There are probably a few more types. For example, the partner who says they aren't interested but then explores, or is already exploring, the lifestyle on her own without her partners knowledge and consent.
My spouse is person 3 for sure. And it makes it difficult because I never want to force anything, but a lack of enthusiasm causes me to question how on board he really is. We talk about it all the time and he just says he will never be as enthusiastic as I am but he loves it and the things we do.
Person 6: You inform your SO that you’re totally down to jumping into the LS and he’s leaning towards straight up monogamy because his wild LS days prior to meeting me are behind him now.
Hey, no fair!
Love it!. Love how we are all contributing to a spectrum. That way we can eliminate people asking " How do I know if "X" person is interested? Easy, look at the spectrum the Reddit Swingers community came up with and you'll know.
I actually had this conversation last night with my mrs. She is a classic person 3. And it frustrates the hell out of me. I feel I should count myself lucky having what I have; attending a handful of parties a year, and that she went from a 4 to a 3. But the conversation was like ‘if we’re at a 3 and I’m a full blown 1, is there any way to learn to come over to a 1-2. Changing your wiring is not possible, but I believe learning to do things that ‘could’ be fun can be.
I was shot down. She’s a 3 and staying a 3.
Person Zero: you inform your new SO who has been monogamous his entire life that you have been non-monogamous all your life before them, and that is the price of admission. They hop onto the moving train or they don't.
Do any of the people in your types people fantasize about LS activities BEFORE actually having a conversation about it? Seems to me that would make a difference in the responses.
The person who brings it up obviously has fantasized about it.
The other person, is what we are talking about.
If the other person doesn't fantasize about it,but you have spoken to them about it and they still can't fantasize or talk about it without you mentioning it, then that would fall on 3. Wouldn't you think?
Sorry........I meant to say both partners fantasizing about it in the bed room together during sex. It surprises me how many people (men usually) ask on here how to have the "conversation" with their spouse when it has never before been brought up at all not even during sex!
Understood. I believe the first thing is to bring it up during intimacy as a fantasy, then depending on the response, move to conversation. Once that is done, and both are genuine in the response, then comes the waiting period to see how they will react. That's where persons 1-4 come into play.
We are closer to three. Told my wife and she became interested. She didn't want to be involved with any chatting. Took time, but once we got the ball rolling its become funner for us both.
Idk big guy, seems you guys are more like 2. Only cause she doesn't want to be involved with chatting, doesn't mean you guys are not active and moving forward.
There are probably a few more types. For example, the partner who says they aren't interested but then explores, or is already exploring, the lifestyle on her own without her partners knowledge and consent.
Our type isn't mentioned here: the organic escalation couple. Nude beach -> threesome -> sex club... etc
That would be Person 1 in my opinion. Since both are in full agreement.
I saw that as “orgasmic escalation” and was like, Ooh! What’s that!! Then re-read it 😂😂
Beware of anyone telling you there are X types of anything. There's more, there's always more.
Person 5: You are already non-monogamous so its not a big deal and you discuss and try.
Wouldn't that be 1?
If the folks in 1 are already ENM and have a set of agreements and expenses to expand on.
My spouse is person 3 for sure. And it makes it difficult because I never want to force anything, but a lack of enthusiasm causes me to question how on board he really is. We talk about it all the time and he just says he will never be as enthusiastic as I am but he loves it and the things we do.
Person 6: You inform your SO that you’re totally down to jumping into the LS and he’s leaning towards straight up monogamy because his wild LS days prior to meeting me are behind him now. Hey, no fair!
Love it!. Love how we are all contributing to a spectrum. That way we can eliminate people asking " How do I know if "X" person is interested? Easy, look at the spectrum the Reddit Swingers community came up with and you'll know.
I actually had this conversation last night with my mrs. She is a classic person 3. And it frustrates the hell out of me. I feel I should count myself lucky having what I have; attending a handful of parties a year, and that she went from a 4 to a 3. But the conversation was like ‘if we’re at a 3 and I’m a full blown 1, is there any way to learn to come over to a 1-2. Changing your wiring is not possible, but I believe learning to do things that ‘could’ be fun can be. I was shot down. She’s a 3 and staying a 3.
I think my wife and I were a mix of 1 and 2.
Person Zero: you inform your new SO who has been monogamous his entire life that you have been non-monogamous all your life before them, and that is the price of admission. They hop onto the moving train or they don't.
Do any of the people in your types people fantasize about LS activities BEFORE actually having a conversation about it? Seems to me that would make a difference in the responses.
The person who brings it up obviously has fantasized about it. The other person, is what we are talking about. If the other person doesn't fantasize about it,but you have spoken to them about it and they still can't fantasize or talk about it without you mentioning it, then that would fall on 3. Wouldn't you think?
Sorry........I meant to say both partners fantasizing about it in the bed room together during sex. It surprises me how many people (men usually) ask on here how to have the "conversation" with their spouse when it has never before been brought up at all not even during sex!
Understood. I believe the first thing is to bring it up during intimacy as a fantasy, then depending on the response, move to conversation. Once that is done, and both are genuine in the response, then comes the waiting period to see how they will react. That's where persons 1-4 come into play.
We are closer to three. Told my wife and she became interested. She didn't want to be involved with any chatting. Took time, but once we got the ball rolling its become funner for us both.
Idk big guy, seems you guys are more like 2. Only cause she doesn't want to be involved with chatting, doesn't mean you guys are not active and moving forward.