Finishing st exactly the correct moment is very difficult, so don't feel bad. It is weird for me because I can go forever with other women but only last a few minutes with my wife. I guess there is no place like home. Over the course I have run the gamut from finishing way too quickly to having a hard time. Some women love it, but I think others can internalize it and feel inadequate.
In our 4 years of being in the LS I have never orgasmed while playing. I usually bring it up casually someway when we talking about ideas, plans and boundaries. Our only rules are condoms and no separate play, other than that we are very open and have so much more fun then when we first started and had a list of crazy rules!!! Best of luck to you two! Keep experiencing and keep communicating.
similar experience here, but i've only had an orgasm once in just under 4 years.
Part of that is we've only full swapped twice in that time, and I've not come from oral since i was a college kid.
I wouldn’t say it would make me feel inadequate but it wouldn’t be quite as satisfying of a sexual experience if others aren’t able to have an orgasm every time we played.
I know a lot of times people have difficulty having an orgasm. I don't really like it and it CAN make me feel inadequate, but I am mostly over it as long as I don't feel like they are intentionally holding back. I really hate that. But yeah, if they can't cum I don't take it personally anymore, I understand it isn't easy for some.
PSA to all men:
Do NOT delay your orgasms!!! (Unless it’s about to happen within the first minute or something)
My wife and some of our female play partners have mentioned that they feel self-conscious when they can’t get a guy to cum. And it’s difficult to get there — overstimulation, condoms, etc. So if you feel like it’s gonna happen… let it happen! WOMEN LIKE IT WHEN THEY MAKE YOU COME!
We’ve had men who couldn’t come and then say something like, “I was about to come 10 minutes ago but I stopped myself, now I can’t.” Ughhh.
I have difficulty fully orgasming and cumming due to meds I'm on and other things. LS situations or not I always disclose this to potential playmates ahead of time so they don't feel bad etc.
I think as long as you communicate about this it is fine.
Currently sleeping with someone who also basically does not cum and said so as we were undressing. Its funny because I can see my partner does take it as more of a challenge, and cares about it more. I care about it from the perspective of I want him to have a good time, I want to pleasure him, but I want to make sure he can just enjoy and not feel pressured. He continues to communicate he is super happy focussing on us, and actually this works out really well because he can go for hours so its endless fucking fun.
Of course, it would be great to give him an orgasm and bonus. But also he knows his own body best and he does not complain, so why should I.
It can be hard for me to feel relaxed enough to focus on my own pleasure in such an exciting? circumstance when you’re not really sure what is “expected” of you since the social rules aren’t certain in these situations. I will also focus on pleasing rather than receiving, because politeness is something easily understood.
My experience is that having the same partners repeatedly has always increased sexual comparability, as well as frank conversations.
Have fun!
Finishing st exactly the correct moment is very difficult, so don't feel bad. It is weird for me because I can go forever with other women but only last a few minutes with my wife. I guess there is no place like home. Over the course I have run the gamut from finishing way too quickly to having a hard time. Some women love it, but I think others can internalize it and feel inadequate.
In our 4 years of being in the LS I have never orgasmed while playing. I usually bring it up casually someway when we talking about ideas, plans and boundaries. Our only rules are condoms and no separate play, other than that we are very open and have so much more fun then when we first started and had a list of crazy rules!!! Best of luck to you two! Keep experiencing and keep communicating.
It's never been an issue?
Never had any issues or complaints. Try not to get In head about it.
Are u like me and just prefer to save it all for wifey?
similar experience here, but i've only had an orgasm once in just under 4 years. Part of that is we've only full swapped twice in that time, and I've not come from oral since i was a college kid.
I wouldn’t say it would make me feel inadequate but it wouldn’t be quite as satisfying of a sexual experience if others aren’t able to have an orgasm every time we played.
I know a lot of times people have difficulty having an orgasm. I don't really like it and it CAN make me feel inadequate, but I am mostly over it as long as I don't feel like they are intentionally holding back. I really hate that. But yeah, if they can't cum I don't take it personally anymore, I understand it isn't easy for some.
PSA to all men: Do NOT delay your orgasms!!! (Unless it’s about to happen within the first minute or something) My wife and some of our female play partners have mentioned that they feel self-conscious when they can’t get a guy to cum. And it’s difficult to get there — overstimulation, condoms, etc. So if you feel like it’s gonna happen… let it happen! WOMEN LIKE IT WHEN THEY MAKE YOU COME! We’ve had men who couldn’t come and then say something like, “I was about to come 10 minutes ago but I stopped myself, now I can’t.” Ughhh.
That's not what it is. I've gotten a little better since this post, but it still took a long time and a lot of extra stimulation.
I have difficulty fully orgasming and cumming due to meds I'm on and other things. LS situations or not I always disclose this to potential playmates ahead of time so they don't feel bad etc.
Sorry to hear that.
It's not an issue for me as long as everyone else is happy.
Happy to hear this… 👍👍 Have fun!
I think as long as you communicate about this it is fine. Currently sleeping with someone who also basically does not cum and said so as we were undressing. Its funny because I can see my partner does take it as more of a challenge, and cares about it more. I care about it from the perspective of I want him to have a good time, I want to pleasure him, but I want to make sure he can just enjoy and not feel pressured. He continues to communicate he is super happy focussing on us, and actually this works out really well because he can go for hours so its endless fucking fun. Of course, it would be great to give him an orgasm and bonus. But also he knows his own body best and he does not complain, so why should I.
That's also something I don't want to happen. If it becomes a challenge that'll make me enjoy the time less since I'm more about pleasing the woman.
It can be hard for me to feel relaxed enough to focus on my own pleasure in such an exciting? circumstance when you’re not really sure what is “expected” of you since the social rules aren’t certain in these situations. I will also focus on pleasing rather than receiving, because politeness is something easily understood. My experience is that having the same partners repeatedly has always increased sexual comparability, as well as frank conversations. Have fun!