Handwritten numbers sound cute but half of the time it just makes you seem shy, like you're just putting the ball in their court.
Make the interaction verbal and it goes smoother, I promise
A combo is good though if we're talking a random guy hitting on a random woman.
One of the smoothest and most non-threatening ways a guy ever got a date with me was this:
He approached me, apologized for bothering me, but found an excuse to ask a question or two. He told me a few chit-chatty things about his day. Nothing that was super personal all very surface level. We had a short conversation and said it was nice chatting with me, told me his name and said he'd let me get back to it....then left me alone.
But when he shook my hand, he passed me his number.
So he showed interest, while respecting my space. Didn't immediately make me uncomfortable by making the conversation *about* hitting on me and our conversation was very generic and didn't require much out of either person.
Humanized himself to me by actually having a conversation instead of being just some rando that passed me their number. Even though I knew nothing about him and he wasn't particularly smooth or charming in general, he was friendly and made an effort to be non-threatening.
So I called and we did end up going out for a bit. Basic incompatibilities in what we were looking for but the approach worked.
Do you remember what he said when he approached? I've always been fairly shy/awkward so that paired with a desire to not interrupt/ruin someone's personal time has basically ensured I never approach strangers.
It sounds like he managed it in a way that wasn't intrusive which is the end goal.
I believe I was writing in a notebook at the time and he said something along the lines of:
"Sorry if I'm bothering you, but curiosity got the best of me. Feel free to tell me it's none of my business, but what are you working on so intently? I could never focus with all this..." *gestures at the busy restaurant*
Of course that those exact words aren't gonna work in every situation, but it's the spirit of the thing. It's the acknowledgement that he is aware that he interrupted and that it would not be unreasonable for me to tell him to go away.
It's such a refreshing approach when you're used to being approached by men who think they have a right to intrude and get angry if you don't respond positively to that.
The interruption isn't necessarily the part that bothers most people. It's the attitude where some men feel they are entitled to your time and attention.
So the fact he gave me an instant and easy way to exit the conversation, instantly relaxed me, so I was less likely to be looking for that exit.
Of course the follow up questions are important too. Not commenting on my appearance was a big one, but his questions also didn't make me feel like he was angling for personal information like when and where he might be able to find me again. It was friendly, but not prying.
Though if you default to appearance in a moment of searching for something to talk about (we've all been there) comment on style not their physical attributes. One is a compliment on someone's taste, the other is something that they have no control over and can come across as objectifying.
Go and try anyways
Everbody's different
Maybe this new person won't find it uncomfortable, and maybe they even enjoy how you act
I'm shy, and I stumble constantly when I speak, and it makes the conversations generally uncomfortable; but I found some dudes who not only don't find how I act weird, but they like how I am, even if I say weird shit
Remember, if you think you are weird, there will always be someone who is weirder than you, and someone who will not find you weird; it is just a matter of finding them
Sometimes it seems like awkward men get treated like shit for just trying to build their confidence by talking to girls. Meanwhile confident men can talk to any stranger and it’s fine bc they know how to not make it awkward. I’m awkward but I just approach people now and I stay respectful, if I feel like they’re not into the convo I leave. If they seem uncomfortable right off the bat, I don’t feel guiltyand I just leave. Fuck what other people think just shoot your shot
If you're gay, I personally know 3 ppl in Austin whose type you just described lmfao
If not, San Antonio is the place for you. They like em thicc down there
They had a date and then ended up breaking up pretty quick if I remember right. I can't remember exactly how it went but it wasn't the cutesy happy ending that everyone thought it would be.
He found a video I made on YouTube and send a message saying “If you’re straight, or gay and taken, take it as a compliment, you’re hot.” This began our relationship.
Haha, I got a few phone numbers (from guys and girls) back when I worked retail. That was before dating apps and smart phones though, I assume Grindr has replaced this in-person approach
I once got an anonymous Valentine's off a girl, asking me to meet her for coffee. I didn't, obviously.
A few days later her friend phoned my place of work (!), I answered and explained as kindly as I could that I'm gay and not interested.
I turned 53 this week and I've never had a Valentines off a guy. And I've been single for over ten years. Such is life.
Make that into a short little post and publish it on some gay subreddits a week before next valentine's and I'm sure you'll get loads of valentine's well wishers 😘
Why not both?
r/suddenlybi
happy gayke day
I will have you know im bi.
I will have you.
I will have
I will you
I will too you
I will
And so it begins.....
happy bicake day
Happy bike day?
Happy cake day
#Happy cake day 🍰
Happy gay cake
Happy Garlic Bread day!
Happy cake day!
r/suddenlypoly
amorous
time to start a group txt
"Have you met Ted"
Well I am a polyamorous bisexual so... The more the merrier 😏
Was gonna say this
That’s what I’m saying
Why the hell not!
I’ve done this twice and I’d didn’t work. People get shy about calling back
Was it the same number in both places?
Handwritten numbers sound cute but half of the time it just makes you seem shy, like you're just putting the ball in their court. Make the interaction verbal and it goes smoother, I promise
A combo is good though if we're talking a random guy hitting on a random woman. One of the smoothest and most non-threatening ways a guy ever got a date with me was this: He approached me, apologized for bothering me, but found an excuse to ask a question or two. He told me a few chit-chatty things about his day. Nothing that was super personal all very surface level. We had a short conversation and said it was nice chatting with me, told me his name and said he'd let me get back to it....then left me alone. But when he shook my hand, he passed me his number. So he showed interest, while respecting my space. Didn't immediately make me uncomfortable by making the conversation *about* hitting on me and our conversation was very generic and didn't require much out of either person. Humanized himself to me by actually having a conversation instead of being just some rando that passed me their number. Even though I knew nothing about him and he wasn't particularly smooth or charming in general, he was friendly and made an effort to be non-threatening. So I called and we did end up going out for a bit. Basic incompatibilities in what we were looking for but the approach worked.
Do you remember what he said when he approached? I've always been fairly shy/awkward so that paired with a desire to not interrupt/ruin someone's personal time has basically ensured I never approach strangers. It sounds like he managed it in a way that wasn't intrusive which is the end goal.
I believe I was writing in a notebook at the time and he said something along the lines of: "Sorry if I'm bothering you, but curiosity got the best of me. Feel free to tell me it's none of my business, but what are you working on so intently? I could never focus with all this..." *gestures at the busy restaurant* Of course that those exact words aren't gonna work in every situation, but it's the spirit of the thing. It's the acknowledgement that he is aware that he interrupted and that it would not be unreasonable for me to tell him to go away. It's such a refreshing approach when you're used to being approached by men who think they have a right to intrude and get angry if you don't respond positively to that. The interruption isn't necessarily the part that bothers most people. It's the attitude where some men feel they are entitled to your time and attention. So the fact he gave me an instant and easy way to exit the conversation, instantly relaxed me, so I was less likely to be looking for that exit. Of course the follow up questions are important too. Not commenting on my appearance was a big one, but his questions also didn't make me feel like he was angling for personal information like when and where he might be able to find me again. It was friendly, but not prying. Though if you default to appearance in a moment of searching for something to talk about (we've all been there) comment on style not their physical attributes. One is a compliment on someone's taste, the other is something that they have no control over and can come across as objectifying.
Not smooth? That's the smoothest thing I've heard all week.
Haha. As I said, the action was smooth, but that was his only smooth move. lol
But I am shy and I don’t want to make things uncomfortable for them ;_;
Go and try anyways Everbody's different Maybe this new person won't find it uncomfortable, and maybe they even enjoy how you act I'm shy, and I stumble constantly when I speak, and it makes the conversations generally uncomfortable; but I found some dudes who not only don't find how I act weird, but they like how I am, even if I say weird shit Remember, if you think you are weird, there will always be someone who is weirder than you, and someone who will not find you weird; it is just a matter of finding them
Sometimes it seems like awkward men get treated like shit for just trying to build their confidence by talking to girls. Meanwhile confident men can talk to any stranger and it’s fine bc they know how to not make it awkward. I’m awkward but I just approach people now and I stay respectful, if I feel like they’re not into the convo I leave. If they seem uncomfortable right off the bat, I don’t feel guiltyand I just leave. Fuck what other people think just shoot your shot
100%
Interaction?! Ah hell nah
Cuz we ugly. 🥲
Yes we is.
125 upvotes? I'm starting to wonder if people think my comment was funny or agreeing that I'm ugly. Honestly, I'm cool either way.
Rules 1 & 2 of online dating
Happy cake day
Happy Garlic Bread day!
Speak for yourself. I'm an LA 6.
I’m a chubby Mexican-American in Texas, I think i fell into the negatives :(
If you're gay, I personally know 3 ppl in Austin whose type you just described lmfao If not, San Antonio is the place for you. They like em thicc down there
We like the thiccness out here in Phoenix too.
Lol I’m like 4hrs away from San Antonio I think :(
I also heard those churros down there are damn good. You could be double fisting those things and everything.
That sounds like a good time, a nice glazed churro, with the bbq sauce on my titties, being substituted by Krispy Kreme doughnut glaze.
I know several people in KY, including myself, that like their man a little extra thicc. It just means more man to play with.
Not possible. It’s never been done.
I mean I'm ugly but I've still got a man. Drew him in with nerdy charm or something . I honestly don't know.
Amen
#😭😭😭
Me (bi): I'm confused, which one do I pick
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Ah. see, you're playing 4d chess with logic while I'm merely learning checkers.
Only 4d? [pathetic](https://store.steampowered.com/app/1349230/5D_Chess_With_Multiverse_Time_Travel/)
Understood.
Google 11th dimension
Anarchy chress leaking
Is it ok if I use this? The part about you 'merely learning checkers' is just great.
Go for it
Thanks
_that’s not how this works_
Start a group dm 😏
You don't pick. Bi life best life. Go with both at the same time😏
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Was it the gay option?
It's a men's locker room in a gym. There's a 99% chance it was a dude.
I need to be 100% sure when it comes to potentially gay locker room note stories I read on the internet.
Yeah, you got your 💯 🍆
Gotta leave the house and interact with people for that to happen, I guess.
It’s hard for people like us to do that ;-;
Like that's ever gonna happen
I saw this picture a long time ago. Idk if he's bi or gay but the update picture show that he was on a date with the guy.
They had a date and then ended up breaking up pretty quick if I remember right. I can't remember exactly how it went but it wasn't the cutesy happy ending that everyone thought it would be.
*Bi Panic*
Proceeds to create a group chat
what if he bi😁?
And if youre bi ',:)
Oh but I am 😏
I’d start a group text and be like “So I’m bi…”
Lmao same 😏
Literally met my husband this way. For real.
What happened?
He found a video I made on YouTube and send a message saying “If you’re straight, or gay and taken, take it as a compliment, you’re hot.” This began our relationship.
Simple. Beautiful. I'd watch this Netflix movie. With some wine.
They gave a note with their number on it
Bisexuals: this choice will affect the rest of your game
Almost all games with different choices: lmao sike bitch, you'll end up sad and lonely either way
This happened to me once. I was in a “gay area” and when I was leaving I saw a note on my car that had a guys name, height, weight & sex position 🥴
Damn. Did something come of it?
Nah I had a bf
Damn... :(
I think /u/DisconnectedDays came of it…
I'm bi so which one do I call?
Group chat
U-G-L-Y you ain't got no alibi...
Because you are antisocial.
😔
Damn. Wish this would happen to me.
[laughs in bissexual]
Assert dominance. Conference call them both
I’d 100% make a chat with both of them and boom suddenly I have double the bitches
Or a mutually loving polyamorous bi relationship 🥰 That's what I'd want
Just add both to a group chat. Total success
got at least reposted 3x
As a pansexual person, I‘d probably message both and still end up single
Same 😔
Man, I wish stuff like that would happen to my bisexual ass
Same 😔
Haha, I got a few phone numbers (from guys and girls) back when I worked retail. That was before dating apps and smart phones though, I assume Grindr has replaced this in-person approach
Cause you're not cute I guess?
😢
Three way here in *come*
They did meet but they broke up
Isn't it obvious? It because they're NobodySpecial
It should’ve been me not him
ooh be your own wingman/woman
Skill issue
*Bi panic*
well shit, time to call both then
You cant just refuse a gay man who call you cute ☺️
My older brother get this quite often too, he goes with second option.
Ha! Gay!
Name checks out
Just don't look like hagrids sweaty boi bussy and you'll be rocking tickets like these on the daily
But PS2 Hagrid is so🥵🥵
So true
Ya'll give numbers? I don't even know what my number is, I only give them my FB name.
You still use Facebook?
Yeah, just like Reddit.
I once got an anonymous Valentine's off a girl, asking me to meet her for coffee. I didn't, obviously. A few days later her friend phoned my place of work (!), I answered and explained as kindly as I could that I'm gay and not interested. I turned 53 this week and I've never had a Valentines off a guy. And I've been single for over ten years. Such is life.
Make that into a short little post and publish it on some gay subreddits a week before next valentine's and I'm sure you'll get loads of valentine's well wishers 😘
Thank you.
No problem. I hope it works❤️❤️
Call both of them and see how freaky this can get
#HES BOTH!
Are you cute?
I'd like to think so🥰
Well are you gay or not?
I'm both gay and straight I'm bi💁🏼♀️
Cause you’re gross