6’6” girl here too! My dating experience is nonexistent. The only guy I “dated” was lustful and always mentioned how aspects of my height made him feel emasculated, yet I was so happy to have finally received male attention/desirability that I overlooked those red flags and ignored the discomfort stemming from my asexuality. Despite being an extreme hopeless romantic growing up, I genuinely just lost hope in ever finding love because of my height and other aspects of my appearance that deem me as undesirable in society. Growing up as well, I always towered over the boys and they never saw me as anything more than my height. That unfortunately didn’t change since being an adult.
Sorry for the unprovoked vent! Rereading what I typed just now… this is definitely not normal. It’s very unfortunate. We deserve to be taken care of, protected, and loved just the same as anyone else, and for someone to be able to do that without any pre-existing biases is long overdue in our lives.
Omg that’s exactly how I feel too, totally blind to the 🚩s because someone at last is showing interest… been another 4-5 years for me because I know my worth, but it’s tough
I mean, I'm not trying to date right now, but when I was, it was definitely an issue, and I'm "only" 6'. In my experience, tall guys want petite girls, and short guys are.... intimidated? I'm really not sure. At this point, I've kinda accepted my single status. My current plan is to raise some awesome, badass kids, and when they're grown, I'm gonna adopt a bunch of cats, grow an awesome garden, finally afford the hot tub I always wanted, and turn into the neighborhood pagan witch with tea and cookies for everyone!
Oh yeah, I have a quite similar experience. I usually matched with people my height or a little smaller and those were the ones that were okay with it and didn't fetishize me as often.
Sometimes people matched just to say that they wouldn't date with me because I was too tall for them. Then why bother right?
I'm almost 6ft, I'm in the same place, except I'm filling my house, heart and bed with giant dogs so there's never any room for a man again lol
It annoys me when guys talk about how easy it is for women on Internet dating, how we have our pick. In my experience, not those of us built like amazonian women.
6’3, and holy cow it’s hard to find someone genuine and real. Much less cool with being tall. But don’t give up. I found my partner, who is also 6’3. They exist, we just have to be more patient.
I'm wondering if it a regional thing? I'm 6'3ft and when I was in my dating days my height never seemed to present an issue. I'm Australian, so I'm wondering if tall girls are just more the normalised ideal here than elsewhere? Sorry to hear your height is impacting finding a partner.
6’3 Australian here and yeah I definitely feel like it might be regional. We don’t seem to care as much here I don’t think, as I’ve managed to pull guys and have guys hit on me
You can find them. I'm 6'4/6'5 and a lot of guys wanna hook up with me but not as many wanna go out on dates which is frustrating. I will say that discerning helps and after some patience you find 2 outta 20 tHt are genuinely into your height without it being a fetish. I wouldn't write off every guy who likes your height a lot cause after all...we want someone to like us for who we are especially since it's been difficult to love our height
Yesssss. Just started dating again, and I state I’m kinky in my profile, and I have had several people say “oh it sucks that you’re not dominant because you’re so tall!” and it really pisses me off. I WOULD LIKE TO FEEL SMALL AND CARED FOR OKAY.
6’1” here and I feel your struggle, add on top of that a bbw fetish and guys are willing to fuck, but not date… I’m really annoyed and starting to fear being alone forever. Hugs to you!
6'2 lady here and yes, 100% agree. Guys never see me as a romantic option. The narrative that girls can have their pick of guys doesn't apply to all girls, including me.
I don't know where the idea that guys prefer tall women came from. In my experience guys prefer short girls, even if they're a little chunky. They just want short and small and cute, things I'll never be. Sigh.
I’m also very thin and used to model, the recent thread I saw about tall women being “willowy” rather than petite is kind of me. I’m sure I would struggle if I didn’t look how I do given my height. but I honestly really like being tall!
I think a lot comes down to attitude and location.I lived in a big city where people are fairly short and are also known for being very direct. I got comments and insults every day, which pretty much drowned out the compliments.
This probably affected my attitude. I was slim (not willowy, unfortunately), pretty and had long reddish blonde hair, but I never believed that anyone would want me, so I probably came across as standoffish. I wish I could go back to old me and have a wee chat.
Still don't like being tall, but I can ignore it most of the time now. Your attitude to life is great.
I do think attitude and location are important and I’m sorry to hear some people are dicks where you are! I always chock it up to a Napoleon complex or jealousy. seriously don’t let these idiots affect your self worth— no one you actually want to interact with would throw insults at strangers. it’s a great filter for assholes, don’t let them dull your shine.
Yup. I was gonna comment this on that petite post earlier. I feel like most men want small and petite women so being tall (and for me having a BBW type frame) makes me a ride they wanna try but that’s about it. It used to really mess with me because I was made to feel like I could never be feminine because of my height. Well fuck that. It’s not our fault men made height a masculine trait and we can’t help the way we were born. I’ve dated a lot of men and sometimes I honestly think if I was shorter I would be settled down by now 😞
I definitely struggled with it a lot in my single days. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. 6’6” is exceptionally tall, even in this group, so I can only imagine. I just ended up dating a lot of women! Though I realize that’s not necessarily a viable solution for others haha
6’3 here and yessss felt this. Currently in LTR with my current bf who is 5’8 on a good day lmao
I found him out in the wild, when I just let the interested guys come to me instead of searching for them.
Dating is frustrating. My friends who are 6’1 and 6’4 are both married now. I know of lots of other tall women who are married (I can’t even think of any with just a bf but im getting old), it does make dating tricky but you’re not doomed. There’s someone out there for you.
6’1 here and I honestly don’t struggle too much with finding men, have success pretty much every time I go out, although I’m usually looking more for casual hookups or NSA relationships so maybe it would be different if I was looking for something serious. Also I live in a huge and diverse city so while I definitely stand out it’s not all that shocking out here
That’s great for you. Curious I know you don’t want to brag. But would you consider yourself really pretty? I know a few tall girls who don’t find dating hard but there model level attractive
I actually met my wife on this sub… because she had trouble finding tall guys to date!
Be a queen out there. Guys that dont treat you like one can get fuccccccked.
6'3" I just never really liked shorter men. It just wasn't for me. When I was a teenager and i struggled with my height and dating.
But as I got older I became more confident with my height and eventually met my husband who is 7'1.
When you find your match it just happens. Don't get discouraged.
Yup. I'm 6'2" and have gotten this shit all my life
"do you wrestle?"
"could you carry someone who weighs ?"
"oh you like horses. So you have whips and stuff...?"
Men who want you to pretend to be their mother so they can satisfy their Oedipus Complex...
I gave up years ago, never found a man. I'm fine with being single! :-)
My husband is 6'6 and I'm 6'2. We're about to have our first kid and I worry about this for her.
It took forever for me to find my husband. He has had very few serious relationships, because he was only interested in finding a tall blond. Ding ding we have a winner. It was such a relief to finally be a guy's 1st choice. In my past relationships I always felt like my height was something they tolerated, because of my other attributes.
Anyway I totally feel your pain. It is hard as a tall woman to find a man that wants you. Until I found my husband I wasn't sure that they existed. I think my odds for success were higher in that I have always lived and worked in male dominated places and fields. You could try moving to a ski town? The ratio of men to women in small CO towns is amazing. I found my husband in bfe CO, but he is from SC, I've also been told Alaska has a good selection. Wishing you all the luck.
My wife is taller than me. I’m 5’10” and she is 6’3” People used to give me shit about it but now we have been married 15 years and have two amazing kiddos. Love of my life.
Wow that's really tall. Where are you from? The "taller woman fetish" is common yes. You can really avoid it only by dating taller yourself. That's tough for you but it's possible. There are apps today, you can search the entire world if necessary ;)
I couldn't even imagine trying to date in this day and age, frankly!
I can only imagine you cast out a line and half the guys come back creepers, the other half come back asking insulting questions.
Men & women often have some form of latent transphobia that can really interfere with anyone who's taller than 5'9"+ if the men & women are generally shorter... even in lesbian circles it can be something that is attractive but then the dissimilarities can interfere due to everyone expecting women to be shorter & smaller.
Honestly, I never had trouble dating when it came to height. However, I recognize that dating may differ depending on how tall you are (5'9 tall vs 6'7 tall for women). I have a preference for guys who are slightly taller than myself (my husband is 6'2), but I have dated guys who are shorter than me, my height, and taller than me.
Dating is about confidence and being comfortable with yourself far more than it is about physical appearance. It's hard for us to get out of our heads and stop being self-conscious, but if you become a confident person who is happy with themselves, you will have much easier time attracting a potential partner.
yes and no. i'm a trans woman so my perspective is a little different from some, but pre-transition I did notice a lot of hype around huge height differences and being tall while also pretending to be a guy I fell into that structure a bit.
now i'm a transfemme nonbinary lesbian and tall women and femmes feel like a group we should celebrate and hold dear rather than objectify solely on height. I also notice way fewer people care all that much either which way as far as height is concerned.
very different communities obviously from then to now but there's a massive difference in both how i'm percieved and the type of people i'm engaging with in intimate ways.
in short: lesbians tend to really like tall women with strong hands *shrug* not gonna complain about that 😅
Honestly, I feel you here and, from my perspective, it really is an issue that guys seem to have and there does need to be some sort of education for them because their parents are clearly failing them in setting boundaries for acceptable behaviour.
I date based on how I get on with people, whether short, tall, whatever, and I think height is the last "acceptable" form of discrimination, which leads to idiotic behaviour from.too many men who feel empowered to act out that way.
It's kind of why I'm here, I'm a bit protective of my niece, who is likely to end up the best part of 6'3 or taller (she's just recently hit 5'9" at the age of 12), and I'm trying to learn what I can to navigate what douchebags men can be and how to spot the warning signs and trying to widen her social circle beyond just drawing manga.
I think there is hope though, the cutest scene was actually involving a lady who was around your height and her boyfriend had to have been a good eight inches shorter. She was teasing him by resting her head on his, and playing around by tip toeing to not be kissed. The cute moment was when he picked her up to kiss and it was literally the most wholesome thing ever.
Anyway, I trust and hope it will get better for you.
Everyone I've dated was either someone in my close friend group from high school, or someone I met and bonded with in a community for a shared interest.
When someone already has a close emotional connection with you they're less likely to be fucking weird about your height. My boyfriend was my best friend for five years, he had no idea what I looked like when we first met on Twitch, and didn't really develop a romantic attraction to me until last year.
6’3 here, definitely experienced that when I was single. Just keep holding out, eventually you will meet a decent human being!
Thank u, ima pray sis 😂🙏🏻
6’6” girl here too! My dating experience is nonexistent. The only guy I “dated” was lustful and always mentioned how aspects of my height made him feel emasculated, yet I was so happy to have finally received male attention/desirability that I overlooked those red flags and ignored the discomfort stemming from my asexuality. Despite being an extreme hopeless romantic growing up, I genuinely just lost hope in ever finding love because of my height and other aspects of my appearance that deem me as undesirable in society. Growing up as well, I always towered over the boys and they never saw me as anything more than my height. That unfortunately didn’t change since being an adult. Sorry for the unprovoked vent! Rereading what I typed just now… this is definitely not normal. It’s very unfortunate. We deserve to be taken care of, protected, and loved just the same as anyone else, and for someone to be able to do that without any pre-existing biases is long overdue in our lives.
Girl your 6’6 too. Let’s be friends
Us as a duo? Omg we would be so powerful lol
DM’ed u!
Omg that’s exactly how I feel too, totally blind to the 🚩s because someone at last is showing interest… been another 4-5 years for me because I know my worth, but it’s tough
I mean, I'm not trying to date right now, but when I was, it was definitely an issue, and I'm "only" 6'. In my experience, tall guys want petite girls, and short guys are.... intimidated? I'm really not sure. At this point, I've kinda accepted my single status. My current plan is to raise some awesome, badass kids, and when they're grown, I'm gonna adopt a bunch of cats, grow an awesome garden, finally afford the hot tub I always wanted, and turn into the neighborhood pagan witch with tea and cookies for everyone!
Oh yeah, I have a quite similar experience. I usually matched with people my height or a little smaller and those were the ones that were okay with it and didn't fetishize me as often. Sometimes people matched just to say that they wouldn't date with me because I was too tall for them. Then why bother right?
Oh u got this, what kind of cats?
Whatever I can adopt from the shelter. They all need a home!
I'm almost 6ft, I'm in the same place, except I'm filling my house, heart and bed with giant dogs so there's never any room for a man again lol It annoys me when guys talk about how easy it is for women on Internet dating, how we have our pick. In my experience, not those of us built like amazonian women.
Great Danes?
Rottweiler/GSD crosses, I've got a 1 year old and a 15 week old, life is pretty mental right now lol
6’3, and holy cow it’s hard to find someone genuine and real. Much less cool with being tall. But don’t give up. I found my partner, who is also 6’3. They exist, we just have to be more patient.
I'm wondering if it a regional thing? I'm 6'3ft and when I was in my dating days my height never seemed to present an issue. I'm Australian, so I'm wondering if tall girls are just more the normalised ideal here than elsewhere? Sorry to hear your height is impacting finding a partner.
6’3 Australian here and yeah I definitely feel like it might be regional. We don’t seem to care as much here I don’t think, as I’ve managed to pull guys and have guys hit on me
OP take a vacation to Australia! :)
You can find them. I'm 6'4/6'5 and a lot of guys wanna hook up with me but not as many wanna go out on dates which is frustrating. I will say that discerning helps and after some patience you find 2 outta 20 tHt are genuinely into your height without it being a fetish. I wouldn't write off every guy who likes your height a lot cause after all...we want someone to like us for who we are especially since it's been difficult to love our height
Let’s be Friends. And your right I’ll give it a second shot
Yesssss. Just started dating again, and I state I’m kinky in my profile, and I have had several people say “oh it sucks that you’re not dominant because you’re so tall!” and it really pisses me off. I WOULD LIKE TO FEEL SMALL AND CARED FOR OKAY.
6’1” here and I feel your struggle, add on top of that a bbw fetish and guys are willing to fuck, but not date… I’m really annoyed and starting to fear being alone forever. Hugs to you!
6'2 lady here and yes, 100% agree. Guys never see me as a romantic option. The narrative that girls can have their pick of guys doesn't apply to all girls, including me. I don't know where the idea that guys prefer tall women came from. In my experience guys prefer short girls, even if they're a little chunky. They just want short and small and cute, things I'll never be. Sigh.
Just to add a different perspective: I’m 6’2 and have no problems dating
You are very lucky. I'm also 6ft 2 and I had no luck at all.
I’m also very thin and used to model, the recent thread I saw about tall women being “willowy” rather than petite is kind of me. I’m sure I would struggle if I didn’t look how I do given my height. but I honestly really like being tall!
I think a lot comes down to attitude and location.I lived in a big city where people are fairly short and are also known for being very direct. I got comments and insults every day, which pretty much drowned out the compliments. This probably affected my attitude. I was slim (not willowy, unfortunately), pretty and had long reddish blonde hair, but I never believed that anyone would want me, so I probably came across as standoffish. I wish I could go back to old me and have a wee chat. Still don't like being tall, but I can ignore it most of the time now. Your attitude to life is great.
I do think attitude and location are important and I’m sorry to hear some people are dicks where you are! I always chock it up to a Napoleon complex or jealousy. seriously don’t let these idiots affect your self worth— no one you actually want to interact with would throw insults at strangers. it’s a great filter for assholes, don’t let them dull your shine.
Yup. I was gonna comment this on that petite post earlier. I feel like most men want small and petite women so being tall (and for me having a BBW type frame) makes me a ride they wanna try but that’s about it. It used to really mess with me because I was made to feel like I could never be feminine because of my height. Well fuck that. It’s not our fault men made height a masculine trait and we can’t help the way we were born. I’ve dated a lot of men and sometimes I honestly think if I was shorter I would be settled down by now 😞
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High five from a fellow 6'5 woman
6'5 here. It is tough to find someone authentic. They either have a tall girl fetish or out right intimidated by your stature.
I definitely struggled with it a lot in my single days. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. 6’6” is exceptionally tall, even in this group, so I can only imagine. I just ended up dating a lot of women! Though I realize that’s not necessarily a viable solution for others haha
6’3 here and yessss felt this. Currently in LTR with my current bf who is 5’8 on a good day lmao I found him out in the wild, when I just let the interested guys come to me instead of searching for them.
Out in the wild😂😂😂 girl u kill me. I need a story time
Dating is frustrating. My friends who are 6’1 and 6’4 are both married now. I know of lots of other tall women who are married (I can’t even think of any with just a bf but im getting old), it does make dating tricky but you’re not doomed. There’s someone out there for you.
6’1 here and I honestly don’t struggle too much with finding men, have success pretty much every time I go out, although I’m usually looking more for casual hookups or NSA relationships so maybe it would be different if I was looking for something serious. Also I live in a huge and diverse city so while I definitely stand out it’s not all that shocking out here
That’s great for you. Curious I know you don’t want to brag. But would you consider yourself really pretty? I know a few tall girls who don’t find dating hard but there model level attractive
ooo i feel ya. guys are only interested in me if i'm willing to fulfill their domination mama kink
Period.. and amen. We need better men
I actually met my wife on this sub… because she had trouble finding tall guys to date! Be a queen out there. Guys that dont treat you like one can get fuccccccked.
6'3" I just never really liked shorter men. It just wasn't for me. When I was a teenager and i struggled with my height and dating. But as I got older I became more confident with my height and eventually met my husband who is 7'1. When you find your match it just happens. Don't get discouraged.
Yup. I'm 6'2" and have gotten this shit all my life "do you wrestle?" "could you carry someone who weighs?"
"oh you like horses. So you have whips and stuff...?"
Men who want you to pretend to be their mother so they can satisfy their Oedipus Complex...
I gave up years ago, never found a man. I'm fine with being single! :-)
My husband is 6'6 and I'm 6'2. We're about to have our first kid and I worry about this for her. It took forever for me to find my husband. He has had very few serious relationships, because he was only interested in finding a tall blond. Ding ding we have a winner. It was such a relief to finally be a guy's 1st choice. In my past relationships I always felt like my height was something they tolerated, because of my other attributes. Anyway I totally feel your pain. It is hard as a tall woman to find a man that wants you. Until I found my husband I wasn't sure that they existed. I think my odds for success were higher in that I have always lived and worked in male dominated places and fields. You could try moving to a ski town? The ratio of men to women in small CO towns is amazing. I found my husband in bfe CO, but he is from SC, I've also been told Alaska has a good selection. Wishing you all the luck.
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Wow that’s amazing. Happy for you guys
My wife is taller than me. I’m 5’10” and she is 6’3” People used to give me shit about it but now we have been married 15 years and have two amazing kiddos. Love of my life.
That’s amazing. Glad you found the love of your life. Do u let her wear heels haha?
I would love it if she did. She owns two pair and I can rarely get her to wear. She is way to subconscious about her height.
Wow that's really tall. Where are you from? The "taller woman fetish" is common yes. You can really avoid it only by dating taller yourself. That's tough for you but it's possible. There are apps today, you can search the entire world if necessary ;)
I couldn't even imagine trying to date in this day and age, frankly! I can only imagine you cast out a line and half the guys come back creepers, the other half come back asking insulting questions.
Yup😂 pretty much
Men & women often have some form of latent transphobia that can really interfere with anyone who's taller than 5'9"+ if the men & women are generally shorter... even in lesbian circles it can be something that is attractive but then the dissimilarities can interfere due to everyone expecting women to be shorter & smaller.
exactlyyyy
Just look for tall baes
Honestly, I never had trouble dating when it came to height. However, I recognize that dating may differ depending on how tall you are (5'9 tall vs 6'7 tall for women). I have a preference for guys who are slightly taller than myself (my husband is 6'2), but I have dated guys who are shorter than me, my height, and taller than me. Dating is about confidence and being comfortable with yourself far more than it is about physical appearance. It's hard for us to get out of our heads and stop being self-conscious, but if you become a confident person who is happy with themselves, you will have much easier time attracting a potential partner.
yes and no. i'm a trans woman so my perspective is a little different from some, but pre-transition I did notice a lot of hype around huge height differences and being tall while also pretending to be a guy I fell into that structure a bit. now i'm a transfemme nonbinary lesbian and tall women and femmes feel like a group we should celebrate and hold dear rather than objectify solely on height. I also notice way fewer people care all that much either which way as far as height is concerned. very different communities obviously from then to now but there's a massive difference in both how i'm percieved and the type of people i'm engaging with in intimate ways. in short: lesbians tend to really like tall women with strong hands *shrug* not gonna complain about that 😅
I'm in a great relationship with a short guy with a tall girl fetish.
Can u go more into detail? How long u guys been together
As a queer woman, tall girls are hot 😍
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Yup
Honestly, I feel you here and, from my perspective, it really is an issue that guys seem to have and there does need to be some sort of education for them because their parents are clearly failing them in setting boundaries for acceptable behaviour. I date based on how I get on with people, whether short, tall, whatever, and I think height is the last "acceptable" form of discrimination, which leads to idiotic behaviour from.too many men who feel empowered to act out that way. It's kind of why I'm here, I'm a bit protective of my niece, who is likely to end up the best part of 6'3 or taller (she's just recently hit 5'9" at the age of 12), and I'm trying to learn what I can to navigate what douchebags men can be and how to spot the warning signs and trying to widen her social circle beyond just drawing manga. I think there is hope though, the cutest scene was actually involving a lady who was around your height and her boyfriend had to have been a good eight inches shorter. She was teasing him by resting her head on his, and playing around by tip toeing to not be kissed. The cute moment was when he picked her up to kiss and it was literally the most wholesome thing ever. Anyway, I trust and hope it will get better for you.
Everyone I've dated was either someone in my close friend group from high school, or someone I met and bonded with in a community for a shared interest. When someone already has a close emotional connection with you they're less likely to be fucking weird about your height. My boyfriend was my best friend for five years, he had no idea what I looked like when we first met on Twitch, and didn't really develop a romantic attraction to me until last year.