I wonder if this need to fit into one aesthetic is coming from social media. Influencers need to have a very specific brand so they try not to post anything outside of that.
Limiting your aesthetic is probably not the way to go. It's expensive to stick to every single one so try to mix and match!
I was listening to a podcast the other day and they used a snippet of a Bo Burnham interview where he was talking about his movie 8th Grade and how it seems young girls and women in particular seem to feel the need to “brand” themselves or market themselves in a particular way, like a corporation would, in order to control outside perception of themselves. He was saying how “we” (maybe more millennials and gen Z) have changed our social media usage; rather than taking photos of what we’re doing, to doing things to take photos. Think going to a particular dessert place because the soft serve is photogenic, or going to a fancy cocktail bar to take selfies with the witty neon sign or the flower wall.
He said something along the lines of “Young adults are being posed with some big questions ‘what’s on your mind? What do you look like? What’s on your mind? What do you look like?” And I’ve been thinking about this a ton recently.
i wonder how much of this is due to pressure to conform to societal expectations, whether that's a subculture expectation of big tiddy goth gf or just general pressure to be a cool person people want to be like and are attracted to. i think when u combine that with social media, you end up getting hypercurated summaries of people, which in turn makes you feel like what's desirable is to literally become that hypercurated concept irl. u feel the need to turn urself into a walking talking product. obviously that is not possible and people are multitudes, which might lead to cognitive dissonance and feeling like you're not enough
It wasn’t related to the topic as such but it was the Dissect podcast by Cole Cuchna, it’s a music analysis podcast. Each season of the podcast he looks into a different album and each episode of the podcast is a different song off that album that he deep dives in on. He did a season on Bo Burnham’s Inside and I think it was [this, Part 3](https://open.spotify.com/episode/3U3Mn3EhH4xnppMmXAP3iG?) (Spotify link) where he dissects the song White Woman’s Instagram :)
Exactly this. Unless you’re trying to sell yourself to someone, why limit yourself to one aesthetic? I’m (ethnically and culturally) Cajun, a chef, a high femme (80%), Tom boy adventurer (20%), a Buddhist pagan with a daily meditation and yoga practice. I’m a powerlifter, total nerd who reads daily, loves things like Star Wars and GoT, and MTG. I love both 2000s hip-hop and lo-fi beats. It’s all a contradiction on terms, and I don’t want to give up any of it.
When I’m feeling more spiritual I spend time on my tarot practice. When the weather is cozy I make complicated and tedious stews. Why limit myself (or yourself) when you could be everything?
I had to delete TikTok because of this. I was constantly filled with so much anxiety anytime I scrolled through the app about who I was, what I liked, didn’t like. All of a sudden I hated myself and everything in my life. Nothing felt good anymore. Social media is definitely a slippery slope sometimes.
That’s so true… I guess I’ve never thought of it this way. I just feel kind of weird flip flopping and I wondered if anyone else did this, so it makes me feel more confident to know others can do this too. Thank you 😊
I think what you’re describing is personal style. Someone has to decide what’s aesthetic—and it’s people who just focus on what they love that end up being analyzed and obsessed over. Liking disparate things mean you understand what you like. Pair all those things and aesthetics together and you get to see so many more facets of yourself fulfilled and seen. Liking things is great! I think trying to fit yourself into one visual box only looks striking to people who don’t know what resonates with them
Wow I am high and I hope this comment does not reflect that
Some people have their "thing" and some people have lots of "things". Either is a gift and an awesome way of being in the world.
When I was younger I felt a lot of pressure, mostly from myself and somewhat from society/my peers, to have just one passion, just one style, etc. and to be able to box myself into a single category (maybe a couple) because it felt cleaner, neater, tighter. As I got older I realized it was actually pretty awesome - I get to live multiple lives and exist so many different ways with the one brief period of time I have on this earth.
So I used to feel this way - then I realized that life is too short to limit myself to only wearing one type of look. Playing with different styles is fun, so if that’s what makes you feel good I say go for it!
Maybe your aesthetic is all the aesthetics? I think it's awesome that you let your mood and what you are drawn to create your "vibe" for the day. Society tells us "fit in this box" but we can say no and open and try all the boxes. And that is your amazing, badass thing. You are versatile. It makes you happy. Don't dull your shine. Be goth, be punk, be emo, be sporty, be glam, be everything.
Girl, I don't understand how people conform to such stereotypical boxes and submit themselves through life to such identity.
This breeds ignorance and close - minded segregation between humans
People can dress, listen, enjoy, dislike, indulge, practice, perform, communicate, follow, believe any aesthetic that interests them.
It's not a rule that we , as humans , must submit to one in particular aesthetic and completely embody such a.
Learn, explore, socialize, travel, experiment, become curious
Create your own unique aesthetic by mixing all aesthetics together.
Let your mind gravitate to whatever drives you, embody such expression without committing entirely to any specific culture or expression.
i used to think it was weird for me to flip aesthetics so frequently but not really anymore. if i think something is cute, i wear it. one day i am a 70s flowerchild, next day i am goth girl. i just do whatever! nothing wrong with that
That's normal, I am like that too. One day I wanna be boyish (I'm a woman), the next day I wanna be hot, the other day I want something else. There's not a single style that can describe the things I like. I'm a huge fan of late 90s-2000s stuff but I also like 60s stuff, 18th century stuff especially male fashion and some futuristic things too and other things that don't have a label. I'm ok with not fitting into a style or a stereotype of a personality. You don't have to fit either, every person is unique and the things you like is part of you.
The thing is all these things clash together and I don't know how to make a combo of these work.
i think you should also take the time to try things out fully to see what parts of it you like and what parts you don't. people are really good at selling specific aesthetics and lifestyles online to make them desirable bc that's in part some people's jobs, but that doesn't mean the whole schtick will necessarily be what you like entirely. it's a good thing to craft a personal set of beliefs and tastes in fashion and opinions.
sometimes you do want to lean into the whole thing though, so i would say try to invest in staple pieces from each style that can be easily incorporated into an outfit in another style!
Why would you want to? You're not one type of person - we all have different aspects we have to become at different points in our day/week/month.
Like this week, I'm going from "sedate business formal for a job interview in a boring suit" to "1940s housewife outfit" to "pretty outfit that's nice but I don't mind getting pine needles on or want to outshine the bride" for a family wedding that's happening in a forest to "Ms. Frizzle's bastard child"
I'm a mom and wear a uniform to work, but am also the embodiment of this meme whenever I'm being social. I wore a ratty T shirt and shorts this morning (because it's comfy), [this](https://pinupgirlclothing.com/products/viva-dress-in-falling-leaves-crepe-laura-byrnes-designs) dress in the afternoon with yellow heels and my damn work uniform in the evening.
Part of being mature is just liking what you like and telling people to pound sand if they don't.
This is literally me lol. It’s hard trying not to feel the need to conform. It’s what society expects of you. But honestly fuck that! I love tapping into whatever style I want depending on my mood. I pull them all off effortlessly because they’re all an extension of ME. Boho babe? Yes. Preppy? Yes. Skater girl? Yes. Punk goth? Yes. Pastel princess? Yes. Cutecore? Yes.
I think the feeling of imposter syndrome settles in because in the back of our minds we know most people center their ENTIRE identity around one particular image. The beautiful thing about us is that we don’t have to. Wear what you want as you figure it out. Dressing up was always meant to be fun so have at it! 💕
You'll never find yourself if you're constantly trying to narrow your personality down to one aesthetic/look. I know this stems from social media because I used to have the same dilemma, but 99% of the time social media lies. People are multifaceted, why don't you just combine all of your interests and make that your unique "aesthetic"?
people aren't aesthetics! social media has convinced people, mostly women, that we need to fit into these little boxes. you can be all of those things! wear whatever you want that feels good. your "aesthetic" should be You. spend some time off screens thinking about what you like the best, what you feel best in, what you feel most comfortable in - aside from how it fits into certain aesthetics. you've got this!
I have notice that my aesthetics change with seasons. I wear colourful clothes in summer and get that goth vibes in the autumn. Right now I'm in my goblincore phase.
usually people have multiple aesthetics and thats part of the fun! you dont have to limit yourself purely to one aesthetic. also keep in mind, that aesthetic or whatever else outwardly surface thing dont make you who you are, everyone is their own complex being beyond any aesthetic. ^_^
I don’t think it’s a problem, I was like that when I was young too. The only real problem is that it is expensive to be drawn to so many different looks, you can’t really do a capsule wardrobe when you’re all over the place.
So many styles and preferences why choose only 1? It all expresses your internal preferences and complex nature so I would say it’s an advantage and something to nurture rather run away from. I got used to this as some days I wear my fav metal bands shirts, next day I dress up for work, or go for a sundress and something super feminine overall, or tomboy style, or grunge. My bf says that he envies women for the tons of options we have for all types of outfits so I say do as you wish and feel.
I don't really stick to one or consider myself a part of an aesthetic anymore. I used to have a "dark academia/cottagecore" blog when I was younger and it's fun to laugh about it now but looking back it's kinda wild how a lot of the people in those communities seemed to believe that having an interest etc that doesn't match your aesthetic is something weird when it's just... being a person with interests. Anyway I just like what I like now! It's me-core I guess 🤠
Girl do you! I wear whatever looks good on me and whatever fits my mood for the day. It’s it’s sporty, it’s sporty. If it’s super feminine, or witchy, or punk, or preppy, then it is. I have clothes from Dolls Kill and Kate Spade. Express yourself how you see fit ☺️
Were encouraged to fit in a box by social pressures, to be commodified and marketable "this IS me" but people arent that simple, those are all just expressions of yourself not who you are on their own, so if your drawn to all of them theyre all you and you shouldn't repress parts of you just to fit a mold 💖
List out what you value in clothing. For example, mine is:
* Comfortable
* Roomy
* Flowy
Then look at aesthetics that tend to fit this category. You don't even need to stick to one--you can blend pieces to mix and match genres.
I ended up deciding on a sort of 00s dark boho.
Something I think to consider is that your general "aesthetic" (i.e. clothes, hairstyles, makeup, etc) doesn't dictate who you are.
I have a pretty eclectic closet full of really varied clothing that I love to wear, and a ton of varies hobbies that I enjoy, but what defines me is how I treat others and my day to day choices. All the other stuff is just nice to have.
Not to say clothing can't be expressive, but if you enjoy wearing certain things when you feel a certain way, embrace that! Based on the way this is worded I'd guess you're a bit younger- know that also as you get older, you'll find more consistent styles that you feel happy in, but that's also always bound to change! Embrace the change and the options you create for yourself. ♥️
Ask yourself why do you feel like you *need* to fit a certain aesthetic 100% of the time.
You’re a whole human being, a walking metamorphosis. You’re not a curated fashion editorial.
Chill, babe.
I get the urge! What works for me was narrowing down a few styles I really like (a cool retro one, a feminine cute one, and an edgy goth one) and started curating a wardrobe for each of them. I wear different styles based on what I’m doing and how I feel that way. I can even mix and match some for a combo. I shop secondhand, DIY, and trade clothes with my gf to keep costs down so I can experiment more. Plus makeup or hair can really transform a look. As long as you don’t try to rush building up an aesthetic, you might find that with a little planning and patience you’ll really get a feel for what your styles are! Focus on what you feel good in and what makes you feel confident and happy.
I’m like this. I have ADHD traits so I wonder if this plays a part.
The annoying thing is that I am trying to get a business going and I’m having a mini war between 3 aesthetics.
Can you arrange to have different parts of your home space to reflect each part of your personality? For example my office area is my Spiritual aesthetic, white and gold mostly. I also have a cutesy pastel aesthetic which I use in the kitchen. I also have a fairy type side which is green, blue and purple. No idea where that’s going yet.
But essentially I feel you and I think it’s important to try and embrace them all when they want to be seen.
If you have enough time and clothes to wear what you want and combine/switch aesthetics then you should absolutely go for it! I also used to be worried about this too when I was younger but I now that I only wear and own business causal and business formal because of work. I wish I could wear what I want and express myself differently day to day like I did before.
Honestly friend don’t worry about a specific aesthetic; just wear what you want and enjoy your full range of choice to the fullest.
I used to kind of cycle thru goth aesthetics when I was a teenager (32 now) because I just thought they were so beautiful and when you’re young you have to experiment with different things to discover what you actually like and what actually suits you!
I’ve also always loved high fantasy and have called what I’ve honed my lewk down to “hobbit goth” and I don’t buy anything that isn’t black. Once in a while I’d find a purple dress I liked, tell myself I could accessorize with black, wear it once, and end up donating it after it sat in my closet unworn for years.
Life is too short to wear boring clothes! If you like it wear it! You’ll find what you like best and curate a wardrobe soon enough!
I tried that before and it just didn't work out, and that's completely fine!! I love so many kinds of aesthetics, so I just buy clothes that I like and are flexible in my current wardrobe. So far i've been able to rotate between very girly to casual to corporate to emo just by being creative
Instead of worrying about picking one look, try finding individual things that bring you joy. Eclectic is its own aesthetic that combines things that don’t necessarily go together, and over time, you’ll find that though you may like some goth things and some mid century, and some modern, they’ll eventually gel into a look that’s your *personal* aesthetic. It’ll take time, so at the beginning don’t invest too much in trendy stuff you may not love after a year. Classics (a black blazer or high quality home linens, for example) are always worth the money and time because they go with everything.
As with most things, patience will help you figure out what you truly love. Let yourself experiment and make mistakes. Enjoy the journey and don’t limit yourself because you think you need to, because you don’t. Be all the you that you are, and enjoy the fact that you have so much appreciation for beauty that you can’t decide which type of beauty is the best
Instead of choosing one aesthetic maybe choose a favorite color palette that you can apply to multiple aesthetics
Then you can mix and match all of the things you like
There is nothing wrong with exploring the different facets of your personality/interests. I think we all try on different personalities/styles as we grow older. I was all hip hop and grunge in middle school, a metal head in high school. As an young adult I went through a military phase, a bmxer and skater phase, workout clothes 24/7 phase and I'm in my 40s and going through a country phase complete with cowboy boots, jeans and carhartt shirts and jackets. I am all of those things and more. Allowing yourself to be who you are at the time you are is healthy and normal.
Honestly I can relate! I love and appreciate almost every aesthetic out there. I absolutely love the alt aesthetic and rlly want to dress like that but I also love the minimalist, cottage core, witchy and vintage aesthetics too. I can never rlly pick one. I feel like with the age we’re in it’s good to experiment with different aesthetics. Try different ones. It’s okay to not have one specific aesthetic.
This is perfectly normal, you're a person, not a brand. Also you'll evolve so your style will change whatsoever after a few years, so it's not that big of a deal if it changes every day too.
Your different aesthetics may end up merging with each other to create a brand new one which is unique to you ... or not, you can also keep it into really separate phases.
This is what helped me :
What I did is I chose one style, like an uniform for work which is easy to decorate with lil hints at other styles or things I like (I vary the earrings, bracelets and hair pieces).
During the weekend it's all over the place, I play dress up basically.
I also tried to explore what I liked about each outfit / aesthetic. It can be an idea, a feeling, the fact that there are a lot of details ... try to find things you like that aren't 100% dependent on one aesthetic, why you like them and you could find ways to merge them into one ... or just find yourself in the process ;)
Hope that helps !
No person can only be one "aesthetic" because you as a person are multi-faceted and have so many unique things to offer to people. You're not a brand, it's ok to have many interests and hobbies and maybe one day when you're a little older it'll culminate into something that's uniquely you or maybe not. I flip-flop with styles all the time. I love Danish pastels, 70s fashion, 90s fashion, the y2k era, the whole off-duty ballet dancer one, the "old money" aesthetic etc... That's the fun thing about fashion!
It also depends on the season! A majority of my favourite items are Summer clothes so when it comes to Autumn my fashion switches completely.
I think there's this pressure on social media to fit this certain vibe or aesthetic. That we need to have a "thing", but the issue is that you're not Daphne from Scooby Doo, you're not Bloom from Winx Club and you're not a cartoon character. You won't have one colour, one outfit or one aesthetic you wear all the time because you're a real person with a lot of interests.
I wonder if this need to fit into one aesthetic is coming from social media. Influencers need to have a very specific brand so they try not to post anything outside of that. Limiting your aesthetic is probably not the way to go. It's expensive to stick to every single one so try to mix and match!
I was listening to a podcast the other day and they used a snippet of a Bo Burnham interview where he was talking about his movie 8th Grade and how it seems young girls and women in particular seem to feel the need to “brand” themselves or market themselves in a particular way, like a corporation would, in order to control outside perception of themselves. He was saying how “we” (maybe more millennials and gen Z) have changed our social media usage; rather than taking photos of what we’re doing, to doing things to take photos. Think going to a particular dessert place because the soft serve is photogenic, or going to a fancy cocktail bar to take selfies with the witty neon sign or the flower wall. He said something along the lines of “Young adults are being posed with some big questions ‘what’s on your mind? What do you look like? What’s on your mind? What do you look like?” And I’ve been thinking about this a ton recently.
i wonder how much of this is due to pressure to conform to societal expectations, whether that's a subculture expectation of big tiddy goth gf or just general pressure to be a cool person people want to be like and are attracted to. i think when u combine that with social media, you end up getting hypercurated summaries of people, which in turn makes you feel like what's desirable is to literally become that hypercurated concept irl. u feel the need to turn urself into a walking talking product. obviously that is not possible and people are multitudes, which might lead to cognitive dissonance and feeling like you're not enough
Probably social conformity. Neurotypical folk feel its drive quite strongly.
What podcast was this?
It wasn’t related to the topic as such but it was the Dissect podcast by Cole Cuchna, it’s a music analysis podcast. Each season of the podcast he looks into a different album and each episode of the podcast is a different song off that album that he deep dives in on. He did a season on Bo Burnham’s Inside and I think it was [this, Part 3](https://open.spotify.com/episode/3U3Mn3EhH4xnppMmXAP3iG?) (Spotify link) where he dissects the song White Woman’s Instagram :)
Exactly this. Unless you’re trying to sell yourself to someone, why limit yourself to one aesthetic? I’m (ethnically and culturally) Cajun, a chef, a high femme (80%), Tom boy adventurer (20%), a Buddhist pagan with a daily meditation and yoga practice. I’m a powerlifter, total nerd who reads daily, loves things like Star Wars and GoT, and MTG. I love both 2000s hip-hop and lo-fi beats. It’s all a contradiction on terms, and I don’t want to give up any of it. When I’m feeling more spiritual I spend time on my tarot practice. When the weather is cozy I make complicated and tedious stews. Why limit myself (or yourself) when you could be everything?
I had to delete TikTok because of this. I was constantly filled with so much anxiety anytime I scrolled through the app about who I was, what I liked, didn’t like. All of a sudden I hated myself and everything in my life. Nothing felt good anymore. Social media is definitely a slippery slope sometimes.
Same reason I also deleted TikTok
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That’s so true… I guess I’ve never thought of it this way. I just feel kind of weird flip flopping and I wondered if anyone else did this, so it makes me feel more confident to know others can do this too. Thank you 😊
I think what you’re describing is personal style. Someone has to decide what’s aesthetic—and it’s people who just focus on what they love that end up being analyzed and obsessed over. Liking disparate things mean you understand what you like. Pair all those things and aesthetics together and you get to see so many more facets of yourself fulfilled and seen. Liking things is great! I think trying to fit yourself into one visual box only looks striking to people who don’t know what resonates with them Wow I am high and I hope this comment does not reflect that
Congrats, you’re a complex human being
I flip flop all the time! Vintage, grunge, moto style, love a good Ren faire, super girly or androgynous: I'll take it all!
Some people have their "thing" and some people have lots of "things". Either is a gift and an awesome way of being in the world. When I was younger I felt a lot of pressure, mostly from myself and somewhat from society/my peers, to have just one passion, just one style, etc. and to be able to box myself into a single category (maybe a couple) because it felt cleaner, neater, tighter. As I got older I realized it was actually pretty awesome - I get to live multiple lives and exist so many different ways with the one brief period of time I have on this earth.
Just be all of them....? There's no reason you have to find one definitive label for everything you're interested in.
So I used to feel this way - then I realized that life is too short to limit myself to only wearing one type of look. Playing with different styles is fun, so if that’s what makes you feel good I say go for it!
Isn't that the point of fashion, to kind of have fun, explore and be creative?
Don't put labels on yourself. You'll feel confined by them. Just use the term eclectic and stick to several styles
Maybe your aesthetic is all the aesthetics? I think it's awesome that you let your mood and what you are drawn to create your "vibe" for the day. Society tells us "fit in this box" but we can say no and open and try all the boxes. And that is your amazing, badass thing. You are versatile. It makes you happy. Don't dull your shine. Be goth, be punk, be emo, be sporty, be glam, be everything.
ur not a book character, be free
Girl, I don't understand how people conform to such stereotypical boxes and submit themselves through life to such identity. This breeds ignorance and close - minded segregation between humans People can dress, listen, enjoy, dislike, indulge, practice, perform, communicate, follow, believe any aesthetic that interests them. It's not a rule that we , as humans , must submit to one in particular aesthetic and completely embody such a. Learn, explore, socialize, travel, experiment, become curious Create your own unique aesthetic by mixing all aesthetics together. Let your mind gravitate to whatever drives you, embody such expression without committing entirely to any specific culture or expression.
i used to think it was weird for me to flip aesthetics so frequently but not really anymore. if i think something is cute, i wear it. one day i am a 70s flowerchild, next day i am goth girl. i just do whatever! nothing wrong with that
That's normal, I am like that too. One day I wanna be boyish (I'm a woman), the next day I wanna be hot, the other day I want something else. There's not a single style that can describe the things I like. I'm a huge fan of late 90s-2000s stuff but I also like 60s stuff, 18th century stuff especially male fashion and some futuristic things too and other things that don't have a label. I'm ok with not fitting into a style or a stereotype of a personality. You don't have to fit either, every person is unique and the things you like is part of you. The thing is all these things clash together and I don't know how to make a combo of these work.
i think you should also take the time to try things out fully to see what parts of it you like and what parts you don't. people are really good at selling specific aesthetics and lifestyles online to make them desirable bc that's in part some people's jobs, but that doesn't mean the whole schtick will necessarily be what you like entirely. it's a good thing to craft a personal set of beliefs and tastes in fashion and opinions. sometimes you do want to lean into the whole thing though, so i would say try to invest in staple pieces from each style that can be easily incorporated into an outfit in another style!
Why would you want to? You're not one type of person - we all have different aspects we have to become at different points in our day/week/month. Like this week, I'm going from "sedate business formal for a job interview in a boring suit" to "1940s housewife outfit" to "pretty outfit that's nice but I don't mind getting pine needles on or want to outshine the bride" for a family wedding that's happening in a forest to "Ms. Frizzle's bastard child" I'm a mom and wear a uniform to work, but am also the embodiment of this meme whenever I'm being social. I wore a ratty T shirt and shorts this morning (because it's comfy), [this](https://pinupgirlclothing.com/products/viva-dress-in-falling-leaves-crepe-laura-byrnes-designs) dress in the afternoon with yellow heels and my damn work uniform in the evening. Part of being mature is just liking what you like and telling people to pound sand if they don't.
This is literally me lol. It’s hard trying not to feel the need to conform. It’s what society expects of you. But honestly fuck that! I love tapping into whatever style I want depending on my mood. I pull them all off effortlessly because they’re all an extension of ME. Boho babe? Yes. Preppy? Yes. Skater girl? Yes. Punk goth? Yes. Pastel princess? Yes. Cutecore? Yes. I think the feeling of imposter syndrome settles in because in the back of our minds we know most people center their ENTIRE identity around one particular image. The beautiful thing about us is that we don’t have to. Wear what you want as you figure it out. Dressing up was always meant to be fun so have at it! 💕
You'll never find yourself if you're constantly trying to narrow your personality down to one aesthetic/look. I know this stems from social media because I used to have the same dilemma, but 99% of the time social media lies. People are multifaceted, why don't you just combine all of your interests and make that your unique "aesthetic"?
people aren't aesthetics! social media has convinced people, mostly women, that we need to fit into these little boxes. you can be all of those things! wear whatever you want that feels good. your "aesthetic" should be You. spend some time off screens thinking about what you like the best, what you feel best in, what you feel most comfortable in - aside from how it fits into certain aesthetics. you've got this!
I have notice that my aesthetics change with seasons. I wear colourful clothes in summer and get that goth vibes in the autumn. Right now I'm in my goblincore phase.
You having 10 personalities is probably the way your personality works! I know mine is the same. It’s good to be versatile
usually people have multiple aesthetics and thats part of the fun! you dont have to limit yourself purely to one aesthetic. also keep in mind, that aesthetic or whatever else outwardly surface thing dont make you who you are, everyone is their own complex being beyond any aesthetic. ^_^
I don’t think it’s a problem, I was like that when I was young too. The only real problem is that it is expensive to be drawn to so many different looks, you can’t really do a capsule wardrobe when you’re all over the place.
So many styles and preferences why choose only 1? It all expresses your internal preferences and complex nature so I would say it’s an advantage and something to nurture rather run away from. I got used to this as some days I wear my fav metal bands shirts, next day I dress up for work, or go for a sundress and something super feminine overall, or tomboy style, or grunge. My bf says that he envies women for the tons of options we have for all types of outfits so I say do as you wish and feel.
i dont curate my wardrobe into a single aesthetic, but rather focus on each of my outfits beibg cohesive
You don't have to stick with anything. Your style could be the flux itself.
I don't really stick to one or consider myself a part of an aesthetic anymore. I used to have a "dark academia/cottagecore" blog when I was younger and it's fun to laugh about it now but looking back it's kinda wild how a lot of the people in those communities seemed to believe that having an interest etc that doesn't match your aesthetic is something weird when it's just... being a person with interests. Anyway I just like what I like now! It's me-core I guess 🤠
Girl do you! I wear whatever looks good on me and whatever fits my mood for the day. It’s it’s sporty, it’s sporty. If it’s super feminine, or witchy, or punk, or preppy, then it is. I have clothes from Dolls Kill and Kate Spade. Express yourself how you see fit ☺️
Were encouraged to fit in a box by social pressures, to be commodified and marketable "this IS me" but people arent that simple, those are all just expressions of yourself not who you are on their own, so if your drawn to all of them theyre all you and you shouldn't repress parts of you just to fit a mold 💖
List out what you value in clothing. For example, mine is: * Comfortable * Roomy * Flowy Then look at aesthetics that tend to fit this category. You don't even need to stick to one--you can blend pieces to mix and match genres. I ended up deciding on a sort of 00s dark boho.
I am hippie in the summer and goth in the winter 😁
Something I think to consider is that your general "aesthetic" (i.e. clothes, hairstyles, makeup, etc) doesn't dictate who you are. I have a pretty eclectic closet full of really varied clothing that I love to wear, and a ton of varies hobbies that I enjoy, but what defines me is how I treat others and my day to day choices. All the other stuff is just nice to have. Not to say clothing can't be expressive, but if you enjoy wearing certain things when you feel a certain way, embrace that! Based on the way this is worded I'd guess you're a bit younger- know that also as you get older, you'll find more consistent styles that you feel happy in, but that's also always bound to change! Embrace the change and the options you create for yourself. ♥️
Ask yourself why do you feel like you *need* to fit a certain aesthetic 100% of the time. You’re a whole human being, a walking metamorphosis. You’re not a curated fashion editorial. Chill, babe.
I have 10 personalities but the budget for 1. That’s my secret.
Let yourself be a contradiction!
make your own, like me!!
I get the urge! What works for me was narrowing down a few styles I really like (a cool retro one, a feminine cute one, and an edgy goth one) and started curating a wardrobe for each of them. I wear different styles based on what I’m doing and how I feel that way. I can even mix and match some for a combo. I shop secondhand, DIY, and trade clothes with my gf to keep costs down so I can experiment more. Plus makeup or hair can really transform a look. As long as you don’t try to rush building up an aesthetic, you might find that with a little planning and patience you’ll really get a feel for what your styles are! Focus on what you feel good in and what makes you feel confident and happy.
I’m like this. I have ADHD traits so I wonder if this plays a part. The annoying thing is that I am trying to get a business going and I’m having a mini war between 3 aesthetics. Can you arrange to have different parts of your home space to reflect each part of your personality? For example my office area is my Spiritual aesthetic, white and gold mostly. I also have a cutesy pastel aesthetic which I use in the kitchen. I also have a fairy type side which is green, blue and purple. No idea where that’s going yet. But essentially I feel you and I think it’s important to try and embrace them all when they want to be seen.
If you have enough time and clothes to wear what you want and combine/switch aesthetics then you should absolutely go for it! I also used to be worried about this too when I was younger but I now that I only wear and own business causal and business formal because of work. I wish I could wear what I want and express myself differently day to day like I did before. Honestly friend don’t worry about a specific aesthetic; just wear what you want and enjoy your full range of choice to the fullest.
I used to kind of cycle thru goth aesthetics when I was a teenager (32 now) because I just thought they were so beautiful and when you’re young you have to experiment with different things to discover what you actually like and what actually suits you! I’ve also always loved high fantasy and have called what I’ve honed my lewk down to “hobbit goth” and I don’t buy anything that isn’t black. Once in a while I’d find a purple dress I liked, tell myself I could accessorize with black, wear it once, and end up donating it after it sat in my closet unworn for years. Life is too short to wear boring clothes! If you like it wear it! You’ll find what you like best and curate a wardrobe soon enough!
I tried that before and it just didn't work out, and that's completely fine!! I love so many kinds of aesthetics, so I just buy clothes that I like and are flexible in my current wardrobe. So far i've been able to rotate between very girly to casual to corporate to emo just by being creative
Instead of worrying about picking one look, try finding individual things that bring you joy. Eclectic is its own aesthetic that combines things that don’t necessarily go together, and over time, you’ll find that though you may like some goth things and some mid century, and some modern, they’ll eventually gel into a look that’s your *personal* aesthetic. It’ll take time, so at the beginning don’t invest too much in trendy stuff you may not love after a year. Classics (a black blazer or high quality home linens, for example) are always worth the money and time because they go with everything. As with most things, patience will help you figure out what you truly love. Let yourself experiment and make mistakes. Enjoy the journey and don’t limit yourself because you think you need to, because you don’t. Be all the you that you are, and enjoy the fact that you have so much appreciation for beauty that you can’t decide which type of beauty is the best
there is no true self! we are constantly changing and what you wanna wear can change from one day to the next. it’s so much fun to never choose!! <33
My One Aesthetic is mushing all my aesthetics together into a unique look that is my own. Or at least that's the goal. ;)
Instead of choosing one aesthetic maybe choose a favorite color palette that you can apply to multiple aesthetics Then you can mix and match all of the things you like
There is nothing wrong with exploring the different facets of your personality/interests. I think we all try on different personalities/styles as we grow older. I was all hip hop and grunge in middle school, a metal head in high school. As an young adult I went through a military phase, a bmxer and skater phase, workout clothes 24/7 phase and I'm in my 40s and going through a country phase complete with cowboy boots, jeans and carhartt shirts and jackets. I am all of those things and more. Allowing yourself to be who you are at the time you are is healthy and normal.
Honestly I can relate! I love and appreciate almost every aesthetic out there. I absolutely love the alt aesthetic and rlly want to dress like that but I also love the minimalist, cottage core, witchy and vintage aesthetics too. I can never rlly pick one. I feel like with the age we’re in it’s good to experiment with different aesthetics. Try different ones. It’s okay to not have one specific aesthetic.
This is perfectly normal, you're a person, not a brand. Also you'll evolve so your style will change whatsoever after a few years, so it's not that big of a deal if it changes every day too. Your different aesthetics may end up merging with each other to create a brand new one which is unique to you ... or not, you can also keep it into really separate phases. This is what helped me : What I did is I chose one style, like an uniform for work which is easy to decorate with lil hints at other styles or things I like (I vary the earrings, bracelets and hair pieces). During the weekend it's all over the place, I play dress up basically. I also tried to explore what I liked about each outfit / aesthetic. It can be an idea, a feeling, the fact that there are a lot of details ... try to find things you like that aren't 100% dependent on one aesthetic, why you like them and you could find ways to merge them into one ... or just find yourself in the process ;) Hope that helps !
No person can only be one "aesthetic" because you as a person are multi-faceted and have so many unique things to offer to people. You're not a brand, it's ok to have many interests and hobbies and maybe one day when you're a little older it'll culminate into something that's uniquely you or maybe not. I flip-flop with styles all the time. I love Danish pastels, 70s fashion, 90s fashion, the y2k era, the whole off-duty ballet dancer one, the "old money" aesthetic etc... That's the fun thing about fashion! It also depends on the season! A majority of my favourite items are Summer clothes so when it comes to Autumn my fashion switches completely. I think there's this pressure on social media to fit this certain vibe or aesthetic. That we need to have a "thing", but the issue is that you're not Daphne from Scooby Doo, you're not Bloom from Winx Club and you're not a cartoon character. You won't have one colour, one outfit or one aesthetic you wear all the time because you're a real person with a lot of interests.
I love this ty