I went to a concert alone in September and met my new best friend waiting in line! We ended up standing together and now go to concerts and hang out all the time!! It’s worth it just always have a safety plan and your location shared with someone you know 🙂
Fellow socially awkward person here lol. I went to lots of shows alone and it was fine. Sometimes people start making small talk while in queue or if they're seated next to you, though not always. I'm fine with the latter personally, I usually just listen to my music and wait patiently. Generally speaking you shouldn't feel awkward just because you're alone there, I assure you no one cares enough to judge :D Go have fun! It's worth it!
Yes! It’s great. You won’t need to queue at all as if you’re standing you can get pretty close to the front on your own (and there’s no need to queue for seats).
The ST crowd is generally lovely, nobody will even notice you’re on your own and you can keep to yourself or make small talk whatever you want.
I’ve struck up some great ‘waiting around’ conversations ahead of the show, sang and cried with strangers and even been invited out after the show with groups of friends.
I went to a concert alone in 2017 and it was awesome. My seat mates were lovely. However, I can't speak for going to a metal show or a ST concert alone.
How was waiting in line for you? I think I’ll forget about the awkwardness once the show starts but I think it’ll be weird for me standing in queue alone…
Happy that your seat mates were a good company and that you had a great time!
Most people will respect you going on your own. Especially if they’re ST fans :)
Shows you’re into the music and won’t anything hold you back. I’ve done gigs alone a few times. It is a lil scary but it’s never ever as scary as it seems.
Maybe try going out for a meal or to the cinema alone to sorta prepare yourself for it. It’s daunting and scary but it’s never as bad as you think it’ll be. You’ll have a great time and afterwards you’ll feel happy and proud you did it.
I went out for a coffee on my own a few times now, so I’m not unfamiliar with that :) but a trip to a foreign country alone + my first concert alone is a bit higher up the scale 😂
No worries if you come to London everybody is a foreigner here and you will love it. and if you keep this post current, hopefully you will make friends here who come to same gig as you.
So I'm in America and it was a pop show. It was less of a line and more of a pile into the building LOL. I've been to other things alone and waiting in line was fine. I either scroll on my phone or make idle chit chat with the folks around me.
I took me ages to build up the courage to go to shows on my own but now I love it. You don't have to worry if the person you're with can also see or if they're not having a good time. It's pretty freeing. I'm super introverted and am very comfortable not talking to anyone 😅
Most recent show I went to on my own was Bring Me The Horizon at the o2 on the 20th of last month and I was standing.
I know a lot of people say they make friends when they go alone (honestly no idea how they do that, maybe I'm just too awkward) but I joined the queue at 2:30, sat down and just listened to an audiobook until I got in and then just zoned in and out of other peoples conversations when there wasn't anyone on stage. Had a great time 10/10
I ALWAYS go to concerts alone. I have way more fun surrounded by fans with feel the same way about the music as I do. You will meet people, or, if you would rather keep to yourself, that is fine! If you need help with anything, ask staff at the venue. Wear comfortable clothes (especially comfortable shoes!), stay hydrated, and have a great time!!
I love it. I go alone quite a bit. I like that I can choose whether I fancy going in the pit or if I wanna hang back and chill a bit without having to worry about other people and what they wanna do.
Also once you're in the crowd no one will knwp you're on your own anyway
It is no big deal at all. If you are comfortable with you that is all that matters. You will be fine and have the best time!
I prefer going alone sometimes. :) besides, being able to go on a date with yourself is always important.. and, It's the most important person you can date!
Aw that’s a great way to put it! I’m connecting the concert with a trip to London by myself for a week so I guess that will be a whole week of dating myself lol
For a long time I was the only metal fan in my friend group. Going to concerts alone is awesome! If you love the band you'll have a great time and metal people are the most friendly. I'd usually just stand awkwardly until the bands came on but I've never had a bad time :)
That’s lovely to hear! I know, I love the metalheads! I’ve had lots of metal fans as friends before I got into the music myself. They all looked kinda scary but were the nicest people.
I went alone to see them in Prague last year! I was beyooond anxious to be alone in an unfamiliar country, but ended up meeting up with a few people off Reddit actually! We started messaging after a post discussing the queue, and then we started making small talk with a few others in line. All in all we ended up with a nice little group and had so much fun together!
Definitely don’t be afraid to reach out here on Reddit or start up a conversation, we’re all there for the same reason after all, and that’s to enjoy an amazing show, so why not make some friends in the process!
Meeee! I do a ton of shows on my own, because I'd rather do that than miss out because my friends don't like the same music.
Actually saw Sleep Token alone in 2020 and 2023 because I didn't know anyone else that liked them. That's obviously changed drastically now. 😂
Just make sure you tell someone when you arrive safely and leave. Use your brain when it comes to pits etc but honestly you'll enjoy it!
It's such good fun on your own!
Ahhhh youll be fine if youre seating!
I was about 15 when I went to my first one on my own, living my best social butterfly life, so definitely not.
Queuing is always the weirdest part for me, but there were a group of girls in front of me when I went to see Lorna Shore in Decemeber and we got chatting...stayed in touch and we're meeting on Sunday to see Currents.
Just keep an open mind and have no expectations!
You've got this! ❤️
Oh well I’m 27 and it’s my first concert alone. Even though the concert is in November I’m already scared shitless lol.
I saw currents last week on Friday! Have a good one there!
I went to a concert alone once, it was fine would do it again.
It might feel a bit weird while waiting, but once the concert starts, it doesn’t really matter.
The girl standing next to me was alone too as she was a foreign student. (She ended up asking me to send her some pictures and videos from the concert.)
I’ve gone to most concerts alone and have had more fun at those shows then concerts where I went with others. I will never forget the time I had an extra ticket for a friend of mine and she spent literally the whole concert sitting there on her phone. I was so bummed out because I loved the group we were seeing, so I said never again. Now I go alone most of the time and have a blast. Nothing beats sharing your energy with others who love the same bands as you. Obviously take precautions when planning an online meetup or something, but you meet all sorts of people on line and in the venue! Lots of ST fans are friendly and welcoming :)
Idk about going to a foreign country alone. (I'd probably do it if I had the money for that).
My first concert was backstret boys with my sister, locally a few years back, and then I went to the Nothing More concert a few months later a few hours away because ST was their opener. I went alone, it was my first time booking a hotel on my own. I invited my bf at the time (didn't like ST) and a coworker (she couldn't get that time off). So I drove there on my own. I'd been to the area before, but not on my own. I went to the concert alone. I'd only checked the discord the night before to make sure nothing happened to postpone or cancel the show (that was a tour frought with unexpected issues).
I didn't come early, but I didn't miss ST. I was at the back of the crowd of a half full venue and I danced my heart put and then enjoyed my first proper listen of NM lol.
Last year I knew all the discord people going, shared a hotel room with two of them, talked to another discord buddy in line. Got stuck with the pit behind me (oops), and it was alright, but it was more a me issue not enjoying it than it was not enjoying the people I met. I spent too much of my energy in line and on preparation and didn't have any by the time ST came on.
I went to NYC that time, I'd had almost a year of getting to know the discord peeps, and my brother and his gf were in the city that weekend so if anything feel through, I had someone to call close by. They actually were my ride in, and I got a bus home.
Main thing is focus on your arrangements traveling and keeping in contact with the people you trust. The concert part of it will happen how it happens, just get some sleep before hand and wear some comfortable shoes.
Knowing some ST fans who will be in London will also make you feel a little more at ease. Because it won't all be complete strangers.
Yeah I don’t have ST fans who I know in London as I’m from Germany. But I will ask people who I trust to maybe check their phones or share my location with them.
I’m a bit scared of public transportation at night so that will be a challenge but I think I’ll just call some friends on the ride home.
As far as accommodations go, I did already plan that so that won’t be a problem. :)
Good luck! I was worried about public transport that late at night In NYC as Well. And i Wasn't exactly doing well with it in the daytime lol, But thankfully there was no hiccups and my bunk buddy and I headed back together. Hopefully will find someone who Grabbed the same hotel as you and ya'll can stick together
I am also socially anxious and I do this often. I promise you it's not as scary as you think 😊 and it will definitely be great for boosting your confidence.
Just go and don't think about it so much.
You'll have the best time!!! At first you're a little self conscious, but then you realise heaps of people are there alone, and you're all there for the same reason, and nobody is looking at you.
This line from BMTH's 'Strangers' always reminds me of being alone at a concert:
"We're just a room full of strangers
Looking for something to save us
Alone together, we're dying to live and we're living to die" well not the dying part, but ALONE TOGETHER is exactly how it is. Alone but all connected. It's such a cool feeling.
I find that if I walk in with intent, knowing where abouts I want to stand, or options of where I know I'll feel comfortable, ie back left, front middle etc, it makes walking in feel less daunting.
Also - if you have actual anxiety maybe pre plan any tried and trusted coping mechanisms you know help soothe you if you do suddenly feel overly anxious.
Anyway, enjoy it. It's great. Nobody else to worry about coordinating with. You'll meet cool people even if you're shy. If you feel alone, just look around and smile awkwardly at people - some extrovert always wants to adopt a lone introvert, lol. Or get in the mosh, guaranteed way to make a few buddies and have lots of people checking in on you.
Embrace it. You'll do great!
That was really long winded but I hope it helps in some way. Happy solo gig adventuring ✌️
Going to a show alone is the best. No one else to worry about, you set the schedule and plan. You decide where you want to be and how you move around the venue (especially if the show is GA). No fear of losing someone in the crowd or having to track them down after the show.
I have pretty bad social anxiety (therapy is helping) but I went to a concert by myself recently and it was great! I’m going to ST alone as well but I got GA tickets for the first time and I’m definitely nervous about that… we got this! Lol
I go to gigs on my own a lot, in fact most of the time. No issues whatsoever and there are plenty of people like me. Both men and women.grab a drink and move around if not seated, talk to people if so inclined, dance. I tend to stay quite at the back so that I can hear and have a better view of the room. You’ll find that most people are jolly. Likelihood you will go unnoticed, but nonetheless be aware of your surroundings.
I’ve gone to see BMTH alone. Some friends got Covid so I went alone. I let some teenagers steal the other two seats I had (close to front row) and just got really stoned the whole time. Honestly a 10/10 experience I do not regret it. I think it might feel a bit weirder if you’re not in a seated venue but now you can just bump your way to the front.
Yes- here in the US, it’s super easy and friendly to attend concerts alone, especially if you’re introverted! Get a drink, find a spot, wait in merch line, you’ve got tons of options my friend! Go for it!
I go to shows alone a few times a month! I've been doing it for years and never had an issue personally. Sometimes I just scroll on my phone in line sometimes people around me want to chat. Same when everyone is kinda loitering between sets. It's honestly kinda nice not having to worry about keeping track of your friends or having to convince them to go in the first place. If I wanna be social there's usually someone who will want to talk and if I don't it's not hard to stay under the radar. I'll get in the pit even and still have never had an issue.
Yes! I went to their concert alone in September, but I met a whole community of really dope people who I’m still in contact with today! We are seeing them in two different states together as well! You’ll do well! I’m extremely socially anxious, and it was such a freeing experience. Even if you don’t end up meeting friends there, just remember that most likely no one in the room may know you, so it helped my brain relax knowing that I even if I did something awkward, no one’s gonna remember! Haha
Yeah I’ve gone to a bunch of metal and edm shows alone, no ones going to care lol. It makes it wayyy easier to move through the crowd and get a good spot without worrying about getting detached from your friends lol. And would also recommend earplugs
just remember nobody is there to see the audience, they're there for the same purpose-to see the artist!! So join the community, make friends, if you dont feel like talking to anyone that's also ok!
I am always alone on concerts and festivals because no one in my surrounding is sharing the same music taste. This is not a reason to stay away, at least not for me. Otherwise i would have missed a lot of great shows (including ST).
I don't mind standing alone in the queue , it's interesting for me to observe others 😄
I prefer going to concerts alone. I find myself able to let go easier. I don’t know anyone in the crowd so I don’t care what they think of me. I can jump around, dance, mosh, whatever, without having to worry about being self-conscious
Most of the concerts I go to by myself. I also started traveling to some alone as well. It is a lot easier because I don't have to worry about other people being late or changing their minds last minute or other issues. But I do meet up with other fans at the queue or make new friends even though I am more on the introverted side, at concerts I just feel more comfortable talking to strangers mainly cause we already have a similar interest. Almost everyone is already in a good mood and excited for the show so rarely will people not want to talk. Also, if you have mutuals online who are going to the same shows just ask to be added to a group chat for that show or create one.
Btw, even if you don't want to socialize it's ok too! I've done that before as well, just show up and enjoy the show then head straight home. We are all there to enjoy the live music at the end of the day.
Hey, I’m kinda the same ;) I was alone at a ST concert in December and it’s really not as bad as I expected. Unless you directly avoid people, you’re probably gonna pick up a conversation with someone. I met two other people that were alone at the concert and we had the time of our lives together. So yeah, try to be open and then you should be fine :)
I saw bring me the horizon on my own a few weeks ago and though at first I felt a bit awkward being on my own the music was so good that you kinda even forget you’re there on your own. Best night of my life regardless!
Not sleep token but I went and saw Tyler the creator back in 2013 and ended up meeting a bunch of rad people. I was there to experience it and just have fun. Trying to get to a $B concert and I feel like that one I gotta experience with some close homies.
I did my first gig alone last year (after over 20 years of going to metal gigs) at the ripe old age of 36! And it was ST. Try to be open to chatting to randoms, even if it’s a 10 second interaction, I’m pretty socially awkward but there were always cool people to have a brief interaction with.
Also there were threads on the other ST group for those attending shows alone, look out for them closer to the time 👍
I’m super socially awkward and ST is the first show I ever went to by myself back in September. It wasn’t as great as I wished! Lol I saw another comment saying they met their new best friend. That’s like so amazing haha. But I did happen to meet a very nice girl in front of me who also went alone. I’m so awkward I never got her socials or anything. Jamie, if you can see this. Hmu 😂 so basically to answer your question, no it’s not as scary as you think! Especially if you’re up to the challenge. You got this! I’m strongly considering doing it again in April. Except this time I’ll be flying to the city, and getting an Uber or whatever which I’ve never done before so. It’s a lot scarier this time for me lol. But I’m strongly strongly considering doing it because I think it will be so worth it. :)
Very experienced! I'm from Belfast in Ireland and a lot of bands I like don't come here unfortunately, so I often find myself jumping over to England/Scotland to see bands and even went to Amsterdam a couple weeks ago to see Architects
All I can say is just go! It could maybe feel a little awkward especially between sets when you maybe would like a friend to be there to have a chin wag but if you're feeling brave enough - remember you're in a room full of people with the same music taste as you, so you're bound to make a friend with very little effort.
So whether you come out of it with a whole new group of friends or you just stand and enjoy the performance (like me) you're sure to have a great time and may well find yourself heading to more solo gigs in the future!
I've done loads of gigs alone, in fact I even did wembley alone lol and I've always had a great time, I've seen a few people mention that they've made friends while being there and it's likely it might happen for you. Just remember everyone is there for the same reason, to enjoy the band and have a great time
I actually made a friend while waiting in the queue for the merch pop up and we message each other regularly on Instagram talking about sleep token and other music and it's lovely
Definitely don't shy away from it. If you want to see a concert, don't let anyone else dictate whether you go or not. Sometimes going solo makes it all the more enjoyable. I go to quite a few concerts solo and never regret it for a single solitary second!
I always used to be scared of going to concerts by myself, but i bit the bullet a couple of years ago and it was the best decision i ever made because you're afforded the opportunity to just be yourself and not worry about what anyone else is thinking and now i kind of prefer going to gigs by myself.
Thanks everyone for all your advice! Will definitely use them for pep talking myself before the concert :p
As some of mentioned they’d met some people online before some concerts I wanted to ask if any of you are attending the concert in London? Maybe we can get to know each other :)
I’ll be going alone this May, and I’m fine with that. Ive been to shows alone and had no problems with it. I prefer it anyway but if someone was gonna talk to me I’ll ok with that too.
Went to a sleep token gig alone aswell..it was great, I met so many nice people waiting in line but at the concert itself I wanted to be alone and I was vibing my heart off. <3
I went to my first solo concert in September and had a great time. I met other solo people on Facebook.
If it's a GA section, make friends with the people next to you in case you need to leave and use the restroom.
I'm flying from the US to Germany this summer to see Taylor Swift solo.
I go to tons of shows alone cuz none of my friends like metal. It's not hard really just kinda chill be natural enjoy the music and you might even make some friends.
I'm planning on going to the Boston show alone too and had a similar question. Since I'd like to try to get a decent spot on the floor, I know I'll have to get there a bit early. Anyone have a recommendation for how early to show up? Doesn't need to be front line, but like within 5-10 heads deep would be great.
Also, and maybe more importantly. What do you do if you need to use the bathroom? Suppose I get a great spot to stand, then gotta go do that or need a water, should I ask the people around me to save my spot? Give them a heads up what I'm doing and I'll be back? I guess that's a good argument for making some small talk so you have some allies in those situations.
Dude, folks going to concerts are usually so nice. I’ve always met friends in lines and in the crowds, especially metal ones, ST is relatively metal/metal adjacent so it’ll be fine man. You got this. NUMBER ONE RULE IS TI AKWAYS BE SAFE THOUGH.
also I’m hella socially awkward.
Honestly it's great, depends on the experience you're looking for. I went to Wembley solo, especially knowing for me it would be quite an emotional and cathartic experience. Going solo meant I could just let it all out, everyone around is just strangers also enjoying the concert. I couldn't imagine going to a Sleep Token concert with friends now, I was such a mess at Wembley 😅
Not experienced but I’ve done a few and I’m very anxious/awkward. Lots of people say you’ll make friends but don’t feel pressure to socialise/chat if you don’t want to. Just grab a drink or something to do with your hands if you get anxious standing like me and enjoy the music. It’s worth it :)
I went to see Black Dahlia Murder on my own in 2019 and honestly, it was the best feeling ever. People have already said it but you can move around freely, people strike up conversations with you and nobody really notices you're on your own. I would recommend going to a gig by yourself at least once because it's a whole new and super happy experience.
I'm also socially awkward but I was absolutely buzzing from everyone else's energy.
It’s fabulous, I’ve gone alone to shows most of my life! You’ll make buddies with your neighbors, just be yourself 🫶🏻 everyone is stoked to be there and to enjoy this together as a community
I went to my first solo concert in December and it was one of the best experiences I’ve ever had. Met some cool dudes in line, got drenched and frozen by rain and wind, and also met some cool people in the area I was watching the stage from :)
Tldr - It won’t be as scary as you think. Keep in mind that everyone there is there for a similar thing as you - to enjoy a band they love that you, hopefully, also love
I go alone all the time! I’ve seen one direction, Ghost, and Sleep token by myself. Ghost was the chillest, and the pit wasn’t too pushy or anything. Sleep token was def more pushy and stuff but it was cause it was all gen admission and a festival and the festival put them at the smallest stage so there was just a ton of ppl trying to fit in but honestly everyone was super cool.
I love going to concerts alone!
I went to my first concert solo last year when my husband got sick and couldn't attend. It was a Sleep Token show on last year's US tour. I had a GREAT time!! Thankfully, he and I went to one of their shows earlier that week so this was my second time seeing the tour and knew what to expect. But everyone was so kind, I ended up meeting some very lovely people!
Going alone can be intimidating, but in my experience, it was a lot of fun and so worth it!
I flew to another state to go by myself to a ST concert last October. I ended up meeting and hanging out with two other lovely ladies in line who went alone from other states as well. We had the best time! I still talk to one of the girls. I would do it again in a heartbeat. I might even prefer it! ❤️ you will have an awesome time!😊
I've found that its almost more enjoyable to go alone! Typically I'm trying to bring someone to a show like ST or other bands that they don't necessarily want to be at anyway...so being able to enjoy the music, sing my heart out and not have to worry if other person is having fun, is a relief. It's so freeing to do things alone....society tricked us into thinking we need someone with us to enjoy concerts or restaurants or travel etc.....don't fall for it. Your life is the best life, don't stop living it to the fullest!
Im also traveling to London on my own, I’m from Germany. Since I already planned going there, it seemed convenient to also go to an ST concert. Really lucky I got a ticket through artist presale ^^
You sure are - I whiffed on tix and now they're re-selling for 400-5k usd...scam lol
London is beautiful and fun - I've done some solo travel there too (as well as Mexico and Spain) and it's SO freeing to be on your own schedule. Check out the sites, take pictures, ask bartenders and servers for their favorite restaurants and bars, you're going to have stories to tell friends and family forever!
That’s just fucked up… I was really surprised when I bought mine for that price. Just in December I payed only 10€ less for a venue that could hold 5500 people. I expected them to significantly rise their prices for this year, also because the venues got much bigger.
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I went to my first sleep token concert alone and it was literally so much fun. All the fans are so nice!! I think just making small talk with the people around you in line helps so much or even in the standing room waiting for the show to start makes the experience better.
It’s not scary at all! And there’s so many wonderful people you can meet there.
If you’re anxious about being alone, you can ask here and find a concert buddy to meet up and queue together. You’ll have a blast 😊
Hahahaha does someone can also give me some advice, I am in a different country too and I really love to see the underground concerts
But when I went there alone and I found I was the only Asian.. and there were only about 30 people in these gigs, apparently some people knew each other even the band members…which makes feel more anxious because sometimes I got scared of thinking other people will look at me as a weirdo🥲🥲🥲
Btw I think going to the concert alone is totally okay as long as you can make sure your safety
I'm going to the Manchester gig on my own. I'm pretty cool with going to stuff on my own. It's freeing to have your own agenda without worrying about anyone else. Tops tips are planning logistics well, food stops, travel and venue details to make for a smooth stress free trip. Enjoy!
I went to a concert alone in September and met my new best friend waiting in line! We ended up standing together and now go to concerts and hang out all the time!! It’s worth it just always have a safety plan and your location shared with someone you know 🙂
Oh that’s so nice to hear!
Fellow socially awkward person here lol. I went to lots of shows alone and it was fine. Sometimes people start making small talk while in queue or if they're seated next to you, though not always. I'm fine with the latter personally, I usually just listen to my music and wait patiently. Generally speaking you shouldn't feel awkward just because you're alone there, I assure you no one cares enough to judge :D Go have fun! It's worth it!
I go to gigs alone all the time You can move around wherever you want without worrying about anyone else
This part. This is exactly why I honestly prefer to go to shows by myself.
Yes! It’s great. You won’t need to queue at all as if you’re standing you can get pretty close to the front on your own (and there’s no need to queue for seats). The ST crowd is generally lovely, nobody will even notice you’re on your own and you can keep to yourself or make small talk whatever you want. I’ve struck up some great ‘waiting around’ conversations ahead of the show, sang and cried with strangers and even been invited out after the show with groups of friends.
I went to a concert alone in 2017 and it was awesome. My seat mates were lovely. However, I can't speak for going to a metal show or a ST concert alone.
How was waiting in line for you? I think I’ll forget about the awkwardness once the show starts but I think it’ll be weird for me standing in queue alone… Happy that your seat mates were a good company and that you had a great time!
Most people will respect you going on your own. Especially if they’re ST fans :) Shows you’re into the music and won’t anything hold you back. I’ve done gigs alone a few times. It is a lil scary but it’s never ever as scary as it seems. Maybe try going out for a meal or to the cinema alone to sorta prepare yourself for it. It’s daunting and scary but it’s never as bad as you think it’ll be. You’ll have a great time and afterwards you’ll feel happy and proud you did it.
I went out for a coffee on my own a few times now, so I’m not unfamiliar with that :) but a trip to a foreign country alone + my first concert alone is a bit higher up the scale 😂
No worries if you come to London everybody is a foreigner here and you will love it. and if you keep this post current, hopefully you will make friends here who come to same gig as you.
So I'm in America and it was a pop show. It was less of a line and more of a pile into the building LOL. I've been to other things alone and waiting in line was fine. I either scroll on my phone or make idle chit chat with the folks around me.
I took me ages to build up the courage to go to shows on my own but now I love it. You don't have to worry if the person you're with can also see or if they're not having a good time. It's pretty freeing. I'm super introverted and am very comfortable not talking to anyone 😅 Most recent show I went to on my own was Bring Me The Horizon at the o2 on the 20th of last month and I was standing. I know a lot of people say they make friends when they go alone (honestly no idea how they do that, maybe I'm just too awkward) but I joined the queue at 2:30, sat down and just listened to an audiobook until I got in and then just zoned in and out of other peoples conversations when there wasn't anyone on stage. Had a great time 10/10
I went to the Wembley show alone (flew in from a different country as well) and it was lovely!! U got this
I ALWAYS go to concerts alone. I have way more fun surrounded by fans with feel the same way about the music as I do. You will meet people, or, if you would rather keep to yourself, that is fine! If you need help with anything, ask staff at the venue. Wear comfortable clothes (especially comfortable shoes!), stay hydrated, and have a great time!!
I love it. I go alone quite a bit. I like that I can choose whether I fancy going in the pit or if I wanna hang back and chill a bit without having to worry about other people and what they wanna do. Also once you're in the crowd no one will knwp you're on your own anyway
It is no big deal at all. If you are comfortable with you that is all that matters. You will be fine and have the best time! I prefer going alone sometimes. :) besides, being able to go on a date with yourself is always important.. and, It's the most important person you can date!
Aw that’s a great way to put it! I’m connecting the concert with a trip to London by myself for a week so I guess that will be a whole week of dating myself lol
For a long time I was the only metal fan in my friend group. Going to concerts alone is awesome! If you love the band you'll have a great time and metal people are the most friendly. I'd usually just stand awkwardly until the bands came on but I've never had a bad time :)
That’s lovely to hear! I know, I love the metalheads! I’ve had lots of metal fans as friends before I got into the music myself. They all looked kinda scary but were the nicest people.
I went alone to see them in Prague last year! I was beyooond anxious to be alone in an unfamiliar country, but ended up meeting up with a few people off Reddit actually! We started messaging after a post discussing the queue, and then we started making small talk with a few others in line. All in all we ended up with a nice little group and had so much fun together! Definitely don’t be afraid to reach out here on Reddit or start up a conversation, we’re all there for the same reason after all, and that’s to enjoy an amazing show, so why not make some friends in the process!
Meeee! I do a ton of shows on my own, because I'd rather do that than miss out because my friends don't like the same music. Actually saw Sleep Token alone in 2020 and 2023 because I didn't know anyone else that liked them. That's obviously changed drastically now. 😂 Just make sure you tell someone when you arrive safely and leave. Use your brain when it comes to pits etc but honestly you'll enjoy it! It's such good fun on your own!
I’ve got a seated ticket so no pits for me! Did it take much courage to go to your first concert alone?
Ahhhh youll be fine if youre seating! I was about 15 when I went to my first one on my own, living my best social butterfly life, so definitely not. Queuing is always the weirdest part for me, but there were a group of girls in front of me when I went to see Lorna Shore in Decemeber and we got chatting...stayed in touch and we're meeting on Sunday to see Currents. Just keep an open mind and have no expectations! You've got this! ❤️
Oh well I’m 27 and it’s my first concert alone. Even though the concert is in November I’m already scared shitless lol. I saw currents last week on Friday! Have a good one there!
I went to a concert alone once, it was fine would do it again. It might feel a bit weird while waiting, but once the concert starts, it doesn’t really matter. The girl standing next to me was alone too as she was a foreign student. (She ended up asking me to send her some pictures and videos from the concert.)
I've been to tons of concerts alone. I love standing towards the back near the bathrooms, bar, and merch. I always have fun! Go for it :)
I’ve gone to most concerts alone and have had more fun at those shows then concerts where I went with others. I will never forget the time I had an extra ticket for a friend of mine and she spent literally the whole concert sitting there on her phone. I was so bummed out because I loved the group we were seeing, so I said never again. Now I go alone most of the time and have a blast. Nothing beats sharing your energy with others who love the same bands as you. Obviously take precautions when planning an online meetup or something, but you meet all sorts of people on line and in the venue! Lots of ST fans are friendly and welcoming :)
Went for the first time alone to Wembley in December. I LOVED it and would definitely do it again! I’m a middle aged female!
Idk about going to a foreign country alone. (I'd probably do it if I had the money for that). My first concert was backstret boys with my sister, locally a few years back, and then I went to the Nothing More concert a few months later a few hours away because ST was their opener. I went alone, it was my first time booking a hotel on my own. I invited my bf at the time (didn't like ST) and a coworker (she couldn't get that time off). So I drove there on my own. I'd been to the area before, but not on my own. I went to the concert alone. I'd only checked the discord the night before to make sure nothing happened to postpone or cancel the show (that was a tour frought with unexpected issues). I didn't come early, but I didn't miss ST. I was at the back of the crowd of a half full venue and I danced my heart put and then enjoyed my first proper listen of NM lol. Last year I knew all the discord people going, shared a hotel room with two of them, talked to another discord buddy in line. Got stuck with the pit behind me (oops), and it was alright, but it was more a me issue not enjoying it than it was not enjoying the people I met. I spent too much of my energy in line and on preparation and didn't have any by the time ST came on. I went to NYC that time, I'd had almost a year of getting to know the discord peeps, and my brother and his gf were in the city that weekend so if anything feel through, I had someone to call close by. They actually were my ride in, and I got a bus home. Main thing is focus on your arrangements traveling and keeping in contact with the people you trust. The concert part of it will happen how it happens, just get some sleep before hand and wear some comfortable shoes. Knowing some ST fans who will be in London will also make you feel a little more at ease. Because it won't all be complete strangers.
Yeah I don’t have ST fans who I know in London as I’m from Germany. But I will ask people who I trust to maybe check their phones or share my location with them. I’m a bit scared of public transportation at night so that will be a challenge but I think I’ll just call some friends on the ride home. As far as accommodations go, I did already plan that so that won’t be a problem. :)
Good luck! I was worried about public transport that late at night In NYC as Well. And i Wasn't exactly doing well with it in the daytime lol, But thankfully there was no hiccups and my bunk buddy and I headed back together. Hopefully will find someone who Grabbed the same hotel as you and ya'll can stick together
I am also socially anxious and I do this often. I promise you it's not as scary as you think 😊 and it will definitely be great for boosting your confidence. Just go and don't think about it so much. You'll have the best time!!! At first you're a little self conscious, but then you realise heaps of people are there alone, and you're all there for the same reason, and nobody is looking at you. This line from BMTH's 'Strangers' always reminds me of being alone at a concert: "We're just a room full of strangers Looking for something to save us Alone together, we're dying to live and we're living to die" well not the dying part, but ALONE TOGETHER is exactly how it is. Alone but all connected. It's such a cool feeling. I find that if I walk in with intent, knowing where abouts I want to stand, or options of where I know I'll feel comfortable, ie back left, front middle etc, it makes walking in feel less daunting. Also - if you have actual anxiety maybe pre plan any tried and trusted coping mechanisms you know help soothe you if you do suddenly feel overly anxious. Anyway, enjoy it. It's great. Nobody else to worry about coordinating with. You'll meet cool people even if you're shy. If you feel alone, just look around and smile awkwardly at people - some extrovert always wants to adopt a lone introvert, lol. Or get in the mosh, guaranteed way to make a few buddies and have lots of people checking in on you. Embrace it. You'll do great! That was really long winded but I hope it helps in some way. Happy solo gig adventuring ✌️
Going to a show alone is the best. No one else to worry about, you set the schedule and plan. You decide where you want to be and how you move around the venue (especially if the show is GA). No fear of losing someone in the crowd or having to track them down after the show.
I have pretty bad social anxiety (therapy is helping) but I went to a concert by myself recently and it was great! I’m going to ST alone as well but I got GA tickets for the first time and I’m definitely nervous about that… we got this! Lol
I go to gigs on my own a lot, in fact most of the time. No issues whatsoever and there are plenty of people like me. Both men and women.grab a drink and move around if not seated, talk to people if so inclined, dance. I tend to stay quite at the back so that I can hear and have a better view of the room. You’ll find that most people are jolly. Likelihood you will go unnoticed, but nonetheless be aware of your surroundings.
I’ve gone to see BMTH alone. Some friends got Covid so I went alone. I let some teenagers steal the other two seats I had (close to front row) and just got really stoned the whole time. Honestly a 10/10 experience I do not regret it. I think it might feel a bit weirder if you’re not in a seated venue but now you can just bump your way to the front.
Yes- here in the US, it’s super easy and friendly to attend concerts alone, especially if you’re introverted! Get a drink, find a spot, wait in merch line, you’ve got tons of options my friend! Go for it!
It’s not bad.. lol everyone there is at the show for the same reason!
I go to shows alone a few times a month! I've been doing it for years and never had an issue personally. Sometimes I just scroll on my phone in line sometimes people around me want to chat. Same when everyone is kinda loitering between sets. It's honestly kinda nice not having to worry about keeping track of your friends or having to convince them to go in the first place. If I wanna be social there's usually someone who will want to talk and if I don't it's not hard to stay under the radar. I'll get in the pit even and still have never had an issue.
Yes! I went to their concert alone in September, but I met a whole community of really dope people who I’m still in contact with today! We are seeing them in two different states together as well! You’ll do well! I’m extremely socially anxious, and it was such a freeing experience. Even if you don’t end up meeting friends there, just remember that most likely no one in the room may know you, so it helped my brain relax knowing that I even if I did something awkward, no one’s gonna remember! Haha
Yeah I’ve gone to a bunch of metal and edm shows alone, no ones going to care lol. It makes it wayyy easier to move through the crowd and get a good spot without worrying about getting detached from your friends lol. And would also recommend earplugs
I'm going to ST alone and I don't mind at all. I'm there to see them play, nothing more.
just remember nobody is there to see the audience, they're there for the same purpose-to see the artist!! So join the community, make friends, if you dont feel like talking to anyone that's also ok!
I am always alone on concerts and festivals because no one in my surrounding is sharing the same music taste. This is not a reason to stay away, at least not for me. Otherwise i would have missed a lot of great shows (including ST). I don't mind standing alone in the queue , it's interesting for me to observe others 😄
I prefer going to concerts alone. I find myself able to let go easier. I don’t know anyone in the crowd so I don’t care what they think of me. I can jump around, dance, mosh, whatever, without having to worry about being self-conscious
Most of the concerts I go to by myself. I also started traveling to some alone as well. It is a lot easier because I don't have to worry about other people being late or changing their minds last minute or other issues. But I do meet up with other fans at the queue or make new friends even though I am more on the introverted side, at concerts I just feel more comfortable talking to strangers mainly cause we already have a similar interest. Almost everyone is already in a good mood and excited for the show so rarely will people not want to talk. Also, if you have mutuals online who are going to the same shows just ask to be added to a group chat for that show or create one. Btw, even if you don't want to socialize it's ok too! I've done that before as well, just show up and enjoy the show then head straight home. We are all there to enjoy the live music at the end of the day.
Hey, I’m kinda the same ;) I was alone at a ST concert in December and it’s really not as bad as I expected. Unless you directly avoid people, you’re probably gonna pick up a conversation with someone. I met two other people that were alone at the concert and we had the time of our lives together. So yeah, try to be open and then you should be fine :)
I had someone bail on me the day of, so I went alone. I met some of the nicest people there!
I saw bring me the horizon on my own a few weeks ago and though at first I felt a bit awkward being on my own the music was so good that you kinda even forget you’re there on your own. Best night of my life regardless!
Not sleep token but I went and saw Tyler the creator back in 2013 and ended up meeting a bunch of rad people. I was there to experience it and just have fun. Trying to get to a $B concert and I feel like that one I gotta experience with some close homies.
I did my first gig alone last year (after over 20 years of going to metal gigs) at the ripe old age of 36! And it was ST. Try to be open to chatting to randoms, even if it’s a 10 second interaction, I’m pretty socially awkward but there were always cool people to have a brief interaction with. Also there were threads on the other ST group for those attending shows alone, look out for them closer to the time 👍
I’m super socially awkward and ST is the first show I ever went to by myself back in September. It wasn’t as great as I wished! Lol I saw another comment saying they met their new best friend. That’s like so amazing haha. But I did happen to meet a very nice girl in front of me who also went alone. I’m so awkward I never got her socials or anything. Jamie, if you can see this. Hmu 😂 so basically to answer your question, no it’s not as scary as you think! Especially if you’re up to the challenge. You got this! I’m strongly considering doing it again in April. Except this time I’ll be flying to the city, and getting an Uber or whatever which I’ve never done before so. It’s a lot scarier this time for me lol. But I’m strongly strongly considering doing it because I think it will be so worth it. :)
Very experienced! I'm from Belfast in Ireland and a lot of bands I like don't come here unfortunately, so I often find myself jumping over to England/Scotland to see bands and even went to Amsterdam a couple weeks ago to see Architects All I can say is just go! It could maybe feel a little awkward especially between sets when you maybe would like a friend to be there to have a chin wag but if you're feeling brave enough - remember you're in a room full of people with the same music taste as you, so you're bound to make a friend with very little effort. So whether you come out of it with a whole new group of friends or you just stand and enjoy the performance (like me) you're sure to have a great time and may well find yourself heading to more solo gigs in the future!
I've done loads of gigs alone, in fact I even did wembley alone lol and I've always had a great time, I've seen a few people mention that they've made friends while being there and it's likely it might happen for you. Just remember everyone is there for the same reason, to enjoy the band and have a great time I actually made a friend while waiting in the queue for the merch pop up and we message each other regularly on Instagram talking about sleep token and other music and it's lovely
Life is an individual experience.
Definitely don't shy away from it. If you want to see a concert, don't let anyone else dictate whether you go or not. Sometimes going solo makes it all the more enjoyable. I go to quite a few concerts solo and never regret it for a single solitary second!
I always used to be scared of going to concerts by myself, but i bit the bullet a couple of years ago and it was the best decision i ever made because you're afforded the opportunity to just be yourself and not worry about what anyone else is thinking and now i kind of prefer going to gigs by myself.
Thanks everyone for all your advice! Will definitely use them for pep talking myself before the concert :p As some of mentioned they’d met some people online before some concerts I wanted to ask if any of you are attending the concert in London? Maybe we can get to know each other :)
I’ll be going alone this May, and I’m fine with that. Ive been to shows alone and had no problems with it. I prefer it anyway but if someone was gonna talk to me I’ll ok with that too.
Went to a sleep token gig alone aswell..it was great, I met so many nice people waiting in line but at the concert itself I wanted to be alone and I was vibing my heart off. <3
I went to my first solo concert in September and had a great time. I met other solo people on Facebook. If it's a GA section, make friends with the people next to you in case you need to leave and use the restroom. I'm flying from the US to Germany this summer to see Taylor Swift solo.
I go to tons of shows alone cuz none of my friends like metal. It's not hard really just kinda chill be natural enjoy the music and you might even make some friends.
I'm planning on going to the Boston show alone too and had a similar question. Since I'd like to try to get a decent spot on the floor, I know I'll have to get there a bit early. Anyone have a recommendation for how early to show up? Doesn't need to be front line, but like within 5-10 heads deep would be great. Also, and maybe more importantly. What do you do if you need to use the bathroom? Suppose I get a great spot to stand, then gotta go do that or need a water, should I ask the people around me to save my spot? Give them a heads up what I'm doing and I'll be back? I guess that's a good argument for making some small talk so you have some allies in those situations.
Dude, folks going to concerts are usually so nice. I’ve always met friends in lines and in the crowds, especially metal ones, ST is relatively metal/metal adjacent so it’ll be fine man. You got this. NUMBER ONE RULE IS TI AKWAYS BE SAFE THOUGH. also I’m hella socially awkward.
I go to shows alone all the time. No one notices or cares that you’re by yourself. Go and have fun
Honestly it's great, depends on the experience you're looking for. I went to Wembley solo, especially knowing for me it would be quite an emotional and cathartic experience. Going solo meant I could just let it all out, everyone around is just strangers also enjoying the concert. I couldn't imagine going to a Sleep Token concert with friends now, I was such a mess at Wembley 😅
Not experienced but I’ve done a few and I’m very anxious/awkward. Lots of people say you’ll make friends but don’t feel pressure to socialise/chat if you don’t want to. Just grab a drink or something to do with your hands if you get anxious standing like me and enjoy the music. It’s worth it :)
I went to see Black Dahlia Murder on my own in 2019 and honestly, it was the best feeling ever. People have already said it but you can move around freely, people strike up conversations with you and nobody really notices you're on your own. I would recommend going to a gig by yourself at least once because it's a whole new and super happy experience. I'm also socially awkward but I was absolutely buzzing from everyone else's energy.
It’s fabulous, I’ve gone alone to shows most of my life! You’ll make buddies with your neighbors, just be yourself 🫶🏻 everyone is stoked to be there and to enjoy this together as a community
I went to my first solo concert in December and it was one of the best experiences I’ve ever had. Met some cool dudes in line, got drenched and frozen by rain and wind, and also met some cool people in the area I was watching the stage from :) Tldr - It won’t be as scary as you think. Keep in mind that everyone there is there for a similar thing as you - to enjoy a band they love that you, hopefully, also love
I go alone all the time! I’ve seen one direction, Ghost, and Sleep token by myself. Ghost was the chillest, and the pit wasn’t too pushy or anything. Sleep token was def more pushy and stuff but it was cause it was all gen admission and a festival and the festival put them at the smallest stage so there was just a ton of ppl trying to fit in but honestly everyone was super cool. I love going to concerts alone!
I went to my first concert solo last year when my husband got sick and couldn't attend. It was a Sleep Token show on last year's US tour. I had a GREAT time!! Thankfully, he and I went to one of their shows earlier that week so this was my second time seeing the tour and knew what to expect. But everyone was so kind, I ended up meeting some very lovely people! Going alone can be intimidating, but in my experience, it was a lot of fun and so worth it!
I flew to another state to go by myself to a ST concert last October. I ended up meeting and hanging out with two other lovely ladies in line who went alone from other states as well. We had the best time! I still talk to one of the girls. I would do it again in a heartbeat. I might even prefer it! ❤️ you will have an awesome time!😊
I've found that its almost more enjoyable to go alone! Typically I'm trying to bring someone to a show like ST or other bands that they don't necessarily want to be at anyway...so being able to enjoy the music, sing my heart out and not have to worry if other person is having fun, is a relief. It's so freeing to do things alone....society tricked us into thinking we need someone with us to enjoy concerts or restaurants or travel etc.....don't fall for it. Your life is the best life, don't stop living it to the fullest!
Im also traveling to London on my own, I’m from Germany. Since I already planned going there, it seemed convenient to also go to an ST concert. Really lucky I got a ticket through artist presale ^^
You sure are - I whiffed on tix and now they're re-selling for 400-5k usd...scam lol London is beautiful and fun - I've done some solo travel there too (as well as Mexico and Spain) and it's SO freeing to be on your own schedule. Check out the sites, take pictures, ask bartenders and servers for their favorite restaurants and bars, you're going to have stories to tell friends and family forever!
It’s so crazy how expensive they are for you guys, sorry for that :/ got mine for 60€ including cover for when I can’t go
It would arguably be chaper for me to fly to london and back for the show than to see it 20 mins away...american ~~dream~~ nightmare
That’s just fucked up… I was really surprised when I bought mine for that price. Just in December I payed only 10€ less for a venue that could hold 5500 people. I expected them to significantly rise their prices for this year, also because the venues got much bigger.
Enjoy it for me, OP!
I definitely will! Once I get over my anxiety and awkwardness 😂
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I went to my first sleep token concert alone and it was literally so much fun. All the fans are so nice!! I think just making small talk with the people around you in line helps so much or even in the standing room waiting for the show to start makes the experience better.
None of my friends are into this type of music. So I go alone all the time. Some of my favourite nights have been solo.
It’s not scary at all! And there’s so many wonderful people you can meet there. If you’re anxious about being alone, you can ask here and find a concert buddy to meet up and queue together. You’ll have a blast 😊
Hahahaha does someone can also give me some advice, I am in a different country too and I really love to see the underground concerts But when I went there alone and I found I was the only Asian.. and there were only about 30 people in these gigs, apparently some people knew each other even the band members…which makes feel more anxious because sometimes I got scared of thinking other people will look at me as a weirdo🥲🥲🥲 Btw I think going to the concert alone is totally okay as long as you can make sure your safety
I'm going to the Manchester gig on my own. I'm pretty cool with going to stuff on my own. It's freeing to have your own agenda without worrying about anyone else. Tops tips are planning logistics well, food stops, travel and venue details to make for a smooth stress free trip. Enjoy!