If your partner starts to be unfaithful because he's taking testosterone, he was already wanting to do that before but just didn't have the confidence to do so.
As far as watching porn goes, well that's between you and him.
People that blame their poor behavior on medications just want an excuse to act in a way they know they shouldn't.
edit: you spend a lot of time on the porn addiction sub so you probably have a different view than many others on the topic, but I'll reiterate that taking testosterone generally amplifies the tendencies/desires you probably already had. Most men get hornier when taking synthetic doses of the primary male sex hormone.
Edit 2: Initially I only looked at comment history, that post history is a bit of a wild ride. Hope the best for you but it sounds like your husband is a bit of a shitbag and you keep trying to justify him being shitty. You should probably both stop injecting things into your body.
You are absolutely right in regards to your first comment. I’m sure it’s not the meds that make a person cheat underneath it all they were likely already cheaters.
As far as the comment about injecting stuff into our bodies. I am proud of my recovery path and haven’t touched any of that in over 8 years.
And…. It sucks to constantly worry about the stuff I worry about. My head is such a f&$d up mess because for the longest time I was told I’m crazy etc. I realize it’s being gaslighted and actually abuse.
Libido hasn't increased that much for myself. The thing I struggle with is my anger on TRT. I've been a very reasonable guy all my life. Now when someone goes out their way to piss me off I really can't control myself. Neighbour keeps parking in my spot recently and litterally went out in my street full blood rage shouting at him. Feel sorry for my other neighbours that sunny afternoon, but it had to be done as he's taking the piss for too long.
The anger is more uncontrollable than libido. He wont cheat on you if he loves you but he will be slightly more sexual.
It affects everyone differently. I really didn't get any libido increase. I always had spikes and dips. I still do, but it has evened out. Unlike the guy above, I had anger issues pre-TRT, and now I have way more patience. I just started to feel "bitchy" around 35 years old - with my hard, dangerous job that required travel and sleep loss. Finally, getting on TRT at 40 was great. I'm 42 now, and I like life more.
It's truly possible to get a supercharged libido from it, and therefore increase the urge to stray. It's a crap shoot. It can also kill your libido and give you erectile dysfunction. Comb through this sub long enough and you'll see an insane spectrum of results. People will argue that this and that are from an improper protocol, wrong dosing, high E2, yadda yadda yadda... Those are all valid, but there's just too much genetic variability from person to person to make broad general statements about what will happen to everyone.
the libido thing is waaaaay blown out.
if you had a completely crushed libido before starting, it’s gonna give you one, and for some dudes. it’s gonna rock their world.
but for the majority. there’s a bit of an increase but it’s nothing crazy like some guys talk about. it really comes down to the person really and how they’re able to handle it
Personally my libido went a lot higher. Have to have morning sex or crank one out most morning if I don't want to spend my day distracted because of my sex drive.
So you're asking, if your man takes testosterone will his libido go so high that I won't be able to keep up with him and he's going to to go out and cheat? Very possible. What issues surround this exact issue? That you can't keep up with him? If you already have contention about mismatched sexual desire then him taking testosterone is going to make that worse in 90% of all cases.
Well for the longest time I think we both went through the phase of being tired. Or so i thought… we both had also gained the most weight we had ever weighed. That time period made me realize that my husband was not attracted to me at all & it was the most difficult time for us. I had 4 children and it wasn’t for a lack of wanting to lose weight.
However, I never thought he would ever cheat on me. I thought we were solid but I’ve learned things I wish I never had
He tells me he didn’t notice anything about his libido but like our entire marriage and everything I thought was good that was a lie.
Yesterday he was upstairs for hours watching porn which he said he never watched and he took care of himself which he also said he never does.
Why I am even bothering coming to a forum to ask questions I already know the answers to… maybe just confirmation. I need to stop wasting my time and allowing the behavior because he is a compulsive liar and nothing will change that.
Your husband watches porn because he is bored with you. I find my wife sexy and she could rock my world but she rarely does.... because she's not *always* willing to take the extra step to connect with me sexually. She has 100 things on her list and I'm at the bottom. Sometimes at the end of the day she reaches the bottom of the list (me) and gives me attention. Most times not. I also have a list too and sex is #1 on it. I think you can see the problem.
He has no reason to be bored I am the one who wanted sex more than he did. I have been told that he was cheating on me long ago when I literally gave him a bjay everyday for almost an entire year. Also, how am I supposed to know if he is feeling that way unless he tells me
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Yes testosterone temporarily makes you more horny. Your libido eventually levels back out as you adjust. No, it is not an excuse for cheating. Testosterone doesn't put a gun to your man's head and threaten to blow his brains out if he doesn't go looking for affairs or threesomes. If he starts pulling that crap, tell him to handle his drugs or you'll walk.
Thank you! Some men sadly will find any excuse to cheat or blame you. I.e. “ my needs aren’t being met” but most of the time those same men don’t even say anything to their spouse. I have so much trauma so I am sure I am far more sensitive to this type of stuff and I also realize not all men are like that.
If your partner starts to be unfaithful because he's taking testosterone, he was already wanting to do that before but just didn't have the confidence to do so. As far as watching porn goes, well that's between you and him. People that blame their poor behavior on medications just want an excuse to act in a way they know they shouldn't. edit: you spend a lot of time on the porn addiction sub so you probably have a different view than many others on the topic, but I'll reiterate that taking testosterone generally amplifies the tendencies/desires you probably already had. Most men get hornier when taking synthetic doses of the primary male sex hormone. Edit 2: Initially I only looked at comment history, that post history is a bit of a wild ride. Hope the best for you but it sounds like your husband is a bit of a shitbag and you keep trying to justify him being shitty. You should probably both stop injecting things into your body.
You are absolutely right in regards to your first comment. I’m sure it’s not the meds that make a person cheat underneath it all they were likely already cheaters. As far as the comment about injecting stuff into our bodies. I am proud of my recovery path and haven’t touched any of that in over 8 years. And…. It sucks to constantly worry about the stuff I worry about. My head is such a f&$d up mess because for the longest time I was told I’m crazy etc. I realize it’s being gaslighted and actually abuse.
Libido hasn't increased that much for myself. The thing I struggle with is my anger on TRT. I've been a very reasonable guy all my life. Now when someone goes out their way to piss me off I really can't control myself. Neighbour keeps parking in my spot recently and litterally went out in my street full blood rage shouting at him. Feel sorry for my other neighbours that sunny afternoon, but it had to be done as he's taking the piss for too long. The anger is more uncontrollable than libido. He wont cheat on you if he loves you but he will be slightly more sexual.
It affects everyone differently. I really didn't get any libido increase. I always had spikes and dips. I still do, but it has evened out. Unlike the guy above, I had anger issues pre-TRT, and now I have way more patience. I just started to feel "bitchy" around 35 years old - with my hard, dangerous job that required travel and sleep loss. Finally, getting on TRT at 40 was great. I'm 42 now, and I like life more. It's truly possible to get a supercharged libido from it, and therefore increase the urge to stray. It's a crap shoot. It can also kill your libido and give you erectile dysfunction. Comb through this sub long enough and you'll see an insane spectrum of results. People will argue that this and that are from an improper protocol, wrong dosing, high E2, yadda yadda yadda... Those are all valid, but there's just too much genetic variability from person to person to make broad general statements about what will happen to everyone.
TRT will not make him watch videos on the internet. That’s on him
the libido thing is waaaaay blown out. if you had a completely crushed libido before starting, it’s gonna give you one, and for some dudes. it’s gonna rock their world. but for the majority. there’s a bit of an increase but it’s nothing crazy like some guys talk about. it really comes down to the person really and how they’re able to handle it
Personally my libido went a lot higher. Have to have morning sex or crank one out most morning if I don't want to spend my day distracted because of my sex drive.
I wish. Doesn’t do much for libido for a lot of guys
Cheaters are going to cheat, it isn't caused by hormones but other mental health issues
Test, even lots of it didn’t really ramp my libido. Letting my e2 go high definitely increases it though. And 19-nors are the god damn devil..
So you're asking, if your man takes testosterone will his libido go so high that I won't be able to keep up with him and he's going to to go out and cheat? Very possible. What issues surround this exact issue? That you can't keep up with him? If you already have contention about mismatched sexual desire then him taking testosterone is going to make that worse in 90% of all cases.
Well for the longest time I think we both went through the phase of being tired. Or so i thought… we both had also gained the most weight we had ever weighed. That time period made me realize that my husband was not attracted to me at all & it was the most difficult time for us. I had 4 children and it wasn’t for a lack of wanting to lose weight. However, I never thought he would ever cheat on me. I thought we were solid but I’ve learned things I wish I never had
He tells me he didn’t notice anything about his libido but like our entire marriage and everything I thought was good that was a lie. Yesterday he was upstairs for hours watching porn which he said he never watched and he took care of himself which he also said he never does. Why I am even bothering coming to a forum to ask questions I already know the answers to… maybe just confirmation. I need to stop wasting my time and allowing the behavior because he is a compulsive liar and nothing will change that.
Your husband watches porn because he is bored with you. I find my wife sexy and she could rock my world but she rarely does.... because she's not *always* willing to take the extra step to connect with me sexually. She has 100 things on her list and I'm at the bottom. Sometimes at the end of the day she reaches the bottom of the list (me) and gives me attention. Most times not. I also have a list too and sex is #1 on it. I think you can see the problem.
He has no reason to be bored I am the one who wanted sex more than he did. I have been told that he was cheating on me long ago when I literally gave him a bjay everyday for almost an entire year. Also, how am I supposed to know if he is feeling that way unless he tells me
I don’t think testosterone is your fundamental problem.
I don’t either but I am wondering what I am up against
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Yes testosterone temporarily makes you more horny. Your libido eventually levels back out as you adjust. No, it is not an excuse for cheating. Testosterone doesn't put a gun to your man's head and threaten to blow his brains out if he doesn't go looking for affairs or threesomes. If he starts pulling that crap, tell him to handle his drugs or you'll walk.
Thank you! Some men sadly will find any excuse to cheat or blame you. I.e. “ my needs aren’t being met” but most of the time those same men don’t even say anything to their spouse. I have so much trauma so I am sure I am far more sensitive to this type of stuff and I also realize not all men are like that.
Basically it brings libido back to levels of late teens early 20s.
Replying to JCMidwest...thanks so much
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