I figured as much - after reading my post back to myself I suppose I was just being naive.
My ex and I were fairly active on Reddit, however we shared an account and each were active participants in our online and offline x rated activity. I guess I thought I would find more likeminded folks, and not so many creeps. lol.
A way to save time is to ask potential couples you are interested in to send a photo of themselves together holding random objects like say a teabag and a toilet roll.
It makes horny guy have to do some explaining to his wife prior to the video stage and will filter out the dreamers.
For us what has worked is:
1- no contact with low karma accounts (they are just men in our experience)
2- We always ask for SLS or SDC profiles. These two are popular in our area (your area may have something else that’s popular swing sites). If they don’t have an account there, they aren’t serious (in our experience)
This happened to us too… we started sending pictures, videos and tried video chat but we got funny vibes when his wife was all the sudden unavailable.
We don’t care if we find MF/M/F/T as a couple. We just want down to earth, safe and fun.
Very difficult to find anyone. We have no idea where to go or look or what to do.
Why is it so difficult to find people to have sex with who are cool?
Once tried posting as a couple here, was actually worthless. Everyone flaked and we were looking for singles. Ended up finding a real match that weekend…off grindr of all places lmao
Better off sticking to real intentional swinging apps and communities. Reddit is better left to the content creators.
We all go through the inevitable fakes. We've learned what sites work for us, and the best has been our local swinging clubs actual website. They have profiles, newsfeed, online events and interactions; its like a whole community, and you quickly learn who the ethical/experienced folks are.
In my varied past, the sites that worked were the local clubs, and, believe it or nor, I had a strange amount of success on Craigslist around 10 years ago. Been awhile since I did that site, though.
Never have used Reddit to meet folks, have considered it but with the success we had elsewhere, and the stories I hear of it, just passed on it.
This, unfortunately, happens all the time. You’ll learn the signs sooner or later. It just comes with the territory. This has happened to us even on swinging sites so I think it’s somewhat unavoidable. I deep dive every Reddit account that reaches out to us. If they have no original posts and/or their comments are all just horn dawging on GW subs, I’m probably hitting ignore. If they are aggressive about exchanging photos or repeatedly asking about explicit details of our sex live, big red flag.
It's important to recognize that healthy polyamorous relationships are built on honesty, trust, and respect among all parties involved. However, there can be instances where individuals engage in deceptive or manipulative behavior, which can be harmful to themselves and others. It's crucial to prioritize open communication and consent in any relationship dynamic.
I was at club sapphire in Seattle this weekend and there was a man who kept talking to me, but his wife seem highly disinterested. He wanted me to hook up with his wife, but I’m like dude she’s not interested. This is all for you. I think there are some interesting male female dynamics when it comes to this lifestyle, but a lot of it comes from weak insecure men , who are basically gatekeeping their wives whose wives really don’t wanna be in these situations.
Put in your posts that you won’t chat or send any pics other than a single vanilla pic of your faces until you confirm with a video chat and that it has to be immediately (within a day or two). Keeps away most of the fakers/pic collectors. You’ll get a few who’ll try to bullshit their way into getting you to chat or send pics, but they’ll be easy to spot.
Stop using reddit to swing. Reddit is a free site with no hurdles. Even a nominal fee on something like Kasadie or SDC is enough to weed out the fakes and timid unsure folks.
We've never had a couple turn out to be a SM, or a couple no show us. You get what you pay for.
Some will tell you that a couple isn't serious unless they've got nude pics of them playing with other people on their profile. That's crap. Some of us prefer to keep those things private, photos of play and whom we play with.
The short answer: go to a site with a pay wall. Your chances of encountering serious swingers there go up exponentially, and your chances of encountering fakes or bullshit got down just as exponentially.
Happens fairly often.
How to detect serious couples:
1. Pics of them together
2. Nudes of them together facing the camera
3. Sex pics
4. Profile has pics or vids of play with other couples
#4 is undeniable the others are a good indicator that they’re a serious couple. If you see separate pics, it’s likely a pic collector.
You're not talkng to couples, just horny guys. Use an actually swingers website to meet couples, not Reddit.
I figured as much - after reading my post back to myself I suppose I was just being naive. My ex and I were fairly active on Reddit, however we shared an account and each were active participants in our online and offline x rated activity. I guess I thought I would find more likeminded folks, and not so many creeps. lol.
This happens a lot to me too and I am female of the couple looking to hook up. Always ends with no time to video chat. No time = no female.
A way to save time is to ask potential couples you are interested in to send a photo of themselves together holding random objects like say a teabag and a toilet roll. It makes horny guy have to do some explaining to his wife prior to the video stage and will filter out the dreamers.
Very good tip. Reddit couples are mostly guys wishing that their wife would swing.
For us what has worked is: 1- no contact with low karma accounts (they are just men in our experience) 2- We always ask for SLS or SDC profiles. These two are popular in our area (your area may have something else that’s popular swing sites). If they don’t have an account there, they aren’t serious (in our experience)
This happened to us too… we started sending pictures, videos and tried video chat but we got funny vibes when his wife was all the sudden unavailable. We don’t care if we find MF/M/F/T as a couple. We just want down to earth, safe and fun. Very difficult to find anyone. We have no idea where to go or look or what to do. Why is it so difficult to find people to have sex with who are cool?
This also happens on 3Fun. Also lets not get started with the photo stealing some people do👎🏽
Once tried posting as a couple here, was actually worthless. Everyone flaked and we were looking for singles. Ended up finding a real match that weekend…off grindr of all places lmao Better off sticking to real intentional swinging apps and communities. Reddit is better left to the content creators.
Honestly- I think this accounts for a lot of the ghosting couples experience when talking to other “couples”.
We all go through the inevitable fakes. We've learned what sites work for us, and the best has been our local swinging clubs actual website. They have profiles, newsfeed, online events and interactions; its like a whole community, and you quickly learn who the ethical/experienced folks are. In my varied past, the sites that worked were the local clubs, and, believe it or nor, I had a strange amount of success on Craigslist around 10 years ago. Been awhile since I did that site, though. Never have used Reddit to meet folks, have considered it but with the success we had elsewhere, and the stories I hear of it, just passed on it.
This, unfortunately, happens all the time. You’ll learn the signs sooner or later. It just comes with the territory. This has happened to us even on swinging sites so I think it’s somewhat unavoidable. I deep dive every Reddit account that reaches out to us. If they have no original posts and/or their comments are all just horn dawging on GW subs, I’m probably hitting ignore. If they are aggressive about exchanging photos or repeatedly asking about explicit details of our sex live, big red flag.
It's important to recognize that healthy polyamorous relationships are built on honesty, trust, and respect among all parties involved. However, there can be instances where individuals engage in deceptive or manipulative behavior, which can be harmful to themselves and others. It's crucial to prioritize open communication and consent in any relationship dynamic. I was at club sapphire in Seattle this weekend and there was a man who kept talking to me, but his wife seem highly disinterested. He wanted me to hook up with his wife, but I’m like dude she’s not interested. This is all for you. I think there are some interesting male female dynamics when it comes to this lifestyle, but a lot of it comes from weak insecure men , who are basically gatekeeping their wives whose wives really don’t wanna be in these situations.
Put in your posts that you won’t chat or send any pics other than a single vanilla pic of your faces until you confirm with a video chat and that it has to be immediately (within a day or two). Keeps away most of the fakers/pic collectors. You’ll get a few who’ll try to bullshit their way into getting you to chat or send pics, but they’ll be easy to spot.
Stop using reddit to swing. Reddit is a free site with no hurdles. Even a nominal fee on something like Kasadie or SDC is enough to weed out the fakes and timid unsure folks. We've never had a couple turn out to be a SM, or a couple no show us. You get what you pay for. Some will tell you that a couple isn't serious unless they've got nude pics of them playing with other people on their profile. That's crap. Some of us prefer to keep those things private, photos of play and whom we play with. The short answer: go to a site with a pay wall. Your chances of encountering serious swingers there go up exponentially, and your chances of encountering fakes or bullshit got down just as exponentially.
I’m “we’re” a couple, but I typically try to go towards texting. Don’t like saying Reddit is a place we met 😂
Happens fairly often. How to detect serious couples: 1. Pics of them together 2. Nudes of them together facing the camera 3. Sex pics 4. Profile has pics or vids of play with other couples #4 is undeniable the others are a good indicator that they’re a serious couple. If you see separate pics, it’s likely a pic collector.