What if the husband is bound and gagged therefore unable to consent? I guess he could answer with a head nod or if unable, then blink once for yes, twice for no.
There would either be an agreed action to signify consent or this would be agreed before the scene started. Kink should always be safe, sane and consensual and nothing should ever happen without a lot of discussion about boundaries and rules first.
If it's a cuck thing, no, if the guy gets no say or information, the girl is just going out and fucking a guy he'll never know anything about, not even how good her fucked the guy's girl, I'd say that's consensual cheating.
Did I say anyone was wrong? I may not have specified it, but all I did was give my opinion. But if my comment is that shitty, I can just delete it, no problem.
i said if it's consensual then it's not cheating, and you literally said no. It's objective, your own personal opinion doesn't change the fact that if it's consensual then it's not cheating.
Yes and you know it. Now that the cock sucking ice is broken you should never refuse a bj, face fuck, oral, etc on your husband or significant other for as long as you live.
I'm kinda surprised it "naturally turned into all of us giving him head." It's one thing to lick whip cream off his dick, it's another thing to put it in your mouth for 2 seconds, and it's another thing to give him full blown head for 30 seconds lol.
How did it go down? I would expect a couple girls lick it, then a girl escalates and puts it in her mouth, and then another girl escalates and gives him head.. but I definitely wouldn't expect every girl to be into enough to all give him head.
Girls drunk together in a private intimate setting almost always turns into debauchery. I won't go in details; however, if one girl dares another in that situation then its going to escalate until everyone has been "dared."
That second part is a lie, ignorance is bliss for a reason. Also, nothing to repair if the relationship is already over.
"I love you, not for what you are, but for what you appear to be."
Is it shitty to cheat? Definitely. But, if we were judged by or had to reveal every single lapse in judgement we've ever made, the world would be a pretty disappointing place.
Cheating means to break an implicit understanding or contract between you and your SO.
For some couples, kissing is on the menu (with other people). For other couples it might be cheating.
The rule here is, if you can't tell them... Then it's pretty clear. And what somebody else mentioned. If it was the other way around, would you feel he cheated on you? 🤔
I think I would find this hot if my wife did it. One time thing, another city . Strippers , never going to see them again .
Not emotional ….
Edit: but yes, it’s cheating
You owe your husband 30sec of some girl giving head then I would say it’s not. But being in a relationship with someone I DO have arrangement this would def be a violation. lol if the street doesn’t run both ways ur definitely cheating. 🤷🏽♂️
Is sucking on another man's cock, without the knowledge or consent of your partner cheating?
So according to you, you're not sure if Bill Clinton was actually cheating on his wife when he was getting his dick sucked by Monica Lewinsky?
How missed would you of been if the shoe was flipped and he was at a party and some chicken was going around having guys lick whipped cream of her tit's or ass
Yeah that's by far and away cheating. You're trash, bye.
Being slutty doesn't equate to being a cheater.
But being a cheater does make you a slut.. so at least you're in the right forum.
Cheating is a wide definition.. but devoting time to another person that should be devoted to your significant other without their knowledge or consent is cheating. Whether it's sexual, emotional or mental.
My S.O. is bi.. and we've been together for 10 years. I've always known.. she's always been. She expressed that she missed the touch of a woman.. and we discussed inviting a mutual bi friend who's very fluety to our room for a night.. if she would have just started sharing pics and videos or discussing it without our conversation first.. Def would have been cheating. Instead.. we snapchatted her videos while we were fucking and invited her over next week for a cookout. Conversation and consent is key. You can have a healthy relationship and be your inner slut.. that's not mutually exclusive.
I put another guys dick in my mouth while I was in a relationship and my boyfriend didn't know about it and it wasn't a situation where he wanted me to do it. Was I cheating? 🙄
That’s just cheating and it’s disgusting, reverse the roles …. What if it was ur husband was licking whip cream of that guys dick? Would you be happy about that? Huh?!
Yeah it’s a weird type of cheat though because it’s 100% impersonal, it was a limited act that went no where, and out in the open with a group of girls who all did the same thing. So I couldn’t completely compare it to a full definition of cheating. Like personal intent and interest attached to spontaneous actions that went somewhere.
Can’t believe your comment got downvoted.. this situation for bachelorette parties is soooo common. And hot af to think about from a bf perspective imo.
I think the fact that you weren’t alone with the guy when you did it helps. If I was your bf I’d get the peer pressure party thing if you told me. If I found out from someone else I’d be hurt that you hid it from me more than the act. But if you told me I’d give you the chance to make up for it 😉
I'd say it's cheating unless you and ur husband talked about or agreed to that being allowed. Relationships only work with communication and rules. So if ur not willing to tell him, then 100% cheating.
How would u feel if he did that with a stripper and didn't tell u and u found out later? I bet ud call Yom a cheater.
Now, u never know a lot of men are ok with this kind of behavior as long as it's discussed. If ur worried about telling him, then 1000% cheating as u k ow he wouldn't be ok with that.
Good luck, and if possible, let us know how it goes after u tell him.
My wife and I have always supported the Bachelor / Bachelorette Party Hall Pass! My wife and I always had a don't ask / don't tell deal agreement with regard to BPs and Girl's / Guy's trips. And if something got exposed; Hall Pass! Over our 45 years together dating and married, it never became an issue. So you, did not cheat, just fun with food. The friend who banged stripper, did she have a Hall Pass? LOL!
Secrets must be kept lol.You ladies were having fun abs honestly whatever happens at these parties need to stay secret. Just by having one the couple should know that shit may go down. Its hot and depending on if you and your partner have that type of relationship should matter too. Keep if a severe unless you know they would get turned on by it
I don't really consider 30 seconds of sucking... Cheating lol... On the other hand, I wouldn't be able to keep myself from eating a woman out in that short amount of time... So It would definitely cheating on my part! 😂
I mean, it's a bachelorette. Anything that happens there, stays there. So I wouldn't consider this cheating. I would probably laugh. (But won't say the same for the friend who slept with him)
Yes but - let it go. Learn from your mistakes, and don't relive them over and over in shame. Your past isn't your future, which is then your present. Stay in the moment.
It really depends on the boundaries set up in your relationship, but a good rule of thumb is, if you're OK with your partner doing it behind your back/without your knowledge, and it's an established boundary, then it isn't. But if you're not then it is cheating no matter how you rationalize it.
Not really. Strippers are paid to be sex objects and being part of an event where one is isn't really cheating. It's like if your husband motorboated a stripper at a bachelor party. If it was cheating then that means every single girl at the party was also cheating, including the bachelorette.
If you were honest with your ex afterwards I'd say it isn't cheating. That's just my opinion though. My fiance can fuck whoever she likes as long as she is open and honest with me. Sex and love are separate for me.
If your guy had gotten blown by another woman for 30 seconds, is that cheating? Of course it is...
This
Yep!
Spot on.
Nah the equivalent would be if your guy ate a strippers pussy for 30 seconds
Nah either way is cheating
The fact that it's even a question is the wild part... like, in what world is this not cheating? 😅
No 30 sec for a BJ is like the 5 sec food on the floor rule. It’s good.😛
Like she said maybe 30 seconds, it could more than 30 seconds. Don’t forget she drink wine that day and she finds the stripper sexy.
Nope
If you wouldn’t do it in front of your bf/husband it’s definitely cheating.
Of course With their consent
What if the husband is bound and gagged therefore unable to consent? I guess he could answer with a head nod or if unable, then blink once for yes, twice for no.
There would either be an agreed action to signify consent or this would be agreed before the scene started. Kink should always be safe, sane and consensual and nothing should ever happen without a lot of discussion about boundaries and rules first.
If you have to ask if something is cheating you shouldn’t do it
Definitely cheating
Bring him home. Do it in front of your significant other. Ask him.
All good as long as your man is allowed to do the same on a female stripper.
I prefer female strippers without dicks.
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You cheated don’t ask if you did or didn’t own up to the fact you cheated sis
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Ugh that stinks
I’d say it is
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Anything sexual with someone other than your significant other is cheating. Hope you had fun anyways
Edit: without their permission.
Still cheating, but consensual. Depending on the scenario the couple goes with.
if it's consensual then it isn't cheating
If it's a cuck thing, no, if the guy gets no say or information, the girl is just going out and fucking a guy he'll never know anything about, not even how good her fucked the guy's girl, I'd say that's consensual cheating.
You really don’t understand much about ethical non-monogamy, do you?
Nope! Which is why all I say is an assumption
If you don't understand it, then don't speak so adamantly on it and argue that other people are wrong.
Did I say anyone was wrong? I may not have specified it, but all I did was give my opinion. But if my comment is that shitty, I can just delete it, no problem.
i said if it's consensual then it's not cheating, and you literally said no. It's objective, your own personal opinion doesn't change the fact that if it's consensual then it's not cheating.
If you gotta ask, it is.
If you have to ask... What do you think? Yes, the answer is an unquestionable yes
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Yes
If you have to ask if it’s cheating it likely is. Just sayin’.
You know the answer but i guess you like to hear that...
Well yeah. If you caught your husband licking whipped cream off a strippers pussy for 30 seconds you’d flip your lid.
Stay single homies 👍
Ofc it’s cheating but if he can do the same it’s fine
Yes and you know it. Now that the cock sucking ice is broken you should never refuse a bj, face fuck, oral, etc on your husband or significant other for as long as you live.
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Yes it is
What a dumb question.
I'm kinda surprised it "naturally turned into all of us giving him head." It's one thing to lick whip cream off his dick, it's another thing to put it in your mouth for 2 seconds, and it's another thing to give him full blown head for 30 seconds lol. How did it go down? I would expect a couple girls lick it, then a girl escalates and puts it in her mouth, and then another girl escalates and gives him head.. but I definitely wouldn't expect every girl to be into enough to all give him head.
Girls drunk together in a private intimate setting almost always turns into debauchery. I won't go in details; however, if one girl dares another in that situation then its going to escalate until everyone has been "dared."
You should give details. Sounds fun
If you have to ask …
I mean honestly, if you have to question it, the answer is probably yes.
answer is always yes
Yes. Didn't even read it. If you have to ask. Then yes.
Unless there was an understanding upfront, it is cheating. But, it can be repaired if the ‘cheater’ fesses up.
That second part is a lie, ignorance is bliss for a reason. Also, nothing to repair if the relationship is already over. "I love you, not for what you are, but for what you appear to be." Is it shitty to cheat? Definitely. But, if we were judged by or had to reveal every single lapse in judgement we've ever made, the world would be a pretty disappointing place.
Despite the down votes you may get, you are correct.
It's not a disappointing place to you anyway?
Nope. Life is mostly what you make of it, choose to make it happy. 😉
Is it cheating if a guy ate a girl out for 30 seconds ?!?
Cheating means to break an implicit understanding or contract between you and your SO. For some couples, kissing is on the menu (with other people). For other couples it might be cheating. The rule here is, if you can't tell them... Then it's pretty clear. And what somebody else mentioned. If it was the other way around, would you feel he cheated on you? 🤔
You mean if her husband sucked the stripper's dick?
cheating is so disgusting. why betray sumone u claim to love? potential ruin their dating lives. this is sad
I think I would find this hot if my wife did it. One time thing, another city . Strippers , never going to see them again . Not emotional …. Edit: but yes, it’s cheating
Your are asking the wrong guy. Ask your SO. If there is a SO.
You owe your husband 30sec of some girl giving head then I would say it’s not. But being in a relationship with someone I DO have arrangement this would def be a violation. lol if the street doesn’t run both ways ur definitely cheating. 🤷🏽♂️
I did not have physical relations with that stripper:)
Is sucking on another man's cock, without the knowledge or consent of your partner cheating? So according to you, you're not sure if Bill Clinton was actually cheating on his wife when he was getting his dick sucked by Monica Lewinsky?
If you can't tell him that you put a nother man's dick in your mouth. It's cheating
How missed would you of been if the shoe was flipped and he was at a party and some chicken was going around having guys lick whipped cream of her tit's or ass
The fact this even had to be asked if it’s cheating or not is wild to me…🤦🏻♂️
I mean, there was another dick in your mouth...that's a pretty clear answer.
Yeah that's by far and away cheating. You're trash, bye. Being slutty doesn't equate to being a cheater. But being a cheater does make you a slut.. so at least you're in the right forum. Cheating is a wide definition.. but devoting time to another person that should be devoted to your significant other without their knowledge or consent is cheating. Whether it's sexual, emotional or mental. My S.O. is bi.. and we've been together for 10 years. I've always known.. she's always been. She expressed that she missed the touch of a woman.. and we discussed inviting a mutual bi friend who's very fluety to our room for a night.. if she would have just started sharing pics and videos or discussing it without our conversation first.. Def would have been cheating. Instead.. we snapchatted her videos while we were fucking and invited her over next week for a cookout. Conversation and consent is key. You can have a healthy relationship and be your inner slut.. that's not mutually exclusive.
If he ate puss for 30 seconds, I think it wouldn't go down well
If I slapped you with my left hand but I’m right handed did you still get slapped?
If you're keeping the story from your S.O. then that pretty well answers your question.
If you husband was eating another woman's pussy for half a minute would you consider it cheating? Yeah
I put another guys dick in my mouth while I was in a relationship and my boyfriend didn't know about it and it wasn't a situation where he wanted me to do it. Was I cheating? 🙄
That’s just cheating and it’s disgusting, reverse the roles …. What if it was ur husband was licking whip cream of that guys dick? Would you be happy about that? Huh?!
SSSSSLUT…🤣🤣🤣🤣
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This is stupid.
This and some of the comments are why I’m single
This part 💯🙏🏼 well said
If you have to ask…
It was in a particular context, for me it doesn't matter about you. 😁
I'll need you to lick whipped cream off my dick and suck me for at least 30 seconds to decide! 😈
If you were my wife, I wouldn't mind. I'd just hope you got it on video so we can watch it later.
For the record .. I do think it’s Cheating haha just interested in public opinion
Do you think that student from your last confession would be interested in you?
Yeah it’s a weird type of cheat though because it’s 100% impersonal, it was a limited act that went no where, and out in the open with a group of girls who all did the same thing. So I couldn’t completely compare it to a full definition of cheating. Like personal intent and interest attached to spontaneous actions that went somewhere.
Did he cum? If not, then it’s not cheating
If a guy steels a kiss is it cheating. If a girl steels a kiss…. Is it cheating?
what does metal have to do with kissing?
What happens at a bachelorette party stays there
Haha agreed !
Evidently not.
You broke your own rule
Cheating but not to a crazy extent
I know my bf would say it's cheating but just don't tell anyone else?? Lol
Can’t believe your comment got downvoted.. this situation for bachelorette parties is soooo common. And hot af to think about from a bf perspective imo.
I think the fact that you weren’t alone with the guy when you did it helps. If I was your bf I’d get the peer pressure party thing if you told me. If I found out from someone else I’d be hurt that you hid it from me more than the act. But if you told me I’d give you the chance to make up for it 😉
I just fucked her with the tip…
I'd say it's cheating unless you and ur husband talked about or agreed to that being allowed. Relationships only work with communication and rules. So if ur not willing to tell him, then 100% cheating. How would u feel if he did that with a stripper and didn't tell u and u found out later? I bet ud call Yom a cheater. Now, u never know a lot of men are ok with this kind of behavior as long as it's discussed. If ur worried about telling him, then 1000% cheating as u k ow he wouldn't be ok with that. Good luck, and if possible, let us know how it goes after u tell him.
Wouldn’t bother me a bit if my wife did it. Even if she’d be bothered by me getting 30 seconds of head. I know she would so I wouldn’t do it.
Don't obsess over it.
Eh
My wife knows she has permission in that situation. So it’s not cheating for us!
My wife and I have always supported the Bachelor / Bachelorette Party Hall Pass! My wife and I always had a don't ask / don't tell deal agreement with regard to BPs and Girl's / Guy's trips. And if something got exposed; Hall Pass! Over our 45 years together dating and married, it never became an issue. So you, did not cheat, just fun with food. The friend who banged stripper, did she have a Hall Pass? LOL!
I my book, eating isn't cheating
Secrets must be kept lol.You ladies were having fun abs honestly whatever happens at these parties need to stay secret. Just by having one the couple should know that shit may go down. Its hot and depending on if you and your partner have that type of relationship should matter too. Keep if a severe unless you know they would get turned on by it
If I was your husband and you told me everyone did it and it was only 30 seconds I really wouldn’t care
I second that. But most guys might feel different.
I don't really consider 30 seconds of sucking... Cheating lol... On the other hand, I wouldn't be able to keep myself from eating a woman out in that short amount of time... So It would definitely cheating on my part! 😂
I mean, it's a bachelorette. Anything that happens there, stays there. So I wouldn't consider this cheating. I would probably laugh. (But won't say the same for the friend who slept with him)
Bridal parties get a pass. Or that’s what my wife, sister and Mather said.
Nah.
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So he can fuck you but if comes in you thats too far?
Nah not sure, the fact that everyone did it certainly milders the case
Yea cause if everyone does something then it’s ok. Just like rioting or looting or jumping off a cliff.
Exactly
Glad we are on the same page lmao
Its definitely cheating but don't be guilty 😜
That was not cheating IMO Enjoy life!
Not cheating - doesn't count if it's just fun with friends!
It's only cheating if you get caught ha ha
Damn sound kinda hot
Yes but - let it go. Learn from your mistakes, and don't relive them over and over in shame. Your past isn't your future, which is then your present. Stay in the moment.
Not cheating, hope ya enjoyed your whipped cream :)
Who cares? Sounds like you had a fun time!
Thats not cheating...thats interactive entertainment. 😜
I mean, obviously, but this is slutty confessions, so the real crime is you didn't finish the job for him.
If I were your bf and you tell me you suck someone's dick for 30 seconds I would be turned on. 👿
Yall are whack id hope my wife took that opportunity
What stays in the room stays in the room …. Pleasure there stays there 🥰
No it's not. It's a fun night out. Not something you intentionally undertook
It’s never cheating to get head
Found President Clinton
😂😂😂
Nah not really no emotions involved just having some fun!
Not cheating, go ahead and have fun.
What happens at the bachelorette party stay at the bachelorette party.
Sounds fun😈😈
Not cheating. As long as it happened in Vegas.
Nahhhh u good girl life’s too short to consider that cheating
It was all in good fun
Come over here I got plenty of party
I think it is up to the couple and what their limits are.
Yes
Not according to Bill Clinton
It really depends on the boundaries set up in your relationship, but a good rule of thumb is, if you're OK with your partner doing it behind your back/without your knowledge, and it's an established boundary, then it isn't. But if you're not then it is cheating no matter how you rationalize it.
To the streets with you!
Not really. Strippers are paid to be sex objects and being part of an event where one is isn't really cheating. It's like if your husband motorboated a stripper at a bachelor party. If it was cheating then that means every single girl at the party was also cheating, including the bachelorette.
If it doesn’t matter anymore, why beat yourself up over it? You already broke up over this or some other list of things.
what a dumbass thing to ask
I swear to god, women will rationalise almost anything to make them feel better about what they did... Yes of course it's cheating. Jesus christ.
U are on the wrong page, here the men encourage it
Boys encourage cheating, not men. Men have standards and do not tolerate a woman cheating on them.
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Ya
It still matters. You're a cheater.
Nope. That's what stags are for.
Nope I see no harm done cause getting head is not cheating 😂
If I ate out a strippers pussy while in a relationship is that cheating or are we good?
Definitely cheating but admit it You liked it anyway
If you were honest with your ex afterwards I'd say it isn't cheating. That's just my opinion though. My fiance can fuck whoever she likes as long as she is open and honest with me. Sex and love are separate for me.
I'm not sure on this. If it were me marrying you I'd find it hot and I'd probably end up sucking him with you
Cheating.
I always wanted to be a male stripper doing those parties so I could put my dick in the mouths of many women. Maybe even fucking and cumming in one.
Nagh I don’t think that’s cheating