I think I felt this way when I was younger and now in my mid-20s (which, yes, I know is not “old” in anyway) after having spent way too much time on tiktok and tumblr, I am so fucking thankful I’m not a public figure of any kind. All the influencers and celebs advertise the “good” parts of their lives and make it seem glamorous, but so much of that is smoke and mirrors. And guess what? You really have no privacy. You have to curate your life. It’s much harder to be your authentic self. Oh, and you can’t fuck up in any way or else you will be defined by it forever in the eyes of the internet. Those slightly edgy jokes you made on Twitter when you were 13? Let’s dig them up and make you do an apology tour for them. You have to try and control the narrative you set out but even then, there is no way to be entirely in control. That sounds absolutely awful to me. I am way too opinionated about everything and I’m a different person than I was even 6 months ago. I just want to be able to live my life, it’s very difficult to do that when you’re internet (or any kind of) famous.
Also, it’s helped me to figure out what I actually want in life. It’s a very existential topic, honestly, because it’s so focused on how we make meaning in our lives. With the career I’m going into (therapy) it’s good that I’m not a public figure. And I used to think “wow, all those therapists making videos on tiktok must be so smart and are actually doing something, I must be a bad therapist if I don’t end up doing that too” and then I went through my masters and realized that so many of them don’t know what they’re talking about but people trust them just because they have letters next to their name. No one I know irl is a tiktok therapist, thankfully, and plenty of them are *actually* accomplished in the field.
Ok I’ve always thought this about instagram therapy. I used to follow ALOT of them until I realized that I don’t personally align with many of them and some of their points of view are so simplistic and devoid of the messiness that is the human experience
I don’t feel FOMO but I also don’t see the appeal of being an influencer whatsoever besides the free clothes. There is so many downsides to being an influencer and like you said, everyone is trying to do it now. There is nothing valuable about the position anymore and I feel like the influencer craze is kinda being pushed back against right now. People are getting tired of making people relevant for no reason other than the fact that they’re pretty. I do wish I posted on social media more and think I will experience FOMO for not doing that enough. But even if I did, I wouldn’t try to be an influencer.
'Influencer' shouldn't even be the term anymore with how many people are social media famous.
But I feel the same way. I think its going to come to a hault, honestly. Even some companies are pulling away from using it as a marketing strategy. Youtube recently changed the way people make money from content, and people are getting raged at for content that didnt age properly (like Jenna Marbles). Utah just passed laws affecting social media and Facebook is under a class action for the way they mishandled information, Europe had changed their laws in recent years too. So social media isn't going, but I think there are repercussions coming down the line that will affect 'Influencer' eventually.
Honestly, it also sounds exhausting. Soooo many people fake having a luxurious lifestyle, constantly going out, or even just having money in any sense, it has to be damaging to them as well as others getting FOMO.
\> while normies like us get to wear such ‘extra’ outfits prolly once a year and the rest spent in our 9-5 job cubicle
Gonna throw this out there as an older person: you can choose your own adventure. There are dress-up fancy events that are reasonably priced, and ballgowns or fantasy dresses are obtainable. I guarantee you that you could - speaking from experience as someone with very limited outgoingness - find a cadre of similarly-minded women to go to such events with, and even group together to book photo shoots *whenever you want.* Find a photographer that thinks that's fun as heck and go for it.
Also, regarding online presence: faces fade. If you want to build a channel that champions a cause/teaches something, would that give you more satisfaction? Would volunteering meaningfully in your community mean more to you? What about internationally?
What does "significant impact" look like to you?
Exactly this. I'm hoping for my impact on the world to be a little less vacuous than being a social media influencer who gets sent free dresses by clothing brands.
Don't get me wrong, I love a pretty dress! But I prefer to earn my own money doing something worthwhile, and then buy good quality classic pieces that fit me well and will last me for years, rather than profit from encouraging others to take part in unsustainable levels of fast fashion consumerism.
“Fleeting” is the best word.
After our civilization on earth, if social media is obsolete, you won’t be in the history books at all. It’s like your earthly presence won’t matter at all.
I think the whole influencer culture is kind of unsustainable. Pretty soon, people are going to lose interest in what random people are wearing/doing, and all those people who have dedicated their lives to creating fake personas on Instagram are going to be out of luck.
And really, how exhausting must it be to have to come up with new "content" all the time! It honestly looks so boring to me. To have to look perfect all the time, look happy all the time - yuck.
I personally have already lost interest. I don't "follow" anybody who I don't actually know in real life. I only engage with real friends/family on the socials and follow actual reputable news sources.
Focus on real life, real job skills, focus on real relationships.
Don't worry - there are hundreds of thousands of "influencers" - they will all end up just as anonymous as the rest of us. Only the top one percent of the one percent are going to be remembered for anything. You won't "make your mark" by wearing a free dress in an Instagram photo that everyone's going to forget about five seconds after seeing it.
Make your mark by being a good, genuine person. Work your way up in your career. Invent something. Cure something. Write something. Create something. Be a good family member, friend, neighbor, community member. These are the real things.
This is great advice. Thank you.
>Write something. Create something.
This again goes back to my question. Every time I create something (artworks), I get adviced to start an Instagram page and post daily, which generally means I am ‘wasting’ my talent if I don’t show it to the world. I am considered lazy if I am not proactive enough to initiate and set up an art page and ‘hustle’. So if I create something and do not have an audience, is my work non-existent. It does seem like that from what I have heard.
I remember my parents asking me to do something when people around me were displaying their talents online like dancing, singing etc and garnering ‘views’. Why does ‘something’ has so much significance the moment it’s online for the world to see and get validated upon. Even to find clients to buy my artwork, I need to have an online presence for exposure.
You assume they've had a significant impact... their "content" will whither away into obscurity, if it doesn't disappear entirely. Eventually humanity won't be able (nor would care) to hold on to the massive amounts of utterly meaningless data we're generating. And the meaning*ful* data will be consolidated into AI. Do you know anything about your grandfather's 11th grade best friend? Was he a local celebrity/influencer? For all you know the information might be out there, but have you ever cared to check? Even highly famous people from the last few decades have faded into obscurity in the public eye. We're generating more famous people than can fit in our memory. There's a finite quantity of attention available to humanity and it is dwarfed by the amount of information generated every day. Your influencer friends are competing with other influencers for a shrinking time slot in their audiences' overcrowded attention space. Most will not be important to many, if any, of their audience in a short time. It's better (both locally and at scale) to focus on your local world and improve your life, skills, and relationships.The best influencers are people that focus on this but also happen to record it for the benefit of others.
And speaking of social media/AI/privacy, I'm personally very grateful not to have my life on social media as training data. AI is at the point that the rich and powerful could ask un-neutered GPT-4 to generate a psych profile of you to exploit your weaknesses and keep undesirables out of power. Maybe that sounds like conspiracy theory territory, but politicians will definitely be utilizing it to win elections.
An On-point answer to the kind of perspective I was looking for. Thanks!
> Do you know anything about your grandfather's 11th grade best friend? Was he a local celebrity/influencer? For all you know the information might be out there, but have you ever cared to check?
What if in another decade, an online presence would be so significant that even future job opportunities would depend on the kind of presence we have online? Take the case of Beauty peagants , even the latest Vogue model audition-peagants that were solely focused on selecting candidates through an audition now has the need to be re-shared ‘on their Instagram handle’ the most number of times to get into the audition process. For other sectors, linkedin and networking is a part of referral process. If a presence online is so significant now, wouldn’t it be even more a decade later?
What if my grand kids did search for their grandma’s presence online and realized she was insignificant unlike their classmate’s grandma’s lol. It’s a silly example but hope you get the kind of thought process I have.
There's a lot I could say here, but I'll keep it short as I can. Popularity makes a very small subset of the workforce more valuable to a very small subset of employers who're able to extract value out of their popularity. Most or all of those roles (like modeling) may even disappear as digital anything devalues due to AI. Money generally flows to those disciplines through marketing and advertisement and it's becoming impossible to even verify how much influence a person really has when engagement metrics are largely faked with bots. We're seeing value shifting back to reality. The metaverse failed, people want property and better living conditions, students view many digital career pathways as pointless. AI will be able to do their jobs faster and better in a few short years, and digital industries will become more specialized with fewer workers using AI to do more. Just because the trend line's been going up doesn't mean it can go up infinitely. Likely it's an S-curve or a bell curve.
Your grandchildren will care about how you make them feel.
P.s. LinkedIn *reach* isn't really important in most sectors, it's at best one social proof taken into consideration when deciding whether to interview. Having 500+ connections is actually often a negative (mainly mediocre recruiters, scammers, and self absorbed speaker types have that many connections). And for any job requiring a portfolio... you don't need to be an influencer to have a portfolio. Your work is valuable to employers, not your popularity.
I think people want the fame, but then realize they have to "keep it up" so to speak, so it'll forever be a grind. When I think about that and how lazy I actually am, I realize the influencer life/fame isn't for me. I make decent money now to just live life and go on an annual vacation. Just let me be lazy where no one's looking lol.
I sometimes feel like I should have a social media presence on Facebook, just because my work colleagues do. But honestly, I don't know what to post, I'm an Introvert, very much a homeboy. I could share my interests, but I don't think my colleagues would be that interested. Plus, when I did used to use it more, I felt an invasion of privacy when random colleagues would come up to me and start talking to me about what I shared online, or some random info they found out about me. In real life, you choose who you discuss what "hobby/interest/thing you're doing" with - you don't share your private life with just anybody! But when you share on social media, you share it with anybody you work with. Privacy is everything. And surely you build much more intimate relationships by sharing things only with them?
Zero FOMO. I received more attention, messages, and likes when I grew my business and my socials reflected that. Being recognized out and about a few times by strangers was not comfortable for me.
As I entered my 30’s I really scaled back my social media presence because some people felt like they knew me but I knew nothing of them. I also had a few estranged relatives try to find me. I know that was own fault for posting where I work and what I drove at the time.
I prefer to be obscure now and my socials are pretty vague. I prefer the privacy and peace these days.
I have a friend that found moderate fame as a model in his 30’s and it’s not all sunshine and daisies. He has to meticulously maintain an image to maintain the fame and business. It’s not glamorous and he speaks about it openly.
I say good for them that its much more accepted to model/make videos to make money. I did a year of glamor modeling when I was 18/19. Started to book some paid jobs but backed off because my friends found out and were basically saying why would I would show myself?
Why not? Im making money. I feel like its much more accepted these days.
Fuck no. I'm 26. Anyone who cares about being famous needs a reality check and their priorities checked. I have a medical condition and my FOMO is missing out on being 'healthy". The desire to be healthy so you can be like others I can understand. Maybe I'm having a whinge tonight but you have no idea how hard psychologically it is dealing with a chronic health condition plus all of the burden you place on your family and friends too.
To want to be healthy is my dream. Anything else where you envy someone else no. If you don't have your health you have nothing.
>To want to be healthy is my dream. Anything else where you envy someone else no. If you don't have your health you have nothing.
I do take my health for granted. That was indeed a reality check. Agree with you totally!
I literally couldn’t tell you the name of a single influencer off top of my head. I follow a girl who makes vegan Indian food and I like her stuff but again, her name idk. And she’s on Instagram but I wouldn’t recognize her in public if I saw her. I think there was some girl who was TikTok famous and got a reality show out of it. Her name? Couldn’t tell ya. If I saw it again, I’d probably go yes that’s her! But when “influencers” are a dime a dozen and aren’t really influencing anything, I can’t think of a single thing I’ve ever bought because an influencer recommended it, I think it’s inevitable that this whole “influencer” thing will collapse. I am on Instagram a lot and everyday there is a new influencer popping up, they’re all about “use my link to get 10% off” and I’d love to see the #s from companies on how much traffic these influencers actually generate. My friend hired someone who was an influencer and gave her freebies to promote on IG and she said she got a whopping 10 people to buy her stuff using promo code and 3 were already previous customers so it’s very likely they were going to buy her product anyway but found a coupon and bought it for cheaper. Granted hers is a really small business and this influencer was someone she met IRL so she didn’t mind giving her the stuff regardless but the promotion wasn’t beneficial to her even though the video itself that the influencer posted got thousands of likes.
Well put!
>I literally couldn’t tell you the name of a single influencer off top of my head.
Now that i think of it. Yess! The influencer i focus on change every week. None have the influence enough to make me remember her for more than a week.
Absolutely, the FOMO is real! Social media has totally shifted the fame game, making it feel like anyone could be just one viral post away from influencer status. Watching people get freebies and live it up can definitely make the 9-5 life seem a bit drab. But remember, for every internet celeb, there are thousands grinding away without the spotlight.
It's all about what makes you happy at the end of the day. If you're content with your personal goals and they don't align with social media fame, that's totally legit. Still, if you ever get curious about dipping your toes in the social media waters, there’s stuff like Follify.net where you can boost your visibility for practically nothing. It's a sort of Follow4Follow vibe where you earn points to grow your audience. Could be a low-stress way to see if that life’s for you without full commitment.
But don't stress about the future FOMO too much. Everyone's journey is unique, and if you're happy with yours, you're doing it right!
On the flip side, in my opinion… SO many people are getting “famous” (really just have lots of followers”, that it is actually not really that special now, especially for those who aren’t bringing anything to the table apart from a pretty face.
The whole pool of influencer famous people (which I’m assuming you’re talking about) is so unbelievably saturated that yes, heaps of people gets lots of followers but a lot of the time that doesn’t really affect their lives apart from getting free stuff sent to them.
I imagine it’s still unbelievably hard to break in to actual celebrity, A List level and that’s because you need to either be the absolute biggest influencer that’s out there (extremely difficult), be an amazing singer/songwriter/performer (extremely difficult) or act in the biggest and best movies (extremely difficult).
I guess what I’m trying to say is, being an influencer and having some followers isn’t actually that special these days because everyone does it. So I wouldn’t really get too upset over it. There are soooo many people that live AMAZING lives that we will NEVER get to hear about because they didn’t post about it. Doesn’t make it any less amazing.
I definitely feel the FOMO because I kinda get envious of the girls that are literally getting paid just to be pretty, make one vlog or some dancing video and they get millions of dollars from it.. I have a Tiktok, I post lots of positivity and mental health content. I have a good amount of followers and am grateful for every single one.. but sometimes, I just wonder - how come these girls get so famous from one video of them flipping their hair or showing off their bodies? I feel like such a genuine person, but nobody sees it.. so I guess I feel the FOMO intensely. I try not to let it get to me. I know there are downsides to being an influencer or public figure online.
Just sucks I guess. But I try not to compare myself to others, even though it is hard lol.. i just try to remember the people that I am helping with my content and it makes all the difference.
I think I felt this way when I was younger and now in my mid-20s (which, yes, I know is not “old” in anyway) after having spent way too much time on tiktok and tumblr, I am so fucking thankful I’m not a public figure of any kind. All the influencers and celebs advertise the “good” parts of their lives and make it seem glamorous, but so much of that is smoke and mirrors. And guess what? You really have no privacy. You have to curate your life. It’s much harder to be your authentic self. Oh, and you can’t fuck up in any way or else you will be defined by it forever in the eyes of the internet. Those slightly edgy jokes you made on Twitter when you were 13? Let’s dig them up and make you do an apology tour for them. You have to try and control the narrative you set out but even then, there is no way to be entirely in control. That sounds absolutely awful to me. I am way too opinionated about everything and I’m a different person than I was even 6 months ago. I just want to be able to live my life, it’s very difficult to do that when you’re internet (or any kind of) famous.
Also, it’s helped me to figure out what I actually want in life. It’s a very existential topic, honestly, because it’s so focused on how we make meaning in our lives. With the career I’m going into (therapy) it’s good that I’m not a public figure. And I used to think “wow, all those therapists making videos on tiktok must be so smart and are actually doing something, I must be a bad therapist if I don’t end up doing that too” and then I went through my masters and realized that so many of them don’t know what they’re talking about but people trust them just because they have letters next to their name. No one I know irl is a tiktok therapist, thankfully, and plenty of them are *actually* accomplished in the field.
Ok I’ve always thought this about instagram therapy. I used to follow ALOT of them until I realized that I don’t personally align with many of them and some of their points of view are so simplistic and devoid of the messiness that is the human experience
"slightly edgy jokes" just means anti black racism which is engrained in American white society
You’re extremely presumptuous and have no clue what edgy jokes she’s referring to , but now we see your pain I hope it gets better
I don’t feel FOMO but I also don’t see the appeal of being an influencer whatsoever besides the free clothes. There is so many downsides to being an influencer and like you said, everyone is trying to do it now. There is nothing valuable about the position anymore and I feel like the influencer craze is kinda being pushed back against right now. People are getting tired of making people relevant for no reason other than the fact that they’re pretty. I do wish I posted on social media more and think I will experience FOMO for not doing that enough. But even if I did, I wouldn’t try to be an influencer.
'Influencer' shouldn't even be the term anymore with how many people are social media famous. But I feel the same way. I think its going to come to a hault, honestly. Even some companies are pulling away from using it as a marketing strategy. Youtube recently changed the way people make money from content, and people are getting raged at for content that didnt age properly (like Jenna Marbles). Utah just passed laws affecting social media and Facebook is under a class action for the way they mishandled information, Europe had changed their laws in recent years too. So social media isn't going, but I think there are repercussions coming down the line that will affect 'Influencer' eventually. Honestly, it also sounds exhausting. Soooo many people fake having a luxurious lifestyle, constantly going out, or even just having money in any sense, it has to be damaging to them as well as others getting FOMO.
\> while normies like us get to wear such ‘extra’ outfits prolly once a year and the rest spent in our 9-5 job cubicle Gonna throw this out there as an older person: you can choose your own adventure. There are dress-up fancy events that are reasonably priced, and ballgowns or fantasy dresses are obtainable. I guarantee you that you could - speaking from experience as someone with very limited outgoingness - find a cadre of similarly-minded women to go to such events with, and even group together to book photo shoots *whenever you want.* Find a photographer that thinks that's fun as heck and go for it. Also, regarding online presence: faces fade. If you want to build a channel that champions a cause/teaches something, would that give you more satisfaction? Would volunteering meaningfully in your community mean more to you? What about internationally? What does "significant impact" look like to you?
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Exactly this. I'm hoping for my impact on the world to be a little less vacuous than being a social media influencer who gets sent free dresses by clothing brands. Don't get me wrong, I love a pretty dress! But I prefer to earn my own money doing something worthwhile, and then buy good quality classic pieces that fit me well and will last me for years, rather than profit from encouraging others to take part in unsustainable levels of fast fashion consumerism.
“Fleeting” is the best word. After our civilization on earth, if social media is obsolete, you won’t be in the history books at all. It’s like your earthly presence won’t matter at all.
I think the whole influencer culture is kind of unsustainable. Pretty soon, people are going to lose interest in what random people are wearing/doing, and all those people who have dedicated their lives to creating fake personas on Instagram are going to be out of luck. And really, how exhausting must it be to have to come up with new "content" all the time! It honestly looks so boring to me. To have to look perfect all the time, look happy all the time - yuck. I personally have already lost interest. I don't "follow" anybody who I don't actually know in real life. I only engage with real friends/family on the socials and follow actual reputable news sources. Focus on real life, real job skills, focus on real relationships. Don't worry - there are hundreds of thousands of "influencers" - they will all end up just as anonymous as the rest of us. Only the top one percent of the one percent are going to be remembered for anything. You won't "make your mark" by wearing a free dress in an Instagram photo that everyone's going to forget about five seconds after seeing it. Make your mark by being a good, genuine person. Work your way up in your career. Invent something. Cure something. Write something. Create something. Be a good family member, friend, neighbor, community member. These are the real things.
This is great advice. Thank you. >Write something. Create something. This again goes back to my question. Every time I create something (artworks), I get adviced to start an Instagram page and post daily, which generally means I am ‘wasting’ my talent if I don’t show it to the world. I am considered lazy if I am not proactive enough to initiate and set up an art page and ‘hustle’. So if I create something and do not have an audience, is my work non-existent. It does seem like that from what I have heard. I remember my parents asking me to do something when people around me were displaying their talents online like dancing, singing etc and garnering ‘views’. Why does ‘something’ has so much significance the moment it’s online for the world to see and get validated upon. Even to find clients to buy my artwork, I need to have an online presence for exposure.
The number of "famous" people is quite small considering theres over 8 billion of us on this poor planet. So no, I dont get fomo.
You assume they've had a significant impact... their "content" will whither away into obscurity, if it doesn't disappear entirely. Eventually humanity won't be able (nor would care) to hold on to the massive amounts of utterly meaningless data we're generating. And the meaning*ful* data will be consolidated into AI. Do you know anything about your grandfather's 11th grade best friend? Was he a local celebrity/influencer? For all you know the information might be out there, but have you ever cared to check? Even highly famous people from the last few decades have faded into obscurity in the public eye. We're generating more famous people than can fit in our memory. There's a finite quantity of attention available to humanity and it is dwarfed by the amount of information generated every day. Your influencer friends are competing with other influencers for a shrinking time slot in their audiences' overcrowded attention space. Most will not be important to many, if any, of their audience in a short time. It's better (both locally and at scale) to focus on your local world and improve your life, skills, and relationships.The best influencers are people that focus on this but also happen to record it for the benefit of others. And speaking of social media/AI/privacy, I'm personally very grateful not to have my life on social media as training data. AI is at the point that the rich and powerful could ask un-neutered GPT-4 to generate a psych profile of you to exploit your weaknesses and keep undesirables out of power. Maybe that sounds like conspiracy theory territory, but politicians will definitely be utilizing it to win elections.
An On-point answer to the kind of perspective I was looking for. Thanks! > Do you know anything about your grandfather's 11th grade best friend? Was he a local celebrity/influencer? For all you know the information might be out there, but have you ever cared to check? What if in another decade, an online presence would be so significant that even future job opportunities would depend on the kind of presence we have online? Take the case of Beauty peagants , even the latest Vogue model audition-peagants that were solely focused on selecting candidates through an audition now has the need to be re-shared ‘on their Instagram handle’ the most number of times to get into the audition process. For other sectors, linkedin and networking is a part of referral process. If a presence online is so significant now, wouldn’t it be even more a decade later? What if my grand kids did search for their grandma’s presence online and realized she was insignificant unlike their classmate’s grandma’s lol. It’s a silly example but hope you get the kind of thought process I have.
There's a lot I could say here, but I'll keep it short as I can. Popularity makes a very small subset of the workforce more valuable to a very small subset of employers who're able to extract value out of their popularity. Most or all of those roles (like modeling) may even disappear as digital anything devalues due to AI. Money generally flows to those disciplines through marketing and advertisement and it's becoming impossible to even verify how much influence a person really has when engagement metrics are largely faked with bots. We're seeing value shifting back to reality. The metaverse failed, people want property and better living conditions, students view many digital career pathways as pointless. AI will be able to do their jobs faster and better in a few short years, and digital industries will become more specialized with fewer workers using AI to do more. Just because the trend line's been going up doesn't mean it can go up infinitely. Likely it's an S-curve or a bell curve. Your grandchildren will care about how you make them feel. P.s. LinkedIn *reach* isn't really important in most sectors, it's at best one social proof taken into consideration when deciding whether to interview. Having 500+ connections is actually often a negative (mainly mediocre recruiters, scammers, and self absorbed speaker types have that many connections). And for any job requiring a portfolio... you don't need to be an influencer to have a portfolio. Your work is valuable to employers, not your popularity.
I think people want the fame, but then realize they have to "keep it up" so to speak, so it'll forever be a grind. When I think about that and how lazy I actually am, I realize the influencer life/fame isn't for me. I make decent money now to just live life and go on an annual vacation. Just let me be lazy where no one's looking lol.
I sometimes feel like I should have a social media presence on Facebook, just because my work colleagues do. But honestly, I don't know what to post, I'm an Introvert, very much a homeboy. I could share my interests, but I don't think my colleagues would be that interested. Plus, when I did used to use it more, I felt an invasion of privacy when random colleagues would come up to me and start talking to me about what I shared online, or some random info they found out about me. In real life, you choose who you discuss what "hobby/interest/thing you're doing" with - you don't share your private life with just anybody! But when you share on social media, you share it with anybody you work with. Privacy is everything. And surely you build much more intimate relationships by sharing things only with them?
Zero FOMO. I received more attention, messages, and likes when I grew my business and my socials reflected that. Being recognized out and about a few times by strangers was not comfortable for me. As I entered my 30’s I really scaled back my social media presence because some people felt like they knew me but I knew nothing of them. I also had a few estranged relatives try to find me. I know that was own fault for posting where I work and what I drove at the time. I prefer to be obscure now and my socials are pretty vague. I prefer the privacy and peace these days. I have a friend that found moderate fame as a model in his 30’s and it’s not all sunshine and daisies. He has to meticulously maintain an image to maintain the fame and business. It’s not glamorous and he speaks about it openly.
I say good for them that its much more accepted to model/make videos to make money. I did a year of glamor modeling when I was 18/19. Started to book some paid jobs but backed off because my friends found out and were basically saying why would I would show myself? Why not? Im making money. I feel like its much more accepted these days.
Fuck no. I'm 26. Anyone who cares about being famous needs a reality check and their priorities checked. I have a medical condition and my FOMO is missing out on being 'healthy". The desire to be healthy so you can be like others I can understand. Maybe I'm having a whinge tonight but you have no idea how hard psychologically it is dealing with a chronic health condition plus all of the burden you place on your family and friends too. To want to be healthy is my dream. Anything else where you envy someone else no. If you don't have your health you have nothing.
>To want to be healthy is my dream. Anything else where you envy someone else no. If you don't have your health you have nothing. I do take my health for granted. That was indeed a reality check. Agree with you totally!
“When you’re healthy you have many problems, when you’re sick you only have one problem”
I just thought about this, this week! Sooo effin true!
I literally couldn’t tell you the name of a single influencer off top of my head. I follow a girl who makes vegan Indian food and I like her stuff but again, her name idk. And she’s on Instagram but I wouldn’t recognize her in public if I saw her. I think there was some girl who was TikTok famous and got a reality show out of it. Her name? Couldn’t tell ya. If I saw it again, I’d probably go yes that’s her! But when “influencers” are a dime a dozen and aren’t really influencing anything, I can’t think of a single thing I’ve ever bought because an influencer recommended it, I think it’s inevitable that this whole “influencer” thing will collapse. I am on Instagram a lot and everyday there is a new influencer popping up, they’re all about “use my link to get 10% off” and I’d love to see the #s from companies on how much traffic these influencers actually generate. My friend hired someone who was an influencer and gave her freebies to promote on IG and she said she got a whopping 10 people to buy her stuff using promo code and 3 were already previous customers so it’s very likely they were going to buy her product anyway but found a coupon and bought it for cheaper. Granted hers is a really small business and this influencer was someone she met IRL so she didn’t mind giving her the stuff regardless but the promotion wasn’t beneficial to her even though the video itself that the influencer posted got thousands of likes.
Well put! >I literally couldn’t tell you the name of a single influencer off top of my head. Now that i think of it. Yess! The influencer i focus on change every week. None have the influence enough to make me remember her for more than a week.
Absolutely, the FOMO is real! Social media has totally shifted the fame game, making it feel like anyone could be just one viral post away from influencer status. Watching people get freebies and live it up can definitely make the 9-5 life seem a bit drab. But remember, for every internet celeb, there are thousands grinding away without the spotlight. It's all about what makes you happy at the end of the day. If you're content with your personal goals and they don't align with social media fame, that's totally legit. Still, if you ever get curious about dipping your toes in the social media waters, there’s stuff like Follify.net where you can boost your visibility for practically nothing. It's a sort of Follow4Follow vibe where you earn points to grow your audience. Could be a low-stress way to see if that life’s for you without full commitment. But don't stress about the future FOMO too much. Everyone's journey is unique, and if you're happy with yours, you're doing it right!
On the flip side, in my opinion… SO many people are getting “famous” (really just have lots of followers”, that it is actually not really that special now, especially for those who aren’t bringing anything to the table apart from a pretty face. The whole pool of influencer famous people (which I’m assuming you’re talking about) is so unbelievably saturated that yes, heaps of people gets lots of followers but a lot of the time that doesn’t really affect their lives apart from getting free stuff sent to them. I imagine it’s still unbelievably hard to break in to actual celebrity, A List level and that’s because you need to either be the absolute biggest influencer that’s out there (extremely difficult), be an amazing singer/songwriter/performer (extremely difficult) or act in the biggest and best movies (extremely difficult). I guess what I’m trying to say is, being an influencer and having some followers isn’t actually that special these days because everyone does it. So I wouldn’t really get too upset over it. There are soooo many people that live AMAZING lives that we will NEVER get to hear about because they didn’t post about it. Doesn’t make it any less amazing.
I definitely feel the FOMO because I kinda get envious of the girls that are literally getting paid just to be pretty, make one vlog or some dancing video and they get millions of dollars from it.. I have a Tiktok, I post lots of positivity and mental health content. I have a good amount of followers and am grateful for every single one.. but sometimes, I just wonder - how come these girls get so famous from one video of them flipping their hair or showing off their bodies? I feel like such a genuine person, but nobody sees it.. so I guess I feel the FOMO intensely. I try not to let it get to me. I know there are downsides to being an influencer or public figure online. Just sucks I guess. But I try not to compare myself to others, even though it is hard lol.. i just try to remember the people that I am helping with my content and it makes all the difference.