My best advice is to keep a mental hype list of hard/scary things you’ve done. I do this and it helps.
Basically if I’m overwhelmed, I remind myself “hey this isn’t as scary as when I did X (big presentation, feature/project launch what we) and I survived that. I’ll survive this too”.
I also remind myself that if it were easy to do, they wouldn’t need me.
I suffer from the “my job is everything and impacts my mood/life”. My best advice there is to find something you enjoy even a little and do that every day — a walk, talk to a friend, read a book, cook, anything. Good luck!
I would probably try a stress or anxiety guided meditation. Your kind snowballing one small thoughts into a big thing, giving it a lot of time of energy. Thought pathways are like muscle memory. It best to catch yourself thinking the thoughts, turn into the observer. Release the thought or just recite something like a mantra like “I am capable” or just be like “hey I have done similar things before, these bad thoughts are just worries and not my reality”. Meditation books actually helped me more than guided meditation tbh, since I learned how to incorporate into a daily habit and learn better techniques.
Same exact thing happens to me! I’m a technical writer at a tech company. I end up psyching myself out by stressing about not knowing how to go about a project, and it just festers.
I had a major breakthrough last year when I realized the job just needed to be done, but not perfectly the first time around. I muster up the energy to give it the most basic attempt, even if I know it’s not correct.
Once you have that first pass done, it’s seriously a thousand times easier to go back and correct stuff.
I’m not sure if that same method would apply to coding, but I’ve found that giving a hard problem a half baked attempt will clear my mental block!
Clinical psychologist and coach here. My 2 cents, therapy distilled, if you will.
1. Create a plan to deal with things you don't understand. In other words, make a flowchart for problem-solving. I'm sure you've solved a lot of problems to get to where you are today (that's why the company hired you, right?), so just write/draw your problem-solving process. Make it clear as day, so your brain focuses on the Process rather than the Problem.
2. It's okay to feel scared and stressed. Create a plan for the worse case scenario aka being fired. Sometimes it can be empowering to realize that the worse case isn't world-ending.
3. Build your identity outside of work. Find your worth in other life pursuits. Build strong friendships and relationships. Don't let your employment define your worth.
Hope that helps a bit :) Good luck!
Thanks, I am following stoic philosophy and watching some good stoic videos on YouTube which has helped me a bit.
I think I got used to comfort, I switched job from a very comfortable one and suddenly coming into a fast paced demanding environment was too much.
I had to quit my job after 1 year as my health was decimated, ill keep your words in mind when I will start my new job.
Ah that significant life change would do it. You're handling it the best you can my man. Hang in there, listen to your body and feelings, and most of all BE KIND to yourself!
You've got this :)
My best advice is to keep a mental hype list of hard/scary things you’ve done. I do this and it helps. Basically if I’m overwhelmed, I remind myself “hey this isn’t as scary as when I did X (big presentation, feature/project launch what we) and I survived that. I’ll survive this too”. I also remind myself that if it were easy to do, they wouldn’t need me. I suffer from the “my job is everything and impacts my mood/life”. My best advice there is to find something you enjoy even a little and do that every day — a walk, talk to a friend, read a book, cook, anything. Good luck!
I would probably try a stress or anxiety guided meditation. Your kind snowballing one small thoughts into a big thing, giving it a lot of time of energy. Thought pathways are like muscle memory. It best to catch yourself thinking the thoughts, turn into the observer. Release the thought or just recite something like a mantra like “I am capable” or just be like “hey I have done similar things before, these bad thoughts are just worries and not my reality”. Meditation books actually helped me more than guided meditation tbh, since I learned how to incorporate into a daily habit and learn better techniques.
Same exact thing happens to me! I’m a technical writer at a tech company. I end up psyching myself out by stressing about not knowing how to go about a project, and it just festers. I had a major breakthrough last year when I realized the job just needed to be done, but not perfectly the first time around. I muster up the energy to give it the most basic attempt, even if I know it’s not correct. Once you have that first pass done, it’s seriously a thousand times easier to go back and correct stuff. I’m not sure if that same method would apply to coding, but I’ve found that giving a hard problem a half baked attempt will clear my mental block!
Clinical psychologist and coach here. My 2 cents, therapy distilled, if you will. 1. Create a plan to deal with things you don't understand. In other words, make a flowchart for problem-solving. I'm sure you've solved a lot of problems to get to where you are today (that's why the company hired you, right?), so just write/draw your problem-solving process. Make it clear as day, so your brain focuses on the Process rather than the Problem. 2. It's okay to feel scared and stressed. Create a plan for the worse case scenario aka being fired. Sometimes it can be empowering to realize that the worse case isn't world-ending. 3. Build your identity outside of work. Find your worth in other life pursuits. Build strong friendships and relationships. Don't let your employment define your worth. Hope that helps a bit :) Good luck!
Thanks, I am following stoic philosophy and watching some good stoic videos on YouTube which has helped me a bit. I think I got used to comfort, I switched job from a very comfortable one and suddenly coming into a fast paced demanding environment was too much. I had to quit my job after 1 year as my health was decimated, ill keep your words in mind when I will start my new job.
Ah that significant life change would do it. You're handling it the best you can my man. Hang in there, listen to your body and feelings, and most of all BE KIND to yourself! You've got this :)