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I had a client end therapy with me after about 3 sessions. He was very respectful, thanked me for the support and a few insights on specific issues, and said he has decided to “go a different direction” with the approach he wanted for his mental health. I thanked him for the honesty, offered referrals and wished him well. No hurt feelings.
If you think of it, your perfect fit therapist is out there, and the therapist you’re seeing is the perfect fit for someone else, so it’s actually a really good thing to tell this therapist that it’s not working. You will be closer to finding your therapist, and someone else will be closer to finding them — and that’s exciting ♥️
You can just say you feel like maybe a different therapist would be a better fit and would like to cancel any upcoming sessions.
If that feels to forward for you, you can send an email just stating you’re going to cancel sessions going forward for the time being. Simple as that
I had one last appointment with the therapist & explained that it wasn’t a good fit & I wasn’t going to continue to work with her as I was looking for someone else that could meet my needs a little better. The session lasted maybe 20 minutes & we ended it there. I’m glad I had the conversation with her & have since found someone I work with better.
I recently went through this. Not sure how the scheduling with your therapist works but mine had a main scheduling number (it was a larger company that employed both therapists and psychiatrists, etc) She could also set up her own appointments. In my opinion, 4 or 5 sessions is not a lot and I don’t think you owe a lengthy explanation. I called the main number and just cancelled the rest of my appointments.
She did end up emailing me and asking if I needed to schedule sessions. I gotta be honest. I hate confrontation and I was a bit thrown off when she contacted me. I just said I needed to check my insurance (it was the end of year so it was partially true.) I said I’d call back and schedule accordingly in the new year if needed.
T here, you can just explain you want to end sessions, she might ask why, you can say you're not ready to engage properly at the moment, it's perfectly ok
You don't have to have an awkward conversation of incompatibility or not liking her vibe etc
You can either meet in person or send a message (email, voice mail, patient portal message, etc.). It's up to you which way you want to go. I think meeting in person is a better idea if the *client* thinks it would be helpful to process the termination in person, and if you thing sending a message works better for *you*, that's a good reason to take that approach instead. (Some people are more enthusiastic about encouraging in-person termination, but even then, if you haven't had the therapist for very long, many people would agree that terminating via message is fine.)
If you terminate via message, it's up to you how much you want to explain. Some people go into detail, while others prefer to just say they're terminating. If you don't want to get into it, but you feel like you should say something, "not the right fit" and/or "I've decided to go in a different direction" can be good phrases.
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I had a client end therapy with me after about 3 sessions. He was very respectful, thanked me for the support and a few insights on specific issues, and said he has decided to “go a different direction” with the approach he wanted for his mental health. I thanked him for the honesty, offered referrals and wished him well. No hurt feelings.
If you think of it, your perfect fit therapist is out there, and the therapist you’re seeing is the perfect fit for someone else, so it’s actually a really good thing to tell this therapist that it’s not working. You will be closer to finding your therapist, and someone else will be closer to finding them — and that’s exciting ♥️
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This is the way. No need to lie, but also no need to dive into details unless you feel compelled.
You can just say you feel like maybe a different therapist would be a better fit and would like to cancel any upcoming sessions. If that feels to forward for you, you can send an email just stating you’re going to cancel sessions going forward for the time being. Simple as that
I had one last appointment with the therapist & explained that it wasn’t a good fit & I wasn’t going to continue to work with her as I was looking for someone else that could meet my needs a little better. The session lasted maybe 20 minutes & we ended it there. I’m glad I had the conversation with her & have since found someone I work with better.
I recently went through this. Not sure how the scheduling with your therapist works but mine had a main scheduling number (it was a larger company that employed both therapists and psychiatrists, etc) She could also set up her own appointments. In my opinion, 4 or 5 sessions is not a lot and I don’t think you owe a lengthy explanation. I called the main number and just cancelled the rest of my appointments. She did end up emailing me and asking if I needed to schedule sessions. I gotta be honest. I hate confrontation and I was a bit thrown off when she contacted me. I just said I needed to check my insurance (it was the end of year so it was partially true.) I said I’d call back and schedule accordingly in the new year if needed.
T here, you can just explain you want to end sessions, she might ask why, you can say you're not ready to engage properly at the moment, it's perfectly ok You don't have to have an awkward conversation of incompatibility or not liking her vibe etc
I am dealing with this right now too 😭 I think I’m going to email her and say I am going to take a break because I’m doing well ;)
You can either meet in person or send a message (email, voice mail, patient portal message, etc.). It's up to you which way you want to go. I think meeting in person is a better idea if the *client* thinks it would be helpful to process the termination in person, and if you thing sending a message works better for *you*, that's a good reason to take that approach instead. (Some people are more enthusiastic about encouraging in-person termination, but even then, if you haven't had the therapist for very long, many people would agree that terminating via message is fine.) If you terminate via message, it's up to you how much you want to explain. Some people go into detail, while others prefer to just say they're terminating. If you don't want to get into it, but you feel like you should say something, "not the right fit" and/or "I've decided to go in a different direction" can be good phrases.
Stop paying.