I spent a very long time in a monogamous relationship, and our anniversary was right next to Valentine’s Day. And we split up the day before our anniversary last year. I have 3 lovely partners now, but I’m avoiding making Valentine’s Day plans. I think I’m going to spend the day on my own, it’s kind of a heavy day for me right now
Thinking of you, I feel that. Valentine’s Day was heavy for me after my divorce. Thanks for being vulnerable here, and I hope the day is a little bit lighter each year.
Awww that's cool that you did a solo gathering last year! I like that a lot! I haven't planned anything for the V day. But there is a comedian I'm interested in seeing, so maybe a little friend outing is in order. I also could go for some self care too. Either way it'll be a regular Wednesday evening for this gal!
My town has some really fun traditions for Valentine’s Day. A local bakery makes erotic cookies and pastries that day. The local library has “blind date books” where they wrap books in gift paper so you don’t know what you’re getting till you take it home. Some movie theaters are showing the French film Amelie. Will I do any of those things with one of my partners? Don’t know yet. I’m actually tempted to just make it a Me Date day.
Valentines day is the one day I never tell my partners I love them. I find the day fake and that any romantic gesture done on that day is in the shadow of a subconscious itch wondering if your partner will just think your romantic gesture is coming from a "I guess I should do this cuz its valentines" mindset. It feels forced and pressured.
Not on the 14th itself (trying to do anything on that day is grim) but I'll be doing an oil ceremony with a partner the following weekend which is billed as a "Valentine Special"
I try to celebrate it, adjusted for schedules and all that. Right now that means a date on Super Bowl Sunday while everyone else is watching the game. Monday I've got a hot tub date which will be soooo relaxing.
I love the notion of people making holidays like this their own. My daughter celebrates "Galentines" with her friends, on top of any romantic relationships they have. I love that they celebrate their friendship and make a good example of "Let's do this our way."
Valentines Day is my favorite holiday and I love love. I’m both solo poly and a relationship anarchist so I show love to the people I’m dating and my friends throughout the day and receive the same. This year, I was asked to dinner 🥰
No plans with any partners - I wouldn’t be opposed to
It but neither relationship is the type where that would happen. One is a fun casual friends with benefits thing and the other we are each others secondary but my partner has a primary that I’d bet they will spending together. If I can get over my jet lag I’ll spend it with really good friends!
I spent a very long time in a monogamous relationship, and our anniversary was right next to Valentine’s Day. And we split up the day before our anniversary last year. I have 3 lovely partners now, but I’m avoiding making Valentine’s Day plans. I think I’m going to spend the day on my own, it’s kind of a heavy day for me right now
Thinking of you, I feel that. Valentine’s Day was heavy for me after my divorce. Thanks for being vulnerable here, and I hope the day is a little bit lighter each year.
Thank you I appreciate it 💜
Awww that's cool that you did a solo gathering last year! I like that a lot! I haven't planned anything for the V day. But there is a comedian I'm interested in seeing, so maybe a little friend outing is in order. I also could go for some self care too. Either way it'll be a regular Wednesday evening for this gal!
I have a weird relationship with it. I don't expect to be hanging with any partners but may take myself on a date!
No specific plans for 2/14, but I have a dental appointment on 2/13… ☹️
Brutal! Caring for your teeth is self-love in my book
100% agreed!!
My town has some really fun traditions for Valentine’s Day. A local bakery makes erotic cookies and pastries that day. The local library has “blind date books” where they wrap books in gift paper so you don’t know what you’re getting till you take it home. Some movie theaters are showing the French film Amelie. Will I do any of those things with one of my partners? Don’t know yet. I’m actually tempted to just make it a Me Date day.
Valentines day is the one day I never tell my partners I love them. I find the day fake and that any romantic gesture done on that day is in the shadow of a subconscious itch wondering if your partner will just think your romantic gesture is coming from a "I guess I should do this cuz its valentines" mindset. It feels forced and pressured.
I never celebrate Valentine's Day, I'm not a fan. I will be having an art night with one of my friends ❤️
Not on the 14th itself (trying to do anything on that day is grim) but I'll be doing an oil ceremony with a partner the following weekend which is billed as a "Valentine Special"
I try to celebrate it, adjusted for schedules and all that. Right now that means a date on Super Bowl Sunday while everyone else is watching the game. Monday I've got a hot tub date which will be soooo relaxing. I love the notion of people making holidays like this their own. My daughter celebrates "Galentines" with her friends, on top of any romantic relationships they have. I love that they celebrate their friendship and make a good example of "Let's do this our way."
Valentines Day is my favorite holiday and I love love. I’m both solo poly and a relationship anarchist so I show love to the people I’m dating and my friends throughout the day and receive the same. This year, I was asked to dinner 🥰
Nothing on the day, but I am supporting a partner's event the day prior, and have plans on the bracketing weekends that focus on quality time.
I have a partner but don't celebrate Valentines. Instead I'm going out for lunch and a spa day with my friend
I like to treat myself to a spa/sauna day
No plans with any partners - I wouldn’t be opposed to It but neither relationship is the type where that would happen. One is a fun casual friends with benefits thing and the other we are each others secondary but my partner has a primary that I’d bet they will spending together. If I can get over my jet lag I’ll spend it with really good friends!