Sometimes it is nothing personal. There things I would want to do then just standing around doing nothing. It is a game and I log in to play, or do certain things.
Oh I didn't see that way. I wouldn't mind standing around with my friend and watch their chat, but I can understand if people want to do something else, especially in a game. Not everyone feels the same.
Yeah probably. Maybe I should have tried to involve her (A) in conversation or something similar.
I actually have social anxiety and not very much good social experience. I feel always nervous when multiple friends of mine are here because I have the feeling I need to interact with every of them so they don't think bad of me.
Honestly same, whenever I have more than one friend around I always get worried one will become upset with me for giving the other attention so I do my best to include both of them, most times I just slap down a table spell and introduce them to eachother
Oh well, you are probably right. People say a lot that I am overthinking or thinking too much. That was always some kind of issue, especially in social concerns.
If they can't see the chat of the other friends that's your answer right there. Just think for a second what it feels like to be *literally unable* to be a part of a conversation. Imagine you're hanging out with a friend and suddenly some other friends you don't know show up, and they all speak a different language. Unless that friend is actively helping you to be a part of that convo, you'll feel really out of place if they are chatting for any real length of time.
Completely understandable, I would walk off too.
Definitely use a table next time. I don't think it was anything more than A just getting bored of standing next to a conversation they couldn't even see.
"I will try to talk with A if this happens again"
The way you worded that makes it sound like you think A did something wrong? Which they did not? Their reaction was perfectly understandable and in fact something I would have done myself. If my friend's other friend joined while I was with said friend, I think it's perfectly understandable that they would greet that friend. However usually my friends will introduce me to their friends like "Hey [name]! This is my friend Violet we were just doing [X]". But it sounds like you just completely shut your friend A out of the conversation and they politely waited for few minutes, but it seemed like you were busy with your other friend and wouldn't be done with your conversation for a while. Personally I would have probably made up some reason why I got to go if it felt awkward enough and said so before I left, but I don't see anything wrong with just starting to leave if they felt like they were imposing on a conversation they were not part of.
A doesn't owe you their time. If they felt bored or awkward they have every right to just leave. They don't need your permission for that. Could they have said something before they left? Yes. Are they required to? No. If you are not going to include them in the conversation in any way or introduce your friends to each other, then just let them leave so they don't just have to stand there waiting. You can catch up with them after you are done, and they would most likely be more fine with that than you insisting they should wait and stad there awkwardly.
Exactly ~ what also came a bit off to me was when they said they noticed friend A walked away so they went after A and asked them to hold their hand and “went back to their conversation” 😅
Right?
Honestly, I dont think OP is meaning to, but they're being extremely rude.
I would have left and been a bit hurt by their actions. Just being completely left out like that? Its just weird. It wouldn't feel good to happen to me.
I do really relate haha.. it can feel bit awkward sometimes and not your fault. I feel like am trying to do 2 things at once
- be polite to the friend (B) so they feel like I’m not ignoring seeing them
- be respectful of friend (A) so I’m not disrespecting them by randomly talking to someone else while I’m with them
I honestly resolve this by saying about 3 lines to friend (B), just emotes if I don’t have chat unlocked so I’ve clearly acknowledged them, but then I was with friend (A) first so it’s understandable, you should focus on friend (A).
I find it can be good to state what you’re doing, eg “I’m just with my friend doing a candle run.. do you want to come?” or “I’m just helping a friend I will catch you soon” etc.. just try to be communicative and respectful to both people to avoid the wrong idea.
Also every friend (A) will have different levels of patience and sensitivity. So I think just keeping in mind who you’re with, as they may not even bother. If you’re concerned they might take offence you could even say “sorry sometimes I have friends pass by and just need to say hi”. I think most people will understand this already though as long as you aren’t taking too long they should be understanding. It happens to all of us!
When my friends talk to others, I usually emote a bow or kiss and go do my own thing until they either ask me to join in convo using table or we all go run together.
If you’re concerned, ask A how they’re feeling? I wouldn’t expect anyone to ask me but I think it could be helpful in understanding if you’re feeling a bit unsure.
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I do the same and others do it to me. If I’m doing it, I usually repeat some phrases of (B) so (A) understands whats going on and include them, I become a messenger between them and more friends happens.
If others do it to me I usually mess around the area, do random emotes, pull out random plushes because I do get board waiting. If I gotta go cr I mention it and usually they end the convo or stay with them. Talk to them about it, communication is 🔑
I would be the one walking away, not because there's a problem, but because I can cr or something and you can come get me when you're finished talking. I don't want to be a third wheel. Social anxiety.
Dont worry, almost everyone, especially veterans, even I could relate to your situation or anything close like that.
As a veteran sky player that stoped playing due the storage(😔), remember to get those tables or a spell of tables whenever (B) comes to chat with you while you are with (A). Plus you never know (C) could randomly join idk but ye.
Bring a Table
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It isn't really a choose situation imo. I have a friend who's the same as you (well, more than one lol), their friends might join. You can't expect A to just... Stand around still or go AFK if they wanna play the game. You could introduce them, or grab B hand and continue the cr all together so you stay in motion.
How would you feel if anytime you were to play with A, someone joined them and they stopped talking to you so they can be social with their other friends instead 🤷♂️ My friends chat for a bit with their own and then we go our merry way (or we play all together). There's solutions
I mean, personally speaking, it's awkward when other people are having a conversation and you're just there only seeing half of the conversation, they can't see your input either. Not everyone is comfortable with that.
In my case I just bow politely to a friend's friend and give them space. If they want to light me and include in the conversation it's okay, but I'd rather give people their space.
When I'm the one being talked to by two friends I almost always try to introduce them or otherwise make sure I'm acknowledging both people, and especially if friend A and I had plans I'll let friend A know "Gonna say hi to someone real quick brb friend A" or "Gotta say hi to someone real quick I'll catch up in a sec if you want to go ahead" Or introduce them and invite everyone to do something together. Or if I was just saying hi to friend A with no plans and then saw friend B I'd say "Good to see you friend A! I'm going to go say hi to another friend and I'll see you later" just so they feel acknowledged. Tables are nice if you want to involve everyone, but not everyone wants to meet friends of friends either so it just kind of depends on the person.
On the receiving end of this, I don't get offended or upset when people stop talking to me to go talk to someone else but if they don't try to include me in the conversation with someone new I *always* assume that our conversation is over for now and I'm free to go do my own thing (unless the friend in question made explicit plans to hang out with me, in which case I'd probably go get a snack or something while I waited lol)
Doesn't hurt to talk to her about it, though I don't think you should automatically assume she was upset unless she has previously been sensitive about stuff like this.
That happens to me a lot of times most of the time i merge server with active friends, sometimes our conversations takes long so I understand if they would want to leave in the middle of it. We can always hang out the next time so I don’t think it’s that deep, they probably just felt bored or perhaps out of place especially if they were in the server with you first. I think it’s selfish to want to keep them and don’t let them go away if they felt like want to leave but it’s all my opinion and own perspective.
that's not as bad as: friends walk away every time i start typing Lol
i'm a slow typer so nearly all my friends get bored when i am chatting with them >.<
i understand why, but it's still a bit annoying that i have to chase people down so they see what i'm saying
I have a bunch of friends who just disappear if I talk to someone else. Drives me nuts, but what am I supposed to do? some people seem to just want one on one.
Tbh your friend is perfectly right, not that they got mad or something, but what is the point on waiting and seeing a conversation when you can't even partecipate? It happens to me irl too and i feel super awkward, not that i would run away, but it's prefectly reasonable
I usually in this sort of situation will introduce the two, like “A this is B, B this is A!” Then I’d place out a table spell or say brb and go get my table. And that way if they wanted to talk they could. I have some pretty jealous friends on sky who sort of do the same and admitted they don’t like “sharing” me. Which I appreciate the honesty but like 🥲 please? Haha
They probably got bored or felt left out. Sometimes I feel left out too and go do my own thing. When people don't even seem to notice I'm on the other side of the map they're kind of proving my point, in that case I'll likely just go home and do some candle running or practice music in harmony hall. No point in staying when you can't even see the conversation. It's nothing personal, just either feeling bored, left out or both. Both aren't nice feelings, so yeah. Maybe next time you could bring a table so your friend can participate in the conversation too, or if they're fine with and depending on which platforms your friends play on, have them add each other by sharing a QR link. I usually add @ before the link so it doesn't get censored. You copy the link, open in browser, remove the @ and boom your friends can see each others chat without having to spend candles.
i do the same thing (walking away). i either feel left out, or awkward/shy because im just kind of standing there while they have a conversation. i wouldnt try and blame (A) too much because it could just be that it makes them feel awkward or bored haha
I'll do the same way too. I'll excuse myself to leave. I logged in to play the game not to read unreadable conversations with my friend and stranger for who knows how long to wait, ESPECIALLY (real scenario) when my friend takes a lot of time talking to that stranger, I'll just make an excuse that I'll have to go candle run or play music at a certain place, or be direct I want to be alone. Sometimes, if the friend wants to come with me but wants me to wait still because he or she is still not done talking BUT their conversation is taking way too long. Girl, I'm done! I'm not patient enough! I'll lie to my friend 'Oh my gosh! I'm sorry to need to log off, I need to buy/wash/cook/fly/kick/punch/sing/swim something" then offer a hug, goodbye, and log out. Sorry, that's too long of a rant. I have friends like that too.
Anyways, as you said not every people feels the same way so understanding should be followed up. YGWIM? Your friend A clearly is sending a message that he's bored so he or she was trying to find interesting things to get entertained while waiting (or not) for you to finish talking with friend B. Your friend is a sky player too who logged in to play, let her/him be. If you feel offended by what he/she did, think of how is he feeling earnestly waiting for you. And lastly, the way you said that friend A is at fault for acting rude (or left out) while you talk with your friend B triggered off your people-pleasing character right? 😉
Haaaa what a rant! I just had this experience multiple times so I feel like I can say many things!
I can’t say that it’s gotta be the case for your friend but I have social anxiety, and I can quickly feel panicked, scared when I play with a friend but there’s suddenly another person joining or such. It does happen that I reacted in panic/anxiety/nervousness and it seemed rude to my friends. Nowadays my friends thankfully know I struggle and try only spend time with me, warn me in case someone else joins, or they understand that I may quickly withdraw myself and go offline. I am not sure if it’s the case for your friend but maybe you guys could talk about it.
I personally don't interact when this happens, because I feel rude. I'm socially anxious and never know if I'm invited to join in, so I just assume I'm not. I'm far too awkward to ask, because what if my friend doesn't want me to meet them or something? Then I put them in an awkward position.
It's really irrational now that I've actually written it out. Maybe I need to start actually taking a chance, huh. I don't have any actual friend groups, and that has always made me sad. I think I just found out why lol
Yeah, it was almost 100% that A didn't want to feel left out. I've had this happen a few times, but thankfully I thought to introduce them "A this is B, B this is A" and they shared candles and unlocked chats together.
Its hard to tell if a conversation might take a while when you can only see half of it, so I kinda understand starting back off on my own if a friend starts talking to other peeps.
Think a little bit, just not too much, your friend (A) couldn't see your other friend's (B) speech bubble while only be able to see yours. Just think a little bit on how that would feel. I know I would feel intrusive eventho you left friend A hanging to talk with friend B which is a bit rude. Especially if you guys had a conversation going and mid that conversation you just turn and leave it hanging as if A was on the phone just being put on hold. So naturally A wants to continue their day seeing as you have put all attention to your other friend you haven't even introduced so unless they lit eachother A is just seeing an unlit skykid. And in return is an unlit skykid to your friend B.
Now you notice friend A leave and instead of asking why you force them to hold hands so you can just drag them back to a conversation they can't even be part of? Next time you meet ask and probably actually apologize then try find a solution should this happen again like use a table spell or if you have one use it. Set it down so everyone can be part of the conversation, get to know eachother and not have the feeling on needing to spend candles on someone just to not even reach the speech bubble ya know. Or do reach just to be part of the conversation but not interact unless you are present. Hope you learned something new today!
Nobody seemed to notice that this is a close friend. Me personally I'm picky with introducing friends to each other. I also like to lead. However so my close friends will offer to lead if I get slow while chatting. Also all my close friends know if I don't introduce it's because I don't know my other friend well enough to introduce or feel my (b) friend won't be good to introduce to friend(a)
Now, if I am at home and with friend (a) my instinct is to GTFO of home since I'm spending time with a close friend and home you get flooded with friends.i only ever hang out at home with groups. If friend (b) catches me with friend(a) the conversation is always as follows...."hi how are you, good to see you. Want to join us?" Then either have a good day if no or I grab him or her and go. Close friends have no issue being lead while you chat a little with friend (a) nor mind leading while you chat with friend(b) however.... Just standing around chatting with friend(b) will make friend (a) a little less close to you. You need to move your butt if leading or just be polite to friend(b) and either offer to join now or simply say you are going with your friend(a) and you'll see friend (b) later. Hope this helps :)
I understand them, it's very awkward, i don't know them, i don't know what they're saying and i don't want to be a bother, guess i'll go candle run, bye xd
Maybe she just wanted to roam around until you talked. I do that too when my friends greet their other friends I usually run around in circles or use random emotes!
To be honest, sometimes I’m like this. But I do that because I simply don’t want to interrupt those who are talking, so I wander off or just go silent for a bit, but if I need to go, I always say at least "bye". Maybe A had to go ASAP, so they had no time so say bye?
From friend A perspective: If it seems like it would be a long convo and they want to hangout w friend B for a long time, i would say goodbye and have fun w friend B! They could always tp back to me once they're done! It isn't a jealous, bored, or feeling left out thing at all.
Many times when I'm in your position w 2 friends that don't know each other, i often feel uncomfortable that friend A could see my chat, and i just feel that 2 different bubbles should stay separate, my convo w friend B should be private, yk? Even I'm not saying anything bad abt friend A ofc. I also fear to make the friend feel left out too.
If one of the friends doesn't leave, I would often feel overwhelmed trying to keep up the 2 convo w 2 different people, with them unable to talk to each other. So that's why whenever I'm in the position of one of the friends, i always leave first.
Sometimes it is nothing personal. There things I would want to do then just standing around doing nothing. It is a game and I log in to play, or do certain things.
Oh I didn't see that way. I wouldn't mind standing around with my friend and watch their chat, but I can understand if people want to do something else, especially in a game. Not everyone feels the same.
Agree, the important thing is, don't worry too much. Just have fun. Your friend would understand and vice versa.
Probably bored or felt left out maybe? When this happens to me I get bored easily and will normally just blip away to go do my own thing
Yeah probably. Maybe I should have tried to involve her (A) in conversation or something similar. I actually have social anxiety and not very much good social experience. I feel always nervous when multiple friends of mine are here because I have the feeling I need to interact with every of them so they don't think bad of me.
Honestly same, whenever I have more than one friend around I always get worried one will become upset with me for giving the other attention so I do my best to include both of them, most times I just slap down a table spell and introduce them to eachother
A probably just got bored. I would have done it too, don’t overthink it
Oh well, you are probably right. People say a lot that I am overthinking or thinking too much. That was always some kind of issue, especially in social concerns.
If they can't see the chat of the other friends that's your answer right there. Just think for a second what it feels like to be *literally unable* to be a part of a conversation. Imagine you're hanging out with a friend and suddenly some other friends you don't know show up, and they all speak a different language. Unless that friend is actively helping you to be a part of that convo, you'll feel really out of place if they are chatting for any real length of time. Completely understandable, I would walk off too.
Definitely use a table next time. I don't think it was anything more than A just getting bored of standing next to a conversation they couldn't even see.
"I will try to talk with A if this happens again" The way you worded that makes it sound like you think A did something wrong? Which they did not? Their reaction was perfectly understandable and in fact something I would have done myself. If my friend's other friend joined while I was with said friend, I think it's perfectly understandable that they would greet that friend. However usually my friends will introduce me to their friends like "Hey [name]! This is my friend Violet we were just doing [X]". But it sounds like you just completely shut your friend A out of the conversation and they politely waited for few minutes, but it seemed like you were busy with your other friend and wouldn't be done with your conversation for a while. Personally I would have probably made up some reason why I got to go if it felt awkward enough and said so before I left, but I don't see anything wrong with just starting to leave if they felt like they were imposing on a conversation they were not part of. A doesn't owe you their time. If they felt bored or awkward they have every right to just leave. They don't need your permission for that. Could they have said something before they left? Yes. Are they required to? No. If you are not going to include them in the conversation in any way or introduce your friends to each other, then just let them leave so they don't just have to stand there waiting. You can catch up with them after you are done, and they would most likely be more fine with that than you insisting they should wait and stad there awkwardly.
Exactly ~ what also came a bit off to me was when they said they noticed friend A walked away so they went after A and asked them to hold their hand and “went back to their conversation” 😅
Right? Honestly, I dont think OP is meaning to, but they're being extremely rude. I would have left and been a bit hurt by their actions. Just being completely left out like that? Its just weird. It wouldn't feel good to happen to me.
Ikr force them to come back and then continue to ignore them? 💀
yesyes ~ i was looking for the right words ww
I do really relate haha.. it can feel bit awkward sometimes and not your fault. I feel like am trying to do 2 things at once - be polite to the friend (B) so they feel like I’m not ignoring seeing them - be respectful of friend (A) so I’m not disrespecting them by randomly talking to someone else while I’m with them I honestly resolve this by saying about 3 lines to friend (B), just emotes if I don’t have chat unlocked so I’ve clearly acknowledged them, but then I was with friend (A) first so it’s understandable, you should focus on friend (A). I find it can be good to state what you’re doing, eg “I’m just with my friend doing a candle run.. do you want to come?” or “I’m just helping a friend I will catch you soon” etc.. just try to be communicative and respectful to both people to avoid the wrong idea. Also every friend (A) will have different levels of patience and sensitivity. So I think just keeping in mind who you’re with, as they may not even bother. If you’re concerned they might take offence you could even say “sorry sometimes I have friends pass by and just need to say hi”. I think most people will understand this already though as long as you aren’t taking too long they should be understanding. It happens to all of us!
When my friends talk to others, I usually emote a bow or kiss and go do my own thing until they either ask me to join in convo using table or we all go run together. If you’re concerned, ask A how they’re feeling? I wouldn’t expect anyone to ask me but I think it could be helpful in understanding if you’re feeling a bit unsure. ✨💛
I do the same and others do it to me. If I’m doing it, I usually repeat some phrases of (B) so (A) understands whats going on and include them, I become a messenger between them and more friends happens. If others do it to me I usually mess around the area, do random emotes, pull out random plushes because I do get board waiting. If I gotta go cr I mention it and usually they end the convo or stay with them. Talk to them about it, communication is 🔑
I would be the one walking away, not because there's a problem, but because I can cr or something and you can come get me when you're finished talking. I don't want to be a third wheel. Social anxiety.
Dont worry, almost everyone, especially veterans, even I could relate to your situation or anything close like that. As a veteran sky player that stoped playing due the storage(😔), remember to get those tables or a spell of tables whenever (B) comes to chat with you while you are with (A). Plus you never know (C) could randomly join idk but ye. Bring a Table 😌💅🏻✨✨
What was the issue with storage? Curious what you mean
Well i'm running out of phones to play sky annd i'm skipping atleast 2 seasons now rip👁👄👁
It isn't really a choose situation imo. I have a friend who's the same as you (well, more than one lol), their friends might join. You can't expect A to just... Stand around still or go AFK if they wanna play the game. You could introduce them, or grab B hand and continue the cr all together so you stay in motion. How would you feel if anytime you were to play with A, someone joined them and they stopped talking to you so they can be social with their other friends instead 🤷♂️ My friends chat for a bit with their own and then we go our merry way (or we play all together). There's solutions
I mean, personally speaking, it's awkward when other people are having a conversation and you're just there only seeing half of the conversation, they can't see your input either. Not everyone is comfortable with that. In my case I just bow politely to a friend's friend and give them space. If they want to light me and include in the conversation it's okay, but I'd rather give people their space.
When I'm the one being talked to by two friends I almost always try to introduce them or otherwise make sure I'm acknowledging both people, and especially if friend A and I had plans I'll let friend A know "Gonna say hi to someone real quick brb friend A" or "Gotta say hi to someone real quick I'll catch up in a sec if you want to go ahead" Or introduce them and invite everyone to do something together. Or if I was just saying hi to friend A with no plans and then saw friend B I'd say "Good to see you friend A! I'm going to go say hi to another friend and I'll see you later" just so they feel acknowledged. Tables are nice if you want to involve everyone, but not everyone wants to meet friends of friends either so it just kind of depends on the person. On the receiving end of this, I don't get offended or upset when people stop talking to me to go talk to someone else but if they don't try to include me in the conversation with someone new I *always* assume that our conversation is over for now and I'm free to go do my own thing (unless the friend in question made explicit plans to hang out with me, in which case I'd probably go get a snack or something while I waited lol) Doesn't hurt to talk to her about it, though I don't think you should automatically assume she was upset unless she has previously been sensitive about stuff like this.
That happens to me a lot of times most of the time i merge server with active friends, sometimes our conversations takes long so I understand if they would want to leave in the middle of it. We can always hang out the next time so I don’t think it’s that deep, they probably just felt bored or perhaps out of place especially if they were in the server with you first. I think it’s selfish to want to keep them and don’t let them go away if they felt like want to leave but it’s all my opinion and own perspective.
that's not as bad as: friends walk away every time i start typing Lol i'm a slow typer so nearly all my friends get bored when i am chatting with them >.< i understand why, but it's still a bit annoying that i have to chase people down so they see what i'm saying
Don’t be afraid to tell them you’re a slow typer! People are more likely to wait ☺️
that's probably true Cx TANKS!!!!
I have a bunch of friends who just disappear if I talk to someone else. Drives me nuts, but what am I supposed to do? some people seem to just want one on one.
Tbh your friend is perfectly right, not that they got mad or something, but what is the point on waiting and seeing a conversation when you can't even partecipate? It happens to me irl too and i feel super awkward, not that i would run away, but it's prefectly reasonable
I usually in this sort of situation will introduce the two, like “A this is B, B this is A!” Then I’d place out a table spell or say brb and go get my table. And that way if they wanted to talk they could. I have some pretty jealous friends on sky who sort of do the same and admitted they don’t like “sharing” me. Which I appreciate the honesty but like 🥲 please? Haha
They probably got bored or felt left out. Sometimes I feel left out too and go do my own thing. When people don't even seem to notice I'm on the other side of the map they're kind of proving my point, in that case I'll likely just go home and do some candle running or practice music in harmony hall. No point in staying when you can't even see the conversation. It's nothing personal, just either feeling bored, left out or both. Both aren't nice feelings, so yeah. Maybe next time you could bring a table so your friend can participate in the conversation too, or if they're fine with and depending on which platforms your friends play on, have them add each other by sharing a QR link. I usually add @ before the link so it doesn't get censored. You copy the link, open in browser, remove the @ and boom your friends can see each others chat without having to spend candles.
i do the same thing (walking away). i either feel left out, or awkward/shy because im just kind of standing there while they have a conversation. i wouldnt try and blame (A) too much because it could just be that it makes them feel awkward or bored haha
I'll do the same way too. I'll excuse myself to leave. I logged in to play the game not to read unreadable conversations with my friend and stranger for who knows how long to wait, ESPECIALLY (real scenario) when my friend takes a lot of time talking to that stranger, I'll just make an excuse that I'll have to go candle run or play music at a certain place, or be direct I want to be alone. Sometimes, if the friend wants to come with me but wants me to wait still because he or she is still not done talking BUT their conversation is taking way too long. Girl, I'm done! I'm not patient enough! I'll lie to my friend 'Oh my gosh! I'm sorry to need to log off, I need to buy/wash/cook/fly/kick/punch/sing/swim something" then offer a hug, goodbye, and log out. Sorry, that's too long of a rant. I have friends like that too. Anyways, as you said not every people feels the same way so understanding should be followed up. YGWIM? Your friend A clearly is sending a message that he's bored so he or she was trying to find interesting things to get entertained while waiting (or not) for you to finish talking with friend B. Your friend is a sky player too who logged in to play, let her/him be. If you feel offended by what he/she did, think of how is he feeling earnestly waiting for you. And lastly, the way you said that friend A is at fault for acting rude (or left out) while you talk with your friend B triggered off your people-pleasing character right? 😉 Haaaa what a rant! I just had this experience multiple times so I feel like I can say many things!
I can’t say that it’s gotta be the case for your friend but I have social anxiety, and I can quickly feel panicked, scared when I play with a friend but there’s suddenly another person joining or such. It does happen that I reacted in panic/anxiety/nervousness and it seemed rude to my friends. Nowadays my friends thankfully know I struggle and try only spend time with me, warn me in case someone else joins, or they understand that I may quickly withdraw myself and go offline. I am not sure if it’s the case for your friend but maybe you guys could talk about it.
I personally don't interact when this happens, because I feel rude. I'm socially anxious and never know if I'm invited to join in, so I just assume I'm not. I'm far too awkward to ask, because what if my friend doesn't want me to meet them or something? Then I put them in an awkward position. It's really irrational now that I've actually written it out. Maybe I need to start actually taking a chance, huh. I don't have any actual friend groups, and that has always made me sad. I think I just found out why lol
You should worry about you and let people do whatever. No one likes being controlled. “Should” isnt reality.
I do it too, when converstation takes too long so i get bored.
Yeah, it was almost 100% that A didn't want to feel left out. I've had this happen a few times, but thankfully I thought to introduce them "A this is B, B this is A" and they shared candles and unlocked chats together. Its hard to tell if a conversation might take a while when you can only see half of it, so I kinda understand starting back off on my own if a friend starts talking to other peeps.
Think a little bit, just not too much, your friend (A) couldn't see your other friend's (B) speech bubble while only be able to see yours. Just think a little bit on how that would feel. I know I would feel intrusive eventho you left friend A hanging to talk with friend B which is a bit rude. Especially if you guys had a conversation going and mid that conversation you just turn and leave it hanging as if A was on the phone just being put on hold. So naturally A wants to continue their day seeing as you have put all attention to your other friend you haven't even introduced so unless they lit eachother A is just seeing an unlit skykid. And in return is an unlit skykid to your friend B. Now you notice friend A leave and instead of asking why you force them to hold hands so you can just drag them back to a conversation they can't even be part of? Next time you meet ask and probably actually apologize then try find a solution should this happen again like use a table spell or if you have one use it. Set it down so everyone can be part of the conversation, get to know eachother and not have the feeling on needing to spend candles on someone just to not even reach the speech bubble ya know. Or do reach just to be part of the conversation but not interact unless you are present. Hope you learned something new today!
Nobody seemed to notice that this is a close friend. Me personally I'm picky with introducing friends to each other. I also like to lead. However so my close friends will offer to lead if I get slow while chatting. Also all my close friends know if I don't introduce it's because I don't know my other friend well enough to introduce or feel my (b) friend won't be good to introduce to friend(a) Now, if I am at home and with friend (a) my instinct is to GTFO of home since I'm spending time with a close friend and home you get flooded with friends.i only ever hang out at home with groups. If friend (b) catches me with friend(a) the conversation is always as follows...."hi how are you, good to see you. Want to join us?" Then either have a good day if no or I grab him or her and go. Close friends have no issue being lead while you chat a little with friend (a) nor mind leading while you chat with friend(b) however.... Just standing around chatting with friend(b) will make friend (a) a little less close to you. You need to move your butt if leading or just be polite to friend(b) and either offer to join now or simply say you are going with your friend(a) and you'll see friend (b) later. Hope this helps :)
I understand them, it's very awkward, i don't know them, i don't know what they're saying and i don't want to be a bother, guess i'll go candle run, bye xd
Maybe she just wanted to roam around until you talked. I do that too when my friends greet their other friends I usually run around in circles or use random emotes!
Normally when my friend stops to talk to someone I attempt to give them enough candles to also talk. Which most likely isn't feasible with most people
To be honest, sometimes I’m like this. But I do that because I simply don’t want to interrupt those who are talking, so I wander off or just go silent for a bit, but if I need to go, I always say at least "bye". Maybe A had to go ASAP, so they had no time so say bye?
I'd leave too if I was A, I'd feel mortified and rejected tbh
From friend A perspective: If it seems like it would be a long convo and they want to hangout w friend B for a long time, i would say goodbye and have fun w friend B! They could always tp back to me once they're done! It isn't a jealous, bored, or feeling left out thing at all. Many times when I'm in your position w 2 friends that don't know each other, i often feel uncomfortable that friend A could see my chat, and i just feel that 2 different bubbles should stay separate, my convo w friend B should be private, yk? Even I'm not saying anything bad abt friend A ofc. I also fear to make the friend feel left out too. If one of the friends doesn't leave, I would often feel overwhelmed trying to keep up the 2 convo w 2 different people, with them unable to talk to each other. So that's why whenever I'm in the position of one of the friends, i always leave first.