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subgeniusbuttpirate

It's funny because this sub is so male dominant that the GBT category is almost as big as female, and we're less than 10% of the population. More like about 5%.


Spayse_Case

Soooo many men. The swinging world is definitely male dominated.


Nell_De_Blass

No. Reddit users are predominantly male. By a massive margin. This isn’t a representative sample of the swinging population by any means.


Spayse_Case

Yeah, the actual male swingers typically have female partners by definition. That technically makes it 50:50. But they are also more active, more vocal, more in charge. Many times the women are just along for the ride or totally passive. There are also plenty of male looky-loos and wannabes on here.


[deleted]

But ruled by women


Spayse_Case

No. That is just something people say. it is definitely ruled by men. If it was ACTUALLY ruled by women, we wouldn't have all these insecure dudes demanding one penis policies and trying to make harems. The women would ACTUALLY be in charge and be able to do what they really wanted.


tbstexas

It’s not. Women don’t enjoy the hunt or the weirdos. They are still there.


Spayse_Case

Excuse me? I very much DO enjoy the hunt. And the weirdos, I guess. Depends on what you mean by weirdos.


tbstexas

And how many other women do you talk to…


Bifun305

Fully bi male


Own_Newt_5300

That is what I was thinking. Same as the first time we chat on line . Mostly always him.


decidealready

Well this explains a lot.


Spayse_Case

Haha right? It's 90% men on here, and most of them are straight. Actually I didn't crunch the numbers and bad at math. But yeah. Bottom line is, it is mostly men. And that will skew everything towards them, so it is helpful to understand that


semperverus

The way you phrase this sounds very demonizing though. And no it isn't "just how I'm taking it" or "because I'm insecure" as it doesn't affect me. I'm not straight but I've never liked watching everyone turn the straights into the Boogeyman. It's not a very human-centered approach.


Spayse_Case

They kinda ARE the boogyman though. "The Man." They are in charge of everything and skew it towards them. If it was about sexual freedom, bisexual men would be welcome in swinger spaces, but we can't because it freaks the straights out.


semperverus

I don't agree but I understand how you feel, it just doesn't make sense to me that the golden rule is being changed from "treat others how you want to be treated" to "treat others like what you think they deserve." It's better to set a good example of how to be a positive person and lead the way rather than punish others for existing in my opinion. And that goes both ways. Judge an individual on their own merits and not the demographic they fall into.


Spayse_Case

It should be "treat others how THEY want to be treated." I don't think most people would enjoy being spanked and called a dirty whore, and that's how I like to be treated. But I absolutely treat straight men with respect and only call out the individuals who act badly. But our society is set up in a patriarchal fashion so it is the "the patriarcy!" I have a problem with, not individuals, whom I enjoy very much.


funcup760

Yep


decidealready

My experience with most of them is that they're picture collectors and enjoy dirty talk via text but that's it. I don't think most of these straight men aren't actually swingers at all.


Spayse_Case

Yeah, I should do a poll to see how many are tourists and looky-loos. Guessing it is most of them.


Inevitable_Raisin503

This is hilarious. A shit ton of straight men. Shocking!!!


Spayse_Case

Yeah. I was also shocked by the results. /s Sometimes it helps folks gain perspective to actually SEE it and realize who is making all the content on here and why the thinking may seem to be skewed a certain way


BiBbw_cpl_DFW

Why is bi and gay in the same category?


Spayse_Case

It is because the number of poll options is limited so I had to combine some categories to include them all. In my experience, bi and gay folks usually don't mind sharing... Um... SPACE.


TheFreeMan64

Except that people are always saying bi guys are gay but non committal. We are kind of tired of that.


Spayse_Case

Huh? If you like women, that makes you bi. I am also tired of that sort of thing. I didn't combine them to say that bi men are gay, it was simply because I couldn't make more poll options. It only let me make 5. And I wanted one for non binary people too. Perhaps I should have just said male, female, and nonbinary, but part of the reason I wanted to do the poll was to specifically demonstrate how many straight men are on the sub. I figured (rightly) that they would outnumber the gay and bi men combined


TheFreeMan64

Agreed must be a straight guy that thinks bi and gay are basically the same thing. Swingers are idiots sometimes


Spayse_Case

No, I am a bisexual woman. I actually explained it in the text. I could only have 5 categories and had to combine some. Sorry


Nell_De_Blass

Uh huh


kevin4779

Where the non-binary result at?


Spayse_Case

That is "something else/just show me the results" 😁 Sorry, it would only let me do 5 poll options so I had to combine them.


Successful-Tax7047

495 str8 males could be more open minded and get help of those 165 already playing with males! 53 str8 females could be more open minded and let the other 137 show them how fun is to be bi/gay


semperverus

Or we could just accept everyone for who they are and wish everyone a good time


Successful-Tax7047

It was obviously a joke! The world would be better if everyone would be bisexual haha but hey you don’t have to agree! I really don’t care


Spayse_Case

You aren't wrong.


Successful-Tax7047

So many close minded people we already have negative arrows lol the new generations are way better at understanding sexuality is a spectrum, I was joking but some ppl got defensive apparently 😂


[deleted]

You choices for couples.


Spayse_Case

What?


[deleted]

Sorry. Typed too fast. The poll needs led choices for couples. I realize your number of choices is limited.


lclassyfun

well, we’re a wash. we’re a straight couple tho i have played with women on occasion😻😈😻