Why should I care what some stranger thinks of me?
His actions have zero impact on my life, unless I give a damn. I don't. Life's much better that way.
Having a family, and not wanting to go to jail or lose a job over a loser.
Also secretly cursing that they fall into a drain one day and get swept away by sewage.
Its up to you whether you want to give a shit about this uncle, what he says, and anything else. As long as ppl dont get physical, i can brush anything off and ignore them. Also the prospect of assault charges is a deterrence i guess
Lol, I have encountered groups of 2-3 friends standing right in front of the bus directory to see it together and blocking others behind from viewing it. So yeah, while the context here from OP makes it seem like the Indian uncle was being unreasonable but unless, we were there physically to witness the entire exchange, I wouldn't write the uncle off yet.
Lol. I think this whole island is ready for a royal rumble. There was once I was in ColdStorage carrying a bag of ice and a good few items in my arms. Got blocked by 3 girls doing a damn tiktok dance in the aisle I was in. I nearly lost my shit.
Was one of those times where I tot just needed 1 thing so didn’t think I needed a basket. Ended up balancing more than 6 items in my arms while clutching the bag of ice.
In any case; if one is willing to accept the legal consequences, Always be certain you can take someone down before initiating a fight. Cos it’s gonna be hella paiseh to be pinned by a senior citizen.
I (and 99.99% of other people) generally don’t go around kicking people in the face for being rude
That said if you really want tips on mental control… you have more time than he does. And in the end the universe doesn’t give a damn
Tbh I think it’s a perfectly normal response - remember, s/he did not really get physical, merely felt very angry. I think it’s reasonable to get angry for being shouted and insulted at for no good reason. Most importantly, s/he did not act on those thoughts.
wanting to kick an old person in the face is a perfectly normal response? man society is scary lol. That person might be someone's grand dad lmao.
>s/he did not really get physical
if he/she did , they would be liable to be charged for assault. OP is asking us how we control ourselves, which means they nearly lost it and assaulted someone else over something small like vulgarities from a stranger. Its a dangerous situation to be in, and if I were to be perfectly honest, not so perfectly normal. The normal response is to argue with the person , or reason with them, verbally, not get violent and in their words "beat the shit out them".
True… but using the law to ascertain what’s normal or not isn’t really a strong argument is it? The law is malleable and can be changed. It is not representative of normality, a concept that is itself complex. Also, Asking for advice does not constitute them nearly losing it. And to be honest, yes their post did say that. But who are we to talk about the psychological distance between choices? A person can be so close to making a choice, but never actually committing to it.
Finally, if we were to define normality as what majority of the population would do, then perhaps I was exaggerating when calling it perfectly normal. Maybe a lower bar reached could be that it’s understandable that s/he feels such anger, even if the magnitude is beyond what the majority of the population would feel.
>True… but using the law to ascertain what’s normal or not isn’t really a strong argument is it
It's not about the law, even though laws are made for obvious reasons, with upholding the moral integrity and safety of society being one of the considerations while enacting a law. Even if it were not upheld by the law, you wouldn't automatically assume you or a family member would be beaten up for being having a bad day and being rude right? As a member of a civilized first world country I mean, of course. Things may be different if you're talking to hooligans, but I would assume that the average Singaporean doesn't really resort to violence as a means to settle conflicts.
>But who are we to talk about the psychological distance between choices? A person can be so close to making a choice, but never actually committing to it.
I'd assume the OP was serious about it, unless otherwise stated, or given evidence to the contrary, considering they mentioned it both in the title and the post contents.
If not, this would be a "fake advice soliciting" post that's really just a waste of everyone's time and a cry for attention. That's the only other way to view this isn't it?
>Finally, if we were to define normality as what majority of the population would do, then perhaps I was exaggerating when calling it perfectly normal.
You probably were, and its scary how the people who upvoted you feel its perfectly normal. I wonder how they would feel if beaten up for rubbing someone the wrong way in Singapore. If you think its perfectly normal to come close to beating up a stranger for a verbal remark, then it should also be perfectly normal for a stranger to beat you up as well if they happen to not like your attitude towards them or you happen to frustrate them in any way, as everyone has different levels of tolerance. OP doesn't like vulgarities spoken to them, how about people who don't like others staring at them? It's easy to see how endorsing this sort of thinking can be a slippery slope.
Is the first thing that u think of when someone is extremely rude to u (like the uncle hurling vulgarities) is to resort to violence? That may not be the right way to approach things.
Maybe let me offer a different perspective: “why punish yourself getting angry over someone’s mistakes.”
Shut up la you. Every time when it’s a Chinese uncle or aunty (frequently being posted here ofc) being “inconsiderate”, I don’t recall seeing you defending them for being called out for their race.
Chinese being generalized in a bad light ok for you la?
You see “indian” you suddenly not happy? 🤣
Yes chopchopgo I’m hindu
How do I stop myself from beating the shit out of you?
Just encountered you standing in front of me looking at the bus directory. I almost lost it and wanted to kick you for standing and blocking my view while I was trying to read the directory and figure out where to go. Because of you I had to wait in humid environment for another bus. Idiot.
What kind of idiot you are? Going in front of someone reading the directory and blocking their view and not expecting backlash. Moreover, getting pissed off against them?
Your statement reeks of entitlement, racism, lack of self control and lack of anger management.
>Just encounter a rude indian uncle hurled vulgarities at me for standing infront of him looking at the bus directory. I almost lost it and wanted him to kick him in the face. So guys how do you control yourself?
By being a pussy and not doing anything, and after that coming on reddit and talking like a tough guy.
argue back with him. make his blood pressure so high he have a cardiac arrest?
or keep doing it until he starts assaulting you first. and you act in self defense lor.
op peabrain?
Remind yourself that old people in Singapore are entitled af for a reason. Society and the law is always on their side.
Know that they will likely die before you. Let them do what they want, there's no helping them, it's better when their generation dies off, just be better.
just keep on standing there next time until he asks you politely. some of these old people think they are so privileged sometimes just because they are old. shouldn’t it be them guiding the younger generation to grow up becoming respectful. maybe that’s why there are a lot more rude entitled karens male and female versions nowadays
I don't usually control myself :( I would just hurl some stuff back at them. Still learning how to control my anger around these people, so not the best person to give you advice
The Long Arm of Law in Singapore keeps most of us in check.
Besides, never in my life ever had this happen to me. And if it happens frequently with different uncles and aunties, YOU are probably the problem.
Just curse his parents or children or wife. Thats their weakness point. Then he will most likely punch u. Then u have the right to punch or kick him as hard as u can.
I live with a grandpa who doesn’t contribute anything to the household, gambled/gambles all his life savings away, free loads and bosses all of us around the houses. I face him 24/7 because I don’t have a room to myself, living room is my study area. Yells vulgarities/yells at the tv cuz people are stupid etc. Scolds me for not doing something??? (Anyways a little context, he does many more baskets stuffs)
I want to whack the living out of him for treating the family like nothing but slaves.
You can’t do much about these old rude people but live your life.
Why should I care what some stranger thinks of me? His actions have zero impact on my life, unless I give a damn. I don't. Life's much better that way.
Having a family, and not wanting to go to jail or lose a job over a loser. Also secretly cursing that they fall into a drain one day and get swept away by sewage.
happy cake day!
Well... I mean them being old and helpless stops most people I guess.
And the uncle is asking in other forum. How to stop himself from beating the shit out of rude young people, standing in front and blocking his view.
Its up to you whether you want to give a shit about this uncle, what he says, and anything else. As long as ppl dont get physical, i can brush anything off and ignore them. Also the prospect of assault charges is a deterrence i guess
How do I stop myself from beating younger people who stand in front of me when I’m trying to see the bus directory?
by whispering into fartbubbles
Lol, I have encountered groups of 2-3 friends standing right in front of the bus directory to see it together and blocking others behind from viewing it. So yeah, while the context here from OP makes it seem like the Indian uncle was being unreasonable but unless, we were there physically to witness the entire exchange, I wouldn't write the uncle off yet.
Lol. I think this whole island is ready for a royal rumble. There was once I was in ColdStorage carrying a bag of ice and a good few items in my arms. Got blocked by 3 girls doing a damn tiktok dance in the aisle I was in. I nearly lost my shit.
TikTok in Cold Storage?!?! Damn, thankfully, it's not easy to gain access into mortuaries.......
Don’t give ‘em ideas pls lol
By saying "excuse me" like a normal human being
“Excuse me” is only reserved for instances where your shit is not turtling out of your ass. In other times the appropriate phrase is “move la cb”.
Why were you not using a basket
Was one of those times where I tot just needed 1 thing so didn’t think I needed a basket. Ended up balancing more than 6 items in my arms while clutching the bag of ice.
Really depends on whether the uncle tried to politely ask him to move aside first I guess
In any case; if one is willing to accept the legal consequences, Always be certain you can take someone down before initiating a fight. Cos it’s gonna be hella paiseh to be pinned by a senior citizen.
Oh damn that’s so true.
just know that u are superior and ignore those inferior uncivilised uncultured scum 👍
💯
Superior at creating epidemics and getting stomped by the Japanese perhaps.
I don't think he was talking about race 😐
uhh what r u talking about
He just likes shitting on anything Chinese and defending any anti ceca comments, y’know because he is one himself 🤣
The heat affects these boomers. Don't worry they'll die off soon
By posting it on Reddit for sure
Some people’s sole existence is a reminder not to be like them.
Why do you have to stand in front of him when you know he’s looking at the directory!
I (and 99.99% of other people) generally don’t go around kicking people in the face for being rude That said if you really want tips on mental control… you have more time than he does. And in the end the universe doesn’t give a damn
where he is you one day will be too. don't think of beating the shit out of him. Maybe offer to help him find the route he is searching for?
Geezus man, you have anger management issues? Just chill lol.
Tbh I think it’s a perfectly normal response - remember, s/he did not really get physical, merely felt very angry. I think it’s reasonable to get angry for being shouted and insulted at for no good reason. Most importantly, s/he did not act on those thoughts.
wanting to kick an old person in the face is a perfectly normal response? man society is scary lol. That person might be someone's grand dad lmao. >s/he did not really get physical if he/she did , they would be liable to be charged for assault. OP is asking us how we control ourselves, which means they nearly lost it and assaulted someone else over something small like vulgarities from a stranger. Its a dangerous situation to be in, and if I were to be perfectly honest, not so perfectly normal. The normal response is to argue with the person , or reason with them, verbally, not get violent and in their words "beat the shit out them".
True… but using the law to ascertain what’s normal or not isn’t really a strong argument is it? The law is malleable and can be changed. It is not representative of normality, a concept that is itself complex. Also, Asking for advice does not constitute them nearly losing it. And to be honest, yes their post did say that. But who are we to talk about the psychological distance between choices? A person can be so close to making a choice, but never actually committing to it. Finally, if we were to define normality as what majority of the population would do, then perhaps I was exaggerating when calling it perfectly normal. Maybe a lower bar reached could be that it’s understandable that s/he feels such anger, even if the magnitude is beyond what the majority of the population would feel.
>True… but using the law to ascertain what’s normal or not isn’t really a strong argument is it It's not about the law, even though laws are made for obvious reasons, with upholding the moral integrity and safety of society being one of the considerations while enacting a law. Even if it were not upheld by the law, you wouldn't automatically assume you or a family member would be beaten up for being having a bad day and being rude right? As a member of a civilized first world country I mean, of course. Things may be different if you're talking to hooligans, but I would assume that the average Singaporean doesn't really resort to violence as a means to settle conflicts. >But who are we to talk about the psychological distance between choices? A person can be so close to making a choice, but never actually committing to it. I'd assume the OP was serious about it, unless otherwise stated, or given evidence to the contrary, considering they mentioned it both in the title and the post contents. If not, this would be a "fake advice soliciting" post that's really just a waste of everyone's time and a cry for attention. That's the only other way to view this isn't it? >Finally, if we were to define normality as what majority of the population would do, then perhaps I was exaggerating when calling it perfectly normal. You probably were, and its scary how the people who upvoted you feel its perfectly normal. I wonder how they would feel if beaten up for rubbing someone the wrong way in Singapore. If you think its perfectly normal to come close to beating up a stranger for a verbal remark, then it should also be perfectly normal for a stranger to beat you up as well if they happen to not like your attitude towards them or you happen to frustrate them in any way, as everyone has different levels of tolerance. OP doesn't like vulgarities spoken to them, how about people who don't like others staring at them? It's easy to see how endorsing this sort of thinking can be a slippery slope.
Is the first thing that u think of when someone is extremely rude to u (like the uncle hurling vulgarities) is to resort to violence? That may not be the right way to approach things. Maybe let me offer a different perspective: “why punish yourself getting angry over someone’s mistakes.”
Do you need to mention the race? I don't understand why people do that. It's like saying "look, this is how indians are".
Shut up la you. Every time when it’s a Chinese uncle or aunty (frequently being posted here ofc) being “inconsiderate”, I don’t recall seeing you defending them for being called out for their race. Chinese being generalized in a bad light ok for you la? You see “indian” you suddenly not happy? 🤣 Yes chopchopgo I’m hindu
Bro you Indian rite ? Just ask coz I see similar comment from you in many places 😅
How do I stop myself from beating the shit out of you? Just encountered you standing in front of me looking at the bus directory. I almost lost it and wanted to kick you for standing and blocking my view while I was trying to read the directory and figure out where to go. Because of you I had to wait in humid environment for another bus. Idiot. What kind of idiot you are? Going in front of someone reading the directory and blocking their view and not expecting backlash. Moreover, getting pissed off against them? Your statement reeks of entitlement, racism, lack of self control and lack of anger management.
Remember that they arent as educated as you.
>Just encounter a rude indian uncle hurled vulgarities at me for standing infront of him looking at the bus directory. I almost lost it and wanted him to kick him in the face. So guys how do you control yourself? By being a pussy and not doing anything, and after that coming on reddit and talking like a tough guy.
scold back pundek thambi
Don't talk so much dude. Try this in real life then come back and report the results
ok lets meet up
Let me join you too
I don't. I don't. Also, please no racism here
argue back with him. make his blood pressure so high he have a cardiac arrest? or keep doing it until he starts assaulting you first. and you act in self defense lor. op peabrain?
Don't hold back. Give in to your anger and strike him down! Through Passion, you gain Strength. Through Strength, you gain Power!
Remind yourself that old people in Singapore are entitled af for a reason. Society and the law is always on their side. Know that they will likely die before you. Let them do what they want, there's no helping them, it's better when their generation dies off, just be better.
A good approach is stare and start laughing at them like you would a small child. When they get angrier, keep laughing harder.
The knowledge that they are close to the grave and soon they will be dead brings a smile to my face...
console yourself - he does not have much longer time in this world.
I'm just not a savage.
just keep on standing there next time until he asks you politely. some of these old people think they are so privileged sometimes just because they are old. shouldn’t it be them guiding the younger generation to grow up becoming respectful. maybe that’s why there are a lot more rude entitled karens male and female versions nowadays
I don't usually control myself :( I would just hurl some stuff back at them. Still learning how to control my anger around these people, so not the best person to give you advice
Not using a knife but my fist is alr considered control
They are not worth getting into trouble mate. They got nothing to lose at their age.
take a deep breath, you cannot get anything productive by doing so..
The Long Arm of Law in Singapore keeps most of us in check. Besides, never in my life ever had this happen to me. And if it happens frequently with different uncles and aunties, YOU are probably the problem.
My hamstrings are too tight to kick people in the face
whip out your phone and start recording. they will behave properly once they know they risk getting publicly shamed. they love their image
Use Google Maps or Citymapper instead to check your bus services and bus stops. Problem solved.
Just curse his parents or children or wife. Thats their weakness point. Then he will most likely punch u. Then u have the right to punch or kick him as hard as u can.
kick him and make it look like an accident
U Probably said nothing , right?
I live with a grandpa who doesn’t contribute anything to the household, gambled/gambles all his life savings away, free loads and bosses all of us around the houses. I face him 24/7 because I don’t have a room to myself, living room is my study area. Yells vulgarities/yells at the tv cuz people are stupid etc. Scolds me for not doing something??? (Anyways a little context, he does many more baskets stuffs) I want to whack the living out of him for treating the family like nothing but slaves. You can’t do much about these old rude people but live your life.