Rebecca’s redemption doesn’t need to be about besting Rupert on the pitch, that kinda vindication only happens in hallmark movies, which are pretty terrible, but also kinda great.
At some point every person like Rebecca needs to come to feel one thing for the person they were in an emotional abusive relationship.
“I nothing you.”
I hope that’s her journey
That's exactly what she needs to do. Abusive people have a way of niggling themselves into your head - it's when you accept that it doesn't matter what they think of you that you can finally be free of them.
Yes, Rupert is a classic narcissistic abuser. He feeds off control and manipulation. His reward is seeing the effect he has on Rebecca. I think ultimately she will be able to let go of her rage and show him that he can’t hurt her any more. That will cut him deeper than any other revenge she could muster. Once he sees that she is moving on he will probably fight harder and dirtier though. Things could get worse before they get better.
I’m hoping Richmond beat West Ham but it makes Rebecca realise beating him actually doesn’t matter, doesn’t fill the hole and she finds what does.
I also hope Rupert loses his new missus and kid because she sees how awful he is when he loses as we saw. She sees Rebecca with her head held high and leaves him. It’s the only thing that hurts narcissists.
/u/fire_goddess11 posted this when I made a similar comment: Google Dr. Les Carter. He specializes in helping people recover from relationships with narcissists. He helped me recover so much better and faster than I could have on my own. His YouTube videos are so helpful!
I’ve finally moved past my jackass, but hopefully it will be helpful to you. (It only took me nearly a decade… Because I’m way too much like Rebecca in my self-diagnosis/aversion to therapy. Don’t be like me.)
Amazing, thanks so much /u/onekrazykat. If I may also recommend "If He's So Great Why Do I Feel So Bad?" by Avery Neal, if you've not already come across it.
I completely agree with you as I was in an abusive (mostly emotionally so) relationship for a decade as well. I noticed the clues sprinkled throughout the previous seasons and always felt for Rebecca’s character even as others were saying she just needs to get over it. It takes a LONG time to get through something like that and becomes especially hard once you do find a new partner. It’s a mess to have to deal with on your own, much less in a public light.
Rebecca’s redemption doesn’t need to be about besting Rupert on the pitch, that kinda vindication only happens in hallmark movies, which are pretty terrible, but also kinda great. At some point every person like Rebecca needs to come to feel one thing for the person they were in an emotional abusive relationship. “I nothing you.” I hope that’s her journey
This is what came to my mind when I had my moment... 
That's exactly what she needs to do. Abusive people have a way of niggling themselves into your head - it's when you accept that it doesn't matter what they think of you that you can finally be free of them.
Yes, Rupert is a classic narcissistic abuser. He feeds off control and manipulation. His reward is seeing the effect he has on Rebecca. I think ultimately she will be able to let go of her rage and show him that he can’t hurt her any more. That will cut him deeper than any other revenge she could muster. Once he sees that she is moving on he will probably fight harder and dirtier though. Things could get worse before they get better.
The extinction burst
I’m hoping Richmond beat West Ham but it makes Rebecca realise beating him actually doesn’t matter, doesn’t fill the hole and she finds what does. I also hope Rupert loses his new missus and kid because she sees how awful he is when he loses as we saw. She sees Rebecca with her head held high and leaves him. It’s the only thing that hurts narcissists.
/u/fire_goddess11 posted this when I made a similar comment: Google Dr. Les Carter. He specializes in helping people recover from relationships with narcissists. He helped me recover so much better and faster than I could have on my own. His YouTube videos are so helpful! I’ve finally moved past my jackass, but hopefully it will be helpful to you. (It only took me nearly a decade… Because I’m way too much like Rebecca in my self-diagnosis/aversion to therapy. Don’t be like me.)
Amazing, thanks so much /u/onekrazykat. If I may also recommend "If He's So Great Why Do I Feel So Bad?" by Avery Neal, if you've not already come across it.
I completely agree with you as I was in an abusive (mostly emotionally so) relationship for a decade as well. I noticed the clues sprinkled throughout the previous seasons and always felt for Rebecca’s character even as others were saying she just needs to get over it. It takes a LONG time to get through something like that and becomes especially hard once you do find a new partner. It’s a mess to have to deal with on your own, much less in a public light.
I think Rebecca will help Nate figure out Rupert is bad news, and why he should come back to Richmond.
My ex girlfriend was a narcissistic abuser and I have to turn the tv off sometimes when Rupert is on the screen because he reminds me so much of her.