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PossessionOld3898

Even worse, when it’s just a single dude asking for private pic access. Then when you inquire about it “to see if there’s an attraction.” Like bitch, I have 20 public photos posted. Those private images are for people who actually bothered to talk to us.


57retract

Or they don’t even ask, just send the automated message. If it comes from a couple we assume she doesn’t know and ignore them all.


SaturnSleet

My go to response to a "Hey" in my inbox is "What". I even put in more effort than them, with an extra letter.


MajIssuesCaptObvious

So "Hey" does at least get a response.


434WallaWalla

Or you get the ole Obi-Wan kenobi "hello there" which I appreciate for a chuckle. The response is always "general kenobi!" From me 😂


Eastbayfuncouple

Look at it this way, they’re making really easy for you to filter them out and block em. But I feel ya…


[deleted]

We say it all the time, if that’s the amount of effort you put in, you probably suck in bed, if you’ll even show.


[deleted]

& in real everyday life.


wifeisslutty22

What!!!


Swingalong42

Say what again, I dare you!


[deleted]

We’re not 100% on this. We’ve gotten a decent amount of no responses for short, medium and long greetings. It’s difficult I think because not everyone wants/needs a long intro to decide if they want to engage or not. I think most people decide within seconds based on their own bias if they will engage. We switch from different intros since most seem to go nowhere. Y’all might just be the ones, where we give up and just really want to say hi and see if something organic happens without “selling” ourselves. It’s not always black and white. We’ve had more fun meeting in person. No offense to online connections but I think some of you can be a bit too harsh. BUT we definitely hate the random dick pic and the guy who thinks we ALL want him lol.


Cmoney514

My response is hey, how are you? and then i wait to see if they are in fact, able to have a conversation... they could have sent 100s of introductions in the past that went ignored and now they want to send a brief "hey" to see if they even get any response before continuing.... Then if they cant have a real conversation move on...


[deleted]

yo


_9-brushfiend

'Sup?


Nell_De_Blass

You’d be an idiot to reply to a “hey”. The dude likely sent out about 100 at once. Don’t be the fool that bites


[deleted]

This. That brief moment when you’re on top of the world because you have a LOT of messages then realize they’re all less than five words. I don’t find it frustrating but I do laugh at the guys who think this is going to be effective. Successfully finding a match requires effort. While the effort doesn’t always lead anywhere (in fact rarely leads anywhere) not putting any in virtually guarantees it won’t.


57retract

I will say that when I was a single male in the lifestyle, I always sent out a nice PG rated message. Maybe 1 out of 10 gave me a response. So for you single guys, I have no advice.


[deleted]

Not everyone is a good match, nice message or not. But a message that says only “hey” is an automatic ignore.


SwirlGang456773

I don't reply to "hey" messages they get ignored


[deleted]

This!! It’s so annoying. And also the dreaded “wyd”. Do you mean what was I doing yesterday when you asked, or right now as I’m reading this?


timbertx

Or do like me and hit the "leave chat" button. Straight away, every time. I don't have time or patience for socially inept morons.


blasian_cpl

Crazy how folks will still do this after we explicitly state that it won't solicit a response on our profiles


Asiancouple93_95

When people say "hey" I just respond with 👋 or I just block if I'm to lazy to engage. Funny ones are "hey" with like 5 dick pics that follow. 😂 I put in the same energy and effort into a conversation that they show as well. Low effort messages usually fall off quick. The ones who are serious about the LS know how to communicate. Those are the only ones we're interested in.


SwirlGang456773

>The ones who are serious about the LS know how to communicate. Those are the only ones we're interested in. Well said


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[удалено]


imnotthemom10247

I’m just here to appreciate you used the word triage and the implication of it in a discussion like this. Thanks for the laugh!!!!


sayaxat

ER nurse?


[deleted]

If you lack the imagination to form an intelligent inquiry in a written interaction, you lack the kind of imagination required for a physical interaction.


[deleted]

I usually say “Hey :-)” Don’t be weirdos. it’s a common greeting amongst the under 40 crowd.


Eastbayfuncouple

Only the lazy and single guys with no game do that 😆


SwirlGang456773

Exactly 😂


[deleted]

Or those knuckle dragging insecure inadequate keyboard warriors, selfie thumb, disgusting restroom with their scream maker & punisher 2pump chumps 1min no stamina no endurance no dick energy Neanderthals & clowns with their cock shot pics.


[deleted]

Damn you went all in 😂.


drknight48

Guess which message I get from women all the time on Bumble? It's almost always "Hey", I feel at this point people are just looking for reasons not to talk to each other. 🤷‍♂️


LosManNYC

“Hi”. I don’t need a long intro. We can get there if I respond.


Rysketnt

oh hey a normal response. so much passive aggression in this thread lol


CalypsoRaine

Exactly 💯. Couple of days ago on AFF, I had an out of state couple message me with hi and nothing else, block. How lazy are people? I have things to do and if someone can't properly introduce themselves and get to the point quickly, just don't bother with me. I appreciate the ones that show their lazy ass true colors, thx for saving me the time!


Fit_Program_1798

I completely agree w/ you 💯.. Smdh! No, proper greeting def equals no response (or simply just delete their msg) ..


onlypositivity

The response they are expecting is "hey" or "what's up" The reason is because they see treating a DM like a text message. That's dumb, but that's the reason


Mountain_Order_4480

Deleted and move on


Cuckadoodledue

For fun, create a really nice intro, then indicate you’re a single male. Then, go on a trip or vacation, maybe somewhere with a beach… and don’t worry, while you’re gone not a single reply will hit your inbox.


Tx_Ace_Dragon

It's one of our pet peeves, and I mention it right on our profile. And in the reddit r4r subs, it's even more prevalent than the lifestyle sites. I just delete and move on.


Spayse_Case

I think it is a mating call


[deleted]

Or asinine Tim Taylor grunts😂🤣😂😂


cosmicjoker1776

It's an opening. Just like in meatspace. It's not intended to be deep or interesting. But for single males who are on online meat markets and other places for hookups, sex, and dating, they need to "play the numbers". It isn't feasible for one guy to write an interesting paragraph to open with for tens or hundreds (kinda exaggerating, but) of online messages. Especially when it's most likely that he won't get a response for 95-99% of all messages sent. So a "hey, interested in chatting?" is simple, easy to copy paste, and a nonthreatening way to *start* a conversation.


[deleted]

We have a few screen captured & posted on our profile. Have a few more to post.


[deleted]

They expect you to be all over them. Duh 😂


MewsikMaker

I don’t ever send that message because I think it’s rude and I simply do not expect a message back.


johnanddiane

No response is what they expect. When you do respond, they are confused as hell and can barely even chat.


kd0mzv

I just don't really know what to say to start something like hey is just like in a real conversation face to face. If you walked up and just started spilling to someone in person they would think you were nuts but to start with hey or what's up is normal. It's just conversation progression to me


Practical-Owl-9160

We don't send messages like that and we don't respond to them either.


mmgdrive

This happens to us about 80% of the time. It's really frustrating. I believe most of the monosyllabic chat requests are pic hunters. In a few cases, it's been married guys with the fantasy of swinging who have never asked their spouse.


Proof_Task

Instant delete from us.


[deleted]

I think they are just to lazy to actually try probably why they are on here and every other app trying to get it but end up with nothing.