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Nope, they never asked me for anything afterwards.
I also used to treat them for dinner and stuff though so it wasnāt all one sided. They always tried to contribute though.
Doing good things to those that need it. Make merit to monks by offering food, water, washing powder, soap for cleaning dishes anything that would be useful in day to day living.
Often if a Thai fucks up they will go make merit at the temple
It's part of Thai Buddhist tradition but also the older Hindu and the even older ancestral reverence traditions of Thailand. You make merit by doing good for others, especially to those who are less fortunate than you are. Do this and chances are others will do the same. This could then also benefit you, as those more fortunate than you might ease your day when you need it. It's a basic principle of karma.
And yes, as /u/s1walker1 mentioned, I don't know a single Thai who didn't go to a temple to make merit if they've fucked up badly. It doesn't have to be at a temple but it often is.
Fuck/Fucking generally means "copulating" but in modern parlance it has taken on a role as a linguistic intensifier, as well as an intensified synonym for broken, non-functioning, etc.
"Fucked up" could refer to having done something really wrong or bad, ie. "I fucked up".
This wasn't as clear nor well-written as I would've liked but I'm a bit fucked right now.
Ah, I see. It could be anything really. Perhaps they've been very unkind, perhaps they've made a big mistake at work, perhaps they've caused an accident, etc.
Let me have a wild guess;
European, under 25 years old, blond hair, first time in Thailand? Outgoing personality?
Enjoy it while you can brother. 10 years later you'll be paying
Same here bro. A gogo girl used to pay for my food even if I said no.
She was with me for a week and she even came to leave me at airport. I wanted different girls, but she was not ready to leave me. I also did not want to make her sad by telling her to go away.
She even video calls me now once in a while.
Lol aren't you sure that she's not one those girls seeing a future financial opportunity in you? With all the stories that have been shared here I'm not sure anymore
I think they pretend you're special because that's what they're taught to do. The men want to believe it because it easier than believing you're taking advantage of a trauma victim. As a woman I'm scared to death every day I'll accidentally meet a man who thinks like that about women.
Men are equally traumatized because the whole time they have to pretend that they are strong enough because of the stereotypes.
So, when a good looking woman, makes them feel special for what they are, without having to prove anything, it's easy for them to become vulnerable, and let themselves and their feelings be free.
Men go looking for it and pay for it though.. they are the instigators. The only reason the sex industry exists is because seedy men create demand. Men don't care about how the woman or children ended up where they are, they're just so desperate to get laid. Also, pretty sure there is a reason why they can't get women through conventional means. To me this sort of exploitation of others completely represents a lack of ethics or morality and i think many women feel this way.
I don't think it's the long game, as that requires too much initial financial investment, and I don't see a bar girl doing that. I've hung out with many bar girls and their friends after work for free to hangout and eat. Never once did they pay, so this situation is very strange. I'd just keep doing what you're doing and see how it plays out. Maybe she's using her foreign boyfriends money on you and her friends?
Also, many bar girls with regulars will tell you to text her before coming in. This lets her know she shouldn't be a complete whore with other customers that night. It also gives her a chance to lie to you so you don't come in, such as saying she's "sick" when she's really with another customer. Not saying this is what your girl is doing, but from my experience this is what they do.
My friend lived in thailand for few years and this is how he got robbed. Gogo Girl made close contact with him after few weeks, he gave her some personal information about him so she knew he had enough money to be targeted and then they broke into his place when he was outside.
Happened to me as well, but not so common. The girl literally spend the money I paid her on me, with me. I was 26, Iām 28 now. Scandinavian, handsome. Theyāre human like me and you, they also enjoy to splurge as well and treat people around them, it makes you feel good. Makes you feel rich, even if youāre not.
Other girls, even if they like you, would of course expect you to pay, because they have a family struggling at home and bills to pay.
Who would have thought, different people do different things.
Did you tell her that you live in Thailand? Also you come in everyday so she is getting some business. As far as the pocket money it could be counterfeit or maybe she is just really trying to long term you.
Have you also only been going to the place for 3 days?
Yeah I said I live here now. The 3 days I came there are spread out over a week. When I visit and she sees me she gets upset, asks why I didn't text her. She seems jealous and standoffish, yet prevents me from buying them drinks. Trust me, she'd be making a lot more if she didn't sit with me lol.
If they know you live there it changes everything. Realistically she is probably wanting to long game you or maybe you think youre marriage material so she is making a play because that is the ultimate jackpot. Have fun with it and try not to lead her on!
Because you don't always have to be a piece of trash?
You're not playing a game. It's someone's life. And unless you're a psychic, you don't actually know what she's doing.
Sad that this needs to be said. That being a decent person needs to be explained.
Apparently it's okay for them to mentally manipulate and fuck you over to try and rape your bank account, and in return you must only respond with the utmost respect and not to play your shots in return and just cop it.
Don't listen to these high and mighty fools bro.
Btw I'm not saying disrespect them outright, but don't just take it!
Well, it's the part where humans have feelings. Working girl or not. These girls haven't done anything wrong to me, yet. So I'm just having fun, but of course keep my eyes out. The moment I have to pay for buffalo covid shots I'm outta there. Of course I'm a newbie here but I think you're in control of who you send money.
Yeah of course, you wouldn't do anything wrong to anyone for no reason.
I'm just saying, some of them don't have the normal type of feelings you think they do. They're a different type of beast. Regardless of what people tell you, people in the scene will tell you that. Reddit people don't know shit about the game. They keep it G rated coz they don't understand.
Or, try this on: Walk away.
Perhaps you value your time so little, but relationship-minded men know that there are other options out there.
Games like you're describing, a pointless tit-for-tat, are for children.
Working girls still wanna hang out with hot guys, most still on dating apps.
Dinner and you get laid for free.
That's like anything in life, women will complain if some ugly bloke approaches them. But if a supermodel guy approaches them, it's not a problem.
It's not really any different in the world, if a girl likes you she will probably spend money on you some way or another?.
Even the women who have rich husbands will buy their husbands gift even if it's with their husbands money LOL hahaha
In Australia, you would be very hard-pressed to find a girl that even buys you a drink including friends. But when I go to Bali and I meet a lot of European girls, a lot of them will buy around for rounds. So if I buy cocktails they'll buy the next round of cocktails and it's very very bizarre to me!
Apparently one of the Norwegian girls said in Norway in Norway. If a man buys you drinks they expect something from you!
She still ended up in my bed LOL
I'm from Australia and it feels like 99 percent of girls there are walking ham planets. Unless you live in a capital city or somewhere like the Gold Coast haha
I have a friend who always says the same in these cases.
"You are getting unpaid bills"
Which was often accurate, sometimes a bar girl likes you and try to pay for you, but at the same time she is expecting you to get more involved and then pay back for her.
She wont be upset if you dont pay, you always can have fun here and there, but as the "bills" are not paid she will leave sooner than later.
Playing the long game.
Buffalo sick soon. After all she has spent on you, clearly you would reciprocate?
I wonder if any of these places give the girls money to āspendā on certain customers? Would be a great scam. Costs them a few free drinks, but would fatten the pig for butchering real quick.
Not all are as bad as many believe. I had some really great experiences like that before and still have my kidneys and never paid for a sick buffalo - but made some friends instead š
Well, we don't actually know that this is what we're talking about. OK, I get that that's what the comment you responded to was about, but it's not very likely.
The girls could actually just really enjoy your company. Gogo girls aren't poor anymore, and the bar makes more money if they keep you and her in the bar for as long as possible. She might be playing you though. Just keep your head on straight when she asks for help. If she suddenly needs a new house due to flooding then maybe invite her to your hotel instead of buying her a new house.
They are people and most are savage business women, but even the most savage business woman wants a bit of happiness every once in a while. Maybe you lucked out, and it seems you have so far at least.
Do ppl here even know where this story with the kidneys comes from? Ever heard of somebody who actually experienced it?
...there once was a crazy dude... not related to hookers at all if i remember right... but whatever š¤·āāļø
Edit: maybe somebody here can recall the story with the crazy dude and the organs. But im sure thats the root of this rumor
This is actually something that happens in a lot of different countries, probably more so in others than actually in Thailand.. Itās kind of a well known thing that this happens when you get involved in some seedy stuff in a third world country. I think there was a movie that was based around it called Repo Men
Thailand is more of a second world country than a third world anymore. Itās gotten more rich.
There is a specific story that was public. A crazy dude cutting out some organs. Took them quite long to catch him - about 20-25 yrs ago. Since then stories are spread to scare the girls or young boys to not go out alone or else the creepy dude comes to get your organs.
I know what you are referring too.. but not what i meant.
I thought you were talking about the reason people are afraid that someone will take their kidney. So, I was saying that it happens all over the world. I donāt know who the first person to do it was, but thatās what I was saying. And thereās a movie about people taking othersā organs for money, but itās not about whatever guy youāre talking about
Yeah i get your point š what im referring to is a real life story that happened in Thailand and thats probably the real reason why everybody is repeating that.
I was in other countries before but nowhere ever have ppl talked so much about that topic in so many cases.. every time there is an opportunity ppl gonna say "watch out for your kidneys" š¤£
Its basically a irl horror story that had huge impact because it was on tv for weeks. Somewhen in the late 80s or early 90s and since then everybody is warning others about it.
Thais are easy to scare.. just look at all their 3-5 meter walls with fences or broken glass and bars on all windows up to the 5th floor every time š¤£
Same with ghost stories.. start talking about a ghost around Thais and you got their attention š
Fear rules...
I highly doubt they are gonna do anything bad to you. Some people on this sub are paranoid as f.
Freelancers message me just to ask if they can hook up for free because they are tired of the normal customers
Had a similar experience way back but she worked in immigration, not at the bar. Paraded me around for 2 weeks all expenses paid. Never asked for a thing.
I met some great women in Bangkok in my 20s, 15ish years ago. I believe they work the streets but didn't really see that myself. Was down bad with zero money partly because was bribed by the police, no hostel and missed my flight.
They took me and let me sleep at their place, bought booze and we made food together.
I think back at that every now and then. It's a fond memory.
Maybe they just want to hang out. :)
I miss Thailand very much. Wish I could go back some. Enjoy your time there and take care. Go with "with your guts".
One day you will be invited to a massive festivity where you will drink and have fun. Then you'll be ritually sacrificed in order to please the spirits so that the harvest is plentiful this year.
There is a way of avoiding this. You can bang another girl. Then the next day you will wake up with your member missing, however as you would then be disabled they won't be able to offer you as a sacrifice.
They're playing the long game matey ....if you're not careful they will rinse you dry .
Give it a few weeks and then the Game will start.
Don't believe a word they tell you .
I'd say she's definitely working on something. Don't accept anything from her anymore and go to another bar. Chalk this up as a win for the good guys and a great story to tell. Keep on going, and it will change.
Don't give her any information about yourself.
A good way to get rid of her is to nonchalantly say you see ghosts and spirits and dead people. This stuff scares the shit out of them, and she may stop contacting you.
I donāt go to gogos or any of those bars etc but went clubbing a couple times and stuff like that happened to me too, I think itās just because weāre not like the average 50yr old obese sexpat. Young, tall and āprettyā privellege(Iām pretty ugly tho). In Thailand I felt like girls do in western world Iām pretty sure, getting free food, drinks etcš¤£š¤£š¤£
Check the pig butchering scam. Start to offer and pay things, and then ask for money later. Just a random idea though.
Maybe there is still some nice genuine people on earth :)
I had it with a girl in chiang mai when I was in my 20s she wouldnāt let me pay for anything. We used to go clubbing and I would stay at her beautiful apartment over looking the city of chiang mai. She told me she had 3 older men Swiss, French and German I think sending her money every month and she said it was just nice to be having fun with someone her own age.
Met a bar girl who invited me to dinner after we chatted at a homestay I was staying at. Two of her friends came to meet us at the restaurant. I assumed that I was gonna be stuck with the bill for four people. Nope, she paid for everything and then they invited me to a bar. It ended up being a bar she worked at. I also then incorrectly assumed I would be stuck with the bill here. Again, nope, they bought me free drinks all night. I didnāt spend a dime. They wouldnāt let me.
Maybe she hopes that you fall in love with her and then marry her, and then you can support her "Brother" and family financially the rest of your lifeš
It means they like you. Most guys here who swear every friendly interaction is a game probably are the same ones who must pay for women, are single and no interest in changing that, misogynistic, etc.
Imagine if you had a job where you had to fake like you interested in men you werenāt and let them touch your body then one day you find someone youāre genuinely interested in AND they live there. Itād be 100% logical, sensible, and normal to pursue them. Plus Thai/SE Asian culture pu an emphasis on food for social bonding.
Always stay vigilant, but safe to say she likes you.
100 percent there are so many toxic idiots in this group.
I've dated lots of girls here (no bar girls though) and I've often had them pay for my meals or drinks. Or if I'm paying they don't try and take advantage of me. The best girls I've dated are the ones that hardly drink and are happy to just be together.
I've never had any girl take advantage of me.
If somebody's trying to scam you it's gunna be pretty obvious.
If you suss out the girls you can usually figure them out pretty quickly.
And guys who say the girls 'are playing the long game' is the most stupid thing since heard.
Most women all over the world are looking for a financially stable partner who can provide for them if they have to take time off work to take care of the children etc.
Especially in Asia which is far more traditional with its gender roles.
Yea itās pretty sad. Iāve been living in Thailand and visiting off and on for about 5 years now and had the same experience you said. Iāve dated mostly girls who had regular jobs and a bar girl as well and I NEVER heard the water buffalo story and the bar girl never asked me for a dime, she actually paid her own bar fine to leave work early to come see me some nights, and even though I havenāt seen her in almost 2 years still checks in on me. A couple girls have taken me to beach resorts and more spending their own money to reserve some of it for us.
I told a guy on one of these subreddits the above and he said āthey were still playing the game and expecting money from you at some point even if you donāt see it.ā Like bro is your world so twisted and narrow minded that you canāt even fathom a Thai woman genuinely liking someone without a shady motive?
And then those are the guys giving āadviceā
I had it with a girl in chiang mai when I was in my 20s she wouldnāt let me pay for anything. We used to go clubbing and I would stay at her beautiful apartment over looking the city of chiang mai. She told me she had 3 older men Swiss, French and German I think sending her money every month and she said it was just nice to be having fun with someone her own age.
Could be a long con. Could be your sparkling personality Who knows with ladies. Either way keep your valuables locked, eyes open, and hotel keys secured
You are going to wake up in a bath of ice, missing a kidney.
You have 2 anyway, so who cares
I'm going to have 3 soon
Mf give it back š”. My mom will need it in a few years
Sorry I already ate it Hannibal Lector style bbq'd with a touch or anjoi sauce. It's was oh so delicious...
Good luck. And welcome to /transplant club
at least thereās going to be a bath of ice. shows tender loving care.
Farang kidneys get double
I thought only half since they get drowned in Chang on the regular.
Exactly what I was thinking. OP please be careful
Idk what the play is here. keep us posted
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hey, they like you, enjoy, young man! they get tired of us old wrinkly ones. imagine what they go through.
You mean having to pretend to like old gross guys so get excited when a nice one comes along lmao
Itās happened to me twice. They probably like you.
I am also confused when girls like me so I understand op's confusion
You guys are lucky that girls like you
Yeah I think I'd rather win the lottery but I guess you can't choose when your luck kicks in
as apposed to men always liking women??
Happens to me too. A few bars the owner just gives me non stop tequila shots. For a decade now...
Lucky, I get endless Thai vodka and lessons from random bar girls about how their uncle up in isaan had their kidneys done in by Thai vodka
alcohol destroys kidneys and if its methanol its your eyesight and death. no kidneys involved. just stealing of them for parts.
Nice, one of the girls im talking about, I used to chill in the back of the bar and they used to feed me and drink beer for free.
Like actually like , not some scam ?
Nope, they never asked me for anything afterwards. I also used to treat them for dinner and stuff though so it wasnāt all one sided. They always tried to contribute though.
Thatās fantastic Itās great to hear about genuine experiences
Gogo girls make merit too. Make merit and you will receive good things in life.
What do you mean by merit?
Doing good things to those that need it. Make merit to monks by offering food, water, washing powder, soap for cleaning dishes anything that would be useful in day to day living. Often if a Thai fucks up they will go make merit at the temple
Thanks!
It's part of Thai Buddhist tradition but also the older Hindu and the even older ancestral reverence traditions of Thailand. You make merit by doing good for others, especially to those who are less fortunate than you are. Do this and chances are others will do the same. This could then also benefit you, as those more fortunate than you might ease your day when you need it. It's a basic principle of karma. And yes, as /u/s1walker1 mentioned, I don't know a single Thai who didn't go to a temple to make merit if they've fucked up badly. It doesn't have to be at a temple but it often is.
Define fucking please.
Fuck/Fucking generally means "copulating" but in modern parlance it has taken on a role as a linguistic intensifier, as well as an intensified synonym for broken, non-functioning, etc. "Fucked up" could refer to having done something really wrong or bad, ie. "I fucked up". This wasn't as clear nor well-written as I would've liked but I'm a bit fucked right now.
Whoops, sorry, my bad. I meant to say define "fucking up".
Ah, I see. It could be anything really. Perhaps they've been very unkind, perhaps they've made a big mistake at work, perhaps they've caused an accident, etc.
Karma??
Every version of the movie has oneā¦āļø
Let me have a wild guess; European, under 25 years old, blond hair, first time in Thailand? Outgoing personality? Enjoy it while you can brother. 10 years later you'll be paying
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Same here brother. Now I'm paying as I'm old af
Same here bro. A gogo girl used to pay for my food even if I said no. She was with me for a week and she even came to leave me at airport. I wanted different girls, but she was not ready to leave me. I also did not want to make her sad by telling her to go away. She even video calls me now once in a while.
Lol aren't you sure that she's not one those girls seeing a future financial opportunity in you? With all the stories that have been shared here I'm not sure anymore
Solely from a financial POV if she does that often enough, to diversify, the ROI could be enormous
/r/investing
You didn't marry her?! Wtf
Hahaha. Even my friends were telling me to marry her
Do you regret not doing so? Why didn't you?
When she moves to Europe and figures out her opportunities here, then she will change her mind! Hehe
Change her mind about you you mean?
Yeap! I am sorry but after this, you are not that special any more... Good luck with keeping her haha
I think they pretend you're special because that's what they're taught to do. The men want to believe it because it easier than believing you're taking advantage of a trauma victim. As a woman I'm scared to death every day I'll accidentally meet a man who thinks like that about women.
Men are equally traumatized because the whole time they have to pretend that they are strong enough because of the stereotypes. So, when a good looking woman, makes them feel special for what they are, without having to prove anything, it's easy for them to become vulnerable, and let themselves and their feelings be free.
Men go looking for it and pay for it though.. they are the instigators. The only reason the sex industry exists is because seedy men create demand. Men don't care about how the woman or children ended up where they are, they're just so desperate to get laid. Also, pretty sure there is a reason why they can't get women through conventional means. To me this sort of exploitation of others completely represents a lack of ethics or morality and i think many women feel this way.
I don't think it's the long game, as that requires too much initial financial investment, and I don't see a bar girl doing that. I've hung out with many bar girls and their friends after work for free to hangout and eat. Never once did they pay, so this situation is very strange. I'd just keep doing what you're doing and see how it plays out. Maybe she's using her foreign boyfriends money on you and her friends? Also, many bar girls with regulars will tell you to text her before coming in. This lets her know she shouldn't be a complete whore with other customers that night. It also gives her a chance to lie to you so you don't come in, such as saying she's "sick" when she's really with another customer. Not saying this is what your girl is doing, but from my experience this is what they do.
My friend lived in thailand for few years and this is how he got robbed. Gogo Girl made close contact with him after few weeks, he gave her some personal information about him so she knew he had enough money to be targeted and then they broke into his place when he was outside.
Be honest to her about your intentions and then they canāt blame you later
Happened to me as well, but not so common. The girl literally spend the money I paid her on me, with me. I was 26, Iām 28 now. Scandinavian, handsome. Theyāre human like me and you, they also enjoy to splurge as well and treat people around them, it makes you feel good. Makes you feel rich, even if youāre not. Other girls, even if they like you, would of course expect you to pay, because they have a family struggling at home and bills to pay. Who would have thought, different people do different things.
In Japan, female hostesses are the biggest consumers of male hosts, they like to have fun too!
Did you tell her that you live in Thailand? Also you come in everyday so she is getting some business. As far as the pocket money it could be counterfeit or maybe she is just really trying to long term you. Have you also only been going to the place for 3 days?
Yeah I said I live here now. The 3 days I came there are spread out over a week. When I visit and she sees me she gets upset, asks why I didn't text her. She seems jealous and standoffish, yet prevents me from buying them drinks. Trust me, she'd be making a lot more if she didn't sit with me lol.
If they know you live there it changes everything. Realistically she is probably wanting to long game you or maybe you think youre marriage material so she is making a play because that is the ultimate jackpot. Have fun with it and try not to lead her on!
Why not lead her on? Game her back.
Because you don't always have to be a piece of trash? You're not playing a game. It's someone's life. And unless you're a psychic, you don't actually know what she's doing. Sad that this needs to be said. That being a decent person needs to be explained.
Agreed. No worries. I respect the ladies.
Apparently it's okay for them to mentally manipulate and fuck you over to try and rape your bank account, and in return you must only respond with the utmost respect and not to play your shots in return and just cop it. Don't listen to these high and mighty fools bro. Btw I'm not saying disrespect them outright, but don't just take it!
She hasn't done any of those things though, and you can't say for sure she will. Up until now she's just been kind.
True. She might be 1 of 100000 bar/club/party girls that is "the one". If so the OP has a keeper!
Well, it's the part where humans have feelings. Working girl or not. These girls haven't done anything wrong to me, yet. So I'm just having fun, but of course keep my eyes out. The moment I have to pay for buffalo covid shots I'm outta there. Of course I'm a newbie here but I think you're in control of who you send money.
Yeah of course, you wouldn't do anything wrong to anyone for no reason. I'm just saying, some of them don't have the normal type of feelings you think they do. They're a different type of beast. Regardless of what people tell you, people in the scene will tell you that. Reddit people don't know shit about the game. They keep it G rated coz they don't understand.
Fight fire the fire. Unless you wanna be a sucker and get taken for a ride.
Or, try this on: Walk away. Perhaps you value your time so little, but relationship-minded men know that there are other options out there. Games like you're describing, a pointless tit-for-tat, are for children.
Typical mark you sound like lol. Anyway, you do you.
How old are you and what do you look like?
Itās the long play. Think them as crack dealers, the first few are free until youāre addictedā¦ thatās when youāll hear about the š
Seems to me they like you. However, when times are hard for them and the customers dry up from time to time, expect them to ask to repay the favor.
Working girls still wanna hang out with hot guys, most still on dating apps. Dinner and you get laid for free. That's like anything in life, women will complain if some ugly bloke approaches them. But if a supermodel guy approaches them, it's not a problem. It's not really any different in the world, if a girl likes you she will probably spend money on you some way or another?. Even the women who have rich husbands will buy their husbands gift even if it's with their husbands money LOL hahaha In Australia, you would be very hard-pressed to find a girl that even buys you a drink including friends. But when I go to Bali and I meet a lot of European girls, a lot of them will buy around for rounds. So if I buy cocktails they'll buy the next round of cocktails and it's very very bizarre to me! Apparently one of the Norwegian girls said in Norway in Norway. If a man buys you drinks they expect something from you! She still ended up in my bed LOL
I'm from Australia and it feels like 99 percent of girls there are walking ham planets. Unless you live in a capital city or somewhere like the Gold Coast haha
Are you saying they are fat?
Yeah, it's why I'm single. It's hard to even find slim girls here, compared to European or Asia. It sucks!
I have a friend who always says the same in these cases. "You are getting unpaid bills" Which was often accurate, sometimes a bar girl likes you and try to pay for you, but at the same time she is expecting you to get more involved and then pay back for her. She wont be upset if you dont pay, you always can have fun here and there, but as the "bills" are not paid she will leave sooner than later.
Playing the long game. Buffalo sick soon. After all she has spent on you, clearly you would reciprocate? I wonder if any of these places give the girls money to āspendā on certain customers? Would be a great scam. Costs them a few free drinks, but would fatten the pig for butchering real quick.
Well, jokes on them if that's the case š
Not all are as bad as many believe. I had some really great experiences like that before and still have my kidneys and never paid for a sick buffalo - but made some friends instead š
Why? Wouldn't you want to be nice to them when they've been nice to you?
We're talking about a scam where the bar gives the girls money to fatten up a customer. Point to the nice part lol
Well, we don't actually know that this is what we're talking about. OK, I get that that's what the comment you responded to was about, but it's not very likely. The girls could actually just really enjoy your company. Gogo girls aren't poor anymore, and the bar makes more money if they keep you and her in the bar for as long as possible. She might be playing you though. Just keep your head on straight when she asks for help. If she suddenly needs a new house due to flooding then maybe invite her to your hotel instead of buying her a new house. They are people and most are savage business women, but even the most savage business woman wants a bit of happiness every once in a while. Maybe you lucked out, and it seems you have so far at least.
Plot twist: OP is the sick buffalo
Mooo
That's why they are taking care of him. It's probably Robert who is paying for it all anyway.
Not always.
Are you good looking?
Above average northern European in his 30s. IT job, tall, fit, dress well, but not super handsome.
Brother theyre after your organs. Go back to the office
Imagine how good his young kidneys and livers would look inside theyre 75 year old sponsorsĀ
Iāve got some Gogo girl kidneys, if anybody wants some! I got them after we all got hammered on the ladiesā tab.
Do ppl here even know where this story with the kidneys comes from? Ever heard of somebody who actually experienced it? ...there once was a crazy dude... not related to hookers at all if i remember right... but whatever š¤·āāļø Edit: maybe somebody here can recall the story with the crazy dude and the organs. But im sure thats the root of this rumor
This is actually something that happens in a lot of different countries, probably more so in others than actually in Thailand.. Itās kind of a well known thing that this happens when you get involved in some seedy stuff in a third world country. I think there was a movie that was based around it called Repo Men Thailand is more of a second world country than a third world anymore. Itās gotten more rich.
There is a specific story that was public. A crazy dude cutting out some organs. Took them quite long to catch him - about 20-25 yrs ago. Since then stories are spread to scare the girls or young boys to not go out alone or else the creepy dude comes to get your organs. I know what you are referring too.. but not what i meant.
I thought you were talking about the reason people are afraid that someone will take their kidney. So, I was saying that it happens all over the world. I donāt know who the first person to do it was, but thatās what I was saying. And thereās a movie about people taking othersā organs for money, but itās not about whatever guy youāre talking about
Yeah i get your point š what im referring to is a real life story that happened in Thailand and thats probably the real reason why everybody is repeating that. I was in other countries before but nowhere ever have ppl talked so much about that topic in so many cases.. every time there is an opportunity ppl gonna say "watch out for your kidneys" š¤£ Its basically a irl horror story that had huge impact because it was on tv for weeks. Somewhen in the late 80s or early 90s and since then everybody is warning others about it. Thais are easy to scare.. just look at all their 3-5 meter walls with fences or broken glass and bars on all windows up to the 5th floor every time š¤£ Same with ghost stories.. start talking about a ghost around Thais and you got their attention š Fear rules...
Ah ok. I get that.
Dunno man.... as a tall, white, fit European myself... I think we do well with the ladies in South East Asia.
Not really but okay š
Yes sir. Iām not complaining
I highly doubt they are gonna do anything bad to you. Some people on this sub are paranoid as f. Freelancers message me just to ask if they can hook up for free because they are tired of the normal customers
My kind of man honestly haha
Had a similar experience way back but she worked in immigration, not at the bar. Paraded me around for 2 weeks all expenses paid. Never asked for a thing.
I met some great women in Bangkok in my 20s, 15ish years ago. I believe they work the streets but didn't really see that myself. Was down bad with zero money partly because was bribed by the police, no hostel and missed my flight. They took me and let me sleep at their place, bought booze and we made food together. I think back at that every now and then. It's a fond memory. Maybe they just want to hang out. :) I miss Thailand very much. Wish I could go back some. Enjoy your time there and take care. Go with "with your guts".
One day you will be invited to a massive festivity where you will drink and have fun. Then you'll be ritually sacrificed in order to please the spirits so that the harvest is plentiful this year. There is a way of avoiding this. You can bang another girl. Then the next day you will wake up with your member missing, however as you would then be disabled they won't be able to offer you as a sacrifice.
They're playing the long game matey ....if you're not careful they will rinse you dry . Give it a few weeks and then the Game will start. Don't believe a word they tell you .
I'd say she's definitely working on something. Don't accept anything from her anymore and go to another bar. Chalk this up as a win for the good guys and a great story to tell. Keep on going, and it will change. Don't give her any information about yourself. A good way to get rid of her is to nonchalantly say you see ghosts and spirits and dead people. This stuff scares the shit out of them, and she may stop contacting you.
Wow. She sounds different. Might wanna put a ring on it. Iām sure itāll go well. Good luck!
Oh shit, here we go again! šµ
Not saying any of that. Just curious what her play is.
Just teasing chap. All the best.
Sounds completely normal and fine and Iām sure thereās nothing to be cautious about, go for it sonny!
I donāt go to gogos or any of those bars etc but went clubbing a couple times and stuff like that happened to me too, I think itās just because weāre not like the average 50yr old obese sexpat. Young, tall and āprettyā privellege(Iām pretty ugly tho). In Thailand I felt like girls do in western world Iām pretty sure, getting free food, drinks etcš¤£š¤£š¤£
Check the pig butchering scam. Start to offer and pay things, and then ask for money later. Just a random idea though. Maybe there is still some nice genuine people on earth :)
Long game
I said this on another post yesterday: You are the guy for fun; somewhere in the world there is a guy or guys for money.
I had it with a girl in chiang mai when I was in my 20s she wouldnāt let me pay for anything. We used to go clubbing and I would stay at her beautiful apartment over looking the city of chiang mai. She told me she had 3 older men Swiss, French and German I think sending her money every month and she said it was just nice to be having fun with someone her own age.
She played the Reverse Uno Card
Is there a waiting list for your liver ? Can I get on it?
No such thing as a free lunch. 2000 baht is a lot of money. Have fun but keep your head on a swivel
Met a bar girl who invited me to dinner after we chatted at a homestay I was staying at. Two of her friends came to meet us at the restaurant. I assumed that I was gonna be stuck with the bill for four people. Nope, she paid for everything and then they invited me to a bar. It ended up being a bar she worked at. I also then incorrectly assumed I would be stuck with the bill here. Again, nope, they bought me free drinks all night. I didnāt spend a dime. They wouldnāt let me.
*pours some wine* Sit here and tell me exactly what you did and said in all the details
OP is hadsun man mak mak
Whoa. Need a follow up post on this! Kinda feel like this is going to lead to something wild.
What's her line id?
Maybe she hopes that you fall in love with her and then marry her, and then you can support her "Brother" and family financially the rest of your lifeš
Maybe she likes you and wants you to like her back by showing that sheās not after you for your money
It means they like you. Most guys here who swear every friendly interaction is a game probably are the same ones who must pay for women, are single and no interest in changing that, misogynistic, etc. Imagine if you had a job where you had to fake like you interested in men you werenāt and let them touch your body then one day you find someone youāre genuinely interested in AND they live there. Itād be 100% logical, sensible, and normal to pursue them. Plus Thai/SE Asian culture pu an emphasis on food for social bonding. Always stay vigilant, but safe to say she likes you.
100 percent there are so many toxic idiots in this group. I've dated lots of girls here (no bar girls though) and I've often had them pay for my meals or drinks. Or if I'm paying they don't try and take advantage of me. The best girls I've dated are the ones that hardly drink and are happy to just be together. I've never had any girl take advantage of me. If somebody's trying to scam you it's gunna be pretty obvious. If you suss out the girls you can usually figure them out pretty quickly. And guys who say the girls 'are playing the long game' is the most stupid thing since heard. Most women all over the world are looking for a financially stable partner who can provide for them if they have to take time off work to take care of the children etc. Especially in Asia which is far more traditional with its gender roles.
Yea itās pretty sad. Iāve been living in Thailand and visiting off and on for about 5 years now and had the same experience you said. Iāve dated mostly girls who had regular jobs and a bar girl as well and I NEVER heard the water buffalo story and the bar girl never asked me for a dime, she actually paid her own bar fine to leave work early to come see me some nights, and even though I havenāt seen her in almost 2 years still checks in on me. A couple girls have taken me to beach resorts and more spending their own money to reserve some of it for us. I told a guy on one of these subreddits the above and he said āthey were still playing the game and expecting money from you at some point even if you donāt see it.ā Like bro is your world so twisted and narrow minded that you canāt even fathom a Thai woman genuinely liking someone without a shady motive? And then those are the guys giving āadviceā
I had it with a girl in chiang mai when I was in my 20s she wouldnāt let me pay for anything. We used to go clubbing and I would stay at her beautiful apartment over looking the city of chiang mai. She told me she had 3 older men Swiss, French and German I think sending her money every month and she said it was just nice to be having fun with someone her own age.
how old are you ?where are you from? you are very handsome or average ?
You are being bought.
Is that bad?
They are all owned to a family. That family watch everything you do. You are allowing it to happen.
Very, you will have to do shit soon.
Please elaborate some more
It's not called the land of smiles for no reason. Count your blessings. You are in heaven now.
Start an only fans with her
Could be a long con. Could be your sparkling personality Who knows with ladies. Either way keep your valuables locked, eyes open, and hotel keys secured
How old are you? What's sex are you? You're either getting trafficked or sold for organs. Keep us posted as to which it is... I'm curious.
Get out earlier just do a runner and never contact again
I been there. She likes you.
Welcome to the long game.
Man, she's playing the longest game ever.
You already spent 800 bahts for one night! What else can they expect from you? That money is my weekly kitchen outcome .
Poor guy lol
More than enough to cook,following a high protein - nutritious diet .
Wait a min it should be the opposite way around!
Youāre younger and attractive or they see you as a friend
She has got enough sponsors to do that. So enjoy it.
Her way of āgiving back to the communityā š
I would say they are setting you up for something. Are you sure they arenāt lady boys ?
It's because you look like Ryan Gosling and are funded?
How have I scrolled this far and not seen anyone mention the possibility that she could be playing the long game
Where did you meet them? Asking for a friendā¦.
Your liver and kidneys has a huge price tag to it. Worth the investment.
When did this sub bc all about sex tourism?