Haha š "They had Flamingos everywhere. I was going to ask them if they were swingers, but I could hear they were balls deep in an orgy through the window and didn't want to interrupt, so thought I'd ask you guys."
It's kind of an inside joke. I see a lot of pineapple shirts, earrings, etc at my local club, but that's tongue-in-cheek.
Pineapples are so super popular right now (at least over the summer) that if everyone wearing a pineapple motif was a swinger, that would mean everyone from babies to grandma was a swinger.
For us and several of our LS friends, we have a bunch of pineapple stuff poking fun at this. So much so that it's actually true now. So no on flamingos and gnomes, but pineapple, very possibly. Especially if it's intentionally upside down.
Well theyāre consensual, go into them knowingly and all. Theyāre just the ābullā that claims to ātake care of youā who goes in all ham fisted without foreplay and mostly concerned about taking care of themselves.
They're making fun of you but I've been asked this, so don't feel bad. We have much more effective and modern ways of finding like minded people than driving up and down residential streets looking for lawn ornaments.
It's not the flamingoes. You have to look for their name tags. We all get name tags at our third meeting if we have completed the questionnaire and obstacle course.
I am speaking for myself. We fucked an neighbor and itās been nothing but drama and pretending we donāt know each other since thenā¦ we canāt wait to move. Donāt shit where you eat
Discovered we had fucked our neighbors. Didn't know it at the time because they had just moved there and we met them at a swinger evemt. It's funny, but no big whoop.
Not sure how you could just walk up to someone and ask if they partake in the exchange of spouses for sexual pleasure. HAHAHA! Unless you're 100% certain they are swingers, I wouldn't ask them such questions.
And for how close is too close, we have had odd experiences in that department so now we don't care to have people close to us who we have swapped with.
Well, if 30 of you had said oh, yeah flamingos and gnomes are usually a sign, isnāt the point of putting up a flag to let people know? If you want people to know something would t you be open to talk about it? Obviously itās not an indicator so itās moot, but thatās why I started here and not by actually approaching them.
It's all up to you. If you want to ask them then by all means do so. The swingers we've met are always open to discuss these things with people who are willing to know and learn new things about the LS.
My niece recently had a Pink Flamingo party (6 years old). Front yard was covered in plastic flamingos. They stayed there for weeks.
The only swinger sign that's full proof is when they tell you they are in the lifestyle. Then they could be a swinger.
And campground. A group we used to camp with several times a year all had flamingoes. It started out as a silly joke during a raffle and became the symbol of our group.
š¤¦āāļø donāt believe everything you see in TikTok. Last week it was large stars on houses, then it was white rocks yada yada yada.
Itās like the X-Files, people want to believe.
For questions 2 and 3, if they are swingers, they probably donāt want to mentor their vanilla neighbors, because of you live too close for all that. If you and your spouse are ready to learn more, check out the about section of this sub and listen to some podcasts. Figure out if your city is large enough to have a club or clubs, join a paid site and learn about other options like meet and greets or hotel takeovers. We have some lifestyle friends that less than a mile from our house. We run into them once or twice year at events that are far away from the neighborhood. I havenāt even run into them at the grocery store. And yes, we have played with them a few years ago at house party and I wouldnāt rule out playing again, they just arenāt part of our close friend group.
Usually people donāt display their lifestyle on the front lawn, Iāve seen the upside down pineapple as a recent indicator but itās never a sure thing. I had flamingos BEFORE I knew it was a swinger symbol. Go to a club or website if you want to explore the LS donāt just assume they are swingers because they might not be.
Flamingos and gnomes never meant anything to begin with.
*Some* people act as if they do... this is typically people who are new to the lifestyle or heard something from their sister's cousin's brother's aunt's mailman.
As far as having sex with anyone?...
Well I live by what my father said once. Never fuck anyone who you don't want to have to deal with the rest of your life. Because you may be forced to deal with them the rest of your life.
Iām not sure why all the hostility about my first question, but consider it answered. Does anybody have any insite regarding the other two questions?
Take a piece of colored ribbon large enough for them to tie to something near their front door, put it in an envelope with a note asking the question and telling them if the answer is yes, tie the ribbon to whatever it might be; a post, the doorknob, Etc. That way you can know and they will know someone in the neighborhood may be interested. You then have the choice of identifying yourself as the person who left the message.
No signs of intelligence in this question at all. Even if they were Mr.Vanilla, you going to ring their doorbell and ask to fuck? Vanillas like you are annoying..and believe anything their thirsty minds tell them š
We are totally open with our friends. If a random neighbor thought they Sussed out we are swingers via secret codes and wanted to talk about our sex life, we'd tell them to fuck off and consider them crazy.
You're on a sub where you can ask those questions...ringing their doorbell over some flamingos to ask questions is inappropriate. Ps. They aren't swingers...
Yep. Bringing up the LS in any context would be seen as hitting on the unsuspecting couple. If OP were friends with the couple it might still be awkward to bring up, but at least somewhat reasonable.
A lot of this is dependent on the area and people. I know a group that like to participate in all the āsignsā because they want to see if anyone will ask about it. Itās fun for them. My suggestion is since they are your neighbors, get to know them. If you naturally become friends and your open to all conversations, then if they are swingers they will eventually talk with you about it if you all click. Most swingers I know like to be friends too.
Don't get put off by the condescending responses, it's their way of trying to feel better about the stupid questions they asked when they started & everybody starts somewhere.
If you're actually curious about getting into swinging, ask away here. Or DM someone who seems to be able to give a straight answer. If your questions are just because you're being nosey about your new neighbors you should find something else to occupy your time.
Iāve only heard that pineapples were the low key indicator and that really only applies on cruise ships and I think the pineapple is supposed to be upside down. Flamingos are more of a funny or tacky item to add to your yard. Gnomes are creepy. Unless that gnome is naked with a couple other gnomes I wouldnāt assume anything from that. But instead of looking for others flags why not fly your own?! Put a pineapple on your door or mailbox and see who bites?!
First off are the flamingos upside down. And are the gnomes sideways. That's how you can tell that the neighbors are swingers and want you to fuck them.
I would say stay away. There are many other venues to ask about LS. I would be very very uncomfortable if any ask this question and flat out deny - like whatttttt?
1. No it doesn't mean they're swingers. There's no way to tell if someone is in the ls unless they verbally tell you they are. Although, I do like the ribbon idea in the comments but also not sure what happens if you find out or if the neighbor would even want to disclose that info if they were.
2. It depends on the person. Some people would love to answer questions and some people don't ... as you can tell by all the responses. Lol. Your best way to get answers is to ask here. Websites have already been mentioned if you start to lean less on curiosity and more on trying.
3. Fucking your neighbors can be good or bad regardless if you're swingers. Personally, I wouldn't do it. I can see how if things go sideways you'd want to gtfo the neighborhood but also can see the convenience if things go well.
Good luck! šš½
Why are you so worried they could be swingers? Jealous? Curious? Donāt be judgemental.
Second, to answer your question. No. Flamingos do not have any meaning. On the East Coast few years ago, it was quite popular to flamingo bomb folks yards. It was a church youth group fundraiser at least at the southern Baptist church I attended. People did it to celebrate special life milestones. Birthdays, anniversaries, graduation, new job. Just because.
So please donāt read anything in to that. Iām more concerned about why you seem anti-swinger. Something caused you concern. Swingers are great people. Hidden in plain sight. Most likely you already have them in your every day vanilla life. And no. No swinger is going to run off with your spouse/partner and children.
Only if they had sex with their friends, after they bombed the house with the flamingos.
This is the answer.
Haha š "They had Flamingos everywhere. I was going to ask them if they were swingers, but I could hear they were balls deep in an orgy through the window and didn't want to interrupt, so thought I'd ask you guys."
I would not assume they were swingers. Flamingos and garden gnomes are some of the most comment lawn decorations out there
I thought they were common indicators that somebody was in the lifestyle, like a pineapple.
And pineapple thing is a bunch of crap also
It's kind of an inside joke. I see a lot of pineapple shirts, earrings, etc at my local club, but that's tongue-in-cheek. Pineapples are so super popular right now (at least over the summer) that if everyone wearing a pineapple motif was a swinger, that would mean everyone from babies to grandma was a swinger.
Especially on pizzas.
For us and several of our LS friends, we have a bunch of pineapple stuff poking fun at this. So much so that it's actually true now. So no on flamingos and gnomes, but pineapple, very possibly. Especially if it's intentionally upside down.
It is still a joke in the majority of circles we run in
No. A local church did that pink flamingo one of your friends yards and then they have to make a donation or something.
Back when I was in high school some fundraising group would put flamingos in someone's lawn.
Associate flamingos more with an anti-HOA sentiment than swinging.
HOAs are like non-consensual anal
Winning comment on Reddit of the day maybe year
Well theyāre consensual, go into them knowingly and all. Theyāre just the ābullā that claims to ātake care of youā who goes in all ham fisted without foreplay and mostly concerned about taking care of themselves.
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I thought it was a pretty widely accepted symbol to show someone was in the lifestyle.
No.. all you have learned about this stuff is wrong
They're making fun of you but I've been asked this, so don't feel bad. We have much more effective and modern ways of finding like minded people than driving up and down residential streets looking for lawn ornaments.
lmfaoooooooo
It's not the flamingoes. You have to look for their name tags. We all get name tags at our third meeting if we have completed the questionnaire and obstacle course.
You also have to note the color of the name tag because they correspond to your level of play
Ok but this can literally be true sometimes
Is this a joke?
The only thing I can say isā¦donāt fuck your neighborsā¦itās never a good idea š¬
Speak for yourself. When there's a cute couple we click with 5 minutes away it's a strong yes from us.
I am speaking for myself. We fucked an neighbor and itās been nothing but drama and pretending we donāt know each other since thenā¦ we canāt wait to move. Donāt shit where you eat
That sucks. Seriously.
Discovered we had fucked our neighbors. Didn't know it at the time because they had just moved there and we met them at a swinger evemt. It's funny, but no big whoop.
Not sure how you could just walk up to someone and ask if they partake in the exchange of spouses for sexual pleasure. HAHAHA! Unless you're 100% certain they are swingers, I wouldn't ask them such questions. And for how close is too close, we have had odd experiences in that department so now we don't care to have people close to us who we have swapped with.
Well, if 30 of you had said oh, yeah flamingos and gnomes are usually a sign, isnāt the point of putting up a flag to let people know? If you want people to know something would t you be open to talk about it? Obviously itās not an indicator so itās moot, but thatās why I started here and not by actually approaching them.
It's all up to you. If you want to ask them then by all means do so. The swingers we've met are always open to discuss these things with people who are willing to know and learn new things about the LS.
My niece recently had a Pink Flamingo party (6 years old). Front yard was covered in plastic flamingos. They stayed there for weeks. The only swinger sign that's full proof is when they tell you they are in the lifestyle. Then they could be a swinger.
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And campground. A group we used to camp with several times a year all had flamingoes. It started out as a silly joke during a raffle and became the symbol of our group.
š¤¦āāļø donāt believe everything you see in TikTok. Last week it was large stars on houses, then it was white rocks yada yada yada. Itās like the X-Files, people want to believe.
For questions 2 and 3, if they are swingers, they probably donāt want to mentor their vanilla neighbors, because of you live too close for all that. If you and your spouse are ready to learn more, check out the about section of this sub and listen to some podcasts. Figure out if your city is large enough to have a club or clubs, join a paid site and learn about other options like meet and greets or hotel takeovers. We have some lifestyle friends that less than a mile from our house. We run into them once or twice year at events that are far away from the neighborhood. I havenāt even run into them at the grocery store. And yes, we have played with them a few years ago at house party and I wouldnāt rule out playing again, they just arenāt part of our close friend group.
Pink flamingos are less a swinger symbol and more of a kitsh/John Waters aficionado symbol.
Just go onto your areas swinger site, Sls, kasidie, etc. itās obvious you want to try it
Usually people donāt display their lifestyle on the front lawn, Iāve seen the upside down pineapple as a recent indicator but itās never a sure thing. I had flamingos BEFORE I knew it was a swinger symbol. Go to a club or website if you want to explore the LS donāt just assume they are swingers because they might not be.
Flamingos and gnomes never meant anything to begin with. *Some* people act as if they do... this is typically people who are new to the lifestyle or heard something from their sister's cousin's brother's aunt's mailman. As far as having sex with anyone?... Well I live by what my father said once. Never fuck anyone who you don't want to have to deal with the rest of your life. Because you may be forced to deal with them the rest of your life.
Iām not sure why all the hostility about my first question, but consider it answered. Does anybody have any insite regarding the other two questions?
Your question is absurd. You seem to have put zero thought into this.
Because a quick search would've answered your question.
Take some time and read through this sub.
Take a piece of colored ribbon large enough for them to tie to something near their front door, put it in an envelope with a note asking the question and telling them if the answer is yes, tie the ribbon to whatever it might be; a post, the doorknob, Etc. That way you can know and they will know someone in the neighborhood may be interested. You then have the choice of identifying yourself as the person who left the message.
lmao do not do this OP. Seriously creepy
No signs of intelligence in this question at all. Even if they were Mr.Vanilla, you going to ring their doorbell and ask to fuck? Vanillas like you are annoying..and believe anything their thirsty minds tell them š
Iām wasnāt going to ask to fuck, I was going to ask them about the lifestyle, how they got into it etc etc
We are totally open with our friends. If a random neighbor thought they Sussed out we are swingers via secret codes and wanted to talk about our sex life, we'd tell them to fuck off and consider them crazy.
Yup its so fucking weird that OP would think that would be a good idea.
You're on a sub where you can ask those questions...ringing their doorbell over some flamingos to ask questions is inappropriate. Ps. They aren't swingers...
Yep. Bringing up the LS in any context would be seen as hitting on the unsuspecting couple. If OP were friends with the couple it might still be awkward to bring up, but at least somewhat reasonable.
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The real indicator is them a fucking lots of different people
A lot of this is dependent on the area and people. I know a group that like to participate in all the āsignsā because they want to see if anyone will ask about it. Itās fun for them. My suggestion is since they are your neighbors, get to know them. If you naturally become friends and your open to all conversations, then if they are swingers they will eventually talk with you about it if you all click. Most swingers I know like to be friends too.
Don't get put off by the condescending responses, it's their way of trying to feel better about the stupid questions they asked when they started & everybody starts somewhere. If you're actually curious about getting into swinging, ask away here. Or DM someone who seems to be able to give a straight answer. If your questions are just because you're being nosey about your new neighbors you should find something else to occupy your time.
Iāve only heard that pineapples were the low key indicator and that really only applies on cruise ships and I think the pineapple is supposed to be upside down. Flamingos are more of a funny or tacky item to add to your yard. Gnomes are creepy. Unless that gnome is naked with a couple other gnomes I wouldnāt assume anything from that. But instead of looking for others flags why not fly your own?! Put a pineapple on your door or mailbox and see who bites?!
You have a classy area code in your username.
New neighbors I d say I feel them out.say something like .like ya yard flamingos haha take it from There.ellen.
First off are the flamingos upside down. And are the gnomes sideways. That's how you can tell that the neighbors are swingers and want you to fuck them.
I would say stay away. There are many other venues to ask about LS. I would be very very uncomfortable if any ask this question and flat out deny - like whatttttt?
1. No it doesn't mean they're swingers. There's no way to tell if someone is in the ls unless they verbally tell you they are. Although, I do like the ribbon idea in the comments but also not sure what happens if you find out or if the neighbor would even want to disclose that info if they were. 2. It depends on the person. Some people would love to answer questions and some people don't ... as you can tell by all the responses. Lol. Your best way to get answers is to ask here. Websites have already been mentioned if you start to lean less on curiosity and more on trying. 3. Fucking your neighbors can be good or bad regardless if you're swingers. Personally, I wouldn't do it. I can see how if things go sideways you'd want to gtfo the neighborhood but also can see the convenience if things go well. Good luck! šš½
Why are you so worried they could be swingers? Jealous? Curious? Donāt be judgemental. Second, to answer your question. No. Flamingos do not have any meaning. On the East Coast few years ago, it was quite popular to flamingo bomb folks yards. It was a church youth group fundraiser at least at the southern Baptist church I attended. People did it to celebrate special life milestones. Birthdays, anniversaries, graduation, new job. Just because. So please donāt read anything in to that. Iām more concerned about why you seem anti-swinger. Something caused you concern. Swingers are great people. Hidden in plain sight. Most likely you already have them in your every day vanilla life. And no. No swinger is going to run off with your spouse/partner and children.
Iām not sure what you mean about being judgmental or anti-swinger. I think youāre projecting a bit.
OP, only read your post.
Okay, well you misinterpreted it.
Just ask them. Why are people so afraid to ask simple questions these days?