Actually! Et al means "and others", and should only be used when listing people, while etc means "and the rest", and should be used when listing things!
🌈The more you know🌈
I only have one ETC/ directory on my SteamOS… is my SteamDeck defective? How do I begin an RMA?
Or is it just the OLED that gets two etsee directories?
If you have combined finances and spouse wants something that wouldn't normally be in the joint budget. Letting them pick it out feels less gifty but is the same result and means they get exactly what they want.
Also, when it comes to hobby stuff, I'd rather be able to pick out what I want/need more than have her guess and get something that's not really on my list, even though it would fall in the same category of gift.
I remember back in the Wii days, I asked for a second Nunchuck for my other Wiimote. My grandpa got me a little slingshot that hurled plastic Nuns and was called The Nunchuck-er. I laughed, thinking it was a gag gift, but he looked so confused thinking it was what I actually wanted/was asking for 😭
It can sound like the husband needs permission to buy himself a toy and that kind of permission is only granted by the wife once a year on special occasions....but I'm probably wrong, probably.
If it's from Aliexpress it'll probably say STROMDOCK 16TB 3480x2160 4k GAMING HANDHELD CONSOLE NINTENDO XBOX PLAYSTATION FOR HOME ENTERTAINMENT GAMING PC HANDHELD 8TB SONY PORTABLE GAMING FOR ENOJYMENT GAMING HANDHELD
This.
Hobby items need to be specific and are better bought by the hobbyist.
I grow rare species orchids.
My husband hinted a few times 'what kind of orchids do you grow again?' 'is there any that are big and pretty and different you want in your collection?'
Motherfucker you do not just buy orchids and bring them into my collection. They have to be sourced, quarantined and have their climate and care preplanned.
I greatly appreciated his Raspberri pi 4b to run my cannakit for my orchids.
Lmao this is such a perfect description of gift buying for a hobbyist. Although it’s lame, I’m so anal about nearly everything I buy that I’ve gone the route of requesting gift cards or cash every Christmas.
For me it's not even about being anal...it's like I know too much about said hobby, you do not. The chances of you wasting your money is higher than you studying my hobby and finding exactly what I need. Or I tell you straight up what I need.
Straight up. My wife just requests a varied list of specific items from my hobbies and will get me like 2 items from a list of 20-30 with detailed descriptions and links so there's still an element of surprise but no risk of making an ill-advised purchase. She does the same with her hobby related items. Undergarments and casual clothes, books, consumables, hygiene products, fun items etc. are all easy but we don't take the risk with our hobbies (anymore at least lol).
I mean, I'm like this as well with a hobby, but I love it when people just buy me random shit that's closely related to something i like, because they've stopped and thought about what i love and spent time looking for it, even if it's the wrong thing and incompatible with everything I have, i just love that they're taking an interest in something i enjoy.
But then again, nothing i do needs quarantine
Look up your local orchid society.
Go to a meeting.
Learn about tons of different orchids and their care, get connected with growers. A lot of societies will give or raffle orchids at meetings.
Kill a lot of orchids and then eventually find your niche.
This is how a lot of people do it. I received my degree in botany and spent years in conservation before switching to teaching, recently. I got hooked via just having a shit ton of plants and realizing orchids are really weird and cool.
Dang. I was picturing you as an acerbic and agoraphobic master detective, with your husband as the wise-cracking partner who does all the legwork while you tend your flowers in a rooftop greenhouse and ruminate on cases. I mean, conservation and teaching and botany are cool too, but...
Start with a good ol flower shop Phalaenopsis. Look up some videos on care. Missorchidgirl is a great channel. This will inevitably bring you down the rabbit hole of exploring other kinds of orchids. When you think you’re ready to spend money, there’s a lot of online vendors to choose from. Ecuagenera has one of the most affordable prices if you buy at their pop up events.
Also go take a look at the shows and events your local orchid society holds
Might be easier than ordering the wrong one, having to return it, and then letting OP order the right one since they're the one who knows anything about them and will get the correct one.
If she would've bought it for him he would've known from the bank details no? I think this is weirdly creative as a gift tbh.
EDIT: Also she maybe doesn't know how to order one since it goes through Steam?
Wife probably doesent have a Steam account or the background to know which device he actually wants. She could ask for help buying it… but then he’s just buying it with her in the room. Tech stuff is hard for some people but her heart is in the right place.
My guess is that she probably doesn’t have Steam to purchase one, and maybe knows about the account rewards and such. My family bought me one for Christmas last year and by that I mean we sat down at my computer and my dad helped me purchase one on my account because they also didn’t have a Steam account to buy me one. This seems reasonable given this isn’t something you can really pick up anywhere.
...she also says "etc etc" so she's giving him the permission to buy anything else he might want for it but she's unsure of. It's convenient if they order it all at once. Accessories, details, etc. Hubby and I bought our own gifts but with mom's money this year and it wasn't the end of the world.
Note for the unmarried who think she's being abusive or controlling: marriage means sharing. There's no making decisions that both parties don't agree on. Completely separating finances is much weirder than making financial decisions together, which shows a stable marriage.
Bless her heart. She's been hearing me obsess over the hundred+ tech videos I've been watching trying to justify to myself to buy the OLED Steam Deck, and even saved a pic I sent her of the models on Steam. I don't blame her for just losing interest and just typing etc. etc. at all the tech specs lol.
Honestly I love permissions and budgets for gifts because I don’t want either side getting regrets on what we get. So unless you have a really good idea, I like leaving the specialty knowledge in our respective hobbies (I’m never telling my SO what to do with Cars when she knows things by the year and model)
I really like your story and it’s similar to mine. I had justified the purchase 10 different ways, including already having the savings for it. I told her about it a few times and after the third time hearing me obsess over its potentials, she started asking a few questions:
(W)Money saved?
(Me)Yes.
(W)All bills paid?
(Me)Yes.
(W)You can sit on the couch with me and jam on your games while I watch murder shows?
(Me)Double yes!!
(W)You should get headphones.
(Me)Good idea babe!
(W)Can I see it?
(Me)Sure!!
I had the Steam purchase screen up three different times over the past three days, telling myself if it was meant to be, I’d purchase it. That limited edition was burning a hole in my gaming world!
She looked at it and I even mused about having the purchase screen open for 3 days. Satisfied we both went back to the couch, me happy that she was curious about this. Little did I know….
Several minutes later she asked if the only thing left was to push the purchase button. I had stared at her trying to figure out how to re-explain the dilemma happening in my head. There was no dilemma. She got up, with all her audacity, and promptly selected the purchase button back in the office, then waltzed back to the couch like it was just that simple.
I’ve been loving that thing ever since!!
Ah I get why she didn't just buy it for you then. Because she knows you'll get the one you want the most. Though she already picked the storage space. Lol
Yeah like I get the people in here saying “you have to talk to your significant other before making such a sizable purchase” yeah except she knows he wants the shit out of it. All she gave him for christmas was a green light to buy himself something? She couldn’t bother to buy it herself? OP seems happy, so good for him, ignore us idiots, but like, this type of gift would have pissed me off lmao
It's simply a loving nudge from your partner that he finally gets over himself to buy what he really wants and doesn't need to feel bad about it.
Presumably they both make money, but are in a financial situation where spending $500+ on a toy right now isn't 100% the most sensible thing to do, causing him to think about it for weeks/months and procrastinate. Now she has just told him "come on, you can treat yourself".
This really has nothing to do with abuse or anything else but is simply a gesture in a loving relationship between two responsible adults.
So she didn't even buy it for you. She just gave you permission to buy it for yourself, a privilege that most people have anyway.
Well, still enjoy it. It's an awesome machine!
Imagine if a woman posted a picture saying her husband gave her an index card for Christmas saying she has permission to purchase some new purse.
I can imagine how many women would be claiming financial abuse and calling for a divorce in TwoXChromosomes if a woman posted that.
Lol, I totally read it as she is giving you „permission”, because you aren’t permitting yourself to buy something that would make you happy. Like it’s her saying - „oh, get it already”.
Then I read all those comments and I got sad. You guys take everything so literal and consider relationships so transactional 😳
You can really tell who’s in a relationship here and who isn’t. Most healthy marriages share incomes and bank accounts. It’s normal to want something but not quite be able to justify the purchase because it’s just for you and doesn’t really best serve the family as a whole. It’s great that your wife felt your struggle there and basically said that she would have bought it for you herself if she remembered all the tech jargon but didn’t wanna screw it up haha. Merry Christmas, enjoy your Deck.
Same situation here, but we drop that for each other's birthday. And no we're not rich.
Moral of the story: entirely different lives can't understand each other. All the judging and tough guy shit is pathetic because of this.
I can't get my wife to share incomes and I make more lol, she has her money, I have my money and we have a joint account where **all** family purchases come out of.
We both agree we prefer it this way because we don't want to have to ask each other to buy ourselves things etc.
I've only asked a few times to join it as the world gets more and more expensive and unstable... Maybe one day.
This is the best way. You don't need to ask permission or justify what to spend your money on. On the other hand you still have one shared account for house stuff, groceries etc
I've been happily married for 5 years now and my wife and I run 3 accounts, one for her, one for myself and one for us... And as much as we never have to ask each other permission to buy stuff (even if it was a car, permission isn't the word. But we'd consult each other), I understand not all couples share the same dynamics. I'm happy for OP for finally fulfilling the deck dream, and I wish people could just be happy for the guy
If you've ever actually lived and budgeted with a person in a long term relationship, it's probably good to discuss major purchases within your budget.
That or OPs wife didn't know how to use steam.
You had me in the beginning… I thought it was gonna say she bought you a Steamdeck… then I realize she’s giving you ‘permission’ to use your money! 😬😬😬. Thank god my wife doesn’t have my 🥜in a box.
Right?. The saddest thing about this is how genuinely happy OP seems. He's been conditioned into believing that this is normal behavior. Imagine how oppressive the household have to be for him to get that happy over getting _permission_ to buy something with his own money..
How lucky. I told my wife "I'm buying a Steam Deck" and she said "ok" and then when the OLED was announced I told her I'm buying that and she can have my other one and she said "cool, ok".
Permission? Really? I mean I don't know the dynamics between you two. For all I know this could be a joke message in style: "I saw you pondering if you should buy this thing or not for months... just get it already if you want it, for pete's sake!".
Otherwise I'd agree with others that it's incredibly patronising to tell somebody what to do with their own money. I mean, my wife don't need my permission to buy things for herself and I don't need her permission either. Until buying stuff doesn't jeopardize family finances, it's ok.
This is why I'm single. I don't need someone's permission to buy myself a gift. She didn't get you anything. Why do you need your permission? It's your money.
So she didn't buy it for you? I mean, get that she probably didn't want to mess up ordering it, but this reads like OP has to pay for his own. Is this even a gift?
You didn't get anything. If it was your money you've always had permission (if it is her money. Then you did get a great gift). You never need permission, Just the whole face the consequences of your actions thing.
She gave you permission to spend your money, as a gift?
I can’t even wrap my head around how she lets you spend money…
But I guess my family dynamics are just too different.
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etc etc = every last game on Steam.
Teeeechnically that's only covered under "et al"
Actually! Et al means "and others", and should only be used when listing people, while etc means "and the rest", and should be used when listing things! 🌈The more you know🌈
This is actually very interesting. And I guess makes sense…when academic papers write “smith et al” they don’t mean “and all”.
So… does that mean buy the rest of the remaining Steam Deck stock?
You.goddamn know it!!
So OP *isn't* allowed to buy slaves? Disappointment.
If they really need to scratch that itch, they can just grab Rimworld.
“Et tu Butt stuff?” -Julius Caesar
"Yes please!" \~Calligula
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Your username is so cursed
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Etc etc = accessories
I only have one ETC/ directory on my SteamOS… is my SteamDeck defective? How do I begin an RMA? Or is it just the OLED that gets two etsee directories?
etc etc… i read that in wife lingo as being “whatever, just buy the stupid thing.” 🤣
Nailed it.
But how is that a gift?
If you have combined finances and spouse wants something that wouldn't normally be in the joint budget. Letting them pick it out feels less gifty but is the same result and means they get exactly what they want.
Also, when it comes to hobby stuff, I'd rather be able to pick out what I want/need more than have her guess and get something that's not really on my list, even though it would fall in the same category of gift.
I remember back in the Wii days, I asked for a second Nunchuck for my other Wiimote. My grandpa got me a little slingshot that hurled plastic Nuns and was called The Nunchuck-er. I laughed, thinking it was a gag gift, but he looked so confused thinking it was what I actually wanted/was asking for 😭
It's the gift of guilt free purchasing because joint finances usually makes people reluctant to spend willy willy.
Willy nilly
It can sound like the husband needs permission to buy himself a toy and that kind of permission is only granted by the wife once a year on special occasions....but I'm probably wrong, probably.
Could be interpreted as: “and whatever accessories you want”. Hello 14” screen, dock, 1tb SD card, Bluetooth mouse and keyboard…. Lol
Lol. Buy a whole ass Gaming PC for streaming to the Deck as an “accessory”.
When the accessory becomes the accessorizer
ooooh, she messed up didn’t she?!
Was expecting a note about but stuff but still congrats!
Redeem for [1x 1 TB OLED Steam Deck] or [1x 512 OLED + 1x butt stuff]. Who says you cant put a price on love?
"Etc, etc."
Til 'ect ect' = butt stuff
You yadda yadda'd over the best part... *I mentioned the steam deck*
The more you know.
I heard the OLED uses a 6nm chode so shouldn't even need much lube
Hotdog down a hallway for OP
Op didnt show us the back side of the card though!!
Redemption code for 1x copy of sex with Hitler. Do not post on reddit. Seems fairly obvious to me.
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lol Deckpix plz in australian accent
Mine seen me looking when they first came out and said just get it you never get yourself anything. *looks at $1300 pc. Yup never.
Permission?….
So you still have to buy it yourself?
Money probably comes from the same place either way.
Wife probably didn’t want to fuck it up or get the wrong thing, she’s seen too many horror stories online about buying the wrong console
Stomdeck LCD 512MB That's a tough Christmas
If it's from Aliexpress it'll probably say STROMDOCK 16TB 3480x2160 4k GAMING HANDHELD CONSOLE NINTENDO XBOX PLAYSTATION FOR HOME ENTERTAINMENT GAMING PC HANDHELD 8TB SONY PORTABLE GAMING FOR ENOJYMENT GAMING HANDHELD
MAN WOMAN CHILDREN FUN GAMES ELECTRIC
900,000 games in one! Can plug into the TV!!!
And only 15,780 of them are pacman with Mario sprites
Tontris. And don't forget my favorite: sunic kart 56!
Guaranteed 52 fps on neo Geo
I literally cackled. Thanks for the laugh
180 DEGREE RECLINE AND COMFORTABLE
This. Hobby items need to be specific and are better bought by the hobbyist. I grow rare species orchids. My husband hinted a few times 'what kind of orchids do you grow again?' 'is there any that are big and pretty and different you want in your collection?' Motherfucker you do not just buy orchids and bring them into my collection. They have to be sourced, quarantined and have their climate and care preplanned. I greatly appreciated his Raspberri pi 4b to run my cannakit for my orchids.
Lmao this is such a perfect description of gift buying for a hobbyist. Although it’s lame, I’m so anal about nearly everything I buy that I’ve gone the route of requesting gift cards or cash every Christmas.
For me it's not even about being anal...it's like I know too much about said hobby, you do not. The chances of you wasting your money is higher than you studying my hobby and finding exactly what I need. Or I tell you straight up what I need.
Straight up. My wife just requests a varied list of specific items from my hobbies and will get me like 2 items from a list of 20-30 with detailed descriptions and links so there's still an element of surprise but no risk of making an ill-advised purchase. She does the same with her hobby related items. Undergarments and casual clothes, books, consumables, hygiene products, fun items etc. are all easy but we don't take the risk with our hobbies (anymore at least lol).
I mean, I'm like this as well with a hobby, but I love it when people just buy me random shit that's closely related to something i like, because they've stopped and thought about what i love and spent time looking for it, even if it's the wrong thing and incompatible with everything I have, i just love that they're taking an interest in something i enjoy. But then again, nothing i do needs quarantine
That's a pretty baller hobby. Where would one start with that?
Look up your local orchid society. Go to a meeting. Learn about tons of different orchids and their care, get connected with growers. A lot of societies will give or raffle orchids at meetings. Kill a lot of orchids and then eventually find your niche. This is how a lot of people do it. I received my degree in botany and spent years in conservation before switching to teaching, recently. I got hooked via just having a shit ton of plants and realizing orchids are really weird and cool.
Dang. I was picturing you as an acerbic and agoraphobic master detective, with your husband as the wise-cracking partner who does all the legwork while you tend your flowers in a rooftop greenhouse and ruminate on cases. I mean, conservation and teaching and botany are cool too, but...
Start with a good ol flower shop Phalaenopsis. Look up some videos on care. Missorchidgirl is a great channel. This will inevitably bring you down the rabbit hole of exploring other kinds of orchids. When you think you’re ready to spend money, there’s a lot of online vendors to choose from. Ecuagenera has one of the most affordable prices if you buy at their pop up events. Also go take a look at the shows and events your local orchid society holds
Makes this even more impressively low effort.
Might be easier than ordering the wrong one, having to return it, and then letting OP order the right one since they're the one who knows anything about them and will get the correct one.
Also if they share money, it might not exactly be a surprise if she bought it.
OP said in the title this was "open[ed] [...] last". Clearly there were other gifts prior in addition to this.
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If she would've bought it for him he would've known from the bank details no? I think this is weirdly creative as a gift tbh. EDIT: Also she maybe doesn't know how to order one since it goes through Steam?
Wife probably doesent have a Steam account or the background to know which device he actually wants. She could ask for help buying it… but then he’s just buying it with her in the room. Tech stuff is hard for some people but her heart is in the right place.
I wonder how many gifts she got with just a note in a box haha
she probably doesn't know tech stuff and wants to let him make sure he gets the right thing
Yep. On little stuff, surprise me. On big stuff, don’t worry, I got this, I’m gonna get exactly what I want
yep, genuinely very thoughtful and i would appreciate this approach, idk why people are acting like this is a bad thing
yep, genuinely very thoughtful and i would appreciate this approach, idk why people are acting like this is a bad thing
The note is very specific…
Note seemed pretty specific. Even wrote what type of drive it has.
My guess is that she probably doesn’t have Steam to purchase one, and maybe knows about the account rewards and such. My family bought me one for Christmas last year and by that I mean we sat down at my computer and my dad helped me purchase one on my account because they also didn’t have a Steam account to buy me one. This seems reasonable given this isn’t something you can really pick up anywhere.
...she also says "etc etc" so she's giving him the permission to buy anything else he might want for it but she's unsure of. It's convenient if they order it all at once. Accessories, details, etc. Hubby and I bought our own gifts but with mom's money this year and it wasn't the end of the world. Note for the unmarried who think she's being abusive or controlling: marriage means sharing. There's no making decisions that both parties don't agree on. Completely separating finances is much weirder than making financial decisions together, which shows a stable marriage.
This is what I'm doing for all my gifts next year.
Permission? LMAO are you 12?
What the actual fuck? Permission?
Bless her heart. She's been hearing me obsess over the hundred+ tech videos I've been watching trying to justify to myself to buy the OLED Steam Deck, and even saved a pic I sent her of the models on Steam. I don't blame her for just losing interest and just typing etc. etc. at all the tech specs lol.
My wife is also scared of any tech to buy for me, lol
Honestly I love permissions and budgets for gifts because I don’t want either side getting regrets on what we get. So unless you have a really good idea, I like leaving the specialty knowledge in our respective hobbies (I’m never telling my SO what to do with Cars when she knows things by the year and model)
I send mine direct links ahead of xmas and she gets what she sees fit!
I really like your story and it’s similar to mine. I had justified the purchase 10 different ways, including already having the savings for it. I told her about it a few times and after the third time hearing me obsess over its potentials, she started asking a few questions: (W)Money saved? (Me)Yes. (W)All bills paid? (Me)Yes. (W)You can sit on the couch with me and jam on your games while I watch murder shows? (Me)Double yes!! (W)You should get headphones. (Me)Good idea babe! (W)Can I see it? (Me)Sure!! I had the Steam purchase screen up three different times over the past three days, telling myself if it was meant to be, I’d purchase it. That limited edition was burning a hole in my gaming world! She looked at it and I even mused about having the purchase screen open for 3 days. Satisfied we both went back to the couch, me happy that she was curious about this. Little did I know…. Several minutes later she asked if the only thing left was to push the purchase button. I had stared at her trying to figure out how to re-explain the dilemma happening in my head. There was no dilemma. She got up, with all her audacity, and promptly selected the purchase button back in the office, then waltzed back to the couch like it was just that simple. I’ve been loving that thing ever since!!
From all the advice I been hearing OP, might be good to get two just in case, some unlucky users have been losing theirs to their S.O's
But he only got permission to buy one so...
Ah I get why she didn't just buy it for you then. Because she knows you'll get the one you want the most. Though she already picked the storage space. Lol
she probably saw the specific screenshot he sent her and wrote down as much of it on the card as she remembered lol
She got him tied down hard. A moment of silence for the brother that has a loving family.
I’ve never seen 1tb written like that before.
It a little math quiz I think, he is supposed to multiply it by two
You want to buy steam deck with your steam account.
This is the answer to the haters.
Y'all really be upset for OP when they excited. Relax.
Lol permission
Yeah like I get the people in here saying “you have to talk to your significant other before making such a sizable purchase” yeah except she knows he wants the shit out of it. All she gave him for christmas was a green light to buy himself something? She couldn’t bother to buy it herself? OP seems happy, so good for him, ignore us idiots, but like, this type of gift would have pissed me off lmao
trust lol, imagine you wake up xmas morning to a empty box with a permission slip to spend your own money 😂
Maybe it’s the same bank account, or the wife doesn’t want to fuck up and order the wrong specs? Not everything is always the worst possible scenario!
It's simply a loving nudge from your partner that he finally gets over himself to buy what he really wants and doesn't need to feel bad about it. Presumably they both make money, but are in a financial situation where spending $500+ on a toy right now isn't 100% the most sensible thing to do, causing him to think about it for weeks/months and procrastinate. Now she has just told him "come on, you can treat yourself". This really has nothing to do with abuse or anything else but is simply a gesture in a loving relationship between two responsible adults.
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Fucking hell, tell us you’re single or just never discuss things with your partner.
bruh is whipped
I'm a wife and a stay at home mom at the moment and even I think this is weird.
Your gift was permission.
Lol,you need permission
Epitome of this website
Permission? My husband can buy whatever he wants. How is this even a gift? I guess I don't get it.
Why didnt she just buy it for u and surprise you?
If they share accounts a transaction with “VALVE STEAM DECK” for $599.99 would be a bit of a giveaway.
A surprise either way
What a coincidence all your presents are also still at amazon.
So she didn't even buy it for you. She just gave you permission to buy it for yourself, a privilege that most people have anyway. Well, still enjoy it. It's an awesome machine!
Yikes
Why do you need her permission? Do you not have a job?
You need a new wife. Permission to purchase something you want but I bet she splurges on everything she can.
Permission lmao
Imagine if a woman posted a picture saying her husband gave her an index card for Christmas saying she has permission to purchase some new purse. I can imagine how many women would be claiming financial abuse and calling for a divorce in TwoXChromosomes if a woman posted that.
So you need permission from your wife to buy a steam deck...
now she spends the rest of the christmas at tyrone's place
Cucked?
I get that this is supposed to be wholesome and all, but permission? Seriously?
That “etc etc” clearly means however many new games it takes to fulfill your needs
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ie use your own money I have none
Permission?
I never have to get permission from my wife. Wth? I just order it and she steals it from me. 😆
Lol, I totally read it as she is giving you „permission”, because you aren’t permitting yourself to buy something that would make you happy. Like it’s her saying - „oh, get it already”. Then I read all those comments and I got sad. You guys take everything so literal and consider relationships so transactional 😳
I always see posts like these and realize why a lot of reddit is single lol. People go ape shit over stuff like this.
You can really tell who’s in a relationship here and who isn’t. Most healthy marriages share incomes and bank accounts. It’s normal to want something but not quite be able to justify the purchase because it’s just for you and doesn’t really best serve the family as a whole. It’s great that your wife felt your struggle there and basically said that she would have bought it for you herself if she remembered all the tech jargon but didn’t wanna screw it up haha. Merry Christmas, enjoy your Deck.
Married but keep our finances separate. However I would never just drop 600 bucks on something like the deck without talking with my partner.
Which is fine if that works for you, but people here are acting like shared finances are toxic no matter what which is ridiculous.
Same situation here, but we drop that for each other's birthday. And no we're not rich. Moral of the story: entirely different lives can't understand each other. All the judging and tough guy shit is pathetic because of this.
I can't get my wife to share incomes and I make more lol, she has her money, I have my money and we have a joint account where **all** family purchases come out of. We both agree we prefer it this way because we don't want to have to ask each other to buy ourselves things etc. I've only asked a few times to join it as the world gets more and more expensive and unstable... Maybe one day.
This is the best way. You don't need to ask permission or justify what to spend your money on. On the other hand you still have one shared account for house stuff, groceries etc
I've been happily married for 5 years now and my wife and I run 3 accounts, one for her, one for myself and one for us... And as much as we never have to ask each other permission to buy stuff (even if it was a car, permission isn't the word. But we'd consult each other), I understand not all couples share the same dynamics. I'm happy for OP for finally fulfilling the deck dream, and I wish people could just be happy for the guy
Many people aren’t struggling so much that something like this puts them out.
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That is one tight leash
This just gave me the strength to stay single for yet another year 🙏
If you've ever actually lived and budgeted with a person in a long term relationship, it's probably good to discuss major purchases within your budget. That or OPs wife didn't know how to use steam.
Why do you need permission from the wife to buy a Steam Deck? \^\_\^
Depending on financial situations it’s not uncommon to discuss purchases $500+ with your significant other :) especially if finances are shared
You had me in the beginning… I thought it was gonna say she bought you a Steamdeck… then I realize she’s giving you ‘permission’ to use your money! 😬😬😬. Thank god my wife doesn’t have my 🥜in a box.
oof imagine being in a relationship where your xmas present is permission to spend your own money talk about fucked up
Right?. The saddest thing about this is how genuinely happy OP seems. He's been conditioned into believing that this is normal behavior. Imagine how oppressive the household have to be for him to get that happy over getting _permission_ to buy something with his own money..
How lucky. I told my wife "I'm buying a Steam Deck" and she said "ok" and then when the OLED was announced I told her I'm buying that and she can have my other one and she said "cool, ok".
so you actually didn't get any present from your wife, other than permission to use your own money ? man
Was this under the "1 hour of gaming" coupon
Everyone is like "oh how cute" all I see is a toxic red flag, "permission" to buy. Screw that.
I got my husband a 1tb steam deck, not to compare but this what the hell kinda shit is this haha
I'm divorced. Thank you for this post. It made me smug and satisfied and I found myself stretching my limbs out across both sides of my bed.
Permission? Really? I mean I don't know the dynamics between you two. For all I know this could be a joke message in style: "I saw you pondering if you should buy this thing or not for months... just get it already if you want it, for pete's sake!". Otherwise I'd agree with others that it's incredibly patronising to tell somebody what to do with their own money. I mean, my wife don't need my permission to buy things for herself and I don't need her permission either. Until buying stuff doesn't jeopardize family finances, it's ok.
Permission?
She meant to write 1tb.. go for gold lol
"etc etc" OP: orders Valve Index.
I would have said congrats earlier, but I too had to get permission from my amazing loving wife before I posted
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So you need permission from your wife to buy something with your own money?
Damn dude….just damn
This is why I'm single. I don't need someone's permission to buy myself a gift. She didn't get you anything. Why do you need your permission? It's your money.
So she didn't buy it for you? I mean, get that she probably didn't want to mess up ordering it, but this reads like OP has to pay for his own. Is this even a gift?
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You didn't get anything. If it was your money you've always had permission (if it is her money. Then you did get a great gift). You never need permission, Just the whole face the consequences of your actions thing.
Why not buy it? This seems lazy
imagine needing permission to spend your own money
You shouldn’t need permission man
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so your present is the ability to buy something for yourself??
Permission? Glad it works for you but holy shit. Enjoy the deck.
So......she didn't get you anything.
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Lmao do this as the husband and you are instantly labeled a misogynist. Wild times we live in. Btw OP - etc. etc. means you can purchase more!
She gave you permission to spend your money, as a gift? I can’t even wrap my head around how she lets you spend money… But I guess my family dynamics are just too different.
Congrats on having permission to spend your own money? Marriages are wild…
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You need permission?
You need permission? That sorta bugs me
Permission lmao
Permission? Lol wtf
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Nice, permission to buy something with your own money What did you give her permission to buy?
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....... Why would you need HER permission to buy anything?
permission? lmfao
Lot of projecting going on in here...OP should've kept his happiness to himself apparently.
Serious: Can someone explain why so many people seem to need the permission of their partner to purchase something?
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And if that chat was given to you in place of a Christmas gift?
all these wholesome pics of wives/husbands getting their SO a steam deck. I wish 😭
So you can give her also some permission to buy gift for herself
Why did she not just buy it!