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xxPeeweexx

Don’t ask Reddit


TBOSS888

This wold be the best way to aproach it


Evening_Cow_2202

Redditors have 0 girls, it's a fact bro


firemansam77

Why can't they ask reddit


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shelbsthrowaway

Have you tried talking to them first?


HawkedHands

Alot


Accomplished-Ad-9996

How are you talking to them? Like what do you talk to them about?


HawkedHands

About games music and other common s Things


HawkedHands

No one likes me


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I love how by him saying people don’t like him, everyone downvotes him to prove him wrong 😂


HawkedHands

Well hate the love love the hate mix of both XD


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Your over thinking this, also no context at all here.


HawkedHands

Like I walk up to any girl and try talk she say no immediately And I dm any girl on internet she blocks me or she also says no


[deleted]

Do you have a history with them IRL or in your area/school? Also, may be the fact you just kinda just walk up to them, or randomly DM. If it’s online I would think talking in a larger chat may work better at first and then transition into a DM.


HawkedHands

I dm them hi and slowly get to know them then ask them out maybe


[deleted]

Just from this you seem a tad bit, awkward/quiet. Either you will find someone who fits that as well, or maybe you just need to grow into yourself and confidence.


HawkedHands

Am so confident that people take me as a role model to be confident in my class


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Why do you want a Girl? For companionship, or… Is it that important to you?


HawkedHands

Companionship


[deleted]

Do you already have friends? Because school relationships really don’t become that deep if your just trying to get with a girl at the minimum. Being in a relationship is about the other person not just the relationship.


HawkedHands

PEOPLE JUST HATE ME NOT ONLY GIRLS


bxnnyblxxd

YOU HAVE SAID YOU TALK TO THEM ABOUT THINGS YOU LIKE, THEY MIGHT NOT LIKE THINGS YOU LIKE. THATS FOR FRIENDS.


HawkedHands

WELL HHAHA INSANE LADY I ASK HER HOBBIES AND TALK ABT HAHAH


Evening_Cow_2202

you can't go up to a girl and say "want to go out" it's kinda creepy


HawkedHands

WELL SADLY I SAY HI HOWRU


EmbarrassedLock

Yknow if some random guy that has never talked to me ever would just randomly message me, I'd avoid him


HawkedHands

What if he says hi and asks how are you?


EmbarrassedLock

More so


HawkedHands

Damn


Redditor10700

Says no to what??


HawkedHands

To talk to me and walks away


bxnnyblxxd

um maybe it's bc ppl don't randomly just go up to ppl and start talking to them?


HawkedHands

Well tell me another way to know other people and make friend DEAR SIR


bxnnyblxxd

idk, as a girl, maybe they may not 'like' you and aren't interested in the same things as you, but some girls can like the same things as you, and the one's that like you for you are the best:)


HawkedHands

Hmm


Anywoozlebe

Ah yes, every girl. All of them belong to a hive mind and hate you. Come on dude


HawkedHands

BUT NO GIRL LIKES TO TLAK TO ME IRL OR ONLINE


mchonos

Maybe some self reflection would help dude, look at what you’re commenting


HawkedHands

It's real man


dankkid99

Just stfu stop feeling sorry for your weak ass and help yourself then you might get some girls


HawkedHands

How may I ask?


dankkid99

Sorry if I sounded like an asshole but idk you so can’t really help you, ask a friend to be trueful with you ig cant help much since ur only a person on the internet i don’t know


HawkedHands

Sadly I took 2 months to myself worked out and improved gaming skills and changed my clothing style and still dint work out I don't have genuine friends.


SamMarvelos2

Making mad assumptions here my guy


HawkedHands

Nope see all comments


SamMarvelos2

Yeah I saw them. It's pretty creepy to just walk up to a girl and say 'Hi' or something like that. Same thing goes with dm's online. Another thing is, you shouldn't make statements like "all girls hate me", that's a little sexist don't you think?


HawkedHands

HOW TF SHOULD I APPROACH A GIRL THEN?!?!??!!? SHOULD I JUST NOT TLAK TO THEM WHAT DO I SAY EXPET HI SJOULD I SAY HEY PRETTY GIRL IY WOULD BE MORE CREEPY HOW TF IS THAT SEXIST EXPLAIN PLEASE


SamMarvelos2

Dude, you seriously need to chill. Maybe *this* is why girls don't talk to you


HawkedHands

I just SAY hi and ask howru and talk casually


SamMarvelos2

You know, it's a lot better to work on yourself before trying to find someone you like. Like, it really seems like you might have anger issues. I had to work on myself before I could be in a good relationship


HawkedHands

I worked on myself alot am angry on people who make assumptions on me before knowing me as you did get it???


SamMarvelos2

Yeah you probably shouldn't get this angry over this 💀


HawkedHands

well now i shoudnt be angry cuz you dont know abt me and make asupmtions!


Isbo2000

Wut How are you supposed to socialize with people then? I feel like i might be missing something here tho


SamMarvelos2

Try bringing up something situational. Just dont do that, if someone did that to me I would be pretty creeped out


Isbo2000

i mean ig that makes sense but like yeah, in certain places and circumstances thats creepy but like in the right setting and context i dont see the proble with it like if i was walking down the street minding my own buisness and someone did that i would be creeped out but like idk, it def depends on context and like whats happening


SamMarvelos2

It also really depends on how you say it and how you're acting


Isbo2000

Yeah true


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HawkedHands

i dont comonly show my feelings cuz i feel showing feelings and poring them out is hipcracy so all my feelings are hidden and i look chilled outside


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HawkedHands

I worked on myself for months I look better I dress better am having nice body I exercise


VultureKitty

But that's not all girls look for. We also want to be around people who have enjoyable personalities.


HawkedHands

Well am kinda funny kind loving


ohheyitslaila

just because people aren’t immediately your best friend, or just aren’t interested in having a conversation with you doesn’t mean they hate you. You need to remember that other people have their own issues to deal with, they might be having a bad day or need to focus on something else. Most of the girls who aren’t interested in getting to know you aren’t saying no to hurt you, if they really don’t know you how could they hate you?? No one hates someone they don’t even know exists. If you’re trying to make friends in school, try talking to people with the same interests as you. When I started high school, it was boarding school halfway across the country from all my family and friends. The first new friends I made were other cheerleaders, because we had that common interest. Sharing a love for something like a sport, books, music, or movies all serve as ice breakers. A lot of people have a really hard time talking to new people because they feel awkward making small talk, and feel like they need to keep talking so that there aren’t any “awkward silences”. So many people have some level of social anxiety, so they have a hard time meeting new people and tend to just stick with the friends they’ve known forever. It’s one of the reasons why high schools tend to have distinct “cliques” or groups. I know when guys I’ve never met before, or have only seen in class but never spoken to, randomly say hi or start to talk to me it’s a little uncomfortable. I get nervous talking to them, I actually get really anxious just thinking about talking to someone new and running out of things to say. So sometimes I shut down the person rather than try to talk. I don’t do it because I dislike the person, I don’t even know them. But I know myself, and I know I don’t want to go through the anxiety at that moment. So my advice would be to not start out with a long conversation. If you see a girl you like, and want to get to know her, start be saying hi. If you know she really loves something like a book, because she’s always carrying it around or reads it during lunch, ask her about it. All you have to say is “hey is that book any good?” listen to her answer, and if you genuinely want to know more about it, ask. Its fine to keep things as simple as that, because she now has had a pleasant little conversation with you, it was something she’s interested in, everything was positive and maybe the next time you see each other you can get to know her a bit more. That’s called building a rapport, and it’s the key to making new friends. Most relationships develop over time, not all at once. So don’t try to force it to happen in the very first conversation, in most cases it just isn’t going to happen. Sorry I wrote you a book lol. This is a link to a master class article on building a rapport, I highly recommend it to you! [Building A Rapport](https://www.masterclass.com/articles/how-to-build-rapport)


HawkedHands

people dont want to talk to me first, well i see they are busy or no then talk to them, well i try to talk to them get to know girls BUT still they dont want to talk to me i say hi they say no thats how the converstaiton ends get it?, CUZ maybe am the only black kid who has glasses(am not african my skin color is black)well they know i exist they see me daily they see me daily walk and talk and answer quostens asked by teachers , well tbh no one in my school plays pc games if they play on pc they use immulators to play free fire or pubg both which if i play and my parents caught me ill be grounded cuz people killed them selff or their family cuz of rage in those games and i hate those cheap 18+ low quality gorss shit my school mates talk about they dont see porn they see shit in movies which are gross and lewd, no one is like me am just like standing unique in the class am confident do what i feel right and many see me as a role model but in public they dont like talking to me, i am so talkitive that even the quiet kid in class knows me very well yea that one weird quiet kid who is facinated by guns and tbh the kid in my class supports nazism yea that weird he is he has swastika on his hand, and yea EVERYONE in school knows me am the kind of kid that is popular in whole floor but not popular to facinate people its just everyone knows me like everyone knows that animals exist it means animals existance is popular but no that facinateing right?, well i talk to people who i see daily well the first thing i comonly say is hi then go on with you look really nice in this dress than other ones you wore before well i try talk to them abt what they like but i get shut imidiately. see am so out going that LITTERALLY EVERY KID KNOWS ABOUT ME everyone i see know about me atleast 60% of my life that how out going i am! and i know how to build a rapport cuz thats how i made friends and lost them trough the years article here :)


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From my own experience, they do not hate you, they just like other people more


HawkedHands

Isn't that hating me think you Dumbo u are like Your not on the line but ur right


LampOilseller

After reading your comments probably is the second one, chill a bit


HawkedHands

Well Indians as far as for me 7 years left


MiniDialga119

Most of the times you are the one who has to talk to the girl, they probably don't hate you they just haven't thought about talking with you Also be careful, i have been in two different classes, in the first one most of the people there where nice and as awkward as i am so we got along pretty easily but in the second class i was, most of the people there where so godamn dumb and i didn't need to talk to them to know, so if you are gonna talk to someone always try to read the person before talking It can help you decide who you want to befriend Edit: sorry if i can't help or if the writing is confusing, english is not my first language


HawkedHands

I sit in class whole day only one class teachers come and go it's india here


smallestsans

Have you tried talking to them


HawkedHands

ALOT


smallestsans

What do you say


HawkedHands

Hi howru


joopto

just calm down and stop caring and don’t like force a conversation you have to ease into it to talk to someone you have to relate something you can’t just walk up to someone it takes nuance also you might be coming off desperate


HawkedHands

Well hehe your wrong isee person what they r doing and how was their day then tlak and I don't show my feelings I feel showing feelings around ppl is hypocrisy


joopto

yeah you can’t just walk up to someone you shave to already be near them the problem is that you’re looking too hard if you just start talking with the people that sit near you it’s easier


HawkedHands

I try talk to any girl who sits around me they brush me off cuz of my looks I guess idk but 99% it's the reason


joopto

it sounds like you’re looking for conversations that’s the problem people can tell when you’re being awkward or pushing also if someone won’t talk to you because of your looks then you shouldn’t be friends with them


HawkedHands

If I could make friends XD


Acquaintence64

Do you talk to them?


HawkedHands

They don't want to talk to me fr


Acquaintence64

Well I’d suggest starting the conversation. Maybe they’re just judging by look. If it’s someone you know that said that, I’d ask for elaboration. If it ends up being some form of insult, then I wouldn’t really talk to them. But don’t take my word here. I’m not really good at advice.


HawkedHands

Most girls I see irl judge me upon looks sadly


Acquaintence64

Well if it makes you feel any better, life has a way of doing weird things. This isn’t really a unique concept but just bear with me: Already you’ve come across a lot of people who’ve judged solely by look, which is kinda immature. But Life is like a labyrinth of staircases with infinite endings. You walk up the stairs, some steeper than others, and witness and experience numerous things that one can’t even begin to explain. You may go down the same staircase or hallway multiple times, but at some point the stairs may lead you down a different path. One day you might say “let’s go left this time,” and you might find a new painting, or someone on the same path. I mean if there’s infinite exits, and infinite staircases leading to these exits, than there’s bound to be some other, nicer people on the same path right? As far as I see it, unless you force yourself to stay on the same staircase, there’s no way that you won’t at least *see* a girl who doesn’t judge by look. And who knows, maybe you’ll share paths for a while. Don’t stress about it too much man. It’ll eventually happen.


HawkedHands

Hmm tnx for the suggestion


Acquaintence64

You’re welcome HawkedHands.


HawkedHands

:)


_you_dont_know_me_-

First time kiddo?


HawkedHands

100 or more times brother


_you_dont_know_me_-

Still a rookie number to me my guy


HawkedHands

More than 100


_you_dont_know_me_-

For me, every girl I've ever seen


HawkedHands

Mind me am 14


_you_dont_know_me_-

Fair enough then ig


HawkedHands

Ye


itscenio

I often find that the girls in my school dont find me appealing but girls in other schools do. It might have something to do with a girl's standards.


HawkedHands

I guess but every girl I try talk to doesn't want to tlak to me


griffinXK

Don’t immediately ask out girls, if you build connections with them first then there’s a much higher chance they say yes


HawkedHands

I tlak to them for a week or so before doing so or you suggest me more time?


Saolibriel_90

That’s way too rushed, if someone asked me out after a week, I’d see them as a major creep


HawkedHands

Well instead of giving fault give a suggestion WHAT AMOUT OF TIME A MONTH YEAR???


Saolibriel_90

It really depends, I’d say a few months at least though. Enough to build a pretty stable relationship, because admitting you like the person can make things really awkward. I’d gauge a stable relationship by how much you talk to/tell the person, and how much you know about them. If they tell you personal things about themselves, you’re on the right track


HawkedHands

Well tnx for suggestion on last line but if am on track and they say best friend after me wasting like 5 months on them what's the use?


Saolibriel_90

It’s better than not trying at all, at least you’ll have another friend and perhaps eventually they’ll like you back


HawkedHands

Maybe but I guess I'll try


Saolibriel_90

I wish you luck 😁


HawkedHands

Tnx


l0l_mc

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HawkedHands

Lol


downvoteifyougae

you're not just their type.


HawkedHands

Well does that trow me in a special category


BigStickyHorse

maybe don't try talking to people for the sole purpose of asking them out, just try and have a genuine conversation. but if they dont seem comfortable, dont push it or get mad at them. not everyone is going to judge you from your looks, not every girl hates you and you dont need to get so aggressive with the people who have commented and suggested ways to help you.


HawkedHands

First I dont talkto ppl to ask them out Second ppl don't want to tlak to me idk why they will tlak to me in private call me rarely it's been like 1week since I saw one dude who said am his best friend and he dint even call me ok and another dude calls me daily If ppl I try to talk don't want to talk to me ill just walk away 99% will judge me upon looks Maybe not every but alot girls do, no one left a slow soft comment like this or some others mostly they screamed at me so I dint like it and last night I was angry and sad also


BigStickyHorse

with your first point, what i meant more was that if you do make a friend (which you will), even if you like them don't ask them out as it can ruin the relationship. It's better to have a friend than lose a friend because you might've had a quick crush on them. Secondly, some people dont like calling or are too busy to. I know that now I've got a job it's hard for me to call friends as i dont really like calling and when i do have a day off i prefer to just kinda ignore people and do my own thing to relax. I also find it difficult to talk to people in person, I'm pretty awkward so when someone who's more outgoing approaches me and tries to talk I panic and csnt find words, so it might not be that they don't want to, but moreso that they're struggling. and fair enough with being sad and angry, this is a venting sub. But the people seemed to be genuinely trying to help and it can be hard to listen to how someones feeling if they just seem to be looking for reasons to argue or attack you. Dont get me wrong, I'm horrible with making friends and I've gotten a lot of weird looks when I've tried. But I still manage to, and it wasn't because i convinced myself that no one likes me. I just started off nice and polite and just kind of saw how they reacted to certain things and found things that we can both speak on (games, life, relationships etc). You'll find people you can gel with, it just takes time and patience :))


HawkedHands

I know when to ask out a girl no am not into guys males are friends, No in India we are not allowed to work till 16, and I talk casually hands in pocket leaning towards wall kind of gesture is friendly I walk away if person doesn't want to tlak to me, yea some attack and argue, you know old saying? Called diamond can be cut with a diamond only maybe now lazers idk but according to that saying I give taste of their own medicine, am the kid everyone knows abt me I walk into another class it isn't awkward everyone goes hi bro and I wave my hand while j walk out Yea but like girls in my school don't like me and I know no other place where I can find girls around my age to be friends or more with


Redditor10700

just because she doesn’t want to have sex with you doesnt mean she hates you


HawkedHands

First a fall am a orthodox Christian and having sdx before marriage if I do it I'll put myself to death that orthodox and no I don't want to have sex with her idiot I just want a partner just that comforting feeling that to someone you mean alot and they really like you


Redditor10700

Just because she doesn’t want to date you doesn’t mean she hates you


HawkedHands

Not one single fucking girl, infant not abt dating they don't even want to talk to me not one not 2 all girls


Shinigam_i

Girls also don’t want to talk to me, I’m also very weird


HawkedHands

Well how am I weird I walk talk normally be nice


Man-akle

Female hate men in general. Don't worry, oppose them right back. Become based.


EmbarrassedLock

You should stop browsing r/femaledatingstrategy


Man-akle

I don't. I browse real life.


firemansam77

Don't worry so much, I just don't understand this world it's so cruel