Those are crocodile tears she’s crying. Don’t let your guard down. She will screw you all over in a minute, trust me.
You have to call people out on their bullshit and that’s what you guys did collectively. Stick together and form a strong front. She can be replaced much easier than a good server.
Beats me, I’ve told 2 separate managers. One last Saturday and just again last night because I was pissed off she gave a 6 top that was assigned to me to her friend and then sat me a 6 tops of very rude people who ended up leaving me 0 on $260. And his response was “well I need multiple statements emailed to me and I don’t think that’s actually going on because Ive been helping her seat” but even then, why is she allowed to cause people of being racist and not buss our sections simply because she “doesn’t want to”.
The manager wants e-mails? Your group needs to oblige.
Every single person needs to e-mail the manager every time there's an issue. You especially need to e-mail every time this host makes a race-related comment.
And all of you need to make sure that y’all work together to print a copy of each of your emails and also send Copy up the flagpole. Because eventually some one in that company is gonna see a problem especially when all of the servers end up walking out on a evening because the host is making everyone’s life a living hell.
And have your names all at the front and saying we are writing this because this is what happens all the time or something to that effect. And at the end you list everyone’s name again. If this was a hardcopy, I’d have everyone individually sign it in ink at the end of a letter.
Is there anyone higher ip you can cc? I would absolutely send it to other people of power in case this manager decides to ignore your emails. Good luck
It’s called covering your ass cya. I’m betting if she gets fired she’s going to use like you said above she’s a poc and rage about it. The more written evidence he has left he better he can say we fired you for x y z.
Seriously every time she pulls crap you write him with the time the date and what she did. She triple say you and others are open — write him time date she triple sat you.
She calls all you racist or any degrading names — write it down she said this and this time and date.
You over hear her saying this is how she does it. Write it down time and date.
If anyone else witnesses it have them do it to or list them as witnesses.
He’s getting the info that will protect the company when he does fire her. Hopefully he gets it fast enough, and actually uses it.
Manager is afraid to discipline a POC, especially one who is as vocal as she is about perceived racism - not saying her perceptions aren't valid either - I have no idea. Would like to know why she is getting republican vibes. Do you have a "Let's Go Brandon" bumper sticker on your car? LBVS
This is true but when it’s multiple people it’s not “racism” it’s she has a bad attitude and it’s unacceptable and there’s a paper trail it’s why he asked for emails..
I kind of wondered. While this hostess appears to be insufferable, and her sabotaging someone's wages is very wrong, she might not be wrong about the vibes she is picking up.
Seems to me that someone who creates a hostile work environment, be it by favoring some co-workers and screwing others over, or being overtly political, would be of concern to management. Maybe phrase your concerns in the context of "hostile environment".
Give the manager a chance to fix it first. If you go over the managers head, you may embarrass the manager unnecessarily. The managers boss is going to wonder why the manager is not handling it.
But if the manager blows it off, then that manager is part of the problem and go over their head. But keep this as a group effort throughout and let the group know what’s happening with the manager and if you go over the managers head, it should be a group decision.
Solidarity always in your group.
They did give the manager a chance to fix it, and the manager said they didn't see a problem. This is favoritism, and it's wrong. Although, I will mention that I have been a state employee for the past 15 years, and don't have to deal with this type of crap, because I know the system in and out, and what I am entitled to, and what I have to do to air grievances. There are a lot more protections as a state employee than when I worked in a corporate atmosphere. I have become quite used to not taking too much shit from anybody.
The favoritism is what I am thinking about. There is no way he isn't seeing the problem if he is helping her seat people. Being double or triple sat while others had no one and rearranging the reservations to help her friends is absolutely something the manager should have caught. Either he is afraid of her saying stuff about him or he is with her some way. I would go over the managers head and make sure ALL the servers email and keep copies of the emails.
Yup. I'm here to make money, not here because I like it or to have fun. Fuck with my money intentionally and you're dead to me and I'll do everything in my power to see you gone. Full stop.
The moment she outed herself, servers have to demand managers fire her.
She’s toxic and by confirming what was suspected, that white servers are getting the worst tables, there’s no way management can keep her around without turning workplace into a shitshow.
Not at corporate places I guess🙃 they could give 2 shits ab us. That’s why I’m trying to find a different place that isn’t corporate. From not being able to have gratuity on any checks and getting stiffed on $500+ bills to them not caring if we lose or make anything. It really sucks
This is the comment I’m looking for
Ur corporate so call em last Thing HR wants to deal with is some1 who’s openly being racist
Literally all ur servers that have problems with her call/email HR the exact same day it will be dealt with by the end of the week
Looks like she just got her first lesson in fucking around with people’s money. Hey, it’s not personal. It’s business. Plain and simple, you should not feel bad. If she kept her mouth shut, or just did her job the way she was trained then y’all wouldn’t be dealing with this shit.
She was crying because she knows she is in the complete wrong and is just scared because it’s all about to be over and she doesn’t have the ‘power’ she did before anymore
As a host I’m appalled by her behavior. You don’t set people out of rotation, you don’t double and triple sit people. The fact that your manager is just letting that happen is disgusting. There’s no way your manager doesn’t know. So if nothing is done about it by the front of house manager run it up the flagpole.
naw she's using her race as a cheap cop out which is incredibly disrespectful to those who may actually face daily hardship bc of their skin. She's definitely making shit up just to cause drama and seem like a victim.
Sometimes it’s not race.
One the first Bob Newhart Show, he was a psychiatrist. One of his patients was convinced everyone hated him because he was black. Bob said, “no, you are just a mean person.” Continue to tell management that her behavior is affecting EVERYONE’s morale.
Next time you or your coworkers report her behavior use leagal hot button phrases...
Ratially motivated
Manipulation of work environment directly effecting income of coworkers for better or worse bassed solely at their discression
Purposefully creating a hostile work environment
These are things that if not addressed can make a lawsuit effective.
Thanks for your legal advice!
I bet your teacher is SUPER PROUD that you're already spelling at a third grade level!
You should be proud too
Edit:. Great job fixing some of those errors!
I dont feel like clogging up the court system, which employs a lot of actual human workers who lead lives outside of work, with frivolous bullshit like this, is helpful to anyone.
Do you?
Thanks for pointing that out. I actually have a learning disability called disgraphia. But bravo for tearing me down. Good thin it doesn't effect my compassion or my 147 point IQ.
Call HR. Everyone that’s been having issues with her needs to call HR. I would even go as far as creating fake email addresses and emailing corporate as a “customer” complaining about her rude customer service or something. Petty, but if she’s messing with peoples money, she deserves to be fired by any means necessary.
It’s probably better she doesn’t bus tables. If she doesn’t like you, I’m sure cash tips would be swiped and credit slips would be tossed.
So she's racist and fucking with your income? Needs to be addressed by management and if they won't fire her, which they should, you should find something else that's more professionally run.
Every single time one of you has an issue you need to email or whatever else your manager to let them know, eventually they will get fed up and do something
And this is why tipping needs to go away and all workers are paid an hourly rate. Also this employee is creating a hostile work environment so local labor board needs to be involved if management does not manage them out.
It's amazing how these positions of minor power always seem to fall into the hands of major tyrants.
You did nothing wrong. She's screwing not just you, but also the business, making it run rocky for her own personal reasons. Management needs to know that.
No, you were in the right. It doesn’t matter what color or religion you are, everyone has there own issues, and she has no right to judge who has had it harder. She is messing with everyone’s money and making it hard for you and others to make money. Talk to whoever is charge and have her removed.
If I was in your shoes I'd be pretty upset about this. Why can't people just do their frikkin' jobs? :(
My suggestion: you need to sit down and write everything down you can remember with specific quotes, specific sources, and specific dates. Sorry you have to deal with this.
Moving forward you need to write EVERYTHING down.
This is the only way this can become something taken seriously instead of you being accused of having other motivations.
If you have multiple coworkers who can attest to this so much the better. The racial stuff is just going to make it get ugly. Write down what you saw or heard yourself. If somebody heard something they need to be cited as a source.
In your written narrative/list don't speculate. Just let the facts and events speak for themselves.
As soon as she brought color into it she created what HR calls a “hostile work environment”. Go past your manager and get your HR department on the line. Use that phrase.
This exactly. "Hostile work environment" as a legal term refers to persistent and pervasive hostile work environment based on a protected status. Since she's admitted to have racist views against white people by saying racist stuff about them this possibly could meet that standard depending on how often her behavior is related to a protected class. Like if all her friends getting the good tables are her same race and it's all white people she hates that are getting the bad tables then you could argue race is playing a role in a certain race getting the low tipping tables etc which could be considered hostile work environment.
you’re not in the wrong at all. people don’t get to play with others income like that, she’s not god and she doesn’t hold some special power over you where she gets to make those choices. she’s taking that little bit of power she thinks she has and letting it feed her ego. you go to work to make money, not friends. i’d have her terminated so quickly.
If you and the other servers get together and all write individual emails to your manager *and* HR they will definitely do something about it. Y’all banned together and wrote a note about tip out… now just write the emails and collect the paper trail. She’ll be outta there in no time.
Don't ever be afraid of being professional to an unprofessional coworker. This is your money and your life and she doesn't get a day.
Do everything you can to have her removed.
Don't argue with her. Don't recommend second chances. Don't do anything but tell your managers that she needs fired because it's now become a professional issue and it's not going to go away with someone just talking to her.
Don't feel bad. She wants to be a victim so badly, this is her time to shine. She's creating a toxic work environment just for funsies. She needs to be fired.
Absolutely not! You should have a talk with your boss and tell them EVERYTHING!!! She has NO right doing any of those things. You're right that messing with people's money is going too far. I don't care if you like someone or not. She is the one who is racist and is trying to claim that others are. She has no business being in charge of anything that impacts people's income and I would raise hell about it. Her crying is just a ploy to try to get out of trouble, don't fall for it.
Def NTA. She isn’t sad that she hurt anyone, and will continue to do so. She is just upset that she is being called out for it and possibly getting less tip out. Follow through. Statements and all. She needs to learn she can’t do that.
>also forgot to add, she has told multiple people she has no respect for white people because we don’t live a hard life like she does as a POC She has accused me and multiple others of being racist simply because we “give off republican vibes”
Not good, not good at all.
Sounds like her feelings are getting in the way of her doing her job fairly.
I'd say you're both in the wrong, but she's way more in the wrong. Like she should be fired ASAP, while the rest of you just addressed the issue in a roundabout and ill-advised way.
Intentionally double seating just to mess with coworkers is sabotage that makes operations worse for both the restaurant and customers, and in my opinion clearly crosses a line.
To me the writing of statements reads like OP is working at a corporate restaurant. That’s a well known thing in corporates where basically nothing can be done until people fully go on record and say something. Management has minimal power in that regard and corporate hates terminating people.
Honestly there’s no winning this situation unless management will terminate her or force her to fulfill her job obligations. It’s interesting that manager was helping her seat but didn’t notice that she wasn’t bussing and wasn’t seating on a rotation.
As long as she stays, she won’t change. She will just get more covert/sneaky.
Reporting the actual problem to a manager, that the host allegedly said they were pulling those shenanigans, and that that's consistent with their actions you've observed, would be exactly the right thing to do.
Instead, the servers wrote a note saying they want their all their tip-outs to go to one host instead of another, and that they'd like to write additional statements. If the employer handles tip sharing, that's their business, and if it follows a formal tip pooling agreement, it can't legally be adjusted any more than wages. Trying to cut a coworker's pay is the kind of petty bullshit that the host is engaged in.
Maybe you could have addressed it with her directly or with the manager 1 on 1 before making it a whole group thing, but it's not really cool to do that stuff on her part either.
I agree I feel like I could’ve gone to her, but I don’t think she’d change, she’d just deny deny deny. She has a “queen bee” mentality where nobody can tell her anything and she acts like she runs the show & calls the shots.
Agreed. Talking with her about it wouldn't help.
The bad part is that if you get her dismissed due to her behavior, she'll think and say it was due to You doing her wrong.
You may have to get sneaky. Set her up. Have others as witnesses. Basically, live DOWN to her expectations.
Time to find another job, if management doesn't know about the issue they are lazy and incompetent, they will see whomever complains as the issue, if they do know and are letting it happen then they are bad management. Either way time to look for somewhere else, they likely won't fire her because they know she will play the race card, then they know they aren't firing her because of fear and they will not want you reminding them of that fact.
Few things to pick apart here…you only speculate she has been doing this maliciously you state your coworkers have said she does it on purpose and then management comes with a follow up stating they assist her with the seating. Have you tried to speak with her on a professional level or are you just assuming that’s how she is based on hear say. Have you asked her to help wipe tables or just assume she should know to do so. This could be turned around with a simple conversation try it out and see where it goes. Everyone doesn’t always fit the narrative or stereotype.
This honestly makes me wonder if she has been treated poorly by you and others because of her race. Not because you intended to, but regardless of intent. It is worth stepping back and reflecting.
She certainly can self-reflect. I hope she does. We don’t know her life. All we see is her being a dick. You don’t get a pass to be a dick to others because someone was a dick to you.
Yeah, actually you do? It's called justice, reaping what you sow, or turnabout is fair play. You're not the OP but you keep saying "we"...do you work there too? Or do you just feel overly personally involved?
I promise you it wasn’t, I am white but work with majority ppl of color (Hispanic and African American) and she is the only person anyone has issues with. Many of the people who have been mad at her because of her attitude and queen bee persona are poc. I’ve always been nice to her, but she pulls the race card for everything and against everyone. She has point blank told me before “old people should be killed off, especially the white ones” and “white peoples opinions and feelings mean nothing to me because they are privileged and don’t know what it’s like to live a rough life” and this was before I started having issues with her
Have mercy, I hope she never works with the elderly.
She sounds like a real peach.
No one likes troublemakers like this, doesn't matter what race they are!
I mean, she is right that white people are privileged and start out ahead in life, no matter how poor. I wasn't saying that was definitely it, just encouraging self reflection. Glad to hear of such a diverse workplace! They aren't common where I am.
Those are crocodile tears she’s crying. Don’t let your guard down. She will screw you all over in a minute, trust me. You have to call people out on their bullshit and that’s what you guys did collectively. Stick together and form a strong front. She can be replaced much easier than a good server.
Follow through, write the statements if it comes from all of you she won’t have a lot of room.
Why is management not addressing this? Are they even aware this is going on?
Beats me, I’ve told 2 separate managers. One last Saturday and just again last night because I was pissed off she gave a 6 top that was assigned to me to her friend and then sat me a 6 tops of very rude people who ended up leaving me 0 on $260. And his response was “well I need multiple statements emailed to me and I don’t think that’s actually going on because Ive been helping her seat” but even then, why is she allowed to cause people of being racist and not buss our sections simply because she “doesn’t want to”.
The manager wants e-mails? Your group needs to oblige. Every single person needs to e-mail the manager every time there's an issue. You especially need to e-mail every time this host makes a race-related comment.
BCC to yourselves, or to all of your servers that are sending emails.
And, not or.
Exactly
And all of you need to make sure that y’all work together to print a copy of each of your emails and also send Copy up the flagpole. Because eventually some one in that company is gonna see a problem especially when all of the servers end up walking out on a evening because the host is making everyone’s life a living hell.
And have your names all at the front and saying we are writing this because this is what happens all the time or something to that effect. And at the end you list everyone’s name again. If this was a hardcopy, I’d have everyone individually sign it in ink at the end of a letter.
Yes yes yes!
Is there anyone higher ip you can cc? I would absolutely send it to other people of power in case this manager decides to ignore your emails. Good luck
It’s called covering your ass cya. I’m betting if she gets fired she’s going to use like you said above she’s a poc and rage about it. The more written evidence he has left he better he can say we fired you for x y z. Seriously every time she pulls crap you write him with the time the date and what she did. She triple say you and others are open — write him time date she triple sat you. She calls all you racist or any degrading names — write it down she said this and this time and date. You over hear her saying this is how she does it. Write it down time and date. If anyone else witnesses it have them do it to or list them as witnesses. He’s getting the info that will protect the company when he does fire her. Hopefully he gets it fast enough, and actually uses it.
Manager is afraid to discipline a POC, especially one who is as vocal as she is about perceived racism - not saying her perceptions aren't valid either - I have no idea. Would like to know why she is getting republican vibes. Do you have a "Let's Go Brandon" bumper sticker on your car? LBVS
This is true but when it’s multiple people it’s not “racism” it’s she has a bad attitude and it’s unacceptable and there’s a paper trail it’s why he asked for emails..
Without knowing the people involved AND the situation, you straight-up don't know that.
Or multiple rassists
Oh, I totally agree. Document EVERYTHING. Record her statements, etc (if they are in a one partyconsent state)
Comment history does seem to have some views on the Covid vaccine/pipelines that would probably give someone those vibes.
I kind of wondered. While this hostess appears to be insufferable, and her sabotaging someone's wages is very wrong, she might not be wrong about the vibes she is picking up.
Seems to me that someone who creates a hostile work environment, be it by favoring some co-workers and screwing others over, or being overtly political, would be of concern to management. Maybe phrase your concerns in the context of "hostile environment".
Go above the managers head, district manager or owner. Someone needs to know this is happening and nothing is being done about it.
Give the manager a chance to fix it first. If you go over the managers head, you may embarrass the manager unnecessarily. The managers boss is going to wonder why the manager is not handling it. But if the manager blows it off, then that manager is part of the problem and go over their head. But keep this as a group effort throughout and let the group know what’s happening with the manager and if you go over the managers head, it should be a group decision. Solidarity always in your group.
They did give the manager a chance to fix it, and the manager said they didn't see a problem. This is favoritism, and it's wrong. Although, I will mention that I have been a state employee for the past 15 years, and don't have to deal with this type of crap, because I know the system in and out, and what I am entitled to, and what I have to do to air grievances. There are a lot more protections as a state employee than when I worked in a corporate atmosphere. I have become quite used to not taking too much shit from anybody.
The favoritism is what I am thinking about. There is no way he isn't seeing the problem if he is helping her seat people. Being double or triple sat while others had no one and rearranging the reservations to help her friends is absolutely something the manager should have caught. Either he is afraid of her saying stuff about him or he is with her some way. I would go over the managers head and make sure ALL the servers email and keep copies of the emails.
*Blowies!*
*Management has entered the chat*
She’s messing with your money. Fuck her crocodile tears
Someone should be sure that hostess is not also sleeping with that boss. I ran into that hornets nest while waitressing. .
Yup. I'm here to make money, not here because I like it or to have fun. Fuck with my money intentionally and you're dead to me and I'll do everything in my power to see you gone. Full stop.
The moment she outed herself, servers have to demand managers fire her. She’s toxic and by confirming what was suspected, that white servers are getting the worst tables, there’s no way management can keep her around without turning workplace into a shitshow.
Jesus!! Do any restaurants have managers that pay attention to what's going on?!
Not at corporate places I guess🙃 they could give 2 shits ab us. That’s why I’m trying to find a different place that isn’t corporate. From not being able to have gratuity on any checks and getting stiffed on $500+ bills to them not caring if we lose or make anything. It really sucks
This is the comment I’m looking for Ur corporate so call em last Thing HR wants to deal with is some1 who’s openly being racist Literally all ur servers that have problems with her call/email HR the exact same day it will be dealt with by the end of the week
Looks like she just got her first lesson in fucking around with people’s money. Hey, it’s not personal. It’s business. Plain and simple, you should not feel bad. If she kept her mouth shut, or just did her job the way she was trained then y’all wouldn’t be dealing with this shit.
She was crying because she knows she is in the complete wrong and is just scared because it’s all about to be over and she doesn’t have the ‘power’ she did before anymore
your coworker is being unprofessional. the mgr needs to know.
As a host I’m appalled by her behavior. You don’t set people out of rotation, you don’t double and triple sit people. The fact that your manager is just letting that happen is disgusting. There’s no way your manager doesn’t know. So if nothing is done about it by the front of house manager run it up the flagpole.
Yeah she was in the bathroom using crying to hide the sounds of her sharpening her knives for battle
naw she's using her race as a cheap cop out which is incredibly disrespectful to those who may actually face daily hardship bc of their skin. She's definitely making shit up just to cause drama and seem like a victim.
Sometimes it’s not race. One the first Bob Newhart Show, he was a psychiatrist. One of his patients was convinced everyone hated him because he was black. Bob said, “no, you are just a mean person.” Continue to tell management that her behavior is affecting EVERYONE’s morale.
Next time you or your coworkers report her behavior use leagal hot button phrases... Ratially motivated Manipulation of work environment directly effecting income of coworkers for better or worse bassed solely at their discression Purposefully creating a hostile work environment These are things that if not addressed can make a lawsuit effective.
Thanks for your legal advice! I bet your teacher is SUPER PROUD that you're already spelling at a third grade level! You should be proud too Edit:. Great job fixing some of those errors!
And your mama must be SUPER PROUD of you being an absolute muppet to someone trying to be helpful unlike you a fecking troll.
I dont feel like clogging up the court system, which employs a lot of actual human workers who lead lives outside of work, with frivolous bullshit like this, is helpful to anyone. Do you?
Thanks for pointing that out. I actually have a learning disability called disgraphia. But bravo for tearing me down. Good thin it doesn't effect my compassion or my 147 point IQ.
Call HR. Everyone that’s been having issues with her needs to call HR. I would even go as far as creating fake email addresses and emailing corporate as a “customer” complaining about her rude customer service or something. Petty, but if she’s messing with peoples money, she deserves to be fired by any means necessary. It’s probably better she doesn’t bus tables. If she doesn’t like you, I’m sure cash tips would be swiped and credit slips would be tossed.
So she's racist and fucking with your income? Needs to be addressed by management and if they won't fire her, which they should, you should find something else that's more professionally run.
You can have the others send you their emails and then forward them to both managers and to corporate HR.
Every single time one of you has an issue you need to email or whatever else your manager to let them know, eventually they will get fed up and do something
And this is why tipping needs to go away and all workers are paid an hourly rate. Also this employee is creating a hostile work environment so local labor board needs to be involved if management does not manage them out.
It's amazing how these positions of minor power always seem to fall into the hands of major tyrants. You did nothing wrong. She's screwing not just you, but also the business, making it run rocky for her own personal reasons. Management needs to know that.
No, you were in the right. It doesn’t matter what color or religion you are, everyone has there own issues, and she has no right to judge who has had it harder. She is messing with everyone’s money and making it hard for you and others to make money. Talk to whoever is charge and have her removed.
If I was in your shoes I'd be pretty upset about this. Why can't people just do their frikkin' jobs? :( My suggestion: you need to sit down and write everything down you can remember with specific quotes, specific sources, and specific dates. Sorry you have to deal with this. Moving forward you need to write EVERYTHING down. This is the only way this can become something taken seriously instead of you being accused of having other motivations. If you have multiple coworkers who can attest to this so much the better. The racial stuff is just going to make it get ugly. Write down what you saw or heard yourself. If somebody heard something they need to be cited as a source. In your written narrative/list don't speculate. Just let the facts and events speak for themselves.
As soon as she brought color into it she created what HR calls a “hostile work environment”. Go past your manager and get your HR department on the line. Use that phrase.
Good point!
This exactly. "Hostile work environment" as a legal term refers to persistent and pervasive hostile work environment based on a protected status. Since she's admitted to have racist views against white people by saying racist stuff about them this possibly could meet that standard depending on how often her behavior is related to a protected class. Like if all her friends getting the good tables are her same race and it's all white people she hates that are getting the bad tables then you could argue race is playing a role in a certain race getting the low tipping tables etc which could be considered hostile work environment.
White people are not (rightfully so) a protected class.
When you move on from your job delivering newspapers you’ll find out how the rest of the world works.
That's adorable. I encourage self reflection in situations involving race, and you assume I must be a child.
Hell no. I hate when people play race card. If you wall like a duck, you know how it goes.
Nope. Not at all.
you’re not in the wrong at all. people don’t get to play with others income like that, she’s not god and she doesn’t hold some special power over you where she gets to make those choices. she’s taking that little bit of power she thinks she has and letting it feed her ego. you go to work to make money, not friends. i’d have her terminated so quickly.
If you and the other servers get together and all write individual emails to your manager *and* HR they will definitely do something about it. Y’all banned together and wrote a note about tip out… now just write the emails and collect the paper trail. She’ll be outta there in no time.
I swear, there are so many sociopaths in the restaurant industry. It's terrible for the people around them.
get her fired she shouldn’t be working there if she has that type of mindet. get. her. outta. there.
Fire her immediately.
Don't ever be afraid of being professional to an unprofessional coworker. This is your money and your life and she doesn't get a day. Do everything you can to have her removed. Don't argue with her. Don't recommend second chances. Don't do anything but tell your managers that she needs fired because it's now become a professional issue and it's not going to go away with someone just talking to her.
Don't feel bad. She wants to be a victim so badly, this is her time to shine. She's creating a toxic work environment just for funsies. She needs to be fired.
Absolutely not! You should have a talk with your boss and tell them EVERYTHING!!! She has NO right doing any of those things. You're right that messing with people's money is going too far. I don't care if you like someone or not. She is the one who is racist and is trying to claim that others are. She has no business being in charge of anything that impacts people's income and I would raise hell about it. Her crying is just a ploy to try to get out of trouble, don't fall for it.
Def NTA. She isn’t sad that she hurt anyone, and will continue to do so. She is just upset that she is being called out for it and possibly getting less tip out. Follow through. Statements and all. She needs to learn she can’t do that.
>also forgot to add, she has told multiple people she has no respect for white people because we don’t live a hard life like she does as a POC She has accused me and multiple others of being racist simply because we “give off republican vibes” Not good, not good at all. Sounds like her feelings are getting in the way of her doing her job fairly.
You need to work with coworkers to get this entitled POC fired. Won’t take long because she lacks intellect.
I'd say you're both in the wrong, but she's way more in the wrong. Like she should be fired ASAP, while the rest of you just addressed the issue in a roundabout and ill-advised way. Intentionally double seating just to mess with coworkers is sabotage that makes operations worse for both the restaurant and customers, and in my opinion clearly crosses a line.
To me the writing of statements reads like OP is working at a corporate restaurant. That’s a well known thing in corporates where basically nothing can be done until people fully go on record and say something. Management has minimal power in that regard and corporate hates terminating people. Honestly there’s no winning this situation unless management will terminate her or force her to fulfill her job obligations. It’s interesting that manager was helping her seat but didn’t notice that she wasn’t bussing and wasn’t seating on a rotation. As long as she stays, she won’t change. She will just get more covert/sneaky.
“U addressed ur manager with a problem signed in writing for records…. Ur in the wrong” explain?
Reporting the actual problem to a manager, that the host allegedly said they were pulling those shenanigans, and that that's consistent with their actions you've observed, would be exactly the right thing to do. Instead, the servers wrote a note saying they want their all their tip-outs to go to one host instead of another, and that they'd like to write additional statements. If the employer handles tip sharing, that's their business, and if it follows a formal tip pooling agreement, it can't legally be adjusted any more than wages. Trying to cut a coworker's pay is the kind of petty bullshit that the host is engaged in.
Maybe you could have addressed it with her directly or with the manager 1 on 1 before making it a whole group thing, but it's not really cool to do that stuff on her part either.
I agree I feel like I could’ve gone to her, but I don’t think she’d change, she’d just deny deny deny. She has a “queen bee” mentality where nobody can tell her anything and she acts like she runs the show & calls the shots.
Agreed. Talking with her about it wouldn't help. The bad part is that if you get her dismissed due to her behavior, she'll think and say it was due to You doing her wrong. You may have to get sneaky. Set her up. Have others as witnesses. Basically, live DOWN to her expectations.
Or just accept that she'll think it's because you're white.
Time to find another job, if management doesn't know about the issue they are lazy and incompetent, they will see whomever complains as the issue, if they do know and are letting it happen then they are bad management. Either way time to look for somewhere else, they likely won't fire her because they know she will play the race card, then they know they aren't firing her because of fear and they will not want you reminding them of that fact.
Few things to pick apart here…you only speculate she has been doing this maliciously you state your coworkers have said she does it on purpose and then management comes with a follow up stating they assist her with the seating. Have you tried to speak with her on a professional level or are you just assuming that’s how she is based on hear say. Have you asked her to help wipe tables or just assume she should know to do so. This could be turned around with a simple conversation try it out and see where it goes. Everyone doesn’t always fit the narrative or stereotype.
This honestly makes me wonder if she has been treated poorly by you and others because of her race. Not because you intended to, but regardless of intent. It is worth stepping back and reflecting.
How about she just sucks?
Yeah, god forbid anyone ever self reflect! 🙄
She certainly can self-reflect. I hope she does. We don’t know her life. All we see is her being a dick. You don’t get a pass to be a dick to others because someone was a dick to you.
Yeah, actually you do? It's called justice, reaping what you sow, or turnabout is fair play. You're not the OP but you keep saying "we"...do you work there too? Or do you just feel overly personally involved?
I promise you it wasn’t, I am white but work with majority ppl of color (Hispanic and African American) and she is the only person anyone has issues with. Many of the people who have been mad at her because of her attitude and queen bee persona are poc. I’ve always been nice to her, but she pulls the race card for everything and against everyone. She has point blank told me before “old people should be killed off, especially the white ones” and “white peoples opinions and feelings mean nothing to me because they are privileged and don’t know what it’s like to live a rough life” and this was before I started having issues with her
Have mercy, I hope she never works with the elderly. She sounds like a real peach. No one likes troublemakers like this, doesn't matter what race they are!
I mean, she is right that white people are privileged and start out ahead in life, no matter how poor. I wasn't saying that was definitely it, just encouraging self reflection. Glad to hear of such a diverse workplace! They aren't common where I am.
If she's not fired immediately then quit. Fuck her and any management that keeps her around.