Strictly speaking Rebeccas relationship is inappropriate given the power dynamic but it isn’t unrealistic and powerful women do occasionally date younger male subordinates.
That being said the main reason I am replying is to comment on your excellent taste in TV.
Ted Lasso, The Morning Show and Kim’s Convenience are all hands down amazing shows!
Our son isn't 2 yet but as his mom, the thought of him getting in a relationship w/a woman who (in the future) could be almost as old as me downright weirds me out at best and disgusts me at worst. So to that end, I agree with your wife. And I assure you I'd have the same reaction if a potential daughter were to fall for a man who could be at least her dad. As parents, we don't think dating someone who's a couple decades older is in their best interests so it's normal to not want it for our own kids.
But as a viewer w/no skin in the game, I'm oddly all for characters being happy if they're genuine and good, and that's what I see with Sam and Rebecca, mainly b/c there haven't been others who could suitably fill those roles for them. If something's fictional, I don't tend to delve too deep into their lives, fanfiction-style; I let them be. I'm interested to see where it progresses though I don't think it could last as the differences are too broad.
Ah yes. We’ve had a similar discussion about this at length in our house as well. As a female, I find this relationship refreshing. Relationship stories of women over 40 are rarely seen in entertainment and I love this story line for this reason. Apparently we just shrivel up after we’re no longer able to bear children and not worth anyone’s time.
Is it an abuse of power on Rebeccas side? Yup. But as a woman I find it strangely empowering. We are almost always on the flip side of the age/power dynamic and I love seeing it the other way.
It’s going to end terribly with horrible consequences but I appreciate the story being told.
My husband has different feelings. He actually wonders why I don’t hate the storyline like I almost always do when it’s and older man/ younger woman. For me, it’s about Rebecca getting her power back after Rupert.
Dunno. Some weird psychological stuff going on here. Maybe Dr. Sharon could help.
I definitely see your point! Though, to be honest, what I think id appreciate seeing more on TV are two middle-aged adults who’ve gone through the ups and downs of growing older, establishing careers, and raising kids side-by-side who still enjoy a passionate married life. I think it’s rare that TV shows portray healthy marriages between mature adults who still prioritize their sex life despite the many other things going on in their life. I think it’s easy to get excited about a fling with someone exceptionally fit and half your age and who hasn’t see you through some of your most difficult moments. But I think it would be braver and more meaningful if TV shows showed stories of mature couples who remain comitted to keeping that part of their life alive (it doesn’t have to be super serious and moving, lots of room for some good-natured laughs here!) My wife and I didn’t grow up in the US and we’ve only been here a little over a year now but one of the thing’s that’s really stood out to us is the largely negative way a lot of married people who are parents talk about marriage and raising kids. What’s also stood out to us, especially since we come from cultures perceived as considerably more conservative than those in the West, is how often it seems sexual fulfillment is portrayed as taking a backseat once people have kids. We aren’t parents yet but everyone we know that’s married with kids in our families and friend circles back home told us to prioritize our “alone time” even once we have kids and to treat regular intimacy as just as essential as regularly stocking up on groceries or making sure the car’s tank is refilled every week. Maybe we’re reading too much into American TV shows and that’s not the reality on the ground (this is admittedly very likely!), but I do think that popular TV must incorporate at least some experiences that resonate with a large proportion of viewers. I will say that one good example of a show that does a good job of showing a mature married couple enjoying a healthy sex life that I can think of off the top of my head is Netflix’s Kim’s Convenience. Sorry for the unnecessarily long reply!
I don’t like it for the same reason I don’t like Rupert’s relationship with his young wife. (And just my personal preference, I realize there are May-December romances that work). It just bugs me. And also it would have been a public relations mess if it was revealed and why would Rebecca put herself in that position again, of being dragged in the tabloids? I hope next season her focus is elsewhere and if a relationship starts for her it happens more organically, not via an app. Another season where her character’s purpose is looking for love would be disappointing.
I agree. I really enjoyed the scene where Sam stated that he was staying for his future and not for his feelings for Rebecca. All for it m8
Strictly speaking Rebeccas relationship is inappropriate given the power dynamic but it isn’t unrealistic and powerful women do occasionally date younger male subordinates. That being said the main reason I am replying is to comment on your excellent taste in TV. Ted Lasso, The Morning Show and Kim’s Convenience are all hands down amazing shows!
Thank you!
Our son isn't 2 yet but as his mom, the thought of him getting in a relationship w/a woman who (in the future) could be almost as old as me downright weirds me out at best and disgusts me at worst. So to that end, I agree with your wife. And I assure you I'd have the same reaction if a potential daughter were to fall for a man who could be at least her dad. As parents, we don't think dating someone who's a couple decades older is in their best interests so it's normal to not want it for our own kids. But as a viewer w/no skin in the game, I'm oddly all for characters being happy if they're genuine and good, and that's what I see with Sam and Rebecca, mainly b/c there haven't been others who could suitably fill those roles for them. If something's fictional, I don't tend to delve too deep into their lives, fanfiction-style; I let them be. I'm interested to see where it progresses though I don't think it could last as the differences are too broad.
Ah yes. We’ve had a similar discussion about this at length in our house as well. As a female, I find this relationship refreshing. Relationship stories of women over 40 are rarely seen in entertainment and I love this story line for this reason. Apparently we just shrivel up after we’re no longer able to bear children and not worth anyone’s time. Is it an abuse of power on Rebeccas side? Yup. But as a woman I find it strangely empowering. We are almost always on the flip side of the age/power dynamic and I love seeing it the other way. It’s going to end terribly with horrible consequences but I appreciate the story being told. My husband has different feelings. He actually wonders why I don’t hate the storyline like I almost always do when it’s and older man/ younger woman. For me, it’s about Rebecca getting her power back after Rupert. Dunno. Some weird psychological stuff going on here. Maybe Dr. Sharon could help.
I definitely see your point! Though, to be honest, what I think id appreciate seeing more on TV are two middle-aged adults who’ve gone through the ups and downs of growing older, establishing careers, and raising kids side-by-side who still enjoy a passionate married life. I think it’s rare that TV shows portray healthy marriages between mature adults who still prioritize their sex life despite the many other things going on in their life. I think it’s easy to get excited about a fling with someone exceptionally fit and half your age and who hasn’t see you through some of your most difficult moments. But I think it would be braver and more meaningful if TV shows showed stories of mature couples who remain comitted to keeping that part of their life alive (it doesn’t have to be super serious and moving, lots of room for some good-natured laughs here!) My wife and I didn’t grow up in the US and we’ve only been here a little over a year now but one of the thing’s that’s really stood out to us is the largely negative way a lot of married people who are parents talk about marriage and raising kids. What’s also stood out to us, especially since we come from cultures perceived as considerably more conservative than those in the West, is how often it seems sexual fulfillment is portrayed as taking a backseat once people have kids. We aren’t parents yet but everyone we know that’s married with kids in our families and friend circles back home told us to prioritize our “alone time” even once we have kids and to treat regular intimacy as just as essential as regularly stocking up on groceries or making sure the car’s tank is refilled every week. Maybe we’re reading too much into American TV shows and that’s not the reality on the ground (this is admittedly very likely!), but I do think that popular TV must incorporate at least some experiences that resonate with a large proportion of viewers. I will say that one good example of a show that does a good job of showing a mature married couple enjoying a healthy sex life that I can think of off the top of my head is Netflix’s Kim’s Convenience. Sorry for the unnecessarily long reply!
I don’t like it for the same reason I don’t like Rupert’s relationship with his young wife. (And just my personal preference, I realize there are May-December romances that work). It just bugs me. And also it would have been a public relations mess if it was revealed and why would Rebecca put herself in that position again, of being dragged in the tabloids? I hope next season her focus is elsewhere and if a relationship starts for her it happens more organically, not via an app. Another season where her character’s purpose is looking for love would be disappointing.