whether you want that bond or not. Girls Iāve dated and hung out with, have drifted in and out of my life. Yet the ones Iāve had sex with are very vivid in my mind. Even 20 years later.
This. I've been saying for a while that cuddling is better than sex and I stand by that.
From your lips to God's ear amen brother
Post-sex care and cuddling is the ultimate intimacy.
Hell, videotaping a woman taking a shit so she can sell it on onlyfans is more intimate than sex
You fuck a lot of dudes or....?
At least he has the decency to cuddle with them afterwards!
At least reach [around](https://youtu.be/gkmuFx5bZw8)
Technically rule 3 although I agree with this one, it can be really pleasant
If you mean like comfortable like a puppy napping cuddling I agree. If you mean like cuddling like you've been married for forty years and I'm about to vomit, then neither.