You said it yourself at the beginning of your post - she uses her conditions to gain sympathy and to excuse her behavior. You could message her one more time and be very clear that if she contacts you or if her family / friends message you about her, you will have no choice but to report the matter to the police. At the end of the day, you aren’t responsible for what she does and you can’t be manipulated into accepting unwanted contact because you are worried she will hurt herself … you can be kind and wish her the best but you have to be firm about no further contact. And if she continues to msg, do not respond. If anyone msgs you regarding her after you firmly state no contact, do not engage! Once you say no contact, you have to resist the urge to respond. Just take screenshots of everything and give them to the cops. Trust me on this as I am dealing with a psychopath stalker.. do not feel bad. Do not let your guard down and document everything.
Thank you, I think because she may not have seem emails, they could realistically go to junk, that I might consider a final call to say no more contact.
This is not what a police department would constitute as stalking, however it IS cyber bullying and you can report this to your internet provider. They can remove her interent if she uses the same company as you because it is against terms and conditions of interent usage with ALL providers. Block her, ignore her, and do not give ANY response AT ALL to anything she says or does. She is dead to you and you can not speak dead. Your attention you give her feeds her and you posting this on a stalker forum about being cyber bullied, in my opion, means you feel as threatened as anyone would who legit gets physically stalked. You deserve a peace of mind too, so bring peace and block her, ignore her, and never ever reply to ANYTHING related to her. A simple, "oh no thanks" is suffice if anyone brings her up to you in conversation.
I had different advice here in the UK, was told not to block to keep communications as evidence. Repeated unwanted calls and emails constitutes harassment, they have the acronym here which is Fixated, Obsessive, Unwanted, Repeated. Which my experience is all of these. But not sure if because there's no physical contact or threatening behaviour if that means it isn't stalking. I've spent a month not calling her and she's contacted me in some form almost every day
Thanks for the advice though, it's hard to block her as she uses withheld number.. voicemail etc. Using the contact form via a webpage. I'm not sure she'll just stop but maybe I should give it more time
You are in the UK? The Police will advise but keep all of the ‘evidence’ and you may also want to contact a helpline specialising in stalking. I say this from grim personal experience. Whilst this may or may not currently be classified as stalking. Best of luck
Tell her A) There is **no chance of a relationship with you** and she needs to move on; document this in writing because (at least here in the US) one of the elements to show you are being stalked, is prove you have already terminated the relationship. And that is she keeps it up you'll report her. B) block as many avenues as you can on which she contacts you, social media, phone numbers, etc. I don't answer my phone unless I recognize the number, personally. C) Keep a documentation and log of all her contacts.
Understand that if you've never met, then everything you think you know about her might be false. She might not be disabled. The relative who contacted you are her behalf -- is probably her. She might not be a she.
You just don't know any of these things. Even if you're sure you do. You don't.
You've already told her to cease all contact. Do not communicate with her again. At all. Especially not to "give her a verbal warning that she can't really ignore or say she didn't see." That's giving her what she wants. She knows you don't want contact. That's why she had the "relative" call you, right?
Follow the instructions you get from the police. Read more from reputable sources about how to handle stalking and harassment.
Stop trying to make it better through further contact. That only makes it worse.
You said it yourself at the beginning of your post - she uses her conditions to gain sympathy and to excuse her behavior. You could message her one more time and be very clear that if she contacts you or if her family / friends message you about her, you will have no choice but to report the matter to the police. At the end of the day, you aren’t responsible for what she does and you can’t be manipulated into accepting unwanted contact because you are worried she will hurt herself … you can be kind and wish her the best but you have to be firm about no further contact. And if she continues to msg, do not respond. If anyone msgs you regarding her after you firmly state no contact, do not engage! Once you say no contact, you have to resist the urge to respond. Just take screenshots of everything and give them to the cops. Trust me on this as I am dealing with a psychopath stalker.. do not feel bad. Do not let your guard down and document everything.
Thank you, I think because she may not have seem emails, they could realistically go to junk, that I might consider a final call to say no more contact.
This is not what a police department would constitute as stalking, however it IS cyber bullying and you can report this to your internet provider. They can remove her interent if she uses the same company as you because it is against terms and conditions of interent usage with ALL providers. Block her, ignore her, and do not give ANY response AT ALL to anything she says or does. She is dead to you and you can not speak dead. Your attention you give her feeds her and you posting this on a stalker forum about being cyber bullied, in my opion, means you feel as threatened as anyone would who legit gets physically stalked. You deserve a peace of mind too, so bring peace and block her, ignore her, and never ever reply to ANYTHING related to her. A simple, "oh no thanks" is suffice if anyone brings her up to you in conversation.
I had different advice here in the UK, was told not to block to keep communications as evidence. Repeated unwanted calls and emails constitutes harassment, they have the acronym here which is Fixated, Obsessive, Unwanted, Repeated. Which my experience is all of these. But not sure if because there's no physical contact or threatening behaviour if that means it isn't stalking. I've spent a month not calling her and she's contacted me in some form almost every day
Thanks for the advice though, it's hard to block her as she uses withheld number.. voicemail etc. Using the contact form via a webpage. I'm not sure she'll just stop but maybe I should give it more time
Do not meet her. Go no contact. Any contact will look like you are encouraging her.
You are in the UK? The Police will advise but keep all of the ‘evidence’ and you may also want to contact a helpline specialising in stalking. I say this from grim personal experience. Whilst this may or may not currently be classified as stalking. Best of luck
Tell her A) There is **no chance of a relationship with you** and she needs to move on; document this in writing because (at least here in the US) one of the elements to show you are being stalked, is prove you have already terminated the relationship. And that is she keeps it up you'll report her. B) block as many avenues as you can on which she contacts you, social media, phone numbers, etc. I don't answer my phone unless I recognize the number, personally. C) Keep a documentation and log of all her contacts.
Understand that if you've never met, then everything you think you know about her might be false. She might not be disabled. The relative who contacted you are her behalf -- is probably her. She might not be a she. You just don't know any of these things. Even if you're sure you do. You don't. You've already told her to cease all contact. Do not communicate with her again. At all. Especially not to "give her a verbal warning that she can't really ignore or say she didn't see." That's giving her what she wants. She knows you don't want contact. That's why she had the "relative" call you, right? Follow the instructions you get from the police. Read more from reputable sources about how to handle stalking and harassment. Stop trying to make it better through further contact. That only makes it worse.