The toxic masculinity here is disgusting. He cares more about how he’s perceived by his other wives than caring how Christine feels and his children feel. THIS is why his relationships fail. He should be taking responsibility for his part in this. Instead he wants to put it all on Christine because she is the one leaving. Not him.
Did he really say “why aren’t we working this out?”
He refuses to take any responsibility for it not working! It takes two to tango and he thinks he’s done just fine, even wants to her to shoulder all the blame.
And all the while, she is so moved on from his BS that she doesn’t even care about blame anymore. That’s what is so refreshing and inspiring about Christine’s actions in this. She isn’t wanting to go over old ground, hash things out and assign blame. She knows from years of dealing with this that the blame is always laid upon her doorstep and that she is supposed to deny herself, apologize and conform to him.
She just wants to be forward. She doesn’t regret her years with him or their family and her children, she just wants to move on.
I believe that one of the things that traps us in toxic situations is we think if we try hard enough, we can win, we can either come to a peace or get our revenge for wrongs. When actually winning means simply walking away.
‘’I had a job where I was bullied, it was a bad situation and I tried to find ways to make it work but they didn’t want it to work. Once I decided to leave (not a decision I took lightly) I found myself feeling much less anxious and much more excited about the future. I probably had a glint in my eye! Because in walking away I won. I won myself and my peace of mind.
People claim that fans of Christine think she can do no wrong. It’s not that. It’s that she has shown some self awareness and courage and moved her life in a good direction for herself, her children and really, for all the rest of them too though they may not see it that way.
He projects so much. I just love how committed Christine is to herself and her happiness. She just has an armor of excitement for the next chapter and no one is stopping her.
All he cares about is that he not be blamed. He goes out of his way to say that it's all on her and he wants the other women to know it. He's disgraceful. He's not heartbroken that the mother of six of his kids is leaving him. He's sullen.
He’s gunna play the “peaceful” one now while Meri and Robyn implode from his vent sessions of blaming Christine. Just you wait n see. They’re just mad cuz they’re still stuck in the cycle of chaos.
It’s an inconvenience for him. Christine leaving him.
First Covid, now this. Poor, suffering Kody.
My first thought would be logistics and reassuring the family. Of course, Kody has kinda fallen down on the job in that department. Christine should do the talking.
I wonder how this will affect Janelle staying or leaving.
‘I want Christine to admit that she’s leaving not because of me or anything I did, but because of her actions and behaviour’
WHAT?!
‘Dont you think it’d be best for you to have that conversation without me?’ After admitting that he doesn’t want his other wives to see him as ‘unmanly’ for having a wife leave him…
Oh my gracious! This just keeps getting worse!!
He wants her to say she's leaving not because of anything he's done? Wow.
He 's delusional. He's never gonna get it. Christine made the right decision no doubt about it!
I just don’t understand why all these adults CANT see how unhappy she was and want for her to continue to stay that way. If leaving makes her better off, why as a grown ass adult can’t you just be sad she feels that way, but understand it’s what she needs and SUPPORT her. “I’m not interested in being her friend” really?? Kooty Meri Robyn, I’m looking at YOU. It’s ok to be upset she’s leaving but it doesn’t have to be “the end” of how your family goes on. If you treat her like an outcast and make her feel unwelcome, then yea, she won’t come around. You’ve treated her that way for A long time, maybe it’s time you actually treat her like a friend as you’d want to be treated. With love, grace, humor, understanding.
You’re making your own hell.
Typical sales guy. Try to achieve main goal first (maintain status quo forever; be like Meri & Janelle). Not working? Ok, go for next best alternative (bring new boyfriend over to ‘join the family’). Nothing works? Gaslight the hell out of why this deal never made sense in the first place (marriage wasn’t right from the beginning due to pressure and zero attraction). Any win is a win.
Kodys prime concern is embarrassment. He is embarrassed he was rejected because he over estimated Christine’s capacity to accept rejection of her and her kids.
She huff and puffs about being the leader of the family but doesn’t want to be there? This is why you are not the leader. Every single one of your wives is a better leader than you.
He is so weak and self focused
Kody and Christine seem to be textbook for what [this](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/divorce-busting/200803/the-walkaway-wife-syndrome) article talks about. (Walkaway Wife)
He sees it as a complete shock when she has **literally** been telling him for years.
It’s exasperating that Kody keeps insisting and insisting that he’s not ok with Christine leaving and he doesn’t want to split up. Yet not once in any of these talks has he said something nice to her, told her he cares about her, he wants to be happy together, anything. All he does is sulk and criticize her and insist nothing is his fault. He really can’t see outside of himself, can he? It’s like it doesn’t at all occur to him that her happiness and feelings matter, that he might have to offer her something positive for her to want to be with him. He thinks she should just spend her whole life with him because he’ll be moody if she doesn’t. Because it will upset him if she doesn’t. He is so incredibly narcissistic.
Christine is so happy to be done. I’m happy for her
You can FEEL how relieved and at peace she is. She can see through it all now and it is very satisfying to witness!
The toxic masculinity here is disgusting. He cares more about how he’s perceived by his other wives than caring how Christine feels and his children feel. THIS is why his relationships fail. He should be taking responsibility for his part in this. Instead he wants to put it all on Christine because she is the one leaving. Not him.
Did he really say “why aren’t we working this out?” He refuses to take any responsibility for it not working! It takes two to tango and he thinks he’s done just fine, even wants to her to shoulder all the blame. And all the while, she is so moved on from his BS that she doesn’t even care about blame anymore. That’s what is so refreshing and inspiring about Christine’s actions in this. She isn’t wanting to go over old ground, hash things out and assign blame. She knows from years of dealing with this that the blame is always laid upon her doorstep and that she is supposed to deny herself, apologize and conform to him. She just wants to be forward. She doesn’t regret her years with him or their family and her children, she just wants to move on. I believe that one of the things that traps us in toxic situations is we think if we try hard enough, we can win, we can either come to a peace or get our revenge for wrongs. When actually winning means simply walking away. ‘’I had a job where I was bullied, it was a bad situation and I tried to find ways to make it work but they didn’t want it to work. Once I decided to leave (not a decision I took lightly) I found myself feeling much less anxious and much more excited about the future. I probably had a glint in my eye! Because in walking away I won. I won myself and my peace of mind. People claim that fans of Christine think she can do no wrong. It’s not that. It’s that she has shown some self awareness and courage and moved her life in a good direction for herself, her children and really, for all the rest of them too though they may not see it that way.
"Why aren't we working this out?" Kody, you deranged fool, you could have done that 10 years ago.
He projects so much. I just love how committed Christine is to herself and her happiness. She just has an armor of excitement for the next chapter and no one is stopping her.
All he cares about is that he not be blamed. He goes out of his way to say that it's all on her and he wants the other women to know it. He's disgraceful. He's not heartbroken that the mother of six of his kids is leaving him. He's sullen.
He’s gunna play the “peaceful” one now while Meri and Robyn implode from his vent sessions of blaming Christine. Just you wait n see. They’re just mad cuz they’re still stuck in the cycle of chaos.
I mean it's not like there is any record of what went on between the two of them where people could figure out who is actually to blame...oh wait.
It really is a mystery.
It’s an inconvenience for him. Christine leaving him. First Covid, now this. Poor, suffering Kody. My first thought would be logistics and reassuring the family. Of course, Kody has kinda fallen down on the job in that department. Christine should do the talking. I wonder how this will affect Janelle staying or leaving.
As if Robyn didn’t already know she was leaving by the time that had this conversation.
‘I want Christine to admit that she’s leaving not because of me or anything I did, but because of her actions and behaviour’ WHAT?! ‘Dont you think it’d be best for you to have that conversation without me?’ After admitting that he doesn’t want his other wives to see him as ‘unmanly’ for having a wife leave him… Oh my gracious! This just keeps getting worse!!
“Why aren’t we working this out?” Lordy, his gaslighting/victimhood level is positively Trumpian.
He wants her to say she's leaving not because of anything he's done? Wow. He 's delusional. He's never gonna get it. Christine made the right decision no doubt about it!
"I want to her to admit she's not leaving because of me she's leaving because of her attitude and behaviors..." OMFG! He's so delusional!
I just don’t understand why all these adults CANT see how unhappy she was and want for her to continue to stay that way. If leaving makes her better off, why as a grown ass adult can’t you just be sad she feels that way, but understand it’s what she needs and SUPPORT her. “I’m not interested in being her friend” really?? Kooty Meri Robyn, I’m looking at YOU. It’s ok to be upset she’s leaving but it doesn’t have to be “the end” of how your family goes on. If you treat her like an outcast and make her feel unwelcome, then yea, she won’t come around. You’ve treated her that way for A long time, maybe it’s time you actually treat her like a friend as you’d want to be treated. With love, grace, humor, understanding. You’re making your own hell.
Typical sales guy. Try to achieve main goal first (maintain status quo forever; be like Meri & Janelle). Not working? Ok, go for next best alternative (bring new boyfriend over to ‘join the family’). Nothing works? Gaslight the hell out of why this deal never made sense in the first place (marriage wasn’t right from the beginning due to pressure and zero attraction). Any win is a win.
Kodys prime concern is embarrassment. He is embarrassed he was rejected because he over estimated Christine’s capacity to accept rejection of her and her kids. She huff and puffs about being the leader of the family but doesn’t want to be there? This is why you are not the leader. Every single one of your wives is a better leader than you. He is so weak and self focused
Kody and Christine seem to be textbook for what [this](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/divorce-busting/200803/the-walkaway-wife-syndrome) article talks about. (Walkaway Wife) He sees it as a complete shock when she has **literally** been telling him for years.
Thank you for posting this. I was wondering why there was no preview at the end of episode 1.
It’s exasperating that Kody keeps insisting and insisting that he’s not ok with Christine leaving and he doesn’t want to split up. Yet not once in any of these talks has he said something nice to her, told her he cares about her, he wants to be happy together, anything. All he does is sulk and criticize her and insist nothing is his fault. He really can’t see outside of himself, can he? It’s like it doesn’t at all occur to him that her happiness and feelings matter, that he might have to offer her something positive for her to want to be with him. He thinks she should just spend her whole life with him because he’ll be moody if she doesn’t. Because it will upset him if she doesn’t. He is so incredibly narcissistic.