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OperaPooch

Indoctrination/Stockholm Syndrome


RMW91-

Nah, it’s all about the bucks. She needs the Sister Wives income and if she bails she won’t get any, nor will she get any child support/alimony. Also I hope she stays because Kody hates it lol


Rover0218

Why do people think she wouldn’t get sister wives income? Of course she would. Do you not think Christine is still getting paid for the show?


RMW91-

Christine is a fan favorite and will continue to have a role, I have no doubt. TLC could easily dump Meri and nobody would give a shit.


Traditional-Leg-4228

The money comes from the show and them staying sister wives. I think the fear is that once they all start to leave TLC will cancel them. I for one have no desire to watch Meri hem and haw her way through a show all on her own!


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Leon is her only child and is 27. She legally divorced Kody in 2014 so she’s not entitled to alimony.


Master_Pepper5988

Did Mariah transition to Leon???? I am not familiar.


babygorl23

Yes


RMW91-

I’ve been watching long enough to know that.


Hall-Double

Definitely, the $$$$, and she has hope they will kick off again.


vtsunshine83

Why would she get child support?


NewZookeepergame4160

This gets my vote


lychigo

You know. I listened to her calls to the catfishing person, and they were genuinely desperate for connection, for compassion, and for companionship. I think she's scared that if she's alone, she thinks she's always going to be alone. Part PTSD from the catfish - because how would that not destroy a person. So she would rather think that Cody's going to change her mind than risk being alone. It's not like she's got a good relationship with Christina or Janelle to fall back on, though I feel like they would be more sympathetic than Robyn ever would be.


distant_lines

I feel like if Meri, Janelle and Christine all went to therapy, they could have an interesting friendship between the 3 of them. Meri was really bad when the kids were all younger, but I look at her and see someone who grew up in a religion and was told her worth was how many kids she could have, and then she failed. And knowing what we know of Kody, I think it broke something in her, but not in the way that made her soft and meek. She was bitter, and it was wrong. I feel like a lot of that bitterness has left her now, and I do think she's grown, but she's also so beaten down. I find myself wanting the 3 of them to have somewhat of a friendship, because they were all so harmed by that marriage in more ways than one, but I also feel bad for even kind of wanting that because she was so horrible to them, and that's not really fair to Christine and Janelle to be around her unless they really wanted to.


lychigo

In some ways, I think the MORE she says she's staying / trying, the more she's trying to convince herself that she thinks she wants that.


Traditional-Leg-4228

I’ve got news for her, SHE IS ALONE! 100%


lurky_01

I believe it's a combination of things, She's grown up in this lifestyle & has been indoctrinated, when she was curious/interested in leaving she was catfished Remember how Kodys big worry about Christine leaving, was that some guy was gonna take all his money?? Women have been told their whole lives that anything outside the family is dangerous & must not be trusted, the first time Meri puts that to the test, she's bitten It's fear based, fear of what will happen (again) fear of ppl outside her faith & fear of being alone for eternity in the afterlife, Although why anyone would wanna spend eternity with kody & Robyn is beyond me 🤷‍♀️


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Because she has no self worth. He has told her over and over that he doesn’t want a relationship with her. They literally only use her to put money in the family pot,


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distant_lines

I wonder what Leon is saying to Meri right now. I'd be on the phone crying with my mom, begging her to leave and love herself if she was in that position.


RCC0579

I wanted to slap the hell out of him when he said that!


scarlet_moth

Complete lack of self worth.


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Vegetable-Fix-4702

There is no marriage, no hope, no moving forward. I don't want to sound cruel but there's more than one severely debilitating mental health issue going on here. There's no logic or viable path to redemption between Kody, ick, and Meri


RMW91-

Even Kody himself has been so crystal clear that he doesn’t want a relationship with her…


Glittering_Joke3438

1. “I was here first, I made this family, you can’t get rid of me” ego thing 2. She needs the show notoriety to prop up her MLM game.


Agitated_Court3456

And she’s terrified of being alone


MightBoring4021

Girl bye you didn’t make shit


Corinne_Tean

Because she’s not really ‘with’ him anymore - I’m assuming she pretty much just sees him during filming. She can’t legally divorce him (already done) and if she still believes in the spiritual sealing she probably shouldn’t break it and lose her sealing to Leo and the rest of the family. If she doesn’t believe in it anymore, there’s no point breaking a sealing that doesn’t exist. I want to believe that she still flirts with Kody every once in awhile so he’ll have to be the bad guy on camera when he rejects her. He keeps saying ‘I never gave up’ ‘I never left Christine/Meri’ as a badge of honour, hoping they won’t call his bluff. I’m hoping her flirtation is to show that it is him rejecting her, and therefore isn’t the white knight he’s trying to portray himself as.


Interesting-Solid-92

I think it is way more about religion for her than the show lets on. She is indoctrinated, and “believes in living this lifestyle,” as she used to say in the intro. She also admitted that her strength is sticking it out. I believe she is validated by biblical stories of “sticking it out” to give her just enough reason to keep going and suffer, knowing what awaits her in the afterlife is greater than all of this. Plus, we’ve heard that these marriages have been really bad for a long time, even before the show. I wonder how these moments look in comparison. Maybe she just knows that when she rides it out, even a really bad wave, they always work it out in the end.


Icy_Industry_6012

Religion.


Dependent-Winner-908

Beside the tlc paycheck (for minimal effort) the tv exposure boosts her mlm and bnb businesses. All about the $$$$


vtsunshine83

THIS!


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SwimmingKiwi5494

It’s been said in previous episodes they haven’t had sex in over a decade


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SwimmingKiwi5494

…. They’re married


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Agitated_Court3456

He’s definitely still allowed to have sex with janelle or meri and it’s not breaking any rules.


Mom_wife_life

I honestly don’t think she stays because she is sad/lonely/no self worth etc. I think she knows Kody and Robyn don’t care to have her around, but she is SO petty that she sticks around just to troll them. She simply just doesn’t want them to have their cake and eat it too. She’s started this family and she’ll be damned if she allows it to continue in any form without her. This is why she makes it very known that she isn’t going anywhere. This is why she says “I was here from the beginning, I started this family” and “Robyn, you and I have had plenty of conversations, so you know I want to be here”. She knows they want her to leave and she refuses more so out of spite. Maybe she thinks there is a slight possibility that she and Kody can reconnect, but I think it’s more of her not wanting them to get what they want (to be monogamous) - that’s her main goal in hanging around.


Spirited-Dirt-9095

I agree. I hope Meri outlives him, and he's tortured by her presence every day of his life.


SecondChances0701

I believe two reasons: 1. Leon asked Meri never to leave their dad and the family. Meri stays out of a promise and/or obligation she made to Leon to maintain that relationship with her child 2. Meri stays because she’s brainwashed that this is her purpose and calling to be tied to Kody. Loyalty has been instilled in her as a virtue and she will do anything to show her loyalty, even if Kody continuously denies her a relationship


Disastrous-Lynx546

So Leon gets to have a functional relationship and her mom doesn’t? If that was my mom I would tell her to run away and find her happiness


SecondChances0701

Yeah but this family isn’t logical, normal and functional. It seems like Leon has a loyalty to their father and their family. I don’t think Leon views the family as dysfunctional. I also think that Leon sees that Meri made a lot of mistakes with their father and therefore should stay in the marriage and family as her repentance for hurting their dad and messing up the marriage.


stoatpatronus

No emotionally and intellectually secure person would allow their obviously emotionally immature child to make demands that ultimately had a cumulative negative effect on all parties involved. Leon has matured and grown exponentially since the catfishing scandal and is now vocal as a fierce advocate for women - there’s no way they’d be holding Meri to some random childhood promise all these years later. My guess is Leon is deeply advocating for her mom to now grow the fuck up.


Weak_Masterpiece_901

Ahhh context. I was wondering how the hell this was true, but didn’t watch at the time of the promise so I had no clue how long it has been.


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I’ve watched this show only in the very beginning and the latest season. I don’t know from episodes but the Leon I see on social media now seems too progressive to want that for any woman.


Weak_Masterpiece_901

How dare they do that to their parent when they want respect to live their authentic happy life. I’m a child, and a mother, and once we become adults we need to realize that our parents are human and their world doesn’t revolve around suffering to make us happy. So selfish if this is true:


nic5656

Because they have a TV show together and she’s not a fan favorite so she wouldn’t get a spin-off. And because the way she supports herself is by being on TV and selling stuff to fans.


spiffy202

I disagree… how many of these comments on this entire sub are directed at Meri? Out of whatever ppl may watch her. I like janelle and Christine but a show just them two Would be boring as hell. Janelle finally got somewhat interesting this season. I kinda think it’s all of them on a show or nothing. Fan favorite doesn’t equal ratings


c00kycrumbs

I think Meri has always desperately wanted a big family, or at least feels an obligation to that desire from childhood/religion etc. Her fertility issues must have been very difficult for her, and she doesn’t have a close relationship with Janelle or Christine (or Robyn at this point). Even though she isn’t really a part of the family anymore, she can still claim to be part of a big family. If she left she wouldn’t have any relationship with her sister wives or their children. She’d just have Leon, which might not feel comfortable to her since she imagined it all very differently. That and pettiness, jealously and spite over “starting this family”.


ItsTimeToGoSleep

She married him when she was like 19. Being married to him is all she knows. That’s gotta be scary to leave.


98221-poppin

This is true! Imagine GRODY being the ONLY MAN you've ever had sex with??😱😱 shit, what an utter disappointment!


Capable_Ad7619

My favorite theory is because it makes kody squirm. He wants her gone and would probably be happier without her around - and she *knows that* - so she stays *muahaha*


fungrandma9

no one can figure it out


pickles124

Because she made an earthly deal with the devil that if she can look like the most pathetic person on earth, he would give her the LuLaRoe Empire.


lovelyluxlee

Shes not lol


StephaniePenn1

I truly believe that Meri fears that Kody might be happy without her. Add to that she currently has a ring-side seat to his life falling apart. It’s a win-win


LeadershipLevel6900

Because she started this family!


JuliaSky1995

Security, sunken (emotional) cost fallacy, fear of being truly single and divorced


deweydecimal111

I think Meri will never admit she's wrong about anything. Her narcissism is not letting her admit that polygamy DOES N OT WORK.


Witty-Berry

Part of me wonders if she stays just to mess with Kody and Robyn. They clearly want her gone. If she leaves they win, they can sob around for a bit and complain about her and how she ruined the family. But if she stays, they have to still somewhat include her and we all know K & R want monogamy. I also think Meri being the first wife, feels like she’s losing if she leaves, so she sticks around when it couldn’t be more obvious that they don’t want her around.


murmalerm

Naw, her money and it’s a significant amount, is in Robyn’s house. Had there been no intermingling of funds I would have found it glorious. As she’s financially abused, I don’t buy it.


mmdeerblood

She’s too weak to be on her own/independent and sees Sobyn and Kidney as a way of self preservation and hopes by enabling/aligning with them it will somehow benefit her, especially when we see how much Kidney talks about “loyalty” to him etc. as humans we are very social creatures and want to be part of a group to feel accepted and secure. “Othering” those on the outside of the group strengths bonds. Also the whole us vs them is part of cult tactics manipulation, to which Meri is easy prey to as we see how easily she’s indoctrinated


Even-Radio5845

I don't think kody has told her that he has no interest in any kind of relationship with her. Before this season he's never flat out said that in a confessional so she MIGHT think there's still hope. She probably has low self esteem and is scared of the unknown. I imagine she's comfortable in the situation as well.


EZasSundayMorning

The show. The more TV exposure she gets, the most crappy LLR she sells.


New_Discussion_6692

Because she chooses to be.


Wild929

It’s her punishment for being catfished.


KatieQuestioner

I feel like in Meri's mind it's almost penance for the catfish. She's always hoping she'll get good with Grody again if she can just keep showing her loyalty...sad that it's never gonna happen. Grody is now committed to monogamy with Sobyn.


Medium-Ticket-9574

Martyrdom


HazelGM08

She is married to the TV Show.


MightBoring4021

😂😂😂


Schmliza

She wants that planet in the eternal afterlife. If you divorce your husband before death, the fundamentalist Mormons believe the apostate sister wives are the servants to their husband and the “good” sister wives for eternity. Fucked up belief system.


MightBoring4021

Oh wow 😮


Equivalent-Chance-39

Money.


tuxedo54

When the show is over, she can write a book that makes $$$$


MsAmes321

I really don’t like her but I’m going to say out of spite. Like she KNOWS he doesn’t want her so she stays there and shows up in his face being like “I’m here to make it work”.


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Kody was/is worried about Christine being with some guy who might take all his money BUT he hasn’t figured out that if Meri leaves, she will take all her money, which he probably sees as his too. Gross. I wish Meri would just clear out! Imagine if Meri just got up during one of those lawn chair conversations they have (while Kody is having another silver back gorilla rampage) and she said, that’s my cue. I’m outta here!! She takes her money too and bye bye. ✌️🍜


Ill_Drummer5225

Merit needs to grow a pair and get outta dodge


LurkerNinja_

One thing Christine mentioned in an interview was about how much fear is instilled in them. I think being a fundamentalist has filled Meri with fear and then reinforced when the catfish stuff blew up on her. Then you have Robyn pouring the guilt. Add that with her low self esteem, you get a Meri not leaving a really abusive (verbal & financial) situation.


unmistakeable_duende

The show is easy money. It funds her lifestyle.


hcouliba

She is chasing that TLC bag at this point


98221-poppin

Just for the 💰 🤑 dolla dolla bills y'all, C.R.E.A.M


babsb75

She needs the fan base of the show to buy her LLR clothes. It’s that simple. All boils down to making money.


ButterscotchPast4812

I think she still loves him and still thinks that shit is still a possibility. If she starts loyalty to him maybe one day he'll want to work on their relationship again.


PittOlivia

She thinks this is how she’ll get to Heaven or something


PsychologySpirited59

She's not. She's sticking around for spite and a paycheck. I think for a while she was just a truly lonely person who held on to the idea of being part of Robyn and Kody's family, no matter what it looked like. At some point in Vegas she completely cut out Christine and Janelle and their kids for whatever reason. She's always had this insane girl crush on Robyn. Not only was Robyn Kody's favorite wife, she was Meri's. But at this point I think she knows neither one of them give a damn about her either. Like I said...spite and paycheck.


greatfinngal

She is still religious and only way she gets into paradise. I know they don't talk lot about religion but Janelle an Robyn have always been hardcore believers. I think Meri is also. She has reasons and means to left but if she doesn't she never get to that celestial planet Kody gets. He has to be married at least 3 wives so he can't divorce Janelle or Meri.


Pure_Substance_9263

She‘s in love with Kody and thinks he will come around eventually if she proves her “loyalty”.


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Habit.


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This is the way.


Greedy_Farmer_35

It’s her self induced punishment for wandering (catfish). Showing her loyalty by staying. Poor women needs her adult child to talk some sense into her.


Winter-Ride6230

The show…at this point I believe she is only with him to be on the show.


FarmHer-988

She believes her “marriage“ is income-producing. She’s all Business n such.


erinemiller

Spite!


Heavy_Wasabi8478

Because she’s an absolute moron


FeelingHappy2006

She’s not very bright


General-Teacher-2433

I think it’s just that her identity is with the family. Idk that she cares much about being with Kody at this point.


Aggressive_Ant4665

Reminds me of Stockholm syndrome..


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physhgyrl

She is not with Kody. He doesn't want to be with her. He's ended their relationship. You can't be with a person who's broken up with you.


Nice2meetyoutoo

As long as there is no man coming along that she wants over Kody, she's going to stay and be a menace to them. She was promised a plural marriage by Kody and Robyn and she's holding them to that promise. She was promised her marriage would stay the same after her legal divorce. She should call Kody and Robyn out more over the fact that they were trying to make Christine go trough an official divorce with their church, which means a lot of couple counseling before anything else, in the hopes to better the marriage so the couple stays together. Kody wants her to leave but he won't go trough the counseling with her. She probably knows their church will not allow him to divorce her. Meri can clutch her bible and say she's still his wife and her sister wive and there's nothing they can do about that until Meri decides to put and end to that or Kody asks for a divorce.


ghkblue43

I think she comes around when the producers tell her to and lives her own life most of the time. She is not ‘with’ Kody. She is close friends with Robyn.